absolutely nothing i hate more than a punk ass, pussy ass bitch who refuses to take responsibility for anything and instead thinks blocking people to escape their actions is the answer

there not enough discourse around being ace and preferring not to talk about seggsual content even in clean situations. some of my friends (who are even a part of the aroace community) don’t understand this.

(sorry this is probably going to turn into a rant)

last week my aro friend and i were discussing sex and i used relatively clean or minimally detailed terms to talk about it because that’s just what i prefer but they straight up said something along the lines of “why are you acting like a 12 year old” (we’re both adults).

they know i’m ace. but that doesn’t seem to be reason enough for me to prefer not using explicit terms/language??

i feel like there’s a lot of talk about aces who may also have sex or aces who make sex jokes.

what about the aces who prefer to not think or talk about sex because it makes them uncomfortable?

tbh i think there should be more discourse around it.

why am i being compared to a child under the guise of “it’s normal to talk about sex as an adult”

i’m just mad that this kind of stuff is still going on today, even among people who claim to be educated on aroace identities.

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I want to actually reply to this one, as an asexual who's friends thought they were so oblivious as to have never seen what a penis looked like. As in. Never even saw a picture. ALL of our friends are virgins, not a bad thing, and I was the one singled out. Because I was vocally uncomfortable talking about sex. So you know what I did? Complete 180, everything is a sex joke, everything is phallic. Because I was SO tired of being singled out. A lot of asexual people are adults, some who have had sex, a large amount who have consumed sexual content in some way (in movies, on TV, through fandom, through books) and even if we choose not to, we should NOT be treated as innocent children for it!!! We should not be CALLED children for it!!!! It's. Excuse my language, it's fucking disconcerting!! You have to have so much cognitive dissonance to speak to me the way I speak to the eight year olds in my classes.

It's so incredibly wild that an aromantic said that to you too, that's not okay. They of all people should have enough exposure to the ace community, and the aroace community, to understand why that is such a fucking stupid thing to say. Sorry. I'm so ANGRY about it!!!! I'm so angry about arospecs and acespecs being socially engineered to think like this too! I'm so angry about how people treat us, even the ones we love or respect! We are not kids! Not having sex doesn't make you a child! Not having a relationship doesn't make you a child! Neither of these traits should define your humanity or your adulthood and if they do that's a problem, even in allo people!!! Can the world stop being so fucking stupid about reproduction!!!! Holy shit!!!!!!

Hi!

I’ve been popping in and out because life gets busy and I’m not able to interact as much which makes me sad. I literally open the app and reblog a photo and like some stories to eventually read and reblog when I’m not exhausted all the time and it blows.

But fuck plagiarism!!!! Fuck anyone trying to ruin anyone else’s fun and love of writing!!!! I love you all and this community so much. Thank you all for sharing your stories and inspiration and just everything.

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I think Yume Nikki is a game everyone shoulf experience at least once I love goin to the fangames wiki and getting a random one to play I love the atmosphere in each one and how you just kinda. walk around and explore nd see what you can find 10/10 I love madotsuki and how you relate so much to a character who has no dialogue and barely a story just through her own dreams nd audhdh if anyone reaidng this hasn't played at least the original please consider it it's like literally lifechanging :3

vent warning

i think one of the worst parts about losing one (out of two) of my absolute favourite people is that i can't be mad at her. she's done absolutely nothing wrong, and been nothing but incredible to me for the longest time now. but it came time for her to begin taking another path in life, and hopefully it makes her happier then she was before. i'll still see her sometimes, but pretty rarely in comparison to when i used to. i hope she's happier, but i miss her so much and i can't believe that in about 41/2 months i'm going to lose her for good.

i don't have any pictures of her. i don't have any videos, or voice memos. slowly i'm going to start to forget her voice. her eyes. her nose. her hair. the memories with her. and that shit fucking hurts.

i've had way more anxiety in the last few days since i started to lose her. i'm less focused in school. i'm not really hungry. i don't wanna go to work anymore. hell, i barely want to do anything. and i haven't even fully lost her yet. so what the fuck is gonna happen when i do?

i'm so screwed. and i can't even be mad at her about it.

CHARLES what do you MEAN only the first 5 seasons of spn is canon?!?!?!?!?!??

okay ABI i'm so sorry my friend but like. eric kripke literally said he wrote the series to be 5 seasons long, and actually left the show when they decided to keep it going. and it seriously went to SHIT after that, no offense to anyone who likes it, but like....agh!! the first five seasons tell a COHESIVE story that has a very fulfilling ending!! (at least imo, a major dean winchester hoe)

i mean (spoilers from like, idk, 2010? sry to anyone who somehow never watched spn but is on this website?? r u an alien??) we've got Dean, the son who ALWAYS had to sacrifice himself for his brother, who never got to put himself first or wish for anything of his own, who was shocked to learn he was the always destined to be the vessel for the "good guy," actually getting his happy ending with a fucking family, a kid he loves, a life that is simple and gets to allow him to fucking rest for the first time in his life.

and you get this powerful symbolism of the like "innocent son," the "moral one" who didn't have to get his hands dirty cause his brother was made to protect him, who had the luxury of being mr. high and mighty because dean was always willing to clean up after him. who got to go off and live a normal life (for a while). and then has his whole fall from grace, nearly ending the world himself because of it, who finally gets to be the one to make the sacrifice. and don't get me wrong, sam is tragic as fuck - he sort of represents a child born to addiction, born with this fate that he had no control over and sent him down a dark path. but in the end we still get the incredible juxtaposition of the "good son" actually being the vessel for the "bad guy" and the "bad son" being the vessel for the good guy.

like, kripke wrote them the ending that they both kind of earned. dean earned a quiet life where he wasn't expected to put himself last every time. and sam earned the chance to finally take responsibility, to finally be the sacrifice.

and i just think continuing after that ending was disrespectful and ruined the beauty of what was honestly a perfectly crafted story.

i would have been all for a spin off or something, even, but what they did with it was like........ (ok i am fully being dramatic here, but) someone taking the mona lisa and being like, y'know, i think it'd be better with some flowers in the background and maybe we change up her hair a bit?

anyway that's my supernatural rant.....can you tell you're not the first to hear it? 😅

[i watched supernatural from the very first episode, wrote the dates of the start of the seasons on my calendar, put magazine pages of jensen ackles and jared padalecki on the fronts of my binders. i got the dvds and watched the bloopers over and over again, and like the parasocial relationships i created with those actors kinda got me through my darkest days (along with the early seasons of grey's anatomy) it was like one of those shows that was VERY MUCH shaped my childhood/teen years. so. i have strong feelings and opinions to this day. 😆]

each year i visit my family for eid and each year i get another emotional blow from one of my cousins

i loved that part of the quarry where nick said “ its morbin time “ and then turned into a werewolf that was like my favorite part

this is vv unrelated to my blog but for the love of everything can ppl please stop sexualising nuns? like sexualising anyone is horrible but the intentionality of taking the image of people devoted to modesty and sexualising it is so so disgusting to me and i hate it

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Decided to go to work on 1/1 because no one else would be here and I could power through most of what I needed to get done.

Does anyone want to guess how many emails I had when I logged on this morning?

102

oh, hey there! i love so many of your clone wars fics and i’ve followed you for a while. but - and bear with me, i might sound weird - i didn’t know you were a teacher? secondary school, is… i’m not american but it’s between junior and high school, i think?

as a sixteen year old who is thinking of doing a history degree, then that one one year course thing that equips you to teach, and then hoping to become a high school history/english teacher - do you have any advice, things you wish you’d known before going into teaching, or anything like that?

i think i’d love teaching - the only thing keeping me up at night is that i won’t be able to find a job because there are many teachers, that i won’t have any free time because i know the hours are long, and that i won’t be able to support myself financially/put any potential kids through schooling/save up enough money for basic expenses, due to stuff like the inflation rate and teachers being infamously not paid well— do you have any experience or advice regarding any or all of those things, if it wouldn’t be any trouble to share?

please feel free to ignore this - i know that adults are busy in general, but also, congrats on adopting your kid, i hope that y’all are doing great! - i just wanted to ask because i honestly don’t know any of my teachers well enough to ask them any of this, and my family isn’t exactly supportive of me wanting me to be a teacher (they…. don’t think i’ll be paid anything, but i don’t think that’s completely true!), so i just thought i’d ask. again though, no worries abt answering<3

okay whoa! just found this, but i'm going to attempt to answer now! truly don't know how i missed it. this may get a bit lengthy, so i'll put a cut.

first, thank you for your kind words! our bonus daughter is doing great. life looks drastically different now than it did a few months ago, but i can't imagine it any other way. <3

okay so -- yes! secondary school in america is generally 7-12th grade. i'm certified for all of those levels, but presently teach grade 8. which depending where you are living could be different for you. here, it's 13/14-year-olds.

i did things a bit unconventionally, but i honestly recommend it, now having the perspective of peers who did it 'the right way.' i studied something unrelated to education for my undergraduate (4-year degree). then, i did an alternative certificate program to get my certification. this means i graduated university in may 2020 and had my first classroom in august 2020. it was a bit much at once, but it worked well for my personality, because i'm a sink or swim person.

most of my co-workers studied education in undergrad, meaning they completed rotations of student teaching and spent four full years learning all of the things to know about teaching. which is a viable route!!! in my opinion, though, much of what is taught is not super applicable in a real life 2023 classroom so i'd just as well have all of that mandatory" material condensed into a one year online program i can zoom through while getting real experience. the big things to know about teaching is that you'll never know it all. in my opinion, there is no amount of training that will adequately prepare you because every child is different and every teacher is different. the only was to find your stride is to do it. you'll fail a little, for sure! but what better lesson to teach your students?

to address finding a job: i'm not sure where you're located and if this affects anything, but here in america i can tell you it is verrrry easy to find teaching jobs. there is such a shortage in education because so many veteran teachers who have been sticking it out for years have finally had enough and left the profession. i work at an incredible school with a ton of support, but we had three teachers leave us this year specifically to go into data analytics because they can work from home and have a more flexible schedule. of course, getting experience with children is valuable for your resume! but at least in the united states right now, the standard is sort of 'hey if you're certified and don't have a criminal record, we'll hire you!" which is...not great for education as a whole. but great for prospective teachers...i guess?

now for the money: hmm. so first off, let me say that teachers deserve to be paid more, without a shadow of a doubt. i think we all know this so i'll save the soapbox. but THAT BEING SAID. at least in my region, i make a livable wage. do i deserve more for the amount of work i am actually doing? yes! am i struggling financially? no. of course, there are other things to take into consideration such as the cost of living in your area. but to encourage you (and your parents possibly?): i am fully supporting my family right now on a salary. my husband just graduated from law school, so as soon as he passes his bar and gets a job (fingers crossed), things will change a little. but as of now, i am able to comfortably support myself, him, a toddler, and a teenager. i am a saver and don't waste money! but i have also not gotten to a point of misery or anywhere close.

however, it needs to be said, only you know your propensity for saving vs. spending. i have many friends who DO financially struggle because they live a different lifestyle than me. and that's okay! but it's a give and take. you have to decide what is the most important to YOU and go from there. for me, it's supporting my family and prioritising family experiences over things. for many, it's a nicer house or food or entertainment or whatever. and none of those things are bad!

in conclusion: teachers (at least in my area) are paid a livable amount. but it is absolutely not the amount they should be living on, in proportion to the work they do. remember: we are not paid for summer. many districts will spreadout paychecks to include the summer...but that's the money from the school year. NOT more money. i have mandatory trainings and symposiums i have to attend this summer and i'm not being paid for them. i spend hundreds of dollars on supplies/decorations/snack for students and i'm not being paid for them. i stay at the school until almost 7pm every night to watch my students' games and concerts and i'm not being paid for them. i could say no to many of these things! but i won't because i'm a good teacher who knows these things are *necessary.* it's a hard reality, though.

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we love the fact that my dad knows that i (mostly) enjoy my job, and so he threatens to take that away from my if my grades drop.

which has me horrified because rn i’m at a 64 in math, and i’m SO scared he’s gonna make me go down to almost no shifts, or worse, make me drop it all together. and i CANNOT have that. especially because this one girl there makes me really happy like i very much like working with her. and she doesn’t know it but she’s one of the few things keeping my from completely heading into a downward spiral. and i just really cannot lose her. and my dad constantly threatens to take my job away from me--which would take her away with it.

i also find it really annoying cause he was the one that wanted me to get a job in the first place. i didn’t want to at first. but now that i like my job he seems unhappy about it. 

anyways i’m so scared rn. so help. lol

Speaking of my spin-off idea from yesterday, I’m watching Secrets and Guys. And like. they really did say that Prue’s powerful, didn’t they?

looks like i'll be around again today bc apparently my dad called off again