v tired of coming out to ppl who are familiar and accepting of the aroace term, who then still turn around and say "yeah but you might still one day meet someone, right?" like I promise you most aspec ppl are aware it's an option, but it's still rude
I get you're trying to be supportive, but it still comes off as "don't worry, perhaps you're not really aroace/broken"
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I DID IT!!!!
So in this post, I gave a little sneak peek at what I'd been working on during the month of March...and then proceeded to forget to post the completed illustration 🤣
I figured I should probably fix that LOL
I could just post the illustration itself, but instead...
How about I post the printed illustration I got signed by Chris Hackney himself????
Once I move out, I'll have it framed and put it in my office 🥰
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It feels kind of magical to happen across other aspecs in the wild. Once I heard a friend of a friend talk about aesthetic attraction so I tentatively asked if she was aspec and her face lit up with a "Yes!" Another time I was chatting with someone that I'd sat next to in the first lecture of a new course and (because they were talking about queer stuff) I mentioned that I was aroace and they exclaimed "No way - me too! I've never met another one!" and we were both so excited. Even just learning through the grapevine that an acquaintance (e.g. a family friend I played with when we were kids, and a girl I was in a writing group with six years ago) is ace and/or aro makes me feel so warm and happy. It reminds me I'm not alone. It reminds me that other aspecs don't just live on the internet. They are out there in the world, living their own full and rich lives.
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there's a very specific kind of vibe that comes with living with your friends in final year that it just does not have in first year or even second year. like as a fresher it's usually the first time any of you have lived away from home let alone with SO MANY people your age and it's terrifying and exciting and randomised to boot so it's generally carnage for a whole year in the best and worst ways, and then second year you pick who you're living with and it feels like for the first time you're doing this adult thing PROPERLY. you have a place of your own now. these are the people you've chosen to live with. studying gets serious etc. but it's still fresh. it's still new. you still don't know how to navigate it. but final year? final year is when you actually get it right. you know how to manage your time better. you know what works for you and what doesn't. studying is the main focus and you've been out in the world for three years now and it's not loud and boisterous like it was in first year and you're not exciteable and awkward like you were in second year. you're comfortable. every single one of my flatmates has their own friend group and we mainly keep to our own social circles, but we'll still meet each other back at the house after a night out and sit in the kitchen or my room to do the debrief. sometimes i'll go days not seeing either of them despite sharing a house but every now and then someone will softly call up the stairs that 'the heating's on!' or one of us will sneeze and the other two will yell 'bless you!' through the walls. the lack of interaction isn't interpreted as dislike in ways it would have been even last year, because we're all just old enough to be past that now and settled enough in our friendship not to worry about it. idk. uni is very loud and unsettling a lot of the time so it's been really sweet to see how almost boringly comfortable final year is.
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I love the scrivener writing program
& its customizable backgrounds.
<3
(But not as much as Jack loves Eric, pass it on.)
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omg wait so are you a Lesbian lesbian 👁️👃👁️
NO LOL you people always ask me this, I’m bisexual with a greater interest in women then men. I’ve kissed ladies but have never kissed or been with a dude before. I just get annoyed because a lot of women are bisexual but have stronger interest in men, therefore a lot of their sapphic tendencies seem to reflect a need to still cater to the male gaze or lack a lot of raw sexuality. It’s all “Ahh women are so pretty I couldn’t bare to touch one~!” while they happily go down on their unbathed Nigels. They invade sapphic spaces to offer up their freshly washed, castrated views on female sexuality and perpetuate this specific ideal where dating a woman is all soft fluffy bread and tepid kisses and wearing mom jeans to a farmers market. NOT THAT ANY OF THESE THINGS ARE INHERENTLY BAD but to me, personally, it just comes off as kind of….. sterile…….
I just want more girls with bloody knees wrestling in the mud and having gross, feral sex. Give me something REAL and HUMAN and MESSY, give me female sexuality that hasn’t been bleached squeaky clean and delivered in seven pounds of heavy makeup ok….
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Hi! Hope you're doing well! I'm curious... do you have any thoughts in modern AU durgetash??
It would be kind of funny if a modern day Dark Urge was a serial killer carving through people in New York City, and Police Commissioner Enver Gortash is the only one smart enough to catch them, but rather than arrest them, he tells them to stop the murders, and he'll pin it on some other guy, but from now on, the Dark Urge works for him.
But I have nothing else besides that, since they work so well in the fantasy setting.
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if you show me even the tiniest scrap of respect and affection, I will get the strangest most confusing feelings for you (I want you to be my friend! my lover! my partner! my owner! my parental figure! my mentor! love me love me love me! please show me i am lovable! i will do anything! love me!) which will eventually lead me down a path of jealousy over you giving others similar attention, then intense self-flaggelation for feeling this way, and will finally result in me isolating myself for your and my own good because I cannot control my own feelings and feel bad and monstrous and inhuman about it <3
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