Stay With Me (2023) - 哥哥你别跑 - Whump List

List by StayDandy Synopsis : Su Yu, a high school student who lives a simple life with his father, faces a major change when his mother remarries a wealthy man, introducing him to his step-brother Wu Bi. Despite their initial differences, Su Yu being a cold and arrogant top student, while Wu Bi is an unreasonable underachiever, their relationship takes an unexpected turn. As they gradually warm up to each other, their bond grows stronger. However, when a heated fight arises, their true identities are revealed… (MDL) AKA : Addicted | My Family Won Lottery | Innocent Playmates | Brother, Don't Run

Whumpee : Wu Bi played by Xu Bin (left) • Su Yu played by Zhang Jiong Min (right)

Country : 🇨🇳 China Genres : Life, Youth, School, Friendship, Family, Censored Adaption, BL / Boys Love

Notes : This is a Full Whump List • Adapted from the novel "Are You Addicted?" (你丫上瘾了) by Chai Ji Dan (柴鸡蛋) • A remake of Addicted (2016) • I have to say, for a Censored Adaption, especially now-a-days, it had more BL moments than I would've guessed ... nothing near Thai BL level, or even SK, but still, more than I anticipated - in a good way! • It ends on a freakin cliffhanger!!! BUT, according to the MDL comments at least, it's been granted a 2nd season!! 🤞

Episodes on List : 7 Total Episodes : 24

*Spoilers below*

04 : Su Yu has a nightmare

07 : Wu Bi is punched

11 : (at end) Su Yu beat up

12 : … continued from previous ep. ... Bruised

18 : Waiting all day in the sun … kicked into a fountain … sitting in the rain, shivering … waits outside a 2nd day in a row

19 : Pale … throwing up … sick, hospitalized … stomach-ache

24 : Su Yu & Wu Bi in a car crash, Wu Bi protects Su Yu with his body, gets the brunt of the crash, Wu Bi knocked out, both bleeding.. Su Yu carries Wu Bi to the ambulance, receives chest compressions

A LOOK BACK AT GU HAI & BAI LUO YIN (YIN ZI)

ADDICTED or ADDICTED HEROIN (2016, CHINA)

A lot of BL's recently ended.

My School President

The New Employee

Hit Bite Love

My Beautiful Man Season 2 (UTSUKUSHII KARE)

Never Let Me Go

The Warp Effect (Not Exactly BL but...)

Moonlight Chicken (Ends Tomorrow Though I'm Waiting To Binge so haven't seen any episodes yet.)

So here I'm going back to where my BL journey began with the story (unfinished in my opinion but it never will be) of step brothers Gu Hai & Bai Luo Yin (JOHNNY HUANG & TIMMY XU)

it drives me nuts how much suffering we force people to go through to meet some arbitrary idealized standard vs something that'd actually help. they're making my 60 yr old mom with fibro take pain management classes because they're too scared to put her on the prescription pain meds that she was already on before. i just read about someone with adhd talking about how the only med that works really well for them without making them depressed when it wears off or causing anxiety is desoxyn but doctors are too afraid to prescribe it to them because it's technically methamphetamine. the drug war is a complete burden on society

Stay With Me | OFFICIAL TRAILER

Chinese Drama - 2023, 24 episodes

Airs: Jul 7, 2023 - Aug 12, 2023

Addicted re-told as a Bromance/Friendship. Honestly I don't care that this isn't explicit like the original, just happy to see the story adapted once again.

Btw how was your first time on heroin? When? Where? Why? With whom?

I think I have told this story before on my blog but here’s the loooongggg version. So in 2016 I started a new job and one of my coworkers was a friend from high school I used to “party” with a lot back in the day. I don’t wanna blast her business all over the internet so I’ll just call her R. R & I rekindled our friendship quickly, we would get off work late, around midnight, and I would always go back to her place to hang out. She lived a house with a bunch of roommates, I think there was like seven maybe? It was like a mix between a trap house and a hostel, people were always coming and going and there was lots of drugs around. Her and I had done pills together in HS, and started dabbling in them again. For about a year both of us were able to keep somewhat of a handle on things but one of her roommates was a heroin addict and she tried it a couple times with him. I knew what she was doing and initially told her it was a bad idea but I was also using pills more and more, to the point I would have very mild withdrawal symptoms ( I wouldn’t even call it dopesick because I could still function, I was just super uncomfortable.) For some background, I was living with a long term partner who worked at the same place as R and I, despite this R & I started hooking up on a regular basis (yes, I’m a terrible person and I do not condone cheating) This is what I consider the start of my so called “spiral into addiction.” I kinda knew it was inevitable that I would end up trying dope but I held off for a few months after R started using it regularly with her roommate. I can’t remember why I eventually gave in but it was around October that I told R to get a couple bags for after work. We went back to my apartment as my partner was working a night shift and wouldn’t be home until morning. I think I started with half a bag, sniffed it then waited a half hour and sniffed the other half. It felt amazing but I also got extremely nauseous and threw up several times. I don’t know how to describe it because I felt simultaneously the best I had ever felt in my life but also like I could puke at any second. R and I stayed up until 5 am talking about who knows what, just dumbass high rambling probably but I remember thinking at the time she was my soulmate(she most definitely is not) then she went home and I sniffed another half a bag. By the time my partner got home I was puking again but I claimed I had “food poisoning.” I nodded out for a few hours before meeting up with R and getting another bag before work. Within a few weeks I was physically dependent on heroin, I used IV for the first time on NYE and by February I was a full time IV user.

I can't reblog it for some reason, but regarding a thread about how awful Mao is and how his policies killed a hundred billion people, I think this is significant.

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DETROIT — Another country that once had an addiction problem—one that lasted for almost 200 years and involved an incredible 25 per cent of its population—is China.

Today China is virtually drug‐free— and the methods the Chinese used to eradicate their addiction problem might well offer methods we could use to achieve the same results.

China was forced into addiction by the Opium Wars. Contrary to popular belief, these wars—from 1839 to 1842 —did not originate because China wanted to export opium. They began when China resisted England's demand to import opium in exchange for Chi nese products—mostly tea, silk, and porcelain. China lost these wars, and among other indignities was forced to exchange its goods for opium. As a result it became a highly narcoticized country, a victim of ruthless Western economic and political policy. By 1850 an entire fifth of the revenue of the British Government of India — the source of opium — came from Chinese consumption of this drug.

Obviously to enlarge the market for opium, China was forced to create a huge number of addicts. And it did.

In October of 1949 the People's Re public of China was proclaimed. With in a year the Communist Government instituted a comprehensive program designed to eliminate this threat to the nation. All evidence indicates that by 1953 the problem of narcotic drug abuse was practically eliminated.

One important factor was the changed ideology of the young people —no new supply of addicts was forth coming. The changes in outlook in cluded a redefinition of the nation and its youth, of their worth and role. In rural areas this new definition was based on land distribution; collective farming; new educational, social, and vocational opportunities; and the elec tion of local councils. In the cities it took the form of nationalization of commerce and industry, full employ ment, worker control, and the end of foreign domination.

This total ideological transformation of the younger generation was accom panied by the reintegration of Chinese society through small street commit tees that offered cultural leadership.

Equally significant in the Chinese drive to eliminate narcotic addiction were its methods of plugging the source, China is 80 per cent rural, and an unknown but significant part of the land had been turned into poppy cul tivation. The first major economic and political mass campaign of the Gov ernment was land reform, and this aim was coordinated with elimination of poppy growth. Distribution of land from large landholders to landless peasants was accompanied by the need to convert the opium cash crops to badly needed food crops. Today China produces enough opium to meet its medical needs, but no more.

Smuggled opium was still a source of the drug, and China acted to stop this supply with a policy of “carrot and stick.” Leniency was recom mended for employes and workers of opium traffickers; but heavy penalties existed for those controlling the traf fic, manufacture, or growth of opium.

China's attitude toward the individ ual reformed addict was one of good willed congratulations, and represents another important reason why the nar cotic problem was overcome. The re habilitation of opium addicts began with their registration. Arrangements by city‐wide antiopium committees for addict rehabilitation included treat ment to break the habit at home, in clinics and in hospitals.

At every stage of personal rehabili tation the ideological motivation was stressed. Given China's attitudes, this ideology was strong on political, so cial, and economic information. But the important thing is that the anti drug campaign recognized that the de sire and will of the addict is ultimately the controlling factor of addiction. China's policy was not simply to de prive a person of drugs, but to replace the need for narcotics with a forceful, national commitment. Equally signifi cant, the former addict was fully ac cepted back into Chinese life without official stigma or prejudice.

Naturally, many questions have to be answered about the total success of the Chinese experience. Is there an addict population living in labor camps or prisons because of failure to re habilitate? Do the rehabilitated addicts all function as useful members of Chi nese society? To what extent would addiction be a problem in China if its internal and border controls were less stringent? Does traditional Chinese medicine offer useful ideas about ad diction treatment?

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Wikipedia puts the census count in 1950 at 546,815,000, and a quarter of that is 136,703,750. So about that many people saved from opium addiction by the Communists.

I wonder if that's the reason the West wants to focus so much on the famine.

I miss them 🥹

Chinese fentanyl smuggling and Mexico’s disinterest in helping to stem the flow of drugs pouring into our country adds up to a drug crisis of monumental proportions. The Biden administration apparently cares little—and does even less.

ADDICTED (2016, CHINA)

Episode 7

Gu Hai Infiltrates Bai Luo Yin's Home

During a another meal with Bai Luo Yin and his dad, Gu Hai feigns drunkness and falls asleep in Bai Luo Yin's (TIMMY XU) bed.

Gu Hai (JOHNNY HUANG) becomes a regular at Casa Bai.

On August 15 (Chinese Day of Celebration)

Gu Hai brings Bai Luo Yin some moon pie that they share after Gu Hai essentially force feeds Bai Luo Yin.

That evening in bed Gu Hai gets slightly physical with Bai Luo Yin by touching him. Bai Luo Yin moves Gu Hai's hand and moves pass it. But as Gu Hai falls harder for Bai Luo Yin his advances increase.

AUGUST 15: FOR FANS WHO ARE UNAWARE, THIS DAY IS MID-AUTUMN FESTIVAL (MOON FESTIVAL OR MOONCAKE FESTIVAL)

It is a harvest festival celebrated in Chinese culture. Held on the 15th Day of the 8th Month of the Chinese Lunisolar Calendar. The Chinese Believe That Moon is the BRIGHTEST AND FULLEST SIZE...This coincides with harvest time in mid autumn.

So I'm gonna start Stay With Me this week. Things about it:

It's based on the same story as Addicted from what I know. Addicted was a cdrama that was spicy, let's say, I haven't watched that yet (unfortunately) but I have heard about it that Addicted was pretty Overtly BL for a cdrama and had issues with scenes cut/censoring for being as overtly explicit as it was. It was around the same time as Advanced Bravely, which snuck in a full "I love you" but that scene was cut after initial airing, and Advanced Bravely was ended early due to being So Overtly BL.

So right after those type cdrama BL? BL in cdramas turned more into "censored bl bromance." Which could lean anywhere from "this is just regular queer romance just no kissing/sex on screen" a la Guardian and Word of Honor, to "you can't distinctly tell if they meant for it to be queer-but-passed-censorship or just friendship amplified actual bromance" (which I guess would be My Roommate is a Detective, and LORD Critical World type - it's easier to call it actually Only Bromance if there's a canonical guy/girl ship), to "this was based on a queer novel but if I didn't know that I wouldn't realize it was romance" (which I have not personally subjected myself to watching but I'm sure it exists). Most shows did not go as Overt as Addicted and Advance Bravely any more.

I've seen people mention they haven't seen a BL as overt as Stay with Me since The Untamed. While 1 this is nice, I'm also curious if it's actually portraying closer to the even More Overtly BLs from slightly before The Untamed (such as Addicted). So that'll be interesting to see.

And 2 I promise there's a few other dramas As Overtly BL or more than The Untamed, they just aren't brand new (since the past year has been very lacking in censored bl cdramas). But if you aim for Word of Honor airing period or before that, you should be able to find some. As for post Word of Honor? The most likely thing you'll find are shows where if the bromance is strong, you likely cannot quite decide if the show intended only Intense Friendship (bromance) or censored intentional queer romance. (I haven't finished these shows so take me with a grain of salt but Pledge of Allegiance, A League of Nobleman, Desire Catcher, and the new Mysterious Lotus Casebook all are likely to fall in this zone).

So anyway, seeing a show actually adapted FROM a BL where we can be totally sure it IS meant to be BL, being as overtly explicit as it can push to be? Nice to see. Nice to see Stay with Me existing. I'm excited.

playing on very hard difficulty, so I've brought Codsworth along instead of Dogmeat, which i never do, and I know they're polite in intention, but so many of Codsworth's lines are incredibly bitchy if your personal interpretation of your character and Codsworth's relationship is that Codsworth hates their guts

“AHAA!” 疯! (“Feng”)

Old-man, “疯” (“Feng”) Dirt-muddled, with limp, and Atop heat-warped asphalt Peddles wares and screams, “AHAA!” At police, the pride, and streets In between. But only he, could find Solace in a first night’s slumber Amongst the corruption, chaos, And wrath, come Liwan’s neon.

I’d imagined the predicament - A big loss come Mahjong stake And wine-swollen tongue; But the ivory tiles have been Masticated And extract the only explanation - The last loss, and more than wager, Just after, the “Last Supper,” And later cremation, “回家” (“return home”) When the wife fled, Took flight, and the children with her.

As bleak as that midnight may be, It was actually his day, the next, Considering, taxis, vectors, meters, Near centimeters and a miss; Fortitude favoring fender Whilst allowing for one more Skip-or-two, sacrifice or two, Smile or two, whatever or two! One more, “AHAA!”

“AHAA!” So long as, “疯’d” (“Feng’d”) breath. “AHAA!” So the rest of the stories would too. “AHAA!” For the sake of, “Aha!” And “AHAA!” in an echo, years later.

- Hathaway Hayes (2013)