Happy 4 year Anniversary @bashfulbutcher !! Living with you the past two years has been amazing. I love the way you love me and Scott and always know how to make me feel better when I'm going through it. I'm so lucky to get to love and be loved by you!

Our anniversary also marks the anniversary of our triad with @deadpoolology !!

I'm so grateful to know you both and my life completely changed for the better the day(s) you both walked into my life. I love how safe and secure I feel in this relationship and that we can talk about and get through anything together. You've both taught me so much about love and communication! Love you nerds!!

Much more amusing conversation partner when your polyamory gets brought up are people who react supportive but ask extremely innnocent but oddly detailed questions to the point where you realise "Ah, this person writes fanfiction."

Wow, having a sex life has done amazing things for my oral hygiene.

The Polyamorous representation we 👏🏻 DESERVE 👏🏻

(But seriously perfume commercials never make sense but I love this 😂)

me: spends a long time coming to terms with being aro-spec and dating apps being immensely stressful and not really being romantically attracted to people

me: fully accepts self as aro-spec

me also: gains two girlfriends

*goes up to a polyam triad* so which one of you is the fastest draw, which is the surest aim and which will rule this town?

Hello! I have a bit of a situation that I would like your honest opinion on; I've read a lot of your asks and I trust your opinion on this, as I unfortunately delved into reddit initially and that was not a pleasant experience.

I have experience with romantic polyamory, and I'm out to the important people in my life; I'm also married.

Recently, my spouse and I have been talking about how nice it would be to have another partner to love and care for as we do with each other. (Note: we discussed this shortly after we started dating, so it's not something new to us) We've been talking about a long-term triad who we'd like to nest with if the new partner would like to nest with us as well.

We don't have any, in my own opinion, unrealistic expectations of the partner. We don't have any "qualifications" or a "job application" that you would typically find with unicorn hunters.

I've been doing my reading, as I haven't been with multiple people in a couple years and wanted my information on terminology to be up-to-date. I've found that another big issue with unicorn hunters is that they treat their partner like a little secret, introducing them as a friend and such.

Like I mentioned earlier, I'm out of the closet about this, and I'd always introduce my partners as just that, my partners, and I'm sure my spouse would do the exact same.

So would my spouse and I still be considered unicorn hunters just for wanting to hopefully pursue an equal & ethical triad relationship without any expectations whatsoever? Reddit has been so unkind 😅

Thankyou so much for your time.

Absolutely!

Alright, that is a bit of a joke. I like Reddit for a lot of things but their polyamory community is infamously bad. And pretty much all polyamory social media always witch hunts Unicorn Hunters. And not without some good legit reasons. Lots and lots of people get hurt by unicorn hunters. But I have seen lots of people jump to immense conclusions as soon as it is mentioned. I have seen people describe their unique situations only for the replies to completely ignore it, clearly not reading all the way through, just to read a pre-scripted response about how unicorn hunters are bad and they should feel bad.

As you have mentioned, I don't really agree with this. I am a unicorn myself. I like dating couples! I don't feel like I am abused or taken advantage of when I do. Admittedly I have some privilege and advantages there. But regardless I think smart unicorns can effectively date ethical couples.

So my advice is to just be really upfront with any potential partners about what you are looking for. Be honest about limitations. It sounds great that you are open and would introduce them as a real partner. But also be realistic about if the existing couple would have any advantages over the new partner even if that isn't the intention. Make sure the new partner always feels like they have agency and are not trapped. I personally favor open triads to closed ones but that is a decision for all of you to make. Be understanding that a new partner will most likely not like each of you equally at the same pace. They may lean towards one person more. And over time things may shift to lean another way. Your existing relationship will probably go through this too as New Relationship Energy might overpower the old marriage for a time. This is normal and workable. Trying to force everything to always be equal often leads to problems.

Just try your best to be ethical and make everybody happy. Mistakes will be made along the way but they can be worked out. If everybody involved is happy then don't let the internet judge your triad.

Non-monogamy is more about connecting with other people emotionally and romantically than about sex in general.

8 common types of polyamory:

Triad

Quad

Vee

Solo

Polycule

Hierarchical

Anchor Partners

Parallel

Haha the cards called me out on this gay ass day for my triad (it's Imbolc and 7 years ago today Scott and I had the "what are we talk" and I introduced him to the concept of Polyamory, 4 years ago today I told Julia I love her for the first time)

King of cups: warmth and sociability: love, generosity and support. As a person this card points to a charismatic, sensitive man, a romantic partner (well that's obviously Scott)

2 of cups: harmonious partnership in love and collaborative projects; finding a soul mate(s) and committing through marriage or by moving in together. Reconciliation and peace

Queen of cups: kindness, love and emotional intelligence: following your heart, creative projects flourish. As a person, this card represents a intuitive woman, a female partner (my Julia 🥰)

Sweet Sapphic Love makes my heart dance like no one’s watching

while i absolutely love the empty child/the doctor dances as jack's introduction, its rly funny to me how moffat tried to set it up as "oh rose loves the doctor more than any other guy haha! jealousy plot!" and then literally the next episode RTD came in and was like "anyway. they're all fucking"

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I have always known I have a lot of love to give but I never imagined I’d love two people so strongly and receive the same love in return.

[Podfic Link] | Length: 16 minutes

Original Work: Think I Have A Problem by @wanderingjedihistorian

Clone Wars: Fox/Bail/Breha | Rating: General Audiences

Summary: 

“Pardon me, Commander Fox. Might I trouble you for a moment?” It had already been a long morning and Fox just wanted to be able to go hide in the Guard offices. But he couldn’t say no to a Senator without good reason. And this particular Senator had a quiet, but well earned, reputation among Guard for being kind and always ready to offer a good cup of caf. Fox desperately could use one of those too.

Notes: podded for @polypodweek 2024!

also... this is part 41 of @wanderingjedihistorian's Here There Be Dragons series. I didn't put it in my [Podfics of] Here There Be Dragons series yet because it's so much further along than the rest of the series but it was just too perfect not to podfic for the event!

Okay the good news with this BG3 play through is that I downloaded the ‘dad bod’ mod and my beefy tiefling bard hooked up with Halsin who also had the dad bod body replacement and…. whew

I think Halsin has both my favorite kiss and my favorite love scene so far