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brazenautomaton · 10 months

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I should come up with a name for this because I think it's the unifying thread I see between communism, and fascism, and censorship / anti-shippers, and homophobia, and a bunch of other shit. some theory that seeks to unify all that really should have an elegant name, shouldn't it? but it doesn't

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I've said that it's impossible to deplatform fascism or communism because their ideas are so fucking childishly simple they can be independently re-derived by anyone who is upset at the world. "I'm upset. This is the fault of someone, who hates me and did it on purpose. Oh, I hate that guy so much. He does all the bad things, and if I kill him, there will be no more bad things." and that's why nobody's able to give a coherent definition of fascism, because you can't peg "emotional immaturity and righteous ignorance" to any specific teaching, you can't keep the concept of being emotionally immature and blaming others secret.

but despite the basis of these ideologies being so simple they don't need language, communism and fascism didn't exist until after the industrial revolution. what i think happened is, there's a personality trait people have that can expand immensely, that wasn't able to expand until the railroad and telegraph shrunk the world.

and that thing I wish I had a good name for is "the belief or assumption that a person's immediate environment includes everything they're aware of."

I think it's a thing people noticed but haven't identified as the causative factor, they just use it as an insult. but people want to be in control of their environment. they want things they don't like to not be there. the ability to control and affect our immediate environment is the basic definition of agency. if it's your house, it's your rules. that's reasonable!

but with the antis, and the homophobes, and the commies, and the fascists, they clearly behave as though their "house" encompasses everything that they are aware of.

the easiest example is the early 2000s homophobia where the refrain was "do what you want in private but don't get in my face about it," used to justify fucking with people who were in nobody's face. back then we all said "that's an agentically laid lie to justify their real opinion!" and guess what with an uncoordinated group of people it's never an agentically concocted lie. they did act only to get the gays out of their faces, but their "faces" encompassed everything they know about. gay dudes are gross, gross things make them upset, the only way to not be upset is to know there's no gay dudes being gross everywhere! and this mindset is something that only happened with the telegraph because before that, the area of your awareness wasn't that big! (the exception is probably Muslims in the Holy Land)

communism and fascism are both the assumption that everything you're aware of is right in your face, it's simple, it can and should be given to you to just Do Right. you can't have this idea that you have figured out everything wrong with the world until the area of your perception is big enough that you can think you're seeing the world. once your zone of perception is wide enough you instantly believe that all of it is directly your business, everything that upsets you is happening right in your face and you have to use your personal agency to control your environment by making the upsetting things go away.

this is why antis act the way they do. it's not an agentically crafted lie to get power. their behavior is compulsive like all political behavior is compulsive. the idea that someone is Doing A Bigotry somewhere makes them very upset, and it's right in their faces, and they want to make the upsetting thing go away, and the only way to do that is to take control of anywhere the upsetting thing might happen and make it not happen. the only way they know how to do this invariably destroys everything they touch but they cannot stop themselves, they have to take control of every environment so they won't be upset by the thought of people doing bad things. the communists have to take control of all economic activity so they won't be upset by the thought of someone getting rich. the fascists have to take control of every life so they won't be upset by the thought of someone not bowing to their supremacy. this mindset cannot conclude something is none of your business, because if you're aware of it, it's your business.

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candeathbereal · 10 months

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Astro observations

Placements included are Aries Mercury, Aries Sun, Aries Mars, Taurus Mars, Taurus Moon, and Gemini Mercury.

Aries Mercury

Alright you greedy fucks! Let's get into this. Like many Aries placements there are the general themes of independence, impulsivity, and chaos. I know I come off rude sometimes but that is only because I have said words in the wrong tone. Other times I’m actually trying to be rude. Here is my fun advice for people as a whole: Take a risk and be okay with someone not liking you. If one person doesn’t like you remember there is a dog that will love you more than that person ever could. Now if there are multiple people that actively dislike you, I got nothing. And even then if you're a earth mercury...are you really listening to a fire mercury? I usually get along well with earth placements but earth mercuries are a whole different thing bruh. Taurus mercuries are okay...unless you disagree with them and act like I do in an argument (with passion) because then you better hope their mars isn't in another fixed sign. Idk take what you can from that. I would say something about Virgo and Capricorn mercuries but I haven't really met too many. Plus most Virgo mercuries I have met also have a Leo sun and Taurus moon so it would be wrong of me to really say much about Virgo mercuries since Taurus and Leo placements (together) will dominant your shit most times. Anyways let's move onto the actually rest of the post.

Aries Sun

The pain of being a bad bitch. Lol idk that pain tho. Most post I have seen has labeled us as wild and childish. In actuality tho that is more likely Aries mars than Aries sun. I do wonder if the degree your sun is in affects the expression. It’s actually a moment cause Aries is exalted in the sun placement. I have an Aries sun at the 17th degree which is a Leo degree. Plus I have a Leo rising so I do wonder if that affected me in any way.

Aries Mars

Damn. I don’t have much to say besides please make sure to check on people after you get mad at them. Like it’s okay to feel anger and express it but idk sometimes people get hurt deeply by that expression. I don’t have too much experience with Aries mars people and Scorpio mars people. I can only go off by the two people I have met with either mars sign. Which are my grandma and my mom respectively. I will get into that another post so yeah sorry for the lack of stuff rn.

Taurus Moon

Indulgence. Depending on the sun sign there could be a lot of emotional repression from my experience. I love you guys…unless there is a Leo sun with the Taurus moon. Idk why but I’ve had so many issues with that combo. It isn’t because of the fixed sun fixed moon. My sister is a double Taurus, and my boyfriend is a Scorpio sun Taurus moon. And I love them both very much. I get along great even with other fixed sign sun and moon combos. Leo sun and Taurus moon however…nah.

Honestly I haven't figured out why I'm so erked by Leo sun and Taurus moon. I mean I'm a Leo rising and my MC is in Taurus so I feel like I could be missing something. Anyways Taurus moons are great. I have a lot of respect for you guys and your ability to just defend yourselves when someone says something about you that you know isn't the right thing about you. Even if everyone else in the room agrees with that person your ass is still going "I am not like that and that is that". Even with a prominent libra placements this seems to be a common thing among the Taurus moons I have met. I know someone with a Libra sun, Venus, and Mars and they will stand their ground when it comes to things being placed onto them and their character when they know it isn't right. At first I thought "maybe their Scorpio mercury has something to help with this" but then I remember my dad.

He has a Pisces sun and mercury with a Taurus moon and mars and an Aries Venus I think. If you are just arguing with him on something he is willing to listen to your point and I enjoyed that the most while I was growing up. As an fire dominant person arguing is my way to be vulnerable with people. If I don't trust that you will listen to me or if I don't want to be close to you emotionally, I will just not talk to you. And when I disagree with something you said, I will not just continue on with my day because I don't want to listen to stuff that bores me aka you. Now back to what I was saying about my dad. He and I enjoyed arguing about anything and everything but if I felt overwhelmed by shit he would literally comfort me. So he is okay with stopping a disagreement. Now I bring that up because I have seen him argue with other people and when they try to place a character trait onto him or someone he cared about, he will stand his ground if you are wrong in his eyes. I don't know if that made any sense but honestly that is the only way I can think of describing the thing that I have noticed about Taurus moons.

Taurus Mars

Sometimes I wonder what you guys feel because I can’t really guess what you guys are feeling fully. Especially if you have a mutable moon. Now the two Taurus mars I can think of is my dad and my brother. They both have two Taurus placements each (my dad as said previously has a Taurus moon as well as a Taurus mars, and my brother has a Taurus sun with his Taurus mars). Personally I rarely saw my dad angry but I have seen my brother angry when we were younger. My brother would get red in the face from yelling especially when arguing with our sister. Two Taurus suns with fixed mars refusing to back down...surprising. Now he has calmed down a fuck ton since then. Luckily he doesn't have to be as angry as he used to be.

Gemini Mercury

My besties no matter what you say I will accept the foolishness. Oh and if you have a Gemini Venus as well bruh. I will be chaotic. It is a simple fact that Gemini placements tend to make me go feral, just pure chaos. I think sag mercuries have the same effect on me but I never know how to deal with them properly. Gemini Mercury tho…bitch I’m swinging off that one loose tile on the ceiling…that makes no sense but it doesn’t matter right now. Sometimes I worry about you guys’ mental state but idk maybe you have daddy issues I won’t judge.

#astrology #astrology observations #astro #astro observations #astro posts #aries #gemini #taurus

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neverevan · 5 months

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Wip Word Search 🔍

rules: use this generator to generate three random words (or however many you'd like to do) and share the lines where they show up in your WIPs

my words: affect, great, opposed

1. affect from the mudslide fic ☔️

He watched as Eddie got up from the couch, carefully depositing Christopher’s legs from his lap before turning back to him and planting a soft kiss onto the top of his soft curls. He was getting too old for these kinds of affections when awake and — as much as he couldn’t wait to see Christopher become his own, independent person — Buck desperately wanted to halt time. It wasn’t a fair thing to think; Chris wasn’t exactly his kid to begin with and regardless of what Eddie’s will said would happen after his death, Buck's place in their lives wasn’t set in stone, so he savored every tiny moment he could. Somewhere along the last handful of years, Eddie and Christopher became Family, with a capital F. Buck loved Chris like he was his own and his feelings for Eddie were clear as day — only if not for the man himself. It was better that way, Buck reasoned. He probably wouldn’t let Buck hang around all the time, if he’d have known. Eddie probably didn’t think of them that way anyway. Buck ran his fingers through the curly hair tickling his cheek and pulled the kid’s small frame just a fraction closer, relishing in the moment of stillness.

2. great from the jealous eddie fic 🧇

“So uh t-tell me about yourself, you know, hobbies, pets, family, whatever.” “That’s pretty broad.” Jason chuckled and Buck felt his cheeks heat up immediately. Wow, he really hasn’t been on a proper date in such a long time that apparently he lost the ability to make conversation. Great. “Sorry I—” “Relax, Buck. It’s alright.” His shoulders sagged a little at that. “I guess cycling is a hobby, right? I’m not allowed pets at my place and uh… Two sisters, parents live in Nevada.” “Uh great, that- that’s great! I have a sister too, my parents live in Pennsylvania though.” Jason assessed his face for a long moment before he leaned back in his chair with a small sigh. “Don’t take this the wrong way, but you seem much more nervous than before. Is everything alright?” “Uh yeah— yeah, I’m fine, just…” Buck sighed and rubbed the bridge of his nose with his thumb and forefinger. “Eddie, my uh my partner at the 118, he’s been acting kinda weird about us going out. I just… I don’t know, I guess I got a little into my head about it.” A disapproving frown tugged at the patch of skin between Jason’s eyebrows for a moment, before it disappeared with a sigh. “So he’s one of those guys then.” Buck knew what he meant instantly; the type of guys who were just too macho not to feel threatened by even the mere mention of two men dating. Of course, it couldn’t have been further from the truth — and Buck was quick to make that clear. “N-no, not at all! He’s a good guy, great actually. He’s my best friend.”

3. opposed from the breeding kink fic 🛏️

“You might be right,” he breathed, leaning over Buck and slipping his hands under his thighs for more leverage, “maybe we should just stay here like this forever.” Eddie’s eyes fluttered shut for a moment when he bottomed out again. It wasn’t a plausible or in any way realistic idea, really, but Eddie found that he still wasn’t opposed to the fantasy of it. Especially not when Buck’s warmth enveloped him so perfectly, while he got to watch his chest rise and fall quicker and quicker, listen to his quiet whines and grunts as Eddie sped up his movements until he hit a steady rhythm and smell as fresh sweat broke through the lingering scent of their shared body wash; tea tree and mint. His hair was still damp from their shower and that was one thing they didn’t share; the shampoo — and god, Eddie was grateful that it never became something that he’d lose on the account of getting used to smelling it on himself, so now he could let the fruity and fresh scent of green apple, and something that uniquely belonged to Buck wash over his senses.

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I was tagged by @hippolotamus @theotherbuckley @daffi-990 @jamespearce9-1-1 @fortheloveofbuddie and @wikiangela thank youuu 💛

✨no pressure tagging: @malewifediaz @spagheddiediaz @jeeyuns @eddiebabygirldiaz @nmcggg @thewolvesof1998 @ladydorian05

#this took longer than I expected lmao #also quite a bit more than just a line each but idc I miss my main wips 😭#these were literally my first 3 wips for this fandom and I still haven't posted any of them I—#though I am heavily aiming to finish the first draft for the breeding fic today/tomorrow #it's already at 4.6k so that 5k estimate is out the window but maybe 6k? 6.5k?#I am bargaining cuz it's just some silly smut and I don't wanna edit anything longer than that 😭#but I do want it to be my last fic of the year so 🫡#(though unfortunately my vertigo's back and I got too dizzy to pay attention for now but I'll be back at it later)#ALSO I need to write from buck's pov more cuz I wanna appreciate and cherish eddie through his eyes he way he deserves it!!#buddie #911 #wip #the mudslide fic #the jealous eddie fic #the breeding fic

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the-leafiest-leafwing · 7 months

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I've seen a lot of people say that Kinkajou and Sunny are basically the same character, and I strongly disagree with that. What do you think?

HOOOOOOOOLY MACKEREL THIS ASK HAS BEEN SITTING IN MY DRAFTS FOR LIKE TWO YEARS MAYBE. SORRY ABOUT THAT

this is gonna be kinda long, disorganized, and probably poorly written but it was fun to think about so 🤷‍♂️ i hope i am coherent

first of all, i feel like people who have no media literacy or character analysis skills are ALWAYS the quickest to make baseless generalizations like this. yes, kinkajou and sunny have very similar personalities (both bubbly and optimistic) but their character archetypes to me are actually completely different.

i see kinkajou as a character who is more focused on novelty and adventure, always seeking new experiences, new knowledge, new people, etc. she’s far less seasoned, mature, and responsible than most of the characters around her - not to say that she’s weak or dumb, as characters like them who are portrayed as happy and excitable are often equated to being dumb, by both the other characters and the readers/fans.

both of these characters are often underestimated, but sunny’s character revolves much more heavily around her proving herself to her peers and dealing with feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, and not being listened to or being unimportant. we never really see examples of these types of struggles from kinkajou.

i think kinkajou is also especially underestimated in her resiliency; she was kidnapped, imprisoned, and essentially tortured by the nightwings, she was hit by that venom during the competition for the throne, and she was put into a literal coma for i forget how long, plus all the other various harrowing adventures, fights, and experiences she’s been through. she always bounces back very easily and never seems to be deeply/personally affected by any insults to her intellect or general character. she gives the impression that she embraces and even flaunts her odd characteristics, physical and personality-wise, but sunny seems to have more trouble with accepting herself. it’s all like water off a duck’s back to kinkajou, whereas i think sunny is much more easily hurt by other people’s opinions.

sunny spent her entire childhood being put down and shamed for her appearance, demeanor, abilities, “weakness,” basically just everything about her. so it makes sense why, even after founding jade mountain academy, she’s so worried about being taken seriously and also making sure she doesn’t make any of her students feel the way the guardians always made her feel. she’s also (in my opinion) a much more dynamic character than kinkajou, meaning over the course of the books we see her change a lot more. she becomes less of a happy-go-lucky character and more of a sweet, caring, good-natured adult figure (regardless of her actual age). she kinda reminds me of an aunt with no kids of her own who loves looking after her sibling’s children.

kinkajou, on the other hand, would be more of the aforementioned child that is being looked after. she’s still a very independent character, don’t get me wrong, but she’s also very young and often needs to recieve guidance and protection from others. at the same time, though, kinkajou seems a bit more sure of herself and confident in her optimism, while sunny probably used her optimism as an escape/defense mechanism of sorts.

of course, being happy and excitable is an important part of both these character’s personalities, but it comes from different places and experiences and is conveyed in different ways. they do fill similar roles in their friend groups, but feel like sunny acted that way because she had to, while kinkajou acts that way because she wants to. she’s more inclined toward spontaneity, exuberance, and drama, and sunny is more inclined toward peace, love, and unity - to simplify it, sunny is a “happy” character in a calmer way than kinkajou.

i also think there’s something to be said about the fact that sunny and kinkajou are both women and that’s part of why wof fans lump them together as “basically the same character” and don’t take them seriously as individuals or pay much attention to them and their importance to the overall story, and to both of their respective story arcs.

i might come back to edit this later if i have any more ideas, but please let me know your thoughts on this! whether you agree or disagree with my assessment of these characters, you think there’s something i left out, or there’s something youre confused about!!

#this was so fun i should do character analysis more #i really really hope this all made sense #AHHH THERE ARE SO MANY WORDS IN MY BRAIN #wings of fire #wof #kinkajou #kinkajou wof #sunny wof #character analysis #media analysis

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tinywitchgoblin · 17 days

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Hi I am so sorry I put an ask in a few moments ago for a bad batch ship but I thought of more things to add 😅 so if you don’t mind I’ll start again.

Could I please get a sfw/nsfw if you’re comfortable with that.

I’m in my mid 20s afab, she/her pronouns. I’m an infp a Scorpio, I sit comfortably as an ambivert and I have adhd. I’m 5’7” and am petite with a pear shape body and hearty hips.

I was raised by a kick ass single mother, my passions are music, reading, starwars, theology and mythology.

I am a dreamer who is constantly looking for magic and the impossible. I am empathetic and caring, outgoing, conscientious and compassionate.

In my teen years I was planning on studying to be a doctor like the rest of my family but decided against it when I couldn’t stomach losing patients.

I’m an administrator with a experienced background in medical administration but I have since left the medical profession instead focusing on broad administrative roles.

I my past I have experience with martial arts (ninjitsu and aikido) with focus on Bo staff as well as hand to hand combat and defence, figure skating and reiki.

My family and my friends are my life. I would do anything to protect them. I wouldn’t be who I am today without them. I cannot wait to have children of my own.

I believe that everything in life happens for a reason, both the good and the bad. Everything that we experience shapes us, teaches us and makes us who we are. I wouldn’t change even the worst things I’ve experienced because it makes me who I am. And I’m happy with the person I’ve grown (and am continuing to grow) to be.

If I were in the Star Wars universe I would adore being a powerful force user who only discovered her abilities later into her 20s (who wouldn’t 😂)

I am a romantic person at heart. Although I try to act tough and independent, I’m soft and delicate. I’ve been wronged in love too many times so I have a shield up to protect me. My love language are mainly physical touch and words of affirmation but I enjoy a even amount of all of them. My partner left me at the beginning of the year so I’m learning to be my own person again, heal my heart and start again.

I think I’ve gotten everything this time 😂 thank you so much for your time !

Of course!!

I ship you with...

Echo!

Echo loves every single thing about you, but if he absolutely had to choose, it would be your heart. He sees how much you care about the people around you and how protective you are of your loved ones. Since you started dating (and even before), you grew to be very protective of his family, too, in a way that none of them had really experienced from a non-clone before. Plus, seeing the way you and Omega bonded made his heart melt.

Echo has been through so much pain and suffering, whether that be during or after the war, and he's grown a bit jaded. However, with you, he started seeing the good in the galaxy again. He admires your outlook on life and your desire to learn from your mistakes and become a better person, and he finds it very inspiring. He also finds it fascinating when you talk about theology, especially when it has tangible applications. Echo was never religious, and it wasn't something he was exposed to when he was younger, so to hear you talk about it is something that means a lot to him. He loves having those types of conversations with you.

Learning different types of martial arts was an integral part of Echo's ARC training, so he's a very skilled martial artist- easily the best of the batch. He loves sparring with you and teaching you some of what he learned, as well as learning new techniques from you. It's a good way to keep in shape and he gets to spend more time with you- it's a win-win! Sometimes, Hunter will join in as he has some martial skills as well, but it usually ends with Echo whooping his ass solely for the purpose of showing off (respectfully, of course).

Due to his prostheses, Echo is a bit nervous about engaging in physical affection with you at first, but eventually, after lots of patience and slowly building up to it, he ends up loving it. Some afternoons, the batch will walk in and see you and him cuddling on the couch, fast asleep, not a care in the world. When you sleep at night, you typically end up spooning, but who ends up in which position tends to vary. Either way, as long as you're together, Echo feels safe and secure, both physically and emotionally; you are his safe place.

Thanks for reading! If you want a ship request like this, drop it in my ask box, and don't forget to reblog <3

#the bad bois #the bad batch #clone trooper echo #bad batch echo #arc trooper echo #echo #tbb echo #is there an echo in here #echo the bad batch #echo tbb #the bad batch echo #star wars x reader

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wilcze-kudly · 29 days

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Is it a stretch to say that Suyin's skin color influences people's harsh and negative feelings toward her? I'm not certain if it's intentionally political in nature. Still, some of it feels at least subconscious or gives off those kinds of undertones, especially since it's very possible that a viewer's biases can definitely affect how they interpret a work. Examples of this include how she's often lauded as irresponsible and reckless for reacting to her need to save her city and people against a fascist in Kuvira who threatened her with an entire army. Yet, Lin is often heralded in a more heroic light for similar decision-making when she goes against protocol and her orders to save her officers from Amon. I've also noticed that people act this way with Katara and Korra when they do similar things to (a usually paler and male) another character and get lambasted for it. And don't even get me started on some of the Suyin pics where she's suspiciously whitewashed.

Oh, I could see that. However, I don't think I'm I'm exactly the best person to talk on this subject, since I'm not only incredibly white but also from a still rather homgenous country.

There are many other reasons I've seen people cite a dislike for Suyin. Whether it be she reminds people of someone they know Irl, that she's annoying to them, or simply that she was a new character "challenging" the much more established in fandom Lin. I try to think the best of people, and am not confident in my ability to pinpoint this type of behaviour, let alone comment on it.

Though I will say that the visual of people exalting Lin and Kuvira (both light skinned, one a policewoman and one an ethnostate enthusiast) over a darker skinned woman who runs a mostly independent from governments citystate isn't the best of looks.

There certainly is a pattern of... let's say unfair tratment towards the darker coloured women of the show. Along with whitewashing but like. I think every Avatar character goes through that at some point.

But once again, take my words with a healthy dollop or two of salt.

#But it does irritate me that the Zaofu crew are often drawn as much lighter they actually are by fans #suyin beifong

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mbti-notes · 26 days

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Hello. I'm an INFP girl and I've always had problems with my INTP mom. She's always been emotionally absent and distant and that has always bothered me. We don't understand each other at all, for example I'm trying to tell her my problems and she just wants me to look for a solution, which makes me feel worse and very lonely. Other times I have cried a lot and she just stares at me like a robot, or sometimes she even explodes and acts like a 3 year old throwing and angry tantrum. Why is she like that? Yes, I know she has inferior Fe, but her behavior is very offputting to me and her cold stare triggers me. Is it possible for INTPs to give you emotional support or that would be to bizarre and illogical for them? I crave for her emotional support but I don't know if she can give me that. She has never been there for me in ways that truly matter, it's like she lives in another universe detached from everything.

I have discussed before that parent-child relationships are the most complicated and difficult relationships to sort out. What factors make them complex? Communication issues, role issues, behavioral issues, dependence issues, power differential issues, moral issues, personality issues, adjustment issues, developmental issues, projection issues… to name a few.

You didn't mention your age, so how old are you? Age is important because it will directly affect your ability to comprehend the above issues. It sounds like you are full of blame and anger, which is counterproductive, as it leads you to mischaracterize and misunderstand your mom. Are you able to step back from your personal feelings and get a more objective view of the situation?

Generally speaking, the younger you are, the less time and opportunity you have had for healthy ego development, and the more likely you are to be dependent on others to fulfill your needs. Adolescence (12-18) is the time when people should be gradually learning independence and self-sufficiency in getting their needs met. Young adulthood (18-25) is the time when people should be letting go of the last vestiges of dependence on parents/caregivers. However, in reality, ego development doesn't always proceed in an ideal manner. There are many factors that can slow or impede an individual's development.

One factor is personality. It is not uncommon for Fs to be slower than Ts at becoming independent. Due to having a higher F function, they tend to have a higher need for emotional and moral support from others (and then falter without it). Due to having a lower T function, they may experience more difficulty analyzing and solving problems on their own (and then repeat mistakes). This is not to say that they are doomed to struggle with independence; it is only to say that they may be late bloomers when compared to Ts.

However, before you go lamenting the fact that you are F, remember that all types are equal, in that they all have their fair share of burdens to carry. Due to having a higher T function, Ts tend to have a greater need for independence and freedom from emotional burdens. Due to having a lower F function, they may experience more difficulty learning how to recognize emotional needs and fulfilling them, both in themselves and others. This is not to say that they are doomed to struggle with emotional fulfillment; it is only to say that they may be late bloomers when compared to Fs.

Is it not reasonable for people to get frustrated when they struggle with learning something that they have less aptitude for? It's important to recognize that you are both struggling in the same way, just with opposing aspects of personality development. And this internal struggle will inevitably reveal itself externally, in the relationship, every time you press on each other's sore spots. You are confused about why your mom can't offer more emotional support? From her perspective, she is just as confused about why you can't be more independent and self-sufficient, which she likely was at your age. You blame her, which implies you think she is in the wrong and you are right, but is that really true? This brings us to the next point…

Another major factor that impedes ego development is persistent egocentrism. Egocentrism means that one's vision does not extend beyond oneself and, as a consequence, one treats other people merely as objects to satisfy one's own needs rather than as unique subjects in their own right. While all people are naturally egocentric to a certain extent because of the basic need for physical survival, persistent egocentrism is maladaptive because it blocks empathy development and healthy relationship formation. In extreme cases, persistent egocentrism can morph into destructive narcissism.

Generally speaking, children start off very egocentric because their world is very small and their needs are very immediate. But as one gets older and more independent, one gains more and more experience of the world that should gradually broaden one's perspective. As such, one's concerns ought to eventually expand beyond oneself into the external world at large. However, this progression doesn't always go accordingly for a variety of reasons.

One big reason is growing up in an unsupportive environment. When children don't have their physical and/or psychological needs adequately met by caregivers, they, quite reasonably, become very preoccupied with their unmet needs. This can manifest as overdependence or "craving" (desperately seeking fulfillment from others), anxiety (always fearing that one's needs will never be met), withdrawal (resigning oneself to always having unmet needs), aggression or hostility (always blaming others for one's problems).

No matter how it manifests, the key point is that the child remains persistently egocentric into adulthood, excessively preoccupied with their unmet needs. Most importantly, since they didn't learn the right lessons about how to get their needs met in childhood, they develop unhealthy patterns of seeking satisfaction in all the wrong ways in adulthood.

A rational person would understand that it is illogical and futile to seek emotional support from a person who is incapable of providing it, not unlike trying to extract blood from a stone. However, an egocentric person isn't rational. Since they are self-preoccupied, they inadvertently treat their own needs as more important than others'. And since they view people merely as objects for personal use, they place unreasonable expectations on others to fulfill their needs. Such self-absorption is a common cause of relationship conflict.

With all that in mind, if you truly want to address relationship problems in the right way, here are the steps you ought to take:

1) Empathy: Have you taken into consideration the perspectives of everyone involved in the conflict (or do you insist on believing that only one party is to blame)? Have you objectively analyzed and identified the underlying factors/causes of the conflict (or do you insist on believing that "personal moral failure" is the one and only simple explanation)?

2) Needs: Everyone has the same psychological needs, but not everyone ranks their needs in the same way. For example, Ts rank independence higher than emotional support when compared to Fs. Have you identified and understood the unmet needs of both yourself and the other party (or do you only care about your own needs)? Have you understood exactly which unmet needs are coming into conflict in the relationship? Have you properly considered whether you are capable of meeting their needs AND whether they are capable of meeting yours? Reciprocity is necessary for a relationship to be healthy and grow over time.

3) Communication: Have you communicated your needs in a neutral and objective way that helps the other party recognize and understand what they are? Have you communicated your needs in a way that properly instructs the other party on the best way to meet your needs, in the event that they don't know how to proceed? Have you really heard the other party when they express their capabilities, with regard to being unable to meet your needs?

4) Alternatives: If, through good communication, it has been established that the other party is unable to meet your needs or even meet you halfway for whatever reason, have you considered other healthy, possibly better methods of getting your needs met? Have you considered ALL your options and do you know how to choose the better option? (I.e. Have you developed Ne enough to be a creative problem solver?)

Yes, it is a sad fact that many children grow up in unsupportive homes. Such children are more likely to develop maladaptive attachment styles and suffer from mental health issues like depression and anxiety. However, suffering privation in childhood doesn't have to stop you from developing into a healthy adult. The key is that you have to take your development into your own hands.

It is important to address the challenges you have with your parents, otherwise, those unhealthy relationship dynamics can easily carry forward and recur in your future relationships. Today you are desperately seeking validation from mom, tomorrow it might be your boss or your spouse.

The way to resolve relationship problems is to learn how to put relationships into the right perspective, i.e., to go beyond the egocentric perspective and be more objective. Parents are human beings with their own unmet needs and developmental issues. The sooner you can acknowledge and honor their humanity, the sooner you can have empathy for them and then free yourself from them, to become your own person.

If you really care about personal growth, you should want to outgrow things like egocentrism and overdependence. You can take the initiative to learn the knowledge and skills you need to overcome the challenges you've faced at home. It's not a crime to need emotional support, we all do at times, but you have to get smarter and discover better ways of obtaining it.

#infp #auxiliary ne #inferior te #parent child relationship #independence #communication #egocentrism #conflict #blame #ask

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psychewritesbs · 6 months

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Hey, what do you think Sukuna and Megumi's mbti and enneagram types are?

I think Sukuna is mostly typed ENTJ 8w7 which suits him I guess, but Megumi is a bit unclear

Anooooooooon. You, my anonymous friend, just settled the war on Sukuna's aura with your ask.

I'll be honest, the MBTI isn't something I've paid much attention to despite having a Jungian orientation. We can blame one of my grad school professors, Dr. H for it. So I had to go in and read through the personality types and educate myself about it on a surface level, etc.

And like... I very much agree with you about Sukuna!

What I particularly loved about the Commander personality type (ENTJ) is that they literally inspire respect from others due to their authoritative and charismatic presence. You know... AURA...

Aside from that is the obvious love of the challenge in pursuit of their goals, their domineering and relentless attitude, their ruthlessness, and their lack of sentimentality for those they view as not trying hard enough.

Another favorite was how they can recognize talent in others and how they tend to respect people who they see as their equals...

Hello Fushiguro Megumi you enchanted me?

More details and Megumi's MBTI type under the cut'o.

Anyways... before all that, out of all of the things Gege gets accused of...

The possibility that he created characters based on an MBTI personality type checklist is defo something I can stand behind. It's uncanny how easy it is to say "yes" to all of the details below.

Here's a checklist I compiled about the Commander personality type in case anyone else is not familiar with the MBTI either. You can also read more about it here.

Sukuna, ENTJA: The Commander Personality

People with this personality type are intuitive leaders who command respect from others with their charismatic and authoritative presence.

They have unwavering self-confidence that attracts others to their vision.

They strive for greatness in everything they do and this helps them believe their efforts will result in success.

They recognize talent in others and value and respect anyone who can think and act with the same level of precision as they do.

They appear to be emotionally distant and see displays of emotion as weakness.

They are characterized by their cold rationality and decisiveness in their actions.

This cold rationality manifests in their ability to use their sharp mind to achieve their goals.

They think strategically as a means of focusing on achieving long-term goals.

They are relentless and domineering in the pursuit of their objectives.

They love the challenge and process of accomplishing what they set out to do.

Also, it's important to note the subtype I feel like, because whether someone is an "assertive" or "turbulent" type comes back to how these characteristics manifest.

i.e. When the Commander personality is of the assertive type, they have a greater ability to respond to stressful situations with ease as they have greater mastery of their state of mind and don’t let negative experiences affect their self-esteem.

Megumi, INTJ-T: The Architect Personality

I think for Megumi there were other types that felt like they might fit but I ended up settling for Architect. While Megumi is not necessarily textbook-architect the way Sukuna checks off the Commander boxes, I still think it's pretty close.

Thoughts?

This personality type is highly independent and thought of as a lone-wolf type.

Despite their stoic exterior, this personality type feels deeply and is true to their humanity.

As a result, they can see through other’s disingenuousness.

They have a complex inner world that they rarely share with others.

They are single-minded in the pursuit of their goals.

Naturally skeptical, this personality type likes to question everything to arrive at their own conclusions.

They have active minds that are always analyzing the world around them.

They are highly strategic and tend to evaluate their decisions and actions based on their pros and cons.

They believe that they can be successful if they apply imagination to their insights and logical assessment of situations.

They enjoy teaching themselves and mastering topics that they are interested in.

As for Megumi's subtype, unlike Sukuna, I feel like Megumi is a turbulent type because turbulent types are fueled by their worries and concerns and prefer stability.

If you're not familiar with the MBTI, you can read about Megumi's type here.

The Enneagram types

For this, I spent less time looking into the types. I had recently heard of this personality test's existence so I was curious about it but the archetypes that rule the personality types feel more generalized.

Similarly, I did feel like Sukuna is a challenger type too (the challenger is powerful, confident in themselves, and values being able to make their own choices. They like to be in control and make decisions accordingly).

For Megumi I felt like he could be either an individualist or an investigator...

Individualist: The individualist is sensitive and quiet on the outside but always thinking of something. They are all about being creative and expressing who they are in big ways.

Investigator: The investigator is curious and observant, and enjoys learning new things. They come up with new and unique ideas and enjoy being alone.

On second thought I'm leaning more towards Megumi being an investigator.

Thanks for the ask anon!

#ask the mental gymnastics anime girl #god i love jujutsu kaisen

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catboybiologist · 6 months

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Wait, you're Slavic?

Any perspectives on how that interacts with queernes, that is definitely not a thing I know a lot about. (feel free not to answer if it's too personal).

Not really. I'm American born and raised. My parents are technically immigrants, each from a different eastern european country. But they each came over here when they were kids, and have had interesting on and off connections with their home countries. Neither have accents, and typically don't look or act much different than standard white americans. I have noticed some pervasive quirks and values, however, and talking to my more fully Slavic friends, they seem rooted in the same place.

I can absolutely comment on how this has affected me, but I want to be abundantly clear: I cannot speak to an actual, lived Slavic queer experience. I'm not even bilingual (thank you, weird desire of my parents to make me "more american" by not teaching me their languages). I can comment on the cultural norms that it seems like my family has passed down, and the small amount I've seen in the immigrant communities they're a part of here. However, its pretty much impossible for me to untangle these from the quirks of just my family and family friends. That's my disclaimer, and if actual Slavic people want to comment about this (especially with what's happening in Russia) I would love to hear it.

Obviously I'm also not going to completely air my family's dirty laundry as well, so hopefully this won't get uncomfortably specific for me. I do want to talk about it though.

If there's anything I *can* comment on here, I can divide it into two things: atheistic conservative social values, and immigrant academic culture.

As I've said, I was raised atheist. While the orthodox church and other local Christian branches are still culturally relevant forces in Eastern Europe, from my understanding it hasn't been near the level of Catholicism or various Protestant movements in other countries. Most Slavic immigrants I've interacted with are atheist. They do, however, still carry extremely strong conservative cultural values despite that, and are often politically right wing as a result. The most strong and deeply rooted representation of this is the vehement protection of the "family unit" above all else. Which, as I'm sure you all will agree with, sounds nice on its surface but has a lot of branching consequences. Resolving conflict between family members is more paramount than actually resolving the hurt of individuals. There's a sense of forced closeness much of the time. And of course.... queerphobia. Anti gay marriage sentiments, regressive opinions about reproductive rights, anti-trans opinions based on preservation of the ability to reproduce.... yeah there's a lot to unpack there. A lot of this is a common theme, but most of the time, it's rooted in religion. This is very easy to completely excuse in your head. Slavs, however, typically seem to frame the root mentalities that drive these in terms of "survival", the stability of society and the societal purpose of these values, and also weird, lopsided scientific explanations for them (eg, I've heard multiple times independently that gay people are "evolutionary errors"). Which, I'm sure someone way more qualified than me to comment could write a book about how this relates to post-war and post-Soviet collective trauma, but that would be WAY outside of my scope. This makes it... always just a little different than the types of homophobia that people talk about in more classic american families, and its interesting to compare and contrast.

The other one, which I talked about more in my previous post, is high academic standards. This I think is a shared experience of children of immigrants from many places, even a couple of generations out. The stereotype of the "Tiger Mom" is the typical example, even though the scope is well beyond that. But there's a very simple explanation: the United States put harsh immigration restrictions on many countries that were seen as non-allies for the majority of the 20th century. The best way around them was, and still is, being highly educated. It's no accident that my educated family was allowed to immigrate to this country during an arms race with Eastern bloc countries. Brain Drain policies were a factor, and the cultural expectation for immigrants to be "useful" was another. What this creates is a massive cultural message to immigrants: education is the key to everything. When someone's entire current life is dependent on being high achieving and well educated, its going to create some fucky expectations for their kids. I've compared this experience with some of my East Asian friends growing up, and there's a lot of unexpected parallels.

Of course, my parents are a lot more Americanized than most immigrants, so this also falls under the umbrella of "if I'm speaking on something I actually have no idea about please correct me".

Together, I think this manifested in me not as classic internalized queerphobia, but more as a distinct sense that I shouldn't care at all, and shame for wanting to develop an aspect of myself. I didn't really hate the queer aspect of myself specifically, I had a nonspecific distaste for any aspect of my being that didn't comply with the things I said above. I haven't had that much queerphobia directed at me specifically- moreso, its a topic thats not talked about at all, as if its not real. I can only infer an opinion when loose lips start saying things after some alcohol. Which of course, there's a lot of.

Politically, I'm actually very proud of how my parents and grandparents act. They vote in left leaning ways- but they're oddities in their communities because of it. They also do so very begrudgingly (except my grandma, who has strong progressive whoop-your-ass vibes [I love her so much]), and I'm pretty sure its more about the current state of the Republican party as opposed to their actual values. With everything I've said as well, I also have very little idea how they would react to my queerness on a personal level. I'm not out to them, and I know that there's a huge difference in many people's minds between supporting queer rights as a political movement, vs how you engage with a queer person in your actual life. I've heard some very nasty things said by my parents in that regard, and the way there's a rift between "consenting adults doing whatever they want with themselves" vs actually evaluating people as... yknow. People. The "family unity above all else" aspects are particularly scary for me, and I have no idea how they'll react if I ever bring a man home to them, much less when I come out to them about gender. But that's a tangent.

Would love to hear more experiences related to this!!!! Again, its very difficult to untangle how much of this is Slavic cultural values trickling through the generations, and how much is just quirks of particular people I know.

#trans #queer #lgbt #bisexual

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gundamcalibarney · 2 years

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@standswap-september

Three in One just like with JoJos Parts 1-2-3! But with some Morioh Kids!

///⁉️🔭🎙///

[ Cherry Moon ] - named after the song by Prince is the Stand of Eiichi Haseki after he got shot by the Stand arrow by bunch of wasps, it first didn’t take form until put against the lying Stand [ The Who ]. It’s main ability is to be able to turn drawn objects and sounds into stickers that can either be brought to reality or be stickable and affect it’s targets however is limited to things that are inanimate, if it tries bringing drawn people then they just turn into paper dolls.

It has a very curious personality and is surprisingly skittish in comparison to it’s more upfront user and has surprisingly stricken a close friendship with [ Smooth Operator ] despite the users of both despising each other.

[ Ophelia ] - named after the song by The Band is the Stand of Hachiro Santos is one of seeing, it has immense physical strength that rivals that of When Doves Cry however also has a general telescope ability that allows for one to zoom in on things like microscopes but can work like a regular one mainly via the floating mini scope in it’s chest that can be summoned independently from it.

While it would normally be a very useful Stand, Hachiro seems to prefer using it as a force as opposed to something more than that.

[ Smooth Operator ] - named after the song by Sade is the Stand of Sada Aiteru is an audio based Stand. Able to mimic voices and sounds or be able to play or record sounds, it’s recorder tape body is prehensile and can be used for battle as a sort of restraint weapon

///⁉️🔭🎙///

Design Notes:

[ Cherry Moon ] - Koichi short therefore Cherry Moon is too, i wanted to do a sort of animal-ish Stand for him. Think like a dog-rabbit hybrid. He has both ⁉️ and the two kanji often seen in JoJo because of it’s ability while red is mixed to sort of balance the colour palette and provide emphasis on said things i mentioned before (and cause it looked pleasing).

You can only see it if you zoom in but there are the dot halftone thing as a sort of reference to Pop Art because that’s widely seen in comic books. As of now i am unsure whether to make it an Act Stand or not.

[ Ophelia ] - I had a bit of a hard time designing him surprisingly! I don’t know why but he was, but i persisted cause i needed to do him so that’s how this exists! The telescope theming is meant to be a sort of counter to The Hand’s “look only one way” sort of direction it had with it’s design, fundamentally it’s still the same motif just spun a little bit.

He originally had a mouth but then i erased it cause i didn’t like it. The X was also supposed to stick out like Tessarus’ visor from MTMTE but it didn’t look good either so it was Marilyn Manson looking face for him!

[ Smooth Operator ] - My favourite of the bunch! Junie gave me the idea of wires but i sort of turned it into like cassette string like you see in casettes, her little headphone thingies are based on reel-to-reel tape recorders. Her hair was so tedious yet so fun to do and it kinda reminded me of that one SCP.

I TRIED to deviate from the school uniform but it ended up not being too possible as i wanted to have a bit of colour separation in a way that i’d personally like but then it still looked like a school uniform and i said “fuck it, Sada is a school PA runner and also a newsgirl” because of this.

#core’s art #jjba #jojo’s bizarre adventure #standswap #standswap september #okuyasu nijimura #koichi hirose #yukako yamagishi #god casette string was so fun to fuck up like pulling that shit from the casette was surprisingly fun #jjba mothswap

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autogynocrat · 1 year

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Everything you do is related to your fear of ageing. The reason you feel trans is because the hormones will delay the ageing process by a few years. The reason you’re now into ddlg/abdl is because you are desperate to feel younger than you are.

That’s also the reason you want a partner to baby you and make your decisions, and why you’re into being controlled mentally and financially, and why you’re into chastity and being denied sex. You’re not scared of being male. You’re scared of being an adult.

All the issues you have are related to your obsession with ageing and the compulsion you have to feel and act younger. It’s a type of OCD. So in your mind you have created solutions and workarounds to feel better. We call these “ritualistic beliefs and behaviours” when related to OCD.

You also have quite pronounced “mommy issues” due to the way you were raised in such a closed and doting environment with homeschooling and little social interaction, as well as being treated like a child for far longer than others were. That is likely the initial trigger.

None of that means you’re a bad person. You just need to identify the cause of your issues before you can start recovery.

some of these things may be true but i dont think its the reason im trans, bc when i started taking hormones i made peace with the fact i would still age but i would age more like a woman, i would rather be an old lady than an old man. i cant stand feeling masculine it is icky.

i definitely feel robbed of my childhood and i definitely have a lot of mommy and daddy issues yea i never deny this i feel like i do talk abt this alot i have been overly controlled my entire life which probably has produced this weird dichotomy of wanting to be super independent but wanting to be super submissive for my partners bc its what makes me feel loved

anyways such things like diagnosing i think i should probably discuss with a professionally trained person therapist more so than on anon, i dont think i have ocd i have a friend who has ocd and its very debilitating in his life and the symptoms are very different from whatever i have. i think other than occasional crippling dysphoria, executive dysfunction, and sensory overload, most of my brain problems just make me a little weird, but they've never substantially affected the quality of my life or my ability to function in work or academic environments i can be Normal™️ when i need to be

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oatmealcrisp-freak · 2 years

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I always kinda wrestle with where I put Saiki's dysphoria. Kid’s ESP makes for some 4D chess like its honestly kinda cool and iiiiiiiii have. Many thoughts.

Even if the metric is waffles (I’m waffling, indecisive).

I don’t think Saiki would have a lot of gender dysphoria, first of all. His anxiety seems to come from other places and like. He has transitioned to He already, though he also seems pretty blase’ as a girl even if the time spent in one form over the other could indicate a preference. I think he might start to develop it if he loses the ability to shapeshift long enough to miss it, but as he is with his ESP in my head his dysphoria is pretty near to zero.

Further, he. really honestly doesn’t care about. well. societal rules or what other people think of him too much. Usually, only Kusuo can hurt Kusuo. I think this is shown by how he’ll throw them away whenever it’s convenient and he thinks he can get away with it, such as catching and carrying Teruhashi which would be explicitly against Kokomin guidelines, assaulting police officers, murdering people “only a little” and staring at the coffee jelly long and hard enough that little children start to get all “hey mommy why is that weird person”, and not just saying “oh wow” to Teruhashi just to get her off his back, etc bla bla bla.

However, he hates attention. He hates standing out. He worries about getting checkmated by social convention. he seems to have made a study of the ‘rules’ enough to memorize them even if he has some weird. gaps.

(expectation....)

(re...ality...... ntm all the other stuff!)

By and large, that is because of his powers and that he’s been taught that horrible terrible things happen whenever he dips so much as a toe out of the closet. Such has been taught to him by his family and reinforced by experience, so our Saiki treats that as gospel. However, we’ve seen alternate Saikis where both of those were outweighed by the power of *one* event.

Popular!Saiki is a good example, I think, of how Saiki's natural instinct is to be an independent thinker. All that conditioning put aside in favour of “I want.” “I made up my mind.” “I felt a purpose within ME.” etcetc

(He got Aiurafied)

Saiki values what he considers to be the best decision above the rules of social convention - if they happen to agree, that’s a happy coincidence. He might therefore take others opinions into consideration (his telepathy DOES act as a coffee jelly review aggregator...) but he thinks in the end it’s his decision.

(I doubt he’d like to admit to himself how much of his thinking process is informed by others lol)

He also thinks that keeping his ESP to himself is just ‘the best decision’ to make. how he does that is to blend in. How he does that is to follow the rules. Social conventions are tools for him to use, which is why he’s able to discard them so quickly if they don’t suit him.

In short, he’s chaotic good masquerading as lawful good.

(He terrorizes and threatens to kill them way too much with way too much glee to be true lawful al;dkf it’s like a hobby for him)

So how does that fit into dysphoria? Well by that logic it’d mean gender presentation and sex is just another tool to be used - thus, Kuriko at the sweets promotion - but isn’t something he probably feels very strongly about.

And while Saiki isn’t above his feelings being hurt,

he’s the most vulnerable to people he loves, and the idea that he’s so Other he damages by just being himself...which comes from the people he loves LOL. If it’s coming from someone he cares less about, he seems to understand it’s their problem, not his, and isn’t overly affected by it. While I’m prone to thinking he cares about people a lot, so much so that he breaks his own rules constantly for perfect strangers but especially people he cares about

Though he will protect the people he cares about from misunderstandings and scammers, and with people vexing him personally he’ll make it his problem and they won’t like it if he gets fed up quick enough. BUT. He’d probably be less affected by their conception or misconceptions of his gender.

Mostly, Saiki just likes things to not be a hassle a;lfkdj

For Saiki, presenting as gender-conforming by that lens would really just be a matter of convenience that’d help him fit in. The internal screaming about not fitting in would be less from needing to be perceived as himself by others in a way that matches his internal identity unless they really make it his problem in which case they’re an annoyance, and more fully due to ‘if I stand out people will pay more attention to me and I’ll be at bigger risk of my ESP being outed which means I and my family and friends will all be endangered and they might hate me for lying to them or what if the shock kills them what if. what if I really am the monster they say I am I need I need a coffee jelly or maybe a coffee liquer -wheezing-’

In short, the anxiety comes from a different place. But I still think it could probably fit into some level of social dysphoria? It’s still anxiety resultant from social consequences that reflect in how he presents. Like I said in my ‘Saiki doesn’t think he’s trans....but he is’ post , Saiki's ESP is such a huge part of his person that it influences all aspects, so it’d make sense to account for that. He’s really not living the average life - his experiences with his gender and sexuality aren’t going to be average either.

TRANSITION SPEEDRUN WOOPWOOP

My HCs of his gender dysphoria in relation to body dysmorphia shift around a lot.

I think it’d make sense if he didn’t have that sense of disconnect to his body because his body’s appearance shifts a lot and he never struggles with that beyond accidentally ruining his dad and one cat.

(He could take over the world with that.)

BUT, I also think it’d make sense that he would have some dysmorphia because the shapeshifting may indicate a fluid internal identity, but he can’t just shift on a whim whenever he likes - he needs to wear the one face the majority of the time. That might cause him to get antsy.

This boy can fit -slaps roof of car- so many interpretations.

But more than gender dysphoria propagating body dysmorphia I feel like he’d have body dysmorphia because he’d be acutely aware his appearance has set him apart.

I don’t think he’d be comfortable wearing revealing clothing in part thanks to that, and he also strikes me as a body-private person. His sense of othering was so acute that he fucked w/the human genome just to fit in better, but how many pink-haired people do we see in Saiki k who aren’t Saiki? How many people do we see whose hair colour doesn’t match their eye colour? Saiki is still in the minority despite his best efforts (#maincharactersyndrome), and the devices he wears to accommodate his special needs make him stick out more, forcing him to rely on a level of mind-control that in turn forces others to believe there’s nothing abnormal about his appearance.

I think that’d really fuck with a person tbh. Not only is Saiki honestly somewhat infringing on people’s free will a bit willingly and knowingly, but I don’t think he likes to lie? He both fears and wants to tell his friends about his ESP, it ties him up in so many knots that we get this expression when he’s readily accepted in an alternate timeline.

It’s hard to say whether or not he even realized that was a source of anxiety for him because Saiki DOES lie. A lot. Including to himself.

Honesty is not a privilege he’s allowed.

But he also values honesty and people who are honest with others. He values it so much that he gives Teruhashi her oh wow when she vows to be true to herself.

He values it so much he’ll justify everything to himself just to maybe not twist himself into an extra knot. He values it because he wants to be a good person.

Thanks to that conflict of his needs butting up against his values, he probably doesn’t think he’s a good person. More to the point he believes he’s not even human. I’d not hesitate to tie that full circle to body dysmorphia. Saiki is acutely aware that he is Other. He’s learned that Other = Unsafe which = Bad.

Saiki’s natural instincts to chaotic good are stifled by what he thinks is the best decision to be Good, which is to be lawful good, which is to say he’s of the opinion that Same = Safe = Good.

Yknow. Masking. It really drives against his natural inclinations, and he’s honestly not very good at it.

(Now that’s what I call... leaning into it ohohohobut no seriously what is he doing hes like an inch away from her face aa;sdf.)

I do tend to write/draw Saiki gnc often (like, the first opportunity basically) because the dichotomy between his dgaf attitude (natural -> “i’m insulting you. you’re garbage.”), his DO gaf attitude (stifled, buried -> “i guess i actually do like troublesome things”), and his dgaf attitude (NOT natural, forced -> “i only interfere when it affects my directly”) and his DO gaf attitude (not natural, not talented at it either -> “i’ll be checkmated by social convention!”) in combination with the

-gestures- the gender of it all

is just delightful for me and a ton of fun to explore (ntm a great outlet for my own -kicks it- gender stuff. ...what is that is that a hai-).

But Mr. Kusuo “I'll be checkmated by social convention!” Saiki is difficult to inspect in a vacuum, which requires the view of the other and how that may or may not impact, repulse or attract

many of whom I’d say have been socialized that those social conventions are rather more ingrained than his.

SO. EVERYONE ELSE? HCS.

(Ou a rainbow flag)

Saiki abides by them by necessity of safety, but he does engage in them critically and will rewrite them if he’s motivated enough. (Said it before but the HC here is sex-repulsed biromantic asexual and masc-leaning genderfluid)

Kaidou flaunts them because he loves himself more (but not in front of his mama) but doesn’t really *question* things. So where he’d express his gender and gender identity would probably be dependent on the house rules he grew up with. He’d probably find freedom in GNC fashion so he stands out even more, but if he’s brought up with cis and hetnormative values like a lot of people are, it might not even occur to him to think outside of those spheres on account of he does buy into scams pretty easily, and when it does it’d probably happen with a lot of intrigue and possibly fear depending on what his home life is like. (My vote is for demiboy w/Kaidou and I tend to see him as bisexual and VERY FLUSTERED about it al;sdkf)

Kuboyasu tries to learn a new set of them to live the life he’s decided he wants to live, and only questions them from a self-conscious, insecure of himself perspective. That said he seems to strike a balance between both codes with alacrity, so I’d put him down as a socially motivated individualist who’s found a ‘best of both worlds’ approach.

(YEAH HE IS)

As a born and bred delinquent, the social norms in relation to sexuality and gender were probably different than a ‘normie’, as a lot of that culture stems from eschewing those norms in favour of independence, free thought, and aesthetic - but usually, only to a point, he absolutely has definitive values and some of those values are gendered.

“Never going back on your word is what being a man is all about. Keeping your promises...that what it means to be a real man.” in addition to “How can he call himself a man, chasing skirts all day. Thinkin bout nothin but women all day...you wouldn’t catch me doing that shit.“, the latter of which seems to imply that a ‘real man’ should ‘be above’ getting distracted by sexual attraction.

The Espers also didn’t allow female members,

and he seems to believe that women are not to be underestimated. It’d not be unreasonable to assume that in the world of gang wars where mfw attraction is a majority, a woman would use her sexuality as a tool to gain power, kick-ass, etc. He does not hesitate to view Mera as a force to be reckoned with. That said, he gets along well enough with girls and seems to drink his respect women juice, so I’d say he’s been conditioned to view sexuality itself as the issue, not the object of attraction, hence his disdain for people who are. uh. Toritsuka.

However, certain demographics attract certain demographics and gang wars are harder to accomplish in small population centers. I don’t think it’s unlikely Kuboyasu grew up in a city, which would by merit of its population likely have more resources for lgbtq+ folks - something which is correlated with a higher likelihood of coming out in this older paper. My assumption is therefore that he would not only have been taught some method of inclusivity and that his community, while the Espers excluded women, probably didn’t gaf about heteronormativity. His ideals of manhood could trip him up when it comes to gender, but those values seem to be based on internal qualities like ‘keeping your promises’ and not being Toritsuka instead of things like appearance and may even include what a person is packing downstairs. Which is to say I’d like to think he’d probably be on that ‘trans men are men die mad about it’ bus but he might still trip up thanks to his gendered values.

He’s a determined learner, though, so if it means living up to his ideals of what kinda man he’d like to be (honest, hard-working, a mentor, a protector, a lover of motorcycles) he’ll do his homework and get better. He doesn’t tolerate people acting like trash in front of him after all, and he holds himself to those standards.

(This one seems to really like being a guy :D He might not mind? Wearing a skirt? But if someone misgenders him they’ll probably catch a fire extinguisher to the head. No strong HCs on his sexuality just that I prefer him in a pairing w/Saiki uwuw)

Teruhashi is simultaneously rewarded by them and dehumanized by them and obeys them rigidly - to her detriment. she’s so determined to be the perfect pretty girl as the source of her self-worth that she probably won’t let herself question anything like ‘do I have comphet? or. compcis?’ because it’d destabilize not only her entire sense of self but by not being the perfect pretty girl she thinks she’ll let down the entire world. Probably couldn’t gaf about anyone else, though, as long as she’s queen supreme - like if Imu came out to her she’d probably only be relieved because Imu had a ‘crush’ on Saiki once so it’d be less ‘competition’. I expect she’d be openly supportive of inclusion to a somewhat shallow extent because she likes to be seen as nice, but she wouldn’t think about it that hard. (TBH a genderqueer Teruhashi would be >0 so >0 cool AND make so much sense, “I have to be the Perfect Girl!! OR I’LL DIE -surviving based on the validation of others-” yo that sounds like coping w/something....honey whats going on in there...is it compcis......and yeah comphet too)

(..........t4t?)

Yumehara is mischievous but does not question norms much (unless it’s to ask why she hasn’t gotten any screentime lately) and does her best to conform to them. She loves romance, she loves cute things, so if it’s cute and romantic I don’t think she’d care. The only sticking point with her is that she’s a tryhard. She wants attention from her crushes, and to be thought of as cute very very much (which, fair) and has an entire list of methods to get it like she’s...

Hmm...Studied methods? Maybe because they don’t come naturally to her and further given the methods she’s studied and how much she loves romantic things, probably learned them from romcoms, maybe like a person who has no internal measure of what’s considered desirable beyond “I like cute things!”, so had to learn everything from the outside, and whose attraction to boys starts off like it was read from a romance novel (”eyes like a prince” eh) but develops over time into an infatuation based on ‘someone finally thinks I’m cute! I want to be with that validation all the ti-wow he’s. he’s a really sweet person...’ like I like to think an aesthetic and romance-attracted asexual LOL But given she’s soaked up her knowledge of the rules about things she cares about through probably movies and books (where else would smelling a girl’s hanky be desirable I mean that's some Edward/Bella level stuff) which generally feature only sexual attraction between couples that’d be a blind spot. However, since she’s romance obsessed I don’t doubt that she has a massive yaoi and yuri collection to go with the het stuff tbh, and has gained more. uh. ideas from that LOL

She has body dysmorphia. |: It might be Saiki’s fault.

(Sex-positive biromantic asexual!!! Proooobably a girl. -Squints-)

Satou probably wouldn’t even realize aspects of himself are a result of his socioeconomic status and he’d fully take social norms for granted. If he knows about gay stuff he wouldn’t expect it to apply to him (smthn smthn ‘straight’ as default ‘male’ as default ‘cis’ as default smthn smthn) and probably would have a very general understanding. He seems like a really nice guy though so I don’t think he’d be mean about it. (HC - whatever is normal for the story kekekeke)

Saiko’s sexuality and gender are whatever is the best. His social convention is money.

Nendo doesn’t know what the unwritten laws of society are (and is probably the happiest character in Saiki k for it lbr)

Mera would eat them for lunch. (-points- Aroace agender.)

Aiura is an individualist whose moral code, like Saiki's, just so happens to line up with what’s socially accepted as moral for the most part. But like. If this girl isn’t read up on feminist and lgbtq+ literature and if her social circle doesn’t contain queer people I’d. Be really surprised. tbh.

She’s not only open-minded but values the ability to be one's self like. A lot. I really don’t think she’d have any patience for bigotry, even if she does generally have a LOT of patience. NTM she’s shown to be pretty self-actualized and has probably by and large sorted out her own identity, what it means to her, etc, and would want to help others do the same. She’s canonically sexually active, canonically aware of what she wants from a partner, is canonically attracted to boys and Teruhashi, and is proud of all of that and herself. She’s got the self esteem and self love thing down pat and she knows what she wants.

(HC girl, bisexual)

Toritsuka. uhm. well. I don’t know if I’d call him a free thinker when his dick is in the driver's seat and his greed is holding the map, but. I mean. he might develop the ability to think critically, like. eventually. when he stops being like. seventeen in the worst way a;ldkfj

And, ofc, Akechi couldn’t give two shits about that which doesn’t suit him and probably knows more about the above people than they know about themselves. Idk where I’d stack him on the bingo card tbh other than ‘probs not straight’ but thats just my default setting a;lskdf and ‘his mind was literally blown by Teruhashi’

Imu is a lesbian. Canon comphet stronk, no headcanons about it.

Anyways it’s just fun to take that all together I think like

hmmmmm what would they think of each other, their reactions, how would it evv and flow...................................

ok done now.

#freaks essays #sort of lollll #i think i couldve worded some of this better.... and ofc i can only make my guesses about japanese social conventions and specifically the #ones presented in saiki k >< so some of this is probably combined with wishful thinking #and ignorance alkdfj;alskd

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Buried: The Link of Visuals and Emotions

BLOG 10: EMOTIONAL STIMULOUS TO VISUAL MEDIA

People frequently comment on how dark my taste is in media that I like to watch. Because it can explore the depths of the human psyche and elicit strong emotions, the horror genre is one that I genuinely adore. Keeping that in mind, I want to talk about how the visuals in the horror genre affect our emotional experiences and share my fascination with it. In order to accomplish this, I've decided to analyze "Buried," an independent horror game that has had a profound effect on me.

About Buried

"Buried," an independent horror game developed by Authogin in 2023, immerses players in the terrifying experience of being buried alive inside a coffin while adding a supernatural element to the whole thing. The psychological horror of confinement is the main theme of the game, which uses the cramped environment to play on players' deepest fears. The gloomy atmosphere created by the menacing dancing shadows in the low light intensifies the sense of impending doom. Through the careful design of Authogin, darkness and paranoia are expertly combined to create an immersive narrative in which every moan and creak adds to the psychological suffering. Arriving in 2023, "Buried" goes beyond conventional horror gaming, providing a visceral experience that haunts players with the aftereffects of being buried alive.

Academic Standpoint

The Darwinian framework has had a significant impact on the understanding of emotions in the field of psychology by highlighting their functional aspects. Post-Darwinian theories suggest that emotional disruptions have an adaptive function, in contrast to early philosophical viewpoints that frequently saw emotions as disruptive forces. According to this perspective, emotions are essential to a person's ability to assess and react to their environment. (Müller and Kappas, 2010)

Researchers emphasize the complex relationship that exists between emotions and motivations in this academic setting. Identifying risk or opportunity in a given circumstance is regarded as a critical component of making wise choices in daily life. Psychologists highlight the intricate relationship that exists between emotions and motivations, stressing that things, occasions, or circumstances can take on emotional qualities simply because they are associated with specific motivations. Emotions also influence motivations in a reciprocal manner. (Müller and Kappas, 2010)

As adaptive defenses to shield people from possible harm, negative emotions create a bias towards avoiding particular circumstances, events, or experiences. On the other hand, happy feelings lead to a predisposition to look for happy or fulfilling circumstances. Motives and emotions have a dynamic relationship that illustrates the adaptive nature of the human psyche and how our emotional responses are skillfully calibrated to help us navigate the complexity of our social and environmental environments. (Müller and Kappas, 2010)

Buried Emotions in Visuals

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As players delve deeper into "Buried," the visual components cleverly interact with feelings to produce an immersive experience that goes beyond the screen. The beginning of the game takes place in a dim, cramped space with only two unstable, limited sources of light available: a dying phone battery and a running lighter. This intentional limitation creates a tense environment in which the player must solve puzzles in a set amount of time to avoid becoming paranoid and possibly meeting an exhausting and frustrating end.

Darkness

When darkness is intentionally used, it acts as a psychological trigger that causes fear and panic. The lack of sight sends the player's thoughts into a state of unease and starts a downward spiral of suspense in which every shadow turns into a possible sign of impending danger. The game deftly plays on this fear, exposing that acting in the dark increases panic because it causes the player to inadvertently take in more oxygen. This adds another level of strategic complexity.

Closed Spaces

The enclosed area itself acts as a visual trigger, causing unease and fear. The tight setup of the game makes players feel even more suffocated, and this effect is amplified for those who suffer from claustrophobia. The overall immersive quality of the game is enhanced by the interaction between the player's emotional response and the visual environment.

Exhaustible Resources

Limited resources, represented by the lighter fuel and phone battery, become more than just a simple gaming mechanic; they also cause annoyance and frustration. Players are kept on edge by the constant pressure to act quickly when resources are scarce, which is similar to how people react in real life when they fear losing vital resources.

Clutter and Mess

It becomes more urgent to make a decision when rummaging through the mess in the cramped, small area, which causes anger and disturbance. Players must move quickly to overcome obstacles because of the chaotic visuals that add to the feeling that they are running out of time.

Disfigured Face

A disfigured woman appears in the coffin with the player, a foreboding sign of impending doom and one of the most powerful visual cues. As the game approaches its climax and death approach closer, the lifeless face stimulates intense fear. This graphic component becomes a medium for an overpowering sense of horror.

The present theoretical analysis of the visuals in "Buried" demonstrates how particular visual components are intentionally crafted to evoke particular emotional reactions. The importance of the player's personal anxieties and preconceptions highlights how subjective the horror felt is. The experience may not be frightening for people who have become indifferent to horror, but for those who are afraid of darkness, enclosed spaces, or the paranormal, "Buried" turns into an absolutely terrifying journey. This is evidence of the game's adaptive mechanics, which play on players' fears and emotions.

Conclusion

"Buried" is revealed to be more than just a game; it's also a psychological journey that deftly employs image manipulation to elicit a range of feelings. The intentional use of darkness, scarcity of resources, and small area turns the area into a painting of anxiety, panic, and discomfort, engrossing players in an immersive experience that goes beyond conventional gaming. A visceral experience that demonstrates the powerful influence of visuals on emotional engagement is provided by the disoriented face of impending doom and the continual threat of suffocation. Upon navigating through the theoretical dissection, it becomes apparent that the game's genius is not limited to its gameplay mechanics; rather, it also demonstrates how deeply subjective the horror experienced is by tapping into individual fears.

"Buried" is an example of how well visual design and emotional response work together, leaving players with a lasting sense of anxiety, adaptability, and the careful balancing act between player psychology and game aesthetics.

References

Müller, M. and Kappas, A. (2010) 'Visual emotions – emotional visuals: Emotions, pathos formulae, and their relevance for communication research,' Routledge International Handbook, pp. 324–345. https://doi.org/10.4324/9780203885390-26.

Kari-Pekka (2023) Buried | Full Game | Walkthrough Gameplay - No commentary. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oAsmMxpMh6I.

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Why is Mob in the low empathy poll that boy has SO much empathy...he's just bad at recognizing and expressing his emotions is all.

Hi! So I'm just going to use this to respond to all of the "why is Mob here" questions I've been getting.

First off, I had a policy that if a character got more than a minimum number of independent nominations then they automatically got in, and Mob more than cleared that- in fact he got double the minimum!

Also, I uh...haven't watched Mob Psycho 100. If there was a character I wasn't familiar with I would usually briefly skim their wiki to see if they seemed like they'd count, but the first person who nominated Mob posted an INSANELY detailed wall of text outlining why they thought he was low-empathy, so I felt like I was convinced and didn't need to do that. I understand know that this may have been an oopsie on my part. Sorry. I'll put the original explanation below a cut at the bottom of the page, if anyone reading this wants to understand why I felt it wasn't necessary to do a wiki skim in this case. If you're Response 65 and you want me to edit the post to remove your explanation, I will.

Finally, this poll was intended to feature characters with low affective empathy (the ability to respond with "appropriate" emotions to another's mental state) or low cognitive empathy (the ability to understand another person's emotions). It seems like Mob might be the latter?

He is quite explicitly low-empathy. In chapters 6, 7, and 8, Mob is recruited by a cult bc he is promised he will become popular. The (LOL) organization wants people to laugh and smile using crowd psychology. When that doesn't work, the leader Dimple places smile masks on Mob, Emi, and the other man with them, forcing their faces into smiles. This doesn't work on Mob however. Mob tries to leave but Dimple tells him, "…Boy, wait! Do you plan to live out your days with that lifeless face? By smiling and laughing with us all here, your emotions can become rosy and clear…!" Dimple doesn't want Mob as an unknown factor in his plans to become god, so he continues to try to get Mob to smile. After his hypnosis fails on Mob, Mob tells him that he simply can't smile for show or laugh for others. Dimple then tells him, "Ha! So you have no emotions, boy…? I thought you were having romantic troubles… if you can't go with the flow, then what if the girl you like smiles? You won't be able to smile back then, will you…? There have been others before you who have laughed very little, but by forcing them to laugh… afterwards they understood. When people around you are having fun, you feel like you're having fun, too. The opposite is also true. Both joy and aggravation are infectious. Emotions are a system which acts in response to other people. But you can't work with that. You can't cry with them. You can't be moved with them. What would suit you is to end your youth shut away in your room. And then after that… you will be alone forever." Mob is the only person who was capable of bringing down (LOL). His inability to read the room and feel the emotions of others made him immune to the mass group effect, and his psychic powers withstood the hypnosis.

This was not written by me, but by Respondent 65 of the original Google Form where I collected character submissions.

#housekeeping #answered asks

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Hello could I get a matchup from Jujutsu Kaisen and My Hero Academia please :) . My name is Sitara that means Star . Would prefer a matchup for the adult males in JJK and Pro heroes in MHA

Pronouns : She / her

Sexuality : Heterosexual , likes men

Zodiac : Aries

MBTI : ENFJ

Appearance : 5'7 ( considered tall by my friends ) . hourglass body. Thigh length long black straight hair , black eyes . Wheat brown skin. I have multiple aesthetics for clothing according to occasion like sweet girl , badass girl outfits , dark feminine , old money . But I try to look sexy while still being elegant . Big doe eyes , small nose and lips with chubby cheeks .

Personality : I'm very extroverted , I need people to match my energy . But I'm calm and reliable when I need to get a work done. Very independent and thus wants to take care of people I love. I respond very nicely to affection , I love it. Physical touch , words of affirmation , acts of service , gifts all are my love languages . I have many insecurities that people don't know despite them thinking I'm beautiful and intelligent ( Am I ? I don't know , I think I'm weird and have insecurities but I never tell anyone). I'm confident in my own abilities and kind of a leader and responsible person with a fun side too. People say I'm charismatic . I can understand other people's hidden side below their extroverted self so I comfort them and try to understand because I have feel them too. I can easily understand such people . Have many insecurities and trust issues but is willing to get over them for someone I love . I'm the life of the party , have many friends but I have small circle of close friends. I have a tendency to protect my loved ones and care for them even if I know they can. very calm and collected , don't loose my cool easily

Likes and Dislikes : I hate people who aren't loyal to their friends or partners . I'm very loyal to my loved ones but people think I'm a player , cheater , don't know why. I love to party and love dancing . I love songs that can make me dance but hate sad songs and slow songs ( unless I'm in a romantic mood ) . I love spicy food. I love to party where I can dance and go wild but i also like formal parties with elegant and expensive dinners. I can't eat or drink something very sweet. I love mangas and action movies or series . I also like Turkish and K dramas but not the ones that are too cheesy like It's Okay Not to be Okay and Vincenzo. I loved the female leads there. I love people who can return the same affection and love like me , who are clingy or touch starved because so am I and I can give affection to them. I love beaches and have a collection of swimsuits. Likes rap songs. I like poetry and i can compose nice ones . Chronicles of Narnia is my favorite and I also like Shadow and Bone. Fan of Digimon and Beyblade . Technology geek

Hobbies : I 'm trained in MMA and good at it. I love to dance . I 'm also good at horse riding and I can also play drums. I like driving cars and I also like to dress up. I like surfing too. Not good at cooking , just basic cooking knowledge for daily need . Good at academics . i do art too. I can also do Ice skating. Good at playing chess and polo. I also read books that are mystery and thrillers

Thank you : )

Hi Sitara! Thank you for your request! Sorry it took a while. I hope you like your matchups!

In Jujutsu Kaisen, I match you with...

Gojo certainly matches your extroverted energy. He’s able to keep up with you when most others wouldn’t be able to. But at the same time, even though he doesn’t seem like it, he’s certainly capable of stepping up and assuming responsibility when needed.

Your party buddy forever! Gojo likes partying and it’s even better when he’s with someone. He’s right there with you, dancing along to every good dance song that comes on.

Surprisingly loyal. While he may seem like someone who wouldn’t be loyal in a relationship at first glance, Gojo is going to stick by your side through everything.

He’s got some things in his past that mean he doesn’t want the people he cares about to think he doesn’t care about them. So he’ll reassure you that you’re the only one for him.

Not super touch starved, but at the same time, he’s not about to turn down affection. Just as he matches your energy, Gojo will also match your levels of affection.

If you give him a quick peck on the cheek, he’ll return the gesture. But if you run towards him before jumping into a hug, he’s holding you tight and swinging you around, laughing.

In My Hero Academia, I match you with...

Much like Gojo, Hawks is good at matching your energy. He’s a bit more relaxed than Gojo though, preferring to watch you than join in.

Great at helping you with your insecurities. Hawks has a silver tongue and knows exactly what to say to help you see the best in yourself. He just wants to help you see yourself the same way he sees you.

Hawks isn’t super into cooking either so you’ll probably be getting a lot of takeaway. Thankfully, he knows a lot of cheap and healthy places around town.

Ice skating dates! Hawks isn’t too bad at ice skating…just be prepared to see him fully extend his wings to try and maintain his balance. You better not be standing too close…

Hawks also loves going driving with you. He usually flies everywhere so driving is a nice change of perspective. I hope you don’t mind feathers getting all over you and the car though.

#writing #fanfic #matchup #matchup request #request #jujutsu kaisen #gojo satoru #my hero academia #boku no hero academia #hawks #keigo takami

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