I feel I've just seen the tip of a giant iceberg float scarily close to my boat, but what is the context of 'i hope jakey dies'? Who is jakey and why did his gf (i am assuming) become the target of such awful biphobia?

I’m no expert because I never really got into the joke much, but basically, “I hope Jakey dies” is a meme that started here, making fun of a cringey dynamic some m/f couples have. So don’t worry, Jakey isn’t a real person, just kind of an archetype for an assumedly mediocre “golden retriever”-type cishet boyfriend. Pretty harmless hater brand tumblr humor, basically.

(Honestly, the original post is also where the first red flag kinda popped up for me. The first replies were whatever, but, especially since Jakey is, again, supposed to be an archetype of cishet man, “nonbinary Jakey” to refer to someone’s AMAB nonbinary partner seems. Idk. Telling of how people view AMAB nonbinary people sometimes.)

After that, it kinda just ended up spreading around as a joke here and there, and tbh I kinda forgot about it until that weird Barbie post this ask is in reference to. There’s not much to say about it that hasn’t already been said, but to me, 1) it’s pretty obvious that the original tiktok was either exaggeration or outright bait, and 2) even if it wasn’t, it’s maybe a little cringe, but harmless. But regardless, people are using it to mock (or outright wish harm or death upon) bi women for dating men, or implying that bi women are actually straight and just pretending to be queer (for attention? I guess?). And “I hope Jakey dies” has kinda become the phrase all those folks are spamming ad nauseam. I’ve seen a lot of comments about how people defending the tiktok or calling out the biphobia are just “defending men,” but like. I’m not just seeing things right. This whole thing reeks of misogyny and weird gender essentialism. Because the center of the joke usually isn’t even on the man or “Jakey,” it’s on the woman dating him for expressing that she likes him or whatever.

And also I really hate how people seem to be extremely comfortable with threatening people, or hoping they die or kill themselves, over something that’s “cringe” or somewhat annoying. Like it’s genuinely gross behavior. But idk maybe that’s just me.

So yall remember my Albamita wedding piece (still a wip, actually, but shhh)? Well this is basically the follow up to that: our newly weds simply enjoying each other's company... I wanted to go with something more on the sweet side of things really, so there's nothing much going on here (besides the nudity) but I prefered to be safer than sorry no you guys will have to deal with horse-tenma for now... (may post the uncensored version on twitter at some point, with I do so I'll leave a link for yall).

Since I’ve been putting out so little fanfic content lately (sorry for that), I felt I owed it to ppl to post something rn, even if it’s rough and unfinished. So here: a rough draft of my Kiraboss smut fic (haven’t written any actual smut yet, this is literally just exposition lmao)

Kiraboss silly draft

(CONTENT WARNINGS: internalized homophobia, prostitution, use of term “queer” with negative connotations)

Yoshikage Kira was never known as a man to take many risks—-everything he did was with caution and precision, leaving no loose ends untied. His private interests necessitated this code of conduct, and in general he didn’t mind being cautious; it was worth it for the sake of his peace of mind. Still, sometimes his typical murderous escapades weren’t enough to fill the void inside him—that insatiable hunger, the kind that always came back to him, begging to be fed. And lately, he found himself…hungry, more often than not; he had a girlfriend right now, who he kept in his fridge, and yet he found himself growing tired of her. Something about his usual routine had just become so…dull. It ceased to excite him anymore. However, his libido remained—he was becoming more agitated, and his usual routines of self care and masturbation weren’t working.

Ultimately, the more he meditated on these recent urges, the more he found that he was craving something…different. Something new, something he had never tried before. He felt somewhat ashamed about it, though there wasn’t much reason to—was there? This was okay. This was normal, by comparison to his usual tastes, perhaps. Nonetheless, he felt…uneasy about it. This was abnormal, even by his standards; it was something he couldn’t tell anyone, something socially unacceptable. In this way, he thought it to be almost as troublesome and bad as his habit of killing.

He found himself desiring the touch of a man now. Sometimes at his work, he’d catch himself zoning out, stealing glances at the hands of his male coworkers—one man in particular had caught his fancy. It was agitating, and the urges were only growing—his mind was ravenous, filled with dirty thoughts, fleeting images of attractive men in bed, undressed, ready to devour him.

Finally, after a few weeks of these urges, with no end in sight, he decided he needed to take matters into his own hands. And so he did what many desperate and sexually confused people do: he hired a prostitute. He was hesitant about the decision, but ultimately his hunger and curiosity won over. And besides, surely this was a safer, more private alternative to hooking up with someone random at work or in a club. This way there’d be no risk of people knowing, and no worry of the other party becoming clingy and needy afterwards.

However, needless to say, he was a nervous wreck about it. He’d taken a shower and put on a casual suit, with a loose button up underneath, and was currently fussing with his hair, trying to get it perfect. Did it look okay? Did it look sloppy or shaggy? Did he look like too much of a tryhard, wearing a suit to this? Probably. As ridiculous as it seemed, he desperately wanted to make the perfect impression on this man, whoever he was—Kira wanted to make it clear upon seeing him that he wasn’t some cheap whore or an easy fuck. He wasn’t the type of man to do this sort of thing, and he wanted to make that clear as day through his appearance.

He scrutinized himself in the mirror some more, growing restless. He turned side to side, observing himself from different angles, making sure nothing was off. Were there any loose threads on his pants? Forgotten tags? Old stains? He was checking and rechecking, making extra sure that he was presentable—-he was being paranoid. He knew that this suit was clean, he knew there were no extra threads hanging loose: he always cut off any loose strings or tags as soon as he bought clothing, and he always washed off stains as soon as he saw them.

He sighed, stroking his tie as he looked himself over. Did he look handsome? Was he presentable? Why was he so anxious about this? It was normal, perfectly normal—people had sex all the time. People hired prostitutes. This was good for him: it would clear his head and satisfy those needs that had been bothering him so much.

However, this was unknown territory for him, personally—at age 33, he was still a virgin. This had never bothered him before, considering he wasn’t really attracted to full women in earnest, only their hands. He had no desire for that sort of contact; he was perfectly capable of fulfilling his own sexual needs. Well…at least until recently.

Was he being too needy? Was this pathetic? Desperate? How degrading, to have sex with someone else, he thought—especially another man, of all things. it was so…vulnerable. So revealing. He didn’t like that thought.

He could always cancel the appointment, he figured: surely they’d understand him getting cold feet. He could call it off, and he wouldn’t have to go and everything would be okay and normal.

Nonetheless, he couldn’t help but feel let down at that thought. He was really looking forward to this all week: canceling it would be such a disappointment. And besides, his attention had been too divided by these needs—he was foggy-headed, and his social facade was suffering because of it. he’d only be jeopardizing himself if he prolonged his unmet needs any further.

He closed his eyes, taking a deep breath and sighing, trying to compose himself. It wasn’t a big deal. He would be fine. And besides, this “Diavoli” man, or whatever his name was, had probably seen much worse than his average mug—being a prostitute surely wasn’t an occupation that allowed one to be too choosy.

Killer queen materialized behind him, its arms wrapped gently around his waist. Sometimes it manifested itself when he was stressed, without him summoning it—probably out of instinct, he assumed. It glared back at him in the mirror curiously, tilting its head.

“I know, Queen, I’m being paranoid…It’s not a big deal. I look good, don’t I?” His stand nodded its head fervently, purring in affirmation.

He reached up and scratched its chin, and it purred some more, closing its eyes as it enjoyed the touch.

“Good boy…such a pretty kitty…”

It meowed in response, leaning its head in closer to Kira’s touch.

“Do I look presentable, Queen? Is my hair alright?”

His stand absently nodded, mostly absorbed in the pleasant feeling of having its chin scratched. Besides it’s practical purposes, Kira enjoyed having his stand as a companion: he liked cats, and Killer Queen made for pleasant company. It was never too loud, too needy, too clingy or demanding, like how people were. It didn’t demand conversation or reciprocation: it just enjoyed Kira’s company, simple as that.

He arrived at the agreed upon location, a love hotel that was quite a ways away from his house. That was preferable; the further away, the better—this way it was unlikely for a neighbor or coworker to stumble upon him entering such a risqué establishment. He was so unusually anxious about this: it was unlike him to be so worked up.

It’ll be fine, Kira…you’ll be fine…It’s not that big of a deal…

Except that it was a big deal—a huge deal for him. He was going to lose his virginity tonight—at least, that was the plan, anyway: he had no clue what to expect. Surely he’d make a fool of himself and chicken out last minute: that’s what he was subconsciously betting on. There was so much pressure; it felt like everything was riding on this. It was too much stress for him, and deep down, he was already starting to plan his escape—he was getting cold feet. Nonetheless…a part of him was still curious—very curious. He wanted to do this, he really did—but did he??? He didn’t know. He wasn’t sure anymore. He was used to being absolutely certain in his decisions; he could trust his own judgement more than anyone else’s. He was always cold, logical, calculating, and he had no reason for self-doubt—until now, at least.

And besides all that, he’d already blown a notorious cut of his paycheck on this—it would just be a waste of that cash if he backed out now. He was a frugal man, and he hated the idea of wasting money, even on small things: perhaps this was part of what gave him the balls to follow through, in the end.

As a matter of fact, he’d paid an extra sum for an “everything-included” package—it basically meant he could ask the prostitute to do whatever he wanted, any kind of sex activity, even down to taking a bath together. He felt somewhat ashamed for paying that premium, knowing that it was exploitative of him; certainly customers took advantage of that premium and used it to do unspeakable things to these people. He wasn’t that kind of man, to take sexual advantage of someone—it wasn’t right. Now even he was doubting his own code of ethics, all because of this decision. However, he honestly wasn’t quite sure what he wanted out of this—he’d never had sex before, let alone with a man, of all things. Because of this, he wanted to give himself more options, more leeway, since he didn’t know exactly what he was in for. Maybe he’d ask for a blowjob? A handjob? Kissing, perhaps?

And then there was the actual “sex” part of it…he felt very anxious about that. Part of him was reluctant, but another part of him wanted it. His urges had given him a few “ideas” he wanted to try, but…he felt ashamed about it—guilty, or something. It was a feeling unlike him: he rarely felt guilt or remorse, giving his habit of murdering women for their hands.

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He drove to the specified location, being sure to wear a different suit than usual and to straighten his wavy hair with an iron. He even parted it on the side, which he never did—he couldn’t afford to have people know about this. What would they think? What would they say? He could just imagine the work room gossip—the handsome, aloof, thirty-something bachelor in the office turning out to be a queer…and a whore, at that. Just imagining it was enough to make him sweat. No, he couldn’t have that—his life would be ruined. Maybe he should’ve been more cautious; should've worn makeup, dyed his hair, something like that. His mind was jittery with unease, running through all the things he should have done to be more cautious about this. However, it was no use now—he had no choice but to move forward with this. He wouldn’t chicken out now after all the hassle he’d gone through to get here; no, this was final. He needed this.

And so he exited the car, triple checking that he locked it before feeling at ease. He entered the hotel, and instantly was hit with a wave of embarrassment—the lady at the desk knew what he was doing. She knew he was here to have sex—that’s what these establishments were for, after all. Just that fact alone made him self-conscious. Nonetheless, he steadied his voice as he spoke to her, exuding his usual false aura of suave charisma. He slid her some money, as well as a discreet, black slip of paper with a code number and the agency’s symbol on it. She instantly recognized it and sheepishly slid him the keys to his room, suddenly glancing down and away from him. He sighed, muttered a curt “thanks,” and rushed away to the elevator.

He rose to the fifth floor, made his way to room 512. Anxiously, he stood outside the door, fiddling with his tie and tucking his dress shirt in. Was this a mistake? Did he look stupid? Was he trying too hard? He felt so unusually anxious as he fidgeted and fiddled with his outfit, stalling for time. He wasn’t used to be anxious, for anything—his life was a smooth, controlled machination of events, a scheduled sequence of gears, all turning in synch, not a hair out of place. Even when inconvenoiences or mishaps occurred, they were nothing more than a blip in his existence—a mere annoyance, at best. There was nothing large at stake if traffic was bad or someone spilled coffee on his nice suit—sure, perhaps he’d be scolded a little or have to spend more money, but he wasnt in any danger. His reputation and his peace werent in jeopardy. However, now he wasn’t so sure.

Are you sure about this? You could just turn back now, change your mind—surely the prostitute will be grateful if you did; getting a paycheck, without having to do dirty work. It'd be better for everyone involved. Just go home.

He sighed, turning on his heel to walk away. However, he stopped in his tracks.

But…I already paid for it…I cant undo that. And besides…I’m horny. I want to do it; I really want it. Should I? Is this risky? Is this bad? I’m making a mistake, aren’t I? I shouldn’t have asked for this.

He bit his lip, contemplating.

Still…he seems attractive. What was his name again? Diavali? He seems alright…and he’s very pretty. Especially his hands…

Finally, he mustered up the courage, turning around to knock on the door, three times—that was the instruction given to him upon making this purchase. He swiftly gasped as the door was opened, revealing

day ten :-)

no one cares about them as much as me but by golly do i care them. puts them in Situations

In the wake of what's going on in the world, I see a lot of rhetoric that basically boils down to the idea that everyone has a responsibility to watch every bad thing that's going on in the world all the time. That awareness itself is a responsibility that everyone has always.

I'm not going to say that people do or don't have a responsibility to be aware of things, but I want to talk about how to take care of yourself and others while doing so.

For some context, I spent close to a year and a half reading about every terrorist attack in the world as part of my work on the Global Terrorism Database. It was 2015/2016, so this was the height of ISIS/Daesh, it was a major time for Boko Haram, and it was when there was a lot of political violence that we weren't sure how to classify in places like Yemen, Crimea, and Libya (stuff the GTD didn't know how to classify had all of is information recorded, and then it went into purgatory until someone above my paygrade decided what to do with it). What this means is that I was spending 10-20 hours a week reading about hundreds or thousands of attacks a month and, in my case, recording infomation about the type of attack and the type of weapon. Much of my life was reading terrible things.

Limit what you do in isolation. One of the worst changes for me during that time, mental health-wise (even though it was great for my commute) was when I went from working in-person to working remotely. With other people, there are ways to diffuse the pain. A burden shared is a burden halved and all that. That may mean talking about it, or joking about it, or finding some other way to engage with it that isn't just reading about the most horrible things in the world and then stewing in your own thoughts about them.

Find something to do that's totally unrelated. I highly recommend finding something to do with your hands, if you can (knitting, Lego, cooking, whatever), but regardless of what it is, you should have some time when you entirely switch away to something different. During a fair amount of my time with the GTD, I was also doing my undergrad thesis about terrorism on TV, so a huge amount of my life was about terrorism in some way. The only other thing I watched was Great British Bake Off, and I would just rewatch the episodes, over and over.

Be compassionate about how you share information and with whom. Use trigger warnings, and consider using consistent tagging on places like Tumblr so people can blacklist it if they need to. Also consider whether it's appropriate or necessary to share photos of bodies or other results of horrible violence. What is it accomplishing, to show that? Can that goal be accomplished other ways that don't require the equivalent of jumpscares of unexpected photos of dead or brutalized people? Are you just showing it because you think that everyone should have to see it? If you are showing it, are there ways to mitigate against harm it may do?

Do what you can to avoid an echo chamber. Sometimes, when everyone around you is upset or angry about the same thing, it just amplifies itself, and you all get angrier and more upset in perpetuity without accomplishing anything.

Work towards action. Watching terrible things happen for the sake of saying that you haven't looked away isn't as meaningful as taking action in some way. Write to your Congressperson. Donate. Do whatever is appropriate for the thing you want to stop. But penance via watching terrible things happen doesn't accomplish anything.

Recognize compassion fatigue and do what you can to mitigate it. If you spend long enough doing this, you start to lose context, and you start to become less able to have compassion about things. If you're reading about attacks with dozens or hundreds of deaths regularly, five can start to not seem like that many. If you're reading only about the worst suffering in the world, "lesser" suffering of those around you can start to seem unimportant and petty. Do what you can to mitigate that.

Be kind to yourself. You do nobody any good if you burn out. Look away, if you need to. Take a break. Do things so you can enjoy life, because otherwise you are just another person suffering in the world. Other people's pain isn't a hair shirt for you to wear.

i wanna talk ab this bc i finally feel confident enough to even say anything at all on my weight but lemme go. in hs i felt the most beautiful i ever did at 135 lbs. i’m 5’3”, so that really was the perfect weight for a 17 year old as active as i was, on birth control, and considering everything else in my life. i wasn’t bony, i wasn’t by any means overweight, and i knew it! i’m very very glad i had that experience, too, because after i turned 18 i started dropping weight really quickly. i had sort of slowly tapered off my amount of exercise until it was solely how much i worked everyday and danced every night. by the time i was 19 i was completely underweight at ab 105 lbs. i looked really skinny and a lot of people commented on it. a lot of people also told me they wished they were me. a lot more people told me that. pretty much only my family worried about my weight loss and tried to help by maybe not the best means, but all my friends were envious. and i am absolutely not blaming them, that’s the point of this post actually. they just saw what models looked like and assumed that’s the peak. it’s really not. im not gonna lie, i looked really “good” that skinny! it was the “right” amount of hip bone and the “appropriate” amount of shoulder and collarbone sticking out. and i hate that now. i hate it so much that we convey this idea of skinny women as so “peak” that we subconsciously starve ourselves even when we look like this because it’s “kinda hot tho.” i’m 23 now and i’m back up to about 105 lbs. yea. back up. it did get worse, and this past july i was 97 lbs and looking healthier than i had previously. i don’t know exactly, bc i avoid scales at all cost anyway, but i can predict i got down to about 90 lbs. i was literally skin and bones. depressed. addicted to multiple substances. i wanna say to anyone who does see themselves in this post (if anyone sees this post) that it gets better and it keeps getting better. i’m 107 lbs usually, and if i’ve eaten and exercised for a good period i’ll get up to 112 lbs! sometimes i get down to 100 lbs if i forget to eat. i just didn’t get “hungry” for literally years unless it was to harmfully binge and then puke it all up, but now it’s moreso “why is my stomach growling tf is this empty feeling” and then drinking water and eating some chocolate until i can make myself something i enjoy and savor (which is a fantastic hack for anyone struggling with making/eating meals btw!!) but it feels weird to have to train myself to enjoy eating the way i did before. but i do now :) i indulge very mindfully by making tea and eating things like graham crackers with curd and different jellies. trader joe’s has amazing things you can just pop in and really enjoy. i love eating i love indulging i love gaining weight in my face and arms and the sides of my butt and my thighs and i even love that i kinda have cankles again!!! i love it all!!! i’m gaining weight in weird places and i feel really sexy and hot and soft and pretty and cute and womanly and filled out and full and whole!!! and i want every woman and man and person no matter how you present or identify yourself, but most importantly no matter your size, perceived or actual, all y’all, i want every single one of y’all to all know rn that you are capable of having this, perfectly deserving of it, and that it just genuinely takes a long time. you might not even notice it’s happening. i been on the up and up for a couple years now!!! and i’m only just noticing the progress those two years have been, despite the many times i felt like or truly had taken a few steps back. i have made progress, and i still am, and so are you!!! right now whether u realize it or not, every moment is progress. you see, your body simply can’t help it!!! on some cells at work type shit rn, your physical body is always trying it’s best to protect, heal, and defend YOU, and you don’t even have to think about that all the time :) so next time you think ab that cake, eat it. your body told you it wanted it for a reason. have some. savor it. you deserve it.

Pinned FAQ

How do I request a card?

You can request up to 3 cards for free during openaskbox events! During those, the /ask inbox opens up for a few hours, during which I try to write as many as I can live on twitch and post them on tumblr.

After the event is over and I close that inbox, there are still a BUNCH of leftover requests. This is how I fill the daily content queue, I use those up til it's empty again and then run another openaskbox.

On Sundays at 3pm EST I write all 28 cards due to go up for the week from that pool of leftover asks live on twitch and then queue them to go up after stream

What if I don't wanna wait?

If you'd like to throw a bit of cash around instead of waiting, you can buy via the etsy listing or you can tune in to those^ Saturday livestreams, there's a variety of ways to donate to get cards written for you on the spot

How do I buy the card I've requested?

The etsy listing is available here! Please remember to include in the notes of the purchase which card(s) you want to buy. If you'd like me to bundle together all the cards you've requested over a period of a few years, dm me here on the blog and I can quote you on a cheaper bundle price

Why did you answer all those asks, it messed up my dash?

Sorry about that! So to keep all of that ^ organized, at the end of the month, I answer about 112-140 leftover asks in order to record them to a proper "to-write document"

It helps me keep organized, it allows me to easily search for spelling issues, and it gets a few eyeballs on the request in case someone tries to slip an obscure slur into their request that I'm not cool with writing (it has happened)

Lots of the regulars are used to this dash nonsense, but there are folks who want to avoid it entirely. If you're on mobile I'd just recommend unfollowing for a while, but if you're on desktop, you can blacklist the tag "added to notepad" and go to xkit to tick the "fully hide blocked tags" option so it clears up your dash

Wait I thought requests were closed, why can I still send things?

That's because requests use /ask, but /submit is always open because it's for YOUR calligraphy, pet photos, fanart of man... etc. Requests are NOT open when it's not openaskbox day but feel free to send me cool shit YOU made anytime

Wait you have a twitch, do you do anything other than calligraphy?

I try! my schedule at work (restaurant) varies week to week so I try my best to stream whenever I've got free time to, nothing's really planned out though

What are your regular writing tools and paper?

I mainly just use speedball nibs, specifically the c-series (c-0 through c-4) because they're angled flat nibs that let me do most blackletter hands I write. I have a supply of leonardt thin tips for detailing and illustrating

As for paper, the cards you see on the daily are on plain index cue cards I buy from staples. When commissioned/doing larger pieces, I work with a variety of paper, including a 32 lb xerox paper that has juuuust a perfect amount of lamination that avoids ink feathering, black paper that I bought a hundred sheets of in 2019 and I no longer remember the label, and a BOATLOAD of southworth's ivory parchment paper at both 32 and 64 lb weights.

There is some spicy Chinese discourse about the OTW Election happening on social media right now

Note: This post contains some terms that readers might be unfamiliar with. I've attached ℹ️ links to those terms, which will direct readers to the relevant Wikipedia page.

A Chinese candidate, Tiffany G, is running for the 2022 OTW ℹ️ Board Election [election website] that is currently taking place.

The OTW, in case my followers are not aware, is the nonprofit organization that runs AO3 ℹ️, the world's largest fanfiction hosting web archive, as well as the world's 7th most popular entertainment website [source].

The AO3 website is banned in China, because it hosts content that violates China's censorship laws (see more details at the bottom of this post).

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I wanted to see what Chinese twitter had to say about this Chinese board candidate, so I picked a few tweets at random to translate.

最无奈的一点，是那个Tiffany G真觉得这么做是为了ao3好。 但是ao3即使和晋江一样，大爹也不会放ao3进来了。 她这种不是与世界接轨而是不仅在国内要阉，还要走出国门去阉的精神…… 称一句敬事房总管不为过了。

— loreki (@loreki1) August 12, 2022 [source]

Translation: It's a bit exasperating that this Tiffany G really thinks doing this to ao3 would be a good. But even if ao3 was the same as JìnJiāng, dà diē ("Big Brother") still wouldn't accept it. She is not in line with the global mindset; it wasn't enough for her to "castrate" (impose censorship) in China, she has to go abroad in the spirit of "castrating" other countries…… Respectfully, she should not placed in a position of power.

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🤡这个Tiffany G是不是虾啊···除了虾谁会说AO3被封是因为儿童色情···甚至举报材料都是故意曲解AO3分级，AO3是儿童X情文学集中地的谎言。

— Wendy (@Wendy21694072) August 12, 2022 [source]

Translation: 🤡This Tiffany G is a "prawn" (bully/mean girl ETA: I've been informed that in this case "prawn" 虾 refers to a Xiao Zhan fan group who take credit for reporting AO3 to the Chinese authorities and getting it banned)...Who else but a prawn would claim that AO3 was blacklisted because of értóng sèqíng (CP ℹ️)...going so far as misrepresent the charges that were brought against AO3; it's a lie [to claim that] AO3 is a place full of CP.

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Can ppl not wash down the AO3 Tiffany G thing with “oh you’re just xenophobic/racist” when tons of Chinese ppl from mainland China are telling y’all that this is a serious issue??? 有些老外对威胁他们创作自由的人完全没有戒备心，居然还帮人家说话… 我要吐了，你们是生活在真空里的吗

— Commander Goose | Levi’s Delivery Service (@CDR_Goose) August 12, 2022 [source]

Translation: There are some foreigners (Westerners) who are totally, dangerously oblivious to those who might threaten their freedom. I don't get how decent people would [defend Tiffany G]... I want to throw up, do y'all 'live in a cave' or what?

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Tiffany G自述10年AO3用户，高考失利当年接触AO3，那年龄推算跟我接触AO3的时间差不多，那个年代同人圈主流说白了就是审核去死，不要说欧美圈AO3，就是去ACG的B站A站也是一样，搁现在会被出警的内容到处都是，那时候如果就搞同人，怎么会不知道呢？我合理怀疑她在撒谎，在编故事，🦐味有点冲

— BrokenMesa (@yawezh0902) August 12, 2022 [source]

Translation: Tiffany G says that she's been an AO3 user for 10 years, and that back then she messed up on her college entrance exam being on AO3. That's about how long I've been on AO3. Back in those days, (Chinese) fan communities could speak openly in the mainstream [without worrying about being investigated]. No need to go on a Western fansite like AO3.

Whereas now, regardless of whether you go to Bilibili (B站 ℹ️) or AcFun (A站 ℹ️), the ACG ℹ️ fan culture is the same: any content that government censors might target has been taken down on all [of the Chinese fansites]. You have no way of knowing when the authorities might come for someone.

It's reasonable for me to assume [Tiffany G] is lying, and that her story is fabricated. Smells a little fishy.

⚠️I had a really hard time with this particular tweet, so there's a good chance I mistranslated some things.

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和朋友聊了tiffany g，她让我意识到这人的迷惑提议背后可能是试图让ao3面向主流社会的想法，国内那一堆同质化的应用已经够我受的了，有生之年还是别让我看到这个了

— 喘气等待世界毁灭 (@Sierranopatient) August 12, 2022 [source]

Translation: I discussed tiffany g with a friend. [My friend] made me realize that the purpose of [Tiffany G]'s proposals is to try bring AO3 into the mainstream. There's a whole pile of homogeneous apps/platforms in China and that's more than enough for me. Don't make me watch [AO3 turn into yet another mainstream platform] in my lifetime.

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Additionally, one twitter account has been leaving a bunch of replies on various Tiffany G tweets [source], endorsing her candidacy with the same copy-pasted comment:

我是Tiffany G的朋友，我认识Tiffany G很多年，Tiffany G非常有理想正气，我看不惯对Tiffany G泼脏水的人，特意声援支持Tiffany G，ao3不是法外之地，讲好中国好故事，弘扬中国正能量，人人有责，请大家支持Tiffany G

— 小潘女权日报 (@pyx18122270719) August 12, 2022 [source]

Translation: I am Tiffany G's friend. I've known Tiffany G many years. Tiffany G is very righteous and a paragon. I cannot bear to see Tiffany G attacked by mudslingers and I intend to support Tiffany G — ao3 is not above the law. [People should] say good things about China and spread Chinese positivity. It's everyone's responsibility. Please support Tiffany G

The account might be a sockpuppet ℹ️.

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At the beginning of this post, I alluded to the fact that AO3 is banned in China. The ban took place in 2020 [source]. The site is blocked by China's internet firewall.

People in China can still access AO3 if they circumvent the firewall with a VPN. Ironically, China's decision to block AO3 actually resulted in AO3 gaining even more Chinese visitors and members, many of whom had never heard of the website until after it was banned.

In Tiffany G's candidate bio [link] on the OTW election website, she mentions that she works for the government.

I've seen a few Chinese fans on tumblr expressing concerns [source], [source], that she is a government plant, and that if elected, she would use her position on the board to access private user information and doxx AO3 users living in China, reporting their activities to the Chinese authorities.

ETA: I should clarify that these concerns are unfounded. OTW board members do not have access to users' private data. Even if this conspiracy theory were true, OTW board members don't have this kind of power.

I did not find anything explicitly pro-censorship in Tiffany G's campaign platform, however several of the statements she made in the OTW Election Q&A [source] sounded like pro-censorship "dog whistles" ℹ️ to me.

Notably, she implied that AO3 was hosting illegal content. She quickly backtracked when questioned by the interviewer, claiming that her words had been misinterpreted.

The twitter account I mentioned above that has been endorsing her candidacy also implied that AO3 hosts illegal content.

AO3 is an American website subject to American laws. All of the content hosted by AO3 is legal in the USA. Of course, Chinese laws are very different from American laws. A lot of the content on AO3 is in violation of China's very stringent censorship laws.

Thanks for your response. I was the anon who ended the ask with 'the fandom can suck it'. When I saw that anon who you and twinanimatronics had assumed to be the one that keeps you know starting shit with you, I really hated that they labeled us as shipbrain or whatever they said. I am aroace who finds comfort in shipping characters and that doesn't make me any less aroace. Can't people like them just let us have this, let us share it and stop taping our mouths? God. We are not even hurting anyone. I posted a solarxmoon and solarxearth mini comic thing yesterday and behold, I believe that same anon found it and is looking adamantly through the solarxmoon and even solarxearth because I didn't use the tsams tag for my comic. I took the comic down fast and turned off anon messages so quick because God that anon was quick to leave nasty messages, six in total and that was panic attack inducing. I'm sorry for rambling about this. I don't know anyone else who got that same anon on their back. It looks like they are persistent for lack of better term and it annoys me+scares me. Can't even share things I like about here anymore. Hoping solarxmoon becomes canon so that anon can shut up already

If Solar Moon became canon, they don't even need to change anything.

The actors don't even need to pretend to kiss or be romanically involved at all.

It's literally as simple as "Oh yeah, we were dating for months, anyway..."

OH AND... FUCK THAT ANON. I know the user you are talking about, I think there's around two or three of them... and it seems like they're dead set on hunting down people who use that Solarmoon or Solar x Moon tag.

Going into popular users in the tsams fandom that I personally don't know... and spreading bad lies and rumors about me.

Like, they typically try to keep it as vague as possible, like "oh I am not talking about dana-chan-the-control-brain specifically....." but they often steal the exact wording and turn of phrase I use.

Cause I have an overly wordy way of talking on the internet.

I've always been this way since I was 15, so I feel my style of speaking is pretty overly wordy, rambly and long compared to most people just because I don't have a lot to share with my opinions with in real life. And I also misspell things a lot cus spellcheck has gotten worse since it became AI trained and it doesn't help my dyslexia.

But how sad is that? That someone is searching out the tag for a ship that they don't like, claim that "it's everywhere" and I'm "poisoning the fanbase" when I'm just.... here... playing with my own dolls, doing my own thing.... and not bothering anyone... Not even putting the ship in the tags publicly because I have Such respect and love for the silly little youtube show, who also plays with fnaf characters like they're dolls.

(just saying.. "bio-organic" and interdimensional travel did NOT come from fnaf I can tell you that much. )

And yeah, if they're really stumbling across Solarmoon or these ships on accident.......Blacklist the tags and move on? Don't come to my messages... Don't harass my friends...

And don't harass other people I DON'T EVEN KNOW because someone just said "hehe but what if they kissed" on the internet?

Like blocklist the tag, and move on.

I know the blocklisting tagging system sucks sometimes, so maybe it's picking up "Solar" like in that case? Just scroll super fast and don't look at it?

And yeah. You don't deserve those nasty messages sent your way at all!

Oh, and if you feel brave enough to reupload your art to tumblr and DM me, I will gladly reblog it here. <3

Hiya! I hope you're doing well. I made the Hottest Star Wars Man Poll, so when your posts about it were brought to my attention, I felt I should probably reach out.

The polls are just for fun. I make them with no agenda, and I run them with no agenda. I've received messages talking about bots before, but I never wanted to get into the weeds about it.

However, as the discussion about bots is bigger than I realized, I guess now is as good a time as any to speak about it:

My opinion is that the spikes in Hux votes are a mere side-effect of the poll being passed around the internet and bringing in new voters in droves. As your Anon mentioned, @tomatette's edits might's also pulled in waves of people who voted for Hux out of fidelity to her.

I'm fine with the campaigning. As long as the vote is ultimately achieved by a human clicking on the vote themselves, it's alright by me. Hell, I always reblog 'propaganda' I particularly like, and I even requested some Anakin propaganda when he was in his elimination round. It's all fun and games to me.

However.

If anyone is using bots, I'm asking nicely for them to please stop. I'm going to pull the 'I'm not mad, I'm disappointed' card on anyone botting. The polls are all strictly unserious things, so I hope that nobody is taking them too seriously.

Hi there! Sorry the nonsense has reached you, honestly lmao. I just wanted to make a post cause I was upset about the possibility (and, as I've said, I don't have rock solid proof, just suspicions based on observations by myself and others, so like. If people don't agree with me, that's fine, it's all good - I just wanted to speak out in case it was happening like, as a kyluxer, I don't want people to think that if someone is botting, that's something we as a fandom are chill with). I honestly didn't expect it to get quite this much attention either but here we are. I also want to make it clear to both you and my followers that I don't put any blame of anything on you - you're just making fun polls and that's it, you're not responsible for what people do or what drama may arise

I do agree it's possible someone just got a bunch of people to vote within a small window of time, like anything is possible, always is. I just feel like some of the increases I saw, observations from others, and things I've heard are enough to warrant suspicion. If people do or do not agree that there's a reason to think it happened, that's their choice and I'm not going to insist that my word is law and they have to believe me. I don't have receipts, I was just expressing myself and I do appreciate amicable discussion even if my mind has not been changed as of yet

But yeah I agree, propaganda and making funny edits and posts - that's not at all what I was referring to in terms of 'cheating', but somewhere it seems that got mentioned in the discussion? (3 separate people have brought this up to me lmao, like thinking I'm accusing them but I am NOT and no one better be out there accusing them either without actual evidence beyond 'oh you posted about it' cause that's a shitty thing to do) and I also want to make it clear I am not against propaganda fun. That's all just part of it. If people are mad about that, that's their problem and they should use blacklist more liberally. And if people are saying I'm saying that, then those people are either lying or are at 'how dare you say we should piss on the poor' levels of reading comprehension lmao

But yeah, I'll post this publicly, but let me know if you want it taken down and I'll delete it - I appreciate you reaching out and I'm sorry you had to deal with this, that was definitely not my intent when I made the post. I just wanted the botting, if it is indeed happening (and if it's not, all the better, I am just not yet convinced it didn't happen), to stop

And lastly, because of some of the DMs I've received: if you, the person reading this (not you the asker), are sending hate or harassment to people based on my post, FUCKING STOP IT RIGHT THE FUCK NOW, you're no better than the bad actors I was initially referring to

Last night I innocently uploaded the pic of Neo and Ruby gaming on Twitter, but I got pretty much replied by people who were very much judgmental and passive-aggressive about being shocked, etc, etc (lots of them minors), lost some followers, etc

I am very affected by those situations because at some points it feels like harassment for something so stupid (I've seen wishes of death towards me before for old Fallen Petals stuff), no one ever takes the moment to even talk with me about it, nor try to understand the development and process that made me ship it in the first place- that it's actually a pretty innocent wish of building up a cool ship to have fun with my friends.

I have very bad anxiety from PTSD and I don't have access to meds rn, so things that get out of hand can really affect my mental and physical health, like, people don't keep in mind that the major part of the time, the people they accuse are people with problems like me, that are dealing with irl stuff or trauma and simply want to have some positive fun on the internet, to escape a bit from it all- art and writing has been a good coping mechanism for me to not practice self harm, and my therapist was actually proud of me for it, so I don't want that taken from me, specially when I'm mindful and tag things properly. And when honestly, discovering RWBY and messing around with some ships helped to make me happier. Because I think it was about time.

RubyNeo isn't even following all canon details, Ruby's more practiced and slightly older, and honest to God, I don't see what's wrong with building an AU with headcanons when we aren't doing it for the sake of, what?? only having them fuck?? or oversexualizing them?? the people that literally oversexualizes Ruby and only do lewds or only smash her against another character so they fuck is something that pushes me SO back because I personally find it disgusting (and if I'm in a mood I can have am anxiety attack for it, same for other dynamics, like incest, etc etc).

So for the love of everything, blacklist, block me or whatever, but understand the kind of person I am or the building for the things I do or the things I draw before I'm labeled as things I'm not. Because I'm sure you wouldn't want it to happen to you.

Treat me like a person, not like some kind of idealized artist that has to be perfect.

Show some empathy, try to be understanding, not everyone that ships 'x' is going to be a super evil person that did it with the most malicious intent in the world. Sometimes we're simply playing with them like they're Barbies, to create stories, angst, wholesome moments, independent timelines, etc.

Like I mentioned I myself deal with PTSD, there are so many things that despite being presented in good faith could throw me off the edge because of triggers, but I simply take care of myself and tag stuff, I blacklist and in the worst case I block, specially if someone is specially harmful and toxic to real people.

So please, just, let me be, I'm just a nerd trying to live life alongside friends to be as happy as I can because I've had enough abuse already.

Be kinder unless the person in question is GENUINELY harming real people and are potential real creeps, please, I'm tired.

(cw for mentions predatory behavior/grooming) I wish people understood how unsafe the furry fandom is for minors. I know that every fandom has that problem to some extent, but from my personal experience it seems to be much worse in the furry fandom. I was in it for many years as a young teen (age 13-16 ish) and literally ran away from it by the end. If you're into fursuiting at all you will be surrounded by adults in their 20s ish that are often dangerously and upsettingly immature for some reason. Despite how "sfw" the like to claim they can be, they aren't. The amount of times in which either I have or had witnessed someone else under 18 being intentionally shown p-rn either directly or through groups that call themselves "sfw" is revolting. Fuck's sake I once saw one of those "guess my age by my art" posts in which some grown adult went "I guess you're 15? Can you guess mine?" and attached nsfw art to their comment (the genitals were censored but STILL). facepalm with me, please. Attending irl events is another can of worms, really. Just hope that event runners keep an eye out for predators in the community and promptly ban them. Id like to think that there was a misunderstanding, really, but I once had to report an adult commissioner who took advantage of their commission contracts with minors to get flirtatious with them regardless of how much discomfort they voiced (I even had a video of the guy m-sturbating that he had sent to someone that was even younger than me that I would have happily provided as proof). And the convention runners didn't blacklist that guy. This isnt an isolated case either, registered sex offenders have been hard to blacklist from cons in the past. The problem here is the immaturity that adults who claim to be able to make a safe space for everyone have makes them really struggle to hold that promise.

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I haven't hung out in furry spaces much. I do think that in-person events that are at least partly about sexual stuff are a minefield and many of them just ban everyone underage because it's easier.

Is suspect Furry spaces are suffering from a common problem that happens when something perfectly reasonable is seen as freakish and socially unacceptable. When banal queer sexuality is driven underground, it's harder to sort the consensual adult stuff from the predatory stuff. When half the priests out there have secret, forbidden but perfectly consensual adult relationships, it makes it easier for the predators to hide in the general atmosphere of secrecy.

People cry wolf so often about furry being scarybadcringeyuck that I'm sure a lot of furries just dismiss any challenge to anything.

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Outside of furry circles, people usually just think of furries as a Weird Sex Thing, so they're unlikely to imagine children should be hanging out in those spaces.

There is not a single good reason to tag a queer positive post with “q slur” and it’s honestly such a red flag if you do this.

No seriously. There is absolutely no reason to do this. Ever. At all.

If you, personally, don’t want to be called queer, that is your prerogative. If this is a word that has hurt you before and that genuinely triggers and upsets you, there are things you can do to improve your own online experience. One of them would be, oh I don’t know, not putting posts containing that word onto your own damn blog by reblogging them.

If you do not want to be included among queer people, then you shouldn’t include yourself in a group that self-identifies as queer. Which is what you do by reblogging queer positive posts; none of these posts were talking about you, personally. They are talking about queer people. And if you feel the need to reblog them, then you include yourself among these queer people. Go reblog posts with the alphabet soup acronym if that is what you, personally, feel suits you better. You could literally just not reblog a post that contains the word “queer” and talks about queers.

You don’t have to ever interact with a post discussing queer themes, queer people and queer identities. If you find the term queer so very offensive and lack context-reading skills that would help you see that queer people proudly calling themselves queer is actually in no way or shape the same as someone using it as a slur, you even have the tools to avoid ever seeing any post containing the word queer by blacklisting not just “queer” as a tag but also filter it as content, which thus will block any post that anywhere at all contains the word “queer”.

I will 100% assume you are an exclusionist or a TERF if you still end up reblogging a queer positive post and tag it as “q slur”. Because you had choices here - not reblogging a post containing the word “queer”, blacklisting the tag “queer”, filtering for post content containing the word “queer” - but you chose not to do any of that, you chose to reblog a queer positive post and then tag it as “q slur”, and at that point, exclusionism and TERF ideology are literally the only reasons left why you would do this.

And the thing is that, scrolling through those blogs, especially through the “q slur” tag, usually shows that they are, in fact, exclusionists and TERFs. It’ll start soft enough with posts complaining that they don’t want to be called queer, which is reasonable enough, isn’t it? Then the rhetoric on the posts about not wanting to personally be called queer changes and gets more aggressive. Then it’s about not calling other people queer at all because you don’t know if they want to be called that (even though, let me point at the above where you could just not include yourself in posts about queer people). It then turns more into complains about comparisons when it comes to reclaims, how it’s “totally not the same thing” to reclaim gay and lesbian as it is to reclaim queer (even though it is. It literally is the same thing as we are reclaiming our identities that have been wielded against us). At which point it just escalates into flat-out open exclusionism because uh actually there is no need to reclaim queer at all, LGBT suffices entirely because no other letters are needed and if you aren’t L, G, B or T then you can’t reclaim queer anyway.

A--and there it is, the toxic TERF and exclusionism mentality, saying what they really mean. They don’t want queer people to exist. Period. Only the nice, clean lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender people (though in enough cases, if you continue scrolling, you’ll reach the part where they too will be excluded). No complicated, other identities, only the “proper” and “good” kinds, eh?

Reblogging queer positive posts and tagging them as “q slur” is just the conversation starter here. The rat-tail that follows the “q slur” tag is like a meticulously crafted conversation to turn other people away from queer and to instead turn them toward exclusionism and TERF ideology and it’s insidious.

Because yes, queer has been and most likely still is being used as a slur in many parts of the English speaking world. And I’m sure there are many people who are genuinely traumatized by the way others have used this word against them. But if people in fandom spaces can manage to blacklist characters and ships they dislike, then people with genuine triggers or people who take genuine personal offense at as much as seeing a word - regardless of its positive context - should also be capable of blacklisting and avoiding those for them upsetting words. Because tumblr gave you the tools to not have to even see it literal years ago at this point.

So, if you’re not taking these easy measures to avoid the word? It clearly doesn’t actually bother you all that much, I’d say, because otherwise you’d take measures to avoid having to see it and you most definitely wouldn’t go out of your way to put posts containing it onto your blog.

You chose to still see these posts containing the word, you chose to interact with these posts, you chose to reblog them and put them on your blog, but you still feel the need to tag it as “q slur” by not recognizing the difference between a word used as an actual slur and people talking about their own lived experience in a positive light, and there is literally absolutely not a single good-faith read on that left for me. At which point I am going to use the tools given to me by tumblr and block you to avoid you ever interacting with my queer posts again.

Because I’m a queer woman and I take offense in you calling my identity a slur.

Happy fucking pride to all queers. Exclusionists and TERFs die mad about it. 🌈

A question popped into my mind a while ago: Yes, Zeus and her kingdom are incredibly powerful, and she spires for peace. But like said in the presentation, she's blind to the many problems. In case one (if not more) of those problems deeply affected one of its allied kingdoms,

how would Zeus react to losing an alliance or someone flat out refusing an alliance with her, because of said issues?

I feel like her kingdom is legitimately too good to lose so rarely does that happen! In The Birth Of Ares, even though most of South east Europe didn't like her they complied because her power could make SUCH a difference in the war effort!

But I get you tho :3 not everyone is gonna take her, its just very hard to :3

I feel like if she lost you, ofcourse, it depends on the situation, but she would grieve over you like when a child rebels from their mom. The mother realizes she no longer has power to help their child falling into bad habits and would probably take you in again if you were willing to.

But if you refused her from the get go, she would probably be very sour and blacklist you from the other covens... SO IT WOULD BE IMPOSSIBLE TO MAKE CONNECTIONS WITH THE BIG 8...

With that being said, you can't make legal connections with any of the big 8 covens with out her knowing 😭 you can be friendly, trade, and help eachother, but non of the covens owe you ANYTHING until she says so 😭 and if she tells them to ignore you, THEY WILL IGNORE YOU-

its HER coven system, she has the final say YwY girl has POWER

Hey sorry reddit refugee with a quick question, I dont really identify with the super-fandom side of tumblr. A lot of my feeds get a lot of random like (character)x(character) fanfics and I'm wondering if there are a few common tags i could block to minimize seeing them?

Hey there, welcome to tumblr! Sorry if I tell you something you already know but I think this info is really important for curating your experience here.

While tumblr does have an option for a feed based on an algorithm, I’d say like 90% of users don’t use it. We use the “following” option, which shows only posts from people you follow, in the chronological order they were posted—with no additional posts chosen by an algorithm. If you’re on mobile it looks like this.

I just wanted to make sure you knew about this because if you are not interested in seeing certain kinds of content, I’d say the best way to not see it is to not follow people who post it a lot. Fill your dashboard with content you enjoy by following people who post the kinds of things you like.

That being said, of course no one is gonna share your taste 100% and the people you follow will likely post about things you don’t care about. Blacklisting tags will definitely help with that. People usually tag fandom posts with the fandom name or an abbreviation for it. so for example if you don’t want to see posts about the owl house you could block the tags #the owl house and #toh. (Also, if that’s the case, you should probably unfollow me, since I post about that a lot lol.)

Most shippers use a specific ship name, usually a combo of the two characters’ names, so figure out what it is and block it if you don’t want to see that ship. So for example, #zelink for zelda x link. I think that’s a much more common way of tagging ships here than character x character or character/character.

When you come across a post you don’t like, it might be helpful to check how the reblogged or the op tagged it and then block those specific tags.

If you don’t know how to block tags on mobile:

Tap the person icon on the bottom right of the screen. Then tap the gear icon on the top right. Go to general settings > filtering and add each individual tag you want to block. (On desktop I recommend downloading XKit—it has a lot of helpful customization options.)

There really isn’t a way to guarantee you don’t see any shipping fanfic posts on your dashboard in general, but again, if you don’t want to see that, don’t follow people who post it a lot. And don’t feel bad about unfollowing if you need to. I feel like the culture here is a bit different from something like twitter or Insta because our follower counts are private so they’re less of a focus. I wouldn’t worry too much about someone being offended that you unfollowed. Most people understand that we’re all trying to curate our experience.

Hope this helps! Have fun :)