So funny when people make posts like "if you REALLY had [disability here] you wouldn't be ABLE to have a social media account" like god forbid disabled people do anything that isn't lament in total isolation until they are Fixed or until they die.

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

I feel like there are a lot of people out there who needs to hear this:

If you dropped out of school because of diagnosed (or undiagnosed) ADHD, Autism, ADD, OCD, Dyslexia, Anxiety, Depression, Bipolar disorder, psychotic disorders, schizophrenia etc… You did not fail. The education system failed you.

You know what, fuck it. Let’s show some love for the “unpleasant” autistics.

For the autistics who are always accused of being angry or moody when all they’re doing is sitting there.

For the autistics who take everything literally and respond sincerely.

For the autistics who come across as “blunt” or “rude” for being honest.

For the autistics who are called “control freaks” for needing a sense of order and routine.

For the autistics who get told to shut up for infodumping about uncomfortable topics.

For the autistics who find it too exhausting to mask and pretend to be sunny and friendly.

“Unpleasant” autistics, I love you.

@nutmegan17 on tiktoks eating tray hack

By keeping a tray full of no prepare necessary food, in the fridge it can be used to aid neurodivergent or fatigued people.

By putting food like, cheese and crackers, or whatever is a safe food for you personally on the tray, it can be taken easily to the couch or bed to be eaten from whenever you are hungry.

This prevents executive dysfunction or fatigue and any reason preventing you from eating. You need to care of yourself because everyone needs food to stay alive including you.

You deserve to eat even when on a bad brain day and are unable to prepare a meal for yourself.

If not having a full meal doesn't satisfy you, a snack may even give you the energy to make a full meal afterwards!

You don't get to misgender people yes even if you think they're cringe (get over it), yes even if you don't understand it (get Over It), yes even if you think they're a terrible person (irrelevent), yes even if they have done objectively horrible harmful things (still irrelevent,) and yes, even if you think they "can't really know for sure" because of their disability (that's fucking ableist, shut your goddamn mouth.)

is blowing up a volcano after ur first kiss couple goals

i love you people who are congenitally physically disabled and visibly different and who also have intellectual, developmental, learning, and cognitive disabilities, all at the same time

especially if you were treated badly as a child or are treated badly now. especially if people tell you to "grow up"

i'm glad you're here i love you

you always have a place in this world, you don't have to "earn it", you don't have to make yourself small or isolate yourself or stay hidden, if you relate to that. you're alive and you're allowed to be alive and the space you're filling cannot be filled by anyone but you. there is no abled or disabled person who could be a better you because then they wouldn't be you. and i'm glad you're you

Really urging you to try and unpack the capitalist and ableist ideas of doing enough to justify your existence actually.

Like, yes, we live in an unfair system where you need to afford to live. On a practical level, that is the situation many people find themselves in.

But fundamentally, you don't have to earn the right to exist. You have nothing to prove to anyone before you're allowed to exist in this world guilt-free. Your right to life does not depend on your productivity or you "living up to your potential", it is fundamental and unchangeable. You deserve to be here.

Don't let the guilt of falling short of some arbitrary and ever-changing (and likely unobtainable) goal wear you down. You have nothing to prove, and you deserve to be here.

whenever a child plays with hair clips and such an angel gains its wings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

able-bodied people will act like getting a mobility aid must be some tragic expirience where you resign yourself to being burdened by your disability forever meanwhile I'm over here counting down the days until my custom made knee braces come in like a kid waiting for Christmas absolutely giddy thinking about all the things I'm gonna be able to do once my joints have the support they need

Can we stop picking like certain disabilities to be like this thing we bring up as the standard "lesser" thing or whatever like

Physical disabilities are serious don't treat them like mental disabilities WELL ACTUALLY some mental disabilities ARE serious it's not just all like autism WELL ACTUALLY autism can be serious it's not all low support needs autism WELL ACTUALLY all autism is serious it's not like ADHD WELL ACTUALLY ADHD is serious it's not like anxiety and depression WELL ACTUALLY

It's this endless pointless cycle and it's hell and you can literally just talk about your specific struggles without putting down anyone else's. It's pretty easy actually.

To terminally-ill disabled people: you aren't going to be forgotten. You deserve a space here in this world no matter how long you'll be here. You deserve every chance to be happy, to be welcomed, to be understood, to be accommodated, and to be taken care of to the fullest extent. You haven't "given up," you are so incredibly important, and it takes so much to be in your shoes. I hope you can find pride in who you are. Your existence is meaningful.

Also one more disability vs. art post - I get the...distinct impression that a lot of people do not know how much nerve entrapment such as carpal tunnel syndrome can fuck you up.

Sure, every artist knows what carpal tunnel syndrome IS, of course, and all these lovely infographics about exercises to help prevent it or slow its progression pop up on my dash from time to time and it's great to see, but...the way people talk about it aside from that often makes it sound like it begins and ends at, oh, your hand will get tingly and your wrist will get sore and it'll suck :((((

And that is absolutely not the case.

Carpal tunnel syndrome can cause SEVERE pain that lasts long after you stop doing the activity that caused it, permanent nerve damage, and even partial to total paralysis of some parts of the hand. Cubital tunnel syndrome, caused by a similar nerve entrapment in the elbow, can cause the same thing but even further up, potentially leading to total paralysis of the entire hand. Severe cases often require surgery - and orthopedic surgery has a high rate of complications that cause new or worsened chronic pain.

Oh, and if you have EDS or another hypermobility spectrum disorder? You're more likely to get it, AND have it be more severe than our less bendy counterparts, AND some of the exercises recommended for most people to prevent, slow, or relieve it may only make it worse because they're conceived with a normal range of motion in mind.

So what is the point of me saying this?

1: If you work intensely with your hands, PROTECT YOUR WRISTS AND EVEN YOUR ELBOWS, THE CONSEQUENCES ARE WORSE THAN YOU PROBABLY THINK

2: Believe people when they say carpal tunnel syndrome prevents them from doing things. Yes, it CAN be that bad.

an older cinderholly piece i did that i cleaned up. happy valentines day!