I’ve seen discourse about buck and Eddie’s sexualities (whether each of them are gay or bi) and personally I think people should just let people have their own headcanons and stop being so pressed

Like I firmly believe Eddie is gay and in a post where I blabbered abt my reasoning I had a bunch of people who didn’t have that same headcanon replying with theirs in a very respectful and friendly way, not arguing about anything just saying how they see it without invalidating my opinion and those kind of interactions are how fandoms should be or at the very least just ignore posts with other headcanons

That aside if you wanna argue and do all that jazz please stay away from harmful narratives, yes these are fictional characters but if you’re saying shit like “people just want Eddie to be gay and not bi to feminise him” (something I saw on the blog of someone who was mocking in the replies of one of my posts about my headcanons) then you’re a dinosaur with backward views of sexualities for a buddie shipper

Also arguments that disregard the existence of comp het need to get out of the building, same with arguments that don’t recognise that many many many gay or lesbian people will have had sexual relationships with people of the opposite gender and have found it enjoyable doesn’t mean they can’t still be gay! Like yeah you can’t hurt fictional characters feelings and fictional characters don’t need their sexualities validated but some of the narratives y’all are leading with just insult an entire part of the gay community

Anyways that being said go have your own head canons, guys have fun, literally who cares and if you wanna argue about it don’t be a dick about it- don’t do it on people’s blogs who you disagree with and don’t make arguments that are ignorant ❤️

RE: this ask

Sorry about to go off on one, gender studies and online fan culture from an academic standpoint is a special interest of mine because being film and literature student wasn't annoying enough (participatory culture studies my beloved) 

From a general standpoint, I think the reason M/M ships in fiction have always been more popular is because male characters are historically more developed and complex. I think it’s only in recent years have their been an influx of popular F/F ships, with the added development of women on screen (e.g Clarke and Lexa, Kara and Lena, Regina and Emma, Nancy and Robin) - I think there is also a point to be made this has coincided with gender expression, genderqueerness and more general knowledge of being outside the typical gender spectrum. 

I can’t explicitly say that being in M/M fandom spaces encouraged my personal discovery of being transmasc but it certainly helped to have an avenue where I could project onto these “male” characters and see myself in them. I was so uncomfortable in my own body and what I didn’t know at the time as dysphoria, I can see why I didn’t go for F/F ships. 

There are of course a lot of “fandom elders” but young (early to late teens) afab people do make up a large bulk of it and I get why  it may be easier for them to fixate on M/M ships as a, sort of method of exploring their own sexuality and gender expression. F/F ships may hit too close to home and F/M ships are what they are trying to escape from so it leaves M/M ships to project onto. Which, unfortunately then can become warped by the persons own comphet and/or binary ideas about gender. 

A male character may have more stereotypically “feminine” traits (in terms of interests or emotional reactions) and I can see why people who also have those traits would project there own insecurities onto them, reinforcing the feminisation of the male character but not being comfortable enough in your own gender expression to genderbend the character or write them as trans. 

It’s the same reason I think mafia romance, dark romance etc etc is so popular with cishet women because they can read about a fantasy where instead of the very real every day misogyny and violence they face leading to abuse, assault and death, it brings “positives” ; protected, loved, a happy relationship. 

Which, side note. I think this has A Lot to do with y/n, self insert fics becoming “cringe”. Because, I think a lot of people just want to fuck/date a character and feel like they can’t write a self insert anymore, so just project massively onto one character, leading to a lot of these issues. I don’t think Tony Stark/Peter Parker would be as popular as it is if people just let young women write their self insert fic about being Tony Stark’s sugar baby and then we wouldn’t have the wildly mischaracterised version of Peter Parker that we do! 

But, all this being said. I’m talking about fiction. Dean Winchester isn’t actually affected if people online only talk about him in a stereotypically “female” way. 

RPF is a different kettle of fish (and I’m not going in RPF ethics that’s different - I have no issues with rpf creators/consumers to be clear, I am one) because a real person does become affected. Even if you are keeping your fan works and discussions to private spaces, it can leach over into how you speak about the actual person. That’s where it becomes so incredibly important to remember that your RPF version of celebrities are just as fictional as Dean Winchester is. 

sorry I used mr. supernatural as an example, 13 year old me is still alive and kicking in my head somewhere. 

I love to hear your perspective on it with a trans worldview (and academic credentials), and I do agree that that might be a big driver of some young people only wanting to engage with MLM fic and feeling uncomfortable with WLW fic. You've brought up so many great points so I'll try and address them all.

I can add the perspective of a lesbian who was closeted for the first two decades of my life, came out less than five years ago, and still struggles on and off with comphet now. MLM fics in my teens were a way to consume queer content and relationships without having to think about the implications of enjoying consuming WLW content, and I think that's true for a lot of young closeted teens so it's no surprise that some comphet/hetnorm/cisnorm stuff bleeds through there because it's a framework the authors haven't managed to detach themselves from yet.

But yeah, I agree the issue lies with people wanting characters to be self-inserts partially so that they can experience sex, sexuality, and romance without any of the hang ups of thinking about patriarchy. And I agree with your solution: make y/n fics cool again! The ability we have to hallucinate while we read is magic! You can put YOURSELF in as a character's love interest, how cool is that?

Ultimately, yeah. There's nothing wrong with RPF as long as it isn't actually affecting the person that the RPF is based off, but I've seen a lot of takes escaping containment so to say (ie. leaving this website) with takes about the actual racers so obviously picked up through RPF. The main culprits are Charles, Lando, Max in my experience.

I have a complex conversational relationship with my reaction to the way women look in media. As with most human attitudes, it's this mix of what I consider justifiable issues driven by societally narrow ways of depicting women, mixed in with reactionary knee jerk flinch-reactions that I have to seeing character designs that I percieve as 'forcing me to be feminine'. This last isn't at all rational, female characters that are masculine in some respects but feminine in others are not inherently against female masculinity. Someone drawing a character I percieve as a butch lesbian as thinner, daintier, softer and shier than I think of them is not an inherrently bad thing on it's own. But it feels horrible, it triggers a lot of anger and defensive contempt in me that the artist would not deserve directed their way. Most particularly because my perceptions of masculinity cannot always be trusted, smaller facial features are not necessarily feminine, my love of big, square and bold face shapes could draw me into racial stereotypes etc

AND YET... it is still definitely a not-insignificant trend for big and unfeminine female characters to be made smaller and more 'conventionally feminine' by fanartists, interpreters and subsequent media. It is also a trend for masculine-like women in franchises to be 'feminised' using some character trait. Cassandra and Aveline from Dragon Age come immediately to mind, being both the only women in all the games I can think of who could be called masculine, whilst also made straight and painted with this strange romantic naivete, coming off more as 'they failed at femininity' rather than their masculinity being a part of their identity that they express by choice. Honest to god it makes those games so hard to enjoy, media in general! Cus it is also true that, whilst there is nothing wrong with 'badass woman who has short hair and has some muscle definition but still wears makeup and has a boyfriend', it is still the only portrayal of female masculinity any media seems willing to explore these days. Which in turn makes it feel like the only expression of masculinity I am allowed, and that creates this sensation of caging that makes me want to lash out.

It's gotten to the point where I have an instinctual desire to ignore characters that are 'normal bodied' and 'normal gendered' if that makes sense. Not in the way that there is a normal body or gender, but in the way that, in the cultures I am exposed too, there is a very specific body shape and gender expression that is considered the 'strict norm' for women and everytime I see it it leaves me feeling hollow and resentful. And this gender isn't actually even really 'feminine' per se, female characters that are 'too feminine' are roundly hated too, there's like a null gender that female characters have to express in order to be tolerated by the stereotyped 'male viewer'. But this reaction of mine is still made up of both real issues and unjustified flinch reactions and it's hard to parse them in any way other than recognising what's happening and dealing with it internally or with friends who understand.

Like a lot of reactions that have origins in living in a society that is hostile to me, but is being in the moment triggered by just encountering something banal; 'this female character makes me angry just for existing' has gotta remain an inside thought.

fuck it, im gonna say something really controversial but idc. this is my main issue with the "kaitlyn dever shouldnt have been casted" take. (im boycotting this show and the game anyways but its been pissing me off too much)

who says buff women HAVE to be masc? like i hate how people are so pissed off and saying "abby's been feminised" and "she's male gaze abby". LIKE WHEN HAS IT EVER BEEN CONFIRMED SHES A FULL ON MASC WOMAN?

Like there's no issues if you HC her that way, and if you think she's masc or see yourself in her as a masc that's absolutely fine but to force that HC on others and demand that its canon or that it should be canon is so strange to me and ruins creativity of fiction.

ALSO, MUSCULAR WOMEN CAN BE FEMININE. ITS NOT A CRIME DUDE😭😭

ellie is different because she's a masc woman, its been confirmed and shes a confirmed lesbian too. but every other hc is free game like ugh, chill, and stop making issues out of thin air.

omg hi! I was thinking about it after I saw post on radblr about gendered languages soo I want to ask you to make a poll if it's okay!

my native language is gendered so you can refer to chair as he and to door as she and everything, it is not only reflected in nouns but also in adjectives and verbs. and since everything is gendered, you can't talk about someone without specifying their sex, so for example, if you want to say "this teacher is very nice" you need to specify in every word that teacher's sex.

so the problem in my country that feminists are dealing with, is that people, when referring to a woman, are using he/him for noun and she/her for the rest of the words. like in "this doctor is very nice" "doctor" will be used in a male form, while all the other words will be used in a female form or if someone want to say "this doctor is a good specialist" they will only specify that this is a woman only in a word "this" or won't do even that.

this way of using words is already erasing women from the language, but with all that, one of the arguments against using female form while talking about a woman (which is grammarly correct and is what feminists are asking for) is that female form sound "unserious" or "unprofessional". it is also a common thing to hear something like "she's not an actress, she's an actor!" as if "actress"(female) is inferior and "actor"(male) is superior.

there are female forms of words that people do not care about(some still do), mostly because it is usually women's professions like "teacher", "kindergartener", "flight attendant", "babysitter", etc but it is only adding to all that misogyny.

so all this talking was because I wanted to ask you to make a poll about if other women speaking gendered language have this kind of problem in their country/language.

I also always feel weird when people in english are using gay as an adjective, like saying gay woman instead of lesbian and gay people while referring to LGB but not lesbian people or bi people for some reason. but it seems like a lot of woman here on radblr don't really mind that? so I thought that it might be because of how english is not gendered and if there's any gyns speaking gendered languages, I would also like to read what they think about it.

my language is similarly gendered! coincidentally, chair is also masculine, but the door is also masculine. table is feminine, pillow is feminine, blanket is masculine, room is feminine, etc. it would also be in arabic that if you say "this teacher is very nice" it would be "this(feminine) teacher(feminine) is very nice(feminine)". its extremely gendered which i dont mind but what i DO dislike about it is if you want to be neutral, the default is male. masculine is both masculine and neutral depending on context. male as neutral doesn't sit right with me personally.

how it works in your language sounds terrible! one thing i like about my language is the way words are feminised is pretty simple and consistent. doctor vs doctora, teacher (mudaris, male) vs teacher (mudarisa, female). you just add an -ah sound at the end of the profession & it becomes female.

i would argue english IS gendered tho, its just not as gendered as languages like arabic, german, spanish, etc but it is indeed gendered. especially compared to languages like mandarin, in which the pronoun for both sexes is ta (so no he nor she, just ta. context clues or the character used will indicate the sex tho). theres also stuff to be said about how "female" and "woman" have "male" and "man" in them.

ANYWAYS... heres the poll u asked for,, i wasnt sure if some of these options apply to any languages but i thought id make these options regardless in case thats simply my ignorance:

I just wanted to say I saw your response to the ask about Nex and I wanted to say that the way you explained your stance is very well thought out…

I hold the same beliefs as you, and I would like to not be on Anon but I fear if my friends found I hold these beliefs that they would call me transphobic and hate me (it is a kinda complicated situation…)

I just want to say I admire your bravery to speak your thoughts and opinions so openly and seemingly without fear of being rejected because of them. I hope one day to be able to have the confidence to speak my thoughts on subjects without fearing to be criticized.

-A shy anon 🪼

I have been criticised a lot for my stance because it creates conflict and many people just dislike conflict in general, which I understand. I just avoid trans spaces online and irl these cause they are predominantly filled with trenders and “non binary”. I prefer LGBT mixed spaces cause atleast those are not just a group made up of women who ID as non binary. Since it’s LGBT and not “trans”, there is less room for radical feminist man hating bullshit cause gay men will tell them to stfu.

Non binary in my experience and research is really just radical feminism lite, it reminds me of “political lesbians” who were straight femcels out of choice. All core beliefs of non binary activism heavily align with radical feminist theory more than it does with anything about trans rights. Contrary to popular belief, many radical feminists believe that medical transition is fine aslong as you retain that you’re a masculinised female or feminised male and don’t assert you are changing your sex or try to be in any of your group’s gendered spaces. Though, this treatment is mainly only directed at trans women - they rarely care about trans men sharing spaces with cis men cause they see it as “rebellious against the evil patriarchy” and benefiting.

This is why most “detrans” TERFs you find will have identified as non binary but then switched, usually after trying testosterone and ACTUALLY getting dysphoria. If you go to non binary subreddits, there’s countless posts about being scared to start T cause “I don’t want *insert literal male sexual characteristic*” or even worse “I don’t want to be perceived as a cis male”. The comments are filled with encouragement to start T anyway, saying you can microdose to control effects (a lie, it just makes it slower), suggesting taking certain hormone blockers to literally block male sexual characteristics but get very minimal ones that could be achieved through diet, exercise and voice training. Or worse, suggestions that laser hair removal isn’t even hard or expensive, it’ll work blah blah.

These retards then go on T, get side effects that cause actual dysphoria and then go full blown radical feminist.

At this point? I think anyone who identifies as non binary should be banned from transitioning medically. I don’t think you should qualify for a gender dysphoria diagnosis unless you want to be the opposite sex; not some magical androgynous being to get out of misogyny in society.

Though I do keep my beliefs to myself in many situations to avoid conflict but I also play heavily on my autism as an excuse for things, if the government and society wanna deem me as retarded then I’ll play into it. So, no I struggle with singular they cause I’m autistic. Honestly, I actually do struggle with singular they especially if they look entirely as their birth sex. I just don’t bother putting in effort cause I don’t care about how they feel. The worst woman I ever encountered who got mad at me for this was self diagnosed autistic, had a fucking child and was raising him “as non binary” so she got mad if you used he/him. I’m all for not raising kids with no gender roles or stereotypes but doing that is gonna fuck up the kid.

I also know a woman who started T cause she thinks she’s non binary and immediately stopped cause of body hair growing. Now she complains about her slightly deeper voice and says she wants to get pregnant again but worries that T hurt her. Oh she still retains she’s non binary tho, just that she likes living as a female “cause its way more comfortable” - yeah cause you’re a cis woman!

Anyway sorry for the rant, I’m glad that my opinions aren’t all seen as me being uwu disrespectful and mean cause my intent isn’t to be “mean” it’s to use critical thinking. If you want, you can privately DM me to discuss more on this so you don’t feel so alone in your convictions. It’s one of the reasons I have stopped showing my face online publicly cause trenders tried to doxx me, dangerous at times to not believe in non binary.

as an afab trans intersex person, i usually find myself greatly relating to transfems more than any transmasc i know (like having intense dysmorphia/dysphoria over not being perceived as feminine for traits i have, feeling like i have to feminise myself more than cis women to be considered feminine, having people think im a guy due to my features and/or voice, ect) but i always worry that since i am in fact afab its weird or inappropriate or even disrespectful to relate at all to their experiences, even when i fairly commonly get mistaken as transfem (happened even yesterday the day im writing this)

so is it weird to that i relate to transfems more due to my masculising intersex traits? is it bad that i do?

(also… i may send another ask about this but is there any feasible way for someone who seem to have gone through mostly female puberty to medically feminise, in the way transfems usually do? when i find myself relating i usually wish i could also do that)

Thank you so much for sharing these feelings. You are absolutely not alone in how you feel. Many intersex people, and even perisex people, feel the way you do.

This answer is going to have an inclusionist perspective. Exclusionists of both the queer (especially trans) community and intersex community might have a different perspective than I do. I believe myself to be correct, but acknowledge that others will not. I am biased.

First, gender dysphoria among intersex people is incredibly common. Dysphoria is a feeling and experience not limited to gender dysphoria, but it also does often manifest as gender dysphoria in intersex people, including cisgender intersex people or intersex people whose gender aligns closely with what they were assigned at birth. I experience gender dysphoria over my body's gender it was assigned at birth, even though I don't present as that gender and don't wish to.

Second, there absolutely are intersex people who were assigned female at birth (AFAB) and label as transfem. This is a thing in the community. I know many, many intersex people who were AFAB and label as intersex. I know FTM intersex people who were AFAB and also identify as transfem or MTF. I know cis intersex women who were AFAB and label as transfem or MTF. You absolutely are not alone in this.

Third, it isn't disrespectful at all to relate to transfems/MTFs. It is almost never disrespectful to relate to the experience of another group. Many people find solidarity and similarities with other groups. Butch lesbians/sapphics and trans men often find solidarity and share many, many experiences. (For example, my stepdad was a butch lesbian in a lesbian marriage with another lesbian, before he transitioned and is now a trans man in a straight marriage with my mother.) And, that leads me into my next thing.

Fourth, you can just identify as transfem or MTF. Labels are complicated, messy, and mean different things to many people. What being trans to one person means can be totally different than what being trans to another person means. Personal labels, like ones for queer identities, have variation in meaning and usage. They cannot be strictly defined and regulated, although many people (exclusionists, gatekeepers) will try to do so and argue that it might ruin the sanctity of the label or muddle the communication of the language. Labels aren't used as exclusively personal or ascribed to people. It is fair to say that someone fits the definition of transgender, or was historically transgender, going off of the commonly accepted definition of it, but it is also fair for an individual who fits the definition of transgender to not feel as though that label fits them. Labels and terms can be used in many different ways. It is impossible to narrow them down to one definition and keep it that way. Language constantly changes. I know that many queer terms that I was taught by queer people have different meanings that what I found among queer people my age in a different region and online.

There are butch lesbians/sapphics who also identify as trans men/FTM (and vice versa). And this is okay! It's allowed! You cannot truly dictate labels and personal identities of others. Someone's personal identity is something that only an individual can ever truly know and understand. There are exclusionists, like I said, who will argue or push against this, but I think that those people are wrong and need to be ignored.

I'm going to go into discussing various labels/communities. This isn't to say, "you are these things", but to say "these are people who share similar experiences with you."

Genderqueer, genderfucked/genderfuckery are both gender-related labels that encompass so many things. There are genderqueer and genderfucked people who are cisgender. Many genderqueer and genderfucked people may label as transfem and transmasc, transfem as a person who was AFAB and transmasc as a person who was AMAB, FTMTF, or MTFTM. I know many bigender and intersex people who label as transfem and transmasc or things like that.

Transfemmasc/transfemasc/transmascfem is a label people use to mean they are both transfem and transmasc. This is very common in bigender and intersex people. And that's the thing. You can just...do that. You can label however you want. If you want to label as transfem, you just...can.

If you're not comfortable with such an inclusionist view on just labelling however you want, there is still common precedent for intersex people who were AFAB to label as transfem because they do have a transfem experience. Labelling as MTFTM or FTMTF or transfemasc has presedence in both intersex and bigender communities. Bigender people as a whole often accept that it is transphobic to bigender people to not accept such labelling—people who try to binarize things like transfem/transmasc, AFAB/AMAB, inherently ignore and erase bigender people. Bigender people have many things in common with intersex people, as both groups are erased by both the binary concept of sex and gender. Things within the queer community often still function by a binary within gender. Even in nonbinary places (like you see how transfem and transmasc are often seen as wholly separate).

I will encourage anyone as many times as they need: you can label and identify however you want. You can mix and match labels. You can "contradict" labels. Anything at all. If you want to send me another ask and answer by just saying, you can label as transfem, I will.

And, also, you don't owe anyone any information on your personal identity. Just how a trans man doesn't owe anyone information on what surgeries they've had or even want to have, you don't owe anyone information on how and in what ways you are the label you identify as and are.

As to your last question...yes and no? It depends on what experiences you have. Many intersex people who were AFAB with hyperandrogenism, especially with PCOS are prescribed different things to reduce or cope with their hyperandrogenism. For example, some people take oral contraceptives (birth control pills) as these usually contain estrogen.

I take testosterone HRT and used to take estrogen-based birth control pills for my period and generally speaking, this is a bad idea. It gave me hot flashes and caused even more painful periods that lasted over a month with significant blood clumps that were just. Not normal. I experience hyperandrogenism but am still on T HRT to increase my T levels further for transgender reasons. If you are on testosterone, talk with medical professionals before going on any estrogen. But note they might not have an answer. There isn't a lot of published information to rely on.

Breast implants exist for those with small chests. Many MTFs get breast implants. Some people will gain weight to get larger breasts as well. There are also feminizing surgeries such as facial feminization surgeries. All of these have risks and reasons, so research a lot.

So, if you have hyperandrogenism, you can discuss treatments that can lower your testosterone count. If you have physical appearance things like small breasts or facial features, there are feminizing surgeries.

There's also things you can do that are technically "masculinizing" that you can do if you want to have a body more like a pre-transition or pre-OP MTF.

(I have no idea what genitalia you have so apologies if this doesn't apply to you.) Bottom surgery can just be gotten by cis people (although for all these surgeries, I'm not discussing medical or financial barriers). If you want to have bottom surgery to get a penis via phalloplasty, in theory, you can. And you can just think of it as your penis, in a transfem way. Some countries have topical cream you can apply to increase clitoris size (unavailable in USA afaik, as much as I wish it was available). Many people with hyperandrogenism already experience clitoromegaly, however. Metoidioplasty is a form of bottom surgery that "releases" the clitoris to create a penis, which could be done to affirm yourself into having the body you want. (This is a case where some people might label as FTMTF, transitioning to "male" so they can transition to female.)

There is a reason I use trans+ in my post. The + is for anyone who undergoes experiences commonly associated with transgender ones, but aren't necessarily transgender. There are cisgender butch lesbians/sapphics who go on testosterone HRT, who get top surgery, and who get bottom surgery. It is completely okay to get any of these types of things even if you are not transgender or transgender in a traditional way.

Sorry for going on such a ramble that isn't well organized. I hope you can understand what I mean. If you have further questions or need clarification, let me know! I'm just very passionate about this topic. My partner is a transfemmasc intersex bigender and so am I (although in a bit of a different way).

So, basically, it depends on your intersex variations and what your goal is. You can do things to affirm your body to be more like someone who is a perisex MTF that doesn't have surgeries, such as bottom surgeries to change clitoris appearance or to get a penis. You can do certain things to reduce hyperandrogenism. You can get surgeries that are considered feminizing for the face or even some other places.

Also, it isn't medical, but you can look into ways transfems/MTFs socially transition without medical transition.

I'd really love it if you reached back out to me and gave me your thoughts or let me know if this helped. I know it's odd, but I truly care about every single person who sends an ask here, and I want to make sure I can make their lives better regarding their intersex experience. I very much want to do what I can to make sure you are happy with that.

TLDR; No, it isn't weird, and it's super common among intersex people who were AFAB. There are intersex people who were AFAB that identify as transfem. There are intersex people who were AFAB that identify as both transfem and transmasc. Intracommunity experiences are a thing. You should identify and label however feels right for you. Medical transition depends on your intersex variations, but cis intersex women with hyperandrogenism often take treatments to reduce hyperandrogenism, there are feminizing surgeries for places like the face or chest, and trans+ people who get surgeries that are "masculinizing" (like bottom surgeries to get a more penis type look) in order to feel affirmed as MTF/FTMTF or adjacent to those).

I am interested in no discourse or arguments on this post. I am interested in genuine feedback or additional information or other inclusionist perspectives. If anyone sees information they think was phrased poorly or any typos, let me know! I also jump around while writing posts so let me know if something just flat out makes no sense.

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Please call me Jasper (he/they) kinky (she/her)!

I am based in the UK.

I am a soft dom/ switch (pref: switch) with other trans guys (ftm girls <3), I will sub for anyone I trust.

I love: misgendering, gentle feminisation, detrans, gay to straight conversion of cis men, ftm to lesbian conversion, cis girl to ftm conversion.

I focus on the complex conflicting feelings of shame, pleasure and regret. I like to practice (some) restraint and add details to make fantasy seem more real.

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*Ideally looking for people well on their way to mid 20s +*

Additionally: I am autistic so neurodiversity very much welcomed!

just when i think i'm safe from fandom trope stupidity in the 4th chapter of the 3rd installment of a fic series i am blindsided by the bandana bullshit and the author acting as if bandanas weren't a common accessory for metalheads in the 80s for no deep reason aside from the aesthetic and maybe copying james hetfield. and it also implies the dom eddie sub steve bullshit bc of the way it's framed i hate everything. like specifically in this fic the premise is that steve is the one who knows he's bi while eddie is the one that ends up having a sexuality realization bc of steve. and when eddie (who is just. incredibly oblivious and it ends up blowing up in his face in this fic) is explaining himself to robin says that a bunch of guys/specifically metalheads at concerts and bars wear bandanas as just an accessory robin acts like he's an idiot for not realizing they could be using the code or w/e even tho eddie is fucking right, particularly w the concerts part of that statement like jesus christ. and i knew this would come back bc it's something steve (who's been getting involved in the community/club scene and sleeping w guys) noticed early on and assumed meant eddie was flagging but i thought it would just be as a general miscommunication and not in the most annoying way possible.

hi i'm the anon that complained extensively about the bandana code featuring in a fic and i calmed down enough to continue reading bc i do generally like this fic and author only for it to go harder w the dom eddie sub steve stuff (and specifically have robin say steve would be into the stuff eddie was saying about imagining steve crying like,,,, i will just never understand bc sm of that bs verges directly into territory overlapping w steve's various traumatic experiences and esp him getting tortured so no i do not think that makes any sense for steve. i also firmly believe that if eddie made steve cry he would not be able to handle it at all), have eddie make fun of robin for being into vickie bc vickie is boring, and further imply ronance might happen. i am never giving ppl the benefit of the doubt again.

i think when it comes to eddie and flagging, people are just so desperate for it to be queer coding, that they ignore any facts that point to the others. yeah, metalheads wore that kinda shit, and they probably weren’t all queer. and it’s super weird of robin to like, judge eddie for not knowing that? people just love having robin pop up in fics as a judgmental lesbian and i hate it lol

also hate when you lower your standards and accept that you’ll have to read a fic and it turns out even worse then you thought.

honestly, dom eddie sub steve shit gives me the ick. like the way people write it is so often just feminising one of them (usually steve) and it just feels really fetishy. and it so doesn’t make sense when people turn around and pretend that steve would be into any of that stuff. he’s been tortured!! he’s been beaten. he’s been tied up and dragged around without his consent. why would he want any of that shit to be done to him sexually?? and crying? really. yeah, i want steve to open and vulnerable, but not like that. and i totally agree that eddie would not be able to handle any discomfort in the bed area, even if the other person wanted it.

people literally just get two attractive men and write them as having whatever sex they find attractive even if it’s fucking weird and doesn’t make sense.

also, hate that they made fun of vickie. she is my girl. curses on all those that take the piss out of vickie, but especially those that do it for r//nance.

I can't believe people don't understand this, but the problem isn't u writing jungkook with different pronouns or whtever, it's JK doing a gender fluid ad and suddenly everyone's debating his pronouns and gender identity. You're essentially pushing gender roles by saying that his pronouns might be they/them or smth different, just bcs feminine themes were included his modelling. Like do yall not understand how crazy that is? That suddenly his pronouns/gender is changed/debatable bcs he decided to wear a crop top and long hair??? Yall are doing nothing but pushing gender roles and it's speaking patriarchy. Why is that everytime, an east Asian man is both feminine and masculine, people suddenly start calling him gay or trans? Begging yall to stop fetishizing korean men, it's not cute.

This is directed at everyone.

as i’ve said, me writing jungkook as gender fluid and changing his pronouns is not me projecting onto real life jungkook. they’re 2 different entities

sure, fictional jungkook was inspired by the androgynous nature of recent photos. but that isn’t me transferring that ideology onto real life jungkook and how he wants to present himself, be it growing his hair out and wearing a crop top, i know what’s fictional and i know my boundaries as a fan

i totally agree with you though!! and as i said earlier, i don’t completely agree with what is said within communities like twitter. calling him a butch lesbian or over feminising him to point it overrides the reason behind the photo shoot to begin with.

again as i said before, im not coming on here saying that jungkook’s pronouns are they/them simply from a few photos or that his gender is miraculously different or that he isn’t jungkook at surface level as he has been since i’ve been an army

again, i agree with you. asian fetishisation is still such a huge problem, especially when we add femininity into the mix, pretty sure jimin’s been a victim of it for years as he figured out his own comfortability within his masculinity while accepting the more feminine traits he presents. just as bts wearing skirts isn’t a point to fetishise, or them being gay (if they are), or anything that doesn’t fit within a heteronormative definition

the human brain is simultaneously extremely complex but kinda simple. especially within our society and how we view people based off physical appearance. when we see someone who presents as femme, we’re all likely to have a schema that put that person within the stereotypical gender roles based on appearance even though we’re aware that it’s all stereotypes and not necessarily true, and therefore assume the gender roles that are surrounded with being femme. just like there are certain expectations being masculine. just like how it’s the assumption that more femme presenting asian men are all gay or trans, because of the stereotype and narrative that’s been weaved into society even though it’s not always true, and a lot of the time false. it’s all to do with people and how we group them within our brains, even as we programme ourselves to know that stereotypes aren’t always true

i think it stands for all asian people, not just korean men. asian women even which is a whole other topic we can talk about.

baseline is, don’t fetishise a culture or race, it’s gross and weird and not right and i’d imagine quite uncomfortable for those who are in the firing line of fetishisation

disclaimer again, fictional jungkook that i’ve written is not in any way how i view jungkook in the real world nor is it a way for me to push an agenda onto him or anyone else in bts. i’m aware of how he presents himself in real life, and one photo shoot isn’t gonna give me cavewomen brain where i can’t function and just spew a bunch of nonsense all of a sudden because a man decided to delve into a more femme concept

thank you for bringing this topic to light as well, i think it’s another one that’s important to talk about!!

It's true the majority of lesbian porn is fake with straight actresses made for men by men but not all of it. Real authentic lesbian porn exists with lesbian/bi women who genuinely seem to enjoy what they do. The porn actor Sinn Sage for example. Also, ive never watched it alone while in a relationship but my gf and I would occasionally watch it together. I don't watch it much anymore, i prefer to just read fanfic these days! But it's not all bad

They are all paid to do this, therefore none of it is truly authentic. I used to watch it, someone like Sinn Sage still is involved with men and still cater to the male gaze. You have to be to thrive in this industry. I don’t see the point you’re trying to bring here since she’s one of the most known porn stars who has made f/f scenes and so it means what it means. “Looking like she enjoys it” doesn’t mean it’s not done primarily for men and directed by men, nor does it erases the fact they are still pretending in order to make the watchers as excited as possible. Men have a way to over-feminise women and ridicule them in the way they act, even when it’s supposed to be intimate moments that are not, you know, performative, it’s insane and this alone shows us who birthed the “idea”. That is the male gaze. If a man writes a porn, directs it, is there when it’s filmed, produces it or if a woman who heavily internalised that gaze is making the decisions somehow (rare) then it’s not good at all.

Beside, and that’s my personal opinion and you don’t have to agree with it on this blog that is a safe space for all lesbians, I have no interest in watching others having sex. This is too intimate, I feel like an intruder. When you know when you’re having sex that there’s at least one people who will watch then inevitably you change the way you have it, so it’s not interesting seeing something that is not as real as it’s claimed to be. Erotica and fictional work in that regard is great in itself. Looking at women wearing stilettos and full faces of make-up while 69ing each other (no matter how much they seem to enjoy it) is just Not It, anon. Men shouldn’t even control the images we’re supposed to be aroused about.

About Rosanna

Rosanna of Fractyl is a Cybertronian pop idol singer. She exists in the Kiss Players and TFA canons. She is also seen at a protest in the IDW 2005 comics with her purple sister, Flip Sides.

Flip Sides and Rosanna are cassetticons and they are the same model as Rewind and Eject, but with feminising modifications, such as a metal "skirt". Although all of Rosanna's toys have been sold with weapons, she doesn't seem to use them in canon. There is an implication in some canon materials that Rosanna (who is an Autobot) and Filp Sides (who is a Decepticon) may be the same person, but I don't play them that way.

I can play her from KP or TFA equally well. I know KP very well. I can also play the one in my Voice of Stanix fics. I do not mind playing KP verse as long as people aren't gross about it.

I don't have a lot of rules--they're all pretty obvious things, except one.

No god-modding or killing/maiming or NSFW happens to my characters without my explicit consent in direct messages.

Do not rush into relationships with my characters. It is OK to assume friendships that exist in canon but nothing further.

Don't assume that you know stuff about Rosanna that your character wouldn't canonically be in a position to know.

I do not care if male characters flirt with Rosanna, because dudes flirt with lesbians all the time. But as a player you should know that my Rosanna is a lesbian and your male characters have no chance of getting anywhere with her. She will not go out with them except as friends and she will never pop her panels for them. She is gay gay gay for girls girls girls.

No minors and especially no minors in my NSFW.

Rosanna canonically has exotic pets and in TFA she had a lot of them. I will joke about Carole Baskin coming after her because Carole Baskin is a joke, but I will block animal rights propaganda. My feelings about exotic pets are a) not exactly the same as Rosanna's b) not something I'm willing to fight about in an RP blog.

Adherents describe it as “less thoughts, more vibes” and if you’d rather be hot than think, the candy-pink, velveteen look that Britney and Paris made famous two decades ago is an unambiguous signifier of chosen modern levity. Ever the instinctive entrepreneur, Paris is – right now – retailing plush, 93%-polyester luxury on her website, so, yeah, a real thing is happening. 

[...] learning the aesthetic exists to satirise the impossibility of meeting contemporary standards of femininity by aggressively performing them makes me desperate to embrace its slutty, pink resistance [...] Alas, I am more than uncomfortable in microskirts and a midriff top and the mere idea of platform shoes reminds me to call my physio. Wide-eyed pouting by the young registers as ironically Lolitaesque – but on a face like mine, it can only ever read as mockery. 

Yet my jealousy persists, because how wonderful it is that activist young women and their friends have found a way to channel such a flagrant, public up-yours to the culture of gender policing that grows more exclusive and dangerous by the day. I mean this literally. There is a terrifying Venn overlap growing between capitalist criteria for feminised perfection and radical-right political demands to restrict the franchise of “womanhood” to ever-narrowing groups. 

This last has anti-transgender protesters and actual Nazis on the streets of Melbourne and anti-trans laws in the US already kicking lesbians out of public bathrooms, given their visible unwillingness to perform gender the way extremists insist they should. 

Meanwhile, the “tradwife” model homemakers of social media perform a highly merchandised ideal of womanliness without bimbocore’s snideness or irony. If you haven’t worked out tradwives are a soft power comms assault from the far right yet, the memes they post on Musk Twitter really – really – should give it away. 

Older women paying attention have realised that the ambitious Nazi/anti-trans crossover events agitated for in US legislation come from wanting to rebrand women as mere vessels for patriarchal reproduction. If you think ageing female bodies maintain any social value in that calculus, you are wrong. Note the recent laws passed in Kansas restrict the definition of “female” to those still producing “ova”. If you are an infertile, childfree or menopausal woman, a cultural tradition of being made to feel unwomaned by these experiences is now no longer just a nasty social habit. It’s reality under Kansas law. 

So what’s the appropriate aesthetic for the non-crop-top-compliant to express their resistance and refusal? There have been attempts to define a #cronecore and #hagcore but last time I let my greys grow out and wore a flanno to the shops, the messaging conveyed was hardly subversive. So now I have put in my order for a new tracksuit. My preference is black and hooded, and while I’m not out to culturally appropriate the aesthetic of the Ikkō-ikki I can certainly see the value of culture-jamming, gender-troublemakers learning how to vanish in a crowd. So let me now herald the arrival of the #NinjaCrone aesthetic. 

In the public theatre of gender activism, imagine an army of assassin-attired older women haunting the dreams of every Nazi, tradwife, anti-trans-bathroom authoritarian and anti-abortionist and making them as afraid of us as the loud sluttiness of our bimbo sisters makes them uncomfortable. We’re invisible to patriarchy anyway, so let’s weaponise the social performance of the ageing woman as anonymous, omnipresent … and capable of anything.

The bimbos get it: the far right have already declared their gender war. If you want to fight it, grab a mask and suit up. They will never see us coming. 

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In Knights and Pawns, Daniel does not want to be seen as a girl, or dress like one. Does it bother him on some level that he's seen as beautiful and lovely rather than handsome or rugged? His looks are viewed in more feminine terms rather than the masculine, despite being male. Does he mind being seen as much more...Idk, "soft" or "delicate" rather than physically strong or powerful?

This is a world where all people have two genders, and then I am not even going into what it would mean to be trans here, or genderfluid. The thing is that,for this world, Daniel is a cis omega man; which means that it's entirely possible to be a soft, beautiful man. Also he's Italian, those men are very well groomed! You don't have to be rugged to be manly. (I know there's a difference between, uh, Newark/Sopranos Italian American, Sicily and Rome or Milan, but I feel that Daniel would take after Michael's style). I am also channeling Ralph in how he would sometimes play with very girly versions of menswear, those sexy little tank tops and shorts with those thigh highs, the way you simply know he'd let girls do his nails. And in Dancing with the Stars Ralph always looked very good in the classic suits and when they wanted to edge him up they brought out mesh and eyeliner. Still his beauty lies in the fact that he's still definitely not a woman (if people say he looks like a lesbian!). I keep thinking that Daniel has tried to Americanize his style in Cobra Kai as an adult, which practically means he has that continental southern style but... sloppy? I'm nothing close to the Southern Italian style, I couldn't rock it, but Ralph could - I'm always itching to get him to Rome, Naples or Palermo and allow him to dress well, you know, close shave and manicure at the barber's, snazzy tailored suit, great shoes, skin routine, he would be resplendent. So in Knights and Pawns his style is unapologetically Italian chic, which he sometimes femmes up because he is omega and can be as contrary as he wants. But you won't quickly see him in a gown, that's too artificially feminised. Then again, Terry likes seeing him in frilly things in bed, but it's not like anyone but his pups and Terry are going to see him in bed. If there is a chance people will, he wears stuff like deep red pyjamas, or gold trimmed dark blue; sometimes the sexiness for Terry can also be the contrast between a manly cut of pyjamas while he's nursing.

Still when if his baseline is Italian high fashion, that style is also slightly androgynous, so that may read as feminised to an American audience? Really I think it depends on the culture of the viewer.