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Sorry if this is a weird question, and if that's the case you can absolutely not answer, but how do you cope with having multiple full-time jobs and still having energy outside of work? Feels a bit like I'm dying of exhaustion every day over here lol
I've been ruminating for a few days on this ask because truly I struggle with this more than I want to admit. My jobs rarely leave me with energy outside of work, and I have gone through times in the last two years where working and sleeping were the only possibilities, and it sucks, and it is kind of embarrassing, but I have also found some ways to mitigate it even slightly which I am more than happy to share:
1. Schedule fun times (yikes)
It was a harrowing realization that I need to schedule hang outs and self care just like every meeting - weeks in advance, colour coded in both the calendar and the to do list - but since I started doing it, my success rate has skyrocketed. You either die a type b or live long enough to become a type a i guess
2. Bring your fun to work day
I will suggest anything that's fun to me as a work activity. I like drawing so you KNOW the ministry is littered with illustrations. My PowerPoints create envy across departments. I scout the world of my office for ways to have fun and I am not embarrassed to say so. I'm funmaxxing the grind. So what
3. Everyone is depressed bitch
Acknowledge that everyone your age is looking at their fifty-year olds in their work life with white-hot envy (WHEN THE FUCK DO YOU HAVE TIME TO GARDEN) and that the loss of agency that comes with starting your career is normal and sad, but also means that...
4. Let's get some fruit
...you gotta stop thinking in old time frames of friendship expectations. people you haven't talked to for eight months will not be mad about your absence as they are stressed and hobbyless as well and will instead REJOICE at a scheduled hangout. I have friends I see once a year we love each other. no one is mad and everyone is stressed tf out LET'S HANG
5. Win the war not the fight
hey. listen to me. this isn't easy. it sucks coming home and feeling like having no agency left. and it's hard to break that cycle of exhaustion, and I fail all the time, when is the last time i saw the sun, oh god oh no my twenties. and if you feel like that is necessary in the time you are in, that is respectable. don't be mean to yourself for being stuck in a system that tries to squeeze all the energy out of you like a grape of some sort. you just gotta make sure you don't FORGET that you are a fully formed person with hobbies in another life. buy that plane model kit. bookmark that recipe. join that knitting group. i know you dont have time and energy. but your future self will thank you for paving the way.
I hope these are helpful. don't forget to have fun and be yourself. godspeed
#sent to you while building my beautiful model plane my friend bought for me because i couldnt find the energy to#this is a GROUP EFFORT
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she’s right
#rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles#rottmnt#rottmnt the movie#fanart#llorsdood#llorscomic#spoilers#me and mayor yelling this at end of movie#🤝 to everyone in tags that had same thought#also 🤝 to those who drew older cass with SICK hairstyles I love you all#rottmnt spoilers#50chance they found a baby and cass who claims has the most childcare exp#I’ve successfully ran a small army of brownie girls that counts#that doesn’t …#too late I’ve raised the most stable person during the apocalypse#also a group effort
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"Stop romanticizing DID/OSDD and treating it like it's cool or fun!"
Actually how about no.
So something we've been thinking about lately was our syscovery. We speedran communication and acceptance. The first two headmates we knew about went from "What if we're a system?" to making out on the headspace couch in like, 2 days. Doubt died in like, 2 weeks to a month later. We discovered everyone already in the system after maybe 6 months? Maybe less, maybe more (hehe memory issues). Every therapist we've talked to about our system (okay so 3) has commented positively on our communication and system goals.
This isn't a brag (although we are pretty proud of this). No it's something we've on and off been examining to figure out why. Were we lucky? Are our barriers weaker? Did we make it all up and give ourselves DID?
What we keep coming back to is that opening line. We did romanticize it. We did treat it like it was fun and cool. We came at it with excitement and enthusiasm and curiosity. Faye abandoned all claim that the body and life were hers alone, embracing the weirdness and opportunity of being plural. She welcomed the idea of sharing it and having headmate friends. All of those things that "diminish, belittle, and trivialize" people who "really" have a disorder.
And the funny thing is, we don't deny this disorder at all. It's not all sunshine and rainbows. It never was. There's internal abuse. There's memory issues. There's trauma. There's fucked up shit.
But we think we got a head start on all of this work by thinking it's cool! We eagerly listened for our headmates' voices. We reveled in switching. We built headspace for fun and only found "real" uses for it months or more later.
So idk, maybe no, treating it as cool and fun isn't harmful. Maybe it's something that can help. Maybe some system out there can build some trust and safety internally with this approach.
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if we are talking about the lost dream lover/daisy scenes from act 1 then we should talk about why those scenes were so good and why the loss of that storyline is so disappointing. because it's not just "oh those scenes looked better or whatever" it was a completely different character and storyline.
even though the companions pushed back way more and the whole narrative was telling you to resist the dream lover, it was somehow far more tempting. you were constantly tempted in dialogues to use your powers and if you did, you slowly started to lose yourself, the narrator said you could feel something slipping away, something you will never get back. You were giving yourself over to the fantasy, a mindflayer illusion
the game asked you during character creation "who do you dream of at night?" obviously meaning "what are you attracted to?" rather than just "you need a guardian. choose one." there is already a different implication there. I wonder how people interpret "guardian" if they don't know about the original dream lover. they might not even create someone they find tempting. a guardian sounds more like a mentor figure, rather than your ideal fantasy partner.
During early access the dream lover not only offered us power, they also showed us a tempting future where we are powerful and important and beloved and we are ruling the world. such universal temptations and desires. and we were resting on a peaceful field with the person of our dreams. it was peace in the dream world vs the real life struggle.
In the end it seemed obvious where this was leading... if you use the tadpole too much, you would have turned into a mindflayer. and whatever is left of your individuality and consciousness would have stayed in that fantasy world with your perfect fantasy partner. the mindflayer illusion forever trapped you. the song "Down by the River" was written about this fantasy dream lover. and what a banger and creative storyline this could have been. what a tragic ending! to just give up, lose yourself in the fantasy, the easy way out. choose this beautiful fantasy over the imperfect real world. and choose your perfect imaginary partner over the flawed real people, your companions. truly I mourn what an incredible storyline this could have been. It would have resonated with basically everyone.
and you would have been constantly tempted. to avoid this fate you would need to struggle constantly while the easy fantasy is dangling in front of your face with a zero difficulty ability check.
turning into a mindflayer wouldn't have been something you have the option to choose. and you can get cured no matter how much you indulged in the tadpole powers. lmao I kinda hate that there is no consequence for any of that now
#the dream lover as a figment of your imagination...a creation of your own new illithid powers...is a more interesting idea to me#also I liked how resisting the temptation was a group effort... if one character used the power... they were all affected#they were in this together#and they all had apology dialogues if you used any of the characters during a cutscene and made them use their illithid powers#bg3#early access#baldur's gate 3#dream lover#daisy#the guardian#bg3 mine#my thoughts#down by the river#my post#my posts#also I wonder how this would have affected the emperor's storyline and how the artefact works...#because he would have been a different character...but I am assuming he still would have existed??#maybe he would have showed himself as a mindflayer from the start... idk...#but the storyline around the artefact probably would have been separate from the dream lover's storyline
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A Fire Shall Be Woken, by Ealcynn. A pair of bindings using the K118 structure, one as a gift for the author and one to keep.
Chapter page illustrations are by Alphonse Mucha, all other illustrations are hand-drawn.
I hope to make a long post later explaining the process in more depth & another to document all my mistakes, but here's the basics.
New techniques learned: Paper marbling, edge marbling, uncial calligraphy, making paste papers, drawing on bookcloth, making paste-filled cloth, fold-out maps
I began work on this project in early September and am completing the finishing touches this week.
Structures:
Binding: K118 tightback
Endpapers: Simple cloth-joined endpapers
Map fold: Turkish map fold
Materials:
Sewing supports: linen tapes
Thread: 30/3 linen thread
Spine lining: Medium weight kozo tissue bonded to linen fabric
Interior paper: Hammermill Ivory, 11x17, hand-cut to 8.5x11
Endpapers: Blick sulphite paper hand-marbled, with masked stenciled silhouettes created with freezer paper
Adhesives: Jade PVA, wheat starch paste, wheat flour paste
Covers: Davey board, laminated full thickness to half thickness
Cover fabric: Studio E shot cottons in Jungle and Emerald; filled with wheat starch paste
Cover decorations: Speedball india ink and Dr. Ph. Martin's calligraphy ink in Copperplate Gold
Inks for maps and illustrations: Speedball black india ink and a selection of watercolors thickened with gum arabic
Dip pens used for calligraphy: Combination of Brause calligraphy nibs and Leonardt tape nibs
Dip pens used for illustration: Nikko G pointed pen nib
Typesetting:
Typesetting program: Scribus 1.5.5
Body font: Coelacanth in 10 pt caption weight
Headings, titles, chapter titles, drop caps: Hand lettered uncial calligraphy, scanned
Illustrations and References:
Frames on colophon, copyright, author's notes and title page: Hand drawn, with inspiration taken from the vellucent bindings of Cedric Chivers
Frames that illustrate each chapter start: Alphonse Mucha from Cloches de Noël et de Pâques
Cover illustrations: Referenced from a photograph of an European beech tree found on iNaturalist.org
Maps of Imladris: Hand drafted with inspiration from the maps of Barbara Strachey, and Daniel Reeve
Map of Eriador: Traced from a map by Karen Wynn Fonstad, with edits made to coordinate with the geography of the fic
Frames on maps: Referenced from a drawing by Alphonse Mucha that @zhalfirin found for me
Special Thank Yous:
To the tightback council of problem-solvers in the Renegade server: Zhalfirin, Eka, @spockandawe who helped figure out many issues with the structure and technique
To the marbling experts in the Renegade server: Marissa, Aether, AGlance, Jenny, Catz, Badgertide, Rhi, and everyone else who helped me figure out beginnner marbling
To Spock for finding the K118 structure and introducing it to the server!
And to Bruce Levy, who discovered the method and shared his discoveries freely with the bookbinding and conservation world.
#bookbinding#Fanbinding#mine#bookbinding adventures#thank you to everyone i consider this a group effort#it has been 10000 years and I have loved every step#except for sanding. nasty nasty sanding. ew.#fic recs
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there are two different types of romantics in the world….
#the owl house#huntlow#gustholomule#my art#digital illustration#was i going to put more effort in? yes. was it too hard and i just let it stay a slightly cleaner sketch? also yes.#listen to me. listen. gus is the goth of the group. trust me on this one.#let him as his fucked up addams family style romance with matt who is the most some guy ever#but so so willing to say the most fucked up thing bc 1) the bit 2) he knows gus eats stuff like that up
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Feeling Fruity
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#Poorly drawn MDZS#MDZS#wei wuxian#lan wangji#jiang cheng#Almost didn't upload this one tbh but it does make for good narrative flow so...#Two handsome men out of a group of three? You have evoked the primadonna girl that slumbers in the hearts of all teen boys#wwx really said 'I think LZ's the kind of handsome fellow to be able to get free fruit' and 'JC could *never*'#wwx's efforts to befriend lwj with fruit might not have worked on him#but full disclosure; *I* could have my friendship bought with fruit#My god. I would do anything for someone if they handed me a nice mandarin orange#wwx's flirting is *so* interesting b/c it really is just flirting to flirt (and maybe charm his way into getting free stuff)#His Ideal date is that he just hangs out and flirts with a cute girl with absolutely no intentions to do anything past that#Shout out to the aro and/or ace people out there who like to flirt! We exist!#Poor poor lwj...you have fallen for someone who is not gonna see you that way for a long time
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watched Grease the other night with my buddy and. well. obviously i Had To
#this was a good warm up i think. kinda low quality cause its Small and Not Much Effort Went Into It#but i think the fuzziness adds to the charm. or something like that#ive always loved greasers as a concept and general Thing#anyway now im Thinking about what everyone's 'roles' would be#i think the little greaser group would be wally / sally / barnaby#except theyre the most unconventional greasers ever#sally is all bark and no bite. barnaby is no bark and no bite. wally is just there to look pretty#i think theyd fold frank into the group eventually due to Witnessing His Knack For Violence#i can picture them mostly hanging around a diner#where they all share the single milkshake they can collectively afford#scribble garnish#welcome home#in middle school i absolutely adored the outsiders#we even did a thing for the class where we were assigned 'greaser' or 'soc' and i was So Fucking Delighted to get greaser#assigned greaser by 8th grade english class#got to dress up and everything. i had a blast. so gender.#during that time i would even sit there in class thinking 'i was born in the wrong generation'. delusional? yes#one of my ocs is even a fuckin. universe-hopping assassin greaser#their vibe.... 50s punk...#loved the movie btw. made next to no sense. very charming
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#OH NO THE IDOL BEAM HAS HIT EVERYONE EXCEPT THE MEANEST ONES IN THE CLAN 🤣#can u imagine.... the absolute catty group energy coming out of these 3 if they had to sing together...#the idol beam bazooka is one of aster's fave weapons of ???profit#rei and kuya hate standing beside each other so dante always has to be in the middle#everyone who attends any of their shows will get their memory instantly wiped after the event#whether it's by illusory magic or fiery explosion (fire comas don't completely erase the memory but they'll certainly distract)#or father directly clawing someone's eyes out#actually i wouldn't put it past kuya to just make an entire illusion out of the thing#so he wouldn't have to move at all or put any effort into the silly song and dance.#he sittin backstage with the catering table while the audience screams for the fake show happening on stage#kuya the pioneer of IRL MMV projection magic. incredible#actually u kno what. aster hits them with the idol beam#and every show is just the three of them playing UNO#that would still bring in money#the drama. the intrigue. the competitive spirits flaring and tables being flipped. what a spectacle#aster#kuya#dante#rei#nu carnival
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My first post was supposed to be art, but apparently, this ended up happening, and I wanted to show it to someone
#rise of the tmnt#rottmnt#tmnt memes#group dynamics#rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles#funny memes#meme#rottmnt leo#rottmnt mikey#rottmnt raph#rottmnt donnie#rottmnt splinter#rottmnt draxum#rottmnt cassandra jones#rottmnt casey jr#rottmnt casey jones#rottmnt casey junior#no effort#I usually draw I swear#why did i laugh at this#why did I laugh at Mikey's crimes specifically#not real#now that I think about this more there should be more characters in the other rows#first post
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Daryl sign language compilation
#I'm obsessed with this aspect of his character#he's grown so much#10 years ago he'd probably just find the language barrier annoying#he's the only one outside of Connie's original group to put in this much effort to communicate with her#everybody learned a little bit but my g Daryl's near fluent#please let him learn some french in DD season 2 because you know he absolutely would#and please let him completely butcher the accent#twd#the walking dead#daryl dixon#connie twd
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I think one thing that makes Byler so distinct is the way that they complete each other’s thoughts without even trying.
“You know on a- a view-master when it gets, like…” “…caught between two slides?”
“We can’t take any chances. We need to assume the worst. The Mind Flayer is back.” “Yeah. And if he is, he’d want to attach himself to someone again.”
“Well, no, it’s not just a video game, it’s a video game console.” “It’s basically America’s answer to Nintendo.”
“Some sort of facility.” “A fence, a building.”
“Are you really questioning Suzie, right now?” “She’s a genius, Jonathan.”
Seriously, you could read these quotes one after the other and assume that they came from the same person. They’re like couplet statements then clarifications. And they do it all the time in season 4. I wonder if this is a subtle reason why Byler had a rise in popularity after s4 - they’re so in sync without even trying (couple behavior)!
#Byler#has any other couple on the show done this? I’m curious now but never looked#I’m sure they have#but the most I think of is when people are all synthesizing what they know and coming up with plans which is a group effort#idk#byler brainrot
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people talk about how they could have so easily made troy and abed the typical nerd x jock relationship dynamic friend duo and they didn’t, which made it better. which is all true but I think we forget that they didn’t start with really any dynamic in mind for them at all. troy and abed weren’t even originally supposed to be especially close. they built the characters, seperately, then as the show came together they realized how much chemistry the two had (troy and abed AND danny and donald.) their dynamic wrote itself, with almost no pretense or planning, and that’s what makes it so special and unique. that’s why there’s not really any other duo quite like them in any other sitcom, or even any other show/movie. it’s a really strange realization but some of the best things we create are completely unplanned
#originally troy and pierce were supposed to be the ‘unlikely friends’ duo of the group#like a beavis and butthead type duo#and you can see early efforts to make this happen in the pilot#but then in spanish 101 (episode 1x02) they realized how good danny and donald (and subsequently troy and abed) were together#so they took that and ran with it#they talk about all this in the dvd commentaries etc but yeah#I’m so glad they weren’t too rigid in their plans for the characters#because troy and abed really are a big part of what makes community so special#anyway#community#nbc community#community nbc#abed nadir#troy barnes#trobed#troy and abed
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Lots of good posts about the AO3 situation going around and I just want to add:
If you find that you are distressed about not being able to access the stories that you love, tell the authors of those stories once the archive is up again! Tell them you missed them, tell them you were in the middle of one of their fics when it went down and not being able to click the Next Chapter button was agonizing, tell them all of the things you appreciate about their writing. If you're relying on artists (that includes fanfic writers!) for joy or comfort or pleasure or distraction or any other positive experience, they want to hear about it! That will make them happy, too!
#ao3#to experience the rewards of community and more art u like.#u must submit to the mortifying ordeal of talking to the artists.#even--no ESPECIALLY if ur reading for a small fandom/rarepair/gen grouping that doesnt get much attention#it's about the community!!!!! u have to help build it! it's not gonna just magically happen!#i havent even tried to be on ao3 today but i'm resolving to make an extra effort re:commenting when i go back#okay post over i have to go do ornithology classwork
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