Sometimes wild attraction shit happens when you learn to separate masc/fem from man/woman. I’ve known queer women find the femininity in a man attractive. I’ve known gay men get so hot and bothered by the masculinity of a woman.
There was once a guy who was not really my type but then he did drag and was suddenly wildly attractive to me. And since I’m bisexual it doesn’t give me a crisis when someone is suddenly hot to me in an unconventional way. I used to think this was particularly a bi experience.
Then I’ve met plenty of gay men and lesbians who are also chill about that sort of thing. Sometimes life is like that “oops made out with a twink in Brighton who turned out to be a lesbian who thought I was a lesbian” and sometimes it’s like “hey, I’m not normally into men but this guy has got something hot going on.”
i love being trans i love being nonbinary i love remaking myself in my own image i love the inherent divinity in being transsexual i love myself i love my body i love existing as an act of defiance i love existing as an act of creation i love androgyny i love donning a mantle of femininity or masculinity as i see fit i love expressing myself through fashion i love gender nonconformity i love constructing an anticolonial understanding of gender i love trans people
...that doesn't mean I'm predicting that in a millennium or so we'll all be androgynous, or announcing that I think we dammed well ought to be androgynous. I'm merely observing, in the peculiar, devious, and thought-experimemtal manner proper to science fiction, that if you look at us at certain odd times of the day in certain weathers, we already are.
Ursula K. Le Guin in the Author's Note (1976) to The Left Hand of Darkness (1969)