I wasn’t supposed to live like this. No one was supposed to live like this. The problem was that I simply didn’t know how to make it right...no one had ever shown me the right way to live a life, and although I’d tried my best over the years, I simply didn’t know how to make things better. I could not solve the puzzle of me.

Gail Honeyman, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine

Heyy, I love ur content and can I request a Web weaving of being alone or loneliness? Thankyou <3

i hope you're doing well <33

Alice Oseman Radio Silence / The Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012) dir. Stephen Chbosky / Gail Honeyman Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine / Susan Sontag As Consciousness is Harnessed to Flesh: Journals and Notebooks, 1964-1980 / The Double (2013) dir. Richard Ayoade / Heather Havrilesky Ask Polly: Help, I'm The Loneliest Person In The World! / Taylor Steele Shocker / Amy Dunne

“In principle and reality, libraries are life-enhancing palaces of wonder.” ― Gail Honeyman, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine.

Tagged by dearest @novemberrules26 to share 9 books I love and I’ve cheated by including two trilogies but I mean come on they’re both incredible. Anyway would love to see @perennial-dream @binickmiller @heartvirgo @pianochordsandcobblestones 🩵🩵🩵

Gail Honeyman in, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine.

eleanor oliphant is completely fine

just read the first page of 'eleanor oliphant is completely fine' & i'm already feeling a bit sad

JOMPBPC September 1 TBR

march reading recap !! 🍁🌕☕️

honestly the fact that we’re about to wrap up the first quarter of 2024 is fkn nuts like wdym ?!

this month i re read “never let me go”, read “eleanor oliphant is completely fine” & got to read a friend of mines first book which she’s just published, “oz”. i’ve also been reading “the ballad of songbirds and snakes” but i ain’t done hehe

never let me go by kazuo ishiguro (re read) ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

eleanor oliphant is completely fine by gail honeyman ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

oz by hope swan ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Random Word BPC | January 2023

22. Cope

I needed to make something happen, anything. I couldn’t keep passing through life, over it, under it, around it. I couldn’t go on haunting the world like a wraith.

Gail Honeyman, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine

Hey hey hey can you do one about the dull buzzing pain of despair ?

i hope you're doing okay <33

pinterest / 堕落天使 Fallen Angles (1995) dir. 王家卫 Wong Kar-wai / Gail Honeyman Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine (via @weltenwellen) / Mitski A Burning Hill / Jeanette Winterson Gut Symmetries / Euphoria (2019-) dir. Sam Levinson / Fernando Pessoa English Song; A Little Larger Than the Entire Universe: Selected Poems / Mayday Parade I'd Rather Make All These Mistakes Than Make Nothing at All

When you're struggling hard to manage your emotions, it becomes unbearable to have to witness other people's, to have to try and manage theirs too.

Gail Honeyman, Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine

Gail Honeyman in, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine.

Gail Honeyman, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine

|| 06.04.2024, saturday. ||

i've been thinking a lot about 'eleanor oliphant is completely fine' the last day or two.

to give a quick synopsis, the book is about eleanor, who has had a very traumatic past & is thus struggling in her adult life; she's got some odd ideas about how things should be, but also problems when it comes to the social aspect of things. i won't say how it ends, because the book is very well-written & i feel it is worth finding out yourself.

the one thing i have a difficulty grappling with, though, is that the book is described as 'funny' - both by critics & according to storygraph's genre categorization. and i've been wondering whether i'm one of the fewer people who didn't see the humour? because for me, a lot of the realizations eleanor made about other people, about herself, about how to socialize, etc., are things that i had to make & discover myself ---- & you know, as far as i understand, her moments of realization, i assume, are supposed to be the funny bits. because those are such logical conclusions to make, something that should be so clear that it is considered 'funny' that one even needed to think about these things for so long. but for me, on the other hand, the conclusions she made, & the way she formulated those conclusions to herself, are very very similar to what i would think to myself when i understood these simple truths of life (& sometimes, still do). so to me, the book wasn't funny at all, but just deeply emotional & it awoke quite a few memories of when i first understood these things.

i also don't mean to be misunderstood here: i'm not saying that the book isn't funny just because there's people who went through similar realizations as eleanor did - i'm sure in a few years time, when i'm (hopefully) done understanding how things work myself, i'll pick the book up again & see the humour in it, maybe even laugh at myself, that other people will do the same and probably already do. what i'm trying to process with this ramble, is more the realization of how big the gap between my way of thinking about how to socialize and going about life & the way other people think about socializing and life still is. while reading the book it was kind of surreal to me, is what i'm trying to say, how differently these situations in the book are perceived just because of differing experiences.

(i feel the need to clarify something, because i don't want to have any misconceptions created even if only a handful of people choose to read this post -- i did not have a traumatic upbringing. what i did have was an authority figure in my life who made me feel & think horrible things about myself, other people, & how the world works. while this may sound kind of bad, i don't think that this is enough to call it 'traumatic', simply because i have taken charge of things & learned how to correct them myself. still not completely done, obviously, but i figured out the solutions & i'm working diligently on it. however, the results of having to deal with that person caused me to live with the need to hide from people & experiences, which is why i lacked social skills & a simple understanding of the world. f.e., i didn't understand that if i wanted something, i could just ask for it or take actions to get it myself -- i didn't feel i deserved it, i didn't feel i was the type of person who was allowed to. these were things i had to understand and learn first, & that journey led me to make a lot of the similar conclusions (& also a quite a few not mentioned in the book) eleanor herself had to make. my experiences regarding bettering myself are what this ramble is focused on)