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llovelymoonn · 1 year
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favourite poems of march
miki schumacher de / re / formation
craig arnold pitahaya
brian turner here, bullet: “what every soldier should know”
eileen myles not me: “peanut butter”
noor hindi breaking [news]
jane hirshfield my species
annesha mitha you are a tyrannosaurus rex
mary ruefle among the musk ox people: poems: “blood soup”
alice notley mysteries of small houses: “as good as anything”
nomi stone on world-making
k. silem mohammad poems about trees
franz wright the break
fred marchant the looking house: “night heron maybe”
carl phillips cortège: “domestic”
alexa luborsky connotations
bruce smith the other lover: “to the executive director of the actual”
nikky finney head off & split: “the aureole”
alice fulton personally engraved
amy beeder because our waiters are hopeless romantics
chiagoziem jideofor self-preservation
carol muske-dukes skylight: “the invention of cuisine”
joyce peseroff a dog in the lifeboat: “april to may”
rigoberto gonzalez other fugitives and other strangers: “other fugitives and other strangers”
toi derricotte the undertaker’s daughter: “my dad & sardines”
tarfia faizullah yr not exotic, but once ya wanted to be
jenny george the artist
jack spicer a second train song for gary
victor hernandez cruz maraca: new and selected poems 1966-2000: “red beans”
xi chuan power failure
jean valentine door in the mountain: new and collected poems, 1965-2003: “sanctuary”
duane niatum drawings of the song animals: new and collected poems: “consulting an elder poet on an anti-war poem”
kofi
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themotherofrevelation · 3 months
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The survival of humanity depends on relationship mastery (the mastery of fear and the dissolution of self-preservation patterns).
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jerzwriter · 10 days
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We don't have a dress.
My daughter is going to put me in my grave.
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returning-tonowhere · 3 months
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Nothing original in this comment, but to put an end to, or at least alleviate some of the stereotypes about the excessive and cringe infantilisation of this subtype, I thought I would put some traits of SP2 here described by Luckovich, as I think this is a more realistic and less cartoonish description, and a refreshing alternative to the misinterpreted metaphorical writing of Naranjo:
“𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘛𝘸𝘰𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘮 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘛𝘸𝘰𝘴 (…) 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘴 “𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭” 𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘴 “𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘦” 𝘢𝘴 𝘛𝘸𝘰𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘚𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘳 𝘚𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭.”
“𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘺𝘭𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭, 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘥𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦, 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘯 𝘵𝘰.
𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙣 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣𝙨 𝙎𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙋𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙏𝙬𝙤𝙨 𝙣𝙚𝙜𝙡𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙪𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙧𝙖𝙜𝙜𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙘𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙤𝙬𝙣 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙.. 𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙜𝙮 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙮. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙢𝙖𝙮 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙙𝙧𝙖𝙬 𝙤𝙧 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙪𝙡𝙜𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙛𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙤𝙧 𝙞𝙙𝙡𝙚 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮’𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜. 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛-𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙪𝙖𝙡 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚.”
“𝘐𝘯 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘴, 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘗𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘛𝘸𝘰𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘴𝘰 𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘶𝘱 𝘪𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘪𝘯 𝘰𝘤𝘤𝘶𝘱𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘰𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳.
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Nada original neste comentário, mas para acabar ou, pelo menos, aliviar alguns dos estereótipos sobre a infantilização excessiva e cringe desse subtipo, pensei em colocar alguns traços do SP2 aqui descritos por Luckovich, pois acho que esta é uma descrição mais realista e menos caricata, e uma alternativa refrescante à escrita metafórica mal interpretada de Naranjo: "Esses Dois são quentes, mas não tendem a ter a sociabilidade de outros Dois (...) a maneira como eles mostram seu amor e apoio muitas vezes pode não ser tão 'pessoal' ou tão 'cara a cara' quanto os Dois social ou sexualmente dominantes."
"Seu estilo de apoio tende a ser prático, como apoio financeiro, algum tipo de habilidade na cura ou no cuidado. Sua dedicação e garra podem criar uma incrível capacidade de abnegação e cuidado, especialmente em tempos de crise ou quando as pessoas podem sentir que não há mais a quem recorrer. "
isso muitas vezes significa que os dois de autopreservação negligenciam seu próprio autocuidado e correm para outras pessoas com a expectativa inconsciente de que os outros estarão lá em seu próprio momento de necessidade..Tempo e energia não focando no benefício dos outros pode criar ansiedade. Eles podem se retirar ou se entregar a comida ou tempo ocioso para compensar os cuidados que sentem que não estão recebendo. Isso dá a aparência de autocuidado sem o cuidado real."
"Em alguns casos, os dois de autopreservação estão tão envolvidos em desempenhar uma função para os outros ou em ocupar um papel de cuidador que podem não saber como se relacionar com os outros sem ter algo a oferecer.
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anime-addictt · 2 years
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Instinctual Variants-2
In the previous post, I did give a brief explanation on why we tag sp, sx, so to our enneagram and what they were, so let’s just go a bit more in depth in that. 
Self-Preservation
This is probably the most rudimentary of all the instincts- the need to protect yourself, your materialistic needs, your immediate relation and surroundings. People leading with this instinct are more likely to: 
Be extremely concerned about the quality of food they eat. They are the types who would most likely keep track of their calorie intake, solely due to the fact that not doing so would jeopardize their health.
Set up a financial plan/ be stingy so that they have enough money to avoid situations that would put their personal needs in trouble
Stay true to the comforts of their life. These people would focus more on their taste, their space, their comfort zone.
They have a very ‘self-interested’ view. ‘Secure yourself before helping others’ is one of their absolute motto.
BOUNDARIES. YOU CANNOT CROSS THEM TILL THEY CHOOSE TO LET YOU IN. 
From the above points provided, you will notice that a huge part of self-preservation is the self. It’s always about what they would get, what they would need, how they would attain something to make themselves secure. It’s not necessary for them to follow all these bullet points. An Sp type can be solely focused on earning money at the cost of their health. Or they could be extremely health conscious to the point that they lavishly spend on the most healthiest protein shake. No matter what they choose to focus on, all of it comes down to protecting themselves by hoarding the resource they believe they lack.
Sp doms can look very different from each other based on their enneagram and their auxiliary function. 
Sp/So usually function in a very business-like manner, due to the social instinct. They make use of their social instinct to secure their basic resources by connecting and interacting with the right people. However, unlike a social dom, they’ll be willing to let go of connections that no longer have a purpose. These types would usually prefer to operate alone, but at the same time wouldn’t really mind grouping up with like-minded people, if it helps them gather resources. 
Some of the most common traits that I have observed in them are: 
They like being with like-minded people who belong to a similar social background. A friend of mine once mentioned how comfortable she was in this group where all of them were the ‘nobodies’ of the class. (Notice that her bonding technique is very focused on finding comfort in people that have a lot in common)
They can easily fit in with a group but, unlike a so-dom, have trouble conforming to everything the group agrees on especially if it is really away from their comfort zone. 
Has weirdly accepted the fact that they’re boring (?) and that it’s okay not to have anything unique about oneself. 
Cannot handle intensity. They don’t understand why anyone in their right mind would run behind intensity. They also agree that many times, their main source of connection with another person is based on how secure they feel with someone, and not based on some random voodoo energy (that’s what they call sx). 
A friend of mine admitted that she was a bit hurt by my way of connecting with people by sx energy since she believes that true form of connection only occurs when people talk and share their like and dislikes. Just walking away from people purely based on intensity is wrong because you never really see them for who they are.  
They remind me of white noise. An ordinary noise in the beginning that grows onto you. Before you realize and understand what it is, you’re comfortably asleep to the softness that it brings. They are weirdly calming.   
Sp/Sx on the other hand, is a lone wolf. Being so-blind makes them the most independent instinctual stacking. Their sx helps them have a very intimate connection with others. However, never expect anything more from the energy that they give off. They can be very nice, but ultimately, if you don’t serve a self-preservative purpose to these people, you’ll be dropped. And not in the nice way like an sp/so would do. They do come off as heartless, self-centered and egocentric, due to being so-blind. 
Some of the most common traits that I have observed in them are:
Not really interested in the groups around them. Nor are they bothered if they can’t fit in. 
Always has an air of indifference around them that is either extremely off putting or excitingly mysterious. 
No matter how distant they are, there’ll be a clear distinction in the way they interact with people who they’re genuinely interested in, and in those they aren’t.
When they actually like someone, 1 out of the 10 wall that are built around them will open up.
They’re boundaries are stronger than the nuclear force attraction. 
The sp/sx in my life are actually pretty confident about their appeal, but at the same time never really go out of their way to display this appeal like an sx dom would, unless they’re extremely sure of it. 
Another interesting thing about my sp/sx friend is that he would never put anything or anyone above his basic needs. For example, if he has a homework due tonight, HE WILL walk out on every single person in that room, without bothering to explain how or why he’s doing it (even if he’s having the most sx-intense moment with someone). 
  He will never approach me or ask me for anything, till I offer to help him. 
They remind me of a pitch black cave. I can’t see anything, but I know there’s a waterfall somewhere deep inside cause I can sense this cool misty breeze. And I eagerly keep searching for it. 
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howifeltabouthim · 1 year
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When it is necessary . . . I will put anything or anyone out of mind.
Catherine Lacey, from Biography of X
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imaginemirage · 1 year
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I used to rebel by destroying myself, but realized that's awfully convenient to the world. For some of us our best revolt is self-preservation.
Mitski
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hgnembhard · 2 years
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To Abandon Wisdom
“Like a muddied spring or a polluted well is a righteous person who gives way before the wicked”.proverbs 25:26 Here is a rhetorical question. What happens when we look the other way as a wrongful act or crime is being committed? Faced with these situations, self-preservation may take priority over any other options before us. Is that what is happening among believers today? Individuals and…
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mydairpercabeth · 3 months
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Percy “I am impertinent” Jackson really looked Zeus dead in the eye and said “Your family is a mess”
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jaideepkhanduja · 2 months
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The Burden of Brilliance: Unveiling the Truth Behind Smart Girls' Struggles
The Burden of Brilliance: Unveiling the Truth Behind Smart Girls' Struggles #SmartGirls #Overthinking #Intelligence #SelfDoubt #SelfPreservation
The Curse of Intelligence: A Scathing Indictment of Society’s Treatment of Smart Girls Oh, how society adores its smart girls! How it lauds their intellect, their insight, their ability to decipher the mysteries of the world! But behind the facade of admiration lies a darker truth, a truth that smart girls know all too well: intelligence is a curse disguised as a blessing, a burden that weighs…
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ajournalofconscious · 3 months
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Headstrong
walking a thin line
on one side, healthy standards of self-dignity and respect now established
on the other, well-worn patterns of submission and deference to another's will
which to choose?
a soul contract as of yet incomplete
her true role still undetermined in our unfolding fated story
for my own part, promises kept oath fulfilled in humble honor
but the final outcome remains hidden
i have felt her fear in real time
experiencing intense muscle memory of old trauma
thus, her standoffish self-protection measures
are fully justified
the question is: what takes greater priority?
her nonreciprocity based in fear & self-doubt
or my newly minted code of interpersonal ethics
proximate riddle yet to be solved via compromise or other means
accordingly, my balancing act continues...
which side to fall on:
involuntary acquiescence or self-actualized decisiveness?
perhaps a third option exists
leaving her alone to focus on my own needs
in the end, guarded neutrality may yet win the day
henceforth remain vigilant watch and listen
without jeopardizing precious self-integrity
noli respicere post tergum, abiit heri
noli avertere, potes accipere
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goodluckirishkid · 3 months
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Please remind me what's your IQ again
Because after everything don't know if your foe or friend
How long does a guy has to be tame?
I've been so self conscious of this mane
Wait wait wait, let's rewind
I love Eminem but I can't lyrically destroy you like he can
But then again you're so lame, God should've made you a bitch instead of a man.
I'm racing against the clock because I can't find decent cock
Please call me psycho, cause the best writers paved the way with their unapologetic might
Did I say cock? Sorry I meant to ask someone where to shoot my mark.
Women, guys, trannies with polished thighs
Bisexual? Maybe, depends on the night, but there are so many people living their true lives and singing in the light
But when you fell in love with me, my ears are bleeding, broken record on repeat, I want tear my insides out on the sidewalk
Just so your pussy ass life can finally have some meaning
I'm sorry there's no category high enough for you.
But why did it feel so right at first
Sorry, my Goddess is Venus, can't take a libra down with a basic curse.
Hunny what's your IQ again, I hate to be shallow but that's the first thing I should've asked and heard.
No, clean your ears, not Amber Heard, but now that I think about it...
(bet your the type to shit on someone's bed)
What a coincidence, no one cares about her and you, it's time to talk to the Lord.
IM MADDDDDDDDDDDDD, but not really because I know your insecure and it'll stay like that til your old
Of course, I can go off, of course I'm jackal & hide,
But mi vida is perfecto, I was blessed to not have any pride
Damn....I don't even have an alter ego to call upon
When you hear these words, babe, you haven't unleashed the beast
When you betrayed me, I HAD to questioned that IQ,
So self centered, times up!
It's Russian Roulette between me and you
I'll bless your ego, too bad it didn't mean much
I'm a beast, I'm a werewolf, I was waiting until it became my favorite lunch
I warned you when my heart is severed, if you're the one who caused it,
Fair warning, I told you to grab your Bible and pray.
Because when I'm back, I'll always be ready to play.
To be continued!
#RouletteRebel
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guys Sasha is not the responsible one in the archives. She saw a weird guy with fucked up hands and an uncanny laugh and immediately followed him to several secondary locations. I’m SO sorry to say this but the only og archives crew member with self-preservation instincts is Tim
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eurychphanpelcael · 5 months
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生に対する抗いがたき、そして受け入れがたき苦悶による自己保存本能の暴走、これこそがあらゆる他責の根源である。
The rampage of the instinct for self-preservation caused by the irresistible and unacceptable anguish over life is the root of all extrapunitive.
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mindscapesigmamale · 7 months
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hjarta · 1 year
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turns out that being compassionate towards myself during moments of uncertainty and stress is the best thing i can do for myself
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