The whole "it/its pronouns is dehumanizing!" argument is always ironic to me... it's so much more dehumanizing to be told that you don't know what's good for you, others can (and should!) decide what is best for you, and you have no say in the way people treat you. How is that less dehumanizing than going, "oh, okay! I'll use it/its pronouns for you!"

I never use this blog because the eddsworld fandom is genuinely the only fandom I've been completely fucking miserable trying to engage with. It's full of trans people and yet the community is SO hostile towards non-afab or non masc aligned in some way trans people. I've had people blatantly refused to respect my pronouns after saying they would. I've been misgendered in a server full of trans people where literally no one else was misgendered because there were pronoun roles. In that same server, while I was uplifting trans people making jokes about being proud of their bodies, they made fun of me for not having breasts. I've had multiple people debate my boundaries like it's a topic of discussion because I asked not to be called dude, a GENDERED TERM. I've had people gang up on me to the point of tears because I dared to describe my experiences being raised with an unconventional relationship to gender. I've been accused of holding grudges and being aggressive for even daring to speak up when I'm tired of being treated this way

And these events don't refer to a bunch of random assholes, they refer to people well known in the fandom. People I've seen on multiple servers. People whose names you say and it gets recognized

The eddsworld fandom has a HUGE transmisogyny problem and it needs to be discussed. The way I constantly feel unsafe when in a fandom surrounded by trans people is completely unacceptable

Had a dream where I was back in high school in a math class and my teacher was just. Incredibly disrespectful about my identity/pronouns. So I swapped to the other math class section with a different teacher

And new teacher didn’t use my pronouns either, but it still felt better. And then someone broke my desk. And someone asked me if I made the right choice swapping, because neither teacher used my pronouns, right? And I just had this moment of such clarity, of, “yeah, he doesn’t use my pronouns. He doesn’t always use the right name. But you know what? He’s angry someone broke my desk, and I know that if he finds out who it was, they would be in trouble. And it wouldn’t be like that with the other teacher.”

Just. Utter clarity of the definition between someone who doesn’t understand pronouns but still sees me as a person deserving of safety vs. someone who maliciously doesn’t use my pronouns as a way to communicate disrespect and thinks that means I don’t deserve to be safe

cishet people who are clueless but trying i love you. this morning i was talking to a straight guy in my class about it/its pronouns and how some it/its users like it because they see it as redefining their identities/senses of personhood, and he nodded sagely and started talking about the replicates in blade runner

I love seeing people post Acht/Deadf1sh art but y'all, they use they/them. They/them are the only pronouns Nintendo has been referring to them with recently, and in the Japanese version they use pronouns typically associated with gender non conforming people. Stop using she/her on Acht

you could put "link to my card" in your bio, but have the link just send people to a gif of one of yukari's spell*cards*. it would still provide no detail and make people even more mad about it!

That is a good idea. Probably Double Black Death Butterfly, if I had to choose one...

Tonight's gpoy is this.

The more I look at myself the more I see how just not good looking I am and why people are wary of me and only get attracted after realising I'm not as evil as I look or whatever lol but whatever this is my digital footprint. Enjoy. Also, Bi and trans colours 🥰😘

(pronouns he/him)

I truly can’t believe I have to say this but I am so so sick of some people my age (namely those who are tiktok users, and therefore are deeply influenced by “woke” stereotypes about queer people and queer identities that are often perpetrated on that site) telling me that it’s weird to talk about growing up as a female or about experiencing sexism because I’m not a girl? and that it either “makes it seem like I’m not really nonbinary” when I talk about my connection to girlhood or that these things “shouldn’t concern me.” because they very much do and that’s such an ridiculous and inconsiderate thing to say.

I was afab and whether I wanted it or not I was treated like a girl and experienced childhood as a girl. I am not out to many people in my life and in their eyes I am a girl.

as a nonbinary person I still experience and feel very connected to my girlhood and the solidarity that I have among girls and women because of shared experiences despite not often identifying as girl myself. this is because of many factors including socialization, oppression and personal identity. truly can’t believe most people I know (and quite a lot of people online as well) still don’t understand that the oppression I have experienced as a queer person who was afab and the oppression I have experienced being seen as a girl are interconnected and that we have to address multiple layers of discrimination simultaneously if we want anything to change. this is. not new information. I can’t believe people don’t get this.

if the hot guy who works in the ceramics studio at my college who keeps flirting with me by giving me books isn’t wearing a mask next time i see him i think that might be my joker moment

bro i remember when i told my friends i use all pronouns they would only use she and they for me. so one day i brought it up (wow!!) and said “hey you know you can use he too right? it makes me happy n stuff)

in response they said “but you don’t look like a boy! and boys are so weird like ew! i can’t imagine u as a man they’re gross”

like???? god it makes me sooo pissed. 1. ur kinda just saying i’m still a girl 2. pronouns don’t equal gender 3. respect my fucking pronouns? like. sure i like being called she and they but when you ONLY use those pronouns it makes me uncomfortable.

and they’re always talking about how gay and supportive they are and i’m like “you only support when someone is a type of gay you can easily understand and have to put minimal effort behind supporting.

neopronouns are so cool like forget choosing from pre existing pronoun sets you’re literally making up your very own words to be referred to by. there’s something so powerful in that

I think I am owed money for this labor I have to expend just to stop people from misgendering me and people like me. I should not have to convince The Murderbot fandom, a fandom that revlolves around a book series whose protagonist and many other characters, some of them incredibly important, use it/its pronouns.

I should not have to beg and plead with people in this fandom, of all fandoms, to respect people who use it/its pronouns.

But here I am, having to beg and plead and persuade people to stop being transphobic towards people like me, even though they all claim to love and support the character they're misgendering and defending the misgendering of.

Eventually going to have to go on a rant about how people now think reading through everyone's carrds or about pages or even just descriptions before every minor interaction is normal. It is not. Don't expect that of people

An adult reblogging the post of a minor that has "30+ year olds dni" in their bio is not "being weird around minors". Someone using they/them to refer to the op of a random post they've seen and do not plan on interacting with them again is not misgendering. (Yes you can misgender with they/them pronouns but it's literally not being used to misgender someone if referring to a stranger whose pronouns you don't know). A shipper visiting someone's blog and reblogging a few of their fandom posts without reading their carrd and finding out they say "dni if you like this ship" isn't harassment!

I am not anti DNI, I'm not anti telling a bit about yourself in carrds, I'm not anti establishing boundaries. I'm against the idea that you have to familiarize yourself with thousands of different strangers before you interact with them once or twice. This is not a new problem, but it's a worsening problem. Years ago I got accused of misgendering someone by using they/them for them (it was like 5 years ago I don't remember their pronouns anymore, hence they/them. Incredible how it remains a gender neutral pronoun and not an act of anti trans violence like that). They said their pronouns was on their page. I clicked on it and there were no pronouns. Just a link to an about page that didn't work on mobile (I did not have computer access). And yet I was blamed for not using information not easily made accessible to me

I have plenty of times SEEN people get upset at adults making harmless replies on posts because their bio says "adults dni". I absolutely believe in respecting boundaries, but this is social media. Not respecting boundaries is harassing you. Not respecting a soft block. Trying to evade a hard block. Being directly told their behavior is uncomfortable and refusing to listen to it. NOT a stranger interacting with a post. You may not EXPECT it to leave your circle of friends, but it can. The point of social media is to share posts with others. People do not need your whole backstory before they engage with it

Just like. Remember that while people CAN choose to take a few minutes to read about every person on tumblr, it's ridiculous to expect them to. People using social media as intended is not harassment

please respect it/its users. its not really hard, we get it if you slip up sometimes. its still not that fun to get they/them'd or other pronouns if you dont use them

use the pronouns someone chooses.