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Your posts about Fallen London are slowly tempting me into playing it- do you have any tips to start or is it best to play it completely blind?
i have a few tips and tricks! mind you im far from a veteran and i basically got my hand held by tumblr for most of the game so take everything with a grain of salt. you can and should do whatever you want always. i don't personally play it blind, but you may get more enjoyment out of it if you do, and that's awesome and im super happy for you. this is what i can say from experience:
take your time with it. this is like. the numero uno fallen london tip. it's not a game where you rush to the end in a week. it's a game where you do 10-minute-intervals of a marathon to the end in maybe a few months if you know what you're doing. spending money on action refills usually isn't worth it when you can just mosey on through neathly life one storylet at a time. a vast majority of the game's content is completely free to everyone, and while the monthly subscription options are pretty neat and let you play some exclusive story stuff (that can be pretty fire- cricket anyone basically defined the scoundrel's entire character) none of it is required and 99% of the time you aren't missing out on anything by just taking your time and exploring the neath at your own pace.
you need to raise all of your skills eventually! this is, uh. something im horribly guilty of not following myself. you can (and probably should) pick at least two stats to focus on for your character (most of the time these will be your main ambition stats, aka the closest thing FL has to a main story questline) but eventually you Will be expected to have them all at around the 100 range, minimum. for certain Super Late-game Story Content, watchful 200 is mandatory to start it, so if you have trouble choosing i'd recommend leveling that bad boy first. don't neglect your other stats though!!! don't be like me. don't be like my poor poor neglected shadowy and dangerous. it's too late for me. save yourself.
friends are fun and free and you are legally mandated to exploit them for fun and profit. okay you really aren't mandated to exploit your FL friends list but you totally should anyway just for goofy sillies. to be less jokey about it, while fallen london is primarily a single-player gaming experience, the playerbase is super friendly and super open to helping each other out (especially new players!). go on reddit, ask around on tumblr, get yourself a few buddies and use them as resources to gain items and stats and menace reduction i mean. valued companions that im sure you will treasure forever and definitely not backstab to publish that inflammatory newspaper article you've been cooking up.
on a very loosely similar note, the fallen london wiki is your best friend. yes, we're following stardew rules with this one. this is the kind of game best optimally played with a wiki article or three open in the neighboring tabs so you can follow along and know what is what. there's tons of guides on basically every part of FL, and it's no shame at all to reach out to either it or the wider community if you get stuck or feel lost at something.
if an in-game storylet has bold text, it will never lie to you! except for when it does. but that's very very very rare. you can always trust the bold text. it is always your friend. i prommy. which brings us neatly into our next bulletpoint,
seeking the name is ill-advised because it's the only storyline that can permanently brick your account at its conclusion. don't worry, the ease at which you can avoid this is practically comical, and the game will Always give you multiple chances to opt-out if you somehow accidentally start it anyway. most people make a dedicated alt character entirely for the purpose of sacrificing them to the well of doom. unless you're playing with your eyes closed for multiple months straight, you'll never run into SMEN without deliberately chasing it, and if you somehow get to that point honestly man just ignore this entire bulletpoint and see how far the rabbithole goes. go on. it's friendly :)
batfucking is always the right answer to any problem ever
echoes/the game's standard currency should always be thought of as a method of gaining items rather than a strict hoard of video game dollars. money-making can be super difficult in the earlygame, but it gets exponentially easier as you go further on. you shouldn't be afraid to sell anything you don't need, though personally i'd recommend keeping an "insurance stock" of the most basic items just in case. this includes rostygold, moon-pearls, honey droplets, etc. by-and-large, these are the easiest items to get in a pinch, and it usually isn't worth buying them from the bazaar when you can otherwise get them naturally through other methods around london. once you've got a good lodgings setup and feel decently familiar with the earlygame zones and their options, you should aim to have at minimum 1,000 of these bad boys on hand at any given time, then feel free to sell any excess you make for some quick cash in a pinch.
menaces aren't as bad as you may think, but be wary of specifically suspicion! the four main menace qualities you'll encounter in the earlygame are nightmares, wounds, scandal, and suspicion. when one of these menace stacks reach 8, you'll automatically be trapped in a unique location corresponding to whatever menace you raised too high and will have to spend time working your way out. some (nightmares and wounds) tend to fly-by rather quickly, while others (scandal and suspicion) tend to take a bit longer to get out of. none of these mean the end of your playthrough or your character, and some quests even require you to visit certain menace-exclusive locations! there are tons of items and ways to reduce menaces and keep yourself out of Situations such as these, but suspicion in particular is probably the only menace you should avoid maxing At All Costs. when your suspicion gets too high and you get sent to its special menace zone too often, you build up a criminal record that makes it harder to reduce suspicion in the future. fortunately, suspicion is the only menace with this gimmick, and before this record gets too high it's just as easy to keep row as the rest of the lot. TLDR, death from wounds is easy to escape from, but avoiding the strongarm of the law is substantially more annoying and inconvenient.
or you could be like tumblr user @with-bells-upon, who's apparently avoided death at all costs and apparently hasn't died once in the entire several months they've been playing. i don't even know how they've gotten this far without doing that. it's kind of impressive, kind of funny. especially since their ambition is one the few requiring you to die to proceed. this isn't a piece of advice i just wanted to affectionately call them out because what the heck
speaking of ambitions, pick the ambition that's right for you! ambitions are the biggest overarching questline in the game, and their requirements and rewards span the entire neath and occasionally even beyond. all four ambitions are meant to be started early and last well into the mid and late game. outside of a certain special situation regarding the light fingers ambition (the only ambition that explicitly lies to you in-game when describing its premise) you can't change your ambition without spending money, so choose carefully and choose well. they're all (mostly) equally rewarding and equally fulfilling adventures that will define your player character and your journey through the neath. there's tons of advice and spoiler-free summaries of each ambition online, so i won't cover it all here. just do your research (or don't, if you prefer) and follow your heart. maybe playing the world's most high-stake poker game ever speaks to you. maybe you want to commit a murder. maybe you want to commit a murder in the name of justice and/or revenge. maybe you just want a really really big really really shiny rock. all can be found in the neath, and all shall (eventually) be well.
if you buy 400 lucky weasels you get a special achievement. i don't need to say more.
make up a guy. this is another legal mandate if you're a fallen london player. you have to make up your own little sicko victorian london guy and roleplay them while you play. trust me. it's fun. it's free. they're going to haunt you forever. the scoundrel got a nickname like 4 months ago and ever since my mind has never known peace.
and probably most important of all, fallen london might not be the game for you, and that's okay. it includes a lot of reading. and grinding. and i do mean a lot of reading and grinding. particularly the latter, which tends to throw people off the most out of anything. it's a very niche game for a very niche audience and getting into it can be an acquired taste at the best of times. but when you do get into it, it's some Really good writing and Really in-depth worldbuilding and the most fun you'll ever have imagining sicko victorian guys running around building train stations and railway tracks directly to hell. take your time, have fun, and most important of all, always look to love.
anyway yeah that's my fallen london tips and tricks list isn't it really short and comprehendible
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hey i read about your advice to other anon about writing. really nice. i want to ask if you have any advice for a writer that's just starting? i want to start writing because the made up scenarios in my head i feel are just so good and would be perfect for certain tropes but when i realize i would actually have to WRITE write it (me everytime i get that realization 🤯) i get so demotivated because when i actually try to, my brain stutters within the first two sentences i put out because i am very much not confident in my english skills, i see so many other good writers and when reading their work i go like, 'wow i have never thought of it that way before', 'wow, how did they even think to phrase it like this?' and then i start doubting my knowledge in grammar/vocabulary because i think what if i really barely know anything if there are so many things i never thought of putting it in a way that they do, how can i start if i am not as skillful as they are with their words? i lose that spark everytime i have that thought and then i'm back to just daydreaming about these little fun scenarios in my head that i really want to put out but can't bring myself to have enough courage for to actually just go ahead and do it whether i mess it up or not
i thought of using grammarly and start paying for a subscription just for my writing to be improved better in a way i never thought to do lol 😅
(tldr: english is not my first language and i really want to start writing but i fear i lack a lot of knowledge in my vocabulary which will result in a bad story that won't make sense, how do i find confidence to just start regardless of?)
hi anon!! glad u enjoyed it LOL
the nice thing about writing is that no one just wakes up one day knowing how to write and craft beautiful stories!!! it's a skill built up with time and practice, but it starts with an idea and the desire to write it. everyone starts in a similar place and yeah!!! it's amazing reading something and thinking "wow i haven't thought of it that way before i wonder how they did that?'" experiencing that feeling is one of the great joys of writing and ofc it can be intimidating, but it can also be SO SO inspiring with a small change of perspective. besides, you never know if someone will read the work that you want to write and have the same thought.
as for the language barrier and vocabulary worries, vocabulary grows with practice even when you're speaking in your native language. the more you write, even if you don't post it, the more comfortable you'll become. that AND you can always look it up! if you're not sure about a word or want to use something stronger / with more variation, you can ALWAYS ALWAYS access an online thesaurus and find synonyms. i do it all the time, thesaurus.com is literally my holy grail.
the best advice i can give you for starting is to just start writing. i know that's super obvious, but the only way out is through!!! what helps me when i've hit a block or im feeling less than confident is reminding myself that i love writing, i love storytelling, i love fanfiction, and that when i write, i do it for myself. it sounds so corny, but if you center your driving force for writing as yourself, it becomes a lot easier to do it just because. my advice would be to imagine writing as a stream of consciousness at first rather than something fully developed. just try and let the words come out you without worrying if they're good or bad because you can always go back and change it later!!
i hope that you do start writing and that when you do, your anxieties surrounding it recede into the background!!! have a good day!!!
#cal care package#it also doesn't have to be anything long at first!#you can start as small as you'd like!!!#there are no rules!!! it's the fucking wild wild west bro!!!
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✨✨✨✨✨ANGEEEEEEEEEE!!!!! ✨✨✨✨✨
Okay hiii ~~ I’m dumping all these thoughts on you so be prepared 🤭
So like I said in my last message, I’ve been a very dark place recently where everything seems like it’s constantly hitting, but after asking for your advice, I took it to heart and really followed if, finding it really did help taking it one tiny step at a time with the simplest things. Life is still throwing every little shit it can find at me, but I’m dealing with it much much better, and I feel like I owe you some thanks to that, so again, I don’t think I can ever tell you how much I appreciate you and enjoy your presence!! I never got to respond to it, but I read your post recently and felt like this was more important to respond first.
Two, I’m so saddened to hear you’re feeling a bit lost about the writing and fandom. I haven’t been on much trying to focus on my self so I don’t know much, but when I do check in every now and then, it does seem… quiet? I hope and think it’ll liven up the closer it comes to June. But regardless of that—
I ADORE YOUR WRITING. Your writing is some of the most thought-provoking, emotional pieces I’ve read, and it truly shows and reflects just how much heart and soul you put into it. I’ll be honest, there’s some times when I can’t read certain fics of yours because I’m not mentally in the right headspace for some, but— to me— it just reflects on how great and impactful your writing is!!! Idk if u remember, and this was when I newly started following you so I was like extra super nervous and shy lol, but the person that requested the jealous Ettore was me. I think I remember sending an anon back and thanking you bc I was impressed and thankful you accepted it, but also I was so shy my hands were shaking the entire time so it was a bit blurry lol. I remember literally fangirling and gushing to my two friends (one who doesn’t even care about Ewan lmao) about how I was so impressed and blown away by it!! Your Ettore series had me hooked (AND IM STILL NOT OVER HOW IT ENDED— I WILL NEVER RECOVER. I will sue you for my emotional damages 🥺)! The Aemond one where after a toxic relationship, the reader tries to escape and he doesn’t let her literally made me want to wallow in the despair. And the Michael Gavey one where I basically wrote an essay of how much I loved it is still one I think about way too much for it to be healthy— plus it’s given me some really crazy dreams 🤭 Those are just my top three! Much to say, I adore your writing. I adore the commitment and dedication you give and feed us. And most importantly, I adore you. Although selfishly I hope you continue, I hope you know no matter what you ever decide to do, I’ll always support and follow. I am a la loyal after all 🤭😂
In all seriousness, I hope life is treating you well, and i hope you’re being kind to yourself. I’m sending all my love and support!! Please stay safe and healthy. Much much much love to you, Ange 🩶🩶🩶
-Hannah Montana anon.
Post Scriptum:: this was insanely long and completely manic-produced, I am so so sorry !! ✨
I am so glad that my advice has helped a little and things are starting to improve for you. I hope they continue to get better!
I had no idea your were my jealous Ettore anon! I had so much fun writing that, thank you for sending it! And thank you for the kind words, they truly mean a lot. You have never been anything but kind and supportive to me, and I hope you realise how appreciated it is!
I've no plans to deactivate this blog. I enjoy reading other people's fics, and looking at all the pretty gifs. I just need to do something for myself that makes me feel better about my own creative output. I've no idea what that is yet, but I will figure it out!
Thank you for taking the time to check in. I hope the rest of your week is a good one. Sending so much love to you! xoxo
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Hi! This is Ani again. Just wanted to let you know that your reading was literally SO accurate. Istg you’re living my life
I’m gonna admit, I was expecting something much more negative. I usually expect negative things, which isn’t good, but that make the good things all the more exciting. This whole thing was also kind of new since this was my first intuition reading. My previous ask was also my first ask ever on tumblr so I was kind of nervous as well. It felt like I was writing an email lolol
But I’m so happy that I did do it because, you were right, I did kinda feel like I’ve been grazing rock bottom. I had this weird mixed feeling of being close to the void but also never getting in and holding both those feelings kind of drained me, on top of being burned out from school. This is the first time in a while where I’ve been truly excited for something.
Something that I recommend people do is something I did earlier this month, where I basically manifested seeing angel numbers and using their meanings as guidance on my void journey. I kept getting a lot of 444’s and 777’s which apparently both are related to seeking guidance from angels or something. I didn’t really know how to do that so I assumed that maybe I had to reach out to someone on tumblr, but even then I didn’t know who to ask. I didn’t even know what I should be asking. But this was really helpful and honestly, is making me so excited for my REAL new life instead of a daydream.
Also another thing is, I am a shifter! Or I’m planning to be one, anyway. The life I’m going to shift to from this one will be similar to my current one but better. But all my other realities after that, are pretty much going to be a totally different life with different people, like you said.
Also, can we talk about how in literally the beginning of the post I was called out in so many ways, like “Repressed emotions + feeling left out” 😭✋ Chill out man I can’t afford therapy rn ok?? Lolll all jokes aside though you are right, and I don’t really talk about what I’m feeling. I do think I am also very disconnected from people. I have a wide variety of interests so I can be part of multiple friend groups at the same time, which is why I feel so lonely, because I am never in one deeply enough to find true connections. I have a feeling I know who my new group of people are though!
Over all though, I am so excited to enter void. I have always known that I will, but it was just up to me to decide when. I’ve been putting in extra effort and I’m glad to see it’s paying off. And most of all, I’m excited to shift and be whatever I want to be! I don’t think anyone would be really, truly free until they experienced shifting, but then again, this is coming from someone who has never consciously shifted before (but I’m sure that’s still true).
Anyways, sorry this was so long, I think I kind of just went on a tangent with this one haha 😅 But fr tho, I can’t thank you enough for this, this has really helped me and re-inspired me a lot. I think everyone should give your intuition readings a try because it’s never bad to ask for help and advice, regardless of where you are in your void journey. This is also a great source of positivity for people who may feel stuck in their journey.
(Btw, I love how you complimented everyone in your response to the reading asks, it’s literally so sweet 🥹)
Thank you again for the reading! ♥️
OMG AAHHHH IM SO HAPPY WAIT
i literally read this whole thing during my lunch period and it made me so happy n smily (my friends probs think i have a new bf or something but no 😭😭 it’s this insane!!)
during my time in this earth, both before and after I shift i strive to be a guide. i want to help others reach their goals and get better in this life. every time i feel as if i help others, it brings new light and energy to my spirit. <3
im so glad i have you some hope and motivation, and i REALLY hope u get the help u need sometime!! i know financial issues r a real hinderance w mental health n to genuinely drives me insane 💀💀💀
i love u sm!!! i’m glad it helped!!
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hii u don’t have to answer this but i really love the way u write rafe & i was hoping for some advice. so im thinking about writing a rafe fan fiction that doesn’t follow the treasure hunting plot of obx. just a fic abt teenagers & their summer filled with usual teenager drama. the only part im stuck on, is should rafe just be a normal asshole? or should he still off someone? lmao, ik it’s a weird question, im only caught up on it cause i feel like a lot of his character development (if u could call it that) & personality revolves around what he did for his dad. so do u think he could still be pretty character accurate without murdering someone? or do u think that part of the story is too important for his character to just leave out? again u don’t have to answer & im sorry for bothering u! but even just a little input would be appreciated :) thank u so much!! (love ur blog btw)
hi love, i’m so sorry my response to this is so late ! i’ve had a busy busy busy last few weeks. firstly, thank you so much. secondly, i think the most important thing when writing fics is that it’s what you want to write. don’t worry about what others are going to think bc either way there are going to be people who read it and love it. also, the good thing about fics is that you really don’t have to give much background information, you can just write whatever. regardless of if you have rafe off someone, people know the character well enough to understand his character development. i hope this helps <33
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hi hi! could u write hcs to how jason vorhees, jd from heathers, norman bates, herbert west and bo and vincent sinclair would react to learning their s/o has a knack for art/painting? (also hi, i’ve been watching so many horror movies lately and they’ve all been plaguing my mind ugh!!! im kidding, but how have u been maya? :])
Hi, how’s it feel to have immaculate taste? Also the limit for characters here is five so I just took off Vincent since you asked for him last. I hope you don’t mind! Also, I’m good how are you? I too am watching a bunch of horror movies so this was a wonderful request to receive!
Jason Voorhees
- omg! You can paint!!! That’s so cool!!!!!
- dude he would straight up die if you taught him how to paint
- then the two of you just sitting out by the lake as he points at how amazing your painting is and you reassure him that his is also amazing
- he tries to finger paint with blood
- Jason lovely boy
- anything you do makes him so giddy
- like just a simple sketch will make him all happy and he’ll wanna display it and show people
- he shows the deer’s that pass
- the deers think you paint amazingly
- he wants you to paint everything pretty he sees which means self portraits!
- he keeps one you made of yourself in his pocket whenever he goes somewhere <3
JD
- oh you paint? awesome babe. mind if we murder someone when you’re done?
- he just is slightly annoyed you’re not paying attention to him the whole time
- like hello! We need to go to 7/11!
- but the finished products always blow him away
- a cigarette between his teeth he will compliment you endlessly
- anything you may do of him only grows his ego
- he hangs that shit up in his car for everyone to see
- there is no stopping his pride for you
- if anyone makes a negative comment they’re just immediately added to the hit list, that’s just how it is
- and he doesn’t give mercy to people who hurt you
Norman Bates
- Norman loves loves loves it!
- oh he adores when he can watch you paint, it calms him so much
- he’ll hang up everything if you let him
- he’ll spend far more money then he should on supplies for you
- if you paint any of his taxidermy birds…he’s weeping about it
- how does that man not immediately combust whenever anything good happens to him
- if you’re concentrated he leaves you alone
- sometimes you’ll come down while he’s doing his taxidermy and draw beside him
- domestic
- it just absolutely makes him so happy when you do more than exist (which makes him happy regardless)
- Norman is just so proud of everything you do no matter what
Herbert West
- glad you have your own niche now leave him alone
- he’s got an experiment to do
- then he finds out how good you really are and that you can help him draw reference photos and maybe experiment type things
- now that gets him excited
- if you’re helping him out he may as well help you out as well and help get you new supplies
- maybe he’ll even pose for a portrait if he’s not busy (his idea not yours)
- not to mention the amount of green sharpies and colors you’re going to go through
- sometimes he’ll even ask you for offhand advice about is planning (if you point it out though he’ll never do it again)
- more time together though so you guys can just sit in his work space as you draw and speak and ask questions and he does his thing while getting to talk about what makes him happy while watching you do something that makes you happy
Bo Sinclair
- oh man, can you draw him?
- narcissistic asshole <3
- he likes that you have a good hobby cause he can’t always be with you when he’s killing people
- he isn’t against it or super for it, it’s just kinda meh to him on the outside
- but on the inside!!
- he loves everything you do even if he acts like he doesn’t
- will actively search for art supplies in victims cars and pockets to give to you
- sometimes he’ll even go out of Ambrose to get you more stuff
- he says it’s really no big deal for him but you know he wouldn’t do that if he didn’t care
- if he finds something he likes he’ll put it up on the wall
- he’ll even ask you to maybe do something for Vincent to go in the wax museum
- he just thinks you’re so talented but shush don’t tell anyone he said that
#Jason Voorhees x reader#Jason Voorhees imagines#Norman bates x reader#Norman bates imagines#Herbert west x reader#Herbert west imagines#bo Sinclair x reader#bo Sinclair imagines#JD Heathers x reader#JD x reader
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Hi, Im glad to see you back and congratulations on finishing your assignment! I wanted to request SFW Alphabet for Smoker Crocodile and Katakuri letters R T and U please, thank you so much💓
Thanks for the request love!! Lots of good bois in this post! I like writing soft things for these types of men 💘 Hope you enjoy! Gonna put it under the cut as it’s kinda long
Fluff Alphabet (Smoker, Crocodile, Katakuri) (R, T, U)
Smoker
R = Romance - How romantic are they? What would they do to make their s/o happy? Cliché or rather creative?
- Smoker, unfortunately, lacks in the romantic department. he’s really new to romance in general and is honestly just too flustered by the overly cutesy things! that’s not to say he doesn’t try, it just doesn’t come naturally to him, so he can be a bit awkward when he tries to be romantic with his partner (but it’s still sweet)
- to make his partner happy, his biggest effort goes into not bringing work home with him. at home, he tries his hardest to put his attention on them, especially after duties where he’s been away from home for a while. he’ll relax with them, ask them all about their day, help with/cook them dinner, and just unwind with them. he’s found himself to be less stressed and more loving due to this!
- something romance-y he does is he always brings a lil trinket of sorts that reminds him of his s/o when he returns from his missions! they’re just little keepsakes that shows he thinks about them while he’s away. some are mailed when he’s not able to return as soon as he anticipated, and sometimes his s/o will find a sweet letter or a picture of him (encouraged by Tashigi of course) attached.
T = Thrill - Do they need to try out new things to spice out your relationship? Or do they prefer a certain routine?
- Smoker is all about routine. since work can be so sporadic and hectic by itself, he much prefers and finds comfort in normalcy in his domestic life. work is thrilling enough, he doesn’t need romantic getaways or other thrilling activities to feel that spark in his relationship. coming home to his loving partner after a long day’s work is enough to get those butterflies fluttering in his tummy. he looks forward to it every single day!
- of course, he doesn’t ever leave his partner bored. when he’s available, he’ll take the time to take them out and go do things with them. some of his favorite things to do with his partner is go on hikes or go fishing! anything outdoorsy really, activities that give him a chance to escape for a bit with his partner.
- other than this, Smoker appreciates knowing what to expect in his relationship! morning coffee and cuddles, quick kisses before he goes to work, a nice long shower when he gets home, drinking and unwinding with his lover, all the basic domestic things. mundane routines might bore some, but honestly it’s all Smoker could ever ask for.
U = Understanding - How good do they know their partner? Are they empathetic?
- Smoker can’t really pick up on hints to save his life, so it’s much more helpful if his partner is upfront about their feelings. otherwise, he’ll assume everything is totally okay with them.
- when listening to his partner, he tries his best to be understanding but he almost always approaches it very logically. he’s not very empathetic, he thinks there’s a logical reason and logical solution to every thing. his empathy gets a bit better as the relationship continues on, but he’s still not very emotionally-driven when trying to console his s/o
- as for generally understanding his partner, Smoker knows enough! his downfall is that he just forgets the small things sometimes. like he continuously confuses which flower is their favorite, but he still buys them flowers regardless. he honestly tries his best, he just needs some reminders every now and then!
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Crocodile
R = Romance - How romantic are they? What would they do to make their s/o happy? Cliché or rather creative?
- Crocodile can be super romantic when he wants to be. he has all the money (and sometimes time) to spoil his s/o, so he’s known to take them out to fancy dinners, buying them outfits for said dinners, and treating them to some romantic strolls around the town. all cliche activities, but he still manages to make them super romantic!
- anything his partner asks for, he’s more than willing to get it for them. and with his power and status, it’s hardly ever difficult to get them those things! gift-giving and spoiling is definitely his form of romance, since he’s not typically verbally romantic. aside from material things, much like Smoker, he tries his best to make the time he spends with them extra meaningful, since work tends to keep him away. so, he gives them his undivided attention and pampers them with extra love when he finally gets to be alone with them.
- something also cliche and romantic he likes to do is just dance with his s/o around their home! it’s always spontaneous, like when they’re cooking dinner or getting dressed to go out, he’ll pull them into him and waltz around the room. if he’s able to, he’ll turn on some music, if not he’ll just hum it. Crocodile’s a pretty snazzy dancer!
T = Thrill - Do they need to try out new things to spice out your relationship? Or do they prefer a certain routine?
- thrill comes in waves. there are some days where he’s too swamped with work to really be in the mood for anything exciting. but, he usually makes up for this when he finally gets the time to spend with his partner. he’s all for vacationing, taking his partner to new and exciting places, spoiling them with fine foods and memorable experiences, all the like. he understands that it’s nice to get away for a while. because he rarely gets the time to spoil his s/o, he tries to go all out when he can.
- on long weeks when Crocodile is steadily working, there are definitely some routines setting into place. early morning breakfasts, reading the newspaper together, quick dinners, a glass or two of wine, reading before bed, him falling fast asleep before them, etc. it can’t really be helped due to his schedule.
- he’s not unhappy with the routine they’ve developed, but he knows his partner likes to get out every now and then. and he’s convinced it’s good for his mental state as well. so adding some excitement in the relationship when possible is a win-win for both! he mostly just likes to see them pleased so he’ll do almost just whatever it takes to keep them that way.
U = Understanding - How good do they know their partner? Are they empathetic?
- Crocodile is not a mind reader, so don’t try to treat him as such. he’s generally able to tell when his partner is acting a little unusual, but other than that, he much prefers his partner to tell him what’s wrong. only then can he help them get through it.
- he’s not very empathetic and he’s not very good at emotional help. Crocodile has his own way of handling things and has found himself expecting them to do the same. when this doesn’t work, he budges a little. he’s not always the best at giving advice, but he’s learned to be a great listener! he’s also great at offering distractions to help his lover not dwell on what is upsetting them.
- Crocodile has their favorite things down to a T, it never fails. he loves giving them gifts after all, so once they told him all their favorite things, he made sure to take note and proceeded to buy excess amounts of all of them. he has all anniversaries and their birthday marked on his calendars, otherwise he knows he’d forget.
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R = Romance - How romantic are they? What would they do to make their s/o happy? Cliché or rather creative?
- Kata is another shy man when it comes to romance. he wants to be so much more romantic than what he is, he just gets too flustered by it all! he hasn’t had a lot of luck with love and relationships, so he’s a bit new to it all. he also doesn’t want to screw anything up, so he tries to stick to things he’s familiar with.
- lots of nice, private dinners. food is his family’s specialty, so there are lots of dinner dates throughout the relationship. picnics, Kata loves going out with them on picnics. it took some convincing at first, as we all know Kata prefers to eat in privacy, but they found a perfect spot on Komugi Island by a pond where no one could bother them. since then, that’s how Kata likes to show his romantic side and keep his s/o happy, weekly picnic dates.
- realistically, Kata does quite a lot to keep his s/o happy. he involves them in most of his work, makes them feel like family (by making sure his family loves them almost just as much as he does), protects them, and just loves them to death! there’s really no room for questioning, it’s all evident in his actions. he’s a little blushy when being verbally romantic and it’s just so sweet because it’s obvious that he is trying. he’s been waiting for the right love to come along, so he makes sure to keep the romance alive in their relationship.
T = Thrill - Do they need to try out new things to spice out your relationship? Or do they prefer a certain routine?
- Kata is up for trying new things, he doesn’t ever want his partner to get bored of him after all. the picnic became a new addition to their relationship that he has grown to love, so he’s become open to other things. the more secluded, the better of course. he doesn’t want to do anything crazy or dangerous like cliff diving or sky diving, but going out into the town, shopping, strolling, etc. is always a nice change of pace.
- he’s getting older, so he wants someone to settle down with. thrilling adventures are a thing of the past, he just wants someone to love and care for, so he wouldn’t dare put them in any risky situations. as mentioned, some leisurely activities like picnic dates or cooking together is about all he can offer. he doesn’t mind routine one bit, just as long as he has them.
- for their fancy dinner dates, he likes to have something new prepared every time. he’ll always include family members and their specialties. and since there’s so many of them, there’s always an opportunity for something new to eat! there is some routine regarding family stuff as well. meetings, dinners, all the like. the best is family game night, and honestly, that can be pretty thrilling lol
U = Understanding - How good do they know their partner? Are they empathetic?
- throughout the relationship, Kata develops a deep emotional connection to his partner. he constantly studies his partner when they’re not looking, and has a clear understanding of their normal mannerisms. so when they start acting strange, he notices immediately. and after some time, he knows exactly how to cheer them up. he’s very attentive to his partner’s love language and needs!
- it took a bit of adjusting, but after some time, Kata has learned how to approach arguments or when his partner is upset. he’s a great listener, rarely does he ever get defensive, and he tries his hardest to be empathetic towards their feelings. communication is something Kata has greatly improved upon and thus has greatly improved their relationship.
- Kata knows his partner up, down, and all around. even the most obscure things like their favorite season, the way they act when they get nervous, or how many pairs of shoes they own. his mind is like an encyclopedia of his partner lol he just feels like he can’t afford to mess anything up, so he makes sure to take note of everything he can about them so he can keep them happy!
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hii, i wanted to do a ship!! my names mattie, i’m straight and i have brown hair, hazel eyes, and i’m 4’11. i’m really shy when i first meet people, but after that i’m super outgoing. my friends always say i’m really funny and my favorite thing to do is to make people laugh. i’m super good at giving advice. im not really open about my own feelings, but i love helping other people. i LOVE music and im constantly listening to something. i’m also super strong in my views and will always voice them.
hi i love u i’m sorry this took so long but i hope i like it anyway hehe :)
i ship you with jj!! (honorary mention: best friends with pope before meeting jj and john b and kie ft a sweet lil friends to lovers moment w jj aw)
you and jj’s relationship would be a lot of teasing (in the non-unholy way. holy teasing, if u will. innocent teasing only in this household bc i’m a lil virgin who can’t write unholy things for lack of experience). in my head, i see you being bffs w pope first, and then he introduces you to kie before the other boys, partially because he trusts you and wants to know what you think of the girl he’s totally in love with, and partially because he knows how well you and kie would get along. so one night when jj and john b are out surfing (pope skipped with the excuse that he had to study so the boys wouldn’t try to barge in on your plans), pope walks over to your house to pick you up, and then you both head to The Wreck to visit kie as her shift ends. once introductions had been made, the three of you would just click, and that’d be when pope realizes-- oh shit... i might’ve just brought in our fifth pogue. the rest of your story seemed too good to be true-- written in the stars, almost. things would grow from you being friends with pope to you being friends with pope and kie, together and separately. you wouldn’t meet john b until one day when you stopped in to drop off some little cheap knick knack that had reminded you of the girl so much you had to buy it for her. when you walked into The Wreck, it was basically empty. there was an elderly couple in the corner, two workers hanging out by the windows, and kie and john b both leaning against the counter as they chatted. the bell on the door would chime when you walked in, causing kie to look up and beam when she realized you were the one coming in. you’d wave the unidentified gift in the air with a smile, glancing to see john b also throwing a little grin in your direction. “hi! i just saw this and knew you needed to own it.” kie would be ecstatic, immediately making introductions between you and jb before admiring the little souvenir you’d given her.
jj would be the last pogue that you met, and it would be the absolute strangest meeting. you’d be out on heyward’s boat with pope, having agreed to help him with an afternoon of deliveries in exchange for his attendance at a kegger on a night that pope knew he should’ve spent studying. regardless, it would’ve taken him all day to do all those deliveries alone, and he trusted your kook skills enough to have faith that you could get shit done quicker than any of his other friends. (in his head, pope also knew that having your help would give him time to study and party, something he decided not to share with you for fear that you’d abandon him after realizing.) so when you get to the heart of kooklandia, you and pope both grab a couple of orders and head separate ways, agreeing to meet back at the boat when you’d both finished. when you got back to the boat, though, pope wasn’t on it, but someone else was. you’d recognize him from funny snapchat videos and social media posts, but that wouldn’t stop the blush from creeping up on your face when you realized you and jj maybank were alone on a boat right now. “hey, there, pretty lady! you on the right boat?” he’d ask pleasantly, flipping his lighter in his hands as he spoke with a smile. you both knew who the other was, so his question was a little odd. you’d laugh at his easygoing tone, sitting across from him and glancing over your shoulder to see if you could spot pope. you didn’t see him anywhere. when you turned back around, jj would have a joint between his lips, lighting it and taking a drag before offering it to you. you’d laugh again, shaking your head. “do you offer drugs to all the strangers who you end up alone on a boat with? or just the lucky ones?” his eyebrows would raise at the taunting ring to your words. “ah, c’mon, mattie,” he’d say pointedly, causing your eyes to widen in surprise at his outward confession of knowing your name. “we’re not strangers!”
you’d scoff at that, shaking your head at him. as you opened your mouth to respond, you were cut off by a weight moving the boat, and when you look up you found pope turning the key in the boat’s ignition. “why the hell are you here, jj? and smoking again? i thought we talked about keeping the signal clear.” he’d look at jj as he spoke, then glanced to you. “you’re not terrifying mattie, are you? this is why i didn’t introduce you guys yet. i was building up to it.” the amusement on your face seemed to calm him a little, but he was still waiting for jj to respond. “pope, man, take it easy. you told me you wanted some company for a day of deliveries, so i came. kinda fucked of you to first replace me with a pretty girl, and then leave us alone on this boat without introducing us. don’t you have manners?” pope tried to interrupt, but jj continued to speak over him, his eyes flickering to you every few seconds to watch your reactions to his words. “anyway, i had to light up a little bit. you know, pretty girls make me nervous, man, and nothing takes the edge off like a little joint on the water.” pope rolled his eyes at this, shaking his head as he started driving back toward the docks, since you two had finished all the deliveries for the day. “don’t worry, pope. i’m not terrified yet, even though i do see the potential for terror. joint in the middle of the day is a little out of pocket, but, honestly,” you’d trail off, looking from pope to jj before continuing. “i’m kind of interested to find out what it’s like to be friends with all of the pogues, instead of just the socially contained ones.” jj would let out a high pitched guffaw at the admission, pointing at pope enthusiastically. “boom! there it is! she wants to be my friend! i win, fuck you, pope! ha!” “wow, jj. for a big, bad pogue you really are excited to make new friends,” you’d taunt again, causing him to smile brightly as he threw up the middle finger at you. you gave it right back to him, smile and all. “so, mattie. newest pogue on the scene. my new friend who pope is hoping ends up hating me. you going to the boneyard tonight?” and that was the beginning of mattie and jj.
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hi sol, I hope your doing fine! i just wanna thank you for your writing, bc is giving me so much comfort during this time. also, your blog is a safe space to me, im 23 and still a virgin, like, I have never fool around or anything because of the combo religious parents + low self esteem + social awkwardness. my social issues are so bad to the point that I'm doing college online and cant even get a job bc I cant socialize without having a panic attack. (1/2) ~ 🦋
but you're so open about this and all your answers are giving me confidence to try and reach out for help. thank you so much for that, really! love u and stay safe 💕 ~ 🦋 ps: english is not my first language, im sorry for any mistakes. (2/2)
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Ahhhh dude, you’re gonna make me cry. Firstly, I’m so glad my stories and my blog are a safe space for you! It honestly means a lot that my work can help you guys that way.
And I’m really sorry to hear that :( I can’t say much on your self esteem, social awkwardness and stuff because those are personal things that you have to work on. I can give you advice, but at the end of the day it is something you have to work on for yourself. However, the religious parents thing - honestly, all I can say is that even if they’re your parents, they do not control you. You are your own person, not their property and honestly, regardless of their relationship to you - they have no right to comment on something that is yours. Your sexual desires and your sexual interests are yours. Your body is yours. You are your own and no one can or should dictate what you do with that. I hope one day, they don’t have such a strong influence on you and you can be free from any of their judgement.
And of course! You’re so welcome!! I’m just happy I can do something with my brazen personality and horniness and helping others find confidence in their own sexuality is a huge fucking compliment and honestly means a lot to me. Thank you so much. I’m glad I could help you in some way. I love you too and I hope you stay safe!! And I hope you eventually get better with your social issues because you deserve it 💕💕💕💕
Also you’re English is completely fine!! Please don’t worry about it, it’s really good! You’re doing amazing!! 💕💕💕💕💕
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you mentioned possibly doing a ben or mike writing guide.. would you.. be willing to post a mike one. i'm plotting a fic and im struggling to get my mans down?? also i think abt ur fics weekly bare minimum.
hi there!!! i did my best. i tried to not sound preachy or like a know it all bc y’all know i can barely write. i hope this is helpful in some way!! disclaimer of of course this is all just my opinion & there’s no wrong way to write, you’re the only person who can tell your story!!
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i think the first really important decision you have to make as Person Writing Mike is his
family & background
-are both of his parents alive?
-if yes, what’s their relationship like?
-if no, who’s his primary caretaker? what’s their relationship like?
-if no, when did they die? did he cope well with it? what’s his relationship with their memory like?
these are really really where you gotta start to write mike imo. or any character! i think one thing stephen king is to be admired for is he doesn’t neglect the parent-child relationship as so many people who write youth do. your parents are the most important people in your life for a long time. i don’t think there’s a wrong or ooc way to answer the above questions tbh. canon has really left a wide open field for you to run amuck in.
(example: i’ve mentioned in the past that my & tfat mike being a small adult is no mistake and intentional. it’s a bit of a throwaway scene, but i mention in on pointe that mike’s parents are coming. it’s intentionally done there too. mike is goofier, more outgoing, more immature in general in that fic in the small bits he’s in & that’s all a response to his familial life. )
culture + friendships
after you answer those questions, important follow up questions are:
-are the losers his first set of friends?
-how much social exposure has he had?
-has he dated? who is he attracted to?
-who influences him? (celebrities, family, culturally)
-what are his cultural interests? what does he do in his free time? how would that impact how he interacts with the rest of the world?
again, no wrong way to answer these. i’ve seen a super broad spectrum of indirect answers to these questions. even thinking about where he might pick up patterns of speech can make him feel much more like a realized character. i’ve noticed some people dip fully into aave to an extent that doesn’t even seem logical in their character’s current situation & it can really seem like a caricature, but i think to write mike without any sense of aave at all is a little ?? too. just be cognizant of it is my only real advice here. it doesn’t so much matter as long as you don’t forget who mike is which next point
humor & personality
-what do you think he would find (shows, comedians, youtube videos) really funny?
-does he have something he quotes often? something he started saying ironically but never stopped?
man i know i’m all there’s no wrong way to write mike !! in this post but i will say real quick that i think mike is funny and i don’t really respect depictions of him where he’s not. i think this is where the movies really just fucked up. book mike drops some of the funniest lines of the book. and honest to god tip is to write out a scene as you feel the urge too, look away for five minutes, look back and give half of richie’s lines away. (or... dialogue.) this sounds like a joke but it was what i did when i first started writing & tfat
i’d always be like “n the funny part goes... to richie.” and thats a fandom inclination too. nooooo. avoid this trap. it doesn’t even make sense. have u ever been in a friend group where only one person... makes jokes? that’d be genuinely so weird. especially bc if you give the joke away to someone else, you can also build on it. amazing things start happening when u start thinking of the characters in flexible patterns. like for example, i almost always give absurdist humor to stan now. wholesome to ben.
mike’s humor is largely situational to me. solid comedic timing & he’s an observant person. sometimes i read back my own writing & have to change the pov bc richies making jokes about things he would never ever notice to make fun of. mike would. mike genuinely sees all. i think he’s just got one of the most analytical brain of the losers. & i think intelligence is subjective and people are smart in different ways but i think it’s foolish to write him as anything other than incredibly intelligent both academically and emotionally. he’s just a natural observer and pattern notice-er. which brings me to my next mike thing:
love & selflessness
i think the biggest part of mike being harder to flesh into a fully realized person is the fandom tendency to make him kind and nothing else. here’s mike. he’s nice. next. bc the book kind of points out his selflessness in his decisions and it makes itself one of his strongest character traits.
especially bc nice seems to trump him having any other emotions. ...no?
i believe in general, but ESPECIALLY in the case of mike, that kindness is a choice. it’s one i genuinely believe he’d make, over & over again. but a choice he makes. he gets annoyed with his friends being annoying like anyone else would. he gets hurt when he feels left out. he feels tired & anxious & hungry and all those other human things. sometimes he might not let it show outwardly, but there’s a difference between that and not giving him feelings at all.
people are selfish. it’s a defense mechanism. it’s to protect us. it’s not a bad thing. we think of how the world impacts ourselves first. we don’t always act upon those thoughts or voice them, but don’t forget to let mike have them. he doesn’t need to be happy for his friends all the time, or rooting for them or supportive. he should have his own things going on.
also. mike’s not a doormat. yes, he stays in derry. but those were life-death consequences for generations of children. it’s really not comparable to almost any decision mike would make in a pennywise free universe. yes, he made a sacrifice in the book but i don’t think he’d just lay himself down in any given universe to whatever fate wants to hand him. but this is where i end this topic bc i’m actually only barely beginning to get to this topic in my own fic!
it’s hard writing the losers young sometimes bc i do feel relationships are naturally a little unbalanced based on basic maturity levels as young people. sometimes friendships just are unbalanced bc of who people are at that time. everyone involved can still be good people in these relationships. it’s about growing together and learning how to be good friends to each other.
for example, in &tfat: certain losers are always checking in with others. others are really wrapped up in their own shit and don’t really notice what bothers the others. it would probably take a chart the size of a textbook to explain how i think this dynamic wholly pans out in full. and yeah, i think it grates on mike a little bit that he is always the checker and never the checkee.
but even when mike snaps, even when he gets upset, i always write it coming out of him with a lot of love. i genuinely think mike, regardless of experience in that fic, has the deepest understanding of love as its own concept and an understand of how exactly it rules his life and and his relationships. mike knows to feel strongly about something he has to care about it. there are lots of things he just doesn’t care about. in the book it’s stated he’s difficult to connect with as an adult. he’s distant. he’s focused on what he wants to focus on. i think mike is actually the most interesting when he becomes a little bit of a disaster man with very little time for what doesn’t interest him.
which last thing, dislikes & disinterests
-what annoys him?
-what makes him genuinely angry?
-what bores him to tears?
i always make jokes that i bring up the nastier parts of the losers bc i love nasty boys but thinking of things people don’t like is as much a part of them as the things they do.
for example, in &tfat, i write richie as making fun of “nerdy” things like anything you could find at comic con. i write bev as not giving a fuck about sports. bill doesn’t care about richie’s music tastes. eddie hates getting condescended to.
bc of the ... kind thing, mike’s one of the harder losers to do this with. i genuinely think mike would listen to any of his friends tell him about anything. & he knows, in return, they can’t say shit when he wants to ramble about history. but dislikes can also be super situational.
again, for example in & tfat: mike doesn’t like when his friends talk about college right now. no one is really being sensitive to him at all. he hates getting blamed for stuff that isn’t his fault, mostly bc it keeps happening.
anyway. i based a lot of my mike (mostly sense of humor and personality) off of a mix of real life friends of mine. it’s a luxury. i know. i’ve been blessed to have friends from literally all walks of life & for me borrowing little habits & quirks & sayings & jokes to slip into my fics and characters is my way of writing one massive love letter to those ive known. i hope i’ve helped you in some way anon. n if not.... don’t be sad i’m hardly one to take writing advice from anyway jandjxjx
overall, as i used to do often, i’d genuinely stop myself and say: is this a person, or a convenience for the plot? and if it was the latter, sigh, and get my backspace key ready.
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hello i am gonna try getting some writing done today bc im FEELIN it but also. this is gonna be kinda rambly and soft and dumb bc im in a moode but (im putting this under readmore just bc...)
lately life has been kind of a rollercoaster w life outside of the rpc, i have a lot of friends that rely on me for emotional support and advice, i have to be my own boss w work and its been hard for me to have strong drive in all of my creative areas (which sadly includes writing). BUT on here, i have had the pleasure of meeting some of the most talented wordsmith writers that really keep my head in the game of creation and consistent inspiration. there are so many unique characters and writing styles on my dash, i confess to stalking numerous threads (none of u are safe from my bitch eyes) and i have had the pleasure of growing close to some very special literary artists in the rpc. i finally have a “group” of sorts with three of my favourite people (i have always wanted my own little troupe & it kills the man w sappy emos), but i also have several others outside of this that i will always vibe with whether we’re writing or not - just know i am in support of you and whenever you have ideas, i am always down to hearing them regardless of how often we talk or not. i view rp as a relaxed escape for all of us - it’s not a chore, it is a collaborative, community driven way to take a break from the real world and slip into the comfort of a fantasy one that can make us happy, excited, and in many cases emotional (but in a good way, yknow?) never feel as though you are obligated to reply to me, or that you have to interact with me 24/7 nor should you feel guilty if you’ve not been active online. i have no expectations other than basic respect.
additionally, i am honoured that people enjoy my characters as i’ve always been very insecure about how many i have and how many of those are actually “good” developed and dimensional characters. the ones on this blog are very dear to me and i’m especially appreciative of all the blogs who don’t really have that retro verse going are open to exploring it when it comes to plotting. i don’t consider myself a writer, but i will say that my love of writing has only grown over time because of the people i’ve written with. there is nothing more fun for me than the challenge of putting deep effort into my threads bc i am so impressed and enthralled by my partner’s skills that i feel i must only enhance it by putting my all into my replies (hence why it takes me a while sometimes).
in summation tho, what i mean to say is that i am deeply touched by the people i’ve met on here and that i’m thankful for you guys for kindling such a warm community that really helps take me out of the stressful elements and brings me to another place of comfort. i really hope you all understand that your muses are insanely cool with so many different facets that i Love to hear about (i beg of my rp partners to rant to me abt their characters, the more the better) and that writing/plotting/talking w yall is the highlight of my online life sometimes. the biggest love to those who always hear me out on my ideas and are always willing to follow me wherever my scattered asshat brain takes me, to those i have grown close to who are always open to bouncing ideas off each other even if they don’t always come to full completion. i love you all, i am a big mushy infantchild w lots of emotions & look forward to writing into the new year w u guys. bless. cookie to anyone who actually read all this nonsense
#uHH idk this is just me being infj emotional rn i do this a LOT#and its better for me to do it on a post than in individual msgs#bc ik sometimes its hard to respond to these kinds of things#anyway im fuckin. in love w all yall's existences gdbye time to try n write#* UNRELIABLE NARRATOR. // OOC.#i may deleetos this bc im insecure but yk had to get it out
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hey julia, im really sad because after a year or so of writing for a published paper, the prof analyzing the data found an inconsistency in my database and when he fixed it the new results he got changed the outline of our paper in a big way. i'm still getting primary authorship because i did all the data collecting and initial writing, but pretty much all i wrote is gonna have to be scrapped :( i was really proud of what i wrote and having it go through editing because it was mine (1/2)
(2/2)I feel so disappointed with everything though and i know it’s my first ever real writing experience but i was hoping it would work out a bit better :c im still gonna have access to see how the paper evolves and be invited to the talks about it, but it just isn’t mine anymore and i kind of feel like i failed, i was banking on this paper to apply for grad school because being published gives me an edge but it doesn’t feel like its my work anymore :( what do u do when u have a sad science day?
Oh maria /biiiig hug/ i’m so sorry to hear you’re going through a rough time. it’s ok to feel sad and disappointed because i know it’s tough to watch something you’ve worked so hard on get scrapped like that. but you know what? you’re tougher! and i know you’ll get through this.
Firstly, give yourself a warm hug for completing the monumental task that is writing a manuscript, regardless of what ended up happening. Finishing something so challenging is not trivial! And you know what, all those experience points you gained by going through this journey are yours to keep. So when it comes to writing another manuscript in grad school, you’ll know exactly what to do! And that’s pretty great, yeah?
Secondly, I know you feel bad, and that’s ok, but I want to slip a note into your thoughts that you have not failed, my friend. You have not failed. Mistakes happen, even to seasoned professionals, because mistakes are a part of life. I guarantee you that every single research lab in existence right now (and have existed) has had to go back to square one or two and start over at some point. And they did, and fixed what needed to be fixed, and then carried on to do great things. Sometimes you gotta erase what’s already on the paper to make room for something more beautiful.
If you feel this paper doesn’t feel like your baby anymore, that’s ok. I totally understand why you would feel that way, and if squishing and squeezing your emotions into accepting the paper like it was before is adding to the bad feels, then you don’t have to. You can just focus on and own the black and white facts of the paper: the experimental design, the science behind the data, the major conclusions, the impact on society, etc. There doesn’t have to be an emotional attachment to go with it if you don’t want to.
And you know what, the changes to this paper doesn’t change who you are. Maria: you are still the smart, funny, caring, kind, and passionate person that I’ve gotten to know you as. You’re still the awesome person who took the time to put together the most in-depth and hilaaarious powerpoint of fish and fauna to see while snorkeling in the Bahamas for me. You’re still the brilliant marine biologist who has a (really impressive!) CV that 100% reflects your passion and commitment to your work. You’re still a person who will leave the world a better place, and I know this because you’ve already made my world a better place. I feel so lucky to have you in my life.
I hope you’re starting to feel better now :) If not, here are some things I do if I have a Bad Science Day:
Cry it out. There’s an odd sort of comfort that comes after a good cry. So sometimes if I feel like I’ve been holding back, I exhale softly and let it all out. It doesn’t solve anything, I know, but I do feel a teeny bit better and a teeny bit more whole.
Write it out. Something I’ve learned about myself is that my brain tends to over-exaggerate things when it’s just swirling thoughts. But when I write it out and everything gets organized, it turns out things aren’t so bad after all. So give it a go, either in a word doc, an actual journal, or even a tumblr post (that you don’t have to publish, of course).
Talk it out. Related, going on a verbal rant (or even written rant to someone) helps in a similar way. Even if it’s in private to my favorite stuffed animal or a pet. Just anything to get the thoughts out!
Listen to “comfort” music. I have a playlist of my all-time favorite songs and I listen to it on the drive home and I always feel a lil better. It’s hard to not feel a little happy and carefree when your favorite jam comes on.
Sleep it off. Sometimes all I need is a good night’s sleep (or even a nap) to clear my head. Also I love sleeping, so it always feels good no matter what.
Do something comforting. Anything to release those sweet sweet endorphins. My ideas of comforting routines are: eating whatever I’m craving at the moment, watching a favorite TV show or movie (usually something I’ve already seen), curling up with a good book or magazine, scrolling through Tumblr, doing my nails, hugging my dog and/or husband until I feel better, and walking around Homegoods, my favorite store (I’d honestly live there if I could). Doing these things also helps in that it takes my mind off whatever’s bothering me, even temporarily.
Give myself a pep talk. Ok, oddly enough, the pep-talk-voice in my head is Gordon Ramsay. I don’t know how it manifested as him, but when he’s not yelling at chefs to get their shit together, he has a really encouraging and soothing voice! Anyway, sometimes he sits me down and tells me that everything is going to be ok, and here’s what we do next alright? Just one step at a time ok? That’s it. Good job. Good job.
Just keep working. Sometimes my Bad Science Day starts at 9 AM in the morning, or it’s just a continuous Bad Science Week/Month/Year. So I put those feelings on hold and just stick to my schedule and try to be as productive as I can. Because even if Experiment 1 didn’t work, Experiment 2 might, and if it does, I’ll feel a little better! And if Experiment 2 doesn’t work, well, at least I finished it, and I’ll still feel a little better! And in any case, my projects aren’t gonna do themselves, no matter how I feel. So in the wise words of Dory: “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming!”
I talk to my PI. I’m super lucky to have an understanding PI, and I’ve talked to her about my frustrations on more than one occasion and she’s worked with me to come up with good solutions, or have said things to make me feel better. PIs are full of wisdom from experiencing their own fair share of Bad Science Days so they have lots of advice on how to feel better, such as looking at my results a different way so it goes form :( to :)
I let the passing of time lessen the hurt. Time doesn’t always heal, but it does make things that were terrible at the moment not so bad anymore. So if nothing else makes me feel better, at least I know “this too shall pass”.
I hope this helps. I know things are ugh right now, but you’re going to be ok. And I’m here for you, ok? Feel free to reach out via chat or email. I would very much like to help you feel better
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does anyone want to read about charlie’s gay awakening?
no?
well thank goodness there’s a readmore here...
so this is actually a really personal story for me that i’m writing to cope~ it doesn’t have a title but i’ve been calling it changst in my folders bc. i can, i guess.
this takes place in canonverse and charlie would be about 16 here.
Charlie glared at her phone, face half smooshed into her pillow.
NessIsBest
>>so
>>guess what
Charlie didn’t want to respond. She really, really didn’t. But she couldn’t leave Vanessa hanging. Nessie was one of her oldest friends. They had been through some tough times together. She couldn’t just leave her hanging.
But oh, did she want to.
Because she knew, she just knew that this was about Ness’s new boy. Ness fell in love faster than anyone that Charlie had ever met, and this boy had captured her heart worse than anyone else. It drove Charlie crazy, because she didn’t like this guy. She would almost even go as far to say that she hated him. (It didn’t matter that they had never met.)
Her love for Ness won out over her hatred for Mystery Guy.
ChimChar
>>what?
NessIsBest
>>we went out for dinner today
>>and he paid for my food
>>and then we went and played with kittens at the animal shelter
>>and he walked me home
>>am I crazy or did it seem like a date???
ChimChar
>>I mean kinda, I guess?
NessIsBest
>>I mean
>>I know he’s not ready right now
>>but like
>>ugh
>>I dunno
>>he just…
>>sometimes I feel like he’s into me too
>>I swear to you he was flirting with me all day
>>AND
>>we started talking again about moving in together after high school?
>>like he knows what assholes my parents are
>>and he wants to help me get away from them
>>and he was talking about adopting an animal together
>>and I just.
>>I dunno
>>I feel like maybe there could be something
>>If I just gave him a little longer
>>like lately I swear I’m at his house more often than I am mine
>>just watching him play video games
>>or horsing around on the couch
Charlie’s stomach felt tight as she read the messages. She bit her lip. She wanted to shove her phone under the mattress so she didn’t have to look at it anymore.
All she could think was—I would move in with you. I would help you get away from your parents. Remember when you used to be at mine all the time?
But she kept those thoughts in. There wasn’t any point in spilling them into the chatlog. Ness would be like, “yes of course I know, but you don’t really wanna be too far from your dad.” And then she’d be back to talking about The Guy again.
He wasn’t even that attractive. Charlie scowled at her phone, scrolling up to the last pic Ness had sent of him. Charlie didn’t see it—Ness called him cute, but to Charlie he just looked… like a boy. No different from all the other boys in their grade.
It wasn’t like she had a problem with guys. She’d found a few celebrities cute, here and there. But they just weren’t… that attractive, to her. She didn’t see how Ness could look at this one and be like, “I want to kiss him.” Or even, “I want to have sex with him.” Which she’d talked about. In enough detail that Charlie wanted to bleach her brain.
But she hadn’t said anything then, either.
She scrolled back down to current messages.
ChimChar
>>I don’t think it’s stupid to keep hoping
>>but… I dunno Ness
>>I don’t think moving in together is a good idea
NessIsBest
>>I dunno
>>I think we could make it work
>>I mean the worst part would be not getting a break from each other, right?
>>but if we were both working and hanging out with our friends it wouldn’t be too bad
>>it’s not like I have anyone else to move in with
>>he’s the only one of my friends that want’s OFF of Shuggazoom
>>like I mean I know you do
>>but you still want to come back
>>i… don’t.
ChimChar
>>I guess that’s fair
It wasn’t. It wasn’t fair at all. But it was what Charlie had to say, wasn’t it? To be a good friend. To keep having Ness around for the foreseeable future. To have her around until it all blew over.
There was a part of her—a very small part—that kind of wished they could just skip to the part where Ness came crying to Charlie after the guy stopped leading her on and finally let her down. Like he should have from the beginning. It made Charlie feel like a bad friend, though, to wish her best friend that kind of heartbreak.
She shoved her whole face in the pillow this time. She wanted to scream.
Her phone blipped again. Charlie was half tempted to pretend she had fallen asleep, but… she checked the message anyway.
And found herself relaxing (and hating herself for it) when she saw it wasn’t Ness. It was another friend of hers.
Rina-Beana
>>yo what up char
>>ur up awful late
>>hope ur not frying your brain in the books again
ChimChar
>>pff no
>>just talking to Ness
Rina-Beana
>>guy still leading her on?
ChimChar
>>yeah
Rina-Beana
>>u doin’ okay?
ChimChar
>>yeah, why wouldn’t I be?
Rina-Beana
>>u got really quiet at lunch when she brought up guy
>>ur. not a quiet person, char
ChimChar
>>I resent that
Rina-Beana
>>char
ChimChar
>>its nothing
>>really
Rina-Beana
>>look I may not have known you as long as vanessa but
>>I still know you
>>and this isn’t nothing
ChimChar
>>I dunno how to really put it into words
>>I guess I just…
>>I dunno
>>I’m protective of Ness
>>and when she starts flirting with these guys it just
>>bothers me???
>>because they’re not good enough for her
>>to me
>>and I always… I dunno
>>I just feel pushed to the wayside lately
>>I guess
>>we don’t talk the way we used to but
>>she’s always sending me screenshots of where she’s talking to him and I just
>>I guess I’m jealous
>>and I don’t understand why
>>because I know that I’m her best friend
>>and I know that I’m still going to be here regardless of what happens with the guy
>>I just.
>>it sucks.
Charlie rolled onto her back and threw her arm over her eyes. She hated spilling her guts more than anything—but Rina would know what to do, maybe. She was a year older than Charlie. She’d be graduating this year, and headed off to pilot’s school. A year probably didn’t make that much of a difference in wisdom, but Charlie would take what she could get. It wasn’t like she could talk to her dad about this.
Well, she probably could, but he wouldn’t really know what to do. He was better at coming up with advice when she and one of her friends had had a fight or something. He wouldn’t understand why she was so jealous.
Not that Charlie understood why she was jealous.
Her phone pinged, and she raised it up again.
Rina-Beana
>>char…
>>have you ever considered that you might be in love with Ness?
Charlie stared at her phone.
ChimChar
>>what.
Rina-Beana
>>look, I could be entirely off the mark
>>but I remember when I first realized I was gay
>>it was because I was constantly jealous of my best friend’s boyfriends
>>I was constantly putting myself in their shoes
>>comparing how I would treat her to them
>>and just. always angry at them for not treating her right.
>>it got to the point where I could barely stand to be around her, or them, because I was just constantly upset that she didn’t see me
>>maybe im totally of the mark and that’s not what’s going on here
>>but it just… I dunno
>>it felt similar
Was Charlie in love with Ness?
She could feel her heart racing at the thought. It didn’t feel wrong, but… it wasn’t a label Charlie had stuck on it before. And it felt… strange.
ChimChar
>>i
>>i guess i’ve never thought of it before
>>i mean.
>>maybe
She needed to let it sit for a bit. Keep trying it on. But there was a part of her, deep down, that she could feel saying yes. That’s what this is.
She needed the rest of her to feel it first.
Rina-Beana
>>take ur time
>>it’s not always something you figure out in a split second
>>and if you have questions
>>im here.
#due to personal reasons i will be shoving all of my personal angst onto one of my ocs#the ending sucks but i couldn't think of a good way to end it#bc if i didn't i was gonna shove more of my personal angst in here and i just. bleh#anyways#hope you enjoyed!#charlie#drabbles#charlie fic#charlie drabbles#my writing#srmthfg
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hey! from one writer to another, i'd like to ask some advice you may or may not be able to give. ive finally found the courage to post some writing (although i am not at all overwhelmingly proud of it. anyway)... What advice would u possibly give a writer who's feeling like their work is Eh, at best, and Bleh at worst? have you ever had like, tons of projects and you just werent sure what to focus on, what to pour all of your heart into?? have you ever just... not felt passionate? im stuck! @~@
Bruh I struggle with this every day.
(Also this is my book blog and I have a writing blog over here where I sometimes respond to people asking for tips and mostly post about personal projects.)
I’m gonna try to give you advice, but seeing as I’m really in no place to give any, feel free to ignore everything I say.
What advice would u possibly give a writer who’s feeling like their work is Eh, at best, and Bleh at worst?
Read some terrible, terrible books. This might sound and look petty, and who cares if it is, but this honestly helps me a lot.
No matter how good you are, there will always be someone out there who’s better. But. This also means that no matter how bad you are, there will always be someone out there who’s worse. Look for good books when you need #goals and inspiration. Look for bad books when you need to feel good about yourself and educate yourself on what not to do.
People say “don’t compare yourself to others”, but we all do it anyway, so you might as well get something useful out of it.
Writing is art, and art is subjective. Some books that are critically acclaimed and loved by fans I think are pure and utter garbage. Some books that people consider to be bad I think are amazing. That applies to your writing as well.
As for how to feel good about your own writing, regardless of what others think:
I think it’s one of those fundamental artist things that you can’t really avoid. If you think your art is amazing, you won’t improve, so self-criticism is good.
But on the other hand, feeling like everything you make is crap can kill your need to create as well as any outside criticism can. You have to find a middle ground where you feel like you can do better, bu what you have isn’t terrible either.
I don’t have tips on how to find this mysterious balance, sadly. I struggle with it myself.
What helps me when I feel terrible about my writing is having a few friends read it and tell you what they feel. It might not be the most nuanced and honest criticism, but that tiny bit of encouragement can go a long way and give you enough positive reinforcement to continue writing.
have you ever had like, tons of projects and you just werent sure what to focus on, what to pour all of your heart into??
Absolutely! I used to have this a lot back in the day, where I’d have dozens of ongoing and inevitably abandoned projects clogging up my brain.
I don’t have this problem quite as much anymore, because I’ve developed this technique that kills off any ideas that don’t hold my interest enough to become a good project I feel passionate about, kinda like natural selection (except not at all, I don’t know science).
I don’t know if this will work for anybody else (in fact, it definitely won’t, because some people need to actively and purposefully keep working on ideas to like them more), but I used to be a chronic plot bunny chaser and now I’m a skilled sniper, killing only the juciest prey.
Basically, when you get a new idea: Don’t start writing it.
Just don’t. Write down the basic concept if you don’t want to forget it (I do this all the time), but don’t start writing the story. Let it sit there in your head, let it stew in your brain juice. We tend to get attached and excited about new ideas becaue they’re … new and exciting, duh. But once they become “old” and boring, we give up and go look for something else that interests us.
This basically does that for you without you having to waste time writing it and feeling disappointed later. If you notice yourself thinking less and less of your idea, then it’s not something that would’ve held your attention for long anyway. If you notice one idea coming back to you over and over and over and you just can’t stop thinking about it: that’s the one. That’s the golden nug.
Once you find it you’ll know that this is the one you want to spend time with. Write a couple of chapters, see where how you feel about it, but try not to figure it out all at once, because then it’ll become boring again and you’ll lose interest.
This process usually takes months for me. It’s long, but it pays off in the end. My new idea has taken me that much to cement itself, and I still don’t know everything, but I know enough to know that I want to find out more about it.
Find a thing that interests you a lot and you know you’d love to explore, but leave yourself some room for development and discovery so you don’t get bored.
You want a project to pour all of your heart into, but how many hearts do you have? Just one, presumably. This is gonna sound cheesy, but logically, you can’t pour all of your heart into every project you have, at least not all at once.
This is just my #deep way of saying that focusing on a few projects can help make them better. You want to make one or two things that are amazing instead of seven that are meh, right?
Pick one or two or even three, and alternate between those when one of them gets boring. It’s ok to let things rest and let yourself miss the project and rediscover your love for it.
have you ever just… not felt passionate?
Yep! With my #brainweirds, I feel passionate once in a blood moon.
What keeps me going?
I have no idea. I have a story and I want to share it. These characters torment me every day and I want them to torment someone else for a change.
What keeps my motivation going is also the fact that there are people out there actually waiting for me to finish my book so they can read it. Find someone like that, it’s actually not super hard becaue the interner is a perfect place to find people who like stuff that you like. You only need a couple of cheerleaders to get yourself back on track.
And it’s ok to take a break. You don’t have to feel passionate all the time, and you definitely won’t even if you tried to. Do small projects. Do a low-effort fanfic. Or don’t do anything at all!
But you’re asking what to do to feel passionate and how to keep going, and I honestly don’t know the secret to that, even though I’ve seemingly unlocked it.
I think you should just pack your stories full of things you like. Tropes, ideas, concepts, worlds, characters. Fill this thing with things you love and want to see more of, and you’ll notice how it pulls you back in because you just like it so much and you want to see it come true and share it with others.
I have shamelessly made a post with all my personal tropes and it’s silly, but it’s what I write and what I gravitate towards, and I have a bunch of people interested in my work already. Not because I’m awesome, but because one will always find an audience, and if you love something a lot, there will be someone out there who will love it too. No matter how “eh” or “bleh” you think it is.
I hope this helped! Good luck!
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1st I have to say this b4 I repeat the post from fb. This is a place where I can speak my mind freely without judgement, speak my peace even. Which is exactly what im gonna do so prepare for a read. So think what u want idc, but the last thing I wanna do is tick some1 I know off cause on some level there's a mutual appreciation & respect regardless of my impression. And anyone that reads this isn't obligated to understand my opinion & I dont expect u to. With my brain its my thought process to let information out of my head so I can put things aside, observe & absorb more lol. Writing is another tool or coping mechanism for my anxieties & other psych ailments, treatment for my mental health depends on it & other hobbies in other words, especially during shutdown, something to focus on. Heck even youtube is recommended by my doctor if it keeps me happy lol. But because ill be working again, I may not have time to do alot of things I like sadly..idk i just wouldnt want to be burnt out & focus on more important things. I have a high respect for anyone working around people during this time & it must worrisome for u too, means I have to keep on my toes as well soon..its a scary world out there for an introvert but I was killin it in NY too. It was just a slow steady process with all the limitations & moving my life up there wasn't easy to begin with but I pulled through & did it all...only for it to be taken away.
So, I'm an Irish, German, Canadian,British Mut from tucson. Maternal & paternal immidiate families lineage mixed made me, including my NY blood from my bio dad. The rest is all over Europe but u get the idea. Tucson may be where i was born & my 1st home without a father & raised not knowing (were mardi gras babies btw 😒)
But NY is & will forever be my 2nd home i dont care what any1 says, I felt I belonged there. Its the other half of me quite literally.Theres a memory that's really been bugging me. Last day b4 i left it, a bald eagle flew across my path in the sky no joke going NE & I was departing back to the SW. I chose the eagle years ago cause I identify with it. including the background symbolism in different phases of my life that included them lol, but to actually see one was just amazing.
They symbolize strength+freedom in general despite it standing for the country from sea to shining sea lol. Also Braviary was always in my pokemon team besides pikachu since its gen came out lol. I've always been strong, whether some believe it to be true or not is their problem, only I know the things I've gone through. Point is different ends of the spectrum its always been with me throughout in some way & im glad i got to share it with someone that gave me the freedom I needed.
But yea I experienced what its like to be there & got to know that part of me even if I didn't find him & maybe didnt care...I feel I was meant to be there. I was in touch with my roots, lower Temps & above sea level rather than high temps & below sea level 🤣 I loved everything about my time up there. It'll always be a part of me, & I hope to see it again. But I digress.
But in regards to the relationship itself, emphasizing on what i said b4. Just as it i got "settled" in it was gone & I had no clue what was happening without my knowledge, the whole plan to bring me back, all of it, the whole chain of events that unfolded the way it did starting with leaving a marriage in the 1st place to be with him i mean come on lol. Chasing a dream that didn't play out the way we had hoped. I took leap of faith & I ended up starting over twice in 1 year with no benefit of the doubt. I still have my ny health insurance for the rest of the yr, I have to add it to my list to apply again in az. Ive been wearing the wrong prescription glasses for 6 months under quarantine & they're just now getting to stage 4 of opening lol. Just understand how frustrating that actually is for someone like me & u totally get it 😅 U want to take care of business but sometimes you're limited & gotta work around it. had all that covered there & then was told I settled, wrong thing to say & its no wonder I didn't blow up in his face right there & then 😒. But I have retraint & can control myself. Though it was out of my hands the new relationship didn't have to go sour, been just as long if not more, could've actually thrived given the proper balance with room to grow. Idk, Sometimes I honestly don't think anyone believed in me. I mean I have no debt, no record, no kids, im a clean slate type of girl lol. Yes I did end up feeling unappreciated, underestimated, a bit neglected, insecure about my body, ashamed for being myself, & I shouldn't have to feel that way at all & if that happens there obviously something off. I just didnt know what it is he wanted & needed, i wanted to help & be a good partner to this dude but why is it bad to ask the same in return? I shouldn't have to drastically change myself to fit someones standard i know, but...i needed the old him back, I missed the old us & wanted to get back to that.. Was always so closed off & probably ended up in his own head who knows, maybe there was guilt for some of the things he did & didnt want to hurt me anymore, spare my feelings any more than it did b4 it was too late.idk whatever the excuse i still don't know what triggered it all to fail so easily & i don't think i ever will. But ending up with the conclusion that I was the problem, its narcissistic to even believe that & i won't accept it. Not when he can't confront his own issuse & put blame onto himself too.. it was a low blow & literally felt like my heart was pierced at the sound of it. If im to blame its the other way around as well. My point of view wasn't acknowledged so this is my take & experiences of happened so plz dont hate me for speaking my truth.
But yea I can tell when somethings not right & feel strong empathy for others emotions. I knew something was different, there were signs everywhere since the mistrust started & during the last half of that time with him I questioned everything but sat in my own headspace as well as he did just thinking about it. If anything we failed eachother, the blame is on us both but idk what else i could've done to get through to him. That's the stubbornness, he wouldn't budge. Despite how things went down..Leaves me to think, what was the point of having me there in the 1st place, to not follow through with our shared hopes & dreams but instead spiral into such resentment for me that the interest faded. But at the at the same time...even if it ended early for him, I didn't give up & I fought to keep us okay which it was for the most part. Hindsight is 20/20, it definitely wasn't negative all the time. In fact things were great between us & acted like goofballs together, that right there is a friend despite if the stronger feelings weren't mutual. Nobody with hate in their heart acts like that, he was good, the best, cheered me up when I was down, shared interests & did things for eachother. But that alone makes me question what was truth & what was fiction sometimes ever since the trust between us started to fade. Am I in the right to feel what im feeling right now? Im angry & upset yes very, but the kindness he had throughout..he did care in his own way...which makes things so much harder.
Tripadoodle if some way you're listening, I hope u know now where im coming from. For your own benefit & quest to be a better man like you always wanted...actually try. Head my advice. Making yourself better shouldn't be put on a womans shoulders to do for u without her getting lifted in return...its alot of weight to handle for 1 person to carry lol. Get off your ass & build on yourself, learn from everything that happened & become better for yourself & the sake of others, Because it starts with u. Go to church if possible or watch them, it really does help. Even from across the country I still want u to do just as good & help u as a friend. You promised we could remain friends & im holding my end of the bargain whether u like it or not lol it was your idea during the ride here. All I wanted in the end was to not lose u in my life completely...but i should be patient i know.. Theres more space, im not contacting u directly & respecting that, eventually ill stfu lol but I feel I need this rn. I should hate u,but I cant hate u, I do still care, u had that affect on me so much that I can't really listen to others when they say ur a douchbag lol, u were still my rock the whole time even if u didn't feel the same after a while & u did help me alot as well. I see the good in people & u are good, with well balanced snarkiness & humorous sass to boot. light a fire under ur own ass & ull be okay lol. Never stopped believing in u. Ive seen what you can do, you're very smart & know your sh*t, u will go far lol. And as a friend I'd lend u my strength if I could but the most I can do is pray for things like safety/protection, healing, forgiveness, guidance, etc. Leave it to God if u feel compelled to. Give zanabell a hug for me.
God i talk way too much 😅 No im not doing any of this for attention, I want my voice to be heard as well as a possible learning experience if it had that effect on anyone. The things we learn build character & help us understand a little more about ourselves. Probably shouldn't share cuz its nobody's business, yea ive thought of that too.. But its a blog lol, Tumblr allowed it to be that space, opinions and rants are allowed & encouraged. Nothing wrong with that 🤷♀️ so who gives a crap.
These are pictures of the NY sunrise & AZ sunset. Clouds always get me cuz of the shapes, used to to take pics of them all the time. once saw mario holding a hammer when I was a kid 😂 3rd & 4th pic is a split rainbow, never seen that b4...either someone found the gold or its deciding whether or not to connect. Probably was connected but I missed it lol. But then I looked behind me after the split 1 disappeared & a double rainbow was forming. Nature can be scary but also beautiful
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hi!! I kinda disappointed myself on the last major exam, and the next upcoming exam is also rlly important n I need it to pull up my average for this year !! however ive been feeling rlly unmotivated and tired n lazy nowadays and i think this is rlly affecting my studies.. i think the reason that ive been feeling this way is bc Im constantly surrounded by negative feelings and I kinda feel like a failure after that last exam.. so do u have any advice on how to have the motivation to study well?
hello, sweetpea!! oh god, i really know that feeling ): first of all, you are not a failure, so please don’t say that about yourself. no one is a failure if they keep on trying their best. i do understand that you feel less motivated, tired, and lazy after not doing well on a exam because i’ve been there. it’s okay to feel like that sometimes, but you need to get up and push yourself afterwards. you can’t stay in that mindset forever. i channeled all that negative energy into pushing myself to studying even harder for the next exam. honestly, my only motivation is that i’m absolutely terrified of not passing my class. but, these are some of my study tips that i found to be helpful, and hopefully, they’ll help you!
Make a list of your goals. Studies have shown that students who have a list of goals and write down their goals are more likely to accomplish them (I had to research this and write a paper about this for my engineering class). Your goal can simply be to pass a class. Write that down and put it somewhere you can see it everyday, like on the wall in front of your desk.
Think about what you can accomplish by studying and write it down. This is very similar to the first bulletpoint. For example, in my paper about my own personal goals, I said that studying will lead to improving my grades, which means I can pass the class, which means I can graduate, which means I can get a job, which means I can support myself and then finally have a dog :D
Make a schedule and stick to it. This is very important. Designate certain times to each subject and stick. to. the. schedule. Once again, studies have shown that people are more likely to study if they have a schedule written down and placed somewhere they can see it and be reminded of it. Having a planner is always useful.
Reward yourself. These little rewards are actually super motivating for me. After finishing a few hard lessons or a chapter, reward yourself. For example, indulge yourself in a yogurt parfait or your favorite coffee drink. When you accomplish a goal, give yourself a reward. You deserve it.
Find a quiet space to study with no distractions. Perhaps, use a free room in the library? Stay away from places where you might see your friends. Keep the space simple and free from distractions. for example, hide any clocks, your phone, etc. Try not to use your computer/laptop either if you can.
Make sure you have all the materials you need with you, so you won’t find excuses to get up and look for things and stop studying. Check that you have all the pens, pencils, papers, highlighters, etc. you need beforehand.
Wear comfy, plain clothes. This is actually important because if you keep fidgeting around in uncomfortable clothes or playing with sequins on your shirt or whatever, you keep getting distracted.
Eat right. Don’t skip meals to use that time for extra studying. It’s harder to remember facts and study on an empty stomach. Also, in my experience, whenever I’m studying and there’s food next to me, I just eat it regardless until the bowl is empty. So, when you’re studying, don’t put junk food next to you. Put fruits or vegetables or just eat either one when you want a snack in between studying. Eating vegetables and fruits helps you study better as well as stay healthy.
No cramming or procrastinating. We all do this. Cramming makes it harder for our brains to process everything and memorize what we just read. You should spread out your studying throughout the weeks before your exam. That way, you know all the material and will only need to review by the time the exam comes.
Don’t study with your friends. This proves only to be a distraction if you’re around your friends when studying. Actually, the best way to study would be asking your parent or an adult to test you on your material. Studying with people around your own age simply will result in no studying. And for most people, no studying means failing.
Take breaks. There is no need to feverishly study 24/7, only stopping to go to the bathroom or eat dinner. Again, studying without breaks merely stresses you out, and your brain will not be able to memorize everything. Maybe, after few lessons or every chapter, stand up and stretch. Go watch a youtube video. But make sure you watch only one, or else you’re going to end up on dog videos like three hours later.
Make up tricks to memorize your material easily. Make rhymes, song parodies, alliteration tricks, mnemonic devices, etc. to help you memorize things easier. Ex: PEMDAS (please excuse my dear aunt sally –> parenthesis, exponents, multiplication, division, addition, subtraction)
Make a music playlist. This is based on personal preference though; some people study better in silence. I study much better with some sort of music playing in the background. Don’t choose music with a ton of singing or a lot of instruments playing at once. Studies show that classical music is best for studying.
Get a good night’s sleep and go to bed early. Depriving yourself of sleep by studying until 3 AM in the morning is unhealthy and in reality, it is harder for you to memorize your notes. It is actually better for you if you go to sleep early and wake up early to study. You’re more alert, and your brain is much more capable of memorizing facts.
Relax. Right before the exam is passed out, take a couple of deep breaths, replay that favorite song of yours in your head, and give yourself a little confidence! Tell yourself that you can do this and you will bomb the exam. Just calm down and push away all the stress. You’ll do just fine!
i hope you found these to be helpful! if not, you can always ask for more advice, and i shall consult my friends for more help! i hope you have a lovely day/night, and best of luck to you on your future exams, you smart cookie! 💙
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