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undreaming-fanfiction · 2 months

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As a crazy cat lady, may I offfer...

Eddie who has always loved cats, how free and soft and elegant they are, how they purr and close their eyes in affection, how they make him forget all his worries and stress. He's loved them ever since a neighbor's cat found him crying behind the trailer after he got bullied for his new haircut, the last gift from his shitty dad before Eddie got whisked away by the social services. The cat ignored his sniffling and jumped in his lap, plopping herself over the bony knees and thin thighs, and when she started rubbing her face against his scraped palm, Eddie felt complete.

He can't adopt one yet because he lives with Wayne who is allergic. Wayne offers to take antihistamines but Eddie refuses, he doesn't want to inconvenience him in his own home. Still, he dreams of one day sometime in the future, a small apartment of his own and at least two cats who will greet him when he comes home.

Eddie finds himself volunteering in a shelter and when a new cat café opens, he jumps at the opportunity. He is hired and spends his days taking of their cat ensemble and preparing delicious coffees. Cats help him be less jittery and more grounded, so it's a win win. Eddie loves this job.

Enter Steve Harrington, an insanely handsome man who stops by to make a reservation. Eddie is his usual flirty self, although he expects Steve will bring a date and that's the end of that. But then Steve leans to Eddie and asks: "Listen, uh...I will need some help."

Suppressing an internal groan, Eddie asks: "what, do you need me to drop an engagement ring into the coffee or something? Because can do, but it needs to be sanitized first."

"Oh no. Not that, no..." Steve runs his fingers through his hair and even though it looks like a nervous gesture, Eddie is seconds away from a cuteness induced nosebleed. "Not at all. I just...I have a little sister, you know? I mean, my adoptive dad is fostering her and she's the kindest girl you've met, but she had it rough in her original family. Apparently there was something involving animals and...she loves cats so much, but is terrified of hurting them. She would never!" he clarifies when he sees a frown forming on Eddie's forehead. "It's just that whenever she showed affection to any animal, her biological father made sure it would get hurt or at least chased away. And that's gone, that man is in jail and I just...I want to show her that it's okay to love animals again. That she can pet a purring cat without worrying about its safety."

Eddie just stares at him with mouth open. "That's...wow," he says. "Sorry. Processing."

Steve does the hair thing again and laughs and Eddie thinks that this man deserves a brother of the year award, yep, he'll ask Gareth to 3D print one right fucking now. "Yeah, sorry. I didn't mean to dump all that on you, but I had to be honest because this is a big deal to her. To me as well. Just...listen, I like cats a lot, but I'm not the best at interpreting what they mean, their body language and all that. And I really need Jane to have someone here that can tell her what to do, when she's doing a good job...someone who will protect the kitties if she messes up. Her words. I know it's a lot to ask, but..."

But Eddie shushes him. "Say no more, big boy. I'll be here and I'll give the young lady the cat experience of a lifetime."

Eddie used to think he couldn't love his job any more. But with Jane's uncertain smile and big eyes, her incredulous squeal when a cat chose her for the first time, when she kept asking Eddie for specifics of each cat in his care - "which one is more shy, which one likes to be picked up, which one is a picky eater?" - he thinks he's finally found his calling. Steve beams at him and comes back the next day with a bag of approved cat treats for the cats and a box of chocolates for Eddie as a thank you, then asks him out for a dinner - "if that is even appropriate, shit, sorry, I don't want you to feel pressured or something, this is your job, I get it, but I just really admire you and you were amazing to Jane, uh, and the stuff you say about cats is so interesting I'd just love to hear more". Eddie's heart flutters like the traitor it is and he thinks - maybe this is someone I could adopt a cat with one day.

And unsurprisingly, he's right.

#steve harrington #eddie munson #eleven stranger things #jane hopper #steddie au #cat cafe au #steddie #steddie drabble #stranger things #THIS WAS SUPPOSED TO BE ONE PARAGRAPH FFS

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girlboypersonthingy · 2 months

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Hazbin Boys x reader- Comfort ❤️‍🩹

This is a request from an anon- hazbin boys comforting reader with depression/mental illness. Includes Lucifer, Angel, Husk, Sir Pentious, Vox and just a dab of Alastor. Original request here + a heart felt message from yours truly 💌

TW: depression, mental illness, sickeningly sweet fluff

Notes: gn!reader, NSFW during Angel’s part 18+ plz

Lucifer 🍎

Oh my goodnessssssss, prepare to be treated like absolute royalty.

I’m talking foot rubs, back rubs, playing with your hair

Not only will he make you food, he’ll literally try to feed you and offer you sweet praises when you do eat. Eating can be a real chore sometimes…

“Good job, my love. It’s gonna be okay…okay?”

I think Luci is pretty touchy in general, but when you’re down in the dumps, he gets extra clingy and touchy

He’ll pretty much constantly have a hand on you- holding your hand, a hand on your back, a gentle rub on your shoulder

Will unfurl his wings and drag you close to him in bed, wrapping his arms and silky feathers around you as he lulls you to sleep

Like imagine a midday depression nap all tangled up with Luci, curtains drawn so the room is nice and dark, the temp is perfect, the bed is hugging you just as good as your babe next to is. Ugh. Plz, I want this. I need this.

Will try to gently coax you out of bed and try to get you out of the house. He knows it won’t be easy for you but he thinks getting you cleaned up, dressed and out doing something fun you’ll feel a bit better. You’ll at least be distracted from your sadness for a bit.

He’s so kind and nonjudgmental too. He gets it completely. He has depression too. Even the king of hell deals with mental illness, okay? Mental illness does not discriminate

He’ll offer the best advice he can muster up, using his own experiences to help you out of your funk

All in all, he’s just an absolute sweet pea. So doting, so caring.

Angel Dust 🕸️

Also has mental illness, also gets it completely.

KING OF DISTRACTIONS

Angel is a sweet boy but I don’t think he’d be too great at offering advice…

So he does his best to distract you from your feelings, doing whatever it takes to get you to smile, even just for a second.

Will ask you what you want to do first, whatever will make you happy, he’ll go along with it.

If you insist on rotting in bed, he’ll probably respectfully pull you out of bed, tell you “this ain’t good for ya, babe” and force you to go do something fun, something relaxing, something for yourself

Sorry not sorry but he’ll def offer to cheer you up by fucking you, letting you fuck him, eating you out, sucking your dick. Go ahead, take your stress out on him, he can take it ;)

Also the king of self care.

SPA DAY SPA DAY SPA DAY

Will draw you and him a bath, rub your shoulders while you sit in the warm water together, will even wash your hair for you

Forces you to wear a face mask with him lmao

“C’mon, (Y/N)! Lemme paint ya nails! You’ll look sooooo cuuuuuute~”

Expect lots of touching and kisses with him at night, especially if you’re having trouble sleeping

Rubs your back, rubs your arms, will rub gentle circles on your butt if you’ll let him, kisses your head, kisses your cheeks, kisses your nose

ALL THE KISSESSSSSS 💋💋💋

Husk 🃏

Okay listen…this guy is obvi a great listener and he’s pretty good at giving advice. Honestly, he’s probably the best person to go to.

Husk is an old soul, he’s pretty wise, has a lot of life experience, death experience, his own experience with mental illness and even addiction.

He could just listen to you talk for hours, waiting for you to pause before he replies. He’d never interrupt. He’s so patient with you 🥹

Will keep a close eye on you and any new habits you’ve seemed to pick up. He fixes his own issues with booze but he’s the type to say “do as I say, not as I do”

Won’t let you spiral into addiction like he did…it’s not an option.

I think Husk would be a good mix of “Come here, give Husker a hug. It’s alright, hun. Let’s go take a little nap, yeah?” and “Hey, I know what’ll cheer ya up!” *proceeds to show you the coolest, craziest magic tricks*

He’s a good balance of comfort and distraction

Anything he can do to help, just say the word

Will tell you funny shit he’s seen the folks around the hotel do just to see you laugh for a moment

“One time, Angel was walking right in front of the bar at like 7 in the morning and tripped over literally nothing and face planted! I had the best seat in the house. It was hilarious.”

This is my own personal headcanon, idk why but I feel like Husk can cook really well. He’d totally make you food, even bring it to you in bed if you don’t feel like getting up

Will absolutely let you play with him like a kitten, won’t even be upset about it. Play with his ears, give him pets, let his fur be your stim toy, let his purr soothe your achy heart

Sir Pentious 🐍

Plzzzz, he’s such a simp. I love this slippery, special little guy 💚

Big on cuddles! Will cuddle you all day, all night if you want. Loves the physical contact, and loves it even more when he can feel you relax a bit against him.

Will make his eggs boys do anything for you. Whatever you want, you tell them and they’ll happily oblige.

Kinda random but I think he’d be the type to try and pull silly little pranks on ppl around the hotel just to get you to laugh. He’s such a silly goose omg

He doesn’t really understand what you’re going through so he’ll just keep asking you what he can do, how he can help, what you want, what you need from him.

He doesn’t get it but he’ll do anything for you.

When you’re feeling particularly lazy and it’s extra hard to leave your bed, he’ll literally carry you around. Just lounge in his arms, darling, he’ll take you wherever you need to go. Don’t need to go anywhere? Fine, you’re gonna come along with him to do his daily tasks. Sit in his lap and just watch as he works.

Just wants to keep you close. He can’t stand the thought of you being alone when you feel like this. No matter where he is or what he’s doing, he wants you close.

Unless you insist on having some alone time or needing some space. Again, whatever you need from him, you got it.

Although, he may get a little teary eyed and pouty when he leaves you. Can’t stop thinking about you all day and probably comes and checks on you several times.

Vox 🖥️

“CANCEL MY MEETINGS, HOLD ALL MY CALLS, TELL EVERYONE IM NOT RESPONDING TO EMAILS UNTIL TOMORROW!”

Guy needs to focus on his baby right now. You are his top priority, everything else can wait. You are just too precious to put on the back burner.

Will be sure to tell Val and Velvette to leave you two alone. He doesn’t want them upsetting you any more than you already are.

This man has his assistants waiting on you hand and foot. He’s gonna stay in your bed with you, cuddled up with tons of blankets, both in your pajamas as you watch movies while ordering his staff to bring you whatever it is you desire.

Will eventually yank you out of bed bc he can’t stay still for too long but you’re coming with him. Wants to keep you company always

In public, Vox isn’t the most romantic or touchy. He’s a busy man with a huge reputation to uphold. While he would never completely ignore you and he’s no ashamed to show some PDA with you, you sort of always find yourself following in his shadow when he’s hard at work.

Once he sees how much your mental health is affecting you, he becomes much more attentive, much more protective of you.

He’ll hold your hand or keep his arm around you when out and about. Will give you a gentle kiss and a prideful smile before getting on set for a news shoot.

If you’re having a particularly hard day, everyone get out of the way! Hes taking the day off, he doesn’t give a fuck what anyone says or thinks.

You are too important to him. Without you, what good would all his accomplishments be? Without you, who would he share all this with?

He needs you to stick around 🩵

Alastor🩸

I think Alastor would be absolutely clueless but he’d try his best nonetheless!

He’d also be one to try and distract you.

Wanna go to cannibal town and visit Rosie? She’ll help cheer you up! She’s a great listener with tons of good advice to give

Will reluctantly invite you into his room and lead you to the half of it that looks like a swamp/forest. He will take off his coat and sit in the grass with you, staying silent but watching you look around in awe.

He’s got lots of cool powers and will summon or manifest little things here that he thinks will bring a smile to your face.

Summons little lightning bugs to carefully dance around your face, holds back from slaughtering a deer that’s approaching just so you can admire it from afar, will watch with a genuine smile as you lay back in the grass and relax to the sound of crickets chirping and light jazz music.

If you asked…he might give you a hug. Might.

Also sends his shadow to check up on you every so often but if you notice this, he will deny it with all his might.

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yuri-is-online · 3 months

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omg... we talk about yuu here?? we love yuu here???

I could talk about yuu forever, they're infinitely more interesting than any of the boys to me (not sorry). I know for a lot of people yuu is just kind of their pawn for this epic fantasy world and they don't even think about the ramifications, but me personally I would descend into insanity if I got isekai'd into magical teenage boy hell. deep down I know this freak is traumatized to the nines and likely severely depressed.

one of the most important things about yuu's character is that they feel helpless. they can't perform magic in a world that's almost completely reliant on it, for one. as you've pointed out, they have no true autonomy. they have no government documentation, no family, nowhere to go, hell, they're not even a full student. they have no real hope of going home, and most of the nrc boys don't even seem to particularly care about that (if anything, I assume a lot of them would selfishly want yuu to stay, regardless of yuu's own wishes). the rules of this world are still unclear to them, and people don't really seem to acknowledge that.

can you imagine how lonely that existence would be? sure, people like yuu. they have friends. but as you've pointed out, no one (with the exception of adeuce, maybe) really seems to care about how things effect them specifically. yuu is manipulated, exploited, physically hurt and almost killed like, a bunch of times, bullied, harassed, and on top of everything, completely helpless to it. despite having friends who supposedly care about them, no one really seems to think about yuu's feelings on magic and the multiple life-threatening incidents they've experienced in their short time at nrc. as someone who has ptsd, I can't imagine that yuu would walk out of all that completely mentally unscathed.

as you've pointed out before, yuu is treated like any other student. their experiences and circumstances are never really taken into consideration, and they're expected to just... go along with things like everyone else. sure, equality is nice, but that doesn't really help yuu's case. yes, realistically, yuu is not totally helpless but good lord someone needs to help them out. someone needs to empathize with them, and defend them, and at least try a little to help them navigate this terrifying reality they've been expected to... just adjust to with no help. with their lack of autonomy, they're pretty much at the complete mercy of the people around them. yuu is lonely and I stand by that.

and on top of all of this, they have a massive amount of responsibility dumped on them constantly. yuu is a sort of mediator. they solve problems, usually ones that other people create, and never really by their own will. they arguably live in pretty shitty conditions and have no way of making money. they have to not only babysit grim (bless him tho), but also literally everyone else, while also trying to keep their own shit together. I mean, they're still technically a student. and a mini-housewarden. and crowley's errand runner. and they just got here a few months ago. psh.

yuu feels helpless, but they aren't treated as such, and so no one really extends a helping hand without ulterior motives. as much as ace and deuce want to help, they're also teenage boys and have their own tiny worlds to attend to. while people can be nice, no one seems to really want to understand, or care, about yuu's mental health.

anyway. I love the boys but in my heart I know that my yuu wouldn't be able to handle all that. me irl already deals with feelings of loneliness and crushing responsibility and misunderstanding and helplessness. twst is not a choose your own adventure type game and the tiny choices yuu gets to make don't really affect the story (which is oddly symbolic).

but like, listen. if I was zapped to another universe where I'm completely alone at a school full of teenage boys, most of which who couldn't care less if I lived or died, and one day I was sent on a trip to a city that painfully reminded me of home and some catholic-coded freak started being really considerate and empathetic to me for no other reason besides just liking me and genuinely being appalled at my circumstances, I would help him destroy magic. idc. I wouldn't even think twice about it. I stand by the idea that rollo feels some kind of affection for yuu. this would affect all of the diasomnia book because I would literally not want to leave and they'd have to drag me out of fleur city screaming and crying and clawing at the floor. poor malleus would be crushed.

anyway. haven't caught up to diasomnia yet so I may be way off. feel free to answer this or not! sorry for my weird english byebye!! love your posts

Yes we talk about Yuu here! They're the goat and I am so sorry I took forever to respond to your ask! Your English is wonderful you just had so much to say I had to really think on it σ(￣、￣=)

>deep down I know this freak is traumatized to the nines and likely severely depressed.

I think this is a very reasonable assumption to make about Yuu. While how well they take being isekaid to "magical teenage boy hell" (that's such a funny way to put it) is something up to each player's interpretation I like to write Yuu as being prone to bouts of longing for their own world, if for nothing else than wanting to feel something familiar to them. Which you point out in the rest of your ask!

I think one of the reasons people loved Rollo so much is that he was finally someone who acknowledged all those little things about Yuu's situation that we wanted to see talked about. He is someone we can realistically sympathizing with Yuu's situation and would treat them with a degree of care the other boys might not notice they needed. I have... played around with some AU stuff for him in my spare time and the conclusion I have come to is that I think he would try to avoid asking for Yuu to help him in his plan to destroy magic. He wouldn't want them to be implicated, and his plan is a sort of personal penance for his inability to save his brother. The idea that someone would want to help him, let alone someone as perfect as Yuu, isn't really something that would cross his mind. Besides, I don't think he would trust Yuu to help him immediately, he doesn't know them all that well at the start of GloMas.

Mental health tends not to be something focused on in isekai stories. I do think that our limited choices (i agree it is fittingly symbolic) have shown a Yuu who is slowly starting to feel the lack of control they have over their situation and are starting to feel stress over it. Ace says that he wants Yuu to be able to go home, as does Deuce, but I do think they both would be equally as happy if Yuu got to stay. They enjoy their friendship and love them a lot, if the story happened in more of a vacuum I could see both Ace and Deuce picking up on Yuu needing the extra support, but with how many things have happened over our school year they haven't had much time to sit and think to themselves about... much of anything really. But that doesn't exclude Yuu from feelings of loneliness or isolation; some of the most painful types of both is when you are surrounded to people and yet still feel unable to scream.

As for Malleus... well these aren't Diasomnia spoilers but if I understand his platinum jacket card correctly he can't stand seeing other people be happy when he isn't so. If Yuu were genuinely happy in Fleur City and he was left alone... oh he'd be so unhappy about that he would be beyond crushed.

#<3 asks #twisted wonderland #twst yuu #rollo flamme #twst rollo

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greetings-and-salutations · 7 months

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“Slightly More Anonymous Than Usual Karate Kids Getting Wasted and Starting Fist Fights”

Robby Keene x Reader Part 4

✨CATCH UP DUMP✨

Day 7 of the 13 Nights of Halloween Spooktacular!!!

Masterlist | Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4

(Gif not mine)

Requested? No

Summary: (Y/n) really doesn’t want to go to the stupid Halloween Masquerade Ball. But, maybe Moon was right. Maybe she’d finally find her soulmate under the cheap streamers and disco lighting… (a cinderella retelling)

soulmate au: You find your soulmate when you touch for the first time and the date and time you met becomes engraved as a tattoo on your wrist.

Warnings: starred out swear words, violence? that’s it? 🤔😂

Pairing: Robby Keene x Fem!Reader

‘October 31st 11:58pm’

Oh my god. Oh my god. Oh my god.

Robby. Robby Keene. Miyagi-Do’s Robby Keene. Hawk’s practical sworn enemy Robby Keene.

Oh my god. Oh my god. Oh my god.

(Y/n) didn’t know what to do. She was sure she looked like an idiot, just standing there staring at him. But what was she supposed to do? It wasn’t like she, or anyone else for that matter, had tons upon tons of experience in this specific department.

Robby Keene…

Could this night get any worse?

“Why don’t you come over here and say that to my face, you little b*tch!”

Right…

The sharp pull, which was slowly becoming more familiar to the girl, was what brought (Y/n) out of her thoughts. She was confused again about its origins, but only for a moment before realization struck her like Hawk’s fist slamming into the side of Demetri’s face, which she could practically feel from where she stood.

Robby was gone.

And that was the pull. It was Robby. Robby, and the soulmate bond. Because Robby Keene was her soulmate. (Y/n)’s heart fluttered all on its own at the thought, and, against her better judgment, she allowed herself a moment to appreciate it. Robby was her soulmate. (Y/n) had found her soulmate. And he was… well, (Y/n) didn’t really know. But the universe did. And that was good enough for her. Her Cobra Kai friends, however, might take more convincing…

But, of course, she didn’t need to deal with that right now. No, right now, (Y/n)’s brain had apparently made the executive decision that she needed to, instead, make a break for it. Not that it wasn’t warranted. The whole evening had been an emotional roller coaster. So, fleeing the scene seemed like a fairly acceptable thing to do. And she hoped Robby would see it that way. He seemed pretty preoccupied presently anyways…

“Moon!” (Y/n) ran through the crowd, pushing past shocked partygoers who were watching the madness going down on the dance floor, and mentally cursed at herself. Why had she thought hitching a ride was a good idea instead of making her own way to this thing, knowing full well she wouldn’t have wished to stay as long as her friends did anyways, even if she hadn’t run into such a crisis as she now knew as “Robby Keene.” She honestly just hoped at this point that the other girl would be too preoccupied trying to stop her boyfriend from causing an all out karate brawl in formal attire to think too much about whether or not she should hand over the keys. Because (Y/n) really needed to get out of there…

“(Y/n)! Where’d you go!?! We were worried you got caught up in…” She trailed off, gesturing towards the mess that (Y/n) could vaguely see a familiar jacket in the middle of. Her heart jumped against her will when she caught sight of the boy she was universally destined to be with, and for a moment she contemplated staying to see if he would be alright, but then all the problems that come along with him returned to the forefront of her mind and (Y/n) was forcefully reminded how much she needed to be gone when he finally did come looking for her.

“Moon, I have to get out of here! You have to help me!” (Y/n) knew how frantic she sounded and almost felt sorry for the concern she was probably filling her friend with, but she just didn’t have time to sit around and explain. The fight was still raging, of course, but who knows how much longer it could go on for. And she needed to make her escape while they were all distracted…

“What are you talking about? We’ve gotta stop them!” Moon started dragging (Y/n) along with her, destination clear but, even if it hadn’t been, the return of the pulling sensation (of which (Y/n) had just now decided to describe simply as “Robby”) would have given it away. And that was the opposite of what she wanted…

“No! Moon, please! You have to get me out of here! It’s an emergency!”

Now, Moon didn’t initially look like she believed her, which caused (Y/n)’s heart to drop into her stomach. She hadn’t had time to think of the possible outcome if Robby did catch up with her. What do I say? What do I do? It was almost impossible to imagine the interaction not going horribly wrong in some way, and that only pushed (Y/n) further towards the flight side of her “fight or flight instinct.”

But, thankfully after a moment, which felt painfully more like an hour to the attempted runaway, Moon finally sighed and pulled a set of keys out of her purse.

“They’re to Hawk’s truck.” She explained, holding them out to (Y/n), but quickly pulled them back to finish her thought before the other girl could grab them. “But, you better bring it back to the dojo tomorrow, got it?” (Y/n) nodded eagerly, not caring that that meant making a pit stop at the Cobra infested place the next morning. She’d worry about that later…

“Thanks Moon, you’re a life saver! I’ll see you tomorrow!”

And off (Y/n) ran with the keys, away from the quickly escalating situation behind her, and, of course, the potential boy of her dreams…

+ + +

Robby threw another punch into the fray, but his heart just wasn’t in it. He didn’t even get her name… God, why didn’t I get her name?

The mark on his wrist felt like it was burning but Robby knew that was all just in his head. But, then again, his head was swimming with so many thoughts that he couldn’t quite pinpoint which one precisely to mentally yell at to quiet down in order to stop the phantom pains.

Someone sending a sharp kick to his side brought Robby back to the situation at hand and he glared at the Cobra who he didn’t even recognize. He figured he must be one of Hawk’s though because he knew everyone in Miyagi-Do. Robby sent a kick back, using more force than necessary, though he wasn’t about to admit the reason behind it, figuring it would be childish to say he was mad that this whole endeavor had interrupted his conversation with the girl. His soulmate…

This was so stupid. He shouldn’t be here dealing with this sh*t. He should be with her, getting to know her, falling in love, all that mushy stuff. But no. Robby was more worried about this dumb karate war. What was wrong with him?

“Robby!? Where are you going!?”

But he ignored whoever it was, not even caring enough to look back as he shoved random Cobras out of his way, charging back towards where he’d last seen her. Because he needed to see her… His soulmate…

But the table was empty, and the girl? Nowhere to be found…

Robby’s heart clenched. Where did she go? He looked around frantically, the longer he came up empty handed the more worried he became, as his thoughts ran wild with what he was going to do now. He’d never met her without a mask on. He didn’t know her name, or literally anything about her. How was he going to find her?

And then, Robby caught sight of an all too familiar green dress, and almost sighed in relief. That is, until he realized it was running, so fast you’d think she was being chased, and so far in the opposite direction…

“No! Wait!”

In any other circumstance, Robby definitely would have caught her. While she was running incredibly fast for someone in a floor length poofy dress and heels, Robby’s own dress clothes were much more equipped for the exercise. But the crowd was so big and everyone was pushing him back towards the mess he was trying to get away from, and she just kept getting further and further away.

“Stop! Please!”

But by the time Robby had finally made it through, she was gone again, though this time leaving something behind…

He kneeled down with a frown, picking up the little keychain that seemed to have fallen away from the others in her haste to leave, hope growing in his chest at the thought that maybe this could be a clue to help him find her. But then his blood ran cold as Robby read the words printed across the leather…

COBRA KAI KARATE

Ah, sh*t…

TO BE CONTINUED

Tag lists are open!!!

Tags: @electriclcvewp @kaqua @lolawassad @imaslutforsstuff @nani-2305 @hawkinsavclub1983

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chubs-deuce · 13 days

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Hi, fellow writer/artist here! This is about your recent post about struggling with your writing, and I found that I had a lot to say and I didn’t want to clog up the comment section, I hope it’s alright that I sent it this way, and if its too long or not helpful, my apologies XD

My number one tip: there are no rules! Writing is fun time! It’s kids finger painting with words! Its emotions! It’s characters we love, and stories our hearts or brains or some other parts of us wanna tell! Always lean into what sounds the most fun when you’re stuck! Even if you never use it! <3

In my experience, some writing is better than no writing when you feel like it's not good. Sometimes to get out of being stuck I find it best to just keep typing, even if it stops making sense, or i hit enter twice and start rattling off a new scene or a different story entirely! Sometimes I will literally just type ‘why does writing feel so hard. This feeelsss dumb blah blah blahblahblah fuuuuuck fuuuuuuuuuuuck why do I feel so stuck -’ And so on until eventually my brain thinks of something else haha – literally just a brain dump. Type any random word that comes to mind. Sometimes I just open a clean document and go at it with this, you can always copy paste anything remotely relevant that may come out of it somewhere else later.

The rewrite loop is a hard one, I find that when I'm stuck in that space, sometimes taking a step back and just literally making a bullet point list of the scenes and/or what I want to accomplish really helps! Recently I also started going through and highlighting certain passages or concepts in the document that are poignant to the themes or vibes of the story/ that I wanna circle back around to in some way. Its been helping me keep things a bit more consistent in terms of emotion, and has helped a lot with ‘scene-block’. Bc instead of being like ‘uhhhh okay what now?’ I can always look back through the highlights and see what needs to be carried through more – or it can spark a new idea from thinking over how to get to that specific point you want to reach!

Sometimes when writing feels too daunting to me I’ll literally just tell myself “that’s okay. You don’t have to write. You can do literally anything else.” And sometimes just that, the verbal removal of the pressure, can loosen things up – especially if I do want to be writing. But sometimes, you really just do need a break from it. Picking up another hobby to fill writing time when I’m burnt out really helps me out!

I’ve taken months away from all sorts of writing projects before (both fan work and personal) bc there was just a block. And it sucks. I’m really sorry you’ve been dealing with this, it’s such a frustrating experience.

Honestly, sometimes writing can help you work through something IRL, but other times I find that sometimes the writing has to wait until I’ve hit a certain milestone personally. There’s a project of mine I pick up maybe once a year. Maybe. Because it just can’t have what I need it to until I sort some of those personal things out in my own life.

I’ve also noticed how much your Charlastor Fankid AU has taken off (Love Dawn btw), and you expressed recently how you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the amount of asks/etc with the executive dysfunction of it all (same btw) (I’m also the person from the comment on that - hi lol). I wouldn’t be surprised if some of those pressure-feelings you’ve expressed have bled over into your other WIPs, pls be kind to yourself <3

Think how long people waited for Hazbin content from Viv, or any other number of indie-origin fandoms. When people love an idea or a style or any other number of things, the people it resonates with are happy to give the person or people behind it time. You can tell when someone enjoys making things. When something is made with that passionate spark. I want you to know that your posts really do have that. I can tell how much love you have to give through your work. People who like your stuff aren’t going to disappear if you need to take a minute to breathe, you know? I know the world we live in, and the faux-perfection of the internet can make us creatives feel like we need to be machines, but it’s not true. We’re people. And other decent folks will be happy to respect that!

Creativity and how we express it is very personal, and everyone’s process is different, so I can only really speak from my own perspective here, but you’re doing great. Your work is amazing, and I hope your writer’s block clears up soon!

I hope this message doesn’t come off weird in any way, with this massive message out of ‘nowhere’, my heart just really went out to you on this from one writer and artist to another. I also sent this as an ask bc for some reason sending a DM this long felt weird given that we haven't really spoken before.

Good luck with everything! Always here if you need another creative person to complain to or chat with LOL

- Lizzie

sobbing, this actually made me so (positively) emotional man-

Thank you so so so much for taking the time to type all this out and reach out like this, it honestly means the world from me, especially since your ask here really is oozing with empathy and care in ways that surprisingly hit me in the feels pretty good???

I'm sorry I didn't respond to this sooner but I kind of couldn't muster the energy to give it the kind of response it deserves that wasn't just senseless keysmashing sdkjhsdkjfh

what's wack about my particular kind of writer's block is that I'm more than happy to ramble on and on about Dawn and my ideas for her story in asks etc, but to make a coherent story of it feels like an undoable feat somehow?

I've always had a knack for piecing together a plot out of thin air or based on next to nothing to go off of, but it's actually putting it into a consumable format that I always, ALWAYS get hung up on, and it bothers me to no end :'3

Your reassuring words genuinely really help a lot in soothing my fears of, well, I guess irrelevancy?

I do ultimately write for myself, but I can't help but feel like there's a ticking clock in the back of my brain that tells me I need to make something consumable before the "fad" around Dawn especially passes and most people that would've cared about a fic about her have already moved on, if that makes sense?

It's a stupid amount of pressure to put on myself and maybe even sounds kind of arrogant, but I do thrive off of seeing people react to and think out loud about things I'm passionate about - it's a connection, a communication of sorts, something I'll never not desperately crave.

I've been having so much fun with Dawn and the story surrounding her and I couldn't be happier that people are so engaging with what I put out in turn! So much so that a part of me dreads seeing when that will come to an end ^^"

I'll keep trying though, and keep doing what I love <3

Again, thank you so much for taking the time to reach out like this, a lot of this is something I definitely needed to hear and words can't express how much I sincerely appreciate it ;w;

#I also might actually take you up on that last sentence offer - likewise my dms are always open <3 #chubs answers #writing advice

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appatary8523 · 2 months

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Dumb probably negative no context rambles under the cut

Last chance, don't ruin your mood and go back

OK you wanted it this way

1.- I like STW but I usually have to get up to do things while playing (yea sometimes in FN:BR I hide in bushes to go and do some other stuff. I've barely made any progress, the game is quite complicated to me because I don't play it often and I forget what was going on? And I don't know how to use most of the mechanics of the game(? Still, the humor is funny, the gameplay might feel repetitive from time to time but I like it, I really really like it.

I also would like to have more IRL friends who play STW (or FN in general), I bet that game mode is way funnier and rewarding in squad. But nobody plays it, and I think I have no friends who play FN? Just my older brother and he has his own duo so I'm not getting in between them (?) (and he doesn't like STW so he doesn't even have access to it). There's a dude at my workplace who plays FN but no thanks, I don't like him, he's stupid (he's the it guy who can't fix a damn thing. I hate that guy he's so stupid)

As always, I'm playing solo in this squad mode game called life (?

2.- I know I often say I'm doing it for me but, damn, I wish someone could like it the way I like it too. I'll see if it's worth the effort or if I should just finish the damn thing and save if for myself. I'm not hurt or anything alike, I was 1000% aware this was going to happen, and it's helping me improve. I think I just don't want to deal with that anymore. Sorry, I lose motivation quite often and easily

3.- I try to keep everything happy and positive in my FN blog but... I don't really like Hope. I mean she's cool and all that but I just don't like her e-girl thing going on. The only thing I like about her is the cat on her banner icon whatever the name of that thing is. Neither sunsp0t, actually y don't like a lot of things but I'll just save my awful FN opinions. I should've saved my headcanons too

4.- Surprise surprise (actually is no surprise) I'm losing followers. And I get it, I get you guys, I used to post funny things, funny drawings (or drawings in general) but now I just complain about everything. Sorry, I'm not in a good mood anymore.

I don't think people should keep following/stay suscribed to a channel, account, blog thing they dont like no more. I've seen artists (on Twitter of course) complaining about how people should not follow an account for X specific thing but I don't think that's how things work. Just like the things you like change, the things other like change too. They should NOT feel forced to like the things you like and see the things you want to share. But I guess you have to grow up to realize that. I personally don't feel offended when people stop following me, right now I'm offering nothing but negative text post, and that's OK. Curate the things you consume, make it a more pleasant experience, don't feel forced to follow someone you no longer like.

I personally follow people for a specific thing, and sometimes, like everyone, they change the things they make, but if I like their stuff I usually stick around because it's interesting! I just stop following if they change for worse (the same way I changed for worse). Still, not everyone thinks the same way I do.

5.- I still thinking I should just make another sideblog to dump all this dumb kind of posts but honestly I don't want to deal with it. Making an FN exclusive sideblog was already way too much, but I didn't want to mix all in here

6.- I guess that's what you get for interacting with people half your age.

7.- Shouldn't have joined, should've stayed away

8.- I wish we could talk, someday. I'd like to know you better. I know I don't exist for you but you mean so much for me (yea now I understand my taste for one-sided fictional relationships lol). I know, im stupid, I'm delusional, I'm, as always, daydreaming about things that will never ever happen and I will never have. I can't understand love, I can't wrap my head around the idea of being romantically involved with someone but that's OK, that kind of things are not meant for me

9.- I wish I could control whatevers going on in my mind. I wish it could slow the pace of my thoughts, I need some rest from the world but most important, I need a break from myself but I guess there's nothing I can do about it

10.- Also, Beatles song

11.- I fell asleep after posting this and I OBVIOUSLY had to edit it to add this because i DREAMED someone gave me some support words and it felt so nice and comforting jdjsjs I'm alone

12.- Morningssey song. Yes I like him too so sue me (?

#Mental diarrhea #And probably morning mental dump (?#I've been awake for several hours now and I'm doing nothing

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heart4reigns · 11 months

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HABITS, samijey.

warnings: alcohol, breakups, heartbreaks, trauma dumping, flashbacks, anxiety/panic attacks, inaccurate events, throwing up

tags: help, ITALIC FOR FLASHBACKS, i'm just projecting atp, listen to habits - tove lo for full experience

JIMMY sighed as he knocked on his twin's apartment to no avail. he had been standing for approximately 15 minutes in front of his door. "uce, open up." jimmy tried to get his brother's attention once again. "the number you are calling is not available, please try again later." the operator answered instead of his brother. "jey, i know you're there please just-" before he could finish his sentence, the door was unlocked.

the sight of his brother being disheveled greeted him. jimmy was heartbroken seeing his brother for the first time since the incident. "hey, sorry... i was asleep." the younger twin muttered. his hair was a mess, eyes were puffy, and jimmy swore he had never seen his brother like this. "come in, sorry for the mess." jey opened the door to let him in. there were countless bottles of beers, shot glasses, and other alcoholic drinks on the floor. jey uso was drinking his heart out.

"how are you feeling?" was the first thing that came out of jimmy's mouth when he sat down on the couch. "i'm fine." jey replied shortly. "everyone's looking for you, uce... we're worried." jey immediately shook his head. "there's nothing to worry about. i'm perfectly fine." jimmy sighed as he drank his water. "just know that i'm here for you, okay? me, trin, solo, and roman... we're here if you need anything." "thanks, but i'll be okay on my own."

after his brother left, jey put his guard down–pouring himself a glass of vodka as he pondered on his current state. he was devastated. he didn't know what went wrong. everything was perfect for him. that was until a few days ago, his boyfriend decided to break it off with him. the words 'it's not going to work out' lingered on his mind for days. bullshit, he thought. it was going to work out, at least he thought.

sami was moving away. jey knew his lover was retiring, sami wanted to focus on himself as he already had countless achievements to be proud of. although the retirement was well-known for everyone, they didn't know that sami was moving away. it wasn''t going to work out for them–jey had been in denial of his own condition.

"it's not going to work out." the man said, facing him with pity in his eyes. "what do you mean it's not going to work out? you're just retiring, it's not like you're moving away." jey chuckled at his boyfriend's words. silence colored the empty locker room, jey swore he could hear his heart beat going faster than usual. "jey..." sami muttered. "no." jey shook his head. "no, you're joking?" jey laughed. he faced sami, seeing him with a serious look.

jey sat down, still in shock. "y- you didn't tell me about this? now we're breaking it off because you're moving away? baby, i can deal with long distance relationships-" "jey. i made up my mind, i'm sorry. i love you." cue the start of his own downfall. sami still had one show left before his retirement and jey couldn't even bring himself up to the arena. he sighed as he got up from the bed to face another day. the right side of his bed was empty, leaving him alone with his thoughts. "hey uce, yeah... i don't think i can drive today. can you pick me up?"

it was sami's last show today. the ride to the arena was silent. jimmy, being the big brother he was, tried his best to cheer him up with his banters. "we can get food after this, i'm buying. what do you want?" jimmy asked, looking at his brother who was gazing out of the car window. "uce?" jimmy nudged him. "sorry, what were you saying?" jey replied. he was deep in his own thoughts. "i said what do you want to eat after this, i'm buying." "i'm good man." jimmy sighed at his brother's answer.

it broke his heart seeing his twin being like this. jimmy didn't know what to do to cheer him up. when everyone heard the news about their breakup, they immediately knew that it was going to ruin the two of them. they were so in love with each other. “you have to eat something, have you eaten today?” jey nodded at his older brother’s question. “no you haven’t.” the younger twin sighed in frustration. “i get it you’re worried, but i’ll be okay.”

“i can’t fucking do this.” jey stopped his tracks, standing in front of the locker room door. “josh.” jimmy patted his shoulder. “huh?” he was still out of it. “you can do this.” jimmy smiled at him. jey stepped into the locker room, only to find it to be empty. jey sighed in relief, not feeling the presence of his ex-boyfriend. “see, there’s nothing to worry about. come one, let’s get ready.”

the process of getting ready usually includes sami hyping him up for the day. whether it was a short run to the pantry, grabbing two cups of coffee (which jey preferred no sugar, but sami always forgets) or just small talks regarding their lives, it felt empty today. jimmy went to the other locker room, trying to find their younger brother, leaving jey alone with his thoughts.

“jey.” he felt a pang on his chest. he knew that voice and he didn’t dare to look up. “jey.” the voice repeated. “sami.” jey finally responded, still trying to avoid his gaze. “hey.” sami sat next to him, only for jey to stand up and excuse himself from the room. “sorry.” his voice slightly cracked. his chest tightened as he tried to push himself to open the bathroom door. his legs were trembling and he didn’t know what to do. jey locked the bathroom door, trying his best to calm himself down.

the sound of the bathroom door being banged on caused his head to pound even harder. it was already hard for him to breathe and the sound made it even worst. “uce, are you okay?” “please leave me alone, i- i’ll be out in a bit.” he stuttered, laying his head on the toilet bowl–forcing him to throw up the remains of yesterday’s dinner. one last show and he’ll be gone, jey thought. just one last show.

chairs were lined up, facing the ring–sami’s soon to be spotlight. jey felt like shit. it was sami’s last day and he couldn’t even fake a smile for him. his older brother practically broke down the door to check up on him. so there they were, sitting right in front–waiting for the show to start. jimmy had his arms slung on his younger brother’s shoulders, trying to calm him down. “yo, you look terrible.” solo added, taking a seat next to jimmy. jimmy glared at solo, mouthing something that jey couldn’t catch.

he noticed that his coworkers had pity plastered on their faces every time they passed him. he hated it. he hated being pitied. time felt slow as the show started. the black-haired man fixed his posture as the cameras started rolling. “today, we celebrate the departure of our dear friend. the one and only, sami zayn.” the crowd went wild as hunter introduced the star of the night.

jey looked at the man walking down the ramp. sami was wearing his special suit that jey picked out months ago. “fuck.” jey muttered, his headache coming back. “you okay?” roman softly nudged him. “i’m all good.” jey replied. sami had the biggest smile plastered on his face as he stood behind the podium. “well, this is kinda awkward for me now.” he started the show. “hello everyone, my name is rami sebei. you might now me as sami zayn.” he introduced himself to the crowd.

“today is my last day here and i’m so thankful to have the spotlight on me right now to address some things. first of all, i did not put any baby powder on my beard before i walk out.” the crowd laughed. “that was a long-running joke.” he continued. jey couldn’t help but to feel proud and devastated at the same time. this was going to be the last time he was going to see his soulmate inside the ring.

time went by slowly for him–he disassociated in the middle of sami’s speech. “lastly, i’d like to thank josh.” the two made eye-contact and sami offered a smile. “i won’t be here if it weren’t for him. he helped me a lot, picked me up when i’m down–hell, he’d drive 3 hours just to give me a hug one time.” tears started to fall down on his cheeks. it was an emotional moment for the both of them. “josh, i love you. thank you for always being there for me, i always got your back. i’m proud of us.”

that last sentence hurt him.

“wrestlemania… god, it’s such a big deal for us, baby.” jey grinned, unwrapping his gloves. “i can’t believe we made it this far.” sami kissed jey’s forehead. “i’m proud of us.” jey blurted out. “i’m proud of us.” sami repeated, still holding his boyfriend in his arms.

the night ended and everyone went to the after party. everyone but jey. he immediately went home and poured himself any alcoholic drink he could find in his pantry. today was a rough day for him. the man consumed countless shots of the substance–the more, the merrier. he felt his head getting fuzzy than before as he picked up his phone. jey struggled to unlock it, visions getting blurrier. the man gave up, “hey siri, call sami.” he said to his phone.

it took a couple of seconds before sami answered. “hello?” his voice was loud and clear. jey didn’t answer him, hoping he’d call out his name once again. “jey?” sami repeated. “i fucking hate you.” was all that came out of jey’s mouth. sami knew he was drunk. “i fucking hate you so much, you’re leaving in a couple of days. you’re so selfish. we could make it work.” jey couldn’t stop himself from cursing at his ex. “whatever happened to us? was i not enough for you?” once again, he got choked up with his own tears.

“i’m still so fucking in love with you. it hurts so much to love you.” jey continued, taking another shot of the alcohol. “if this is love, then i don’t want it.” he wiped the tears from his face. “josh…” sami sighed, trying his best not to cry in the middle of his own party. “i’m sorry.” sami added. “i’m sorry for being selfish, i’m sorry for hurting you… but this is the best option for us.” sami blurted out. “best option? you know i’d drop everything for you. i’ll move out with you, i’ll retire for you.” jey sobbed.

silence greeted them. “i don’t want you to do that, we both have dreams to chase–you can’t just drop everything for me, jey. i’d hate you for that.” sami was the one who broke the silence. “i love you and that’s all that matters.” “if you love me, why did you fucking leave me?”

if this was love, jey didn’t want it. love wasn’t supposed to hurt. love to him was waking up right next to his boyfriend, only to find him fast asleep. love to him was sharing a cramped up hotel room, still enjoying the company of each other despite the tiny bed. love to him was being with his boyfriend, no matter what happened to them, they knew they had each other. and this wasn’t love. there he was, on the floor–uncontrollably sobbing over the thought of his ex-boyfriend leaving him.

“i hate you.” “i know you do. if hating me makes you move on faster, then do it. hate me all you want, it’s easier for you.”

a/n: got carried away… feedbacks are highly appreciated and requests are open once again!

#the usos #wwe #wwe imagines #roman reigns #jey uso #cody rhodes #paul heyman #wrestling #jimmy uso #sami zayn #sami x jey #jami #samijey #solo sikoa

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tteokdoroki · 1 year

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🌸 - I just want to establish the following isn’t an attack on all shippers of this ship because not all of you are toxic it’s just that some of y’all scare me;

So I have been having a few mental health issues this week and I have the bkdk tag blocked but I can’t figure out how to block tags on yt and instagram so I literally started crying when I was exposed to it. I experienced a lot of toxicity from them on twt so I can’t even look at the ship but kiribaku has been my comfort ship. Unfortunately because the canon material has been focused on deku and bakugo, which makes me deeply uncomfortable. I don’t have the context but the sheer idea of bakugo having feelings for the nerd, even in subtext makes me physically sick. It’s not that I don’t like deku, it’s just that the ship feels like pseudo incest because in my interpretation they act like brothers. Also the fact that kirishima isn’t really relevant as much anymore bothers me. He’s a good character on his own and I’ve accepted the fact that it won’t be canon because it’s shonen. But after kamijiro (which I also have blocked in tags but don’t mind at the moment) had that out of pocket scene that caused me a literal mental breakdown (long story), my mental health can’t handle the fact that bakugo literally sacrificed himself for deku without even a reference to his CANON BEST FRIEND kirishima. I deeply hope that we get a blatant confirmation that bakugo and deku have a BROTHERLY relationship even if we don’t get any on screen kiribaku crumbs. I want reassurance that bkdk would never happen and for the toxic shippers to stop posting bkdk content under the krbk tags and stop trying to force your ship onto others. I already had a crisis about accidentally falling in love with a fictional character (Denki) and feeling heartbroken but now I have to deal with possible subtextual evidence for bkdks and a lack of krbk content in canon. Please tell me I’m just the subtext wrong and that in context I don’t have to worry. I’m freaking out because I’ve seen krbk solos literally get doxxed on twitter and harassed by toxic bkdks.

listen, im only going to answer this ask/topic once im pretty sure i’ve addressed this with you personally already. this is not the first time I’ve warned you about trauma dumping here but im going to set some boundaries. please don’t do this in my inbox — i don’t know you personally and I’m literally just a girl on tumblr writing porn. i am not your best friend, you cannot dump issues on me like this out of the blue, especially without considering how they make me feel myself. you do not know me.

secondly as a person who regularly engages with both bkdk and krbk content i think this is extremely selfish and ridiculous for you to send this to me 😭 just because YOU had a bad experience with bkdk doesnt mean i should have this projected onto me. i am just a person on tumblr, im not a therapist — i can help with day to day issues but this just seems like something you need to figure out for yourself.

im sorry about the issues you have surrounding it and perhaps the toxic people on Twitter but it seems to me that you need to make the conscious decision to leave bnha Twitter or Twitter in general?? like idk what to tell you but the manga is literally about deku 😭 he’s the protagonist. you’re going to see him and bakugou interact. pseudo incest is literally ridiculous as well. they’re childhood friends ??? like what

im not going to reassure you about krbk this or bkdk that because quite frankly i don’t care. they’re lines on a page to me and its literally never that deep. shipping is meant to be for fun and not to be taken that seriously. i severely suggest that you take a break ?? from all thing bnha related because as you’ve stated it’s not been very good for you and im sorry for that.

i literally cannot even fathom how disrespectful this is 😭 coming to my inbox with no warning and venting like this. genuinely don’t mean to be rude but i have no idea what you expected me to respond with. it’s deeply concerning and literally never do this again. please.

#✧ ₊˚✉️੭ — new notification #tw: discourse #tw: shipping #to say that u hate shippers and then put this in my inbox is so….#im so uncomfortable with this what the hell #this is so unhealthy literally never do this #like holy fuck i just woke up

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littlespoonevan · 1 year

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Ciara!! you are so real for that tag 'i just wanna be hELD' like???? relationships were never a necessity in my life,,hell,,im 28 and like never had one actually and it never truly bothered til this year. I feel embarrassed for not having anyone in my life ever and start to think that maybe I have some kind of a problem? because yes I haven't actively searching for it but also nobody offered anything? showed any interest?idk? and these days all I want is just to be held. I wanna come to a home where im 100% me. I'm sorry dumbing this on you I am thinking about it a lot these days and seeing your post and tags was like universe screaming at me or sth

oh bud, you are absolutely not dumping this on me!!! i'm nodding along vigorously with everything you're saying!!!!

i've been in one relationship (which was bad for So many reasons and certainly was not romantically fulfilling in any way) and i've dated a little but the true, genuine affection that comes with being loved by someone is just......not something i've ever experienced lol.

and i think when talking about it online a lot of the time the legitimate reasons some people have for wanting to be in a relationship sort of get brushed off in a 'you don't need a relationship to be happy!!!! romantic love isn't everything!!!! be proud to be alone!!!!' kind of way. and i mean. like you said, i'm fine on my own generally. it doesn't bother me. and i don't need a relationship to be happy.

but also. i'm still allowed to want one?????? why shouldn't we get to fall in love, u know??? or find that happiness and love and affection with somebody????? why should i have to settle for being alone when most of the world isn't????

and y'know, re the age thing, i think it's a vicious cycle bc the older you get, the more it maybe feels embarrassing to reveal your lack of experience with relationships so it can make you back out of dating someone before things get serious but then that just means going Even Longer without having those experiences askjdfh i have yet to work through that issue myself lol

also. i know dating apps have been very helpful in one way but in another i feel like they have rUINED dating culture bc it feels like now you do have to be actively looking in order to date anyone. (i am so firmly against the whole 'it'll happen when you least expect it' thing that is highkey not true anymore askjdfh) but my experience of those apps is just everything feeling so formulaic and like you're ticking boxes of the same basic conversation you have with multiple different people while also swiping past people you could potentially really like bc all you're seeing is a few pics and whatever info they've decided to reveal in their bio (which is usually extremely limited). and in general, i think they really don't benefit people who prefer knowing someone in person/being friends first before dating (like me)

but yeah tl;dr. it's really hard sometimes, when i've had a bad day or i'm stressed, to know if one of my friends felt like that they can go home to partners who'll hold them and comfort them and make their day better without having to be asked. and i just....go home, pick myself back up, and carry on. it would just be nice to not have to deal with everything on my own, y'know?????

relationships certainly aren't everything and not all of them are good but also i would like someone to take care of me now, thanks 🥺

#anon #asks #i always tell myself i only ever have to get it right once for it to be the thing i want #but jfc my success rate isn't looking good right now askjdhf #also re dating apps i firmly believe 9 times out of 10 they only work if you know the person first #but you wouldn't have started talking to them in a romantic context if not for said app #anyway now we've dumped on each other anon <3

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doodle-pops · 2 years

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Hi Mina, this might be a little bit of an odd question, but I'm trying to make an OC with special powers (Idk If you know anything about MCU's Scarlet Witch but her powers are similar to that). She's basically very powerful snd she hides the fact she has these powers from her beloved elf. What would be the elves' reaction be when she suddenly saves them from a legal attack using her powers? 🤔

Sorry Ik this is difficult, but I was hoping if you could help me out a little bit. This OC thing might go down into the dump who knows lol

But anyways, I hope you can give me something and thank you for your input 🥰🥰

Word of advice 'don't sell yourself short of what you can create.'

I have to say, I really love this question and would love to write headcanons if it was ever requested. Now, onto this masterpiece OC that you're creating which requires my input. First and foremost, I love the Scarlet Witch and your idea. Happy to help.

Your elves are probably going to think that you're a Maia and the Valar sent you to relieve them of their suffering. Some might believe that you could be one of the Valar, for they only ever felt that level of power surging from them. They would love for you to show them your powers and learn all that they can from them.

Fingolfin, FINGON, Turgon, FINROD, Angrod, Aegnor, GLORFINDEL, Ecthelion, EGALMOTH, Galdor, Rog, CELEBRIMBOR

Sceptical because they are aware of the Valar not being of any assistance since they defied them and don't have any positive views on them. Quick to throw a million and one questions and force you to reveal your true intentions. When you do reveal that you're on their side, expect apologies. A few may still be cautious.

FEANOR, MAEDHROS, Maglor, CELEGORM, Caranthir, CURUFIN, Amrod, Amras

In general, they would all be in awe of your power. It becomes very useful in battle. From lifting them into the air so they could defeat creatures with ease, to throwing the creatures about the place. You're able to create hexes, manipulate reality, control the mind, weather control, teleportation, and spell casting.

I'm putting the rest under the cut since it would be of more interest to you anon. Hope it everything helps and best of luck.

With the Darkhold the Scarlet Witch was able to dream-walk, but you could include them doing so without it. In the comics, the Scarlet Witch's powers extended to the limits of being able to speak and the action would be performed.

Can I give you a bit of backstory to how your OC could be created if you don't mind? You don't need to use it, but if you're trapped go right ahead.

They can be one of Morgoth's experiments - a Maia he stole from Irmo (since he deals with the mind) because he admired their powers and wished to enhance them.

The experiment could be a failure or a success. But they're trapped in Angband being forced to assist Morgoth with his scheme. Control the minds of elves and creatures.

You could escape on your own or during the time when Fingon rolls in to rescue Maedhros and he passes through Angband.

I think the Feanorians, should they learn of your abilities, would be quick to convince you to help them regain the Silmarils without a doubt, as well as defeat Morgoth once and for all.

Same with the other Houses, they would all urge you to assist them in defeating Morgoth and using your powers for the greater good.

There might be a tug-of-war between which elven houses get to host you. Either the Feanorians or the High King.

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happy-ramm · 11 months

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Hi!

First of all: Thank you very much, I really appreciate all of your input on the current rammstein situation and I’d totally say I agree!

The situation is fucked.

I just want to add some of my thoughts about all of this, if that’s ok:

Let’s start with: I hate it here.

I hate what this debate does to the bigger image of the band: they are in the process of becoming a tool to express hate towards women and the general idea of feminism. There are misogynists, fans of this red pill ideology ‘defending’ Till by simply calling the women who came forward with allegations slurs. And there are fanaccounts sharing these videos like “go watch it, big recommendation” … you’re like ten seconds in and the dude in the video calls a woman “bitch”/“hoe” because he has ‘evidence’ that she might be lying? Shut up, Sherlock and maybe let some professional investigator do their job?

Who do they think they’re helping with that? It’s ridiculous, really embarrassing and not helpful at all imho.

This antifa-incident now also gives a lot of rather right winged people (Nazis lol) the opportunity to slide in the comment section of posts about it and spread hate of the political left as a whole and force their ideas of “the lefts being the new facists” on everyone. This connection is also very nice for all those journalists out there who love discussing rammstein as nazis! And also veeeery nice for the current political situation in Germany! much wow. I’m so done. (Also quick advice to all the activists out there: if you feel like vandalism, maybe rather write ‘no stage for Nazis’ on some buildings that are owned by ‘Alternative für Deutschland’?)

(These right winged accounts also really often show their homophobia - which I find quite ironic given the fact that rammstein eg waved pride flags in poland and their guitarists kissing on stage like every concert now but ok)

Id def consider myself somewhere on the spectrum of the political left and I also think that one can (and should) read rammsteins appearance in their political songs in this context.

My point being: there are now a lot of people interested in rammstein who seem to actually have nothing in common with their world view? It just makes me really uncomfortable and I hope that once this is over they’ll loose their interest in the band again.

I’ve been to three rammstein concerts and one of Lindemanns shows - until now everything was ok and we met some nice people. (Even tho the Lindemann Show was a rather weird, unique experience in general but that’s sth different) .. all in all I’d say my (female passing) friends and I were having a good time and everything was ok.

But with all of this, with the chance that the amount of these kinds of really bad people being interested in rammstein and as a result maybe also attending the concerts is growing - I might be afraid of going to another one (if there will be another tour?) and no, not because of Till Lindemann.

Sorry for the late repsonse Anon! I was moving house!

In general, though, I share a lot of your concerns. Situations such as this one are tricky because what is ultimately the dealings between two people and their own feelings/experiences of the matter gets submitted to the greater public for their judgement. Politics, laws, personal morals and agendas all get dumped in one big pot to boil over and eventually fester. It is all very confusing...and then out pops something nasty. In this case, the misogynistic right wing.

Frankly, I am not surprised that the right-wing has found a little nest within the Rammstein fandom. I do not say that because I believe Rammstein harbours any sympathies with that ideology - I like you firmly believe them to be a left-leaning band - but simply because people's media literacy skills are in general....ah, how to say this politely?....ah yes, they are fuckin' shit.

Rammstein is a band that rewards those willing to look deeper; those who love satire and those who simply have a good sense of humour. Unfortunately, they also appeal to those who really like when things go BANG.

Now, I also like when things go bang, don't get me wrong - pure sensation can never be underrated in terms of art. However, its a matter of aesthetics versus text. A reasonable person would conclude that these can't be separated: their interaction, whether it be complimentary or contrasting, creates the meaning. In the case of Rammstein, however, there exists a neat line, formed due to the language barrier between the band and the general audience.

This barrier has benefitted Rammstein - I believe they would not have gotten so far if their content was in English, for instance, but it means there are too many who only see "the picture".

The hardness. The hypermasculinity. The violence. The sexual imagery. The stoicism. The evocation of fascism. And all without the crucial framing of the lyrics.

Even when the satire should be self-evident, many miss the cue. Take Links 234 as an example: a song which functions as a politically rally for the left, specifically against the right, and was constructed in response to a reactionary media who sought controversy and not understanding, has ended up as a right-wing marching song in many minds.

It is very frustrating

Even more frustrating is deciding how to deal with this....

Argue with every idiot you see on the internet? Now, that's a Sisyphean task.

Leave the fandom altogether? Well, that feels like a different kind of defeat.

Realistically speaking, there is no silver bullet. One decides what is best for themselves. Personally, I feel no fear participating in the fandom as a queer AFAB person. Reality is different from the online spaces and I have never felt uncomfortable at their concerts, and when online, the block button is a blessing. I have no idea how this recent controversy is going to change the demographic of the Rammstein fandom, but I know I ain't going to fuckin budge to leave space for some Nazi twat. All I can say is, I hope this situation is resolved quickly, and I hope all Nazis die in a fuckin' fire.

That is all.

#rammstein #anon ask

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astrolaurical · 11 months

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Hey, I was the person who basically dumped the yearning story and a little bit of my thoughts on twin flame lol. Sorry for dumping all of that on you. I kinda just got excited cause I never read of someone talking about the yearning feeling like that and I was like oh shit that happened to me too then I went crazy with it lol. I’ve definitely stopped thinking about them a lot, but I think I’m more scared of that type of feeling to come up again so it’s almost like I put up a concrete wall spiritually so no one can access my energy besides my guides. Even for them, I think it’s hard because of how blocked off I’ve become. I was diving into spirituality hardcore when that happened and idk if I was that connected or something, but that scared me lol. I know I regressed a lot spiritually (not meditating, not using tarot cards, not contacting my guides, and etc. for a hot min). Slowly, I’m bringing myself back to that, but I’m afraid to at the same time because I don’t want to experience that again. I’ve been focusing on myself like I usually do and have done things that helped me grow as a person. Idk if you’ve ever felt like this about your twin, but sometimes I wish I never knew of them if I do have one? It makes me sad to say that, but the logical part of my brain is like too much emotion for you. I already deal with myself and I’m already a very emotional and intense person (thank you to all the Pisces in my chart and 1st house stellium). Of course I’ve learned to ground myself at certain points (major props to my Taurus moon), but it doesn’t make my emotional side any less intense. I wish I didn’t need to calm my emotional side, but I’ve never met anyone who felt ready to accept all sides of me. I’ve only dreamt of whoever that was once. I hope it stays that way, because if they know about me, they’ll know I’ll be okay with and without them. I’m used to being on my own a lot and I’ve come to realize that I’m okay with being alone as long as I have what I really love (I.e music, astrology, tarot cards, friends, and family (under certain circumstances lol). But if it does happen, obviously, I won’t reject it. If it’s meant for me, it’ll happen, but won’t be the end of the world if it doesn’t. Sorry for dumping again. I talk a lot 😅 especially for a stranger on the internet. You just have a good energy about you so it felt safe enough to open up a bit. Sorry again, these are just my thoughts as I think them. I would like to thank you for the advice and your open mindedness to talk about things like this. I really do appreciate it. I do wonder tho. I wonder if the person I dreamt about was, my twin or not, was a present or future them in the 4D. I’m just rambling at this point. Let me stop lmao. Have a wonderful day and thank you again for reading this if you do 💜

Your story is almost parallel to mine. I had a dream of me getting married to a no-face man when I was a KID and i never forgot it. Then a few years ago I actually had a dream where I saw him and we talked. Scared the shit out of me because I astral projected and was like fully cognizant and was aware I was communicating in my dream.

So obviously, this process take years. Ego death is not an overnight thing. Your brain will cling on to your ego for as long as possible since it’s a shield. That’s why so many twins don’t meet under they are seniors. That’s why I said live your life and don’t wait up for your twin or you’ll be causing yourself a lifetime of loneliness and celibacy. It seems like you’ve already been living your life so great!

#ask #twin flames

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Dream, I trust you a lot, and sorry for dumping my mess in here but... I feel like I'm going through a lot lately and I'm confused as for where I stand. I feel like this year, a lot has been happening that has never happened before. For example, I feel like I've been getting my ego hurt a lot. I was someone who always believed a lot in myself (in my ego) and for example, lovewise, whenever I liked someone I always had this belief of "anyone I want, wants me" and it was always true for me. This year though, that belief has been challenged and I have been humbled real good.

I have a friend who's been triggering me a lot, not that she is doing anything, I have found I feel some sort of envy that I dislike, but I can't deny it. Something happened recently where a guy I had a crush on (it was not serious AT ALL, just a little crush), no one knew except for her and myself, and then we found out he liked my friend and not me. She started feeling guilty about it, but I was not angry at all (why would I be). Now I am angry because she's been pitying me and trying to "make me feel good" about something I didn't feel bad about. I feel ashamed? Because I can imagine her telling other people about it and pitying me because this guy likes her and not me, and that bothers me lmao.

Also about the envy, I feel like she's so effortless and everything is so easy for her, I know that I am always planning and overthinking and things do not seem to go my way, so it bothers me how she doesn't even try. It's funny because I have been on a spiritual path where it is constantly repeated that there is not effort required and then the proof (my friend) shows up in my reality and I am triggered af by it.

I don't want to feel this envy towards someone I am supposed to love and care about. She's been a very good friend and I'm feeling like a bitch. I just can't be happy when she's happy and I don't know how to change it. I feel like a horrible person.

And about the guy, I cried, not because of him, but because I feel like this year I have been put through so many moments where I am constantly being rejected, I don't know how to deal with it because I had never been rejected and I know we repeat "there is nothing to change, things happen in a perfect way" but then we also have revision. So I don't know what to do. I don't know how to differentiate acceptance from internalizing things that make me feel horrible. I feel victimized haha, and I feel like there's nothing I can do for me, except accepting victimhood. Omg I swear I am so confused and I feel so trapped 😭

hello <3

i'm glad you feel you can trust me. thanks for coming here to open up about your experiences and how you feel <3

i think that its veryyyy normal to go thru this phase in life where suddenly you're triggered by things that weren't triggering before. think about it, its really easy to not be triggered when everything goes well. and when its suddenly not going well... well when we easily waver like that, it shows that maybe we werent as confident, or secure, or trusting, etc etc as we thought. it allows us to deal with shadows that were buried deep, so that we can continue with experiencing the pure love and abundance that is there for us beyond those painful illusions.

comparison is the root of so much pain. that envy you feel is normal so give yourself a bit of grace here. we've all felt envious or jealous before in our lives and thats okay. the issue here is simple the way you see her and the way you compare yourself to her as if shes the pinnacle of success. but shes just living her life, and through that youre able to see where your own self beliefs are.

the thing is that if we can see people's wins as wins for ourselves and not something that works against us, we are able to manifest more lovely things for ourselves. here's some affirmations you could go off of to help you begin shifting your perspective: there is so much X for everyone ! including me ! (example: there is so much love for everyone, including me)

take it slow and let urself feel it out, bc trying to push down ur feelings never helps, it only encourages them to grow. so let yourself feel how you feel but don't settle with it. make the decision to, slowly but surely, shift your perspective on how things have been unfolding and begin anew.

its okay to feel like a victim for a little bit, to let yourself be engrossed in the drama and melancholy of that, sometimes its what we need. the thing is that you don't stay there forever, you give yourself a moment to feel it all out and you get to decide when you want to start again as someone who is choosing to actively believe in themselves and in their lives. i would say forget about revision here, bc revision can be more like an attempt at control when youre feeling so low, and when youre feeling that low and out of control, its best to surrender and accept where youre at so that you can move forward.

i hope this helps in some way ! <3

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xenodelic · 1 year

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hey I'm that anon that talked about "alters not being real" and I'd like to apologize. I send that ask on impulse and wasn't thinking much.

good thing that you have alters from other worlds bc that would help me understand better the situation

and yes I do "want advice for how to constructively communicate with someone you have difficulty understanding" (putting in parentheses bc I did copypaste your wording bc I wasn't remembering how to spell it out)

it seems controversial but I do have the best intention with what I sended bc I love my friend and I'd love to understand him better.

I'm so sorry I sent that ask like that. I found your by by searching "actuallydid" and just jumped at it. I now understand how it was such a shitty move of me basically dumping my anger at you.

Alright, anon. We appreciate the apology. I'm sure that you mean well, so we'll do our best to give advice.

So, alters from other worlds. There's several different ways this can happen, but to keep it brief we'll just cover the basics.

1.) Past lives

So this is one of the more straight forward answers. The members of your friend's system may have existed on other worlds in a past life, and then reincarnated inside the system. Many people can recall their past lives and will have memories from them.

2.) Gateway system

Some systems have a "gateway" of sorts, that beings can enter through. Gateways can work in a lot of different ways, but typically its a metaphysical connection between two worlds, dimensions, universes, etc. So someone from another world could enter this doorway through their mind (or other means) and become part of a system.

Some systems believe their gateway to be a literal portal between worlds. For others, their gateway may be more of a metaphorical mental construct that explains the arrival of certain system members.

3.) Soulbonds

A soulbond is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. There's actually numerous explanations for soulbonding, but generally speaking its when a soul from another world or universe "latches on" and becomes connected to someone. Sometimes its a "long distance" connection where the soul stays on their own world but communicates with the host. Sometimes they go back and forth, and other times they stay permanently.

4.) Psuedomemories / substitute beliefs

A psuedomemory is a memory that is partially or entirely constructed by the mind. As in, its not something that "actually" happened, but has the same impact as a "real" memory. Sometimes, system members form with psuedomemories that sort of retroactively explain their existence. So an alter that sees themselves as an alien, may have constructed memories of actually being on another planet.

A substitute belief is a belief that takes the place of another, usually as a coping mechanism. So for example, if you feel very isolated, out of place, and feel like you don't "fit in" or belong on this world - you may start to feel like an alien. And that explanation can be easier for your mind to deal with, so then you start to believe that you really are an alien.

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These are just a few ways that your friend's alters may have come to being. But the important thing is, that regardless of the explanation, is that you be willing to listen to their experiences. Sure, you may not believe they're "actually" from another world, and you don't really have to. But what's important is that to them, it is very real. It is their reality, their experience.

Clearly, they have a lot of trust in you to be able to talk openly about this. It would be a huge violation of their trust for you to tell them that their experience isn't real or is meaningless. Just remember that your experience of reality is just as subjective and malleable as theirs is. Just like them, you can't actually prove the vast majority of your emotions and memories. They aren't material, and only exist within you, but they're still real to you!

Really the best thing you can do is to just listen! Listen and take it at face value, and try to understand what it means to them. You'll be able to learn a lot more about your friend, and have a better friendship because of it.

#actuallyplural #actuallymultiple #plurality

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Would you be so kind to provide a ronance info dump scene? I just need them to be so soft! Or a movie night OH WAIT THEM FANGIRLING TOGETHER-

Or hcs you have and wanna share <3

Hcs at the end!

"... You're seriously a fan of Metallica?" Robin pinched her eyes at Nancy, who shrugged.

"What's the big deal? They're cool." Nancy curved around her bed and scurried over to her cabinets, pulling out an squared black linen cloth from the back.

She had been cranking at a secret project for the entirety of Robin's ramble concerning a song Eddie had played for her at his trailer, which led to an extensive study on this so-called Metallica. Robin scoured the inches of each record shop within a twenty mile radius until she got her hands on a shiny, rectangular cassette with big, jagged letters screaming METALLICA: RIDE THE LIGHTNING in a shocking, thunderstorm blue.

"Sorry, but it's just—I never expected that Nancy Wheeler would like a hard-rock band." Robin turned on her stomach, forcing her eyes to another corner of the frustratingly pink room. The Tom Cruise poster above Nancy's nightstand shimmered, patronizing Robin with is sparkly teeth.

Nancy huffed out, and Robin couldn't tell if it was because of her comment or because of whatever she was working on at the foot of her bed.

"Metallica's just... cool, okay?" Nancy spoke with a drawl, like her tongue folded in on itself and tucked away an extra word or two. Robin knew how that felt—hell, she could feel her mouth reenacting it at that moment.

Robin sat up on Nancy's floral bedding. "I agree there, Nance. But..." She picked at the cuff of her jeans, tightening a loose thread around her index. "I don't know. They're a bit weird, don't you think? Some of their songs didn't rub off on me that well."

She treaded dangerous territory, like standing on a foot-wide, foot-long block, surrounded by a shiver of sharks—and Robin had just bled out bright red bait.

Nancy made a noise at the back of her throat. "Then, if you don't like their music all that much, why are we having this conversation?" Nancy, of course, knew why; she just did not catch on to Robin's careful plan.

If she was right about this, then she would get to experience Nancy's end and know what it's like to listen to a person yapper about a fixation. Like when Robin motormouths about how bees create honey or goes on about the underlining symbolism in movies created for children below the age of seven.

"I don't know. I guess I thought you'd have better taste in music or something." Robin let the words drip off the tip of her tongue like thick honey: slow, heavy, and impossible to scrub off.

Nancy rose and turned on her heels.

"Robin, you know good and well that you're lying." Nancy crossed an eyebrow, deadpanned, with her arms crossed over her dull brown vest. "Metallica is exactly your taste in music. Hell, even if it weren't, you'd at least appreciate the technicalities of it all."

Robin watched her. How she flung out her arms in gestures as she spoke, and how her eyes never set on anything. They wandered, fidgeted as her mind riled up in a hurricane.

"You'd even let Eddie teach you Master of Puppets on his guitar!" Nancy was completely burrowed in her brain now. Not really talking to Robin, but an empty room that had the ghost of her presence.

"Yeah, that's a good song," Robin commented, wondering if Nancy would even hear her from so back in her head.

"Yes! It is!" She did, it seemed. "And don't get me started of Fade To Black!"

A jolt lurched up in Robin, and she was suddenly on her feet beside Nancy. "Oh, hell yeah! I can feel that song right at the soles of me feet when I listen to it. Like, like it's—"

"—bouncing off the walls of her own head?" Nancy finished, and Robin swore a star at just plunged right through her pupil.

"Y—Yeah! Oh my God, and please tell me you like Seek & Destroy."

Nancy held onto Robin's shoulder. "Are you kidding? One of my favorites, Robs! Right next to Battery."

And Robin might have just imploded right there. "Why the hell have you not told me about your love for metal before?! It's official—you're coming with me over to Eddie's trailer, and we are absolutely going to blast Metallica and Black Sabbath"—Nancy's eyes blew and her mouth opened like a thought had just ruptured any and all other functions—"and we're going to lose our minds!"

Okay, yeah, I love these girls. Nancy and Robin being metalheads is just... yeah.

HC time!

Robin is almost always the one to hyperfixate on something first, subsequently dragging Nancy into her fixations. They end up raving about the Fixation of the Week during sleepovers.

Nancy loves collecting random trinkets she finds lying around (sea shells, coins, postage stamps, etc.) while Robin likes to collect stuff like records, T-shirts, pins, etc. (things that are bought. If she spots a thrift store on a walk, she'll grab Nancy by the wrist and drag her over there.)

Robin asks Nancy to pick out a pin/patch for her Family Video uniform so she can have something of Nancy's with her at work. Nancy chooses a [insert artist/movie Robin would dislike]-themed one to annoy her.

Robin attempts to climb up to Nancy's room the same way Steve would, but finds that she's not exactly fit to haul herself up to a second-story room. So, Nancy hides a latter in the bushes for Robin to use whenever she wants to come over but can't go through the front door because of her parents.

When Nancy and Robin are not alone together, they're probably hanging out with Max. They wheel her around town, taking her to the park or the grocery store just so she's not holed up at her house all day. The gang usually tags along as well, and they all have rowdy fun when everyone's together.

Thanks for the ask! I really enjoyed writing this one.

#ronance #heron's writing

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Hey! There’s something that’s been playing on my mind for a while now and would be great to get a reasoned male perspective on this. I think you’re really measured in your views, so would appreciate some input - but if you can’t be bothered, that’s no problem at all!

I’ve been with my partner for a few years now but the last year or so has been… rocky. He’s really busy at work so we barely see each other, and he’s too tired to really do anything when we have time. The issue for me is he’s got this female colleague he’s super close with and “likes spending time” with her. He’s said he finds her physically attractive but that they’re just friends. He goes for coffees and lunches with her during work (which, fine), will stay and have drinks with her on nights out after other colleagues have left, and talks to her about our relationship issues. Apparently the entire office is really close, but he’s closer with her because they’re more senior. Recently, he was complaining that we hadn’t seen each other in three days (we live together) but went for a walk with her within 30 mins of saying this. I’ve said I’m super uncomfortable with this and whilst I don’t think there’s anything untoward going on necessarily, I’m concerned he’s got a thing for her. He says he doesn’t and doesn’t see an issue with their relationship because they work in a stressful environment so have a comradeship if you will etc.

I honestly don’t know if I’m being unreasonable and overreacting. My female friends say they’d be uncomfortable with that too, but I don’t know if a dude might see things differently. Would love to hear your thoughts - and sorry for the mega long trauma dump!

This lines up in some ways with something I had going on in my early 20's.

I typed up 2 pages of stuff and realized it was just me going on a Garison Kilor style story that would have come around to the point eventually but would have crossed 12 time zones in the process.

(love his stories tho, saw the guy live it was incredible no scripts or prompts just a guy tellin a story) - almost did it again

My deal wasn't quite the same, lines up in a lot of places though.

I am not a professional so this is all lay stuff based on personal experience.

There needs to be some kind of boundaries created, work time, breaks and even the occasional wind down scotch not something to make an issue of unless there's a actual problem or some kind of thing in either of your histories that would make it less so.

When he's home, work should be on the back burner, if he's not bringing projects home to work on (better not be unless he's getting paid) pretty well everything to do with work needs to cease.

important for his mental health as well as the health of the relationship

I don't think that it's too much to ask though, keep your work stuff including people at work, random exceptions to be made as you said they're friends and the friendship extends beyond work so if she calls him up in tears because her hot Spanish lover Raymondo left her for the pool boy that's a very good time for a exception to be made, usually is with Raymondo he's a man whore like that.

In all seriousness though, there needs to be a separation between work and home it's something that all parties involved need to know and respect, generally speaking.

No clue what the industry is, but if it's as stressful as you let on as I put up a little bit, he needs to disconnect from that when he can just for his own sanity.

I don't think you're being unreasonable wanting him to spend not work time with you, and also letting him know it's making you uncomfortable isn't unreasonable either, honesty being very important in relationships.

But ya I would discuss boundaries and what is your together time and what that means, I hate ultimatums so not something I'd include personally, but a good talk seems in order.

Keep a note pad if you guys have a tendency to drift off topic so you can remember what the other topics were, little chatting cheat like having 37 wikipedia tabs open but for conversation.

I'll be keeping y'all on my prayer list for a while.

#anonymous

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