i so badly want one of those fic examinations of steve's relationship with joyce and hopper but solely through eddie's pov like hear me out
steve and eddie chat a lot in the upside down (and later in the hospital, when they learn hop is alive). steve has taken charge of filling eddie in on the rest of their of-age crew without the kids butting in. he never mentions his own parents, but he talks about the rest of the party's a lot, especially joyce and hopper. eddie knows what it's like to desperately want someone to be your parent and trying to hide it from his own childhood, when he would try to be cool about wayne dropping him off at his dad's house. steve obviously adores joyce and hopper, thinks the world of them and legitimately looks up to them.
eddie isn't sure what he expects from a cop who came back to life and the world's most determined housewife, but he's excited to meet them as someone steve loves.
cue eddie's horror when he realizes that neither of them really feel much for steve rather than annoyance and vague distrust. that joyce trusts will with eddie, an accused murderer, in a heartbeat and still hesitates to leave him with steve. that hopper brushes off every ounce of steve's hero worship and joy.
he tries to broach the topic with steve, gently, and is heartbroken when steve genuinely has no idea what he's talking about. and not because he's oblivious, but because steve thinks that's what he deserves. he thinks that's the parental love that someone who was an asshole in high school needs, because that's what would make him a good person. he needs people to call him out constantly, obviously, because why else would they keep doing it? why would nancy? at least they're here. at least they're not ignoring him. at least they're not forcing him into a box. they just want him to be better.
like, this is the man who thanked a girl for calling him bullshit and telling him she never loved him. he doesn't Know that's not how you're supposed to handle things. no one ever taught him that.
and now eddie's gotta figure out how he can teach steve how to be loved the right way without outing himself and his huge crush on his love-starved dork of a friend.
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gnawing on my arm because i think there's something to be said about how stede not only dreams about himself with a beard, but ed with his full beard back too. like, the dream seems to be riddled with imagery that he thinks ed would want.
and i say this especially because of how stede reacted when ed had to shave his beard. he freaked out on his behalf. he shrieked in horror whereas ed was entirely unbothered. he feared he had ruined him, had dragged him down to some despicable level, when in actuality, ed was completely content to shed that part of his persona.
and then there he is dreaming about ed with that part right on back.
so there's very clearly still a part of his mind that's convinced that's what ed wants. because why wouldn't he? everyone else seems to. and why would he want the softness and femininity stede had been bullied for his entire life?
which in turn plays into his own imagery too. bearded, masculine, fiercesome, rugged...
because how could someone love what everyone has hated him for? how could someone want what everyone has tried to quite literally beat out of him?
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"You weren't a dick. Life's a dick."
I love this so much, and I love that this is a theme the show embraces. That often it's not a case of someone being "wrong," that when you're having a conflict it doesn't mean you need to choose sides.
Life IS a dick. It's hard. It fucks you up and makes you act in imperfect ways and sometimes you hurt people you care about.
But it doesn't mean you're a bad person. It doesn't mean you're unforgivable.
You're still worthy of love.
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I really wish it was obvious and clear that learning hypnosis shouldn't stop after the 101/beginner material :( There is so much more and it would help a lot of people who struggle to get the experiences they want.
I get so jealous of the rope community sometimes because rope is obviously, visibly complicated, and you have to really strive for tangible proficiency. This is DEFINITELY not about everyone but I think we settle for too low, in general.
Here's a few spitball ideas of what I might consider different levels of learning material:
Beginner learning:
How to do an induction
Simplified ideas about what hypnosis is
Giving basic suggestions, making triggers
Basic safety practices
Novice learning:
Ideas about ways to play/themes
Simplified “indirect” suggestion (might/may)
"Standardized" techniques (yes sets, 7+/-2, etc)
Some basic variation around suggesting phenomena (hallucinations, amnesia, etc)
More sophisticated safety practices/theory
Intermediate learning:
Various codified language patterns (NLP/Zebu card etc)
Moving away from “induction > deepener > suggestions” style
Moving away from "standardized" tech
Different models of hypnosis
Beginnings of connecting psych/philosophy/other disciplines
Advanced learning:
Sophisticated command of concepts behind language, less reliance on patterns
Moving fluidly between many models of hypnosis/psych
Sophisticated connections between psych/philosophy/other disciplines
Large breadth of theory/ideas behind techniques
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It's very hard to codify what "advanced" means
Clearly with my 101 resource (http://learnhypnokink.com) I think we should be teaching certain things much earlier
I believe you can't teach past novice level with one book/resource, and it gets harder to go up from there
(Pulled from my Twitter)
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mhok immediately dismissing himself whenever day is around other people from day's world; hoovering in the kitchen or behind day; removing him from situations he feels like he has no right to be in, just waiting to be of service in some way; i need day to be very clear to mhok that he has a place at day's side as someone day wants at his side and not just as a caretaker and i need that to be very soon
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What do Ed and Stede see in each other?
Rhys: It's the dark seeing the light and the light seeing the light underneath the dark as well. So, it's the facades that we play, and I think at this point. Stede is clearly playing a facade. He's playing a pirate. He's certainly not that, you know, he's an elegant man who's dainty and worried about everything, but he really wants to be, and the thing he wants to be is right in front of him. And so, he falls in love with that. He's always loved the thing that being that strong powerful person that he isn't. And of course, Ed is seeing the opposite. He's seeing what he really wants to be. He wants the tenderness and the love and the kindness. And that's exactly what Stede is. And so, he falls in love with that. And that's what they're falling in love with, the versions of themselves.
- Interview with Rhys Darby for TV Topics (x)
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