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sacha-da-1 · 9 months

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Always reaching, scraping, grasping for the love that I’ve craved for so long

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winters-rose-daughterofcain · 23 days

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It's actually so important to me how flawed Penelope is you don't get it. She's complex and she's kind and sweet and caring and loving and bitter and manipulative and insecure and she's young and hurt and fucking up and making mistakes and hurting people and loving people and handling things in the worst way possible with the resources she has on hand and she's allowed to.

So often for a fat (and I say that within the context of the show, Pen is a fat/pus sized character within the narrative even if Nicola isn't) character to have any storyline outside of mother or joke they have to be the perfect victim. To be fat is to be victimised by society to some degree, it is to be told you are unloved and unwanted and unworthy without anyone saying those exact words, we all know this even if we don't want to except it. It's why almost every fat character is bullied in some way even if it's passed off as a joke, and they are just expected to take it because to actually acknowledge the pain and hurt and damage that causes is to acknowledge their humanity.

There is no space for complexity when you do not recognise the humanity of a character, there is no room for mistakes or grace or forgiveness in a narrative when the character is presented as lucky to simply be there. This goes doubly so for romance, as rare as it is to even see plus sized girls as a romantic lead, when they are there is no room for mistakes, the standards they are held to are so vastly different because they can't fuck it all up, they have no room to make mistakes when people question why they're even there in the first place.

But not Penelope. She fucks up so many times over, she creates half her own problems trying to fix things or make herself feel better. It dose not shy away from the damage and underlining issues and insecurities the life she has lead has left her with, and it's sympathetic to be sure, but what she dose with it isn't. Because fat people do not have to be the perfect victim and honestly most of the time are not. Because when you tell someone how little they are worth and how out of place and undesirable they are at every turn and expect them to internalise that, especially a young girl with very little power at her immediate despoil, it doesn't always come out in a very nice palatable way. It doesn't always create nice sweet uncomplicated people who cry a little when insulted but otherwise brush it off. It creates people like Penelope, it creates anger and resentment and bitterness and a need for control.

Whistledown is so many things, not all of them negative, but it is the cause of so many problems in her life after she made it as an attempt at a solution. It has caused her to hurt people and betray people and lose some of the very few genuine connections she actually has. She manipulates people and misleads them to keep her secret, because keeping a secret like that will always result in that. Her motives are sympathetic, she rarely dose anything to bad without reasoning, she has all the excuses in the world and still at the end of the day she fucked up. Her and Eloise are the second love story of the season for a reason. She adores that girl so much and she is absolutely miserable without her, as Eloise is without her. They love each other so much and there is so much pain between them now, they're practically crying every time they look at each other. And even tho the situation was complicated an messy and not completely her fault, she did in a way cause it. She's hurt people and she's hurt herself. And I love that.

Because she's a main character. We know her and Eloise will make up even if it isn't the way it was before (arguably a good thing but that's a different post.) Because she's a romantic lead, because we know, even if we don't know how they get there yet, that she will get her happy ending with the man she absolutely adores and who loves her just as much. It will not be easy I don't want it to be easy, Colin has every right to be angry and hurt and betrayed and he deserves to have the space to say whatever it is he's feeling and to have a negative reaction, but he will forgive her. Part of that is just because of who he is and the relationship he has to her (mandatory Colin appreciation moment) but it's also because the narrative has given her room and grace to be flawed.

There is so much to love about Penelope. She's so intelligent, and she's funny, she's a good listener, she makes people feel heard and important, she's kind, she's attentive, she's romantic, she's creative, she's beautiful. She is a victim and people and society do hurt her, but that's not all she is. She's given the space to be more and still be forgiven and loved just like anyone else. Because her actions is what she's apologising for not her existence. She dose not need to earn her place in a love story just because she's fat, it's her actually flaws and mistakes that exist in abundance no matter how sympathetic some of them might be, that she has to make up for. And I adore that and her.

You take away so much of her character and her agency and her complexity when you say she did nothing wrong or that she's the absolute devil. Let her be flawed, let her be someone trying their best and failing at it, let her make mistakes. But give her some grace, for once the narrative is. Her happy ending will come Bridgerton is a romance show, but she'll have to work for it. Colin and her will work for and earn their happy ending together, because they love each other and because of who they are and what they mean to each other they will find a way to make it work, but also because the writers let them and her find it.

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scarletlotus182 · 1 month

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I think what a lot of destiel fans forget is that outside the spn bubble most of us dislike Supernatural and anything related and have mostly heard of it against our will.

The whole destiel news meme is largely because of circumstances surrounding it and not because people were genuinely interested in what was going on in the show.

I promise you when it comes to cultural impact, Gundam, a series thats been around since '79 and it's most recent series which focused on a gay relationship ending in marriage in a country where gay marriage is not yet legal has had the bigger impact.

Everyone is begging you to step outside of your western-centric bubble

#scarlet.txt #destiel #sulemio #i tried to make this not sound mean #i promise you there will be white men to ship wherever you go #ESPECIALLY in Gundam #EDIT: Unironically destiel girlies would also get better mlm ships out of gundam #where the directors of each series actually appreciate their female fans/mlm shippers #like the series creator directly credits the female fans shipping mlm for the success of the franchise #and wrote a whole movie about the two male leads' messy relationship drama #girlies PLEASE it is safe over here #i promise

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eddiezpaghetti · 5 months

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It has come to my attention that SOME OF YOU who read my last Byler post remain UNCONVINCED. So I'm gonna tack onto it this:

I'm older than fucking God and air, and I've been out and proud since 2007. Yes, I know what homophobia is, and yes, I know what queerbaiting is. I know about Supernatural and Teen Wolf and Sherlock and blahdyblahdyblah. No new ground is being covered here. I thought I made that clear in the original post, but, clearly, I did not.

I am aware of queerbaiting and homophobia, and I'm still wholeheartedly certain in Byler being canon anyway.

Okay, so there are three types of relationship I want to discuss when it comes to queerbaiting. They're all, like, "queer relationships that could have happened, but didn't".

First off, queer-coding. This isn't really a thing so much anymore, but it still crops up every once in a while. I'd argue it probably happens most with male-male relationships in family shows these days. First example that comes to mind is Mr. Smiley and Mr. Frowny from Steven Universe. You can't make a relationship canon because some shitty overhead bastard overhead said no, so you get as close as you can without compromising the show. Can't make someone gay? Well, now their comedy routine is a blatant allegory for a romantic relationship. Boom-shaka-laka. This is something I don't see being a problem with regards to Stranger Things, but I want it to be there as contrast, a demonstration of one of many things queerbaiting is not. However, one could argue that, thus far, Will Byers is, canonically, queer-coded. It's pretty fucking heavily implied in the show, and the creators have confirmed it, and you're gonna be able to see it if you're not FUCKING BLIND, but word of god is not technically canon which means that interviews don't technically make something canon, blahdyblahdyblahdyblah, technicalities, Robin has been explicitly stated in the text to be queer while Will has, thus far, not, outside of good ol' Show-Don't-Tell. Of course, anyone with two brain cells to rub together can tell that that's going to change by the end of Season 5, but, hey, for what it's worth, I'm throwing this out there.

Alrighty, Thingamajingama Number Two: "Oops, I accidentally made the greatest love story known to man." AKA, a genuine, honest-to-goodness mistake. Unfortunately, we do live in a heteronormative society. Sometimes people who don't think about being gay much write a friendship that's incredibly compelling and don't even consider the possibility that it could have been read as romantic. Something something Top Gun something. This is, again, not queerbaiting. This is Steddie, this is Ronance, this is Elmax, this is your favorite flavor of non-canon ship this week, this is not Byler. The creators know DAMN well what they're doing. They've talked about it. We know this. Nothing new here.

Which brings us to the topic of discussion here. Actual queerbaiting. This usually starts out as an "accidental greatest love story", and then reacts to fan response. And when I say "reacts", I mean like a goddamn chemical reaction. Like bleach and ammonia, bitch. It's noxious and it's gonna kick your fucking ass without mercy. This is when a creator is like, "Hey, let's get our queer audience invested, but we're not actually going to give them what they want because our straight audience isn't here for that/we personally think it's gross/we don't give enough of a shit to want to research a goddamn thing to write a real gay character," blah blah blah whatever excuse they want to come up with this time.

And when you think "queerbaiting", I want you to think "bullying". Because that's what it is. It's lucrative bullying, like beating us up and taking our lunch money, but it's bullying all the same. And it's a real goddamn thing, even if people misuse the word a lot, often when they mean one of the two above, sometimes when they mean "bury your gays", which is another homophobic thing entirely that I'm not going to get into here. Queerbaiting is the thing we're focused on, and it's real, and it's bullying. And here's the reason I want you to think of it as bullying:

They

Think

It's

Funny.

They are actively making fun of us.

That's why Dean had the "Cas, get out of my ass," line in Supernatural. It's why the "Do you like boys?" line happened in Teen Wolf. It's why "Lie with me, Watson," happened in the RDJ Sherlock Holmes movies. Because "It's just a joke, mate." "It was just a prank, bro." "You didn't really think it would happen, did you?" "You should see your face."

So here's probably the biggest reason I don't think it's specifically queerbaiting in this specific instance of Will Byers and Mike Wheeler.

Stranger Things has never, not once, made a gay joke. Ever.

Every single time queerness comes up, it's dead serious.

Lonnie calls Will a fag, and the show is not at all reluctant to show what a goddamn horrible person he is. And when Hopper latches onto that, it's not as "Hahah, is he gay, though?" It's because he's trying to determine a potential motive for Will's disappearance, and even if someone had interpreted it as a joke, Joyce immediately has a line that functions as snapping her fingers in front of the audience's face and yelling "FOCUS" when she says "He's MISSING." Basically outright saying "This isn't funny!"

Troy calls him a fairy, along with targeting Lucas and Dustin for their skin color and disability respectively, and Mike gets damn near murderous. Troy is portrayed as a goddamn monster and the show portrays it as justice when El makes him piss his pants and later breaks his arm.

Steve calls Jonathan "queer" as a slur and gets the shit beat out of him for it.

Billy's father is revealed to be homophobic and abusive in the same breath.

Mike says "It's not my fault you don't like girls!" and we're shown how devastated Will is and Mike immediately follows him to beg for forgiveness.

There is a joke in Robin's coming-out scene, but it's not at Robin's expense. It's at Steve's. Specifically for being heteronormative.

Jonathan has multiple scenes where he's trying so hard to tell Will that he's always going to love him as he is, whether he's gay or not, without pressuring him to come out before he's ready.

Even when there's a little bit of ribbing at Robin's expense, it's always because she's an awkward nerd who's nervous around pretty girls, just the same as Lucas and Dustin are teased when they both first develop crushes on Max, and even then, even then, it always comes as a package deal where they make fun of Steve's girl problems at the same time.

Stranger Things is an emphatically pro-gay show. It may not be the core point of the show the way it is in, say, Our Flag Means Death, but there is nothing less than respect for its queer characters. Its queer characters are always taken completely seriously. No one is making fun of us. They never have. That's why I have serious doubts that this is queerbaiting. It would come completely out of left field for the bullying to start in Stranger Things' final season.

So it's not at all likely to be queerbaiting because queerness is taken completely seriously. The creators have talked about Will's queerness, at least, so it's not an accident. And queer-coding would be silly to expect from this show when it's already on its final season. Like, what is Netflix gonna do? Cancel it? Not to mention all the explicit queerness that's in there already. And no one's gonna "What about the children?" a show that's had sex scenes in it since the first season.

There's no fakeout here. It's gonna happen. Breathe.

#byler #Part 2 I fucking guess.#Wasn't planning on making a Part 2 but here we are.#I seriously just want you guys to feel safe.#I'm not naive. I do not say any of this shit lightly.#But I've been around the block long enough to know what queerbaiting looks like and this ain't it. Promise.#Will's already been confirmed as in love with Mike for fuck's sake. You don't think the other half of the equation's gonna follow through?#There has only ever been one other situation where I've gone 'Okay this is going in gay places' with no doubt whatsoever without being told #And that was with Daja in Tamora Pierce's 'Will of the Empress' when I read it at like sixteen or whatever #and she wound up having whole-ass fuckin' gay sex.#I was right then and I'm right now. I swear.

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wizard-hubris · 8 months

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So....genuine question from someone who doesn't really keep up with Starkid stuff apart from the YT musical releases: was Max Jaegerman supposed to be played by Jeff Blim? Because within the first five minutes of him being onstage the script, the melodies and tbh even the performance feel like a role Jeff would write for himself, looking at the previous musicals (not noted uncritically but also not unkindly), so I'm really surprised to see somebody else in the role. Did he get ill or was this casting always intended?

#nerdy prudes must die #starkid #npmd spoilers #(just to be safe)#the guy even slightly looks like an off-brand jeff #and his performance feels very 'here look at jeff blim's previous performances. we want you to emulate that'#again: not meant overly negatively so i'm sorry if anyone receives this negatively #i do have opinions about jeff's part writing that's from what i've seen very opposed to fandom's general opinions on that #but i don't want to get into that this is meant in good faith i promise

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blindmagdalena · 3 months

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Heeyy a bit of a self indulgent ask here but I had a phobia/trauma trigger today and it caused me to have a messy sobbing panic attack. Do you have anything on how Homelander would deal with his s/o having a panic attack like that? almost completely inconsolable. I know this is self serving and indulgent and I’m sorry for over sharing homelander is a comfort character for me and you write him exquisitely. If you’re not comfortable with this just ignore

Homelander was sixteen when he had his first panic attack. He'd flown further and faster away than he'd ever had the freedom to and collapsed in a dense woodland, sobbing and rocking his body against the cool forest floor.

He'd pulled his hair so hard it should have come loose, grit his teeth so tightly they should have cracked, and choked so badly on his own constricting throat that it should have caved in.

They didn't. He's invulnerable, after all. As solid as marble.

It was the first attack, but not the last.

That's how he recognizes it so quickly in you.

"Hey," he says, ears attuned to the rabbit-like pound of your heart. "Heyy, hey, it's okay. I'm right here, you see me? Hey." He's only just found you, he doesn't know yet what your trigger was, but he can ascertain that later.

Your staccato breaths and sharp sobs, the sea salt smell of tears streaking your cheeks, are nearly enough to rouse his own panic by proxy. He needs it to stop. He needs you to stop. He cares about you too much for you to scare him like this.

"Hey, you hear me?" He asks, cupping either side of your face. You can't answer through it. Your tongue is gnarled with panic and you're sobbing so hard he fears you'll choke yourself on it. He's not even sure you see him.

He takes you into his arms, one moving smoothly around your waist while the other cups the back of your head. He holds gently at first, grip gradually tightening, compressing your body against his in the hopes that the hammer of your heart will meet and match the steady beat of his own.

"Sssshhhhhhh," he shushes by your ear, lifting you just enough to keep you on your feet, but take from you the weight of your own body.

"I've got you. Whatever it is, it's okay. It's okay. I've got you. M'gonna take care of it, alright? Ssshh," he says, rocking you the same way he used to rock himself in the corner of the bad room, soothing himself with the thump of his own skull against those sterile white walls.

He knows it's working when you slip your arms around him in turn. He continues to hush you, whispering more honeyed assurances in your ear, the core sentiment always the same.

I'm here. You're safe. I love you.

It's everything he can think that he always wanted to hear in these moments of raw, horrifically human weakness.

Eventually, your breaths begin to even out, though your heart continues to thunder in his ears, still convinced that the danger hasn't yet vanished. He tries not to take that personally and scoops you up the rest of the way into his arms.

"That's it, just like that," he coos, pressing a firm kiss to your forehead. "Breathe. Breathe. Good... Light as a feather now, okay? Like you can fly," he tells you, sharing the greatest comfort he's ever known. His only real escape has always been his weightlessness, the ability to shed gravity at will. He uses his strength in an attempt to share even a sliver of that sense of freedom with you.

Maybe it works, maybe it doesn't. All he knows is that your heart starts to slow alongside the flow of your tears. He kisses your wet cheeks, the bridge of your nose, your forehead. He whispers praise and love with each one, voice barely above a whisper.

"I'm sorry," you choke out. He's appalled that would be your first instinct.

"Don't," he says firmly, though his voice is still low. "Don't. I can carry it for you. Carry you. What's the point of super strength otherwise?" He murmurs, a smile playing at the edges of his lips.

You almost smile back, and that's enough for him. He kisses the crease between your brows until it smooths, and the highs of your cheeks until the tears dry up, and your lips until they're ready to speak again.

He'll hold you for as long as it takes your body to realize the threat was only ever in your mind, and that there isn't a thing in this goddamn world he would ever let hurt you.

#i'm so sorry you experienced that today my darling ilu #i hope this helps i tried to get it out asap #he would take such good care because he knows what it's like to be fucked up by your own body #you don't ever have to apologize to me i promise #i'm all for self-indulgence and comfort #you're welcome and safe here!!!#homelander x reader #homelander x you #x reader #darling anon #ask and you shall receive #my writing

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tiredandsleepyaf · 7 months

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I don’t think goyim realize that it’s not uncommon for Jewish people to be forcibly assimilated into other cultures. It’s not uncommon for antisemitic goyim to date or marry Jews, even though they hate them for being Jewish. It’s not uncommon for antisemitic goyim to abuse their Jewish family members. It’s not uncommon for antisemitic goyim to marry into Jewish families, cut Jewish children off from their culture, and teach them to hate themselves. Keep that in mind when you’re talking about how safe your country is for Jews and when you’re justifying your own antisemitism. Because right now I fear for any Jewish person who ends up dating or is unfortunate enough to have to be in proximity to some of you goyim who are cheering at Jewish death, labeling all Jews as untrustworthy, and mocking Jews for being afraid of rising antisemitism.

#and that’s not even going into how some goyim fetishize Jews #here’s a tip #instead of using what’s going on with I/P as an excuse to be antisemitic #try making your country safer for Jews and make the Jews around you feel safe #instead of making yourself a danger to Jews and their culture #I promise you that will do more to help Palestine than screaming gas the Jews will #tw antisemitism #antisemitism #jumblr #jewish #tw abuse

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dumblr · 1 year

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Your pain is safe with me and I will stay with you longer than your sorrows if you let me.

#quotes #feelings #love #sorrow #emotions #wise words #i mean it #love quotes #romantic quotes #thoughtful #pain #i will stand by this #i will be there #i promise #you are safe here #dumblr

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justgleekout · 8 months

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Blaine looked up at his boyfriend, his mouth agape. “I never thought you’d like to bottom,” he said in a breathy voice.

“Only with you,” Kurt panted.

Full artwork on Ao3

#glee #klaine #kurt hummel #blaine anderson #klaine fanart #glee fanart #you see the thing is..#Kurt loves the feeling but he never feels safe enough unless he is with Blaine #hc? you tell me I think its just facts #anywayssss here is the art I promised #i think its good enough #would you believe I hate drawing dick?#it leaves noting to the imagination #but the pose was just sooooo #!!!!!#you know?#so this is for you #please enjoy #my art

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suenitos · 11 months

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it's been a long time coming but thank you all for 200 followers! :') DTIYS rules below ^_^

anyone is welcome to participate! no time limit

keep the general pose, otherwise no restrictions

use #suenitos200 or tag me if youre comfortable ^_^

have fun! every entry will go on my fridge

#suenitos200 #nov.art #dreamwastaken #georgenotfound #sapnap #dteam fanart #dream team #dteamblr #dreamwastaken fanart #georgenotfound fanart #sapnap fanart #ive had this reference since january ive wanted to draw it so baddd but had no reason to until now. um obviously dont have 200 anymore #(280 yipples!) but it means a lot genuinely even as a stan acc lol. i do love this community weve made here i feel safe to be myself here #ANYWAY. im not rly expecting anyone to do this but still wanted to get it out there finally because i did promise. thank you :')

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nias-keca · 2 years

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may all blessings find their way to you ☆

#UPDATED WITH THE OFFICIAL ENG LYRICS ^____^#you can rb from someone who's already done it before if you want the jp vesion.#^ that's the last line of the opening theme，along the lines of 'i give you all my blessings'#the witch from mercury #suletta mercury #miorine rembran #g-witch #gundam #i've had it on loop and yea yes i DO i AM giving them my all fullest blessings.... T____T #mhm so hi hello as promised here is the piece titled 'they arrive safely on earth! (with no pursuants!)'#that i've prepared to reblog again and again everytime my blorbos are faced with trials and tribulations!#your honour i've only had these kids for a week and i love them so much. i think they deserve the world.#the background is a picture i took at the gardens earlier this year :3 #i wanted to zip up suletta's shoes so badly.#also i think miorine's heels are ~7cm.#ok bye!#edit: i think i made the height difference too great. its ok. suletta grew taller. enjoy.#sulemio #mioletta

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uncanny-tranny · 9 months

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Your influence in this world doesn't need to be all-encompassing and World Changing. It can be small ripples. It can be gentle and easily missed.

Let yourself do small things. So often, people have this idea that to do "good things," it must be a grand gesture that changes every little thing. Honestly, that can be so intimidating and scary. We weren't meant to carry the world by ourselves. We each contribute, often in small ways, often in ways that aren't seen by everybody. But the people you affect might just take that kindness you gave them and let it light them home. Let yourself be that in whatever way you want. You don't need to carry the world alone.

#positivity #encouragment #encouraging words #ngl i gave a customer a lot of food for free because i could tell they were down on their luck and they deserve to eat #and i hope i contributed to them realizing this world will cherish them and they aren't forgotten #because it's scary not knowing if you can eat or drink or if you will be safe enough to sleep and while i don't know their story...#...does it matter if i do? i will do whatever i can to make sure the people around me are well-fed and taken care of #i think small things like this are honestly what make this life worth living #i don't think i would want to be here if it were not for moments like these #it's never not worth it to do what you can/are comfortable doing #and i hope it can come back around to reward you tenfold <3 #i used to labour under the idea that Changing the World is the only way you can 'be good'#and that made me scared to do small things like this. and i partially regret that. but i don't blame myself or anybody else who feel...#...the way i did. doing 'good things' can be scary and intimidating and it's okay to be uncertain or fearful. it's okay; i promise <3 #i just wanted to remind somebody that you don't have to change the world in one fell swoop. it's okay to Just Be #i love you (platonically) if you have read this far. i hope you do something kind for yourself #you - too - deserve good things. you deserve kindness and satisfaction and wonder

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transmechanicus · 3 months

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i've been here a long time and I've still got a while yet to go, but I'm glad you're here beside me and you've been a treasure to know

#my stuff #basically every day i feel So Old and also like there's So Much Ahead #and ultimately it just fills me with love for all my friends and acquaintences #i love you i love you i love you i love you #eat well drive safe sleep soundly stay warm i am here i will do what i can good morning good night #everything will be okay i promise #we will all rise and grow and prosper in ways big and small #i am not a god i am not an angel but i can hold your hand or tell you im thinking of you #we have but one command: Live.#personally. privately. and just for me at the end of this. ave omnissiah.

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allgremlinart · 7 months

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"are u rly gonna be watching the atla live action" do u have any idea how long its been since we've gotten any book 1 content.. like yeah.. im barely gonna post about it its gonna be my dirty little shame secret but.. yeah..

#atla #like. you have my promise that the only way im gonna engage with it is to maybe steal some of its ideas #for fanart. there shall be NO meta or review discussion !! you will be safe from that here !! I promise !!#this is a safe space for people who dont give a fuck !!!#also cus my old man dad wants to watch it and I support old people 👍 but then again he also watched both Suicide Squads..

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teathattast · 17 days

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You've been walking alone for so long

And you've been building a wall 'round your heart

But I promise there is a light

At the end of this long ride, ooh-ooh

This time, I know you'll be alright

'Cause I'm standin' by your side, ooh-ooh

#love notes #sofia carson #hold on to me #i know it hasn't always been easy #staying away because you're scared #but i promise that you're safe here #i'll stand by you and quell your fears

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butchviking · 7 months

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i love when ppl irl ask me about what social media i have and i say 'do you remember tumblr.com?' and theyre like you cannot be fucking serious.

#most common response is 'who still uses that???' me. i just told you its me i still use that #some ppl here say like 'oh i could never tell anyone i use tumblr' you literally can its fine i promise NO-ONE is going 2 ask fr your url #its like saying 'yeah i live in a mouldy cave i like it' no-one is going to say 'oh i'll come by for a visit!' ur fine ur privacy is safe

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