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cepheusgalaxy · 2 months

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Me: *Eleven wips or so, still in the brainstorm process of most of them, little to no experience, attending school 5h a day and figuring things out for the first time*

My mom: "You should totally sell those books you're working on!!! Let's set some cool goals!!! Hey, what about October? If you organize yourself you can write one or two books until then, right?"

Me: *annoyed noises*

Like, I know it's probably because she herself went through hard times when she was younger and poorer, and she wants me and my siblings to have money so we won't have to worry about the future but like. No? Like, no, I don't think so? That's not how writing works? And books take very very long to be written? Like, Rick Riordan, a professional who's been doing this for ages, takes at least a whole year to finish one book? For an already stabilished series, with fleshed out characters and themes and brainstorming process done, that is? And I'm a hobbyist???? And what I plan on selling is like, art???????

#mom ur being UNREALISTIC #i bet she thinks itd be impossible for HER to do a book in five~six months but noooo its her Talented Artistic Son #he sure would have an easy time with that #its not because i Can that its Easy ok?#it seems like people often forget that #writeblr #rambles #my wips

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canisalbus · 7 months

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just a quick ask to tell u it makes me super happy seeing the detail u go into when pointing out stuff u like about other people's art of ur ocs :3 it's so rare to see but it's so so motivating!! <3

Thank you! I don't take any interest for my art for granted, and if someone goes through the trouble of drawing my characters for me, I feel like trying to write a proper response is the least I can do. For a visually oriented person, receiving gift/fan art is a huge deal, it means someone considered my goobers worth their time and effort, they've probably been thinking about them more than a little and found them inspiring in a way or another, and I find that terribly flattering. It's extremely fun and interesting to see other people's takes on them. And I've drawn stuff for people as well, I know how nice and rewarding it feels to receive a response that is longer than a word or two. Positive comments like that can linger in people's minds for a long time, at least for me they do.

#this comes with a big serious disadvantage though #it often takes me a long time to write that response #my social batteries are extremely small and a lot of the time by the time I go online I feel too worn out to engage with people properly #I'm autistic anxious and severely depressed my spoons are in short supply at the best of times #I've always had really hard time putting my thoughts into words in a way that I find satisfactory #so I keep putting off reblogging gift art #because most of the time my brain is too smushed to formulate that meaningful comment I want to give #maybe that sounds dumb and fake #but this is something I've struggled with for years and I feel extremely guilty for keeping people waiting like that #often weeks sometimes months even #and potentially making them feel underappreciated and unnoticed #I'm also genuinely very scatterbrained and unorganized and I miss and forget things I'm supposed to do all the time #not to mention that I tend to have trouble keeping track of my mentions and dms and asks I'm only one person #so if you've ever drawn something for me and I didn't/haven't responded yet #please know it's not personal it's entirely my fault I'm kind of a mess #and chances are I'm still very much attempting to get back to you #feel free to remind me if you feel like I might have not noticed your post I really don't mind at all it often helps me a lot #and please if you can don't delete the post even if it seems like I didn't see it #because again sometimes it takes me a long time to respond #thank you to everyone who has stayed endlessly patient with me though I appreciate it #sorry this spiraled into a list of apologies and excuses this is actually something that bothers me a lot #because it's largely a mental health thing but easily comes off as ungratefulness #I'm trying to work on that #answered #anonymous

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leqclerc · 1 year

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Alright, let’s break it down:

While unconfirmed, this “news” is coming out just weeks after Charles vocally defended his race engineer, Xavi, implying that much of the mistakes and miscommunication stemmed from the working conditions within the team, particularly in 2022. After the race in Baku (Ferrari’s most successful weekend in 2023 to date) Charles took the time to explicitly thank and praise Xavi over team radio. Earlier in the year, Charles mentioned in a Twitch stream that the people he trusts the most include his family, his personal trainer Andrea...and his race engineer, Xavi.

Now, the team made costly strategic mistakes and wrong tyre choices (often failing to take Charles’s feedback and preferences into consideration) last year while...well, attempting to stay in the championship fight.

Xavi is a face and a name everyone knows. For most people, especially with only a surface interest in a team’s inner workings, they will know the drivers, the team principal...and the race engineers. It’s incredibly easy to make someone like Xavi a scapegoat because he’s a tangible being you can point your finger at. Just look at how people get carried away nearly week in, week out, pinning the blame on Charles’s race engineer for everything from strategy to tyre choice, which do not fall under the umbrella of his responsibilities. As a race engineer, he’s the bridge between the pitwall and the driver. He’s being fed information regarding decisions made by those sitting on the pitwall, including the strategists. He is not the one making those decisions. Until we get a pitwall cam + radio channel specifically, we likely won’t know what the hell is going on over there.

Has Xavi made mistakes? Of course. I think every race engineer has, at some point, made mistakes or had a disagreement with their driver. Not saying everyone has to love the guy, but is there really no way to criticize someone without resorting to abuse and threats? I can’t help but note that a lot of that is often coming from those who balk when Charles is on the receiving end of similar treatment online. It’s not okay to cross a certain line when it comes to criticizing Charles, and it’s not okay to cross a certain line when it comes to criticizing Xavi, simple as. Not to mention there seems to be a lot of projecting going around and often Charles’s own feelings and perspective get invalidated because they don’t fit a certain accepted narrative.

Anyway, point being, it’s always easier to blame it all on the guy people know (and conveniently already have a negative opinion about) and throw him to the wolves rather than dig deeper and eliminate the root of the problem. And here’s where I hope Fred’s approach differs from Mattia’s.

Let’s be real, this team has had miscommunication and strategy issues pre-Xavi, currently has them, and very likely will continue to have these very same issues even if he’s gone, until something at the core of the team begins to change for the better.

#text #discussions and predictions #meta #if you want to put your tinfoil hat on it could've been a threat/power move on binotto's part #since he seems to have a habit of separating him from trusted people around him (first seb now this)#also seen a lot of people turning away from charles as a result of this. like 'oh i can't defend him/feel sympathy for him anymore'#which is like 🤨#also i like how people are conveniently forgetting that carlos is also often unhappy with adami or is having to correct him #even in barcelona i think they broadcast that radio where he was questioning the tyre strategy/timing #in a lot of ways i see xavi as charles's reflection in the way their mistakes get magnified and picked apart bc people want a gotcha moment #much to think about #long post

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lynchiangf · 10 months

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people on this site care way too much about what other users are or aren't doing even though it has literally zero impact on them. making fun of people for things like not drinking/smoking/using drugs/having sex/driving/etcetera strikes me as very juvenile in its own way...

#quite a few tumblr users seem to think acting like this makes them cool or something? don't forget you're still on this site lol #acting like regina george before she got hit by that bus... go channel your frustrations into a team sport or something #it's especially wild to me bc isn't this website known for being full of people who are young and/or neurodivergent?#shouldn't come as a surprise when a lot of people on here specifically haven't had certain experiences #& even when it's not mean-spirited polls asking how often you drink or get laid or whatever are weird imo #why would my followers (largely complete strangers) need to know that lol

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caffeinatedopossum · 1 year

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I think many people who refer to intrusive thoughts incorrectly as being like "oo I dyed my hair! My intrusive thoughts won today teehee" are actually thinking of *impulsive thoughts* which, while not always normal, are still distinct from intrusive thoughts

#i think of impulsive thoughts as being much more action leaning #like when you have an impulsive thought youre more likely to act quickly and think on it less #perhaps even regretting it later #and obviously this can be dangerous and harmful too just in a different way #and the only reason i make this distinction is because people with intrusive thoughts dont want to act on them #often they will think about it for hours because of how distressing the mere concept of them maybe wanting to act on it is to them #intrusive thoughts dont 'win'. you either obsess over them or forget about about them. theres no winning it just is #anyway maybe this is pedantic and seems unimportant #but as someone with often very distressing and obsessive intrusive thoughts #i can say that nothing scares me more than the idea that those thoughts will 'win'#impulsive thoughts also come from a place of desire/actually wanting to act on the thing at least a little bit #even if you havent stopped to consider that it might be a bad idea or you might regret it #its like if you think 'i want to eat a second piece of cake' and then you do even though you know this will give you a stomach ache #versus thinking 'what if i ate thumbtacks' and then being very worried that theres something wrong with you #you probably didnt *want* to eat thumbtacks. it was just a passing thought that couldn't be dismissed #i hope this makes sense at least a little bit and im not invalidating of confusing anyone

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naturenaruto · 4 months

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something happens to peoples brains when they become parents like when an employee moves up to being a manager, they get on a highhorse and stsrt enjoying their newfound power, its something about the authority and being able to be in control of other people....it makes them go funny in the head. they enjoy having that control that they didnt used to have, and they start wanting to micromanage. they get all hyped up on their power trip and think they own someone.

#something something standford prison experiment??#idk #people grt vveird when theyre put in control of other people it just does something to them psychologically #and then they seem to forget how bad it felt to be controlled by their parents #they forget or they just dont care anymore #the power feels too good #and anything that threatens thst powers.............oooohhhwee #they dont like that #not one bit #bc they used to feel helpless #and now they feel strong and that authority gives them security and control over their surroundings which they probly never experienced bef #before #so they will absolutly do anything to retain that power bc its the first time they dontfeel helpless #which you would think would make them realize why and how bad that kind of control is but they get hyped up on it #and dont wanna see #complete helplessness as a child often leads to a want for absolute authority as an adult #obviously not everyone turns out this way but parents so often do #they just turn into somethinf Else and its real sad

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echo-s-land · 8 months

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@unhonestlymirror i need to go to sleep

This was halfly popularize

Let's start off with Angyalistan and Užupis, since I don't have anything to add to what you already know about them x)

+only thing I added is the infinity symbol under Angyalistan's bc I felt like it+had to find a way to nod to the concept of horizon/infinity

Next are Mùnegu (Monaco in Eng, Italian, and everyday life French, Monègue in older French, Mónegue in Occitan) and Andorra (Andorre in French):

Mùnegu:

while she indeed depends on France for military defense, she's very much capable and doesn't rely on him for everything! (dammit!) - she's quite rich (altho the fact she doesn't have many citizens must help)

seem to have a relationship with the Holy German Empire, Spain Kingdom and Italian kingdoms but it made my head hurt with how much dates there are) - gained independence from Genoa in 1247, independence from Holy German Empire in 1524 and becomes a protectorate of the Spanish Kingdom until 1641 where Mùnegu becomes a protectorate of the French Kingdom, then becomes a protectorate of the Sardinia Kingdom from 1815 to 1860. In 1918, becomes a sort of protectorate of France anew

During WW2 scared to be invaded by Italians, went to ask (then Vichy) France what to do to which France replied 'just let them'. So Mùnegu was occupied by Italians in 1942 and then by German in 1943. Helped to deport Jews

christian, catholic (freedom of religion for the people, but the State is still catholic)

abortion became legal (2019) but it's still a mess so the women are encouraged to go to France, Italy or another country where it's legal and less of a mess

Speaks Monegascan/Monegasque, French, then Italian (and English for business ofc)

tried to draw her more 'classy' and organized (?) I still haven't understood the purpose of the hairstyle she canonically has

Andorra:

Actually much more closer to Spain (and Portugal), part of the Iberian Peninsula

For an old reason, both French's government representative (nowadays, the President) and the bishop of Urgell in Catalonia in Spain are ruling over Andorra as co-prince (since 1607)

Has been around since at least the X-XI century

got annexed by the French Empire from 1812 to 1814

His territory has remained unchanged since 1278

Speaks Catalan, then Spanish and Portuguese and then French (but less)

He wasn't invited to the Versailles Treaty so he was officially at war with Germany between 1914 and 1958

during both World Wars and their aftermaths was used as a way to cross the French-Spain border by lots of different people for different reasons (deserters, nazis, Jews, Spanish people fleeing Spain...)

Abortions are illegal (so you have to go to France or Spain to have them)

christian catholic

legend says that Charlemagne gave Andorra a charter

(+Andorra is in the middle of nowhere in the Pyrenees)

is to France and Spain what Liechtenstein is to Switzerland - but they care less about him than Switzerland can care about Liechtenstein

Aigues-Mortes:

It's kinda hard to talk about Aigues-Mortes because the micronation was created in 2011 but the city has been around for several centuries

'Aigues-Mortes' literally means 'Dead Waters' (reference to the fact there are several ponds and swamps in Aigues-Mortes and around the city. The bodies of water stay still)

In 1248, Louis IX named the city 'Bona per Forsa' ('Good despite fate'?) after the inhabitants' request but the name Aquae Mortuae, later Aigues-Mortes will stay

After the Revolution in 1789, the city changed its name to 'Port Pellier' but once again, the name didn't stick around

August 1893: 'Italian slaughter.' (7 deaths, 50 injured, not a single culprit will be sentenced). Biggest slaughter of immigrants in French contemporary history

More about the micronation now!: motto can be translated as 'Love thy neighbor and steal/drink their wine!' - says her religion to be 'Catalcoolisme' ('Catalcoholism'; play of word between 'Catholicism' and 'alcoholism' I suppose); worship rosé (type of wine)

Was created when two friends got drunk (drinking rosé, ofc)

Looks up to Monaco; wants to become like Monaco (hence why she tries to dress up with the same type of clothes Monaco dresses with (classy) and why I made her dyed her brown hair in blonde)

has the French south accent!

Corsica:

was ruled by Genoa from 1284 to 1755 (fought for independence from 1729 to 1755). Became a Republic until France annexed Corsica in 1769

several historical ties with (what is nowadays) Italy

Got a bad reputation bc of FNLC (National Liberation Front of Corsica) mostly. From 1974 to 2014, the nationalist group bombed (public buildings, banks..), made several armed robberies, as well as aggravated assaults and murders/assassinations against French symbol and government and advocated for independence + presence of organized crime

renowned for her beauty

bonds with Breizh over France+luxury tourism destroying their lands and their languages dying out

otherwise doesn't have any ill intention toward continental French people (if you're respectful with her, she'll be respectful with you)

is known to have a strong sense of community/family

isn't going to scream at every opportunity she gets that Napoleon (Napoleone Buonaparte) was Corsican but she's never going to forget it+little pride

wants more independence from France but numbers show that Corsican people do not wish for full independence

occupied by Italy and Germany during WW2; first French territory to be freed

mainly catholic

Frioul:

Already talked about him!

he's the one where you have to have a permit to wear flip-flop lol

Drink respect women juice everyday

insolent but never insulting

doesn't like the heat (he is a bit tan because he is in the south of France but tries his best to stay in places where there's no sun) (most than likely carries a mini-ventilator around and stays indoors+carries a sunshade/parasol outside)

Prankster with calm energy

hates unnecessary commotion/noise (also hates the necessary one but understand it)

has the French south accent!

Was Naple's at first (until the XIVth century where he went from Frenchman's control to Frenchman's control; until he eventually became part of France)

Micronation since 2011

Saugeais:

Created in 1947 as a joke by a prefect and a hotelier (in a abbey?)

at the border with Switzerland

anthem is written in old patois/dialect which France can barely understand

it seems like the dialect has been dying since the last century so I don't know if he can still speak it? Probably has an accent

organizes a sport competition every year (mountain biking, kayaking, running..)

Dracystan and Anthophilia are next! They were both created in 2020 so I made them quite young+They were the only newly micronation that had enough personality for me to work with them - which means France has about 20+ children (but they're 1 or 2 dimensional? kinda ghosts? how would they (not having a defined identity) be portrayed in hetalia/how can they be personified)

Dracystan:

does a lot of clean-ups and gardening; carries gardening and clean-up tools around

any person loitering will be sanctioned/sentenced to remove stinging nettles with their bare hands. it's the law

loves fairy tails! It is said that Once upon a time, the king of Dracystan turned into a frog

gave him frog pins (+ didn't draw it here but he has a frog hat, you know the ones!)

being honest, i thought about The Little Prince while drawing him so that's why he got a scarf and a fox on his overall-

Anthophilia:

SYMMETRY. insects love symmetry, Anthophilia loves insects, so she wears symmetrical clothes and keeps her hair symmetrical too + you can't see it since I didn't color but she's wearing nails polish (orange-red-black-red-orange on each hand))

particularity cares about bees, but also butterflies, bumblebees, birds, nectarivore mammals...

#anthophilia dracystan and frioul are france's children #we can count Saugeais as one too #not sure what Aigues-Mortes may be. a sister perhaps?#Andorra is part of spain and portugal history mostly but france does take care of him a bit (even tho he forgets about him often and doesnt #care much - but its the same for Spain or so i heard)#no change for Monaco/Mùnegu - history with france seems relatively stable #Corsica.. I.. corsica and france sure have a difficult relationship (france's fault) - she's not his sister and definitively not his #daughter but they do share history and from what i found Corsicans are neutral about french people (like 'yeah they exist') (extremist ppl #aside)#even if Corsica might or might be not considered France family (because i dont know any corsican person to get an irl opinion) i hope i mad #a design for her that would be accepted by corsican ppl should they ever see it #corsica+breizh+some/several islands should go into 'officially france family despite if they want or not' or 'forcefully adopted against #their will' (most (not all tho. surprisingly.) of the annexation/colonization were violent. unsurprisingly.)#I will give you the flag of some of them ^ in another post tomorrow #or something

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rimouskis · 1 year

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okay I've decided against pursuing any sort of diagnosis re: my growing suspicions I have ADHD/something of that ilk for a variety of reasons, but it will NEVER stop galling me how I lack object permanence. like a baby. I need to have clear storage containers because if I cannot see something I forget it exists. it's both a relief to know that there is a potential "explanation" for such behavior but also realizing that most other people can do convenient things (like: remembering the existence of stuff) is also FRUSTRATINGGGG because I wish that was me! imagine being able to remember things not only casually but well! imagine that! god!

#it's also frustrating because it can bleed into interpersonal relationships and depending on people's friendship styles it can have a...#large impact. like back in high school my best friend would regularly be hurt by me not remembering things #(ranging from stories she'd tell me to stories I'd already told her to people's names to pieces of information I'd been made aware of)#and I took it personally at that age and sort of took it as:#''I am an inherently selfish person who can't remember things about other people and I am Bad''#and while that friendship grew apart and she sort of resigned herself (eventually) to me being the way that I was #I guess I never really let go of my guilt around it... and even now I still feel Very Bad about not remembering things #and I've often thought to myself of how I could mitigate it to be a better friend #but I short of ''keeping notes on your friends and the stories they tell you which you will need to reference often''#I've not had much luck in cracking that #I feel like as I've grown older I've found friends who (for whatever reason) don't take my ''poor memory'' personally #[and hilariously I've seemed to befriend people with FREAKISHLY GOOD memories who more than make up for my own]#and that's been... a bit better because it's been many years since I've had a friend make me feel bad for not remembering something #and in fact I have friends now who HAVE diagnosed ADHD who (obviously) Get It #but back of my head I still think that I do the people around me a disservice by not frequently/accurately committing things to memory #I think it makes me a worse friend and a worse employee for that matter #and I do in fact wish there was a magic pill that would grant me that ability and that ability only. it feels like it would change my LIFE.#anyways this tag essay is brought to you by:#me looking for my concert earplugs (which I have never used despite buying them FOR three concerts I went to last year since I kept...#say it with me... forgetting about them the day of the concert!) and finding a stash of two different battery types I had no idea I owned #anyways. earplugs are going into my car so I will have them on me #and batteries have been moved to the clear container in my closet with the other batteries. sigh.

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the-sappho-of-lesbos · 2 years

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I think something about me that confuses people is they don’t understand how I can simultaneously fully accept apart of myself while still hating it.

I accept that I’m a lesbian. But I hate the disconnect, bullying, loneliness, isolation and homophobia that comes along with it.

I accept that I’m a woman. But I hate the sexism, expectations and otherness I feel from other women around me.

I can accept something while still being upset that it’s so.

I think that’s why I’ve always had a little bit of an issue with the whole “pick whatever label makes you feel good” mindset. Because I can pick straight or bisexual as much as I want - that doesn’t mean it’s the case. I’m a lesbian - if I want it or not that’s what I am. And yeah, I don’t like it a lot. There are days where I hate it. But that’s just what I am. And I accept that. I just don’t always feel a lot of joy about it.

#I don’t know it just seems like people forget that sometimes #I so often wish I wasn’t a lesbian just because I don’t want to deal with the things I have to because of it #I don’t want to go through the trauma #I wouldn’t have a lot of my CPTSD if not for my sexuality #I wouldn’t be lonely #I would feel like an outcast #I wouldn’t have to worry about not fitting in to the lgbt community #I wouldn’t have to deal with the internalised sexist views that I’ll only be able to find happiness with a man #but it’s still what I am and I know it’s what I am

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maschotch · 2 years

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hi again!

i am naturally ever so soft for emily prentiss but oh my GOODNESS that beautiful character study?

“there was always a sickening layer of sin over her skin” — my God. How painfully true. And she knows it too, the look on her face at the end of Demonology as she gazes up at the church with that little bit of blood trickling out her nose says it all. 😭

and is there anything more heartbreakingly accurate to described Hotch than “A calculated tenderness.” 🥺💛

i loved it 💛

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ahhh this is so nice!!

i really don’t write emily as much as i should but it’s hard to convey her energy… soo much of her character is dependent on pg’s mouth movements delivery, and it’s hard to hit that sweet spot between free-spirited and caring

akhdksh i really didnt intend that sin part to be a reference.. i was actually a little reluctant bc im rarely willing to casually slip in some religious-type word, but “she felt icky” didnt seem to cover itskdjskhx but i like the parallel! i probably have more to say on emily and religion but i couldnt think of any other way to describe just how ingrained her regret is and how everythings shes done feels like a permanent stain that she can never wash off

“calculated tenderness” WAS intentional bc i feel like it really does encapsulate his behavior. hotch being reserved yet unabashed in his kindness is such a weird contradiction (which again id like to give credit to the actor for) but it suits him so well. he’s either afraid to feel or express his love, but he can’t help it. and i think each member of the team comes to realize the depth of his affection in their own time.. emily just happens to be incredibly observant, so i think she notices it the fastest (especially bc she witnessed it before she experienced it for herself). i could really talk ab this all day skdhskd

#ok see the reason i dont write character studies that often is because i can talk for sooooo long ab them #and i love talking about it so i love that you sent this ask—i just have to stop myself from writing an essay in response #it fucking sucks bc it seems like sometimes the team just… forgets that hotch cares and they have to relearn that all over again #which is some fucking bullshit #garcia does it the most—which is kinda odd tbh bc she tends to look on the bright side #she’s so brave and open about who she is but for some reason she’s insecure when it comes to hotch #even tho he’s never reprimanded her.. she thinks she’s constsntly disappointing him #reid forgets ab how much hotch cares pretty often but tbh its somethin he unintentionally does w everyone #he can get stuck in his own little bubble sometimes and i think he just? forgets that other people experience emotion?#(when i talk ab reid being emotionally immature this is always what im talking about)#derek forgets in his own way… like… he always knows that hotch cares for the team #he just forgets that that includes HIM #akdhskhd idk how it happens but its like he doesnt realize that he’s loved as an individual #emily does something similar… she recognizes that hotch cares ab the team (including her)#but she feels guilty about it #she subconsciously distances herself from the rest but its too late: hotch cares about her too #and i dont think hotch can stop caring once he starts #asks #n e ways. skipping the update today akdhsk i’ll either post two tomorrow or three on friday #ive got two exams tmrw so obviously instead of studying or writing i had to obsess over mob psycho #priorities

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doux-amer · 1 year

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I can’t believe it took me until 2022 to finally understand Andrew Garfield’s appeal... I thought he was cute like a deer, and then I was just neutral about him beyond “seems like a nice guy. Also seems like he’s very enthusiastic and he’s straddling that cute eager puppy and annoying theater kid line closely once in a while for me” in the later years. But then something clicked last year? And then the Golden Globes flirting this year????? I’m not sure what, but I think I can see the attractiveness.

#jk i know what it is and it's mainly that he's giving girl vibes #i don't know how to explain this but this might not need explanation because of how you all seemed to be on the same brainwave on my dash #and also just falling in love with men i like left and right basically #or being ready and receptive to be kissed and manhandled by them lmao #i will not forget him crushing on ocean lmao #and he likes to INTENTLY look at you and listen to your every word #reminds me of colin farrell's interactions with people #but with colin i thought he was hot just looking at him and only now am i finding out this information about him #because he was in the actors roundtable i watched that came out recently from THR #pretty sure he's like that in the other interviews this press tour too #also maybe because andrew's now older even if he still looks baby-faced #this is a partial lie because i do remember being into andrew's face in the early 2010s #and thought he was good-looking but i don't think i ever went '👀 oh...?' about him #don't get me wrong i think he's mostly in the 'cute baby-faced deer' category but occasionally and more often nowadays #i find myself attracted to him dfjklasfjajfals #i feel like this is what happened with james mcavoy too #i didn't think james was cute really. i didn't get why all my friends were obsessed #and then i watched him in more stuff and saw what his personality is like and i get it

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aeide-thea · 1 year

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like—sorry to harp on this, i'm just still thinking about it—i'm probably more pro-piracy than some people, but i do feel like 'pirating the work of an impoverished disabled trans woman with stage 4 cancer' (see prev post) is. probably a point at which you should rethink what you're up to??? like. i would be thrilled to be told i'm wrong and actually mira bellwether did say at some point that passing her zine around for free was chill (although frankly even then i think there's an argument to be made that it's good to toss some money to marginalized small-time creators whose work you've enjoyed or otherwise benefited from, particularly when they're in dire circumstances and actively fundraising), but like. in the absence of permission from her it really feels bad to me.

also like. this is one of those things where like. it's hard to decide who's really at fault here, bc the OP of the previous post is herself a transfem who i don't think was initially aware of bellwether's situation, and like, if you're just passing around the direct link to the file on transreads.org (that maybe you yourself were passed by someone else, even) you may not actually be aware you're reading something pirated? so at first i was inclined to be most mad at transreads, and be like, ugh, the least they could do would be to include a link to the author's gofundme! but then i went and checked and it turned out they do, actually, if you search for the zine on their site and don't just get linked directly to their copy of the file; so then it's like, okay, maybe really OP's the one to blame, since the link she included in her post bypassed their splash page; but then, as i said above i doubt she was initially aware bellwether was ill, and seems to have subsequently boosted a reblog that included bellwether's gofundme.

so ultimately i think it's like—forget blame, that's beside the point really. if we're pointing fingers we're busy with that and not with helping. but i do think everyone passing that post around (which is thousands of people, by now) should probably make a followup post passing the hat for the author, and make a donation themselves while they're at it, if they possibly can; i did. (and maybe we all ought to be thinking a little harder about giving back to counterculture artists and thinkers before they get sick, while we're at it.)

#anyway it does just in general seem like good practice to do a quick google before reblogging things #i don't always but i do decently often #and a lot of the time you find like. the creator's trans now so you ought to be crediting them differently #the creator's turned out to be some sort of perpetrator so that may change yr feelings wrt how you want to talk abt them‚ at the very least #the creator's in serious need and could use a signal boost #the creator's not credited at all and should be #the assertion's been totally debunked #there's been a critical update to the developing news story #etc etc #anyway it's real easy to forget people are people & context is evolving when yr drifting about in the eternal glossy present of the interne #but like. worth *trying* to remember. i'm often bad at it too but. worth trying.

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astral-catastrophe · 2 years

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botw link is the type of person to be a sarcastic little shit, but forget to speak in a sarcastic tone of voice, so after getting weird looks from people he would have to specify that he’s trying to be funny

#this happens to me a lot because I forget that tone is a thing when I actually speak #so I just sound dry normally and get terrified looks from people who don’t grasp the joke #when I talk with the people who are my more normal friends I have to make myself seem a little more animated than normal #I just don’t show emotion or tone that often because I just don’t think of it #Thank Hylia my irl friends are experienced in the way I interact so they don’t think I am being rude or something #So anyways it just seems like something botw would do #botw #jays being dumb again

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urmomsstuntdouble · 2 years

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why must every trans character be afab