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venuscrashed · 1 month

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Can you do Spiderman Miles Morales x Femboy reader?

More casual then actually focusing on the femboy part but oh well

Warnings: implied homophobia, ooc, kinda mean reader

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Miles and (Y/n): the duo that everyone knew about. Friends since the beginning of highschool. Everyone knew that there was something more between them, yet every time it was mentioned it was shut down by one of the two. Whether it was playful teasing or mentions of past flirting, neither boys would ever admit to it.

Yet everyone knew not to mess with either of them, especially in front of the other. It was simply known as their high school's curse. Where if one person flirted with one of the two boys, bad luck will follow them for the rest of the school year. Despite the obviousness of it being forced, no one can prove that it was the duo doing it.

It all started with a simple bet. Two basketball players betting on who can pull more dudes. The easiest target? The femboy, of course. Each player would flirt with him endlessly. Something as simple as holding his bag to cornering him at his locker. It was all going well until it happened in front of Miles.

It was an honest mistake, really, you were walking out of your classroom when one of the players came up to you. You were on your way to your locker where you would meet Miles and then hangout after school, like you two always did. Except this time, you were intersected.

The player stood in front of you with a cheeky smile. He looked down at you, “Can I hold your bag?” Before you could answer he had already grabbed it, walking in the direction of your destination. How did he know where you were going? You have no idea.

You quickly followed him, falling behind by a step or two. “Um-Thanks. That was really thoughtful of you.”

He smiled and laughed. Looking back at his friend who was staring in anger as he walked by. “It’s no big deal!” You two have already made it to your locker. You opened it and he put your bag inside of it. “It’s what any gentleman would do.”

You gave a polite smile, which quickly faded after he got slammed into the lockers next to you. The whole hallway went silent and you stared in horror. There stood Miles above the player, looking down at him with pure disdain.

“Well he already has a gentleman to do that for him,” Miles spat. Kicking the player out of the way before he could run. “So you and your buddy can quit the act.”

The player scurried to his feet, looking between the both of you before running away. The hallway was filled with whispers and murmur before turning back to normal.

Miles leaned against the lockers while he watched you put on some lip gloss. His eyes lingering on your lips that turned into a smile. He watched as you looked at him with a raised eyebrow. “What?”

“Nothing,” you hummed. Giggling as you grabbed your stuff and pulled his hand. “Just relishing in the fact you're jealous. That's all.”

Miles scoffed, looking down at your guys hands before looking back up. “I know what you’re doing.”

“And what am I doing?” You stared at him, a certain gleam in your eye. He was about to respond before you took off down the street. “Wait! There's a cat cafe!”

Everyday after that something bad would happen to the players. Either they would trip or mess up in a game, and some students would report seeing Miles nearby but there wasn’t any correlation…

That was the beginning, just a simple joke. It wasn’t until it was your turn did it become the curse.

You were sitting on the bleachers inside the school gym. Watching as Miles and his friend played basketball at lunch. At the same time, you were chewing gum and fixing your makeup.

Two girls were sitting a couple rows below you. Giggling and whispering as they watched the game. It wouldn’t have mattered if it wasn’t for one of them mentioning Miles. At that, you slammed down your compact mirror which drew the attention of those two girls.

They looked up at you with a puzzled look. You just give them a smile. Once they turned around you rolled your eyes and popped your gum as loud as you could. One of the girls finally got mad and stood up. She turned around and looked you up and down.

Raising an eyebrow she asked, “What is your problem?”

“Nothing” you sang.

“Listen. We all know you and Miles are close and all but he wouldn’t go out with a skirt wearing freak like you.” She yelled, gaining the attention of all the students around you three. Her friend whispered to her to stop it.

With a quick glance up and down her outfit, you bursted out laughing. Making the girl even more angry and the students around you confused. You fakes whipped a tear away from your eye before leaning down. “Listen. I’m not the skirt wearing freak around here when you’re here. If I wanted your opinion then I would have asked for it. You could ask him out all you want, it won’t happen though.”

Mouth wide open she looked back at him. She finally had enough when she saw the smile on his face. She grabbed her stuff and dragged her friend out of there. Groaning about your attitude or something.

The game quickly continued but Miles didn’t care. He made his way up towards you and sat next to you. He grabbed your gatorade and took a drink of it. “That was hot,” he said in between sips.

You raised your eyebrow at this. “Really? That was actually really mean of me…”

“Maybe,” he looked at you. “But it's still really hot. Although, don’t suggest asking me out to other people, prettyboy.”

You both laugh at these memories from time to time. Watching how all four of them still struggle everyday. Gaining more bad luck then if they were to walk under a ladder. Truly, making it the school’s curse.

#x male reader #x male y/n #x reader #fem boy reader #spiderman x reader #across the spiderverse #atsv x male reader #atsv x reader #miles x male reader #miles morales x male reader #miles morales x reader #miles x femboy reader #venuscrashed

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baphometsgirlcock · 10 months

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there are a lot of TME people I trust sexually (im dating two of them) but the intersection of being a transfem stone top butch lesbian and CSA victim is like. it’s a lot? it’s tough. i’m particular about my sexual expression in vitally important and irrevocable ways that other people aren’t always comfy with.

and especially with cis dykes and some TME trans people (not mutuals to be clear), it can really feel like I’m treated as an exciting deviant archetype, this hypersexual fantasy dickgirl more than a human person with a human penis and human preferences.

and that interplays with being fat, like. being a fat transfem, it feels like i’m treated as a failure not just as a human being but as a sex object? like i can’t win. i’m fat and don’t like being penetrated, so i fail at being someone’s femboy waif. i’m particular about my kinks and who i engage with, so i fail at being someone’s sexy m*mmy dom or a walking dildo with a pair of tits.

half the transfem positivity posts on this site are thinly veiled objectification. it’s nice sometimes, i like being lusted after, but there’s gotta be more to allyship than a lack of saying anything cruel. we notice what nice stuff you say, and what subjects you won’t ever touch. we fucking notice.

#ask to tag

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miggfo · 1 year

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Cis Yet Not Cis: The possible intersection of GNC identities and being trans/nonbinary, and misconceptions about GNC people

Introduction

I think the best way to introduce this post is to simply present a variety of often-conflicting quotes from LGBTQ people about "gender nonconforming" people(like butch women and femboys):

"Femboys can take off being a femboy at any time, unlike trans people."

"The character expressed gender euphoria at being perceived as masculine, so they have to be transmasc, not just GNC"

(a butch woman speaking) "My initial reaction to getting called cis is to cringe... cis is viewed as the opposite of trans, so it implies I'm comfortable with conforming to my gender"

(a trans woman speaking) "What is the material difference between me and my HRT femboy friends?"

"If you take away lesbianism from being butch, then all you have left is dressing differently."

"GNC people are not queer, queer is only if your identity or sexuality differs, and GNC people are cis"

"Nobody is assigned femboy at birth- they're essentially trans."

"Theres a long history of some butch women getting dysphoria for not being masc enough, sometimes going on HRT or getting top surgery."

"Femboy is only an aesthetic descriptor, it has nothing to do with identity"

“We never see him dress masculine, he's ALWAYS dressing fem, so how can he just be GNC?”

These quotes, and many others, reflect varied, conflicting perceptions of gender nonconforming people among even some trans people. So I suspect that a significant percentage of LGBTQ people have a flawed understanding of GNC people, and so I wanted to make this post. I think most of you basically get it but since I see some weird statements every now and then so i figure it may be helpful to convey this breadth a bit better, and that may help solidify it for some people.

(Also, to clarify a definition: I'm using "gender nonconforming" here to mean "someone who's gender expression doesnt match society's conception of their gender identity", ie butch women, femboys, tomboys, etc. As far as I can tell, this is a relatively recent definition for GNC. It has been heavily adopted as the primary definition in many LGBTQ circles(probably because of the vacuum it fills), but theres still people who use the term as an umbrella term for trans+nb+etc(which seemed to be the meaning before the recent shift) or people who use it to mean something like genderfuck, so I felt I should clarify.)

Expression and Breadth

A source of the disparity in the quotes above is that GNC identities involve something like a spectrum. For example, for male-identifying cis femboys, you could lay out a demonstrative spectrum something loosely like:

1)A femboy who is arguably gender conforming outside of the fact that he enjoys the aesthetics of dressing fem. It has no emotional importance to him, he can "take it off" at any time, and his conception of identifying male has not changed much.

2)A femboy who is only modestly attached to being a boy(demi?), but doesnt identify as being a woman nor feels a particular pull towards nonbinary conceptions either. Feminine gender expression is important to him(cant "take it off" without emotional harm), much moreso than what gender he identifies as. His conception of male identity is loose.

3)A femboy who's combination of feminine gender expression and identifying as male is important to him. His conception of male identity has changed a lot from what was given to him by society.

4)A femboy who is very similar to 3), but has a much stronger need to be feminine and be perceived that way, going so far as to go on hrt to feel expressed and fulfilled. His conception of male identity has changed drastically from what was given to him.

These are just loose examples(multi-attribute things dont map cleanly to a linear spectrum anyway, the point is to just demonstrate some things), and of course there are those in between each point. I also suspect a significant % of femboys are somewhere between 2 and 3- feminine expression is important to them, theyve opened up their concept of male identity a lot but are also kind of winging it(which is fine) and are more attached to femininity than male identity, and just have some movement towards certain values in reaction to things like gender restrictions and toxic masculinity.

You can of course construct this sort of demonstrative spectrum for other gnc identities like tomboys, men who identify as gnc but not feminine, gnc people who specifically value a mix(tbh a lot of femboys are like this), etc.

This illuminates a few things especially when viewed alongside conceptions of being trans. For example, theres a difference between:

-simply having "gender expression" without it having emotional importance to you

-gender expression being indirectly important to perception as a gender identity(like being seen as masculine as a vehicle to being seen as a man)

-gender expression being important as perception of a more specific gender identity(like being seen as a masc woman, not just a woman, not just masc, and certainly not a masc man or a feminine woman- the whole picture is key)

Part of why I bring that up is because some people seem to think that expression is only a tool to reinforce/convey identity, rather than sometimes an inseparable part of what's important to someone. (Also, just to mention: gender expression isnt just clothing.)

Another thing the demonstrative spectrum points to is breadth. The quotes at the top of this post pretty much all focus on a subset of this breadth of gnc people. Because of that, that makes some of the quotes flat out wrong(because they only imagined that identity as a specific thing- or are just stupid) and others just sound odd when you dont realize the part of the range they're talking about. Most GNC identities are fundamentally quite broad, partially because they point to a "mismatch" between identity and expression, but expression serves multiple different purposes as mentioned, and thus these identities are naturally broad.

Labels and Conceptions

Now, imagine the above spectrum, but broaden it from "cis male-identifying femboys" to "cis men". Now you have some gender-conforming men at the start of the list. Or do the same with a list for women, from gender-conforming women to butch women.

Having those side by side in the same list brings us to the next question: Do the gender nonconforming people have the same conception of their gender as the gender conforming people? Do they have the same "gender identity"? Is a butch woman the same "gender identity" she was assigned? Is identifying as a woman the same for a gender-conforming woman as for every butch woman who deeply needs to be perceived as masculine? Obviously, there’s some relation, but what counts as “the same gender identity”?

Before I continue on this, theres often some assumptions that go into "Trans" and "cis", such as:

-Being trans means having explored what gender means to you, having worked through discomfort with whats assigned to you and restrictions, and having thought about what resonates with you

-Being trans means gender divergence has a special importance to you

-Cis is thus often positioned as the opposite of these- hasnt thought about gender, hasnt self-realized, hasnt worked through discomfort on restrictions etc

-Gnc people are cis, and therefore etc etc

Again, like that quote above from a butch woman: "My initial reaction to getting called cis is to cringe... cis is viewed as the opposite of trans, so it implies I'm comfortable with conforming to my gender."

For a lot of gnc people(i dont know what %, of course, and have biased assumptions based on the communities im exposed to), their conception of their gender identity is about as shifted from their AGAB's gender conception as a nonbinary gender. But the fact that they use the same label(and probably still have some type of conceptual connection with their AGAB) obfuscates this shift, it obfuscates that they mayve gone through introspection etc. Questioning, exploring and understanding your gender identity doesnt just mean going from two identities with visibly different labels, but also includes going between two identities that have the same label(woman->(butch)woman)

Reconstructing a house can involve as much work and decisionmaking as moving into a new house. The ship of theseus, except gender. Virtually no boy is assigned a conception of manhood that can include being a femboy, nor needing to be perceived as feminine. That is a fundamental change they made/something they discovered while self-investigating, and those different needs demonstrate the differences. If a GNC person cant "just take off" being GNC because it makes them dysphoric/upset/deprives them of gender euphoric feelings, that points to the change and the pursuit of that different conception, and is hardly different from, say, nonbinary genders. Just as there are nonbinary fems who are close to indistinguishable in behavior/needs from very fem women but in a nonbinary identity, theres the same for male-identifying fems.

The "Nobody is assigned femboy at birth" quote initially took me aback because it sounds silly to even say, and while the phrasing could perhaps be better there's definitely a point: Nobody gets assigned very GNC conceptions, they dont start with that, even if you put clothing aside.

Of course, this doesnt mean all GNC people have a different conception of their gender than genderconforming people- again, the demonstrative spectrum before. Some GNC men still harbor toxic masculinity. You cant usually tell from outside signals what a person has thought about with their identity or what their needs are- this is true for every group. And sometimes change is not consciously thought out. But in any case I do think a considerable % of, for example, “cis” femboys basically reshape what being male identifying means to them and are essentially a form of nonbinary/genderqueer.

In general on this topic, I think this comic from https://somethingaboutlemonscomic.tumblr.com/post/678523447463313408/4x10-4x11-4x12-last-update-chapter is relevant:

Conclusion

Ultimately, my main points are:

1)i think some people need a bit more understanding that “gnc” and gnc terms like femboy are pretty broad categories and include some people who have extremely similar needs to trans people, as well as people who are just average cis people with different fashion, and everyone in between.

2)Cis and trans have multiple meanings that are positional/relative- see nonbinary people who hesitate to use trans depending on context, because they associate it with "having gone through a lot of things binary trans people are associated with going through". Similarly, GNC people can have an awkwardness with being called trans even if they have in mind everything i've said about being called cis. Being called trans is assumed to be like girl->boy/enby, rather than girl->genderqueer alteration of girl. Both terms can be perceived as off.

3)Gender identity changes can keep the same label, which can mask the degree of change inside those gender conceptions

This post may come across as like “many gnc people should count as nb and/or as trans”, and maybe, but honestly I don't care much about that, those words are fairly contextual and multi-purpose anyway and have moved so much over the years. That’s only perpendicular to my points of trying to convey GNC people more accurately and move past some assumptions.

In any case, if the fact that i'm walking near that claim is Wrong and Concerning im totally open to criticisms of my thought process etc, and i absolutely dont intend to conflate, say, “gnc people who just dress different but its not related to their feelings/self-conception/etc” with trans people or nonbinary people let alone the degree of their struggles/oppression, which is part of why its necessary to convey that gnc people are a range.

Like Shel said in https://cohost.org/shel/post/1221440-some-wisdom-about-be , people tend to get very confident in their specific experience of lgbtq communities etc, and similarly can get overly confident in what an average person is like. So I just caution you to be aware of the limitations of your own circles and small data sets. Like if youre about to say something like “all the people I know are <>” then you should probably immediately tread with caution because it seems to me that gender groups are usually considerably heterogeneous in many ways.

A few clarifications and misc comments:

-I definitely understand that cis GNC people have privileges that usually help them avoid some problems trans people face. Like being able to avoid a higher amount of bioessentialist ire, less likely that medical gatekeeping prevents them fulfilling their needs, etc. I dont mean to downplay that. But I do want people to understand things like that butch women have faced intense hatred for a long time, and some of the most violent hateful fascist comments I have ever seen on the internet have been directed at femboys- these things point to important dynamics of how right wing hatred works.

-I used the terms butch/femboy predominantly in this post because I felt like they quickly convey the degree of GNC i'm talking about, but I dont mean for them to monopolize conceptions of GNC. Talking about GNC people is always messy compared to, say, talking about agender people. With "agender", afaik(correct me if I'm wrong!) almost noone who would be classified as agender dislikes the term and also it is very clearly about them specifically- it is both sufficiently broad and specific. In contrast, "GNC" is pretty vague, "Femboy" doesnt cover all very gnc men(such as ones who dont consider their expression to be fem), and "Butch" has very particular connections with lesbianism, etc. Terminology is currently avoidably sloppy for describing GNC people, no way to avoid it.

-As alluded to at a few points, you dont have to be male identifying to be a femboy, although thats usually who uses the label. An accurate, inclusive definition of femboy would be "someone with a very feminine gender expression but still aligned with a mix of masculinity in some way(ie usually, identifying as male)". Somewhat similarly, butches are definitely not exclusively women, I was just focusing on that subsection of butches for the purposes of this post.

-Theres simply a huge overlap between the experiences of, say, fem trans women and fem gnc men and fem enbies.(and the same for the masc inverse) Theres a tendency to see a set of experiences and go "Oh! Same identity as mine!!!!" and not see whats shared across different identities rather than is particular to a single identity. Seriously the experience overlap is fucking enormous.

-The positioning of 2) in that spectrum is partially arbitrary but thats what you get when you try to map 4+ things to a 2 dimensional spectrum

-"Genderqueer" can be used to convey the meaning of "having a 'queer' version of your cis gender", but its has a ton of meanings and is very often used to just mean "nonbinary/trans", so its pretty impractical to try to use it to mean specifically that concept

-I focused on cis gnc people to make my points and comparisons more clear(isolating the focus to GNCness), but a lot of what I said is relevant to understanding trans gnc people, who are extremely based

#gender #femboy #femboys #butch #transgender #trans #nonbinary #lgbtq #gnc

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powerviolence-princess · 5 months

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recently ive been having conversations about sex in games, and by having conversations i mean getting accused of being a puritan by 19 year olds any time i express a critical thought about a game that has depictions of sex in it. most recently i was bemoaning that the vast majority of games where sex is the primary focus exclusively feature characters that neither i nor any of my friends can see ourselves in. my primary complaint was that no characters in any of these games ever seem to be hairy or fat, and when trans women are present they are always of the Cis-Passing™ and/or conventionally attractive variety. i know the usefulness of both these phrases can be debated eternally but im just gonna hope people know what i mean when i say this.

after spending 30 minutes trying to convince younger trans women that i in fact enjoy sex and like to look at porn, i just wish i could see anything other than supermodels and hips too wide to fit through doorframes, i received the snarky suggestion that i should "look literally anywhere other than steam". in addition, it was suggested that my biggest problem is that i dont play visual novels, because that is apparently where most queer representation in video games can be found.

it may have been delivered in a snarky way but it was a good suggestion, the steam storefront is a fucking nightmare, i havent tried a new visual novel in a good long while, so why not try my luck. the specific suggestion i received was to go to itch.io, as that website is, according to this group of young trans women, dominated by queer creators.

now my very first observation was that the site is not, in fact, dominated by queer creators. it is dominated by skibidi toilet low poly analog horror games that look completely unappealing. but, in the interest of good faith, i wont wield that as a gotcha. instead i will just punch in the tags "LGBT" and "Dating Sim", so that i can experience the absolute wealth of body positive interactive erotic experiences that apparently flood this website.

well, page one is just not the strongest start. but yet again, lets be fair, ive been automatically directed to the "popular" games. lets sort by "most recent" instead, an unfiltered look at what comes through this site.

i dont mean to be difficult, but it appears im still largely getting buff furry men, skinny anime people, and CGI porn stars. let me go completely out of my way to try to give the benefit of the doubt, i am going to sort through games and only address games that are explicitly erotic and explicitly queer.

just for a second, let me be sincere and say that my goal here is not to point out and mock or shame individual queer creators on the merits of the representation present in their independently developed dating sims. nobody is perfect, no one creator or even team can ensure every single intersection of identity is represented in their art, this is about broader trends and the snarky response i get when i complain about those trends.

i threw in the 'erotic' tag, enduring and suffering more uses of the words "femboy", "lewd", and "futanari" than any person should ever be forced to, and i was able to find some explicitly queer games! the method i used was opening literally every single individual game page and reading through its description. yes this took a very long time and its all in service of proving a point that a lot of people wouldnt argue in the first place, but i still regularly have to deal with people who do argue it, so this is for them. enjoy blocking me on social media and discord after this i guess.

we are off to a great start, because this game actually has fat characters in it! its a bit too cutesy anime aesthetic for my taste, but thats personal preference, this is absolutely something that qualifies. maybe all i needed was 3 or 4 filters! of course that is not true because there were several generic hentai games ahead of and behind this one, but first row on the first page, im going to remain positive.

after this we immediately start hitting duds. femboy baristas, bodybuilder physiques, high poly hairless porn star physique CGI women, all of these games explicitly mention that they feature LGBT, queer, or gay relationships. now i know i said i wasnt aiming to mock individual games, but i cannot resist the urge to draw attention to "The Date on Elm Street", a game that features a yassified freddy krueger.

we march on. moe yuri girls who are allegedly adults, skinny college boys, you get the idea. i may have found one game with body diversity among the character designs but i still havent found anything that i feel i can see myself in. gonna have to buckle up and dig for a while i guess.

brief aside, i am judging these games based on scrolling through every available screenshot, teaser, and trailer uploaded to their page. it is entirely possible there could be characters i dont know about that are bangable within these titles, but if that is the case there is still the issue that all of the promotional material exclusively features hot skinny anime people.

for all this effort i walk away with one (1) game that could possibly qualify as being a queer, body diverse dating sim. there were a few dating sims meant for gay men that had a single fat character present, but when theyre lost amongst all the flawless twinks and bodybuilders i hesitate to afford credit.

however. i am leaving out a game i was directly recommended. Hardcoded.

that is not promising. its the only character depicted in screenshots aside from a one eyed cat and this person

but i have to assume that these are not the only characters in this game, so i am actually going to download and play it, seeing as it was recommended to me in relation to the topic of lack of diversity in sex focused games.

total aside here, this feature left me guessing. is the sex in this game rpg style random encounters? i have to assume that if youre not interested in men, you could simply avoid trying to fuck any of the male characters. maybe after playing for a bit this checkbox will make more sense.

im starting to suspect that most people consider the presence of a single fat person to be Body Positive. REITERATING, i am not trying to give this developer in particular a hard time and i am absolutely not encouraging anyone else to, this game is cute so far, im glad there is a game like this starring a trans character, we're just sticking to my original complaint.

im gonna save bandwidth (and my blog from the fate of a mosaic avatar) by not posting any further screenshots, there is a character with wide hips, the character with the prosthetic arm, and the hyper tits sex droid as far as any deviation from conventionally attractive skinny people goes. im just now realizing this post is formatted like a somethingawful lets play, humiliating. anyway the conclusion i came to is that when i complain about the lack of fat hairy dykes and trans people who are Visibly Trans™ in erotic video games i am indeed completely justified because even queer produced erotic video games do not seem to have these things. im right, everyone else is wrong, goodnight.

#long post #like a long ass post

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goblinofthelaboratory · 3 months

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oc dump; long post

The Everon Family:

lil found family with convoluted backstories. v intersectional so maybe im getting stuff wrong but im doing my best to show their pain while still letting them enjoy their life together.

they're all more or less colour coded because it's easier that way, i have detailed ideas of what they look like but picrews are easier and if i try to put them down on paper i will try to burn the evidence of my failure

Qatir, often called Qat(kat). He is a second generation american of syrian descent, attended med school on scholarships and is a resident neuropathologist. The accident that killed his parents(cliche i know) damaged his spine and revealed very early stage degenerative disk disease. He regularly uses various mobility aids. He's also very friendly, plus-sized, and a femboy.

Yelisavetta, often called Lisya(Leesyuh). She is a Russian immigrant of Mongolian heritage. Her parents immigrated with her when she was 14, and becoming more acutely aware of her transness. She remains stealth for safety reasons. Lisya is quiet and reserved, but quite sympathetic and kind. She is employed as a social worker, and one of the first to reach out to anyone in need. complex PTSD

Celeste, occasionally called "lest" (by close friends). She is proudly Chicana and Deaf. She's used to moving around and not fitting in anywhere, so she decided to fit out. She's fluent in uncountable language varieties, including LSM, ASL, written and spoken standard spanish, standard english, and chicano spanish. She prefers to speak a combined dialect of LSM with ASL. This is the language the other Everons use to communicate with her. She does not use hearing aids because she hates them. She loves stars, and is an edgy femme lesbian. also works as an accountant because she's good with numbers

Brooklyn, often called Brooke. She was born n raised in New Orleans, LA and is mixed Haitian-Rromani. She inherited the family restaurant and does her best. She can cook, not coordinate. ADHD combined type. She's very outgoing and sweet, but tends to over extend herself. She loves cooking and is usually in the kitchen experimenting. (her color is green she just steals Eliott's shirts)

Eliott. wet beast. He's Black and grew up in the Deep South, has an angelic singing voice that his parents exploited from a young age. They also encouraged his strong perfectionistic tendencies. He refused to acknowledge the mere possibility of his situation being abusive or himself being bi until the age of 16½, at which point he had an existential crisis. Ever since, he's been recovering from those experiences. Has done extensive research and recognizes himself in OCD, C-PTSD, autism, ADHD inattentive, and severe depression, but doesn't want to claim any for fear that he's just being overdramatic. we all love and value Eliott.

@life-is-okay-rn @mayhem-moth @snailcheeserulz @dandelions-arent-weeds @urlocalsupermarketofendocrinosis

idk who all wants to see this but have at it

#eternal goblin chatter in my brain #my ocs #everon family #eliott everon #brooklyn everon #yelisavetta everon #qatir everon #celeste everon

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vergess · 7 months

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If you had to talk confidently on a subject for two hours, what subject would you pick? And why?

- 💙

Well, I have to do this relatively regularly on long drives to work sites, so my obvious answer is "the intricacies of gender identity, body size, and race as intersecting and overlapping in cultures descended from western Europe."

Because I can fill hours of dead air with long winded rambling about how fat POC aren't allowed to be "femmes" unless they overperform to such a degree as to verge on parody, which of course only fuels the criticism that we're "faking it" and making a mockery of real femininity. And that occurs across gender lines, even. Fat Black femboys get no more respectful a treatment than fat Asian trans women or fat Latina cis women. Every single one is accused of making a joke out of womanhood instead of recognized as genuinely expressing their femininity.

But the hole goes deeper!

Every visual marker of femininity can be met, and still denied. Flowing skirts, bright colors, painted faces, intricate hair.

We can over perform with a sunny disposition, kindness and gentility towards everyone we meet, and we will still be told to our faces that we're too butch, masc, manly, male to participate in femininity.

And that's just one microscopic aspect of the ways these identities overlap in this cultural context.

So yeah, I can fill plenty of talk space with that lol

#Asks #Answered asks #Anonymous

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overfedvenison · 11 months

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Could you talk more about Gwyndolin Dark Souls? What's his(?) deal, and the boobs?

Uhh I suppose Gwyndolin is a secret boss from Dark Souls 1. He is an illusionst who set up the Anor Londo area of the series in it's current form, which imitates the grandiosity it had in it's prime. In truth, most of what you see are part of a grand illusion meant to guide a chosen undead along a path to a chosen end - to succeed Lord Gwyn as the kindling of the First Flame, prolonging the age of light.

A recurring theme in the series is the idea that this world you inhabit is decaying, and clinging on to the embers of a better and more prosperous era. Anor Londo is probably the most obvious reflection of this - presenting itself as though it is still in a golden era, but actually a dark, empty city maintained by the one remaining god in it. And that god is Gwyndolin. Gwyndolin is a son of Lord Gwyn, raised as a daughter because of his affinity for the moon's power in his magic. (The moon being feminine is a well-established thing in both fantasy and real life.) This makes him a literal "Male Daughter;" the literal meaning of "Otokonoko" which is that kind of male crossdresser archetype you see in Japanese media sometimes. I don't THINK he's ever referred to as an Otokonoko explicitly in the Japanese text, but it seems like a logical association, in my mind. I won't delve to deeply into what that means here, but suffice it to say that - although I don't think literally being raised female is actually that much of a thing - that sort of "Crossdresser Lifestyler" concept IS a thing over there, and is not just an anime thing. I see a lot of people asserting that characters like this are just trans characters portrayed incorrectly, but I feel like that is a total misread and disregard for this other concept in favour of western norms.

(Note that although I occasionally see people insisting on feminine pronouns, the game games themselves have never used these though they occasionally use neutral terms and more feminine descriptors like "Goddess." This makes sense, characters like this often use female descriptors paired with male pronouns.)

In any case, there are a number of things which directly tie in to this identity. His affinity for illusions is cool. I feel like it's relatively common on the rare intersections between "Otokonoko/femboy/trap/whatever" and "Fantasy Setting," but I've only really seen that like twice. But, for example, you can see this association as well in Chrono Trigger's Flea

(...Come to think of it, one of my college textbooks was literally called The Illusion of Life. Is there something innate about this connection? Pfft) But it's pretty logical. The crossdressing character has illusions, and among other things it would make him look more feminine. In Dark Souls 3, you can return to Anor Londo. Gwyndolin has been devoured by Aldrich and can be seen in his boss fight. But if you return to his room from the original Dark Souls, you can find this:

It changes your animations to those of the other gender. That's actually such a brilliant thing to add to this game, and implies he needed some help along the way. It's also near-useless to you, but, yeah.

As for the boobs, I think his armor just has boobs. An outfit like that is a lot less uhh, required, to have anatomy under the clothes than you may expect. I can tell you that from experience, haha.

A character wearing it I pulled off of an Oceanhero search ...I have no idea why he has snakes for feet. Like, that's not a Lord thing. I don't think it's ever explained why he's like that. Strange. Maybe they're illusory snakes? Maybe he's like Flea and just looks like whatever he wants too. Aaand, yeah

#femboy

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caffeineandsociety · 5 months

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There is no such thing as a person who is truly "TME".

Yes, people who are not visibly, factually MTF trans women will not experience ALL facets of transmisogyny...but neither will any specific individual trans woman. Yes, because they are the primary, nominal target, trans women will be hit HARDER by transmisogyny than people who are not trans women...on average-

But consider a butch cis woman in sports in a conservative region with gender challenge rules, vs. a well-passing conventionally attractive trans woman office worker in the queerest neighborhood of San Francisco. The former may very well experience more transmisogynistic abuse than the latter! It doesn't mean the latter is unaffected by transmisogyny; it doesn't even mean that, nominally, she's less of a primary target - she IS the person being strawmanned to make the rules used against the athlete, after all - but she isn't the one being hit by the fallout directly in the moment the former is sexually assaulted with no recourse to avoid getting her team fined, now is she?

Consider the differences between the experiences of a middle class, skinny, 6'2" Black trans woman, and a poor, midsized, muscular, 5'6" white trans woman. Both are gonna have an experience with transmisogyny, but they're going to look EXTREMELY different. Both will have things leveraged against them that the other doesn't!

There are experiences of transmisogyny that you won't have if you don't have "male" primary or secondary sex characteristics...but intersex cis women and feminine-leaning people, as well as transmasc drag queens who have had enough done to typically be taken for AMAB, very much exist. There are experiences of transmisogyny that you won't have as a non-op trans woman - society's simultaneous obsession with, and hatred of, vaginas...isn't going to hit you nearly as hard if you don't want to get a vagina. The obsession will hit, in its own unique way, but the hatred will look very, very different to that experienced by someone who wants or obtains one. It may be the reason you decided against it, which is a different experience to if you just truly like having a penis, which is a different experience than having your vagina scrutinized and called a fake, just a fuckhole, which is a different but frequently overlapping experience to having surgical complications ignored until they nearly kill you because whatever, ALL vaginas are nasty stinking festering wounds anyway, right? There isn't a SINGLE experience of transmisogyny that isn't racialized - even aspects where the broad strokes are the same will have different details depending on race, ethnicity, nationality, location, and how all those factors intersect.

Meanwhile, there are people who are not trans women who will be scrutinized for looking too much like men to present as femininely as they do - mostly but not exclusively BIPOC. There are cis women being sexually assaulted to Prove They're Really Women. There are intersex babies being forcibly made into "girls", and more fortunate intersex adults undergoing consensual vaginoplasty, who will often face the very same medical neglect and social judgment as trans women undergoing the same procedure (or, frequently, their own flavor thereof, for that matter (realize again that it's easier to have it done on a baby who cannot consent than on yourself as an adult!)). There are femme trans men and nonbinary transmascs and people on the butch-transmasc cusp and more, years into transition and passing for AMAB, as well as AMAB nonbinary people all over the not-a-woman spectrum and cis femboys and drag queens, being asked to make the same choice between authenticity and safety from other people's potentially violent judgment that many non-passing transfems are. There are intersex cis women, butch cis women, BIPOC cis women, even just tall cis women with broad shoulders, being ejected from bathrooms for looking too much like men, getting beaten for being too Manly to REALLY be women, having their anatomy speculated on by strangers. There are cis people of both recognized binary genders being threatened to coerce them to continue to perpetuate the worst of patriarchy, or be "accused" of being a closeted trans woman with all the hate that entails - "what, you're not going to bully the weird tomboy with us? You don't recoil in terror when your 5-year old daughter wants to paint your nails? Ooooh, I bet you like those things...because you're secretly Like That, aren't you!?" All of this, too, is transmisogyny!

You can't disentangle transmisogyny from "regular" misogyny, from patriarchy, from binarism, from white supremacy. These are systems of control that impact EVERYONE. They are authoritarian - they perpetuate themselves by force and by threat. Some people are impacted harder than others, but NOBODY, and I mean NOBODY, is truly exempt.

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femboyflowerfae · 2 years

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🍬☘️🐇 intro:

🌸 Hi, I’m Nellwyn! (pronouns are he/they/fae/bun)

I follow from @0th3rw0rldly-art

rb to be mutuals

💚 Likes/interests:

(Italicized + bolded = special interest or major hyperfixation)

making visual art (traditional and digital)

singing, songwriting/recording, playing guitar

fantasy media + worldbuilding

animated media

learning about visual art/design and fashion through history

queer history and culture etc

dream/indie pop

eclectic pagan witchcraft (more about my practice below)

fairy tales and folklore/mythology

vaporwave (music + aesthetic)

pastel aesthetics

fairy kei

y2k design

light academia

old web finds

fairycore and fairy stuff

art deco/art noveau

iridescent/holo things

crystals

flowers, plants, mushrooms

gardening/horticulture

cooking/food

room decorating and organizing

retro and vintage finds/thrifting

toy/doll/figurine collecting

the beach/seascapes, marine life

comics and manga and visual storytelling in general

1980s new wave/pop/rock music

psychedelic stuff

tattoos and body mods

makeup art and nail art

2000s kid nostalgia

sociopolitical issues (I’m an anarchist)

💚 Fandoms/media:

Animated media in general, Studio Ghibli (especially Howl’s Moving Castle!), Stardew Valley, Good Omens, The Good Place, Lord of the Rings, Over the Garden Wall, Avatar the Last Airbender/Legend of Korra, Our Flag Means Death, Pose fx, Moon Knight, Merlin, Gravity Falls, Queer Eye, MCU, What We Do In The Shadows, Sanrio, Steven Universe, The Umbrella Academy, Stranger Things, Euphoria, Derry Girls

💚 Music:

The Cure, Lil Nas X, Tyler the Creator, Jack Stauber, Will Wood, Ricky Montgomery, Led Zeppelin, Glass Beach, The Smiths, Kate Bush, Tally Hall, Depeche Mode, Wham!, Tame Impala, Marina Diamandis, Nirvana, 100 Gecs, The Beatles, Candy Claws, Arctic Monkeys, Tears for Fears, Macintosh Plus, All Time Low, Mitski, Dorian Electra, PinkPantheress, Dayglow, Ashnikko, Kero Kero Bonito, Mother Mother, Blackbird Raum, Crystal Castles, Beach House, Puzzle, etc

💚 Other stuff

I am one of several cohosts/frequent fronters of a diagnosed DID/plural system.

fave colors: green, pink, pastels

ESFJ, enneatype 9-2-6

genderqueer/androgyne femboy, gay/queer/sappho-achillean (gay for all genders 🤷), polyamorous, arospec

Neurodivergent (moderate support needs autistic/ADHD/etc) and physically disabled

Anarchist leftist (anarchocommunist?) with a focus on intersectionality

from the southern USA

Anti fascist, anti capitalist, anti imperialist, pro landback, pro prison/police abolition, pro choice, anti-white supremacy, anti-racist, ACAB, pro queer inclusivity (of all good faith identities including the “contradictory” ones), pro queer liberation, pro disabled liberation, pro neurodiversity, pro BLM, pro intersectional feminism, pro protecting the environment, anti transmedicalism

💚 Witchy stuff

Eclectic pagan witch (not a baby witch, but I’m also nowhere near an expert)

I do a mix of kitchen magic, natural witchcraft, elemental magic, traditional witchcraft, folk magic, sigilcraft, spellwork, tarot, spirit work, spoonie witchcraft etc. Lately trying to learn about various practices under the Celtic umbrella, Hellenic polytheistic practices, and Appalachian folk magic.

Deities I’m interested in: Apollo (primary deity), Hestia, Dionysus, Aphrodite, Persephone, Artemis, Demeter, Gaia, Hekate, Aine, Cerridwen, the Dagda, Lugh, Brigid, Cernunnos. I’m also interested in working with various nature spirits + other spirits/entities.

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wizardyuri · 8 months

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The cool thing Abt transmisogyny discourse is that I have to sit here and watch both sides fucking escalate themselves into oblivion because the dumbest voices are always the loudest, like I'll sit there and nod my head when somebody is talking about the unique intersection of transphobia, misogyny and homophobia that builds the foundations of transmisogyny and then someone in the comments will claim that all use of the term femboy, even as an identity by femboy, is a slur and transmisogynistic and then on the otherside I have to watch bitches claim that there is no such thing as transmisogyny and that it's just transphobia despite the clear and unique oppression of trans feminine identities(most notably that sports board ruling where 3 trans men were on the council and decided to oppress trans women)

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mike-for-later · 10 months

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Tag Masterpost (under construction)

Note: Not all tags are used consistently

Social Justice and Feminism:

social justice intersectional feminism anti radical feminism pop feminism men's liberation patriarchy terfism antimasculism toxic masculinity toxic femininity positive masculinity mra (anti men's rights activism) transmisogyny bio essentialism gender essentialism sexism misogyny homophobia queerphobia lesbophobia biphobia panphobia aphobia arophobia transphobia transmisogyny exorsexism intersexism transmultiphobia butchphobia femmephobia oppositional sexism anti transmed (anti) gender abolition gender liberation gender socialization social construct trans unity baeddelism "tme/tma" trans in sports intersex in sports rogd mspec lesbian slurs femboy "non men" "women and fems" the will to change (book quotes) politcal lesbianism morality purity culture respectability exclusionism cringe culture reproductive justice pro kink sex positivity sex ed pro sex work sex work anti swerf bodily autonomy body positivity body neutrality body shaming fatphobia

#masterpost

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edoro · 1 year

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thinking about my OCs... thinking about Jackson... thinking about his gender

(under a cut bc it’s long)

he is very nonbinary and for him the most importance gender space that he dwells within is not between or outside of male/female, but rather the intersection of those

and that applies in a number of different ways. his identity is all about the juxtaposition of variously gendered traits to create an ambiguous and at times contradictory whole, something that other people don’t immediately understand, something that doesn’t seem ‘right’, that does not easily fit into any established category.

so this is why he feels drawn to terms like ‘femboy’ or ‘girlboy’ - he likes ‘nonbinary’ too but it doesn’t feel quite as rooted in the apparent contrast/contradiction as he’d like. even more insulting words like ‘shemale’ or ‘he/she’ are things that feel quite fitting to him, they feel like they encapsulate what he feels like he is.

his specific identity and the outward trappings of it (presentation, pronouns, etc) are often very reactive and situationally dependent too. at first he’s coming from a lifetime spent being pushed into a very narrow and restrictive mold of masculinity, and the only escape he’s ever offered is an even more restrictive mold of femininity that comes with even less personhood; he rejects the latter and miserably tries to conform to the former, but is frequently abused for not being successful enough at it. part of this includes a very bland type of unremarkably masculine presentation.

as he starts experimenting more with his gender and presentation, he starts getting more fem - growing his hair out, wearing cuter clothes, edging gradually and gradually more towards more and more feminine types of clothing such as skirts and dresses and stuff - and especially in the beginning when he’s still perceived as male and coming from this very masculine type of presentation, it’s important to him to lean into outward markers of femininity to get that contrast.

so he’s performing this specific outward appearance of femininity which appears to contradict certain other things about him that mark him as ‘male’, such as his voice and face and body shape - this is something that he would probably describe as ‘being a boy but in a girl way’ - most people who aren’t either conscientious allies or trans themselves are going to see him as simply an effeminate man, and he’s still trying out this social space and seeing how it feels to put it on, seeing how it feels to be seen that way.

at times like that, people who DO refer to him as a girl/woman or use she/her pronouns for him in public definitely give him a thrill, because his perception is that they know he’s going for something other than what people would assume - and because at that point he’s very likely to get read as male, people deliberately referring to him differently feels very good

later on, as he gets more comfortable with his feminine expression and with living in that area of ambiguity, that place that shifts shape from moment to moment and encounter to encounter, this might change - he might end up more in the area of being a girl, but in a boy way - having long hair, visible breasts, a feminine body shape, but then choosing to do things like leave his legs unshaven in a sundress or shorts, and electing not to do any type of voice training, so that those markers of femaleness which would cause people to more reliably gender him as female out in public are contrasted with markers of maleness that lend ambiguity, that make people unsure, that put him once more into an in-between, both-at-once space

by default he uses he/him pronouns, and he especially likes doing this again as a contrast to when he dresses and presents very femininely and has been on hrt long enough that the shape of his body causes people to gender him as female - the contrast of that feminine body with an apparently unsuitable set of pronouns, leading people to wonder - okay, he’s trans, but in what direction? a trans man? a cis man who likes wearing drag? a trans woman doing some kind of butch thing? he’s clearly NOT butch but - ?

he just thrives there in that place of contrasting identity markers - the clothing and the hair and the voice and the body shape and the face and the way of holding himself and moving through the world, how he chooses to be referred to, how he refers to himself - he’s not a boy or a girl except for when he’s both of those things or when he’s neither of those things or when he’s either of them, but if he’s either of them then he is doing it wrong, that’s the important part, he’s not doing it in the way he’s ‘supposed’ to

and he’s different things for different people - sometimes he’s a feminine boy, sometimes he’s a trans girl, sometimes he’s ???; sometimes he’s a he, sometimes he’s a she, sometimes he’s an exciting mystery.

sometimes he’s Emmy’s girlfriend and they’re having girls night, sometimes he’s Max’s cute faggy fem boyfriend, sometimes he’s his daddy* Morris’s babygirl, and he and Laurence are of course always a reflection and extension of each other, two halves of a whole, each a backwards mirrored image of the other, two things that are the same thing and each half of that thing and each a whole that contains the other...

(*not his actual father but a nice older man who he has a sugarbaby thing going on with and who is very into ddlg)

it’s hard for him to get there, because he starts off from the position of “i either have to be a boy or i have to be a girl” and further having such a narrow understanding of what either of those means, but the more he talks about it with Emmy and just watches the way she and Max both do gender, the more he realizes there are so many more options and he can just do whatever he wants, and the more he realizes that what he wants is, actually, the thing that’s been used as a reason to hurt him for so long: he wants to do it ‘wrong’.

the spot where a boy becomes a girl and a girl becomes a boy and a person must be scrutinized and dissected for signs of what they are, all the tells tallied up to try to fit them into a category, and the space within that spot where the evidence isn’t sufficient either way or there is something so glaringly contradicting it must be addressed - that’s where he wants to live.

#jackson #<-blorbos from my brain #nerd polycule #oc gender stuff #he is so important to me truly... what if a boy was a girl who was a boy who was a faggot who was a dyke who was a babygirl #jackson's gender is 'whatever you think he isn't allowed to be'

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