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Class 1a pride headcanons let's gooooo 🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Going by seat order bc I'm autistic and it makes good sense
Also no mineta bc I don't know what to do with him
1. Aoyama 🌟🩶
Nonbinary and aspec. They aren't sure if they have a definitive gender one way or another but if anyone asks they just say "sparkling of course!! ✨️" as for sexuality/romantic attraction they are asexual and still questioning their romantic alignment. Honestly they would be happy going through life with maybe some qpps and not really thinking too much about it
2. Mina 👽🩷
Bi as hell babey!! Everyone is gorgeous in their own way!! Mina falls in love so fast and with so many people she's just like. Everyone deserves love and if she's gotta be the one to give it then so be it.
3. Tsu 🐸💚
Distinguished lesbian. Not afraid to tell the other 1a girls what makes them attractive. Tsu loves complimenting ppl and feels very proud of herself whenever the other girls get flustered bc she knows it means she's made their entire day.
4. Iida ⏩️💙
Bisexual and doesn't know what to do about it. Has many panicked conversations with Tensei over finding people attractive and feeling very weird about it bc they all live together and also puberty hormones hit him like a truck about a month or so after meeting everyone.
5. Ochako 🌌🩷
Pansexual. Very proud of it. Often seen very loudly validating her classmates identities and making sure that any potential homophobes and transphobes know that they will be punted into the stratosphere if they so much as breathe wrong in the general direction of anyone ochako cares about
6. Ojiro 🐒🤎
Token cishet. Great ally tho.
7. Kaminari ⚡️💛
Nonbinary and bisexual. Pronouns vary by the day. Often jokes that they've never made a decision in their entire life because of this. When they go pro there ends up being an official line of Chargebolt merch that has the slogan "gender? I don't even know'er!" On it.
8. Kirishima 💪❤️
Bisexual but kind of oblivious to it. Equates attraction to admiring someone for being "manly." It is discovered at some point during his years at UA that his personal definition of manly just encompasses all the traits that he finds attractive in a person plus other traits he admires but isn't necessarily into. This makes for a very confusing journey of self-discovery.
9. Kouda 🐇🤍
Grey ace. Questions his gender sometimes but is not overly concerned with what gender is the right one. More interested in solid friendships than dating too and so he ends up with qpps as his most meaningful relationships
10. Sato 🍫💛
Stereotypical cake loving aro ace. He doesn't care what everyone else is doing, he's busy perfecting his ganache.
11. Shouji 🤝🩵
On the ace spectrum but still figuring out exactly where. He has body image issues due to trauma and that kind of effects his views on attraction and romance.
12. Jirou 🎵💜
She thinks she's bi but she's still figuring it all out. Honestly anyone that can vibe to music with her could catch her eye, and she especially likes people that have slightly odd tastes such as listening to classical music or pre-quirk pop*
*(this is based on the headcanon that bnha takes place a couple hundred years into the future. Pre-quirk pop would just be the pop of the 80s up to about now in her view)
13. Sero 🩹🩶
(I couldn't find a tape emoji so bandaid it is)
Pansexual. He and ochako get along very well bc not only do they share an identity in this way, they also both feel like they're parenting their respective neurodivergent friend groups lol.
14. Tokoyami 🐦⬛🖤
Homoromantic ace. Sometimes does Bird Things to show his affection like bringing gifts and trinkets to ppl he is interested in or like nesting with their stuff. He finds these urges embarrassing but everyone else thinks it's cute and adores him for it.
15. Todoroki ❄️🔥❤️🤍
Gay gay homosexual gay. Has absolutely no idea how romance or crushes or teenage hormones or anything is supposed to work so he just does not realize that it isn't normal to daydream about cuddling his male classmates. Ochako gently explains the concept of a crush to him after he mentions something about this offhand and it blows his fucking mind.
16. Hagakure 🌫🤍
Bisexual and a very proud member of the Loving Women Club. Has a huuuuggeee crush on Mirko (which like, same girl).
17. Bakugou 💥🧡
Gay. Has a very specific taste in men but he won't tell anyone what it is because like three people on the entire planet fit the criteria (in his mind anyway) and he does not want anyone figuring out who he might be into because he sees it as weakness. Even after he goes to therapy he describes his type as "certain dumbasses who have issues and can't take a single fucking hint" so.
18. Deku 🐰💚
Bisexual disaster and everyone around him knows it. Has like 3 crises a day over finding random classmates attractive and overthinks everything there is to overthink in the situation. Luckily for him everyone knows what he's like and how his brain works and they find it endearing (even if certain classmates won't say it out loud)
19. Yaomomo ⚛️❤️
Lesbian. Momo recognizes that all the girls around her are so pretty and talented and it's a win for her bc they have such a culture of uplifting each other so she's constantly getting compliments from very pretty girls. She's living her best life as the president of the loving UA women club.
Bonus: shinso!!! 🐱💜
Shinso uses the Queer umbrella label. He has a preference for men but is generally attracted to any gender. When he transfers into class A the first two weeks are like a constant crisis bc he's like. Getting attention from all these attractive and talented people??? And they like him for who he is??? Paralyzing.
#bnha#midoriya izuku#bakugou katsuki#todoroki shouto#aoyama yuga#ashido mina#asui tsuyu#hagakure toru#iida tenya#jirou kyouka#kaminari denki#kirishima eijirou#kouda kouji#ojiro mashirao#sato rikido#sero hanta#shinsou hitoshi#shouji mezou#tokoyami fumikage#uraraka ochacho#yaoyorozu momo#all of 1a#pride headcanons#bisexual#asexual#gay#lesbian#nonbinary#i wrote the bulk of this at 3am so apologies if it does not make sense
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About Meeeeeeee
I'm bored and procrastinating homework! here's a pinned post
I have a wizardposting blog thats shared with some of my friends! @the-mystic-council if you wanna check it out
Random Stuff
I'M GAY. LESBIAN. HOMOSEXUAL. SAPPHIC. WLW. GIRLKISSER.
they/them pronouns because my gender is a question mark but also a woman at the same time
I'm a minor so don't be weird
I think neopronouns, xenogenders, aro/ace/aspec ppl, trans ppl, etc. are valid
I'm very into the occult, wicca, witchcraft, spirituality, etc. I don't fully believe in it but who cares it's fun anyway
I love to write! I'm working on a planner for a fantasy story rn
I love visual art but I rarely have the motivation or inspiration to actually draw or paint so it ends up being me sketching faces on my math practice
I love fiber arts! As of right now I only know how to crochet, but I really want to learn how to sew, embroider, knit, macrame, etc.
Fandoms/Media I Like
The Dragon Prince
I read Harry Potter & loved the series but uh... well we all know why it's not great
Heartstopper
I loveeee comedy/comedy specials, my favorite comedians are John Mulaney, Bo Burnham, and Bert Kreischer (not sure if that's how you spell his last name)
b o o k s (specifically fantasy, dystopian, and sci fi)
THE CRUEL PRINCE IATHAOWEIOAHRGOAHOAHWREO (i am so obsessed with the folk of the air series by holly black)
my second favorite book series is the Unwind series by Neal Shusterman
My favorite musical artists are liana flores, penelope scott, and bo burnham
I LOVEEEE "children's" cartoons like the amazing world of gumball and spongebob squarepants
my comfort series are spongebob squarepants, the office, and the simpsons
My favorite youtubers are Chad Chad, Film Cooper, Funkyfrogbait, and yinka and anyone who makes lgbtqia+ / lesbian or wlw tiktok compilations(I highly recommend yinka for worldbuilding and writing tips)
The Basics™️
my favorite food is chicken tenders
my favorite color is green
i like learning languages for fun on duolingo (currently learning french, norwegian, scottish gaelic, irish, swedish, finnish, and danish)
I'm very very very picky (arfid?????????????????????????????? maybe?????????????????)
I may or may not have autism but I'm too scared to try and get a diagnosis or call myself autistic because I feel like a pick me and if i'm wrong it'll make me feel more like a pick me and also it means I have to find another reason my brain is weird
I can't think of anything else to add so I'm just gonna update this in the future
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hm hello hi I would like to know more about zeph pls thank you
GLITTER. HOW MUCH TIME DO YOU HAVE
zeph is my babygirl. she's me. she's too cool to be me. she's everything I WANNA be she is unattainable and has attained everything that I can't, like, for instance, getting to kiss and fuck poe dameron
shes my star wars sequel trilogy oc and zeph is actually a nickname that just is her name at this point. her full name is ilya zephanir, callsign zephyr one, and everyone calls her zeph, first because zephanir is a lot of syllables when ur in flight academy, then because zeph just neatly split the different between her name and her code name
shes autistic, she's an asshole, she's an autistic asshole who doesn't know how to express herself, especially when she is full of love for her friends. she's a pilot, spy, part time mechanic and part time soul mate full time problem and I LOVE her. she's also hella traumatized bc she got captured by bad guys and then crashes her ship upon escape. she's disabled like Kaz brekker and doesn't always use a cane but it's better for her when she does, and gets more wore out if she doesn't and REALLY she shouldn't be trying to run on it either AND YET
shes technically a woman but only because there's not another label that better applies, she's very aroace but more confusing than not because she'll have sex if she feels like it but only if she's like "Yeah that sounds fun" and it's never "I NEED to fuck" but generally more aro (turns out she's demi/grayromantic because poe dameron is a sap and she's heading over heels for him) and EVEN BETTER she's bi/pan (but hasn't talked to me enough about it to figure out which works better or even if she cares enough to label it bc she is Committed now bro it doesn't matter)
shes great to have in a pinch bc she'll step right in and take charge and doesn't get stressed out easily but she likes to have a plan and doesn't like it when it completely goes pear shaped. she can handle wrenches thrown in plans but not pears. that's just a line she refused to cross. but she will snap out commands and ppl just listen because damn she's making sense and I don't wanna die so let's do as we're told
shes grumpy and perceived to be aggressive and mean and she's not good with people in her natural state, though she's learned to mask and mirror so well she can give the impression of a people person, even though she's deeply antisocial EVEN THOUGH she cares so much about her friends and family and the Resistance and people in general. she's MISUNDERSTOOD and LONELY and I love her SO SO SO MUCH and also she's in a qpr with @the-force-awakens oc who's Also in a relationship with poe dameron to make a little trio.
(sometimes I think abt the universe where nym's oc is NOT around and its just so weird to think of her and poe as a duo instead of two thirds of a trio)
[flops back] I could keep going but I am just full of love for my own oc I might explode
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hello, i’ve 100% now realize after a two year journey that i am aro. but idk, i want to be more open about it to my irl friends, just like with my lesbianism, but i’m afraid that people will make arophobic comments or just straight out deny it in front of me. i’m always asked, “do you have a special someone/crush/etc?” and im afraid that if i say no, then ppl will go “oh but everyone has a someone!” the casual arophobic bs like that. i also only have interests in qpp and possibly short term relationships, and i just hate how so much of the people around me except me to be this perfect partner for a potential romantic relationship. also i call myself more grey-romantic because i still want to experience what being in a romantic relationship feels like, despite the fact that i dont feel romantic attraction. kinda like wanting to go on a roller coaster but your afraid of heights. if you get what i mean.
i at least have a group of supportive online friends who get what i am (and are also aro lol)
felt. just. oughhhh, hit me right in the feelings
i'm glad that you've realized who you are, and have a group of online friends who get you for who you are (and are also aro lol). i get that fear because people just make a bunch of assumptions or accuse you off the walls stuff. it's weird because like... idk i've tried to be in romantic relationships and i always, always burn out on the kisses, cuddling, using pet names, being mushy, etc. very quickly. i can do it at first because it makes the other person happy but i always burn out and wish i didn't have to do it anymore after a few months into the relationship, and i don' tthink that's fair for me to keep doing to people who Like romance. i just don't though it's tedious and very uncomfortable for me as an autistic traumatized person. i don't like being touched that much, especially not light touches. makes my skin crawl. but again i don't want to keep withholding that from people who want it
humans have a diverse and varied experience. some humans adore romantic gestures and being soft and intimate with people in that kind of way. a lot of people don't. the people who tell you you're broken are projecting their feelings on to you, because it would harm them to go without. well, you are not them, and if they say those kinds of things, those folks need to realize that humans are not cookie cutter people and we all experience something a bit different. no two aro people are exactly alike, either
i hope you're able to find some qpps or something that suits your needs and that people in your irl life come to understand that it means that you just. don't have certain feelings like others may but that it's literally okay. i have had very piss poor reactions from just about everyone i've admitted that to, so i wish you the best of luck, it's hard, but having support online is a great place to start to build your confidence. take care of yourself, stay chill
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alright meet the robinsons headcanon dump bc i had a LOT of thoughts at work. mostly laszlo and tallulah. ok so they're basically all laszlo and tallulah but hear me out (wall of text below)
courtesy of me always seeing them as twins before learning laszlo was older: they are often mistaken as twins
> sometimes tallulah will refer to laszlo as her "baby brother" for no other reason than to confuse/piss him off
they don't hate each other but bothering the hell out of each other is an olympic sport and they're both going for gold
yeah they get on each others nerves but for the most part its for The Bit. also depending on who started it they have a tendency to forget where The Bit ends and Being A Jerk begins
that being said they are so tight you rarely see one without the other
i mentioned this before but they're huge film nerds. mainly anything with practical effects and cheesy costuming and etc etc. they give me huge "backyard film production" energy too. they definitely have embarrassing old movies they made as kids/teens hidden somewhere, but would absolutely get back into it if they weren't so caught up in their current hobbies
also HUGE sci-fi nerds. i'm still convinced they're trekkies
they're both autistic and get caught in feedback loops of just infodumping back and forth with each other
laszlo looks/sounds like the nerd emoji but tallulah is the one going "WELL ACKSHUALLY" (although not in any effort to be a know-it-all)
joe and/or billie babysat them maybe once or twice when they were younger. legend says that's why they decided not to have kids (although unproven.) laslzo and tallulah say "thats fair"
also they're both trans, they traded genders :)
they probably did a lot more collaborating growing up but since they have their own lives they kinda just fell out of it. their comeback is on the horizon though. someday...
laszlo specific thoughts
transmasc + gay + he/him (his gender is probably something really esoteric he doesn't really care to get into but he's got secret they/them locked and loaded for emergencies. which emergencies? idk)
brain tangents aplenty (adhd comorbidity lets goooo), and has a tendency to miss the bigger picture. at least he squashed that bad habit... with finishing art pieces. mostly inspired by the video game
watches 60s-70s action movies w/ art
dabbles in any medium he can get his hands on but feels the most at home painting
he's actually kind of nosy, but great at keeping secrets
an awful chef but halfway decent with presentation
prefers demonstration/instruction before attempting something new- not out of anxiety, he just loves seeing how other people do things
legally blind without his goggles/glasses
tallulah specific thoughts
transfem + aro pan + she/her (gender is less abstract but she also doesn't care what gendered terms you use for her)
the first to correct someone if she knows they're wrong
laszlo's the only one allowed to mess with her. not bc of any protectiveness she just genuinely doesn't care what other ppl have to say about her
prefers to learn through experience (whether she reads instructions/asks for help first depends on.. idk. the cosmic forces)
please ask her about the art deco movement she is so normal about it please pleaseplease
she's a waaaaay better designer/model than a seamstress. yeah she hasn't gotten around to fixing her sewing machine. yeah this dress she made is held together by hot glue and prayers. she didn't ask you though
LOVES to travel. part for inspiration, part for expanding her collection of tacky souvenirs
almost never seen without some sort of hat. extravagance unrelated her head just feels naked without one
#talking#🎨#if any of this is contradicted by some deep canon lore i missed. 1) i dont care 2) i want to see it anyway#i heard abt the in-character interviews and i need to see them.#also point is they are peak sibling energy
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rly out of the blue but omg i dont think i entirely get the intense hate for like.. book rec posts or w/e that only say like. hey this has f/f enemies to lovers (ETC yk what im talking abt) and the title. many different summaries are easily available you know where to find them. and it is. not unusual or weird to rec books with only the title and 1 thing abt them LIKE i literally have a booklist pamphlet right next to me thats just books from around the world by continent. and thats just 1, you can walk into a library and see loads of little pamphlets with the same kind of criteria as the things ppl say in those lists. and personally. ive found some great books thru those! bc yeah i DO want to read fantasy aro assassins and autistic romance novels and poly xianxia whatever. its just a bit of information to start from. & ik the criticism is also smth like assigning/ sorting ff tags to books but idk why. that matters really. mad people just want to read the same thing over and over?? youre going to be so mad when you find out abt the cookie cutter amish isekai and murder mysteries with baking or cat pun titles and so on. idk some ppl do just like to read only 1 kind of thing and thats no ones business but theirs. im glad theyre reading!
#🐇📚#idec abt like.. concern that only reading the same trope over and over or w/e sm1 is going to have a confined (?) world view#reading novels for enjoyment isnt the only way to learn abt other ppl
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omg i felt weird abt sending that ask but i was hoping it would inspire some dumping of thoughts, hell yeah i relate a lot actually being autistic/adhd and a trans guy. which is honestly why i’m caught off guard by my recent izzy fascination. i think i’d be less fascinated if i was involved in the fandom and had been bogged down by discourse lol. like i fully HATED him on my first watch when the show came out a few months ago and prayed on his downfall but then i set the show aside for a while and rewatched it last month and since then i can’t stop thinking abt him. i think it’s bc i’m at a place rn where i find it rlly hard to connect to ppl, have to shove down my feelings to get by on the daily, i’ve have a bunch of very emotional ppl around me my whole life who i’ve had to manage things for, and bc of my autistic interest with character tropes starting from a super young age i sometimes have to work to see other ppl as archetypes of themselves rather than fully fledged nuanced ppl. so i’m interested in psychoanalysing him but not excusing his stuff bc he’s fr the most unhealthily coping person in the show which is saying something. but tbh i think if i let my walls down i’d relate to ed more? but the walls existing makes me relate a lot to izzy rn i think. but not that much bc like hey sucks and i’m gay. i will say i never got the repressed sexuality stuff from him but that’s just me. i read it more as him being completely repulsed by romance and emotion bc it stirs something in him he rlly doesn’t want to confront. idk i’m in my izzy hands blorbo era rn and trying to avoid talking to the wrong ppl abt it dbsnbd sorry if it’s annoying
Dude you're so valid. I hope you get better at letting people in and keep working on your empathy. I usually see Izzy kinning as a red flag but it sounds like you're relating to the fact that he's the only character on the boat who isn't in the found family and to the fact that he projects things onto people which you seem to be self aware of so ill let it slide. Onto Blorbo from my shows.
I suppose one doesn't have to read him as repressed. Although I don't think that him being a repressed gay guy and him being completely repulsed by romance and emotion because it stirs in him something he doesn't want to confront are necessarily so different. Either way the vibe is that he's scared or resentful of his own feelings for Ed. I've never thought that he was necessarily pretending to be straight or anything. This is all head canon at this point but to me I think he's probably willing to admit his sexual attraction to some men. (He knows he's attracted to Ed and would probably admit it if the right person asked him in the right way but he'd never even let himself form the thought "I want to fuck Lucius" much less say it out loud despite it being objectively true) But I that being said I think a repulsion to gay love, which we know he has because of the whole "He's done something to my boss's brain" bit (and all of the baggage that implying queer love is a corrupting influence carries), is still repression. I suppose if he's aromantic (I have seen that head canon floating since Con said that he isn't interested in a romantic relationship at the C2E2 panel) maybe not but Aro people don't choose not to love, they just don't experience romantic attraction. Izzy Hands seems to actively choose not to love, romantic or otherwise, because he thinks love makes you weak (if the way he treats a love sick Edward is any indication anyway). So IDK how comfortable I am with putting him in the aromantic category, just because there are so few aro characters and one of them being a man who despises love and is the villain in a rom-com trying to keep the alloromantic main couple apart isn't a great look, but that's a whole other thing.
But yeah avoiding certain people is a good plan because you really have to avoid certain takes. Because it's not like Izzy is Kylo Ren, right, he's not utterly deplorable in that sort of way (I know Kylo got a redemption arc but it was a shitty one that failed to actually redeem him and he was still a space fascist don't at me). He's just a fucked up guy on a pirate ship, if there was ever a place to be a fucked up guy it would be on a pirate ship. But if we're gonna sympathize with him we have to avoid certain takes and certain people. Like we just can't be pretending that he's not motivated by homophobia, we can't be pretending that Ed's abusing him somehow, we can't pretend that there's nothing to the reading of him doing some racist things, we can't pretend that he's some hypercompetent babysitter who is the only one getting things done on the ship (even if that's how he sees himself it's not true, it's proven wrong by the events of the show).
All that to say I guess he's a fun blorbo as long as you're not vilifying Ed or missing the point of the character. Probably keep avoiding Izzy stans tbh.
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wait there was smth i wanted to say abt that "how did u get into/how do u imagine you'll get into a relationship" poll but i forgot but i remember now. under a read more bc I'm shy uwu
so like i said in the tags, big fan of the "be autistic @ each other until we realize we've fallen in love" approach. but in terms of my actual genuine expectation i've thought very much about id rather it be like. an aro autistic sort of commitment. u know like, we make the conscious decision to Try Something Out, discuss the type of relationship we want, & see where it goes.
but yeah feelings been messing me up. & i know i don't Need to listen to my feelings bc chemical reaction or w ever but i feel like i have to dissect every feeling i don't understand & get into the meat and organs of it so i fully understand it so it doesn't Scare Me Anymore. but that's like hard when u have a hard time Feeling your Feelings. bc of Alexithymia (GREAT song by anberlin. btw)
anyway im hungry but im waiting for my chicken patty to cook so I'm kinda oughhh rn. so.
now i am someone that, bc of my sheltered upbringing, likes to experience things that I'm curious abt. this includes relationships. i'd like to try them bc i like the thought. but also there's this idea in western society that relationships need to happen Naturally. which trips me up a bit as someone who 1) can't just Go Out And Meet People and 2) don't like the traditional ideas of relationships (meet > realize we're "in love" > all the gushy shit or w ever). like it's very incidental & i like to do things On Purpose. n maybe that's a little bit my need to have control over things. just a little bit.
theres also the fact that itd need to be, initially, a ldr bc the above mentioned Can't Just Go Out. which a lot of ppl don't like i've found !
oh yeah. there's also the thing where i am. let's see here. black, trans (in a "weird" way)(and pre-everything), so many types of neurodivergent & mentally ill, not very active bc of chronic pain, stuck w my family & cant drive, and pretty strictly t4t. all things that make Living Amongst Other People sort of Uncomfortable, specifically around ppl who don't like to acknowledge that they might have internalized some Bigoted Shit, and like to make it My Problem.
i cant. remember where i was going with that. like i think I'm trying to go somewhere but I'm too gosh dang hungry to remember. i think what I'm trying to say is that i want to try dating, it sounds fun (especially now that i've accepted that I Am A Guy. like woah.. you're telling me i can HAVE a gay relationship??? like in my fics????? no way) BUT. is scawwy. and finding someone who would be compatible with me, whatever that means exactly, sounds. hard.
WAIT my chicken patty just finished. i just heard the oven go Ding! swag
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Im bord and listening too fearless (tv) for the first time! Let's go!
Also before we start I'd like to stay that ik like 5 songs from (or less) and technically I grew up to fearless cuz I'd rewatch the music video for you belong with me over & over again lol.
Fearless: I think I've listened to some of this song before from tiktok, and that's about it. Nice guitar! I'm bopping. OH FEARLESS! ok this is a great song. Drive Slow? *atw flashbacks*. 8/10 good. Awww first kiss, ITS THE TIKTOK SOUND BITE!!!!!
15: I'm Turning 15 this year so let's see how much I relate. Tf is freshmen year? 9th grade? Ik the chorus from tiktok. Good tho. So far relate at 10. Or more 💅🏳️🌈 lol. No he isn't Taylor you have to wait....until your 30 to meet the one. :D. I don't get people who play or like sports. Exsptionaly ppl who date ppl who play sports, all the sporty ppl ik are dickheads and bigots! I like this song. I'm playing this all the time on my birthday. 8/10. Relaterbility 3/10. I'm not American in the 2000's ok?.
Love story: AHHHHHH I LOVE THIS SONG! now imma confess a sin......I only learnt this song exsited cuz of gacha and listening to it on a cd all the time at school. Also I didn't know it was a Taylor song. I thought it was random song from a gacha life video! Anyways 10/10 love it!!!
Hey Stephen: who's Stephen? What's this song about? Imma google real quick. Ah OK. It's abt her having a Crush on a guy and never admitting it. Maybe I just can't relate (cuz aro and I got the rizz) but I don't like it. Maybe I just like love songs like love story ect, but,.....nahhh Maybe if I listen to it more I'll like it (like folklore & evermore) but for now it's a 3-5/10. Not for me.
White hourse: she preformed this at the eras tour and somehow I was able to skip a bunch of videos abt it so I have 0 clue what this is abt. Why is the guitar so sad. Oh is this a squal to Hey stephen. Why am I laughing. Ik it's supposed to be sad but to go from pinning to heartbreak with no fucking in between and just innit, it's funny! I can't take it srsly. I like the chorus but still funny. 10/10 funnies love it.
You belong with me: this was the first ever Taylor swift song I listened too. As a kid I would just watch music videos on my ipad (yes im an ipad kid) that was downloaded and I would rewatch this one the most and I love it. Just for nostalgia and that it holds up now a days it gets a 10/10. Imma jam to this now.
Breath ft. Colbie caillat: yay new song :D. Also who's colbie? Never heard of them. Awwww. I like the guitar. :(((. So sad :(. Nothing to add other than I like it and it's so sad :(. 8/10.
Tell me why: I think ik this song? Probably from tt again. OH HELLO YEAH!!! BOP!!! I LOVE IT!!! IM DANCING LIKE MARGE SIMPSON RN. 10/10 LOVE IT!!!
Your not sorry: sad piano :((. Fuck this dude honestly! He can go fuck himself. >:((((. 7.5/10 I honestly don't know what to say. It's good.
The way I loved you: ok so this album Is abt a young love and what it's like. Also this is just a jam. SHNSJSK AIDINDGDUDND THE BEAT!!! I LOVE IT!!! FUCK THIS MAN!!! FUCK HIM!!!! I LOVE IT!!! D: SJJSJSJJSNENXYIDNAJLMDHDUXNXDY. 100000000/10. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍💖💗💓. SHES SO IN LOVE THAT SHE HATES HIM AWWWWWWW.
Forever & always: awww. Cuteeee. This is definitely a song to play at weddings. Bopping. I need this at the eras tour NOW!!! 8.5/10.
The best day: so far I love this album. It's so good!!! Also as soon as I finish this I have 2 albums left, debut & red. Awwww. Idk what to talk about it's a good song tho. This album & all her contry songs are just fairy tales but taylors version. Just saying it is. Idk what that implies or means but that's my observations. 7.5/10 good! Just looked at the spotify banner in the background for the song. Why is it small Taylor? What is this song abt? I feel bad.
Change: AHHHHH! sorry I just got jumpscared I'm autistic. Ik a shit joke anyways. Bop. OK I FOUND ANOTHER GREAT ONE!! OH IK THIS SONG!!! ANOTHER TIKTOK!!! I LOVE IT!!! 10/10. Great edit music. This is giving long live, yoyok, ect. Love it.
Jump then fall: random thought um....is any of these love songs abt j*** may**......cuz doesn't speak now come next after this album...oh no... fuck. This is typical Taylor. Bopping. 8/10. This is such a long ass album. I'm skipping fuck it idc.
Untouchable: guitar.... nice. What's this song about? This is sad, I love it :( :). It's giving Taylor talking abt her sad things. Awwww it's abt the human experience abt wanting things that's out of our league. 8/10.
Come in with the rain: Taylor is a hopeless romantic & so am I!!!! I love, love...but I also don't get it sometimes. This album is hopeless romantic for teens! 8/10.
Superstar: so her? Lol. I wonder how her relationships with fellow like classmates where when she started getting big? Probably awkward and bad. 6/10 I've heard this same type of song like 10 times now. It gets boring quickly.
The otherside of the door: I've honestly got nothing the rest is just ratings unless I achally have something to say. 6/10.
Today was a fairytale: ik this song, again from tiktok. Very good song. 9/10. Nice lyrics.
You all over me: IDC!!! IVE HAD ENOUGH LOVE SONGS FOR 1 ALBUM JESUS!!! 0/10 >:( SKIP!!!
Mr perfectly fine: this was at the eras tour, time to finly hear it. I was abt to say how this is another love song but then it had a very dear John lyic & now I'm crying. Who tf is this bitch?! I wanna talk to him I swear no harm will come to him (in a video game) :) /s. Taylor 😭😭😭😭😭. I'm crying is she ok!!! I WANNA KICK THE SHIT OUT OF THIS MAN!!!! IS THIS JOHN AGAIN!? OH FUCK HIM!!! OR SOMEONE ELSE IDK!!! HE CAN DIE!!! *SOBS* I WANNA KILL HIM!/10 OR 1000000/10. Wait she dated Joe jones? I didn't know that also he can go fuck himself.
We were happy: sadness. :(. 10/10.
That's when: 8/10.
Don't you: 5/10.
Bye bye baby: 0/10 I'm burnt out.
Ok so....I don't like fearless (tv). Maybe I'll like it in time but listening to it in 1 go omg I hated it. I like how she structures her newer music and this just being long af & have 50 love songs & the rest abt break up songs just....I hate it! I wanna song that let's me see who Taylor is! Not who she dated & broke up with! Plus I got tired of the same fucking songs over & over again! If I listened to them by themselves with like a song like yoyok then maybe I'd like it more. Whatever I alr know that all the fellow swifties who see this are gonna kill me but whatever.
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I know I've complained abt this before, but Im getting rly tired of seeing people post abt their lgbtq hcs and only having like. Izuru and Junko be aro. It's just... Look, if you're aro yourself or you have other aro hcs then I don't rly care, but when these two are the only aro hcs a person has, with mayyybe aro Kiibo and Gonta to add some extra arophobia and ableism to the mix, then I don't like you.
#rat rambles#rat rants#I dont wanna complain abt this too much since I still worry that Im overreacting#but Im not kidding when I say that these are mostly all I see in sexuality hc posts#I do believe any of these hcs can be done well#I myself hc kiibo as arospec and Ive seen some good examples of arospec junko#but when they stand alone as someones only aro hcs or are only stood next to each other#Im gonna assume that you arent exactly going to be writing them great#and Im also going to assume that conciously or not you have shitty views of aro ppl#like wow thanks for only hcing the 'emotionless' character the ultimate despair the robot and the strongly autistic coded dude as aro wow /s#your ableism is also showing loud and clear :/#like.... still have aro hcs pls but get better ones
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WEP headcanons
A/N: Hia! I wrote up some headcanons for the 4 main girls, I honestly love all of these girls and relate to them as well, may or may not have self-inserted a bit when writing a few of these headcanons. I wonder if I should write up some one-shots including the girls sometime...
Ai Ohto
- Definitely bisexual, I feel like she leans towards girls but still experiences attraction to guys.
- Suffers from a form of depression (personally feel like seasonal affective disorder is very likely)
- Loves hanging out in the park or mall, anywhere with friends is fun tbh
- Buys coloured lenses on April fools to switch her eye colour around because she wants to see if anyone notices, her mother questions why she does this but lets her have fun.
- Does random dance sessions when she’s alone, usually sings along as well. Gets really embarrassed when someone sees her though.
- Hoodies > everything else (she’s not wrong ngl)
- Does poor in most school subjects except art, all of her notes are filled with doodles as well!
- Even though she’s introverted, she hates being alone, she would much rather be with her friends whenever she’s alone.
Neiru Aonuma
Rika Kawai
- I headcanon her to be autistic, she displays a lot of autistic characteristics and honestly I wouldn’t mind more autistic anime characters.
- Aro/ace, I don’t see her having any kind of romantic or sexual attraction towards ppl tbh
- Last one for the personal stuff, I also headcanon her to be a she/they non-binary person.
- Ask her about something science related and she’ll talk for hours, it’s so fun watching her talk about something she likes!
- If she were to go to school then she’d probably skip most classes because they seem like a waste of time, she shows up for exams and a few classes here and there but would rather skip everything.
- Even though she doesn’t show it, she truly cares about the people she trusts and enjoys their company.
- Will learn more about the things her friends enjoy so she can understand what’s going on.
Momoe Sawaki
- She/they lesbian, that’s all I have to say.
- Has ADHD but doesn’t want to take anything for it.
- Doesn’t really enjoy being left alone with her thoughts, will feel guilty really quickly too, has major trust issues as well. She hides all of this by acting all happy and energetic.
- Enjoys going shopping with friends
- See that cat? Yeah, Rika has adopted the cat now, made up a whole future with the cat in her life, given it a name and everything. She has to stop whenever she sees a cute animal, she loves most animals but is definitely more than afraid of spiders (who isn’t tbh)
- She’s a great singer but after everything that happened, she stopped singing in front of others, if you’re lucky you can hear her sing when she’s listening to music.
- Momoe is often perceived as transgender which is kinda weird considering she had an entire episode where she said she’s a girl and she’s happy with it, anyway, I think she’s bicurious.
- Suffers from dysphoria due to the constant misgendering of people.
- Listens to a ton of Indie music, enjoys telling friends about new artists she’s discovered.
- Likes frogs, probably has one as well.
- Isn’t great at drawing but likes doodling over her notes when she’s not interested in class.
- Oversized clothing > tight clothes, will also hand you her clothes if you ask because they’re comfy as heck!
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i’ve been rereading a lot of my favorite stuff for months now
since I'm lacking in spoons for library trips
And when I was cottoning on to the fact that I have, in fact, been autistic all along, one of the things I realized is that the connecting thread between the kinds of stories and kinds of characters that I like is in fact that they display autistic or autistic-adjacent traits. I had realized this, come up with a lot of examples. I knew this.
Haha yeah as I'm actually rereading the things the evidence is damning that I did not come even close to understanding the full depth of it.
~ Taucris Ithesta is Autistic and Other Adjacent Things re: Leckie's Novels ~
Actually let's start with The Raven Tower because you can't actually argue with me about autistic Siat.
Siat actively avoids eye contact, is """shy""", speaks too softly, has an excellent grasp of humor, likes rocks as a special interest, likes to collect rocks, likes to sort rocks, likes to line up rocks, has one (1) bff to conduct social interactions for her, notices patterns, is good at learning, and is considered disabled by society's standards.
Ughhhhh all that talk about rocks makes me sad all over again that I pitched my rock collection when I moved out (I saved the best fossils, though).
(ETA: I have since bought more rocks because polished gemstones with carvings on them make for great stims, I am very pleased with me)
Okay so now that that's been established, let's talk about Strength and Patience of the Hill.
Because this rock gets me. Originally I figured it was probably, y'know, like with Ancillary Justice Leckie's given me an ace-aro main character and I can identify with that as an ace-aro. But unlike Breq, who very much loves people and wants to take care of them and found family etc, Strength and Patience of the Hill doesn't give much of a shit about people. With some exceptions of people that are it's people, how dare you mess with them, Strength and Patience of the Hill will kick your ass. Although even then I'm not sure Strength and Patience is all that great at taking care of people. Also Strength and Patience of the Hill is very much absorbed in its own selfishness, very much consumed with his own internal world, and I am also a jerk like that so it was very relatable.
(Yes I am using multiple pronouns because one of my many favorite parts of the book signing was watching everyone scramble over pronouns for a rock because "It never came up so I never figured it out" and I'm pretty sure Strength and Patience doesn't even use pronouns because why would you need a gendered pronoun to refer to yourself??? You don't even need a name to refer to yourself, actually I'm pretty sure Strength and Patience doesn't actually consider itself to have a name.)
So it made sense that this rock just really gets me. I know it's bad when the majority of representation for ace-aro characters is stereotypical robots or rocks or aliens (oooh or sentient space rocks wait wAIT now that I've said that I've just realized the Myriad is the definition of a Crystal Gem, pffft) or whatever but honestly I don't care because I just really identify with the robots??? So I really liked it, YMMV.
(It's probably also bad if the trend for autistically-coded characters is just stereotypical robots or rocks or aliens or whatever too but like honestly a big autistic #mood is feeling like you are a robot or an alien or whatever so maybe that's why I'm not offended???)
My point being that Strength and Patience of the Hill displays a lot of autistic traits and is therefore very relatable, in this Ted Talk I will.
Strength and Patience of the Hill processes things slowly. She will come up with the perfect retort and tell you 5 years later with absolutely no context.
It loves daydreaming, staring at things, noticing patterns, and enjoying quiet and solitude. It loves thinking about why things are the way they are. Look I have fantasized about what if I could exist as just a pair of eyeballs and a mind floating around in space, observing things, thinking things, and not having to actually interact with the world, and I'm pretty sure this rock is living that life. (Until y'know it gets told life doesn't work like that.)
Despite his slow processing speed, and taking a while to learn language, Strength and Patience of the Hill is good at learning things, and I feel like it's the kind of sort-of-sideways, context-based accumulation of knowledge that I learn through as well.
Strength and Patience of the Hill has one (1) friend, and through the Myriad it benefits from the fact that the Myriad has an actual social circle, without having to put forth any effort of maintaining friends on its own, which is 100% the way to do it.
Strength and Patience of the Hill tends to attract the other "quirky" kids--that is, my impression is that the people who become his priests tend to be those people who look at the world a little differently, those people on the fringes. Trans people, autistic people, people with other disabilities.
Strength and Patience of the Hill trying to explain the state of affairs in Vastai to Eolo: "Okay so my first memory I can recall is…"
No, okay, no, I know, it's just literally how the narrative has to be told, I'm not criticizing, but that doesn't make it any less reminiscent of "autistic person trying to explain a simple thing but starts in with 10 pages of context first to ensure the over-explanation makes sense" (haha that's why I consistently got stuck training endless new hires, I'm literally so bad at it that I'm the best in the department and I hate life).
Difficulty understanding other's feelings/points of view/circumstances (I know it's because he's a rock and a god but that doesn't make it any less relatable), hmmm what else…
Oh right, a typical interaction with Strength and Patience of the Hill:
Person: (gives offering)
Strength and Patience: (offering is accepted because the transaction literally occurred, no need to respond)
Person: "(asks petition)"
Strength and Patience: ...
Strength and Patience: wait
Strength and Patience: what
Strength and Patience: wait was I supposed to do something else
Strength and Patience: did you ask something of me?
Strength and Patience: I don't understand what you asked?????
Strength and Patience: it's been an entire year now it's too awkward
Strength and Patience: i'm sure it's. Fine.
Strength and Patience: It's fine.
(rinse and repeat)
Like I said, this rock gets me.
(Haha I was reading through my notes from the book signing and I found "Strength + Patience doesn't give a shit about balance, Strength + Patience is just selfish, which it manifests as apathy, which is why this rock gets me. All of my best interpersonal traits also spring from not giving a fuck and waiting ppl to go away faster lol" and why is that, oh because ~I'm~ ~autistic~ pfffft)
I started this post a while ago and this was as far as I got and I don't remember if I had more??? Time to talk about Taucris probably!!!
(I'm skipping Ancillary Justice etc for now because I do want to make a post about that but like there's just. So much. In those books. It's masking all the way down. So it can be its own post. One day.)
Because I waited so long I forgot what I was going to write so I'll just grab the book and flip through and comment as I see things.
To start off with: Taucris and adulthood. I've seen other people pick up primarily on the gender aspect of it--that Taucris waited until almost 25 to take her adult name because she she never figured out what her gender was (non- uhhhhhh what's the word for binary when it's three and not two? Non-tri-something Taucris in a society with 3 options but all 3 options are gendered? I'll go with that.) What really resonated for me was that Taucris waited until almost 25 to take her adult name because she never felt like an adult. And I get that ~everyone feels that way~ but I feel like it's Different for Taucris in the same way it's Different for me. Anyway I feel like no matter which aspect you choose, it's probably an autistic vibe.
Also Taucris seems to have a bit of a flat affect? She seems very serious (both in body language and in speech), and kind of intense sometimes when she talks, and Ingray notes how Taucris usually doesn't smile (she smiles with Ingray because Ingray makes her comfortable) and has always been """shy""".
Also Taucris...talks strangely? I am not sure exactly how to explain it. It's not written badly or anything, it's...you know how sometimes you suddenly sit back and look at dialogue and go no one speaks like this and it throws you out of the story because you dropped your suspension of disbelief? Taucris kind of gives me that feeling, and only Taucris. Almost like her speech is a little bit stilted? Awkward? She's very serious and matter of fact and says things like "You've always been so kind to me" with a straight face. But it doesn't feel like a """bad writing""" (quotation marks for subjectivity) thing. But I notice it every time I read her dialogue… I think it's just that Taucris is autistic and awkward and that's how she speaks. Also I think she's adorable.
Police work is Taucris' special interest. So much so that that's the entire reason she became an adult, so she could engage in her special interest better. She's ~weird~ for her single-minded interest and her interest in a job below her ~status~ and she doesn't care, she set her heart on this anyway, volunteering and interning so on.
Oh that was something else I was going to talk about--Taucris mentions feeling like she doesn't have her shit together, not like Ingray (who also doesn't feel she has her shit together. Kind of like "no one really feels like an adult). But Taucris seems quite calm and capable in Planetary Security. I don't know if this is just masking, but...I really hope that she does feel that way in her job. That because it's her special interest, that helps balance out the stress of being alive and simultaneously employed full-time. That because she's been volunteering and interning here so long, she's been familiar with the office and it wasn't a stressful transition. That she acts confident because she feels competent and respected. Taucris may look calm and cool and collected on the outside and be screaming on the inside but I hope she actually feels pretty good on the inside too.
I would also like to say that I like Taucris' nother. Despite what Danach implies, I get the picture from Taucris that e is supportive of Taucris' personality and interests even when e doesn't get it. E indulged her interest in police work, e didn't understand why Taucris wasn't taking an adult name but tried to be patient about it...so I assume that also means that e was understanding of all of Taucris quirks and stims and particularities. E's been a good support system while Taucris' peers have not.
(Except for Ingray, Taucris' one (1) friend.)
I like Taucris' relationship with Deputy Chief Veret too--the way Taucris quietly manages breakfast so e doesn't have to think about it or be put out (this is The Love Language to me, not being inconvenienced, and I feel that this is part of my personality because my personality is autistic, so). I don't know why specifically Taucris does this, but all the reasons I could come up with feel very wholesome. Taucris respects Veret as her boss and as a person. Taucris is empathetic and thoughtful (she doesn't like Danach but she tries to consider and understand where he's coming from; Taucris isn't Hatli but she considers Veret's fasting etc to be valid rather than a choice of superstition). Taucris' situation is different but she knows that it doesn't feel good to be treated as weird, to be sneered at because you don't act the way people expect you to. Taucris, being autistic, maybe has a lot of experience with "perfectly good foods" she won't eat. Taucris strikes me as someone who observes quietly, and considers carefully, and maybe takes a long time to make up her mind but when she moves it's deliberately and not carelessly. Which is, to me, a masking trait.
In the quantum version of this post I was going to write everything so polished and lay out my points so nicely but clearly that didn't happen and I don't know where to end this and I'm sure I didn't even explain things that well so I'll just say, I feel it was very autistic of Taucris in the last chapter to just be like "well IDK what you want from me and rather than expending massive effort trying to suss it out and guessing wrong I'll just be direct: I know you can't talk about what happened so I won't ask you about what happened unless you want me to ask you about what happened in which case you should say so and I will ask but I think maybe you just need to watch a movie with me instead."
#sobdasha fic adjacent#al provenance#the raven tower#HAPPY AUTISM MONTH#look i actually did a thing while it was still april#all my faves are autistic#also is this not showing up in the tags as punishment for my sins or like can I not see it because dumblr
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HI I'M TEETH!
I'm trans, aro, mlm, poly, black, and autistic (prof dx), so keep that shit in mind when interactin! I have neopronouns, but if we ain't friends, please use he/him and he/him only.
I reclaim slurs, and if that bothers you, then get out of my space xx
This is a strictly mlm/nblm/mlnb space
I like:
Men
ATEEZ
Cats
Haikyuu!
Daishō Suguru (I'm his self-proclaimed boywife)
DILFS!!!!!
Did I say men? I really fuckin love men
I fuckin hate:
Spiders (please don't show me em, I'll throw my phone)
TERFs
Trumpet fuckers (make this fuckin dick great again ya scumsuckin roadwhores!)
Boris and his sweaty cabinet of ball-lickers
Don't interact:
Terfs
Femme-aligned ppl / wlw/nblw (this is an mlm/nblm space bruh)
Hets (see above point)
Homophobes & transphobes
Ableists
Racists (yeah that includes you ALM dipshits)
Tories & trumpets
Fujos
<15 (I'm not about to interact with ppl way younger than me, sorry dkdkdkdk)
(↑ points in blue are more specifically about my gay pining posts)
I'm not as aggressive as I look, I just swear a lot and I'm a fuckin Kyo kinnie lmaoooo
Sometimes I ramble about colour palettes, I have some weird ass synaesthesia-like thing that means I can assign colours/colour palettes/smells/textures/etc to things
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[ask sent in that i’m unnaming for the sender’s privacy, considering the info involved. posted with permission!]
“I think I figured out why I love the ikael series so much, and it's just like... honest and genuine and scathing writing of being neurodivergent and in relationships and dynamics and all the good and bad things that happen because of it? I'm allistic but have other things going on but Ikael is so hugely relatable? Every chapter it's like, oh, fuck, I do that, I've been there??? (1/2?)
And it's so inexplicably healing and cathartic to read that and then have it come to a happy resolution bc the people involved are in healthy and supportive and nonnormative relationships (I can't express in words how much I love Thancred and Ikael's qpr and their cohabitation/co-parenting ish and the whole family dynamics of the scions and all) bc like, in my experiences, these things have been very negative and traumatizing and like, (2/3)
...I haven't had ppl in my life who really know how to support me in the specific ways I need when I'm like nonverbal or shutting down or having a panic attack or whatever? It's just, so good to read queer neurodivergent characters fucking being human and flawed and also like being in healthy relationships and supporting each other with things I've given up on other people being able to support me on? (3/3″
~*~ (reply below the cut)
Honestly, that’s why I started to write what I did.
I started ikael off as a sort of joke character, and when i wanted to write something with thancred, i substituted my woL for him because oddly i found he had a lot more chemistry? ikael was sort of there for when i wanted to write about something i found the game writing didn’t resolve properly, or i wanted to explore more. eventually, as his character began to take shape, i started to find him... really cathartic, and started to make the series about him instead of just being named after him (which i do for all my characters because it’s simple and to the point lol).
I was hesitant to make ikael autistic, because it was just in the wake of myself finding out I was autistic, and i didn’t want to do it wrong (and frankly there was a mote of internalized ableism and denial there too spun from a lifetime of misinformation) and i had mostly been writing him as “well i do this lol/it doesn’t have to have a label”. but since i have - there’s a turning point somewhere early ikael.series where you can sort of tell it happens - i’ve found it astonishingly easy to relate to him, much more than i ever have with allistic characters! i’ve since received similar responses from other people, and it warms my heart ;w;
i actually hesitated to even make him openly gay at first! (he always was by design lol) which sounds wild . but the fandom, minus aymeric/estinien shippers, was pretty heteronormative! especially with ikael being a “catboy”, and myself being unfamiliar with anime tropes like that and the final fantasy genre in general. i didnt know how it would be received, or whether people would think i was “just another cis girl fetishizing gay men” (nevermind that im,, nb and not even attracted to men :p)
making him aro was weirdly a little harder for me to decide. i’m aroace. there’s always been an element of “well people mock aros and/or aces” and i still see posts on my dash making fun of qprs and telling people “those are just friendships lmao jfc people go outside”. so once again i didn’t know how it’d be received
ok i’ve waaay gone off topic sorry! but yeah man at the bottom of the line, if we can’t have it, and if this world won’t allow it, i want to create a space where it exists. it’s one of the biggest reasons why i never create any conflict related to identity or relationships (homophobia, transphobia, everything listed above) in my canon. we already have that to a frankly staggering extent. what we don’t have is resources for autistic people, for neurodivergent people, we don’t have the common understanding and acceptance for mental health that should frankly be universal . i’m writing mostly for myself and people like me (in whatever way that is), yes. im also writing for people who don’t have an understanding of these things so they can develop a healthy one. i’ve said this before but i’m never going to purposefully write a conflict that’s unresolved, or resolved in an unhealthy way. im not going to hurt the characters without healing them. i dont write unresolved angst or trauma. at the very most, i take my time with long term trauma, because that can’t be fixed in 3k words!
again, ive said this before: people do what i dont, and that’s great! im not attacking it; i even like reading it sometimes. but that’s not the purpose of my writing.
thanks for sending in your thoughts! <3
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By aspec u mean autistic spectrum?
Ace/aro, actually! This conversation has come up before, but to the best of my knowledge the term was originally coined as ace-spectrum and shortened to aspec (and includes aro ppl) by ace ppl, and was never in great use by autistic ppl.
Aspec is inclusive of all ace/aro identities, including grey and demi identities, and while it received recent pushback (largely from exclusionists), it’s been in use by the ace/aro community for years.
#aspec ppl are valid#autistic ppl are too of course#but when i say aspec im talking abt ace/aro ppl#Anonymous
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So I only really understood that I'm asexual recently, and also nonbinary and not only into other ppl who identify as feminine. There's this boy I've been hanging out with recently, and we get along really well. He's really shy with people but it gets easier and easier every time we hang out. He doesn't have many friends off of the internet, and I don't have many either and it's surprisingly amazing having a friend who is also autistic because like, we don't have to worry about eye contact and--
–we both understand things in similar ways and don’t have to worry as much about boring the other by infodumping. He’s aro/ace and I’ve made it clear that I like him, because I feel like that’s the honest thing to do, but to be honest I don’t know what that means exactly? I know I like spending time with him and talking to him and hearing what he has to say, and it brightens my day to brighten his if I can. I think he’s really cute, not just in his appearance but in who he is, and when I say–
–I like him what I mean is that I want to spend time with him, like all the time. I’ve never felt sexual attraction to anyone, but I’m pretty sure I’ve felt romantic attraction but idk if that covers what this is? I dont really feel attracted to men or like being around them at all, so this is kind of all new for me, and I keep trying to ask myself if it’s wrong of me to hang out with him even though I think I feel for him in a way he literally can’t feel for me? Sorry for the long ask, I’m–
not really sure who to talk to about this but he’s so good and this isn’t the way I normally crush on people and I’m kind of confused? And also feeling guilty I guess. Thank you for reading, I really appreciate you and your blog. -Wil
Hey Wil!
It’s great that you’ve realised out so many things about yourself! It’s certainly not always easy to figure out your orientation/gender, so you should feel proud for having such a good understanding of yourself, even if that understanding isn’t 100% perfect all of the time.
And congratulations on having such a close relationship with him! Even if you’re not totally sure what kind of closeness you’re feeling, having that kind of connection with someone is a great feeling.
It’s also good that you’ve made it clear that you like him, I think. Honest (and sometimes right out blunt) communication is something that I think is very good and it is part of the reason I prefer to be around other autistic people, because we don’t mess around with ~dropping hints~ and stuff like that as much as allistic people do.
I’m not on the aro-spectrum myself so I’m not necessarily the most knowledgable person about this, but I’d think it may be worth looking into queerplatonic relationships and platonic attraction and seeing if those are things that you may relate to. You might not, but then at least you can rule those out.
If any of my followers know of any blogs specifically for ace/aro focused questions like this, with people who know more about these things than I do, please do feel free to add to this post and tell us about them!
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