A little bit of love and patience for "messy" eaters.

People who don't use utensils conventionally.

People who chew with their mouth open.

People who leave crumbs and dribbles when they eat.

People who eat "loudly".

Whether it's because of different cultural norms, sensory sensitivities, motor disabilities, or facial differences, you all deserve to eat and be respected.

Hi! my name is saya and I am a final year student pursuing the course B.A. hons. Applied Psychology. I am conducting a research on the topic of "Social Alienation in the LGBTQ+ Community" as a comparative study between queer and cisgendered heterosexual people.

The questionnaire will take a maximum of 5 to 10 minutes to complete.

I would be highly grateful if you could take the time to fill up this questionnaire, if you fall under the age range of 18-40.

Your responses will be kept confidential and will also be used for research and academic purposes.

I would really appreciate your participation as it would largely benefit my research study.

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I don't judge based on appearances, or based on anything that the majority tends to react to fearfully without much thought. On the contrary, I am fascinated by anything different. It offends me when others can't get past the superficial. It hurts me. It makes me feel very unhappy and even greatly distressed when others dismiss the things that I care about on a deep level and are actually comforting to me by saying they’re "too scary" as if that means there's nothing more to them that is of any value and I should stop liking them. I really feel hurt when the things I care about, love and like a lot, connect to/connect with and identify with and as are wrongfully regarded as "evil" and "hideous." I don't have negative visceral gut reactions to things that are different. I don't get repulsed or afraid or distrustful just on the basis of someone or something being different. I don't see things as "too garish" or distasteful, either, just based on being visually "loud" and exuberant in their creativity. I don't see the things most tend to regard as being "extreme" (as though there's anything wrong with that) as being "too much." I consider "extreme" to be a relative term. I don't reject anyone or feel harshly towards anyone based on appearances, and it's the same with interests and Dark things. I don't see "ugly," or "scary," or "weird" as in bad. I generally see the things that others view as ugly and scary and weird as beautiful and wholesome and fascinating. I don't want to associate with those who judge based on appearances. I would never want to be friends with them unless they are willing to learn to be open-minded, or unlearn their harmful biases. I wouldn't want to be exposed to those judgmental individuals trying to influence me to be and think like them as though I'm naive if I don't or that there must be something terribly wrong with me. I can't tolerate any of the cruelties and biases that for most humans are just considered "normal." I can't and I won't. They just don't make any sense to me, and all they end up doing is harming the innocent folks and lifeforms who just happen to be different or misunderstood. Life isn't what it used to be when those primitive responses were more essential to survival. Those who are different in appearance are generally not a threat at all -- rather, we are most often the ones being severely victimized.

In his recent links post, Scott Alexander linked to this very powerful and disturbing essay by Richard Hanania (content warning for devastating honesty but honesty about some potentially upsetting and arguably quite intolerant attitudes). I actually had run across it a few weeks ago and had it in mind when responding in a recent back-and-forth discussion about what stigma is, and forgot to bring it up and link to it (perhaps for the best; my responses were getting more and more unwieldy already). But here is a guy who has an "ugh, eww, I don't really want to be around that, I also have a vague idea that people like that are less trustworthy but can't entirely pinpoint why except eww" reaction to certain types of people. That seems to represent an instance of stigma at its purest. Maybe that still isn't a 100% pure "disvaluing" type of stigma attitude, and maybe that virtually doesn't exist, but it's pretty far along the spectrum in that direction.

That article will probably have a pretty lasting effect on the way I think about anti-woke-type-progressive people actually: I've always tended towards the assumption that SJ-type activists are too keen to imagine their opponents as coming from a place of irrational disgust, and SJ activists probably still are overestimating this, but it's very possible that more of the opposition is rooted in pure gut-level disgust than I have been recognizing.

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If you use tampons and/or menstrual cups, please do not shame the ones who use pads. There are many health and/or social factors revolving around the decision of using a particular menstrual product, and shaming it will not help matters.

Recently, I came across similar posts and comments about what I mentioned above and really wish it to stop.

We all are already tired and sick and uncomfortable during periods, and let's not make it more terrible for ourselves, yeah?

Fuck NT culture. (Not being NT, but the assumption that everyone can, and should, perform the same way as an NT does in every sphere of life.)

Why does being ND have to be so stigmatized? It goes to the point where some of us who can live independently but still need accommodations refuse to get themselves or their children a diagnosis.

My sister's teacher told my mother she displays signs of ADHD. During dinner, she told her the following line:

"I don't think you have ADHD, I also struggle with focusing on things that disinterest me, but I can focus on something I like for HOURS in a row. You know what I would do when I lost focus in class? I would take a piece of paper and roll it and unroll it over and over. It really helped!"

Wait... did she just describe hyperfocusing and stimming?

Now that I rethink about it, it's jarring how little we learn about neurodiversity in our current education system beyond extreme cases.

I finally understood the controversy with the term “pick me” bc I’ve always thot….Mary as humans we always pick things

Apples

Seeds

Partners

Friends

Video games

Whatever what have u we pick things??? But then I figured out a pick me is someone who would usually do anything harmful with their actions and words in order to be picked from many humans so they can “beat them” at a game that is this life. Not that i think life is a game but I understand the concept.

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Random Fact #6,430

People with severe mental illnesses are more than 10 times more likely to be victims of violent crime than the general population.

I honestly kind of believe that these younger generations, (the people like me who grew up on cartoons and stuff).... seem to view jokes as a social currency, and I believe that there are cases where someone may be afraid to approach a real-life situation, if they don't have some way to attempt to 'assert their intellectual dominance' thru wit.

In my opinion, in those examples you shared of those 'exhausted by existence' slogans, the people have traded physical dominance and ability to get shit done, for a much more cowardly approach, where the individuals still 'feel like' they are not abjectly pathetic, even though their loud fanfare just drives in the point that they are. They're too scared to actually do what they gotta do, so they'd rather sit on top of a mountain and yell at everyone else... while never wanting to actually get involved in shit, because "oh it takes woooork"!

This is my own opinion. I used to sort of feel the same way that those memes describe, but I never was fucking flagrant about it.... and over time I realized that life was about getting better at taking on challenges. It's part of evolution. And those slugs wanna just go slither away, but they still want people to love them... instead of accepting that one's own actions will affect how other people see and treat them, because it's life!

I don't know. That dumb attitude has always pissed me off. It just reminds me of kids who liked the Disney channel kids' sitcoms too much, and the stale, scripted jokes that the 'hip' adult writers would come up with. Like these are the kids that modeled themselves too much after those TV execs' ideas of what kids should be.

idk, like I felt similarly, in the past, but I never let it take over my social personality. I was an absolute slug, but I knew how it's pretty socially unattractive to signal how helpless that you feel about life. At least if I was lazy, I would 'own it' as a 2kool4scool kinda choice. Yeah?

I'm having trouble fully following the thread of this ask; maybe someone else understands what it's getting at better than I do? Reading the first paragraph, I thought it must be a response to this post from months ago about how younger people use social media versus older people, but instead it's clearly (at least starting with the second paragraph) about this much more recent set of posts.

This response is also, while not malicious I don't think, rather harsh. On the individual level, I don't see the two people I was discussing (both of whom I consider friends) as "slugs" or not really willing to get over their own challenges because "oh it takes woooork" or any of that. I particularly admire the one who posted the T-shirt as in fact having much more grit and succeeding somehow at being more productive and hard-working, on the whole, than I am (despite her references to depression and apparently considering it an achievement to return a package)!

As I said before, I also relate to these memes, although certainly not severely as some of the people in my orbit. The real issue, and the real difference between me and them, as I see it, is this: they, along with much of society (far from all, but a good chunk of the younger generations) have gotten wrapped up in social movement that has over-corrected for how stigmatized mental illness and disorders and neurodivergence have been, to the point that their own individual as well as perceived society-wide inability to manage the basic demands of life is treated with a sort of complacent acceptance. And I feel some of those difficulties both within myself as an individual and on a widespread level but am stubbornly positioning myself in a more profound rebellion against them, against accepting them as a normal way of things on any level, against avoiding the inquiry into why this inability to cope with the basic demands of life now seems to be so widespread, against a failure to outright acknowledge that there's something deeply wrong about all this.

And there has to be some fine line between properly acknowledging the issue for what it is and why we shouldn't be sitting back and accepting it, and stigmatizing mental illness and neurological issues and so on and the people that suffer from them.

what do you mean youre technically a detransitioner cause of terf bullshit?

it's a v long story but i detransitioned for a couple of years when i was 16/17, for multiple reasons but mostly because i fell into the blaire white/kalvin garrah chamber of "you have to be This way to be trans otherwise you're not real".

i was already Deeply insecure about myself and my 'passing' and i was led to believe that i couldn't want to wear makeup or skirts, and i couldn't choose not to have bottom surgery, and i couldn't do anything but bind for 12+ hours a day to the point that my ribcage is still misshapen. basically i thought that if i wasn't suffering enough doing 'feminine' things, i couldn't really be trans, so i should just go back to being a girl and suck it up.

the terf bullshit is because i'd seen a lot of terfs/detransitioners talking about the 'dangers' of testosterone and how it would turn me into a horrible ugly evil monster and how there was nothing worse than wanting to be a man. which combined with 'you need to fully medically transition to be valid at all' creates some very dangerous and upsetting feelings to cope with.

it also came from trying really hard to put myself in a little box before i realised that my sexuality/gender are very fluid and it's FINE for me not to have a label and just do whatever i want. when i was 19 or so i went back to using they/them (and eventually he/him) and changed my name again because even though i like doing 'feminine' things, i don't want to be seen as a woman.

tldr: i was conditioned by transphobic/terf rhetorics to think that i was being trans the 'wrong' way so i couldn't be trans at all, so i believed i must actually be a girl if i still wanted to do 'feminine' things. nowadays i am a transmasc who does feminine things because i don't give two shits about what any transmed prick thinks of me anymore.