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void-galaxy-shenanigans · 2 months

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(Photo IDs in alt text)

(this is for everyone but especially queer, LGBT+, trans, “cringy”, disabled, fat, BIPOC/BBIMP, otherwise marginalized and/or non “normative” communities, identities, and people. we love you all 💜. ~Nico)

#photo #with id #photo with id #with alt text #liking gap #love #platonic love #friendship #queer #lgbt #trans #nonbinary #supportive #healing #healing from trauma

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noahsryans · 2 months

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friendly reminder to all my anxious mutuals

#liking gap #gay #moots

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randomnon911stuff · 10 months

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Don't we all suffer from the "liking gap"? 🙈

#liking gap #does everyone secretly hate everyone else?

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dropintomanga · 2 years

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The Curse of Avoiding Dislike

I’m reading the latest English volume (Volume 10 as of this posting) of Shikimori’s Not Just a Cutie and there was a part in this volume that’s absolutely relatable as everyone is so afraid of being disliked. It’s scary, but this manga has shown what happens when that fear has the potential to interfere in your daily life.

To provide some context, the big school trip to Kyoto (a very common trope) happens in the series and a new member of Shikimori’s crew is introduced. Saruogi is a timid young man chosen by Izumi as the latter once helped him out in the past. Although he does get along with Izumi, Shikimori and friends, there’s still an amount of distance between them. In Volume 10, the readers know why.

When Izumi loses a scarf that Shikimori gave him, Saruogi offers to help find it, but Izumi insists on not finding it to ensure everyone has a good time. Saruogi struggles to agree with Izumi’s actions and the above picture provides some insight into his thinking. Saruogi wanted to make friends, but everyone else seemed to dislike him because of his lack of personality. Saruogi would always stay close up to a certain point where he wouldn’t get hurt or hurt anyone’s feelings.

Yet when he remembers Izumi reaching out to him, Saruogi decides to take a stand and ends up telling his new friends about the missing scarf. Everyone rushes to help. Saruogi cries though as he feels that Izumi would hate him because he broke his promise in having the perfect travel trip. But Shikimori being the cool character that she is says.

“But...I deserve for him to think that way about me.” While there is a happy ending to all of this, I can’t help but think about those words. Maybe I’ve said some kind of variation of those lines and I’m sure many other people have (especially those with depression and anxiety).

There’s many studies that say that people greatly underestimate how much people like them or want constructive feedback in any shape or form. The liking gap is super real. It’s very hard to overcome this. But I like what Saruogi does because he doesn’t want Izumi to be alone in solving the problem. I remember the book The Courage to be Disliked, which gave some pointers on how to overcome being disliked because a lot of us can’t accept that we’re not going to be liked by everyone.

- Deny trauma (well, not totally deny it, but let it become your entire identity) - All life’s problems are interpersonal (this means that failing isn’t the problem, it’s being seen failing is the problem. Hence interpersonal). - Live in the here and now. (Self-explanatory)

Saruogi rejects Izumi’s wishes, his interpersonal past, and decides to do what’s best in his eyes which ultimately makes everyone happy. Saying “no” to certain things that seem harmful to someone you care about shouldn’t be a sin. I sometimes find it ironic when people say they want a friend who’s honest and blunt when they might mean they want someone like that as long as they call other people out and not them. And I noticed that in this bit, Izumi and Saruogi are somewhat similar in that they were willing to let their own happiness suffer instead of others. Izumi in a way was worried about being disliked if the travel plans didn’t work out all because he lost his scarf. Thankfully, Shikimori tells him off.

I know not many of you believe this (and I will not blame you), but I do think people who feel that they’re unlikable are more likable than they think. There’s wholesome people out there still. I can also say this from recent personal experiences and the people who are still with me. Curses can turn into blessings.

#Shikimori's Not Just a Cutie #friendship #mental health #manga #Saruogi #Izumi #Shikimori #youth #liking gap

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shcherbatskya · 9 months

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starting a collection. pierre talking to natasha in war and peace

#it’s soooo funny i don’t know……#he’s like really not that old like the age gap between them can’t be more than like ten years max he just talks like he’s on his deathbed #samael speaks

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raptorrobot · 4 months

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...like antennas to heaven

link to the full image

#ultrakill #ultrakill fanart #ultrakill earthmover #creations of raptor #tumblr compression made the raw file of the whole comic look like ass so i had to meticulously split it into multiple images #the little gaps are mildly annoying but i promise it is better than seeing this in like 140p #the full image is linked though if you wanna experience it as fully intended #anyways #this is the most insane project i've done in a while #the book in 7-4 man . it just Hit #you were beautiful .#perfect closure .#the pages of the book are blank .#THE PAGES OF THE BOOK ARE BLANK .

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starwarjotta · 3 months

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looking for someone on Tatooine

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uncanny-tranny · 9 months

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Amatonormativity has destroyed so many people's understanding and acceptance of themselves, and it's heartbreaking.

Yes, it is normal to be in your 20s, 30s, or older and not have lost your virginity, had a first kiss, or a partner. It is normal to say that you aren't ready for those things, too! It is normal if your life doesn't follow the "college graduate -> engagement -> buying a home -> 2.5 kids and a dog" trajectory that so many people have idealized.

So many people associate maturity with losing your virginity, or having a first kiss, or a serious relationship, and I think that's a dangerous association. Maturity isn't gained through those things, and you don't have to have those experiences to be considered "mature" or "grown." It is not a bad thing to go at your pace. Nobody else can live your life but you. If you end up having those experiences, that's great! But it should be done because you want to experience them, not because you feel "broken" and "immature" without them.

#amatonormativity #ask to tag (genuine)#i honestly *wish* conversations like this were things i was exposed to when i was younger...#...maybe then i'd've felt less of a need to surpress my aromanticism and asexuality...#...the feeling of brokenness still trails behind me sometimes because so many of us are taught that this all WILL happen...#...we WILL fall in love. we WILL have a nuclear family. we WILL be satisfied with this...#...and that this is the IDEAL for cishet patriarchal structures...#...and that /any/ deviation to the SLIGHTEST degree is that fault of the *individual*. who WOULDN'T want this life?#there's this idea like i said that maturity is gained as you almost... adhere to expectations...#...and that's genuinely dangerous to associate maturity with that and i hope you can fill in those gaps because it can get dark fast

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drulalovescas · 6 months

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I LOVE HOW SUPERNATURAL WAS LIKE: OH, DEAN AND CAS?? THOSE TWO??? YEAH, THEY FUCKED.

#he's an angry sleeper. LIKE A BEAR.#honorary mention: the fanfiction gap #insane show #destiel #spn 5x3 #spn 12x19 #spn 13x6

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thirstywaffles · 28 days

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A friend dragged me into rereading sv 🧍

#doodley #it's been SO long since i've drawn them #like it's been 6 years?????? jfc duddeeeee #i graduated hs; transitioned; and entered uni during those gap yrs lmaoo #scum villain's self saving system #scum villain #svsss #sv #luo binghe #shen qingqiu #artists on tumblr #digital art #sketch #seeing how much my art developed was so fun; i keep comparing my old art to this new sketch lol

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beyondthisdarkhouse · 11 months

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After months of research and development and market testing and perfecting the first item I feel confident selling online, I have realized... that it is an incredibly niche item that only a specific subset of absolute nerds would want to buy, and I will have to do a ton of explaining the basic idea over and over again before people generally get what it is I'm even selling. RIP me

#this is like the time I spraypainted a bunch of screw heads gold #because I was putting up gold spraypainted shelf brackets and wanted these black screws to not stand out #and to make it easier I took a piece of thin cardboard and cut a series of Xes in it #then pushed the screws in a little bit and positioned it over the gap between boards on the back deck #and used my hammer to just plonk those screws into place so I could spraypaint them!#i felt so clever I posted a video of it #(gold spraypaint makes me feel giddy and childlike)#and everyone was like #“GIRL NO YOU CAN'T DO THAT DON'T TRY TO *HAMMER* YOUR *SCREWS* INTO A DECK!”#it took like. so much work to try to explain to people why this was a problem I wanted to solve #much less the mechanism by which i solved it #my brain is just. HIGHLY WEIRD SOMETIMES

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duckprintspress · 3 months

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Urgent: Help Us Not Get Screwed

Anyone who follows us has seen us screaming from the hill-tops about our current crowdfunding campaign for Aether Beyond the Binary (17 aetherpunk stories! Outside the gender binary main characters!). We've only got 50 hours left...and we just got screwed.

Our Anthology Kickstarter is being scammed.

About two hours ago, with us still roughly $1,500 from our goal, we got a junk pledge for almost $2,000. This pushed us into being marked as "funded" but there is zero chance it's a real pledge, it's from a shell account marked as being in Turkey. This kind of money doesn't just fall like a miracle into the laps of small business like ours.

The timing on this attack is devastating. The final 48 hours of a campaign are absolutely critical, especially for one as close to meeting our goal as we are. We were very likely to hit our target, but doing so was going to require appeals to y'all that started with "hey, we're so close, please help spread the word." Further, the campaign has hundreds of followers who will get a notification at the 48 hour mark, and many who might have backed to help get us to the finish line will now think "oh, they're there, they don't need me," and not back. Meanwhile, one of two things will happen with the spam pledge: either it will get removed by Kickstarter, which could take hours or a day+, totally nuking us during this crucial window, or it won't get removed until the payment bounces post-campaign, at which point we won't actually have enough money to do fulfillment.

Either way, we are fucked.

Please, please don't let these dipshits ruin the love and passion that 30+ people have poured into this project for over a year.

Our campaign IS NOT FUNDED, and it won't be without help. I'm begging, help spread the word about how we're getting screwed, and help spread the word about Aether Beyond the Binary (visit the link for so much info!) so that we can get enough real pledges to fund this project we've poured our hearts and souls into.

SUPPORT THE QUEER ANTHOLOGY KICKSTARTER FOR AETHER BEYOND THE BINARY (with your pledges or with signal boosts!)

#unforth rambles #like seriously guys i feel sick #this is a disaster #and the absolute earliest KS can do anything about it is in another 2 hours when their offices open #but it will probably take longer #someone else i know running a campaign right now it took 24 plus hours to get rid of an $8k spam pledge on their campaign #we WILL NOT FUND if it takes that long #in my submission to KS support I've begged them to give us another day #but even that's only a stop-gap because we've been advertising as ending tomorrow #there's no fixing this #i'm so upset i'm nauseous

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sleepis4theweak · 2 months

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Inspired by my mom pulling the emergency call cord in the hospital because I got the hiccups when I was like a day old.

#I feel like leo would be one to freak out if anything slightly bad happened #and jump to the most severe of conclusions... (he's me)#tmnt #tmnt 2012 #but... idk age gaps au?#tmnt au #leo 2012 #mikey 2012 #mikey tmnt #leo tmnt #posted this on the wrong blog first whoops :|#Only Mike saw tho.... (hi Mike)#sleepy art

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inkskinned · 1 year

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100,000 dollars is not a lot of money.

it is also a lot more money than i will ever have. my student loans make up half of that - they're coming back, i'm told, like we all bounced back recently. the other day while paying for gas to go to work, i overdrew my account without knowing it.

i sat in the car and looked at the charge and tried to do the math. where the fuck is the money even going? i don't live extravagantly. i live in a hole in the ground, in an apartment the size of a sneeze; covered in ants. yes, i wanted to live close to a population center. maybe that's my fault. i've downloaded the apps and i've spoken to the experts and i've cut back on excess. i can't help the pharmacy bills or the medical debt.

i have a good, well-paying job. when i googled it to see if i was getting a fair salary, i found out i'd be making "upper middle class" money. which doesn't make sense - is "upper middle class" now just "able to afford a one-bedroom without a roommate". when i was younger, upper-middle meant a nice big house and a backyard and vacations and not flinching about eating at a resturant.

i was talking to my friend who is a realtor. he said 100,000 dollars is extremely cheap for housing. he's not wrong. 100,000 dollars would change my life. 100,000 dollars also won't really buy you anything. it could get you out of debt, potentially, if you were lucky and had a certain amount of scholarships to tack onto your degree. you could pay off the car and then have enough left over for "spending" money. how fucking amazing. one vacation, maybe two if you're thrifty. and then - like magic - the money would evaporate into nothing. people would sigh and tell you see, you should have put it into savings! like "upper middle class" people can't afford to value "actually living" over squirrelling wealth. you should spend your life only in scarcity. like that is what made the rich people all their real "actually a lot of money".

100,000 dollars would literally set me free. it also would just set me back to "earning normally" instead of paying down debt into infinity. god, do you know how many of us just want that? that our first thought is we could stop scrambling and just be free of debt if we won the lottery? that we don't even necessarily need to stop working - we just wouldn't have to worry about failing or falling?

and. at the same time. 100,000 dollars is next to fucking nothing.

#writeblr #me paying my taxes this year:#haha good to know im literally doing more for my community out of my tiny apartment #than most corporations will do in their entire scope! :) these motherfuckers will NEVER pay taxes!!!#bc they lobby others to be sure we CHOKE :) !!!#i hope this is clear like. this isn't someone being like ''haha if i got 100k it wouldn't be a big deal''#it's more like. the gap between corporations and the ppl WORKING in those corporations #has become HORRIFIC. 100k to the company i work for is like. pocket change to them.#and it is LIFE CHANGING for me.#they could cut me a check for 100k tomorrow and not even budge their margin of error

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dropintomanga · 1 year

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Fan Stranger, Not Danger

It’s about time for fan convention season and that means fans going out to events once more to celebrate their fandom. Even though COVID still lingers, the convention experience is worth it. That’s mostly because you get a good chance of talking to strangers that can become new friends. I want to talk about that because I want everyone to see that there’s good people out there.

I was reading a 2021 Atlantic article called “Why We Should Talk to Strangers More.” It detailed various anecdotes of people’s experiences of talking to strangers and the joy they got when talking to them. They greatly underestimated the reception they will get from the stranger and vice versa. It turns out most conversations end up being pleasant. Many things are in-play as to why people don’t talk to strangers, but talking to strangers is a beautiful thing. It’s argued that we don’t know how to talk to them due to social messaging saying that strangers in general are bad.

I recall one moment where I talked to a stranger on the way to Crunchyroll Expo 2017. I ran into a woman who was wondering which rail train to take to the convention center. So she talked to me as I was in total cosplay and I guided her to the same train I was taking. We talked for a bit and then she revealed that she worked at VIZ Media. We then talked about what was hot at the time (Haikyuu!! and Tokyo Ghoul). After we reached the convention, we parted ways and told each other to have a great time. While we didn’t become friends, I enjoyed the conversation. It got me more hyped for the convention.

About a couple of months ago, a new user joined a mahjong Discord server I was a part of and asked about what to do at anime conventions as they were going to one for the 1st time. I chimed in and said.

“Regarding conventions, just hang around people with similar interests. Go to panels that interest you. Talk to people when you can. Take photos. Artists’ alley has some fun stuff to buy at times. I hope you get to make friends there because they make convention experiences worthwhile.“

I did check in with them later and they told me that while they may not be adept in social skills, they managed to make a friend. I considered that a success.

What I want to say is that meeting strangers is arguably the best solution to some of life’s problems. Many popular anime/manga stories are about meeting strangers that change heroes’ lives. I think about Gintama’s introduction where Shinpachi meets Gintoki at his job and decides to join him after seeing how cool he was standing up to the Amanto. There’s many scenes in anime/manga where a disgruntled youth finds a lone badass to be inspiring and their heart tells them to go with them. There’s also the opposite where the lone badass finds peace with strangers that turn out to be the best friends they needed. The best example is Guts from Berserk as his supporting cast helped him ease the burden of helping Casca and providing him a companionship that he missed since his old Band of the Hawk days.

There’s so much conditioning in media and outside influences saying the world isn’t safe. Here’s the thing - the ones who often hurt us the most are those closest to us. When I hear stories about abuse of any kind, it is usually from someone who knows the victim well. Trauma can be caused by people who are supposed to protect/support us. I notice a lot of anime/manga characters are usually hurt because someone close to them treated them like crap.

Given how much has happened in the past 3 years, definitely reach out to someone who looks like they could be nice to talk to. You deserve a manga-esque story that can make life a bit more worthwhile and less lonely. You deserve a chance to see that people are still beautiful and trying to live the best they can despite the mercilessness of it all.

#strangers #mental health #friendships #talk to strangers #relationships #fan conventions #liking gap #conversations

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min-play · 5 months

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clapping really loud but can only do it once

#min draw #min move #minbitt #flashing #spread your fingers really wide #slam your hands together hard #on impact there should be enough gap in the middle of the palm for an air pocket #behold loud clap #it hurts like heck #animation

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