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I’m very frustrated with myself.
#im going to end up with a scabby unibrow#Ive plucked my eyebrows and the beginning roots of my eyebrows in front of every mirror in the house#not ALL of my eyebrows mind you I still have some sense of vanity#my brain is like hey it’s not healthy to spend the entirety of the day inside drawing#so it’s Compulsion Time™️#its either that or picking my shoulders till I bleed#again#and again#dermatillomania#cw dermatillomania#not art
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I think their headaches/heartaches would sync up most of the time so Heart and Mind just send this image to each other a lot.
#Even when the fighting is at its worse they still will#despite denying they care for one another in that moment#they at least have to continue the bit#chonny jash#chonnys charming chaos compendium#not art#itsnotjustgibberish#chonny rambles#cj mind#cj heart
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i cant pretend like the flashback of shiro attacking matt in the glara prison wasnt gay as hell. i cant pretend anymore
#when i watched this show for realsies for the first time in 2022 i was like ARE YALL FUCJING SEEING THIS????????#soad.txt#not art#voltron
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please tell me i'm not the only one who can see the vision
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THE DT17 DARKWING SPINOFF PITCH APPARENTLY LEAKED AND WE COULD HAVE GOTTEN SOCIAL MEDIA CELEB LIQUIDATOR (source)
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I love Half Price Books
#not art#mash#mash movie#star trek#star trek the original series#star trek tos#star trek novels#half price books#i was foaming at the mouth#sorry i haven't drawn anything. i've had no motivation 😔😔#i am alive tho
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Percy 100% distracted by what I'm sure is Annabeth-related phone content that he is not at all paying attention to Calypso coming onto him is so real
calypso: omg percy what if we kissed
percy, not looking up from scrolling through annabeth chase edits or something: hm?
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sooooo what if I'm a sapphic eliter...... does that count...... (In reference to your splat post)
I will not say no if you want to take her out on a date after shooting her in the face from clear across scorch gorge
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i love professional athletes bro they're like celebrities with fear
#how do you root for a non athlete celebrity..?#like they will take career wins no matter what#professional athletes have the ability to be sad and pathetic#not art#f1#formula 1#formula one#nba basketball#nba season#french open#wimbledon#2024 summer olympics#paris 2024#wwe#fia wec#le mans
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Put together a cute 3D puzzle ^^
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Does "narcissist abuse" exist?
Well, I'll try to think of this as unbiased as possible.
Narcissist and Abuser are not synonymous. Many narcissists make an effort to not harm others and have never been or are currently not abusers.
NPD is a disorder with different presentations and sufferers have differents traits and severities: some narcissists are aggressive and external; some are more internal; some may be concerned with being a good person; some may overcompensate for their narcissism; some may take out the issues of their disorder on others; some may have trouble self-reflecting and hurt others; some may never hurt anyone; some may know how to deal with their traits while others may not.
NPD is a disorder that impacts both the sufferer and the people around them. It is important to talk about the sufferer, but also to acknowledge that it affects others as well. Especially if someone is untreated and unaware of their disorder.
It can cause someone to hurt others if it is left unchecked, if they were taught to hurt others, if they are unaware of their behavior, if they lack self-control, or if they simply have no desire to be a good person.
An abuser with NPD's reasons and ways of abusing someone may be different, just as an abuser with autism's would...and an abuser with depression, an abuser with bipolar, an abuser with schizophrenia, or an abuser who is not mentally ill at all.
I have heard a story about a woman with schizophrenia who was convinced her children were possessed by the devil and tried to attack them. Does this mean everyone with schizophrenia is dangerous? No. Absolutely not. Did her disorder affect the way she treated others in a negative way? Yes, because it presented in this way, and she was completely unaware and untreated. She is a victim in the fact she was dealing with these delusions and this fear, just as her children were victims for having to deal with the way she acted. Again: someone being schizophrenic does not mean they will hurt you. If someone who is schizophrenic tries to hurt you, that isn't representative of everyone with schizophrenia. (Many people with schizophrenia do not try to harm people at all.)
I also heard about the difficulties of a child living with bipolar mother who treated her disorder with alcohol, causing her to accidentally harm her child in many ways. Obviously, her disorder and addiction are relevant in talking about the experience, but we all know people with bipolar disorder are not abusers just because they are bipolar; and addicts are not abusers just because they are addicts.
Abuse can be done on accident, especially if someone was raised around it or thinking it was okay, or if they have a disorder affecting how they see things. In some cases, explaining and trying to help people realize their behavior can work. In others, it won't; some people don't want to listen or get better. If thats the case, thats on them. But no matter what, abuse is a choice. It can be done without awareness; but it is still a choice.
Anyone can be an abuser, and the equation of one disorder with abuse is not only dehumanizing to the people with this disorder, but can actually hurt victims of abusers who aren't narcissists, or victims who are narcissists.
My point is that it can be relevant to say your abuser had NPD. But someone being an abuser doesn't mean they are a narcissist, and the NPD isn't what needs highlighted...its the abuse. Yes, you can say your abuser had NPD, I don't think it's wrong to make a space to discuss this with people who had a similar experience either.
Many people in my family are narcissists/narcissistic, and quite a few of them hurt people or have been abusive. So I won't deny that a lot of narcissists (especially ones who externalize their narcissism and who are completely untreated, also when they refuse to admit they have a problem) treat others badly. I also know some of them don't actually have bad intentions and that others do have (in a way) bad intentions. Some were raised to think it was okay. I also know of narcissists who internalize it, who are aware of their narcissism, who do their best to not hurt others, who are victims themselves.
NPD should be talked about from the perspective of people with NPD, but this doesn't mean people who dealt with abusive people with NPD can't talk about it. As I said, I had no problem with an article about an abusive mother who had bipolar disorder; it was relevant.
A lot of "narcissistic abuse" described is just abuse. A list of abusive behaviors doesn't need to say narcissist at the top. It is completely irrelevant. Say it if it is relevant.
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TLDR; Your abuser being a narcissist can be relevant, and you can talk about it, narcissists can be abusers and their disorder can play a part in it. But not all narcissists are abusers, and "narcissist" is equated with abuser. This is why people do not like the term "narcissistic abuse." It, in a way, equates narcissism with abuse. "Narcissistic abuse" is as real as "autistic abuse" or "bipolar abuse."
Don't use narcissist as a word for abuser. Say it if it's relevant.
I have no problem with a subreddit, therapy group, or community for people who dealt with abusive narcissists, but I want people to not perpetuate a stigma.
I sympathize with those who were abused, but narcissism isn't abuse; abuse is abuse. Narcissism can play a part, but that is not what the abuse is, and that is not THE cause of the abuse.
Abuse is abuse, and anyone can abuse.
#not art#narcissist abuse#npd safe#narcissistic abuse#I find just saying something is ableist doesnt explain anything so I went ahead and wrote too much#txt#anyways ill post silly things again soon
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finally have time to draw but im artblocking on ideas argh anyway
does anyone have any fun requests or prompts to give to this creature depicted below (aka me) feel free to send em
#last time i asked this someone hit me with phoenix wright in a garfield tshirt i trust you tumblr and ur spirit ur vision heart and soul#not art#yapping tag
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Can’t talk rn I’m busy going feral
#not art#I just needed to show somebody this#even if it’s a bunch of random gay people in my phone#hello random gay person :)#murder drones#glitch productions#merch
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CAN WE TALK ABOUT THIS MORE PLEASE. Wander validating Chester even after he 'corrected' himself after being called Bob by Peepers in spite of Chester correcting him more than once was so so wonderful and beautiful to me
#.Complicated ass wording but i dont care ❤️#wander over yonder#woy#wander woy#woy wander#watchdogs#woy watchdogs#not art
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my MIL left my cast iron soaking in the sink for long enough that it developed a giant fucking crack that i can see all the way through
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