Kak gimana ya cara menghadapi orang yang suka 'silent treatment'? Bingung dan ngga enak banget rasanya :(

Silent Treatment

Halo anon, terimakasih sudah menunggu. Sebelumnya maaf ya baru sempat balas, kayaknya ask ini sudah ada sebelum saya vacuum tumblr semingguan.

First of all.

Pahami dulu bahwa terkadang, silent treatment mungkin merupakan hal yang seseorang rasa pilihan terbaik, untuk menghindari mengatakan atau melakukan hal-hal yang mungkin akan kamu sesali nantinya.

Orang mungkin juga melakukannya di saat-saat dimana mereka tidak tahu bagaimana lagi harus mengekspresikan diri atau merasa kewalahan dan kepayahan dalam merespon hal yang terjadi.

Jadi, jangan blaming nggak berkesudahan, jika seseorang akhirnya memilih untuk melakukan itu terhadapmu.

Yang kamu lakukan saat ini adalah, don't take it personally. Bersikaplah tenang dan sabar. Jangan menanggapi dengan marah, jangan menggurui atau merendahkan, dan jangan memohon dia untuk menanggapi. Tenang dan pahami situasi dan kondisinya, diantaranya :

1. Berikan sentuhan lembut

Kalau kamu tahu cara menyentuh hatinya, lakukan dengan cara apapun itu. Setelah dia mencoba membuka ruang, sampaikan bahwa treat dia, telah sampai ke kamu. Kemudian perlahan dan dengan lembut, tanyakan apa alasannya. Diposisi ini mungkin kamu diminta untuk lebih legowo.

Jika dia menjawab, dan mungkin dia menyampaikan letak salahmu, segeralah minta maaf tanpa tapi. Kalau tidak, biarkan dia sendiri dulu. Waktu yang saat ini dia butuhkan. Barangkali di benak pikirannya, ada kontemplasi, mencari siapa yang salah, bahkan termasuk dirinya, perubahan sikapnya terhadapmu, dsb.

2. Secara berani dan terus terang, sampaikan bahwa perlakuannya melukai perasaanmu.

Beri tahu dia bahwa perlakuannya itu menyakitkan dan membuatmu merasa frustrasi dan sendirian. Bukan itu yang kamu inginkan atau butuhkan dalam suatu 'hubungan'. Jelaskan bahwa dia tidak dapat menyelesaikan masalah dengan cara ini, lalu jelaskan secara spesifik tentang masalah tersebut.

3. Setelah dia terbuka, dan merasa baikan,

Diskusikan solusi kedepannya, jika hal ini terjadi lagi tawarkan solusi agar ada ruang untuk kalian berkomunikasi. Sampaikan sisi keterbukaanmu untuk menerima masukan, pun halnya dirinya untuk jangan sungkan untuk kapanpun atau bahkan segera menyampaikan.

Tambahan :

Kita sepakat bahwa silent treatment itu bukan cara solving problem yang baik. Karena terkungkung pada situasi ini, selain buruk bagi pelaku juga halnya pada mereka yang mendapatkan. Yap, karena kondisi ini memaksa seseorang untuk terjebak dalam kondisi self blaming, stres mikir "salahku apa".

Akan tetapi, ketika seseorang memilih berlaku demikian, bisa jadi karena pola asuh ortu yang ia terima sejak kecil tidak membiasakan dirinya untuk dilibatkan dalam komunikasi yang sehat, atau diskusi untuk memecahkan masalah.

Maka, poinnya adalah, jangan salahkan jika seseorang memilih itu, alih-alih demikian, bantulah untuknya mulai berani mengkomunikasikan jika sesuatu sedang 'tidak baik-baik saja'.

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why do I keep giving people the silent treatment when they do something that kinda hurt me 😭 like I don't mean it but I can't stop either...Like it's so hard to just speak to them after. I know I could just tell them that they've hurt me but at time the reason is so stupid that it wouldn't be worth to open up about. Like I just need some time to digest my hurt but asking for that time would made me look like a annoying dumbass. I ask my friend about an opinion on something, she told me it looked fucking ugly and now I can't bring myself to just speak to her 😭. There's no ill intent I just can't, there's a mental block happening...

silent treatment is always wrong.

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Posted @withregram • @focusonthefamily Silence hurts. So does verbally lashing out. Neither is a healthy way to resolve conflict in your marriage. In extremes, both styles of resolving conflict are futile relational power-grabs. If you’re the quiet one, learn from your blabber-mouth spouse. If you’re the talker that shoots verbal darts non-stop, learn from your tight-lipped spouse. Stop doing things the way you’ve always done them, and begin looking for different results. Most importantly, though, don’t focus solely on the balance of power in your marriage. Focus on the balance of power between you and your Maker. Balance this scale, and the rest tends to take care of itself. Are you talking with God? Or are you the silent partner? LINK IN BIO for full article. © 2008, Matthew D. Turvey. All rights reserved. International copyright secured. Used by permission.#FocusOnTheFamily #Marriage #FocusOnMarriage #Conflict #SilentTreatment #Love https://www.instagram.com/p/Cen2n80Ouy3/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=