PLS why did I randomly click on a fic for a ship I’m unfamiliar with in a fandom for a show I’ve literally never seen a single episode of and have little interest in as a concept and now I’m like 10 fics deep into this ship and quickly becoming obsessed what is wrong with me

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

I love the QSMP. Not only has it introduced me to many amazing international creators, it's also introduced me to the French and Brazilian community, who are so sweet, funny, and chaotic in their own unique ways. I love seeing fans sharing their culture and learning from one another, and I myself have learned a lot this past year. I think it's incredible how QSMP brings so many different people together – all of us united in our love and passion for this project and its goals.

But passion can often evoke strong emotions, and these strong emotions aren't always positive.

The past few months, I have seen multiple waves of hate, bad-faith generalizations of communities, and racist remarks directed at fellow fans – especially those who are part of the French / Brazilian community. This kind of behavior is inexcusable, and is in direct conflict with the mission of QSMP, which is to break language barriers and unite communities.

We are a global community with a variety of people from different backgrounds. Miscommunications may occasionally occur because of cultural differences and/or language barriers, but we should use these moments as opportunities to learn and engage with other people rather than assuming the worst about them and starting fights.

Although certain issues can be resolved with communication, sometimes it’s better to block and move on. Avoid spreading negativity or hate, and save yourself the headache of interacting with people who are just looking for someone to argue with.

No matter what community we're a part of or what languages we speak, we're all here to have fun. Please remember to be kind to each other. We have more in common than we have in conflict.

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The Everlasting Trio meets their alternative self from a different dimension.

While Sam and Tucker are trilled to hear all about Ivy’s and Selina’s careers Danny is horrified!

He can’t believe that his alternative self not only got their powers on purpose, but that they got them from Alternative!Vlad!!

Who is even more of a fruitloop here!!!

Not to mention the dating thing!!!!!!!

Danny is really glad Harley came to her senses and has no problem with him working some perfectly understandable feelings out on her ex.

Broke out the watercolors to do my little post cards and I'm,,,, enjoying myself immensely

everyone is talking about tumblr 'dying' but I have lived through no less than a dozen 'tumblr is dying' panics since the porn ban (internet censorship, the porn ban, yahoo buyout, 'daddy' David Karp abandoning ship, etc.) tumblr is not dead. it won't die. it's like cockroaches and Cher

fuck it friday

tagged by @hippolotamus @fortheloveofbuddie 💖

so I started a new wip lol 🙈 I really need to work on all the other ones but I'll get to everything haha so i'm not sure if any of this makes sense for buck tbh but idgaf, this is just me projecting my own thoughts and feelings™️ and making it about him processing his death lol 💁 it is gonna be pre-slash buddie tho bc obviously I have to 😂

ngl i kinda don't wanna share any of it but also i wanna share all of it bc i'm kinda loving how it's turning out haha so fuck it, here are two short snippets haha

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Ever since he died, Buck has been feeling… off. Numb. Sad. Exhausted. He’s not even sure how to explain it, how to voice it, so he doesn’t. When people ask how he is, he says he’s fine. And he is, he swears he is. He’s okay, he’s alive, he has his amazing friends and family, a job he loves, everything is fine. But… but. He’s not sure what the hell is wrong, but a part of him is not fine. Hasn’t been fine since the lightning strike.

(...)

He doesn’t want to go home. He just wants to keep driving, wherever the road takes him. Driving is good, he likes driving, letting his thoughts wander, listening to music, having control of something. He thinks that’s it, that’s why. Driving is one of the few times he feels fully in control, his feet controlling the speed, hands holding the steering wheel and dictating the direction. Whether he makes it to work or gives into the thoughts that tell him to not turn the wheel and let his car crash into a tree or a building, or another car – it’s all up to him. He doesn’t- he won’t crash his car on purpose, but sometimes he wonders… maybe at least that’ll make him feel something. Make him hurt, make him scared, anything. Make him die, this time permanently- he doesn’t want that. He doesn’t, he swears he doesn’t. He just wonders sometimes, that’s all.

He doesn’t wanna go home, so he decides to keep driving. Just a few more minutes, to clear his head.

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Y’all ever get hit in the face with the realization that you’re slipping when you’re all cozy in bed and suddenly you really wanna cry and want cuddles and pets? Cuz…

need y’all to listen to the last four minutes of this

fantasy scenario: I make a youtube video essay called “MADE IN ABYSS CAN KISS MY ASS AND GO TO HELL”, I am doxxed and my address exposed, a swarm of angry anime fans descends on my apartment and breaks my windows; but the energy and love of the many people Liking my video, inspired by my brilliant rhetoric and whimsical yet cutting sense of humor, flows into me and makes me strong enough to knock out any of the angry anime fans cold with a single punch

I'm at the point where I'm considering weaning off my SSRI because of (insert list of mostly positive personal reasons which have psychiatrist oversight), but also it'll be hard to give up the new superpower I've gotten from sertraline, which is Remember My Dream Every Night power.

Like there's a whole cinematic universe to this, which has been added to nightly for months now. I joined an improv group. I've ridden the secret subway that does not exist. My grandmother was evil. I was part of cracking some kind of cannibal-murder-suicide case. Bakugo went with me to Iceland.

Rooster Teeth be better challenge [IMPOSSIBLE]

Hey all!

I like to take my media feed from diverse sources, and not keep all my eggs in one basket so to speak.

Having said that, do people have a Cohost or Bluesky account they'd be interested in sharing?

My dashboards on those sites are pitifully slow rolling at the moment, and I'm not the most social media (or just socially) savvy, so I'd not sure exactly how to get it rolling faster or find people I follow on here.

If you'd like, you can leave a comment on this post if you want to share with others, or message me directly. I'd love to follow more people!

do you guys ever get random shock waves through your body while sitting down which make your whole body wriggle for a second?

the thing with taskmaster is i think i could see a gif of alex jerking greg off on live tv or something and it wouldn’t really phase me. like i’m not saying i expect or want this to happen just that it wouldn’t really surprise me

Oh what's that? Your favorite character is dead? Pshh, baby shit, try having your favorite be a character who is constantly compared to Prep from Boyfriends 😭 /lh