My family does NOT like bei bc told when they’re being homophobic/transphobic lmao like yell at me all you want does t stop you from being wrong

here's some eriador nandor as nomads in the dunland area

(somewhat inspired by cave creature thingol)

i feel like they would favor varda as Lord of Arda over manwe, since without the treelight, their only light source would be the light of her stars + her creations are basically the only ones they're guaranteed to see every day/night.

some groups of the eriador nandor (namely lenwe's group) created glowy starlight tattoos (like a wearable version of feanor's artificial gems) as a dedication to varda (and a convenient light source). and since it's mostly dark except for the starlight, they have purple/sable face paint for war/hunting to enhance the glowy starlight effect. they mostly stop doing this after the rising, though, since the sun/moonlight makes the contrast less effective than regular green/brown camo, and it becomes more of a traditional than practical thing. (maeglin got his color scheme from the sable paint)

eol is one of the former-nomadic-nandor laegrim who migrated sometime in the first age and ended up in nan elmoth (his starlight tattoos eventually faded bc he spent too much time either indoors or in a very dark magic forest and also he was evil so varda stopped recharging him or something)

the rising of the moon and sun + morgoth + men + migration of laegrim leads to an erosion of nandorin nomadic culture (since its a lot harder to wander around mostly-peacefully stargazing when the continent is suddenly full of orcs and men) and by the third age there are like three nandorin nomads left around the southern coastal region

the oldest nandor (born between cuivienen and the rising) are more cave-creature-y, with semi-translucent skin, really big dark blue eyes (like the waters of cuvienen at night), and extra good night vision but worse normal light and color vision. the ones born after the rising have normal skin and eyes, though most of them still have the white/silver teleri hair.

pls give reinhard all the silly little outfits he wants 🙏

fun fact, my Jewish grandma who's a 7th generation in Israel, who's family escaped from like half of the Arab countries in the world, is also Palestinian. because that was the name of Israel before we got our independence in 1948 and the people who lived here were Palestinian. which is my way of telling you that just because there's something before 48 that says palestine, doesn't mean it's evidence that the Palestinians were here before the Jews because Jews who lived here were also, shocking, Palestinian.

family lore is the best drama in the world. soap opera level stories and your parents, aunties, uncles and grandparents are just so blunt about it cause they thought you knew

my grandpa tricked us into spending thanksgiving with him and his girlfriend and her family by telling my mom he was going to be alone today bc his gf was busy and then calling her back like actually sue is coming 😊 and so is her sister 😊 and her nephew

Every time I mention that I was in a cult it is for the purpose of everyone realizing not every cult lives in secluded communes. I tell people I was in a cult they assume I moved here and I watch their face drop as I tell them it’s just down the street.

TIL one of my moms uncles is the leader of a tiny hasidic sect with ties to neturei karta and one of her cousins married a neturei karta

Lmao looks like my deadbeat sperm donor finally got a job that doesn't pay him under the table. Took 31 years for him to start paying child support, but better late than never I guess.

Cartoons from the 80's had a lot of anti-drug/anti-drinking messages, with plots surrounding the consequences. I saw these when I was really, really little, so some of the lessons probably stuck.

Even though I've been drunk, I've never driven. I knew not to way back when I was a kid, because media pounded into our heads not to do that, and I have real life and family examples of what happens if you do.

I've also never smoked anything, or done any drugs because I never really wanted to. Truth be told, the lessons were probably in my subconscious (along with real life examples of what happens) helping me make the right judgement calls.

It obviously didn't work with every Millennial, but it got through to a few of us.

This cartoon even tackled prescription drug abuse, and how it negatively affects people and those around them. It also hit on issues of elderly loneliness, how little lies can lead to big problems, owning up to your responsibilities (wherein Henry Bigg -yeah, the human - leaves a baby he volunteered to babysit with the Littles so he could play touch football with his friends across the street and fire breaks out because of the actions of an unsupervised baby. And also Plot.).

80's cartoons went hard with these messages.

This cartoon from my childhood I'm binge watching, The Little's, had a good idea at the end of one of the episodes that showed the dangers of being drunk, how it effects people and themselves, and drunk driving with an incident that almost killed one of the Littles:

A contract between kids and their parents.

Both parties write up a contract that states that kids will call their parents to come pick them up rather than driving, or getting a ride with someone who could be drunk, or otherwise compromised.

Parents agree to go pick them up; no questions asked. Period.

Not a bad idea, honestly.

If I had kids, I'd probably do this. It gives the kids freedom to go out and have fun with friends, while also giving both a sense of trust that the other will abide by the contract.

Trust from both sides is insanely important.

maybe the extreme isolation of the characters in my writing is a reflection of the isolation and loneliness and alienation and lack of friends/family that i feel in my own life. who’s to say really

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If you don't mind me asking, your aunt who threw a divorce party, was she being abused by him? Also, is this a black aunt or an asian aunt and is it common in those communities to do things like that?

i don't mind at all. she's black and she wasn't being abused in terms of like her husband was hitting her or yelling at her but he cheated on her multiple times and got like 4 other women pregnant in a one year span. he's evil like nick cannon and most of my family would beat his ass on sight if he hadn't moved across the country. as for it being common in any specific community... i don't think it's common in general lol my auntie is a very flashy woman and she wanted to show that she was happier in divorce than she was on her wedding night while being surrounded by people who support and love her. have you ever seen the photos of nicole kidman after her divorce got finalized from tom cruise? it's kind of like that but in party form.

I have to visit the great uncle (grand uncle technically but english kinship terms are weird that way) who doesn't like me (and once tried to convince me (a 25 year old) that a high-pitched sound has a low frequency) today so wish me luck I guess

my mom is the best person in this household and she is the best person in this whole fucking family and im sick of people acting like its otherwise

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