#i will never use the “actually Autistic” tag | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

yellowyarn · 27 days

Text

the autistic urge to use overly formal language. wdym i'm being pretentious for saying "one", its so much faster then being like "somebody ... some people ... blah blah ... "

26 notes · View notes

ghostfacetheballfondler · 4 months

Text

you can't destigmatize mental illness by playing into respectability politics

#actually npd #actuallynpd #npd #cluster b #personality disorder #neurodivergent #autism #adhd #tagging a few disorders i have #''erm i'm autistic but i'm normal in social situations and am not cringe. anyone who isn't like me is a bad person''#''erm i have adhd but i'm not annoying and hyper. if you're not like me you're a bad person''#''erm i have ocd but i don't have those disgusting intrusive thoughts. if you have them you are a bad person''#''erm i have npd but i have never manipulated and i'm not self centered. if you aren't like me then you are the reason why ableists hate us'#<- i have seen so many people say those things #it is unreal #they're the most annoying types of people too #sorry my npd isn't just ''hot sexy and always correct''#sometimes the personality disorder affects my personality in a negative way. shocking!

33 notes · View notes

tatsumi-rin · 3 months

Text

Moral Orel doesn't seem 100% like a show I'd feel seen in if you don't know me but then I remember the episode with the special ed kids and underneath the usual satire on extremist bible belt religion it reminds me WAY too much of how actual special ed departments treated me and other kids growing up.

Like the writers must HAVE BEEN THERE IN LIFE, man. I'd kill to sit down with Dino Stamatopoulos and find out what the fuck inspired him and the other writing staff that day.

#husbandothings #moral orel #bonus fun tag rant? bonus fun tag rant...apparently #in those departments you are immediately written off as a tragic forever toddler by at least 50% of the staff regardless of your disability #there's good ones but the bad ones bring the fun spicy trauma #it doesn't matter how smart you actually are you gotta draw the sad face on that boy on the comic sans worksheet at the age of 15 #in your free lesson spaces that you got because of reasons #if someone tells me they're a teaching assistant or have “qualifications” in autism and special needs development i immediately distrust #because I have never met a neurotypical person with those qualifications who knows how to treat kids like humans especially autistic kids #funniest part? I was mostly in the special ed department because of my hearing and not totally my undiagnosed autism #and a little because of wonky emotional development from get this...a freaking religious school #like i see adults in the show and i see the headteacher who tried to tell my parents i should forgive the bullies because jesus would #even though the truth is way more nuanced but he just wanted to wash his hands of it #it's funnier than it should be because that teacher would fit right in to this show for that and additional reasons I won't state here #my family were atheists but thought the school would be good #the weird thing is at that time as a little kid I liked the idea of believing in god but nothing that happened proved Him to me #and moral orel hits because it resonates with the fact i genuinely believe religion can do good and it's all about the people #the ones who want to use that faith for good in the world and surviving rough crap and not to do things that would make jesus flip tables #that has stuck with me for over a decade as has the people who felt the show reinforced their christianity #but anyway

35 notes · View notes

finniestoncrane · 10 months

Text

said to my counsellor that i wasnt built for friendship because everyone always eventually just. stops speaking to me and she went “ok why do you think that is?” and then when i finished my dumb sad list she went “ok so maybe you aren’t good at friendship” and i. have never regretted spending £50 more in my life lol

#A RANT IN THE TAGS MY GOD I DIDNT EVEN REALISE I AM WRITING THIS WARNING RETROSPECTIVELY #£50 to feel like never trying to speak to anyone again or forge any connections THANKS RUTH #Ruth remember when I said that every friendship I’ve had I’ve never truly known if it’s a friendship or if it’s one sided #remember when I told you that my friend groups always had people who had a favourite and I was never the favourite #remember when I told you that several friend groups have disbanded but not really they actually just made new spaces without me?#remember that? remember my trauma? remember?#because I DO!!!#I was not born to have friends I don’t think #I can’t even make friends with other autistic people or other weird people or other queer people #I don’t even think I could make friends with a clone of myself #this is so guy wrenchingly isolating lol #like girl what do you want from me? keep everyone at arms length like I used to?#try not to let myself get attached to people in case they decide they don’t want to be close to me anymore?#please it is not great advice Ruth #THE WORAT PART is that I literally was like ‘I don’t message too much because I’m overbearing’#and she asked where the proof was #and all I had was the complete dissolving of any relationship where I tried or tried too hard #so now I’m left in this confusing space of do I message too much or not enough because I have no happy medium #and she knows SHE KNOWS I also have energy issues and executive dysfunction stuff going on #and I know she is just trying to help and get me to think about this stuff #but it was just not the time lmao #finnie shouts into the void

75 notes · View notes

confused-stars · 9 months

Text

as someone who was raised in a very environmentally conscious household, one of the hardest things about learning to navigate my disabilities has been accepting that...

sometimes you have to put your own well-being before the environment.

it's fine to buy pre-packaged foods if you're unable to cook for yourself for any reason, and the alternative would just be... not eating. it's fine to run the dishwasher twice if you can't do dishes by hand and they're stacking up to the ceiling. it's fine to not separate all your trash if you're overwhelmed by the sheer amount that's accumulated. it's fine to use any kind of plastic product if it's the most accessible option for you.

i feel guilty about doing all of this stuff on the regular, even though i know that abled standards shouldn't be applied to me

#i feel bad about having food waste a lot #even though it's difficult not to for abled people in single households too #and like i get the message of 'everyone should do their part' but the people spreading it never acknowledge that some of us sometimes can't #i'm just trying to keep myself alive and healthy y'know #disability tag #actually adhd #actually autistic

24 notes · View notes

beetrootsoupdragon · 7 months

Text

hmmm.

#vent in tags #turns out my only friend is actually really ableist and queerphobic #like i guess i should have realised that when she called me a slur #but i just excused it #like i excused her being really mean to me #like theres a line between playful joking and trying to insult the other person #and she made a joke abt me being autistic (bad joke to make) so i told her i actually was autistic and she was weird around me the rest of #the day but then near the end she started beingreally rude to me #including saying something like “i have too small of a mental capasity to be a good friend” or something #and like #shes never said anything like this until i told her i was autistic #plus she has always been weird abt me not using excact labels and just referring to my gender and sexuality in general terms #and she was really really weird abt me being trans #and she was so weird when she found out abt my sh #and i actually hate being around her #she makes me feel so bad abt myself wtff #i put up with it bcs i have no other friends #we're not a good friendship bcs she wants so much more from me than i can give and she refuses to give anything back #idk what to do abt it bcs there is. no way ill be able to just stop talking to her #shes really good at forcing me to spend time with her #idk shes actually really manipulative

10 notes · View notes

runawaycarouselhorse · 2 years

Text

(Ariel in Ariel's Story Studio)

I've often mentioned Ariel, The Little Mermaid, and mermaids in general were my first special interest, but I wasn't introduced to her through the original movie!

It was actually through this adorable Living Books-styled educational game my dad brought home from a trip to the States, with a story book maker (you can collect more stickers for use in the picture book scenes from nearly every "page" of the game), characters in bubbles providing running commentary on the scenes (Ursula's comments are especially mean), an absolutely lovely aquarium-style minigame where you fill it up with cartoony fish (but when you use the camera, you get photographs of their real life inspiration along with facts about their species!)...

I didn't talk very much as a kid (I certainly wasn't non-verbal, or at least... not entirely? Just a quiet observer mostly, but I was also quite spoiled ^^;;;), so looking at how quiet, curious, but undeniably clueless about the human world Ariel was (enthusiastic despite having no clue she's coming off strangely)... ah, no wonder I latched onto her immediately as an autistic kid. ^^;

A fish out of water is a very apt metaphor!

Thinking of Hans Christian Andersen and how he wept inconsolably face-down in the dirt at a bad review, how he overstayed his welcome at the Dickens' residence, failed to understand their hints, accidentally offended folks with with questionable or off-putting words, how he needed and expected help with grooming, and how his relationships fared... the possibility he was on-spectrum too (not that we could ever know for sure, given how long ago this was, but the way he missed social cues makes it likely)... it's just a lot that felt familiar.

It's interesting that this aspect of Ariel wasn't even in his original story!

#autism #The Little Mermaid #Hans Christian Andersen #Ariel #actually autistic #never used that tag before I think!#personal #body image #kinda? super cartoony #this game also had lots of little trinkets like music boxes so many music boxes I think it inspired a love for them

76 notes · View notes

coffeeandcalligraphy · 8 months

Text

some days you’re just going through your typical routine and bam you are once again 30% through a reread of cleanness by garth greenwell

#at this point publishers don’t need marketing teams just get one single autistic gay person to love your work so much &#we will never shut up abt it #but like this book is so good he didn’t need to go so hard for the audiobook either #I need to actually physically read this book with my eyes tho bc the effect of not using paragraph breaks all that much and #not using dialogue tags??? oooooh learning sm #like I forgot there aren’t dialogue tags until I read a good chunk of chapter 1 LOL I am ABSORBING this material again #like this is the girls by Emma cline all over again #lifetimes of literary knowledge revealing itself to me

7 notes · View notes

poolboyservice · 5 months

Text

no full offense, but why the fuck is r/fakedisordercringe still a thing?

#it makes me so irrationally angry that such a disgusting subreddit is still here #it just targets systems and autistic people who don't fit into the tight glove riddled with spikes (1/2)#that they [the users of r/fakedisordercringe] made using ableist and outdated information (2/2)#sure there are people who fake such. however there have been NUMEROUS studies showing that the reason why they do that (1/4)#is not really because it's a “trend” they followed but rather there is an underlying issue that hasn't been addressed (2/4)#which causes them to act in such a way in order to garner attention to possibly help validate how they're feeling and maybe (3/4)#help put a label on what they've been going through that can help them understand themselves (4/4)#I may be misremembering but that was basically the bottom line iirc #in general: r/fakedisordercringe doesn't help anyone. it dehumanizes the people being posted and it never actually helps anyone at all #also like 100% of the users are fully abled and wouldn't know what it's like to have the disability/disorder #they're literally claiming people are faking #I know long rant in tags 💔 I will do this again #franky posts

4 notes · View notes

cc-kote · 7 months

Text

Me: Haha yeah man I'm totally normal about Clone Trooper Dogma. I'm so fucking Average about him like it's cool it's cool it's chill it's all G

Also me: *refused to reset my phone or let it die to get rid of a glitch image of him on my screen and let it go on for over a month, currently sitting on 3 fanfic wips, a hand full of ideas, a comic, a handful of art pieces, an animation meme script, a cosplay, a meticulously arranged playlist, two fan songs (one of which is the best piece of music I've ever created imo), and a character study that I've churned out in the last 2 months while frothing at the mouth for this stinky little bastart.*

#no actually tho this is normal i am autistic lmfao this is just How It Goes for some of us but heY #the autistic euphoria i get from making things related to my special guys is unmatched this is the best hobby ever im doing a little dance #@ Future me: never forget this feeling and remember this when you start to second guess yourself #this special interest (tcw) has inspired me enough to Create more than i have in years and im clinging to it for dear life #but also specifically dogma right now because theres just #oh boy theres so much #too much for a tag section rant lmao #i just love him and i love sw ok fuCK #screaming into the void

2 notes · View notes

lilyliveredlittlerichboy · 2 years

Text

if your video doesn't have captions but whatever is said in/heard from the video is necessary for its understanding, i will not watch it. i will not unmute. it doesn't matter how many reblogs there are that tell me it's worth it. i will turn up the sound on my phone over my dead body only

#some of us have respect for the people around us and won't play sound without permission #some of us have sensory issues which make wearing headphones or earphones difficult #some of us have shit spokenword comprehension or processing issues #some of us still have never used the tiktok app even for a single second #tiktok hate #just caption your shit it's not hard #accessibility #actually autistic #disability #disability access #neurodivergent #i need a tag for my own rambles

17 notes · View notes

darktypehuman · 1 year

Text

(( alright, I haven't gotten too much feedback on the navigation blog post but I figure that's more just because I don't have too many followers, so the post may not have circulated very far. regardless, I do think I'm going to start up the out of character navigation account, since I think it could be very helpful to getting new accounts seen!

lmk if ya'll have any thoughts on what is important to be added in a bio. i'm going with currently-revealed info about the blog's character/characters (one post per blog, with multiple character bio sections) like name, age, pronouns, occupation, pokemon team, what region they can be currently found in (If any), if they have a preferred type/s, if they have support pokemon, and appearance/distinguishing traits

for a mod section i figured things like if the mod is an adult/minor and if they're comfortable interacting with minors/adults (Ik some people aren't, and that's a valid boundary to set!)though this would be optional to share, what account they'll be following from, and their main if they're comfortable with that (Assuming it isn't the blog they follow from), how to refer to the mod, and possibly other things the mod wants known/to clarify.

finally an account navigation section, detailing if the account has any boundaries they want people to follow (eg, no sapient pokemon), and possibly some relevant links; maybe to specific tags, or their about section etc. This section would be for general housekeeping stuff, so if a mod wanted they could ask to have their rules/dni here.

I think a specification/clarification to if the account is just pokeblogging (fully in character as a blog), pokeblogging and rp (some interactions, so not just the character's blog), or a multifandom/general rp account (though I might set a limit on those so I don't get overwhelmed) would also be useful.

I've also seen a few introjects (I believe that's the term?) and systems posting pokeirl stuff on like, personal accounts (ish? they look like my main account at least), maybe a specification if you're cool with rp/interactions and not just vibing and remembering your source could be good? This one may just be because I have anxiety and dont want to overstep anyone's boundaries by accident lol. I'm a singlet so I don't know things.

any suggestions/advice would be very welcomed! i want to make this blog as useful, accessible and just generally handy as I can. if anyone has any themes they recommend too, i'd appreciate it! i've been using the same accessible themes a lot and variety is fun. oh! i also think the account would be useful for things like community discussion posts or information sharing, like on tags to use instead of "Unreality" (lmk if i need to remove the word itself so the post isn't filtered out for people) to make the community more accessible for people

i also want to share people's art! i adore seeing everyone's creations, and i think it would be wonderful to show them off!

tagging @realpokemon specifically bc i know a lot of people first start out by seeing your content ))

#irl pkmn #pkmn irl #irl pokemon #pokemon irl #real pokemon #pokeblogging #pokeblog #are there any other tags people use? i dont know-#long post #advice is always appreciated! again my goal is to support the community and make things easier to navigate!#so i'm always happy to rewrite/rephrase things #i'm autistic and sometimes i struggle recognizing when stuff isn't appropriate to say or if its phrased badly #i promise i will never get upset if you want to correct me on something or explain i misunderstood/was rude by accident #admittedly that IS partially why i mentioned system run blogs specifically #i dont wanna make it seem like im treating anyone like a 'character' if thats like. who they Actually Are #and they arent comfortable with interacting with ocs #shits hard enough the least i can do is try and make it a little easier for everyone else

2 notes · View notes

evantualmao · 8 days

Text

when you're still following tags from a previous hyperfixtation like i haven't thought of bungo stray dogs in 7 months but i appreciate the art nonetheless

#evantuall crazed man ramblings #fandom culture #bungou stray dogs #actually autistic #hate using that tag since i'm self dx and still have some imposter syndrome 💔#my hyperfixes tend to never fully die anyway #i always revisit my interests 😭 it's like a tradition

1 note · View note

genderqueer-karma · 1 month

Text

apparently my best friend does not find the fact that i suggested we go to the same frozen yogurt shop we went to five years ago after i confessed to being suicidal as funny as i do 💀

#yo it's d :)#self harm mention #(?)#so basically i called her randomly on 4/20 in 2019 and was like ‘hey i really wanna die’ and we both cried while on the phone until #both our mothers came to check on us and then discovered the conversation we’d been having #this led to us being taken to a frozen yogurt place in town where we talked outside and our mothers sat indoors #what were our moms talking about? me being autistic.#core memory #suicide mention #again idk i never actually attempted but i did technically mention it in the post ???#idk y’all lemme know #if this is triggering give me tag suggestions for filtering

1 note · View note

bumblebeepixie · 4 months

Text

#I nearly cried with relief 5 mins ago when I saw the 'this post contains filtered tags'#I am at about 9 with my anger right now #things in life are going a bit mmmmmm #and seeing another im gay trans autistic and my mother hates me send me 500 dollars for food would have set me right off #Massive thank you to those that actually tag the posts #Tho if you guys are actually sending money to these people instead of just reblogging to try and guilt trip others then by all means #i'm bi #i have bpd #i'm in the process of getting an adhd and/or autism diagnosis #i'm living off of savings at the moment and still paying rent while i live with my parents #quit my job because it was making me feel like I was gonna kill myself #my mum has a chronic illness and needs constant looking after #and my uncle who lives with us and is never moving out is disabled physically and mentally too #Send monies xoxo #signal boost uwu #i'm just a poor disabled bi girly #🤢🤮

1 note · View note

beyblade-champion-coolatta · 5 months

Text

to be honest i think i just might not engage with this fandom anymore.

#everyone is saying people who were disappointed and still are are embarrassing and fake fans #aside from saying that being incredibly rude and annoying #and aside from a few bad actors being explicitly ableist #(yes as an autistic fan it actually DID hit me harder than some other people)#(and i AM hurt)#(and it's not stupid to like things or care about them a lot or criticize their creators in any way)#(again not excusing the bad actors who harassed rtvs who are using that to get away with it)#i'm just finding the incessant discourse really annoying.#especially when both sides are just saying the equiv. of 'kill yourself lol' at each other #which isnt how we solve problems or have discussions #this fandom does skew younger and more 'terminally online' than other fandoms i'm in #which never ever have discourse this bad #anyway i'll probably still hop on the tag and rb fanart occasionally #but that's all you're getting.

0 notes