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darke-faerie · 1 year

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Happy International Asexuality Day - Here's some BSD fics!

Happy International Asexuality Day!!

If you haven't come across them before, here's my Bungo Stray Dogs Ace fic collection! 18 fics, 9 pairings! Mix of fluff, angst and relationship/platonic pairings!

Pairings:

Akutagawa/Atsushi

Dazai/Chuuya x 7 fics

Dazai/Fyodor

Dazai/Kunikida x 4 fics

Fukuzawa/Mori

Akutagawa/Mori

Akutagawa/Higuchi

Akutagawa/Chuuya

Fukuzawa/Kunikida

Did I uhh mention I'm a multishipper?!

P.S - If any of the summaries or tags make you wary but you want to read my inbox thingy is open (not for anon's sorry!) ask away and I'll "spoil" the fic for you!

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adhbombus · 1 year

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I uhhh drew all of them, and made them all queer. They're all asexual btw. More under the cut

Exitors

8-Ball - Aromantic Panagender Any/None

Bracelety - Homoaesthetic Sapphic She/Her

David - Nameself It/David

Dora - Non-Binary Lesbian She/It

Firey Jr. - Transfeminine Lesbian She/Her

Liy - Abromantic She/Her

Match - Transfeminine Polyamorous Lesbian Demigirl She/It/Ze

Pencil - Polyamorous Transmasculine Lesbian She/Co

Roboty - Orchidromantic Gendervoid He/ Ey

Stapy - Heteroflexible Transmasculine He/Him

Have Cots

Balloony - Biromantic He/Him

Bubble - Polyamorous Transneutral Xenic Lesbian She/Voi

Gelatin - Aromantic Lovequeer Slimesilly (coined by me, a combo of sillygender and googeneder) He/Squish

Leafy - Panromantic She/Her

Lollipop - Transfeminine Lovequeer She/They

Ruby - Polyamorous Lesbian She/Her

Teardrop - Cassromantic Lovequeer Quiogirl She/Shem

Team8s

Barf Bag - Transneutral Lesbian She/Her

Coiny - Polyamorous Biromantic Transmasculine He/Him

Donut - Biromantic He/Him

Gatey - Transfeminine Lesbian She/Her

Needle - Lesbian She/Her

Pin - Polyamorous Transfeminine Biromantic Demigirl She/Her

Saw - Tomboy Lesbian She/Her

The Strongest Team on Earth

Basketball - Transfeminine Aromantic She/Her

Bell - Platoniromantic Lesbian She/Her

Eggy - Panromantic She/Her

Foldy - Homoflexible - She/Her

Grassy - Child He/Grassy

Robot Flower - Moongender Sapphic She/It/Lun

Snowball - Polyamorous Achillean He/Him

Death P.A.C.T. Again

Black Hole - Polyamorous Panromantic Neutrois He/It

Fanny - Transmasculine Polyamorous Agender Lesbian She/Her

Lightning - Transmasculine Ambiamorous Aegoromantic He/They

Marker - Agender Panaesthetic Oriented Aroace - He/She/It

Pie - Polyamorous Cassromantic Cassgender - She/He

Remote - Lovequeer Polyamorous Queerplatonic Abromantic Librafeminine She/He/It

Tree - Demiromantic Polyamorous He/Fall

Have Nots

Blocky - Polyamorous Gay Bear He/Him

Firey - Biromantic Polyamorous He/Him

Flower - Ambiamorous Lesbian She/Her

Loser - Non-Binary Companionate He/She

Spongey - Aromantic Panalterous He/Him

Taco - Transfeminine Lesbian She/Her

Woody - Non-Binary Uranian He/It

Just Not

Bomby - Paramasculine Librafeminine Panromantic She/He

Book - Agender Biromantic Polyamorous She/Her

Cake - Transmasculine Gender Non Conforming Femboy Vincian He/Him

Naily - Sapphic Catgender Paragirl She/Nya

Nickel - Aromantic Genderfluid He/Any

Pillow - Lunarian Lesbian She/Thon

Price Tag - Catgender Non-Binary Trixic They/Nya

The S!

Bottle - Polyamorous Omniromantic She/Her

Clock - Non-Binary Transfeminine Trixic He/Him

Cloudy - Transmasculine Oriented Aroace Magpiehoarder

Ice Cube - Polyamorous Poyromantic She/Her

Rocky - Child He/It

Winner - Agender Neptunic They/Them

Yellow Face - Omniromantic Non-Binary He/It

Are You Okay?

Eraser - Polyamorous Homoromantic He/Him

Fries - Quioromantic Queerplatonic - He/They

Golf Ball - Transfeminine Biromantic She/Her

Pen - Polyamorous Transmasculine Uranic - He/Him

Puffball - Queerplatonic Librafeminine - She/They/It

Tennis Ball - Transneutral Biromantic He/Him

TV - Aromantic Agender He/It

Hosts (and Profiley)

Announcer - Genderless Aromantic Bootian - He/Him

Four - Agender Googender Polyromantic - He/They/It

Profile Picture - Non-Binary Queerplatonic Polyromantic They/Them

Purple Face - Anattractional Specrum Hazardgender Cringecoric He/It

Two - Neurocollector Questioning They/She(?)

X - Non-Binary Autigender Genderfluffy Demiromantic He/They/She

The Bg color for the las one is taken from the last scene we have with the four bfb hosts (x is in the stinger but yk what i mean) the color us the same as the wooden boards on the "next season???" sign

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sketching-shark · 2 years

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I just read the post about Sun Xinghe and it feels very weird since in the books Sun Wukong almost cringes everytime something sex related happends.

And speaking of it, do you think that, using modern labels, could be the monkey king fit in the asexuality specrum? If i'm right he is ace in some adaptations, expecially the 1996 one.

I just find funny how everytime he has to use his powers to shapeshift into someone's husband he cringes as soon the wife flirts with him, or when in the kingdom of women arc, Tripitaka gets kidnapped by the scorpion demon he is "if i hear another sex pun im gonna bite someone"

The play Zaju Xiyou ji is apparently the only time that the monk's monkey protector was portrayed as a sex-obsessed and buffoonish yaoguai before the Xiyouji we all know and love was published, but yes big same anon; given that Sun Wukong shows 0% interest in sex or romance it was quite the shock to find that out! It's a main reason why I feel that Sun Xingzhe and Sun Wukong--while both serve as Tripitaka's guardian in their respective versions of the westward journey--are completely different characters. And I do think you can make a very strong argument that the Monkey King is on the asexuality spectrum! @archrui actually made some great art starring an ace Sun Wukong. This monkey is Mt. Huaguoshan's communal grandpa through casual adoption, and he WILL bit you if you make too many sex jokes in his presence <3

#anon answered #sun wukong #journey to the west #monkey king #sun xingzhe #funnily enough its suggested in some versions of the play that sun zingzhe & sun wukong are brothers #so i suppose you could consider zaju xiyou ji a version of the journey where instead of sun wukong getting trapped under that mountain #tang sanzang had to deal instead with the monkey king's foulmouthed fuckboy brother waesfdawf

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dummygothicc · 2 years

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allosexuality being a spectrum proves that asexuality can't be a specrum. asexuality is the end of the spectrum.

you can't have a specrum of not having something. someone who owns one cat isn't on the "not having a cat" spectrum.

I mean I think that flattens the issue considerably. Asexuality isn't a negative space, I guess I want people to understand that asexuality AND allosexuality are nuanced and varied.

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melissart-s · 2 years

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Something about relationships and celebration.

[Commission Info page]

#original art #melissa-S #asexual #asexual specrum #valentine's day

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asexual-means-no-attraction · 3 years

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hello. sorry if you've talked about this before, but i never got over the concept of demiromanticism. It's just.. how romantic relationships work, right? you get to know someone; you get attached; you're in love. cue tooth-rottingly cute kissy kissy hand-holding or something

It's good. I talked about this a while ago so the ask is probably buried.

I consider demisexual/romantic as apart of the split attraction model. My FAQ talks about the harm that does. But for demiromantic specifically:

Demiromantic means you need a close connection before you like someone romantically. From personal experience, the reason people tend to think this isn't normal is because of 2 factors.

1. The media always shows people falling in love at first sight. Whether it's a kids show or an adult one where the male sees the girl a cross the bar and is like... "I love her!" Except that's not love. That's infatuation. Most people don't look at a random stranger and start feeling all sorts of emotions. The most they feel is "oh they're pretty/handsome." Media hypersexualizes things so it's easy to feel like you're not normal for not wanting it, either at all or as much as the shows suggest you should. We as a culture (the usa) have this weird disconnected between the media and reality. We hypersexualize everything, but then refuse to teach proper sex ed because of the negative stigma towards sex. Nor do we teach how to identify emotions at all.

2. It's really really easy to NOT realize you have a crush on someone. I didn't realize I had a crush on my girlfriend for years!! I was too focused on classes, dealing with gender dysphoria I didn't realize I had either, trying to figure out the next step after graduation, dealing with family issues, etc etc. Crushes aren't always the first thing on your mind. And if you don't know how to identify a crush then how are you gonna know?

Because crushes don't have to be sexual. They usually aren't. Some crushes may involve you imaging sex, some won't. some might only have you imagining things that friends would do. some involve hand holding, kissing, some don't. Feeling can be complicated and simple and hard to figure out and super obvious. It depends on the crush and the person.

So then many people will realize they have a crush on something only after knowing them for a while. Or more correctly. Most people really don't develop crushes until after knowing someone. Immediate crushes are infatuation. Crushes after knowing someone are you actually getting to know someone and developing feelings. Genuine romantic affection takes time to build up.

If you're like me and it took you a good amount of time before you realized you liked anybody, it's not hard to mistake that for being unable to like anyone until you get to know them for years. But that's not some new identity. It's just not realizing you like someone. And since I've been able to start figuring out exactly what kinda feelings and thoughts lead me to realizing it, I've gotten a lot better at identifying what is and isn't a crush.

Not to mention demiromantic doesn't specify the time needed to form that connection. An old roommate of mine says she's demiromantic but then gets crushes in guys after a week of being friends. She believes that since she doesn't immediately get a crush, that she's demi. When crushes work like that for most people. And a week really isn't that much time at all.

Demi is considered apart of the asexual specrum. So by having such a broad definition of demiromantic and demisexual. You have now basically defined almost the entire planet as asexual in some way shape or form. So asexual loses all meaning.

If it does actually take you years to develop a crush. And it's not just you not realizing feelings have developed. Then I completely understand the alienation you must feel. Most people won't wait that long for you to develop feelings, and you won't know if they'll even happen. You just take a while to get a crush. But that is. Again. Not some new identity. And honestly... There is probably a reason why it takes a while. You can talk to a therapist to figure out how to identify feelings of attraction, and other emotions, as well as explore reason why it takes you so long to trust someone enough to be comfortable dating them.

I hope that makes sense. Feel free to send me another ask or PM me if you have other questions, or if you want clarification. This is very much rushed thoughts on demiromantic. I can take more time and write things out in more depth if you want.

SUMMARY: demiromantic is taking time to develop a crush on someone. Most people need to take time to develop feelings and that's normal. If you take genuine years to develop feelings you might have issues identifying emotions or you have issues opening yourself up to people. Both are perfectly ok and you're not alone in that. But talking to a therapist can help.

#i could write a whole ass essay about this #if you want lore depth let me know #im willing to write more #demiromantic discourse #asexual discourse #lgbt discourse #discourse #demi discourse #also not spell checked #so sorry for any misspelling

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gogylovebot · 3 years

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so yeah i am currently crying right know just to know that someone that i admire and look up to so much identifies with me. karl might have just posted that a bit absentmindedly but this genuinely means so much to me to see the representation and to know i’m not alone in this. because i am in the same boat as him.. i question my sexuality every day. some days i think i’m ace and others i don’t. some days i think i’m gay and others i don’t. some days i think i’m bi and others i don’t. the point is, sexuality (especially asexuality) is a fluid specrum. karl is so so so valid and he just made me so incredibly happy. even if he is not completely sure, he is more than valid.

#my comfort streamer #karl i love you dearly #thank you #karl jacobs

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og-danny-dorito · 3 years

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hi!! i was wondering if you would like to do a polyamorous spock x kirk x reader but the readers asexual and kind of feeling third wheely bc they've known each other for longer? thank you so much, you don't need to do this if you don't want to, just an idea! <3

of course! also im sorry if this is a little inaccurate since im not personally asexual, but i hope you enjoy regardless!!

Spock And Kirk With An Asexual S/O

- when the three of you discussed being in a relationship, you knew exactly what you were getting into

- being in a throuple would have its perks, obviously, but there were also some things to take into consideration before they went any further

- example: your asexuality

- now i have a headcanon that asexuality is a pretty common occurrence in vulcans so spock understood it perfectly considering he grew up where it was considered normal, but kirk is a little lost in the dark about that kind of thing

- he still 100% respects your boundaries though, you just might need to give him a pass on non-sexual acts like lap sitting and the like since he doesn't know whether or not stuff like that is crossing a line

- regardless though the point is that your boyfriends are very supportive of any choice you make, and make a conscious effort to make sure you don’t feel excluded just because they partake in the ✨sexc times✨

- that doesn't mean that the feelings are gonna be obsolete though, feelings are feelings and they’re inevitable regardless or logic or reason

- THANKFULLY THOUGH, your very loving and caring boyfriends have come to provide you with reassurance for DAYS 😌

- whatever you need, they’re there for! spock and kirk already basically wait on you hand and foot, but if you’re feeling particularly left out expect them to be next to near you at all times

- with their busy schedules you might not be able to be there all together at the same time, but at least one of them is almost always around you and showering you with validation

- but the best time to catch them together is when the day has finally ended and you’re all ready to settle down, laying in bed together and telling each other about your day (or just passing out in each other’s arms- it kinda depends on how hard the day has been)

- their love comes in slightly different forms, but they each try their best to make you feel included in every aspect besides sexual

- for example, while spock isn’t that physically affectionate, the two of you spend hours having conversations about your interests (i headcanon spock as on the autistic specrum so he can literally go on for hours about his newest hyperfixation with you) and making you feel more engaged intellectually. he makes for a great person to spend most of your free time with if you want to do something more constructive

- kirk is inversely more affectionate and touchy with you, almost always holding your hand or sitting with you whenever you can. most of his love comes in the form of words of affirmation and physical admiration, so if you’re feeling down expect him to drop everything and demand that you all lay in bed and cuddle so they can let you know how much they love you

- generally speaking though, the moment they sense you feel excluded is the same moment they’re gonna come rushing to your rescue with preparations to make you feel validated and just as loved as everyone else in your little throuple

[ ~Thanks For Requesting!~ ]

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emaspie · 4 years

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Love On The Spectrum

A few weeks ago, one of my pals told me they had just watched a docuseries on Netflix about autism and dating, called Love On The Spectrum. Not long after that, the Netflix algorithm put the show in my path, and I decided to give it a go. This decision was not easy; in the past shows with autism representation, like The Undateables, have often made me break out in hives. But there is always hope that representation will improve with time, and so I went into watching the show with this sliver of hope in mind.

I’ve thought long and hard about how to frame my response, and indeed what my response even is, because the show elicited a whole range of emotions within me that took time to unpack. The saltier part of me wanted to lead with a Buzzfeed-esque list of Things Neurotypicals Will Learn From ‘Love On The Spectrum’, with such helpful lessons as “It’s absolutely OK and fine and normal to ask an autistic couple whether they have consummated their relationship!” and “It’s really important to know how devastated a parent is when they find out their child is autistic”.

Humour is my primary coping mechanism in life but it is also a weapon that has been wielded against me on many occasions. It has often been hard for me to tell if people are laughing with me or at me, and as I watch shows like this I become more convinced that it’s ‘at’ rather than ‘with’. I think the show’s intention was to come off as ‘light and fluffy’ but, in my opinion at least, this made it feel like the show was making light of the autistic experience. Watching the series gave me a feeling that I have had at various times throughout my life: the feeling of being an exotic animal in a zoo enclosure, endlessly confused by people’s constant eyes on me and their reactions to my doing, well, anything.

I have to say that there are elements of the show that are good: I appreciated the focus on autistic girls/women and diagnosis issues, and the show depicted people in long-term relationships as well as single people, which was interesting and cool to see. But there are also moments in the show that are bad, very bad. In one episode, Maddi prepares for a date by running through various conversation topics with her parents. They roleplay a conversation about wanting children, Maddi answers honestly and her parents tell her that her response is not valid, or at the very least a conversation killer. They run the scenario again and Maddi alters her response but it is still not very satisfactory in her mother’s eyes. Her father then tells her to ‘be herself’ and Maddi quite rightly calls her parents out, stating that they literally told her not to be herself.

This is the strain that is put upon autistic people. At the same time as the world tells everyone to ‘be yourself’, it also tells autistic people that our ‘self’ is difficult, not palatable. Society tells us that we quite literally have to be something other than ourselves if we want people to like us. Put a mask on, and you better keep it on, because if you make friends or embark on a relationship and the mask slips away, they will become uninterested very quickly. ‘Successfully’ masking is a pyrrhic victory; for those of us that are able to mask, exhaustion and burnout will inevitably follow at some point. One solution to this, one might think, is for autistic people to look for an autistic partner; Love On The Spectrum exclusively pairs neurodivergent people together. I’m somewhat conflicted about this - on the one hand the idea makes a lot of sense to me, but on the other hand I (perhaps cynically) worry that neurotypical people watching the show will feel some sort of relief that they may not have to ‘deal’ with dating an autistic person, that neurodivergence will remain an abstract concept to them, merely a curiosity.

At the end of the day, my response to this show is incredibly personal. It wasn’t made for me, as an autistic person, it was made with (I hope) the purpose of educating neurotypical people (and not, as is often the fear with these things, to use us as entertainment), but I cannot help but look out for every scrap of representation I can find because there isn’t much out there. Truthfully, watching Love On The Specrum took me to dark places, to the negative messages I have internalised about myself from the world. I have never been in a relationship, and I feel like I have a significant amount of baggage that hinders me here, whether it be my autism, my asexuality, or my inability to discern the exact nature of my feelings towards people. I try very hard to unlearn the idea that all of this is ‘baggage’, but when a show comes along that singles out autistic people as a group that struggles with relationships, even though people from all backgrounds can struggle with this, it becomes harder for me to refute the voice in my head that says that my autism makes me unlovable.

#actuallyautistic #love on the spectrum #this is just my opinion!!! but yeah I've felt real gross ever since I watched it all #took me over a week to even begin to formulate a response

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soluscheese · 7 years

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The “Requiessromanticism in Shapes” design is now available on TONS of new merch! To see the new Requiessromantic merch, go here and click “Available Products”!

Requiessexual means to have limited or no sexual attraction/interest/activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion.

To see the other, different Requiessromantic merch, go here, here, here, here, here, or here!

And go here to see all the released “Proud” designs!

#requiessexual #aspec #asexuality #ace specrum #ace #my work #proud line #shapes

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