I know sometimes it's difficult to separate the IRL world and online world, especially since so much of what we do depends on the connectivity that intertwines with our lives.
Please know that what you're seeing online that most people post about themselves, their families, or what causes they support, what they voluntarily put out to the public, is usually a very small view into their lives.
It is fine to hold people accountable for their publicly voiced viewpoints, that's not the purpose of this post. It is just a reminder that when someone hasn't made a public statement regarding an issue that you feel strongly about that doesn't mean that they are ignoring it, or ignoring you. That also doesn't mean they condone it either.
See also: Amal Clooney
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i wish I'd written this down sooner so I could remember more of the details, but I'll never forget one of my first queer moments of connection, even though I didn't realize that's what it was until much later
when I was about 14, I changed my name publicly, and I didn't think much of it once I'd told my family. they were my main focus--I was going to a new school the next year, so no one would know or have questions, I wasn't very online, and I didn't know hardly anything about the queer community or anyone immersed in it. my side of things was done, but my parents (with permission) had been using my new name and informing others, like their friends and adults in my life, of the change
not long after I came out, I was helping rehearse for a puppet show at my Baha'i center, and in my area the vast majority of our community was older people, and it'd been a while since I'd seen some of them myself. but the community is small and close, and they'd known me since I was little, and my parents were talking, so word had spread. and at this rehearsal one of the older ladies, I think in her sixties or seventies, came up to me and asked to talk for a moment
I had no idea what she wanted, but in the corner away from everyone else she asked me why I had changed my name. and I got nervous and prepared to defend myself, but she was curious and polite, so I told her. I didn't feel like I fit as a girl, but I didn't feel like a boy either. I was something else. but my birthname felt like it put me in a category I didn't want to be in, so I changed my name to reflect that
I didn't expect her to understand, I thought she'd have questions, but this look of relief crossed her face and she put her hand to her chest, and I can't remember the exact words but I remember their meaning as she leaned in close and her voice got quiet: "you feel like that too? it's not just me?"
her question caught me off guard, and I had no idea what to think as I told her no, she wasn't alone in the feeling. and she confessed to me she'd always felt different but didn't know what her husband would think, didn't know there was anyone else like her who didn't feel like they fit. but that she was so glad to finally know it wasn't just her; she hugged me so tightly, and i think there were tears in her eyes
it was such a brief conversation, and I didn't think much of it at the time, but I nearly cry every time I remember it. I haven't seen her since because she moved, but I can't help imagining what it was like for her, the relief after decades of feeling wrong learning there's someone else out there like you. I don't know if she ever did anything else, if she changed her name or her pronouns (I’m referring to her same as everyone always has because she never said to do differently) or went looking for others once she knew she wasn't alone. but I'll always be so glad I got to share that with her, that I got to tell her it wasn't just her
the connection and comfort we can find in one other knows no boundaries, and there is no time limit to finding each other
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small heads up
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// just wanted to give everyone a quick little warning that christmas asks/christmas gift posts will be delayed. my household got covid again a few days ago and i'm showing the very early symptoms of it too.
everyone is completely fine, we're all fully vaccinated and everyone else has had it at least twice before. this will be my fourth time having it, so i'm expecting it to be pretty mild. so far the only symptom i have is feeling really lightheaded, dizzy, and kind of nauseous, but it's making me a bit brain foggy and is slowing my writing down a lot.
I debated not saying anything because the only symptoms I have so far are mild so i didn't want anyone to be concerned, but also i didn't want anyone thinking i had forgotten to send them an ask for christmas or that i wasn't going to. but i am going to!!! so, i'm sorry for the wait! i'll start writing things up as soon as i can!
until then, i'll probably be lurking and sending memes until i'm able to do more.
merry chrismis and happy holidays!!! love everyone on my dash kis kis.
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I love giving advice, apparently, so if you are a newly pierced person or are planning on being pierced, here are some of the things I found helpful, as somebody who isn't a professional piercer but has had six plus piercings on my face and body, and multiple ear piercings (which I don't count, since I DIY'd them):
Normal bath towels are your enemy, proceed with caution after bathing. NEVER wipe moisture away from a fresh piercing, always pat it dry
You will hit a new piercing and it will hurt. This is inevitable, just know that you likely haven't destroyed it. Feel free to cry, though, it hurts like hell.
If your piercer gives you instructions, heed them. If you're on restrictions, please take it as seriously as possible
When you're going in for a piercing, please eat or drink something - at least what constitutes as a snack for your body. It really helps
If you're getting an oral piercing, make sure you size down after the healing period - I hadn't sized down for my last oral piercing when I first had the chance, and it was... so annoying to have too-large of jewelry
Not all jewelry is made equally. Do your research on materials, threading, and sizing. I've found that titanium jewelry is really nice for me, and I like it, but that isn't the only option. Make sure you think about your body and its needs and preferences
Close your eyes while being pierced (I found this really helps me)
Don't over-clean a new piercing, twice per day is usually a good place to start
The completed healing period is a very average suggestion - you may heal slower or faster. Try to adhere to that suggestion, though, especially if you do not feel you're healed enough
Personally, I have found that I am completely healed when my piercing feels like just another part of my body, even when it is touched. When my piercings start to feel as though they are foreign when they never do before, I know I likely need to clean them
While I have DIY'd piercings, I personally do not recommend it, especially if you are either not using sterilized equipment, or are piercing a very dangerous place (like the tongue). If you are absolutely positive about committing to the DIY mindset, please try to do due diligence in research at least
Tip your piercer. Body mods are a luxury service, and it takes years to even become a piercer, much less to be proficient at it. Tip your piercer, ESPECIALLY if their prices feel too good to be true - they likely are. Unless you are directed otherwise by your piercer, just assume that you will be tipping them for their services and budget accordingly
Make sure you understand how your piercer wants you to take care of your piercing, and ask questions. There is no question too "dumb"
If you are getting a body part pierced you are insecure about, realize your piercer has most likely seen HUNDREDS of different body parts of various sizes, shapes, and oddities. Your body is not uniquely bad, nor would a good piercer make you feel unwelcome or uncomfortable with your body. If they do, however, DO NOT go through with the piercing. You should feel safe being pierced by somebody, and, indeed, that is the bare minimum.
If you use saline wash to clean piercings, you can DIY it. You will go through NeilMed like no other, and with it being $5USD a bottle, that price can rack up quickly. Make sure you use distilled water and non-iodized salt, though
If your piercing is infected, please don't be too ashamed to seek help. It's in your best interest to make sure you don't get ill or your site gets nasty ("nasty" as in painful)
These are just some of the things I've learned being a pierced person! My piercings are something I absolutely needed, and I do not for a minute regret having them. I want that same happiness to befall you, and that happens when you are able to understand a bit more what goes into piercings. You are, essentially, getting a new body part installed by a pro, and so I don't want you to not be ready for that.
Again, I am not a professional piercer, but am rather a body piercing enthusiast with many different types of piercings. I don't have every piercing, though, so please look at this critically for the piercing(s) that you want or have. At least, treat this like a soft suggestion or ways to help you brainstorm what you will find helpful.
More tips are obviously welcomed, especially if you yourself have more insight or expertise. Good luck to every pierced person or future pierced person reading this💛
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🔥amphibia
Basically comes down to "filler is good actually". And this absolutely includes the s3 filler.
So, the thing is that Amphibia is very character-driven. Yes, it has plot/lore, but in the end it's down to the characters and their relationships (with a decent dose of humour). I was really impressed by Anne's growth and the froggo family taking her in especially because the way they were done was just super organic (and I can definitely think of other examples where similar 'found families' felt unearnt). But it was only able to be as cohesive because it used its fillers. It let the characters make mistakes and stumble with lower stakes rather than screwing up and it being the end of the world. So Anne and froggo fam are the most obvious ones but the other part to it is that each of the late s3 episodes tended to correlate to a s1 episode with the same characters. It made sure to revisit pretty much every character and give them some kind of conclusion as well as showing how Anne/our other main characters had changed since then.
The way I see it, with the number of episodes they had they had to decide either to go in big on the main three and Andrias and make that the focus or they could give each character closure of some sort but not go as into depth as a result. And I'm honestly glad they chose to revisit and give closure to all because the nature of the show really is about the characters in the end so it fits.
I am kinda disappointed as to how Anne and Sasha ended up with way more exploration than Marcy, but if you put a knife to my head and forced me to choose between going more in-depth with Marcy's arc vs what we actually got? I would genuinely go for what we actually got.
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