why don't they just come out already?

Apurva Asrani Is an award winning filmmaker living in Goa, India. Among his best known works are the human rights drama Aligarh (2016), and the courtroom drama Criminal Justice: Behind Closed Doors (2020),

Asrani came out via Twitter. He described his struggles being gay in a homophobic society. He and his partner Siddhant had to pretend they were cousins for years to live in the same apartment, otherwise if the truth were known they could have been evicted. They were asked to not let their neighbours know that they were a gay couple.

In 2018, when the five-judge Constitutional bench (equivalent to the US Supreme Court) struct down anti-homosexual laws and made same-sex relations between consenting adults legal, Asrani described the impact.

“I feel vindicated today. I have lived openly as a gay man for the last few years, and while I have found much support, I have also been questioned, ridiculed and threatened for being myself. Today’s judgment makes me proud.”

He said he cried when he read Justice Indu Malhotra statement:

“History owes and apology to LGBT persons for ostracisation and discrimination.”

Unfortunately, Asrani’s relationship with Siddhant was a victim of Covid19. Due to the pressures of self-isolation and social distancing, in April 2021, Asrani announced that he and Siddhant had separated. He explain that their relationship had been "important and valuable”. He also apologized to his fans for the “disappointment" the news might cause.

If you haven’t seen this circulating yet please trust me that you truly cannot possibly guess how this guy is about to frame his hot takes until his second comment

I love the HC that Yona is Aro/Ace and she is 100% for Sidon being with Link cause she is very happy that if she is to be arranged in a marriage, it's one that's perfectly platonic, where Sidon too is happy.

And just Dorephan like... pestering about grandpups... and Yona like "Oh no... I am not pregnant... again... shucks. Damn. This is crazy. Shits crazy. Wow. Did not see that outcome. Insane."

Once the old man kicks the bucket Sidon is totally making it clear he's wed to Link and changing the dumb betrothal laws so Yona doesn't get screwed over either.

What if they were cowboys and what if they kissed......

bonus to my last work

I went to the woods because I wanted to live deliberately... I wanted to live deep and suck all the marrow out of life! To put to rout.. all that was not life, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. - Henry David Thoreau

Alloros will See romance repulsion and lovelessness and heartlessness and see it as an attack on romance. They will claim to be supportive of aros but caveat that with the requirement our support of romance in its current state rather than trying to understand the ways in which we have deconstructed amatonormativity

I’m so used to BL actors leaning super hard into fanservice but either leaning too far into queerbaiting or denying it outright that Nut speaking openly about being queer and his ex partners is just like. Oh. That’s so lovely.

a love like burning

WTF

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everyone seems so convinced dalinar is going to be homophobic to renarin. maybe im just a delusional dalinar stan but in row 54 when dalinar is talking to renarin about him being an enlightened truthwatcher and he says, and i quote, "whatever you are son, it's a blessing. you may be a different kind of radiant, but you're radiant all the same. you shouldn't feel the need to hide this" that sure sounds like a parent who has figured out that their child is queer and is not going to press them on it but is trying to get across that they Accept Their Son's Differences. like im not saying dalinar is a champion for gay rights or anything and im certainly not saying that he's free of the biases of heterosexual society just because sadeas sucked him off or whatever, but what i AM saying is that he's a moderate liberal dad who is a little bit confused about how to be a good ally but who is trying. and maybe that trying doesn't hit at all for renarin. maybe dalinar being like "and that's okay" a little too affirmatively when renarin comes out to him is not going to actually help renarin feel supported in the gendered hellscape that is vorin society. but i certainly don't think that he's going to be angry or, like, disowning renarin or talking about what a disappointment he is. this man learned how to read for chrissakes. and when renarin learned how to read dalinar wasn't like oh son this is so shameful he was like well this is odd and unexpected! but i have a lot more important shit going on lmao. i think renarin coming out to dalinar would be like that.

1972.

Alan Stang, editor of the John Birch Society magazine American Opinion, claimed Canada was a Communist dictatorship run by homosexuals.

I guess Frank's reaction to Klinger is homophobic but like... man that's such a complicated thing. Most of the time he's more angry that Klinger is flaunting regulations than anything else, and of course Klinger is wearing the dresses to flaunt regulations. But this all comes back to the central point that gay themes on MASH are used to make a point about authority.

Okay. So. I had a whole 1700+ word essay written about my thoughts on too many bl fans assuming actors are straight but it was very uhhh rant formatted and got too heated so I’m gonna try again and be a little more chill and concise abt it…

Let me get straight to the point. I didn’t mention fanservice or shipping real people in that little post I made (I wasn’t expecting it to get any notes tbh lmao) but that’s very much related to what I’m talking about. In my experience, being vehemently against fanservice and rps goes hand in hand with assuming these actors are straight which is of course heteronormativity (homophobia!).

Fanservice & shipping are a vital part to the bl ecosystem, and they aren’t going away any time soon. And I don’t mean because it’s great for promoting a product or an upcoming series (which, yes, it can be, not denying that) but fanservice, in fact, queers our perception of “truth” and “reality” when it comes to these actors’ lives. When an actor is purposefully vague about their relationship or sexuality, they’re able to simultaneously not put themselves at risk by being “out” in a more traditional/upfront (perhaps western…) sense while also being capable of being perceived as queer to some degree by their audience. Infinite homosexuality glitch! Shippers are important because they play a role in believing their fav bl couple are together for real aka they are gay for real (also it’s just fun to do…). Yes, some people overstep boundaries but for the most part people are capable of being respectful.

I see a lot of people say bl actors are absolutely not dating each other and 99% of them are straight and probably even homophobic etc. constantly but like… who told you that? If anything, a job where you’re perceived as gay while still being not out enough (having such a hard time phrasing what I mean by this lol) to keep your safety would be way more appealing to literal queer people right? And surely most actors know what they’re getting into by partaking? Yes there can be issues with fanservice, rps, etc. but I can’t help but notice everyone seems to be focused on the issues and never the benefits. Assuming the majority of bl actors are straight is just plain homophobic, and I might argue it’s counterproductive to resist and say it’s “none of my business” when they’re purposefully going out of their way to make it our business (if you’re not into fanservice/shipping that’s fine whatever but what I’m saying is they are trying to make a point to be visibly queer on some level). Yeah, not everyone is gay, I know. But I have a good feeling there’s a lot more queer people in the industry than most people assume.

Listen, I've been there. I literally walked the streets of Salt Lake City with my girlfriend and thought "are we gonna get hatecrimed if we hold hands?"

But here's a protip from Mormonland: even a fervently homophobic Mormon will never say a word to your face about it. Not to a stranger anyway. Not in person.

You don't understand how deeply Being Nice is ingrained in our culture. Every Mormon who's served a mission has been trained to take any and all discomfort and abuse with a smile. They know about catching flies with honey, and you don't get converts by stirring up "the spirit of contention."

So you can be very openly gay around a homophobic Mormon, and they will smile. They will Be Nice.

Will they complain about you to another homophobe later? Will they vote to take your rights away? Will they write vile things on the internet? Will they do it all under the guise of "I love gay people! Really! I just have some Disagreements?" Probably. And it's shitty.

But you can use Being Nice. The homophobic Mormon will be an accomplice to many a Gay Thing if the alternative is no longer Being Nice. And maybe, somewhere under all the Evil Cult Brainwashing (🙄) the homophobic Mormon will start to rethink their homophobia.

Or you can just make them extremely uncomfortable as you trap them by societal convention. That's fun too.