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lovee-infected · 3 years

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I'm about to start my own (twst) writing blog and I'm going around writers that I follow for some advice q*q could you give me any wisdom on what I should do when starting a writing blog? thank you!! I love your works and you're one of the writers that inspire me

Aa thank you baby I'm so happy to hear that I inspire you!! First off, good luck with the new writing blog! I'm glad that more authors are joining the fandom and wish you all the best with your works! 💞💖💞 Other than trying to keep your blog organized by creating a proper masterlist, choosing a suitable aesthetic, having a set of rules and making sure to tag all of the warnings and necessary mentions (gender of reader, n/sfw or trigger warning), I tried to come up with some useful advises that might help!

1) Keep up the great confidence!

First and the most important thing about a writing blog, is to be confident and strong. Look, you shouldn't be afraid of posting your works and sharing with the redt of the fandom, even as they're not as perfect as you want them to be. The more you write, the more you learn! And you'd grow to be better and better as you continue to share your works! Not even the greatest authors had been any perfect on their first days!

2) If you're accepting requests, try to set a limit

Being overwhelmed with asks is never pleasant, if you just open your inbox to face 500 requests you'd be to be terrified and confused and even lose your passion to work on any of them because of the stress and not knowing where to begin from. Try to set a limit based on your personal limits, how many requests do you think you can have at the time without stressing out because of how much they are? 10? 20? 50? 100? 200? Doesn't matter! If you feel like you're fine with huge numbers like 200 and 150, it's totally fine! If not, remember that setting a character limit would not only reduce the possible chance of stressing out and overwhelming anxiety but it'll also help you manage your inbox better and easier! You can start taking requests again just as soon as your inbox in cleared!

3) Try to treat yourself every once in a while!

Working on requests can be tiring and sometimes, boring. It's great if you enjoy working on requests no matter what they are but remember to write for your own pleasure every once in a while too!

Even if you have like 100 requests laying in your inbox, feel free to write self indulgent fics or something that you'd like to write even if it's super odd an irrelevant to your normal writings! Remember that you deserve to read something you enjoy just as much as the others do, so don't forget to bless yourself with that beautiful writing of yours ;) Remember that it's your blog, you are free to do everything that makes you happy or anything that you simply enjoy doing ^^

4) Remember that no matter what, toxicity always exists and it's not your fault

Look toxicity is very common to be found social medias, especially platforms like tumblr in which anonymous function exists. Even celebrities and world-famous artists might get attacked over pretty silly stuff every once in a while so it's something usual to happen! I wish you never receive any potentially harmful or rude asks or messages but if you ever do, best would be to block or simply ignore them! People in this platform can be ridiculous sometimes lol, there are people who DM creators just to spam hate and block the creator whom they spammed after wards lol, so don't even bother t waste your time with such people!

If anyone comes to your inbox/DMs/comments to say something harsh or leave a sharp critique, best would be to ignore them. Even if you like to answer or respond to reply to them tey to be chill and not take them seriously. Remember, even if they didn't like your content they could've just scrolled down without bothering to read your work, so if they had the guts to come and spam you with nonsense just because they didn't like your work, it's their fault! They didn't have to read, and it doesn't even matter if they liked your work or not! It's their problem and all, so remember not to let these kind of people get to you at all!

5) Take it easy with writing

Don't push yourself too hard, remember that not everything you write is supposed to be *perfect. This is even more serious when it comes to requests, thousands of unexpected ideas might pop up in your inbox and it makes it quite confusing to choose what to write or do!

First off, don't be any shy or anxious about rejecting the requests which don't follow your rules or come when you aren't accepting requests. Those who violate your rules aren't worthy of your time and work!

Secondly, keep this is mind that you aren't expected to be able to write everything! Sometimes the requests are hard to write, the idea seems odd or hard to understand, or sometimes you just don't feel comfortable or don't want to write it all, which is okay!

You always have the right to take/drop whichever of your requests and you don't owe anyone anything for this, it's your own blog, your work, and your content. Don't ever force yourself to write something which you don't like to write!

6) Your health is always the top priority

Remember that no matter how popular you are, how many followers you have, how many requests are left in your inbox or how much people are wishing to get more of your content, you're free to stop writing and put this wrong at a temporarily (or even permanent) hiatus.

Sometimes you just don't feel like writing, then don't write. If you feel like you're being too busy with work/family/school and anything please don't force yourself to write! Remember that your real life matters always come first!

Also, you might even need a break from writing without necessarily being really busy or sad, sometimes you just need to take a break from everything, and it's totally fine to do! Take as much time as you need and stay healthy during your breaks. It'd be even better if you don't even think of any new ideas/Aus while you're taking a break from writing so you can fully set your mind off stuff! Doesn't even matter if followers/readers are going to appreciate this or not, it's not about them, it's about you. Remember that your good readers/follwers who understand that authors are normal humans and not writing machines would surely understand if you need to take a break too!

7)Keep yourself motivated!

There might be days when you can and have the time to write, but something's holding you back. You feel like procrastinating over and over at some point lose the motivation to write. First off, that's a really normal matter to see as many of us have to struggle with laziness sometimes lol, but there are some useful tips to keep yourself Motamedi and hyped while you're planning to write! A bit of challenge would not only make it a lot more fun, but is also a good way to keep yourself motivated and inspired!

First, try prompt lists! They've always got plenty of useful ideas and inspirational quotes to use and are absolutely amazing to give you new ideas for a writing!

Second, try to challenge yourself by simple stuff like setting yourself word limits, trying to see how much you can write in an hour, use some suggested words in your stories (ex: Banana, train, knife, turkey) as a small challenge! You can also try small events (like milestone or holiday events) to celebrate on your blog with stuff like: Prompt list requests, CYOAs, character interaction and other new stuff that gives you a better motivation tp write instead of just having to work on the same, usual writing requests over and over.

Also, I suggest putting an specific hour for writing/ checking on your blog in your daily schedule as this is also a way of avoiding procrastination, instead of writing 10 requests a day and not writing anything for two weeks, try to set an schedule like writing 1-2 writings everyday! Remember to put your real life activities in the schedule too so you won't have to go through any trouble to find a balance between your real life and running a writing blog!

8) Remember the crediting/copyrights

I'm just adding this here because I can see quite a few of writers using uncredited art for their stories and it's been much and less of an issue lately ^^;

First off, the arts/headers used in your writing. Make sure not to use any uncredited card or anyone else's edit without their permission, otherwise it's nothing different from stealing the work from the original artst!

If you're going to leave a link to the artist, make sure to check on them and check if they allow reposts with credit or not. If they don't, don't use their art. If they do, make sure to give them a proper credit with a link to them! (:

Editors too on the other hand spend a very long time making their edits and and aesthetics, so not copying their work is just as important as not stealing art from the artsits!

Pinterest is filled with uncredited art and if there's a pinterest art who is not linked to the original artist, putting the empty pinterest pin link would be useless and steal counted as stealing art.

9) Stick with your own writing style!

Writing style is like signature, everyone's got their very own and unique writing style. From the way you portray characters to what elements you use as the story develops, you're totally different from each and every of other authors in this fandom!

You may sometimes wonder if your writing style is any good at all while you look at other creators writings and feel the difference, and I gotta say: It doesn't even matter what others are doing! All that is important, is you.

Don't try to change your style to become close another writer's style, your own style is great as it already is! Even if you aren't yet that experienced with writing and feel like your writing could be better, remember that your writing skills will indeed improve as you continue to write and read newer and newer stuff, so don't worry about it!

Each and every writing style has got its own beauty, not everyone may totally enjoy your style at first but and as you continue to write, you'd get to learn what makes people enjoy your writing even more or how you can attract new readers with your writings, your style will change for the better as you write!

Though it's totally fine if you feel like there are writers who inspire and motivate you, remember that you won't have to be them in order to improve! You don't need to be just like them to be great! Even if you do have some issues like being a non-native speaker which can make it quite hard for you to write, you'd automatically learn and have most of your errors fixed as the time passes. I made LOTS of mistakes in my first writings but I hardly ever make any mistakes now because I'm used to it! Though it was a bit late I finally recognized my mistakes and corrected them! And I'd continue to correct more of my mistakes as I continue to write!

10) It's very good to have different writer mutuals

This one is rather optional, just a small recommendation! Though there are many writers who might recommend this as a rather important factor for running a writing blog, I'd say that this isn't necessary as there are still well-known tumblr authors and even twst authors who gained attention to themselves on their own and not with the help and support of any mutuals or writer friends, so it isn't impossible to be successful even without having any mutuals!

The thing with having mutuals is that it makes everything easier. A totally new twst blog can gain around 100 followers on its first without even posting anything more than a writing and a list of rules only because of being supported and boosted by well-known blogs while a for normal blog without any support or boosting, it may take up to 2-3 weeks or even an entire month to gain that 100!

Also, getting to talk with different authors (especially those who are more experienced than you) is motivational and heartwarming, you can feel like you have a team to belong to. You can discuss different writing ideas/issues/blog chores with them and see what they may think. You can even have their support with new ideas if you feel stuck/unmotivated while writing a piece!

I didn't have any mutuals on my first days either and I admit that this made things a bit hard, but it didn't hold me back from continuing to write! Yet I admit that it's surely very useful to have a couple of writer friends around you whom you can share your ideas with! Mutuals support each other, reblog each other's works and give each other a better chance of having their works read by more users, which is quite amazing and helpful!

11) Go for it and don't give up!

Remember that no one, not even the greatest writing blogs have been perfect on their first days. They weren't well-known back then either! And they wouldn't have been any successful today without being hard-working and strong. Leaving up to the previous 10 rules is the hardest part of having a blog, and it's all about not giving up!

Do not try to judge your writing and talents based on the amount of notes your posts get or how many followers you have, because these aren't ever going to show your true worth and talents! But I assure you, if you continue to write even through your hard days, your unmotivated days and your sad days no matter how hard it's supposed to be, everything will change. The more you write, the higher the chance of having new people find and read your works would be! Keeping up the hard work and believing in yourself is the key to achieving anything you may wish for, even having a successful writing blog!

As you continue to write, you'll get more readers, more notes on your posts, more followers and more people who enjoy your content!

Hope that these are helpful, wish you all the greatest and good luck with your writing blog!!💞💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💞

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luvdsc · 3 years

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hi miss cat!!! i was wondering if you had any advice on asking mutuals to beta-read + making friendships here on tumblr? you and your mutuals always seem so close and like irl friends! i'm so sorry if this sounds out of the blue!

hi, honey bee!!! 💛 for asking mutuals to beta read, I just asked them shdjdjd I was like “hey do you wanna read my fic draft” and they were like “hell yeah” so then I just added them to my google doc! tk god (hyoseobie / eggyukhei) actually offered to read my drafts when I was having trouble and she gave me suggestions and whatnot, so she’s my go to for beta reading :’) I will throw every single ridiculous fic idea at her and she responds with 100% energy every time. the dumbing down of love and sweeter than honey wouldn’t have been completed without her !!!! for pussy blocked and august, I believe steph (aqiaquas), ti (m88n), lana (choerrypuffs), moon (wincore), and tk all had access to them. Except !!!! when I was debating on the ending for pussy blocked (aka jeno or jaemin), none of them knew who was endgame, except for moon 💓 she’s an absolute godsend and I heavily discussed everything with her for both august and pussy blocked, especially the ending 💕 so big shout out to her for really helping me out with both of them 🌸🌸

I made friends by either a) gushing about their writing in their ask box or dm’s because have you seen how talented they all are???? or b) they sent me a message! 🥰 I can go more into detail about my closest mutuals below:

tk god (hyoseobie / eggyukhei) — tk was my very first mutual on here and a big reason as to why I even started this blog :’) I found her nct blurbs and fell in love with them and I was like “I wanna write blurbs too!!” so I made this blog and then I sent her an ask and we just kept talking after that 💘 and we got close, and we were supposed to see nct together last june 🤧 nowadays, I just spam her with a lot of meme posts on insta and guilt trip her for dropping yukhei for jaemin and doyoung 😔 I’m sorry for clowning you so much tk

els (taeyongtime) — els is so freaking talented, and I read her tabula rasa fic way back in 2017 when I wasn’t even a fan of nct and didn’t know who each member was. All I knew was that this was the greatest fic I have ever read, and nothing will ever top it. anyway, someone asked me for fic recs, and I had tagged her in it because of course, I would recommend her superior fic 🤩 and then she reached out to me, and now we like to complain about work together lol and text everyday and I send her phyllis pictures and we even mail each other letters !! 💕 also !!!! She’s the closest to my age out of my close friends here, so I feel like it’s super easy to talk to her 💞

lana (choerrypuffs) — she reblogged my neptune’s atlantis fic, and I responded to her reblog and also her blog looked super aesthetic so I clicked on it and then read her fics and was like “wow god tier writing I need to send in some asks to scream about these fics because the TALENT 💓💓” and we talked but we didn’t get close until like a week later when I found this pjo meme and didn’t know who else liked pjo except for her so I randomly dm’ed it to her with some all caps screaming message LOL and now we enjoy shit talking about anything and everything because it’s a safe judge free zone for our unpopular opinions lmaooo and she bullies me for typing all my fics on my phone but it’s ok because at least I’m honest about my bias and I don’t burn toaster strudels in the oven

steph (aqiaquas) — I needed some jeno pictures to make his banner for my not clickbait series and posted a cry for help about it, and she responded !!! I believe she also left a comment earlier regarding my wips about bff renjun faking an aussie accent, but we didn’t talk to each other as much until the jeno pic thing! I dm’ed her for the help and we just continued to talk after that 💕 so thank you jeno I suppose lmaoo and we’re also pen pals now 🥰 big props to her for always giving the nicest advice and for always listening to me 🥺 i talk to her about work issues a lot and we text daily !! I tell her and ti more stuff about me than I do with any of my friends tbh 🤧 I also did a facetime with her and ti a few weeks ago and we got her to stay up past her early bedtime cndjjdjdjdjd she, ti, and i have a gc which she has named “JENO APPRECIATION SOCIETY” LMAO

ti (t-shrt / m88n) — ti left me the kindest words and most detailed asks regarding my fics, and I still cherish them so so much 🥺💗💗 from there, she sent me more asks and I started talking to her more until we began to dm each other! and my god, she just gets me 100% and I can talk to her about anything like even the scariest most personal stuff I don’t tell anyone else about myself, I feel comfy enough to tell her about it, and I hope she feels the same! We text each other everyday and are also pen pals, and I want to visit her and steph one day!!! 💖 honestly I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who has related to me so much before, and you know what? ti, if you’re reading this, I think this is the easy we were talking about before

moon (wincore) — can you believe that we’ve only been friends for 40 days??? I just checked and I am flabbergasted because it feels like so much longer than that. An anon messaged moon a cute ask about how she and I are both yunqis and write fics, and she had tagged me in it! So I sent her an ask, and we were also in the same almost collab, so I dm’ed her afterwards, and we started talking and now she sends me pictures of her doggos and I send pictures of phyllis and I can talk about anything with her and we like to bounce fic ideas off of each other (read: one of us tells the other about a wip and the other person screams and sends a bunch of capslock messages about it) jejdjdjd her only flaw is that she barks at her dogs and doesn’t see this as furry behavior 😔 also we have the same taste in men LOL legends only and I hope she’s having lots of fun in the club listening to t swift rn !!!!

april (dropofgoldensun) — april ilysm okay so she always left the loveliest comments under my fics, and one day, I had this fic idea and was like “I want someone else’s opinion on this” but I wanted a fresh perspective on it, so I decided to dm her out of the blue and ask what she thought of it! And from there, we began to talk more and we also sent each other letters !!! in fact, I got hers last week and it made me 🥺🥺🥺💗💗 I have it pinned up to the corkboard in my room along with drawings by steph 💘

so all in all, I made friends by regularly sending them asks or shooting them a dm, or they sent me asks and continued to have a conversation with me 🥰 as an extrovert, I always love making new friends and never shy away from meeting new people, but I understand that it can be scary for some to reach out and take the first step 🤧 but if you do decide to, you might meet the most wonderful people 💞 I honestly can’t imagine what my life would be like without the friends I made on here now 🤧💖 but also, be careful of stranger danger and talk to those appropriate to your age! quite frankly, for instance, it doesn’t make sense for a 25 year old to want to be friends with a 14 year old. I can understand if the 14 year old wants to ask for advice or something, but having an equal friendship is nearly impossible when you’re at different stages of your life / maturity. Please stay safe! 💛 and omg no need to apologize, lovebug, I hope my answer made sense for you! let me know if you have any other questions 💟

#asks #anonymous

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justanotherblonde23 · 3 years

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I Just Want to Say THANK YOU

We all know that 2020 has been crazy, tough, an absolute shit show of a year. Who could have EVER predicted that a year would be like this. In March, I left my full time closing manager restaurant position. I’m immunocompromised, I hard of hearing and rely on lipreading to understand the world, and I have immediate family members that are also immunocompromised. There was no feasible way that I would be able to do my job during all this. My restaurant closed for a month and I chose to not go back. My body, my mind, and my soul were all exhausted.

Thankfully, I’ve been able to go to school through all of this and pursue a degree, something that I’ve wanted to do for a long time, but ever really got around to. I had a great summer semester and dismal fall semester, but you just gotta go a day at a time, y’know? I’ll be ready for this next semester.

Through of all of this, I’ve been incredibly lonely. I’m a people person, I love my alone time, but I also love my interactions with others. I crave connection. My main receiving love languages are touch and time spent and of course I can get little to none of that right now.

Here’s the part where I turned to tumblr. I’ve had this blog for a few years, never really doing much of anything with it, scrolling through from time to time for quotes and pictures and to look at my irl bestie @tshu-va blog. I was looking for more Star Wars fanfiction and I thought that I might as well poke around on this site and see if I could find any. Lo and behold, there is a treasure trove here!

Not only was I able to read all of these incredibly well written stories and have my reading interests expanded, I made friends, too! To my friends that I’ll tag at the bottom, thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of your love, encouragement, and belief in me. I’ve been writing fanfiction since I was probably 12 and I never shared it with anyone. You’ve encouraged me to share my work, you’ve cheered me on, you’ve given me advice. I can’t thank you enough.

To the people that read my work, that like, reblog, and comment on it, I am the most grateful. I never in a million years actually thought anyone would want to read what I had to say. Even if I don’t know you personally, you are more than simply a name on a screen for me. Each one of you represents an individual that cares about the stories I tell and the imagination that flits around in my head. You are all loved, cared for, and appreciated. My DMs, my asks, and inbox are always open. Feel free to drop me a line, give me a suggestion, tell me things, be my friend, whatever!

@autumnleaves1991-blog @steeeeeeeviebb @dindjarindiaries @cinewhore @the-purity-pen @hdlynn @frannyzooey @f0rever15elf @jollyrancher87 @bisexual-space-slut @revolution-starter And so so many more that my brain can’t think of at the moment. I love you all so much! You are valued, appreciated, and damn y’all better know that I’m going to be cheering you on in this new year. I’m so proud of all the amazing work I get to witness <3

#end of the year thoughts #end of the year #kat says stuff #kat talks #thank you from the bottom of my heart #appreciation post #personal post #so much love to give

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sodalitefully · 4 years

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I write fics and post on ao3 but I’d really like to try posting some of my work on tumblr. I’m just scared that the people who follow me will judge me for writing fan fiction and that no one will see it or like it :( do you have any advice?

Dude I had pretty much the same problem when I started writing, I wasn’t comfortable posting my work on my main blog so I posted it on my sideblog instead! Making a sideblog was really freeing for me, even though basically no one followed my main and I hardly ever posted, it was still really nice to have a fresh start with total anonymity and it made me feel way more comfortable posting whatever I want, including my writing.

The catch of course is that making a sideblog means starting from 0 followers. If you have a decent number of followers or related content on your main, you might want to capitalize on that instead of making a sideblog. I hope no one will judge you, but if they do they’re probably assholes. I mean come on this is tumblr, people should expect fanfic around here.

Either way, it’s hard to get readers, here are the best tips I’ve got:

Tag like crazy: Character names, fandom name, ships, basically anything you can think of. Tumblr search function is pretty fucked up but I know I’m not the only one who’s tried to search the tags for fic, so it’s definitely worth it especially to get new readers.

Promoting: Mention your tumblr on AO3 (and vice versa) so your readers know where to find you, if you make a sideblog you might want to promote it on your main, or if you post on your main you should reblog your fic a couple times so your followers see it and it doesn’t get lost in the rest of your posts.

Try to keep your blog organized: If I like a fic, I will probably hit up the author’s blog to see what else they have. If I can’t find the rest of their work easily, I have no incentive to follow them. Use a writing tag or link your masterlist in your bio or something.

interact with other authors: Especially in a small fandom, the fic-writing community tends to be pretty supportive. Asks and DMs are nice but if you’re shy (I am) it’s good to start by reblogging/liking/replying to other author’s work, it’ll definitely get their attention and maybe start a relationship.

Also, if you don’t get that many notes, try not to be discouraged. It sucks but tumblr is kinda just like that. No matter what kind of response you get, you should still be proud of yourself for contributing, I promise the rest of the fandom appreciates it!

Please feel free to add on to this if you have any other suggestions, I definitely do not have the secrets to posting fic on tumblr all figured out!

#me replying to an ask: i will write an essay #me writing fic: i'll do bullet points #maybe even complete sentences #me writing an actual essay: stares into space for half an hour keyboard untouched #oh also if your fic is about bands you can hmu and i'll give your account a shoutout #might help get you some readers i've never tried it before #reply

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23-andromeda · 5 years

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hello i hope you’re doing good! i don’t know if you accept requests about other people but if you do, will my dad remarry or find another partner soon? 🌿💕

Hi, sweetest Mari!😊 I am so sorry your reading took so long I've been very packed with a bunch of stuff to do.

Thank you so much for patiently waiting!

I forgot to mention in my guidelines that questions about other people (regarding a certain situation not involving you) will not be allowed because I feel that it is odd to do so without their consent. But since I wasn't able to mention that, I'll let this reading be an exception for now. 😊

Anyway, I couldn't really identify the best spread for this matter. So I did a 6-card spread, wherein 2 cards will be about what your father wants because we should really consider that. The rest of the 4 cards will be the general energy surrounding his near future love life.

For the first 2 cards, I pulled the II of Cups, and the VIII of Swords in reverse.

Wow! The II of Cups-- a very lovely and emotional card. It signals the desire for partnership and the union of two people as it shows a man and a woman lovingly trading cups(feelings). I am sure that your dad wants to find a new partner soon. I am really getting that vibe. He is not looking for just a relationship. He is searching for commitment, unity, and passion. In addition to this, I also pulled the IX of Swords in reverse... The IX of Swords in reverse portrays a sense of moving on from pain. To me it is all about releasing all the pain and negatice thoughts one has. All of that is being done to attain freedom and to develop a new perspective and insight. Coming along with those is a heart that is ready to accept changes. I'm getting that your dad wants to be set free from a belief of his that has limited him from doing what he desires to do. There has also been a recurrent pain in his heart that made him feel trapped. He needs to realize that his only obstaclis are his own thoughts. Maybe he should try changing the way he see things for once but first he must accept that his own beliefs are what makes him weak.

Here's the overall thought: I feel that your dad wants to let go of all his doubts, pains, and fears so that he could achieve his desire to find a new partner.

Moving on, here are the remaininh four cards which will give light to the current energy surrounding your dad's love life.

I got the VII of Swords, the IV of Pentacles in reverse, the VII of wands in reverse, and the VII of Cups.

I would usually get into detail on all these cards. But I assume you want a direct answer so I'll summarize my reading. Just message me if you want something explained. 😊

In this reading, all the suits appeared. I'm sensing that your dad is carefully considering his mind, his feelings and emotions, his earthly and material aspects as well as his desires. Unfortunately, I am sensing the arrival of potential partners who will not be so good for your dad. 😔 I'd advice him to be cautious if I were you. It's either that person would just be tricking him and play games on him or that person could be someone who is greedy and would only care for the material things. Take this with a grain of salt too: be wary of air signs or earth signs that come into your dad's life. There will be a point that your dad might feel like giving up and losing hope but please please tell him not to! I am actually sensing a very wonderful presence hidden amongst all the bad. Literally a silver lining! I got the VII of Cups. The VII of Cups shows 7 cups containing both wonderful and bad things. Among the things contained in the cup is love. True love. This person is definitely coming soon. I feel that they are a water sign. 😍

In order to find this person, your dad must be objective in finding her though. Getting to her requires a mind over heart mindset for following one's fantasies or illusions for now could lead to the wrong cup.

And that's it for your reading! For any clarifications, feel free to DM me.

Remember that the cards only serve as a guide and that not everything is set in stone. Take what applies and leave what doesn't resonate. ⭐

I would greatly appreciate feedback and suggestions. Also, feel free to give me updates on how you are doing. You can always talk to me. 🐥💕

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lyricalt · 6 years

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[ovw] House Rules (1/??)

Rating: T Characters: Jesse McCree, Gabriel Reyes. (More cast to come.) Summary: An AU where McCree joins Blackwatch after Genji. Everything is mostly the same, just a little bit worse.

Thank you, Eddi, for suggesting the AU and then when I said “I don’t think much would change”, responded with a single DM that kind of destroyed me? Anyway, to quote her, she wanted something like “[…] seasoned blackwatch agent genji under orders to whip an older but no less bratty deadlock mccree into shape”. She also asked me if it was hot or not. Maybe..? Maybe.

Happy (early) birthday, Eddi. Fiend.

Notes:

Ages are the same, only Genji has seniority over McCree as an agent.

Genji was recruited to Blackwatch at 20. He is now 25. (edit: with Retribution canon released, I’m throwing up my hands and following Blizzard’s example with being super vague about dates. Genji is still 25. McCree is 27.)

I’ll try to update once a week, or more. I have written… a lot of it. I’ll move it over to AO3 once I’ve got… hopefully… more chapters.

[part 1 | [part 2] | [part 3]

It was McCree’s own fault that he ended up in Blackwatch. Twenty-seven years old and thinking he was all subtle cleverness when he demanded to see whoever was in charge, and in came Commander Gabriel Reyes without a smile.

“You wanted to see me?” asked the Blackwatch Commander. He sat across from McCree, the little room bright with white walls and a soft light that wasn’t too harsh on the eyes. It felt more like an office than a cell for prisoners.

McCree shifted his hands, chained to the table where he rested them. Of course, most offices didn’t have furniture with metal fixtures and bolts, and a door made from both steel and hardlight. He took stock of Reyes, making a judgement call to keep his face as serious as possible. It wasn’t going to be like bargaining with the other lowlife gangs where McCree could get away with a cocky grin and a hand to his gun. Reyes didn’t look the type to respond well to humor.

“I’d like to make a deal,” said McCree, confident but not desperate. Like he knew what was what, and that his offer wasn’t just some panicked grab for freedom.

Reyes snorted, expression still unsmiling but there was a spark of amusement in the way his eyes crinkled. “You’re in no position to do that.”

“Whoops. ‘Scuse me, guess I worded it wrong. Believe me, I know I’m in no position to make any demands, but I figured I throw out an offer anyway,” McCree said, ducking his head a little. Made him look contrite and embarrassed for the most part, and in a way, he partially was—though he kept other tics to show for it.

“I see. Well, since I’ve got so much time on my hands,” Reyes said, voice a slight drawl to indicate that he did not, in fact, have a whole lot of time on his hands. “Let’s hear it.”

McCree inwardly winced, knowing somehow there were going to be repercussions for him if he ended up wasting Reyes’ time. But repercussions didn’t mean shit when he was already cornered and bookended. He had been too high up on the Deadlock chain of command to get off scot free, and too old to go anywhere but prison. He thought of Joel, who was seventeen when the raid caught them, and after asking around found out the boy was going to be tried as a minor. McCree felt a little relieved at that; Joel hadn’t killed anyone, was only a runner boy when it came down to it.

It was a shame now that McCree hadn’t been in the same boat; he had killed at least a dozen of Overwatch’s agents during the raid before a stray bullet had caught him in the chest and he’d blacked out with a sudden sharp pain between his eyes. As for the rest of Deadlock, McCree assumed most of them were dead or half a step away to rotting in prison like him.

He leaned forward, ignoring the way the tacky bandages shifted across the wound over his chest.

“I’ll be honest, if this doesn’t work out, you can count that I’ll go to court, guilty as charged. I ain’t stupid enough to think I’ll get away with anything,” McCree said. He threw Reyes a considering look, calm settling in his bones. He wasn’t as good with his words as he was with his gun, but the leveled feeling was the same. “And I’ll serve my time for that good long while, for everything I’m convicted of. Quiet and meek as a mouse.”

Commander Reyes’ eyes narrowed. “You have information.”

“Sure I do. I’ll tell you everything related to my trial, of course. I know what I’m guilty of. I’ll cooperate.”

“You have no choice but to cooperate with us, but I appreciate the willingness.”

McCree figured Reyes for a smart man. The commander knew how to negotiate between the lines and it showed in the way he was conscious of allowing McCree to speak obliquely. He trusted the white room to be monitored, though he wasn’t sure what kind of hold Reyes had over the bureaucratic end of Overwatch—and McCree did believe Overwatch had a hand in with Blackwatch. And Blackwatch, he knew, was just as legal as Deadlock, only with a bit more funding and friends in the right places.

“I do love to be useful,” McCree demurred.

No legal organization would fight the way Blackwatch did during the raid. His heart ticked upwards, remembering how they painted the Deadlock walls red with blood.

Reyes didn’t answer him right away, but neither did it look like he was contemplating it very much.

Unable to help himself, McCree raised an eyebrow. “Now you’re just wastin’ your own time here.”

Reyes didn’t seem pleased by his comment but he wasn’t baited. “I’m just wondering how useful you’d be.”

McCree let out a short breath. He’d been holding it, and Reyes’ gaze flickered, ever observant. Damn.

“Tell you what, I’ll give you an example right here, right now,” he said, pushing forward. No use holding back now. “I happen to know that Deadlock had a planned shipment with Los Muertos sometime later this week. ‘Course, they’ll know that Deadlock’s outta the business by now, but play your cards right and you might be able to catch some of ‘em hanging ‘round their safehouses nearby.”

Reyes’ started to look a little more attentive, which McCree thought was already excessive. The man had eyes like a hawk.

“Locations,” Reyes said, with all the ease of a commander used to giving orders. It certainly hadn’t been a question.

So McCree gave them.

“I’ll see you in a week,” he said, once Reyes got up from his seat.

“Don’t hold your breath,” Reyes said, and left McCree to wait in his cell once more.

It was two weeks before McCree saw Reyes again. By then McCree was bored out of his mind and halfway to being stir crazy. Prison was going to be a downright bastard of a time if he couldn’t bargain his way into Blackwatch.

“So? How’d it go?” McCree asked, bored enough to have the suicidal impulse of acting cheeky. He was back in the white room. Same table but no cuffs. He took it as a good sign.

“You are useful,” Reyes said, sounding so surprised that McCree could only assume he was being condescending. He dropped a tablet in front of McCree, reports and images projecting into the air between them.

There were pictures of bodies, lists of inventory, and a roster that seemed to imply casualties on the Los Muertos’ side—plus a few names that rang familiar in McCree’s mind, though he could’ve sworn they had belonged to other gangs. This was more than a few safehouses, more than what McCree had told Reyes two weeks ago.

“No bullshit this time. I’m gonna speak plainly,” Reyes said. “Your information was very good. We were able to extrapolate a few more locations from other sources, using your information as a guide.”

McCree shrugged. “Figured you guys might. And?”

“Ruthless, aren’t you?”

“Useful,” McCree corrected with emphasis.

For some reason, Reyes didn’t look too satisfied by the answer, only more wary. “You think you can keep being useful?”

“Even more so, if you good folks are recruiting.”

“We might be,” Reyes replied blandly. “You got any terms? I want to make sure we’re on the same page here.”

“Wouldn’t dream of making demands,” McCree murmured politely. “I’d be happy to just not rot in prison.”

To his surprise, Reyes stood up from his chair.

“I thought so,” Reyes said. He motioned to someone outside the cell, and the hardlight door flickered for a second, allowing a duffle bag to be tossed into the room. Reyes picked it up and let the whole thing drop into McCree’s lap. “Get up. Put on the jacket.”

McCree clutched at the bag, unable to move. “What?”

“The jacket’s in the bag,” Reyes said patiently.

McCree unzipped the duffle bag and pulled out the jacket, the Blackwatch symbol pressed to one sleeve. He stared.

“I thought… maybe this would’ve taken another week,” he tried, glancing back up.

Reyes scoffed. “I was planning to recruit you two weeks ago when we first met, but you started talking all on your own. Didn’t think you’d be an informant at the time.”

McCree could feel his blood run cold, hands gripping over the Blackwatch uniform. His new uniform.

“I like your initiative though,” Reyes added, though it was like pouring salt on the wound. “And you are very good with a gun.”

The shock was wearing off. McCree knew he ought to be grateful, but instead he was angry. He glared at Reyes. “So I’m in? Just like that?”

“Well, you didn’t have any terms, and I did ask. Lack of negotiations tends to speed things up,” Reyes said. To his credit, he didn’t laugh or look too smug about it.

McCree opened his mouth, wordless, and then snapped it shut. It wouldn’t do any good to state his terms now. He’d been so focused on trying to not go to prison, he hadn’t thought beyond getting into Blackwatch. And it had been that easy, at the high cost of his pride.

Reyes must have noticed his furious silence. With something that sounded suspiciously like sympathy, he added, “Word of advice; next time, don’t try to mess around so much with Overwatch. You’re a gambling man, yeah? So go ahead and play your cards right, but you should know by now the house always wins.”

More silence. Reyes waited.

McCree pulled the jacket over his shoulders.

[part 1 | [part 2] | [part 3]

#jesse mccree #gabriel reyes #blackwatch #overwatch #fic: house rules

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thoughtsfromaclutteredbrain · 4 years

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Could you used the strengthening relationship spread and I’m wearing a blank tank with no pattern

Thank you so much for coming for me to a reading. For this, I used a six position spread centered around strengthening the relationship between you and BD.

Keep in mind that tarot readings are not fixed. They represent a potential outcome, but you can easily change the outcome of whatever using your free will, especially if something comes up in your reading that you’re not happy with.

All tarot readings are done through Tumblr DMs and are tailored to your specific questions and concerns. If you do not want your reading publicized in this way, you can request for me not to and I will not.

So, this is your spread.

The top center card represents the current situation that you both are in. The next row of cards represents how BD feels about you (on the left) and how you feel about BD (on the right). The next row of cards represent what BD has to do to improve the relationship, and what you need to do to improve the relationship. The bottom center card represents what the outcome will be if you both complete these steps to improve your relationship with each other.

With all that said, let’s get into the interpretation.

CARD 1: REVERSE SEVEN OF SWORDS (YOUR CURRENT SITUATION)

This card usually symbolizes that there's hidden conflict. Not in the sense that you don't know about it, but that you're trying to convince yourself that it's not there, or that it's alright. However, you have legitimate concerns, and it does neither you nor him any favors to pretend they're not there. This card also notes that you might be concerned that he's keeping some sort of secret from you, but that you don't know what, or you're not sure what the secret is. You may have already asked some others for advice, but you're weary of the advice that they gave you on this matter. Also, this card symbolizes, when drawn reverse, a lot of arguing. Notice how on the card, there are swords being thrown at the character, and they're hiding behind the tree for shelter. These swords represent the harsh words that may be flying back and forth between you two, and you both trying to take cover from them and keep the relationship afloat.

CARD 2: PAGE OF CUPS (THEIR FEELINGS FOR YOU)This card symbolizes BD's feelings for you. This is a very positive card to draw in this position, because it seems that BD thinks very highly of you. The Page only has one cup, and he's offering it up to you. BD seems to think of you as someone they trust, and they're very loyal to you. They appreciate all the ways that you help them, both personally and professionally, and the way you've willingly helped them to achieve all that they've wanted to achieve. This card also says that they're working on how to best express their feelings to you, as they may not be the best at it. Their feelings for you may have also grown very organically, and may have caught them by surprise a little bit, but they've leaned into them, and are trusting those feelings. In short, they love you and want to honor you. Notice how the page is offering his cup up towards the situation card. He is willing to try to change for you. He is trying.

CARD 3: REVERSE ACE OF COINS, REVERSE TWO OF SWORDS (YOUR FEELINGS FOR THEM)

When drawing for you, you actually drew two cards for this position. However, these cards are significantly less favorable than the Page of Cups. The reverse Two of Swords talks a lot about lies again, and it also notes that you may view him as disloyal, despite the Page of Cups saying that he is, in fact, very loyal to you. It talks about a lack of trust, and once again that you might believe he's deceiving you. Notice how the figure in the card has a sword drawn, and one that hangs by his side. When this card is drawn upright, the sword faces down. But when drawn reverse like you did, that sword points directly at the situation card, and at the man hiding behind the tree. You do care about him, but this notes that your feelings about him are being painted by the situation that you find yourself currently in with him.

The Ace of Coins, when drawn reverse, says that you have everything you want, but you're still unhappy. You both were friends for a while, and you thought that you'd be happier to finally be together, but this situation has made you feel like it's all been for nothing. When drawn reverse, the image almost looks like the hand is emerging from the cloud ready to drop the coin. You felt like you were in a dream before, when everything was going well. But now, you feel like you've woken up, and everything going wrong has you thinking about even giving up on the relationship altogether.

CARD 4: REVERSE SIX OF COINS (THE ACTION THEY MUST TAKE TO IMPROVE THE RELATIONSHIP)

When drawn reverse, it symbolizes that you may feel that you give and give and give to BD, and yet there is nothing given back to you in return. He has to make you feel more appreciated, and more like you’re not wasting your time and that he actually is grateful for everything you do for him. This card is also related to self care. He has to make sure he’s also taking care of his own business on his own, and not relying on you to do everything. At the same time, he has to take care of himself mentally so he’s not taking anything out on you unfairly because he’s angry or disappointed or frustrated with something. As the Page of Cups says though, BD is trying, and he is working on how to best communicate those things to you and how to lean on you in a way that is beneficial to both of you. This card encourages BD to find the balance between relying on you and trusting you, and BD making you do everything. There is a balance that needs to be found, within BD and within the relationship as a whole.

CARD 5:SIX OF CUPS (THE ACTION YOU MUST TAKE TO IMPROVE THE RELATIONSHIP)

This card urges you to not live in the past. You said you have known each other and have been friends for a while, and this card suggests that you might still be seeing BD the way you saw them in the past. Give them room to grow, and give them room to change. It is completely understandable that you might be apprehensive of certain things or behaviors because of past experiences that you have had together, and you might have some memories burned into the back of your mind. This card says that there’s certain things that BD does that triggers past memories, whether it’s memories created between you and BD, or whether it’s memories from past relationship. These things are triggering you and making you have preconceived notions of them, or making you take the things BD is saying and doing in a different light. Remember that BD is their own person. They are not their past self. They are not your past exes. Allow them space to be themselves, and to change and grown, and also try to not jump to conclusions without taking everything into account, and without really listening to what they’re saying or watching what they’re doing. They don’t necessarily have the same motivations they did in the past, or that others have had in the past. Let go of the preconceived notions and past hurts, and judge BD by what they do now.

CARD 6: THREE OF COINS (THE OUTCOME IF YOU BOTH TAKE THESE ACTIONS)

This is a great card to draw in this position, because it relates back to perfection and teamwork. Not that you guys will be perfect, but maybe you’ll be able to better meet the perfect expectation you had in your head of your relationship when you first started getting involved with each other. You guys will be able to become a great, harmonious team again, and will be able to lean on each other, as opposed to one leaning heavily on the other. You both think in different ways, and that’s ok, and you’ll be able to understand each other more. You may have to take some creative means to really understand each other and see each other’s points of view, but you’ll both be better for doing the work. Once you both take these actions and do the work, you’ll have everything you’ll need for a healthy, happy and successful relationship.

I hope this reading was helpful! If you want a follow-up reading or anything like that, you can PM me or just send another ask! If you request another, I may or may not be able to do it right away, but I’ll get to it as soon as I can! Have a great day, and I wish you and BD the best in your new relationship!

#answered #tarot #tarot cards #tarot reading #tarot readings #free tarot readings #tarot reader #relationship tarot spread #strengthening relationship tarot spread #tarot spreads #oracle readings #divination #my readings

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kytalyst · 5 years

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First Year Med Tips

What’s a more pleasing way to start again than posting something quite relevant to the community right? (hahaha)

Anyway, are you an incoming first year med student? or do you have any plans to enter med school soon? well, you might have stumbled on the right post (lol, not really, but humor me please? hahaha)

To start off, I wanted to post something like this because I know how much of a stress it is to start into something without any idea on what’s totally going on. And because I was once in your shoes, struggling to have any some sort of information on what med school really is and just plain tips or advice from someone.

Disclaimer: I may have passed my first year but it doesn’t mean that I’m in the top 10 of my batch. I’m just your regular struggling med student and in no way a genius (like some of my classmates) but I could offer you some advice or tips to cope up with med school here in the Philippines as an incoming first year student and to show you a glimpse on what to really expect.

First Year Subjects:

Basic Biomedical Sciences

Gross Anatomy

Bring your reference book for your dissection just so you wouldn’t get lost along the way. I highly recommend Netter’s as an amazing reference. Also, if you can, invest in a 100 pcs glove box for your group, as well as masks it would be less a hassle to buy one every session (trust me, saves you more time to work ahead at the laboratory). Label your materials (it will be used for the whole year, label them so that they would not get lost and for you not to buy another one when you lost your scalpel or etc.)

Histology

Read in advance your laboratory exercise, it will be helpful for you. It would also guide you on what slides you’ll take. Research ahead on what the slides look like so you’ll have an idea on what to label and draw ahead. Don’t forget to bring your coloring materials. Color pencils, highlighters, fine liners help a lot in making sure your drawings look good.

Basic Neurosciences

Be familiar with everything, during laboratory, make sure that you know where the gyrus and sulcus are. Don’t forget to take a photo of everything and label on them.

Phyisology

If you’re a visual and audio learner like me, it would be helpful for you to search up some videos in the internet after a lecture. NinjaNerd is a very helpful reference for your physio topics. (istg!! I owe 50% of my learnings from him)

Embryology

If you go to the same school as me, read on the chapter summary. It will help you have a general idea about it. Reading the whole chapter helps you familiarize but the summary is enough.

Basic Radiology

Review the powerpoint slides by your lecturers! Take some time to actually read and review them not just during your exams, this will help you a lot since they are mostly diagrams and scans.

Family and Community Medicine 1

- Go to class. Don’t take this for granted. The subject is really nice to keep you grounded on what are really the main issues in the community that are related to health. It will help you appreciate the work of a family and community physician. You will be mostly doing paper works in this so team up with classmates who are actually hardworking and that helps you in work load.

Patient-Doctor Relations 1

- This is actually super fun. You get to have your first hospital exposure but only at the out-patient department. You will be taught on how to take a patient’s history. And if you are a socially awkward person like me (whose premed is biology and have no background on this) try to observe your classmates (especially the nurses) and if possible ask help if you have any difficulty. It will only be difficult at the first try but once you get the hang of it then you’ll be able to ace it. It’s not always that you get to take a patient’s history tho, it would only be 2-4 times this year, but hey it’s still good practice right? Try to follow the format given by your professor and do not just rely on your classmate’s history taking, make it your own so you’ll know how to make one.

1. Don’t be absent. Attendance in college may not be a huge deal for some universities but in med school? it is HUGE. (at least in my school) Attendance is checked every activity and every lecture (trust me, I was the class beadle). The reason why I tell you this is that, it will help a lot on your image to your professors. It shows that you are serious enough to attend your classes. (Even if you think you’ve covered this topic in your undergrad, still attend your classes, you’ll never know what things will your lecturer emphasize and possibly where he/she get questions for your exams)

2. Take notes. Lectures in Med school usually span for 1.5-3 hours depending on what the topic is all about. To keep yourself awake, one tip would be to take down notes, (may it be in pen or paper / electronically with your ipad or laptop!) trust me, it will help you during finals or exams to know what were the things emphasized by your lecturer.

3. Participate and Perform in Laboratories. Most of the subjects under BBS have laboratories (except for embryology). Try to make sure that you know every exercise and that you would not waste your laboratory period. This is because this will help you during your OSCEs or your Objective Structured Clinical Examinations.

4. Make your Small Group Discussions interactive. Use visual aids, like powerpoints, flashcards, quiz bowls, etc. Some facilitators may not be the fun type but most of the facilitators would appreciate on you simplifying the topic for your groupmates (BUT please make sure not to skip on important details).

5. Plot your school activities and exams. Med School is very fast paced, you tend to have long quizzes every monday and sometimes it gets really draining.That’s why I highly suggest to take note and plot in your calendar when will your bimonthlies start, this would give you an idea on how many days there is left before you start reviewing for it.

6. Always take a photo and label! I’ve said this once, and I will say it again. Don’t be a lazy ass (like me, who only do this when I feel like it TT) This is applicable to your laboratories, especially in histology and anatomy. When you have your lab exercise, always make sure that you get the slide that your teacher emphasized, have a photo of every slide and label it on that night. trust me. this will help you in your practical exams. And don’t forget to ask for help especially to your professors and classmates.

7. Find an outlet. It would get really suffocating at times when you are bombed with all these school works. And so I suggest to find an outlet, go to the gym, watch a youtube video or two every once in a while. So that you wouldn’t feel too choked by all these academic stress.

8. Keep all your notes by Bimonthly. Trust me on this, buy a big envelope and place all your notes and transes once the bimonthlies are over. This would really help you for finals so that you wouln’t be looking for all your scattered notes and print them again. Save the environment.

9. You don’t need to buy all your books. If you know someone from the upperclassmen, ask for a pdf copy of your books. The books really cost around 3-5,000 pesos each and it would be a pain in your wallet or parent’s wallet. (Or if you can afford it then it’s also alright with me tho hehe) But for me, you don’t really need to buy all of them, if you don’t want to. Befriend an upper classmen or two then ask for a pdf.

10. You are not alone. (oooh scary jk but you get me right?) You are still at an adjusting phase. First year brings a shock to most people on how med school really works. And I guess a good advice that I could tell you is that you are not alone. Your classmates and friends are also going through this. Everyone is struggling in med school (I still am) and that’s ok. You’ll find your groove soon enough (hopefully me too). Don’t be in a rush and don’t pressure yourself too much, just take things one day at a time. One task at a time. There will be days that you feel so bad that you don’t want to do anything and that’s ok, find someone to talk to, vent out what your feeling, contact your mentor, go to the gym, bake a cake, then move on. Make your bad day into good.

I’m not sure if these are enough but if you do have any questions feel free to dm me. And don’t forget that you are still a work in progress. Things will get really rough and that is because you are growing to become a skilled and good physician. If you’re not struggling then maybe you’re not really learning? (lol what? hahahaha idk) but really, just trust the process. You can do it! I believe in you!

#tips for med student #philippines #medblr #study #studyblr

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type2diabetestreatments-blog · 7 years

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Celebrating Dad Bloggers - Happy Father's Day!

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Celebrating Dad Bloggers - Happy Father's Day!

Let's be real: when it comes to taking care of kids with diabetes, it can seem like a mom's world. We know that dads love their kids just as much, but sometimes it can seem like moms are the only ones going to doctor's appointments, picking up prescriptions, and negotiating 504 plans. Women also tend to be more comfortable talking about their emotions, so it's no surprise that we have a huge community of D-mom bloggers.

But there are plenty of dads involved in our D-community too! And with Father's Day coming this Sunday, we wanted to spotlight some of these fabulous fathers who are sharing their stories and offering unique perspectives on raising a child with diabetes — and why they think it's important for dads to get in the blogging (or tweeting) game! Please enjoy our "mini-interviews" with highlighted D-dads today:

Red Maxwell, North Carolina

Dad to Miller, 17, and Cassie, 15 (diagnosed at age 18 months)

Blogs at Daddybetes, tweets at @rpmax

DM) Why do you think it's important for fathers to be involved in the diabetes online community?

RM) Moms and daughters and women with diabetes are much better at communicating than dads. I think it's just their nature to be better socially than men. If more dads like me joined the conversation, I think that it would not only help other dads who take care of children with diabetes, it would also let moms know what it's like from our perspective.

What do you personally get out of blogging / tweeting? How has it made an impact in your life?

Blogging and tweeting have helped me share diabetes information that I've stumbled upon or painstakingly researched. Once I learn something, it's nice to be able to help someone else who may be wondering the same thing. I remember feeling so lost and hopeless after Cassie was first diagnosed, and I wished there were better online resources back then.

What does your child with diabetes think of your blogging? Do they think it's cool or do they get embarrassed? Do you have any restrictions for what you blog about?

If I'm posting something that may be sensitive, I'll ask her first before publishing it. One time I wanted to put up a thank you note to her mom that she had written, and she hesitated. I waited a week after she had enough time to think about it, and she gave me her consent. It's not only important to respect your child's right to privacy, you have to respect their wishes too.

Bennet Dunlap, Pennsylvania

Dad to four teens, two with diabetes (diagnosed at age 10 and 7, respectively)

Blogs at YDMV, tweets at @BadShoe

Why did you start blogging about diabetes?

I was involved with a number of diabetes-related forums, ADA, CWD and some others. After our first CWD convention my daughter told me that I should write a blog because she felt I had a different perspective on diabetes — I'm still not sure if it's a good thing to have your kid say you have a 'different perspective.'

Do you think it makes you a better caretaker of your children? If so, how?

Oh hell yes! I think that we are at a point where being a better caretaker is very heavily involved with trusting and supporting the kids steps toward independence. I know that much of my thinking on the importance of that is a direct result of CWD's Friends for Life and some of my fellow bloggers.

What advice do you have for a dad who might be hesitant to start blogging or tweeting?

Blogging and tweeting are not anywhere as significant as being there through diabetes. Joe Solowiejczyk, CDE and guru, often talks about the how easy it is for a CDE to pull a family together for training as an indicator of future success dealing with diabetes. In the most basic terms, does dad show up? So I am less concerned that dads blog or tweet than that they bring the A-game to diabetes. Be involved, go to Friends for Life, know what is up, be dad, embarrass the kids with ugly golf shorts. Social media doesn't matter, as long as dad is not hesitant to deal with diabetes.

That said, I welcome all the crazy dads online. I have friends around the world I have not met. There is the one dude in Texas I would really like to have a few beers with. I welcome more into the ranks!

Steve Gilbert, North Carolina

Dad to John, 20, Krista, 14, and Lia, 9 (diagnosed at age 7)

Blogs at Without Envy

Why did you start blogging about diabetes?

At the time of Lia's diagnosis, I was putting what I thought were the finishing touches on a dramatic novel I was writing. The news sent me into an emotional tailspin that made fiction feel second-rate to the tragedy that was happening here in the real world. So I started writing about diabetes and how it was affecting our family.

What do you get out of blogging / tweeting? How has it made an impact in your life?

Writing is a passion of mine. Before I quit the corporate world to pursue writing full-time (which, by the way, I still am pursuing, sad to say!), I would wake at four in the morning to write. With Lia now having diabetes, I was waking for other, more substantive reasons. And rather than lie in the bed and give those thoughts free, chaotic reign, I corralled them by night and day into what was for me something meaningful and truthful. I felt publishing those efforts on a blog would first and foremost keep me honest about my emotions and just maybe it would put me in touch — which it has — with others who felt the same way.

Do you think it makes you a better caretaker of your children? If so, how?

I don't believe I — or anyone else — needs to blog or write about diabetes to be a good caretaker. In my opinion, health has little to do with tapping into your creativity, unless of course, you are working with science toward treatment or finding a cure. What it does do is give me the means to express and understand how I feel about diabetes, and in particular, how I feel about my daughter and my family in relation to diabetes. Thinking about Lia and diabetes and our family in that raw, truthful way allows me to write honestly, and helps me to understand and appreciate what this disease means to them from their perspective, not just mine.

Tom Karlya, New York

Dad to TJ, 24, Kaitlyn, 21 (diagnosed at age 2), and Robert, 15 (diagnosed at age 13)

Blogs at DiabetesDad, tweets at @Diabetesdad

Why did you start blogging about diabetes?

Two things I remember vividly: First, I felt our experiences, even though more personal than strictly coming from a medical professional, could be just as valuable to another family going through what we went through. The second thing I remember was that I felt an obligation to be part of the process of the same community that was a help to us during the early years and that became the Online Community. We have come so far since that time but it is still people helping people.

What do you get out of blogging / tweeting? How has it made an impact in your life?

The satisfaction that I am making a difference. I feel, personally, that I belong to a community — a community dedicated to helping others. I need to look at myself in the mirror and say I am doing everything I can to both find a cure for my kids and also that I am learning everything I can to help them. In as much as I write online, it is the feedback I receive that empowers me to realize that together we can change the devastation of diabetes into a controllable disease that one day will be eradicated.

Do you think it makes you a better caretaker of your children? If so, how?

Absolutely, the knowledge from the online community is so incredibly useful. It is a live encyclopedia of diabetes information. In addition, if there are any questions, there is always someone online who I can ask, "Hey what do you know about...?" and almost instantaneously a response is given.

Scott Benner, New Jersey

Dad to Cole, 11, and Arden, 7 (diagnosed at age 2)

Blogs at Arden's Day, tweets at @ArdensDay

What do you get out of blogging / tweeting? How has it made an impact in your life?

In the beginning, I was trying to spread awareness. Along the way I realized that my experiences were becoming a sort of roadmap for newly diagnosed families and a comfort to others. It's a relief to know that the issues you experience aren't unique or an indication that you are failing as a parent.

Why do you think it's important for fathers to be involved in the diabetes online community?

There is a real opportunity to gain a male perspective in a situation that is generally female-dominated. If my 40 years on the planet have taught me one thing, it's that men and woman rarely see things the same way. I think multiple perspectives are particularly valuable when managing type 1. It's nice to have an opinion that doesn't mirror your own. Let's face it, woman are mostly responsible for the day-to-day stuff and it's difficult to spend every day with type 1 and then have your spouse come home and start making suggestions. It's tough to take that advice at times. Having other dads involved and sharing is a great way to hear other thoughts without that crazy feeling that you're being judged. Let me tell you, Girls, I understand more than you know. Nothing is easy about raising children and running a household.

What advice do you have for a dad who might be hesitant to start?

If you think that sharing your feelings and experiences is something you'd like to try, I say get to it. I was the type of person who wanted to take care of things on my own. I speak to a lot of mothers on the phone and they all have one thing in common: they're scared. The simple act of allowing yourself to be afraid and then understanding that you aren't the only one that feels these things releases so much anxiety. I hear that my blog helps people quite a bit and it's one of the most rewarding sentiments that I've ever received. If I'm being honest, I get so much more in return than I give. You should blog, even if you only do it a short time. It'll change your experience with all of this diabetes parenting stuff for the better. It'll reward you in ways you can't yet imagine.

Thanks to ALL the dads rocking in the DOC. And we hope you have a wonderful Father's Day, free of D-drama! 🙂

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23-andromeda · 5 years

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Heey, can I have a free reading too? I'd like to know what A (aries sun) felt about me when we were in contact. Also, why is he still on my mind after such a long time? -TP (taurus sun) thank you and have a great day!💗😚

Hi, TP! I hope you are having a nice day. Thank you so much for patiently waiting. 😊

I used two seperate 3-card spreads for your issue. One for how P felt when you were still in contact and the other for an insight on why you keep thinking about him.

Before I begin with P's reading, I'd like to say that all the cards seem to be putting off the vibes that these feelings occured when your contact was nearing its end.

For P, I pulled 3 cards which will all be about how he felt when you were in contact.

I got The Tower in reverse, VIII of Cups in reverse, and X of Cups in reverse. I'm actually sensing a deep sense of fear and a really sad energy from P when you were still in contact. The Tower in reverse represents the fear of change. I think when you were still in contact with P, P could sense that you will soon lose contact or somehow grow distant. P feared that changed and somehow wanted to do something to delay that. The Tower in reverse signals the avoidance of a disaster. I think that P wanted to maintain communication with you but I guess P failed to do so.

The next card is the VIII of Cups in reverse.

Hmmmm, I am seeing that P feels unfulfilled about something? Was there something lacking in your connection?

The VIII of Cups in reverse shows a man walking away from his cups seemingly looking down and disappointed. Maybe there was something P wanted from you like an emotional connection back when you were still in contact. You were unable to provide P with what P was looking for... making P walk away in defeat. Idk why but I'm really getting this feeling that P was unsatisfied with something. It is definitely safe to say though that P had a tough time deciding whether they should stay or go.

Lastly, the X of Cups in Reverse.

The desire to stay with you was there. P's desire to feel peace and love with you was definitely strong too during those times. Unfortunately, P was unsuccessful with his goals. P felt heartbroken because of that. I guess it caused him to give up. The X of Cups in reverse also is a card for bad relationships so to be honest, the overall energy I'm getting is a pretty sad one.

Overall, the cards seem to be telling me that P does have some regrets but your connection seems like it is not that good for the both of you anyway right now so there's not much you should dwell on anymore. That was in the past though and maybe even the present. Remember that the universe is in constant flux so we don't really know when things will change.

Now why do you still keep on thinking about P?

The 3 cards are arranged in order from left to right (how you feel, what you want, and an advice from the tarot)

Regarding how you feel, I drew the the King of Cups in reverse. The King of Cups, being the King of emotions, will have a huge understanding and power when it comes to human feelings. This is why when in reverse, the King of Cups uses his abilities to meddle with your heart. He uses his powers to manipulate how you feel. This authority has brought to you some sort of moodiness. As of the moment, you are emotionally unstable. As I see it, you get really sad about losing contact with P from time to time. You think you're happy and okay but deep inside you feel emotionally bothered by the distance between you and P. This could also mean that you are confused with how you truly feel about you and P right now.

What do you want from P?

The Moon.

The Moon can stand for an emotional confusion as well. As evidently shown in your question, you don't seem to know the reason why you keep on thinking about P. But let's focus on what you want. The moon is a card of illusions, of dreams, and of fantasies. I think you know what you want by now. You unconsciously think about it from time to time. You might even dream about it. Try to recall your dreams and they might tell you something important. I think you want to be in contact with P again however such an event is an illusion for now. That's the vibe I'm getting. It's not really a realistic goal as of the moment. Then again, we can never ever set a possibility in stone. So before you act, let's see what the tarot has to tell you.

What should you do about your situation with P?

I got the VIII of Cups in reverse. The VIII of Cups in reverse is a card of confusion and fear. The tarot is,therefore, advising you to let go of those fears from now. Just detach for the mean time, let things go, and let the universe flow. The natural flow of life shall bring you what's best for you, my dear. 😊

Nevertheless, I hope everything goes in your favour! Have a nice day, sweetie! 😊

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And that's it for your reading! For any clarifications, feel free to DM me.

Remember that the cards only serve as a guide and that not everything is set in stone. Take what applies and leave what doesn't resonate. ⭐

I would greatly appreciate feedback and suggestions. Also, feel free to give me updates on how you are doing. You can always talk to me. 🐥💕

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23-andromeda · 5 years

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Hello ! How are you ? Can you do a reading for me ? I am SM and leo.Atm i feel very lonely at uni and i think i have no friends.Can you do a reading about it ? Will i feel happy in uni ?

greetings, SM! Sorry if your reading took quite a while;; thank you so much for patiently waiting though!!

I'm about to start my uni life soon. I can only imagine how tough it is to not have friends at a very crucial stage of your life. 😔 I fear that I might actually be in the same boat as you are because none of my friends nor acquiantances are going to the same uni as I am. 😅

Anyway!! For you, I did my very own version of the situation-action-outcome spread by adding a card for your strength and another for your weakness which affects/causes your action.

Let's begin with your situation.

Is there something you need to know about it? What is causing your situation?

The Star in reverse. The Star in reverse is a very sad card for me. It's all about insecurity and having negative thoughts that are actually just illusions.

I feel that the Star in reverse appeared in this draw because you are being shrouded by your anxieties which is causing you to become too pessimistic about your situation. Your negative perception is manifesting itself into your reality. See how you are actually just "thinking" that you don't have friends? It is your mindset that is making you lonely. What the Star in reverse wants you to do at this very moment is to look at the positive. Yes, stop reading this for a while. Meditate and try to recall everything positve in your uni life, try to recall even the smallest bits of kindness from the people around you. Were you able to remember potential friends? Focus on the positives and you shall definitely get out of your cycle.

Given your situation, what action should you take? What is your strength that should help you move forward? What is holding you back?

You got the Chariot in reverse. The Chariot in reverse means that you lack control, movement, and direction. I am sensing that you are indeed very lonely. This is making you static. Your sadness is eating up your energy to actually move and change your situation. You need to take control! I am also sensing that when you do feel down, you feel as if you have nowhere to run to.

Your inner The Emperor (your strength) is telling you that you have control over what happens in your life! The Emperor is telling you that you have wisdom and that you have stability! There is no way you won't find out the solution to your problem because the solution is right within you -- your willpower. Muster up your courage and break out of your shell! 😊

For your weakness, The Lovers in reverse appeared. I'll tell you this again: I strongly sense that it is your mindset that is causing you problems. The Lovers represent lack of harmony and one-sidedness. Maybe you feel that you are the only one trying with your friends? Maybe you are thinking that you are the only ones giving and that you are never receiving love from your friends. Although that can be true since toxic friends are inevitable, you must remember that you cannot generalize things from a few experiences. I am sensing the presence of people who actually and genuinely care about you. Take some time to notice who these people are and you should be getting on the right track in no time!

Here's some good news to get you smiling, SM! 😊💕

The outcome you shall get if you follow the advice of the cards is---- The Magician! Like the magician you shall also be successful in manifesting your desires. The Magician makes the most amazing creations out of what he has and you have the ability to do the same. Again, it is all in your willpower! The Magician has everything, a pentacle, a cup, a sword, and a wand. He's been through a lot of ups and downs but now he is using those to perform his magic. What is driving him to do that? His desire to create. The Magician is advising you that you must first develop a strong desire for happiness and that alone shall drive you to create a better and happier environment for yourself. "As above so below" as seen in the Magician Card.

"The full process of transformation that separates the physical from the spiritual and then reunites them into a fully harmonious whole." Take that with a grain of salt. 😊

Lastly, I also drew from my Oracle deck for you. Just look at the picture and take it any way you want to.

If ever you're feeling down, you can always talk to me. I can be your friend. uwu

And that's it for your reading! For any clarifications, feel free to DM me.

Remember that the cards only serve as a guide and that not everything is set in stone. Take what applies and leave what doesn't resonate. ⭐

I would greatly appreciate feedback and suggestions. Also, feel free to give me updates on how you are doing. You can always talk to me. 🐥💕

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Me: A. Taurus - Her: C. (Don't really know things abt her), love or general can do, want to know readings for us cuz she changed me so much(in a gud way)

Hello there, A! 😊 I'm glad you have someone in your life that has changed you for the better. I wish that things go swell between you and C!

For your general love reading I got:

The VII of wands in reverse, VI of Wands, and the X of Cups.

Funny because I did a general love reading spread but the cards appeared in such an ordered manner as if I did a past, present, future spread. Let me explain to you why.

The VII of wands in reverse shows that you've had struggles in the past both intrapersonal and interpersonal. You also have doubts when it comes to love. Have you been really hurt before? Because with this card, I'm seeing past pains that have affected your way of thinking and your way of seeing romance recently. This could also be the reason why you want reassurance with A.🌸

Next, we have the VI of Wands. To me, this is your current state with A. I'm glad to tell you that you and A are on the way to better and happier days! There is a high possibility--no i'm actually kind of sure that things will go well for you two. You two will help each other achieve success and victory in life and in love. You two are a perfect match! Just be honest with your feelings and get to know A better. 😊💕

Lastly, the X of Cups. A super duper positive card when it comes to relationships right here! 😍💕 A, C is for keeps! The X of Cups is all about having a happy family and a successful relationship. You definitely bring each other joy so go for it! See how C has changed you for the better? 🤭🤭

I am also sensing that both you and C are the marriage/commitment type. You two are looking for something long term and that's just wonderful. 💜💜

My advice for you is to spend some time to get to know C better and who knows you might immediately hit it off and get the relationship of yours dreams? 😊 best of luck, sweetie!

And that's it for your reading! For any clarifications, feel free to DM me.

Remember that the cards only serve as a guide and that not everything is set in stone. Take what applies and leave what doesn't resonate. ⭐

I would greatly appreciate feedback and suggestions. Also, feel free to give me updates on how you are doing. You can always talk to me. 🐥💕

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23-andromeda · 5 years

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Hi! I was wondering if I could get a reading on my relationship with P ♑ and how things will go at in the future.. Idk I'm kinda at lost.. best, A ♈

Greetings A! I'm sorry your reading took quite a while I had a busy day 😭😭 but anyway, thank you so much for patiently waiting!

I performed a 5-card relationship spread for you. 😊

On the left is how P feels about your relationship. On the right is how you feel.

Let's begin with P's feelings.

For P, I drew the II of Swords.

mmmm, I'm sensing that you two are in that stage of relationship where important decisions must be made to change your future together. The issue is that P seems to be undecided on what has to be done? You don't have to take this too negatively. It's not that P's unsure, I think it's just that he is being faced with difficult choices which require critical thinking from P and from you as well.

Right now, you two are in stalemate, so don't worry. Things are fair between you two because a stalemate is a draw. This balance, this equilibrium, is causing you two to be in limbo though.

I am also sensing that the II of Swords is telling you to be patient for now as P is having a hard time deciding. Of all times, I feel that now is the time you must be patient with P. Wait until it's the right time to help P take of their blindfold (as seen in the II of Swords).

Now, let's move forward to how you really feel right now.

For you, I drew the Death card. Now, now... don't panic.

The death card is a card that symbolizes the end of a cycle and the start of another. I don't really see this as a bad omen for a breakup. I actually sense the opposite since I am reading for your feelings NOT THE ENERGY OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Very soon, you shall be undergoing a metamorphosis. This metamorphosis might be the very catalyst which gets you and P out of the limbo you are in. You will be experiencing growth but of course before that you must be ready to accept the sadness caused by change--by death.

Just always be wise and think critically. Reflect. Remember how you sent this ask feeling unsure about the future? The Death card might actually be reassuring you that if you do spend some time for your self growth, you can actually be able to end the cycle you are in -- the cycle in which you are constantly having relationship dilemmas.

Okay, now that we have both of your feelings clarified. I'll procceed to the uppermost card and the bottom card.

The upper card stands for "the good" in your relationship right now. It's what's bringing you together as of the moment. The lower card stands for "the bad." It answers the question, "What is causing the negative energy between us?"

Beginning with the upper card, we have Page of Cups.

Cups are cards for feelings and relationships so that's just about right!

You'll actually be touched by this.

The Page of Cups is telling me that you two are in unity because you two bring each other joy. Not just the usual joy, but the kind of joy when you get a delightful surprise. That's how you feel about each other. Always ecstatic together because each day you teach each other something new! I feel that there are a lot of differences between you two? Like in terms of interest? Maybe even cultural. I don't know why but I'm getting that vibe. 😅

Getting back to the point! These differences of yours make you two see each other in a unique and creative perspective just like a fish randomly flying out of a cup! 💕

The Page of Cups seem to be signaling me to also advice you that when you two encounter a new opportunity, make sure to grab it! Unleash your inner child, let yourself grow that way. Let your relationship grow even stronger. 😊

Sadly, we must go to "the bad."

And we have, the X of Cups.

Wooow, another Cups card. Your relationship with P must really be on an emotional level, huh? 😊

The X of Cups is a super positive card which stands for happiness, completion, and a sense of fulfillment sooo why is this card here? This had me thinking too. Then it hit me. Now, sweetie. Don't take this too harshly but I feel that the X of Cups is telling me that it is what you lack.

You two are happy but not completely. The energy of incompleteness and of inadequacy is calling out to me.

Maybe this appeared due to the lack of decision-making between you two. This lack of a solid choice is making both of you feel insecure and incomplete. It's the only thing you guys don't have right now, no? The X of Cups is also a card for harmony. You two are technically not harmonious especially if you are feeling lost. There must be something that P is failing to provide you with. I'm getting that it is assurance...

My advice? If you want to actualize what the X of Cups stands for, get to know yourself first and then get to know P. You'll be amazed that after doing that, you'll know exactly what the right thing do is.

Lastly, the middle card. The future.

I pulled, The World in reverse.

I'll be honest with you. Right now, your relationship with P is at risk.

The World in reverse stands for yet again incompletion and unaccomplishment of goals.

It seems that you both feel as if you sre nearing the end of your relationship or the end of a stage you are in, yet nothing is happening to trigger the change. You two want to reach something of great importance. I feel that it is a big goal for your relationship with each other. But you two are not taking the necessary steps at all! This theme has been recurrent in your draw!

A, you must act soon. You must start thinking about what you really want. Decide and when the timing's right be honest with P but at the same time be patient with P as they have their own decisions to make as well.

Nothing is ever set in stone. Always remember that you can always turn the world in reverse to an upright stance. Just have hope.

I feel that you need guidance with this issue so I drew from my Oracle deck for advice. Just read it in the picture and take it anyway you want!

And that's it for your reading! For any clarifications, feel free to DM me.

Remember that the cards only serve as a guide and that not everything is set in stone. Take what applies and leave what doesn't resonate. ⭐

I would greatly appreciate feedback and suggestions. Also, feel free to give me updates on how you are doing. You can always talk to me. 🐥💕

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