phycology tumblr is this true i just got this ad on my dash and i have adhd
lik3 it would make sense if its true i have inattentive adhd and i resort to communication as a procrastination tactic and i know full well i have depression .....
like i do this thing bc im sad and dont wanna be sad is thay really procrastination tho??? isnt that just ... coping?
See, the funniest thing is that I actually have significantly more spoons than I did a handful of years ago. But because I only got diagnosed at 20, I have two decades of inattentive power saving habits.
I have that thing where we feel we can only do one thing at a time. The magical one thing that we will be interested in that will motivate us through it all.
And that thing where I subconsciously compare the spoons investment and ROI on investment and get put off of doing low ROI stuff.
Why (Inattentive) ADHD folks are so sensitive to rejection.
I want to talk about this. It’s been in my mind a lot lately. In October I got my inattentive ADHD diagnosis at the age of 29 (I turn 30 in just 20 days).
Inattentive ADHD is what used to be call ADD in the past. The reason it’s not anymore is because we still have that Hyperactivity. It’s still there. It’s in our head, our mind, our racing thoughts going 100 miles an hour. The daydreaming, the excited rambling, the zoning out and completely ignoring everything around you for a solid 2-5 minutes before realising you’re driving on the highway(before you ask YES. This has happened to me on several occasions - no I have miraculously not been in any accidents.)
It’s an internal hyperactivity.
Anyway - all my life I’ve been struggling with a lot of emotional turmoil and if there’s one thing I know I’m afraid of. Something that can and has absolutely done in the past – break me – it’s rejection.
Social rejection, relationship rejection, romantic rejection, job rejection. We’ve all been there. It’s part of life. And every time someone express fear of said rejection. The response is almost always the same.
- What’s the worst that can happen?
- It’s not the end of the world.
- A no won’t kill you.
All true by the way yes. In the overview of the world, yes. Certainly things I’ve said myself. Things I’m still working on accepting.
Everybody has an emotional volume switch on the inside. Something you can turn up and down depending on your feelings.
ADHD folks often usually have a different kind of switch. We have off and on. 0% and 100%. Now There is a way to practice feeling the different percentages inbetween but it can be hard.
Also remember everybody is different and I am primarily speaking from personal experience and talking with others who has felt similar.
What does 0 vs 100% mean you ask?
Well it means either you can or you can’t. If I get the job I applied for that’s 100% - I CAN do what I want to work as.
If I happen to not get the job I applied for? That 0%. That’s me being told that I’m not good enough.
And the more rejections I get the more I’m told how much I truly must suck at this type of job I really want.
The more rejections given the bigger, the louder, the more INTENSE this 0% becomes.
No. It’s not the end of the world. It won’t kill me. But it hurts so bad it feels like it does.
“Stop getting upset. It’s just a lost toy, it’s just one job, It’s just one guy/girl/any, It’s just xyz, it’s not that bad.”
No. It’s not JUST xyz. Yes it IS that bad because it FEELS that bad. Because it feels intense. We can’t just linger somewhere in between. Even though we want to.
Just… be aware. Understand that we try but it’s not that easy. Things hits us harder because if we don’t feel at 0% we feel it at 100%.
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Does anyone else who’s autistic w/adhd struggle to recognise where their autism ends and their adhd starts? I constantly see people who see them as being separate from each other, obviously from a medical point of view they are two separate “disorders”, but I always see mine as being together like a jumbled up pair of headphones that you stashed in a drawer and found them a year later. I look at them now all tangled up and think, “Where do I even start? Should I even begin to try and untangle this?”
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Ugh if I’m not insanely overwhelmed and stressed then I’m bored and feel like a blob. And it’s different from like depression blahness it’s more like there’s nothing exciting happening in my life and I just need to tread thru each day so I can eventually reach my goals I’ve been working on. Basically dopamine seeking. Doesn’t help that I hate my job and it’s boring as shit .
So much patience is required to feel fulfilled. And I’m so impatient !!!!!