Dungeon Meshi - About Beauty

I hate you preserving beauty at the cost of enjoyment.

I saw a video of a woman with extremely thick hair doing a thinning method at home. One comment said "my hairdresser heart weeps" because apparently her method may lead to frizz and impact a unified hair look. The woman had so much hair it was giving her headaches.

Its the same as people telling me when I had long hair never to cut it because its so impressive. Its people telling natural redheads never to dye their hair because its such a rare pretty colour.

Its transmasc people being told they were so pretty as a girl and are wasting that.

Its girls being told they are wasting their figure/physical attributes because they are not displaying them constantly and wearing comfortable baggy clothes.

It's people telling you to never go in the sun, not smile and not to use a straw because it will give you wrinkles. Its being told not to eat certain foods because they are bad for your skin, or to do eat other foods because they are good for your skin regardless of whether you enjoy either of those foods. It's being expected to put hours into your skin care and prioritise it over activities you enjoy so you have younger looking skin when you are old.

It's being expected to wear clothes that are uncomfortable because they make you look thinner/more like an hourglass. Not to move in certain ways because it will be unflattering.

It's telling people not to prioritise themselves and their interests in their decisions but instead to prioritise their skin/hair/figure/etc.

I did not agree to preserve whatever natural features i was born with like a one man historical society for myself just because i happened to be made of those genes. I have every right to use and enjoy my body in ways other people don't think fitting and that don't preserve features that currently fit societal beauty standards. I do not agree to hold aesthetic pursuit over comfort and health and happiness.

I know one thing. When i am old i will certainly regret every single day i ate a papaya for breakfast (i hate papaya) instead of a pancake and didn't go into the sun. I will not regret having wrinkles, i just hope they are from laughing.

lol

I’m happy that Käärijä looks the way he does and dresses the way he does because for way too long, we’ve had guys daring to show their torso and midriff only if they starved themselves and looked the way advertisers told them to look.

And then Käärijä comes and dresses like this whole having a normal body

And the reaction?

Well from what I see on social media

Girls love it

Every year, europals have their sweetheart and girls have someone they’re gonna fall in love with, and this year, all points towards Käärja

So basically, once again, girls are clearly communicating what they want. And what girls want is not what advertisers say that girls want.

What girls want is this

And I love everything about it!

Black hair fierce stare, my hair speaks volumes.

This woman’s NINE year old daughter told her that she’s getting made fun of for having body hair (fucking insane btw) and instead of telling her 'Girl, fuck them kids. You’re a mammal so you grow body hair and that’s completely normal. There is nothing wrong with you. You’re great just the way you are and you shouldn’t change yourself to appease others.'

(You know, like ACTUALLY teaching her self confidence?? Helping her feel like she’s good enough despite the fact that our sexist society will constantly try to tell her otherwise??)

She decided to basically teach her that those bullies are right and there actually IS something wrong with the way her body naturally looks.

'Oh, you’re getting bullied for having body hair? Yeah, having body hair is a bad thing, the way your legs and arms look like is shameful but thankfully razors exist and they can fix you!! 😁😁 #girlmum #selfcare #selfconfidence'

Do those people not think? Like at all?

What’s next?

My 14 year old daughter told me she’s getting bullied for having a big nose so we scheduled a nose job for her to 'make her feel better'?

My 10 year old daughter is getting teased for having small lips so she’s getting lip fillers soon?

My 8 year old daughter is getting made fun of at school for having a big forehead so I am chopping half of her fucking head off??

Stop. Just stop.

video context: the woman in the video is applying mascara and the text on the screen has a quote that says "I could never spend that much time on my mascara." The audio overlaying the video is a sound bite that says "what a lame gimmick," which is inferred to be a response to the quote on the screen. this is essentially just another video defending wearing makeup and the time women waste on it, and that it's somehow "lame" to make any dissenting statement about not wanting to waste half an hour of your day carefully applying mascara.

this video has tons of likes and most of the comments under this video are like the ones above. it might seem like a harmless, playful video on the surface, but it just goes to show you how feminine beauty rituals like applying makeup every day are a complete time waste and energy suck on women's daily lives. men are not required to spend half an hour doing their mascara to make it "perfect." men aren't encouraged to set aside an hour or more of their morning just dedicated to putting a mask on their face that they're just going to take off at the end of the day anyway, rinse and repeat. like why have we normalized that it is a worthwhile use of our time to spend hours applying makeup each week? how is this mindset good for girls and women? why is it seen as "lame" to even mildly criticize these practices? this is how the patriarchy steals away women's time and energy, by enforcing these beauty standards and rituals onto us so that we don't have the time or energy to do or think about anything else.

Thin privilege is having a normal partner.

No fat person in a healthy relationship has a normal partner. Our partners have to have reflected upon and grappled with the cultural stigma against fatness, particularly in beauty standards, and somehow overcome it.

Our partners have to have rejected the constant messaging that fat people are physically and emotionally and mentally less-than everyone else, or have some kind of giant personality flaw, or have some dark hidden trauma that "caused" us to become fat.

Our partners have to have rejected the constant messaging that fat people make worse partners and parents, that we are socially contagious, that we unwittingly/uncaringly contribute to climate change, that we exemplify excessive materialism.

Our partners have to have rejected the media that has equated people with our body types as pathetic, as jokes, as villains.

The partners of fat people are exceptional.

Thin privilege is having a huge dating pool because you don't need an exceptional partner to be treated with basic respect and dignity, as you already have it by default.

DISCLAIMER : I AM NOT INSULTING ANYONE WHO DOESN'T LOOK LIKE THAT OR IN ANY WAY SAYING THIS IS WHAT A "SUPERIOR GUY" LOOKS LIKE. I AM SIMPLY DESCRIBING THE SO CALLED "BEAUTY STANDARD".

Well said. X

i love more women appreciating grey hair because i've always found it so beautiful and seeing older women around me talk about it with fear and anxiety, discussing how they'd dye it, seeing media where the second a woman gets a grey hair they'd shamefully pluck it or dye it away, like it was something literally immutably horrifying happening to their bodies. really made me sad as a child to see, but i love seeing more and more women embrace it and hate having to hide natural changes to their bodies, especially when it's something so lovely.

Do y'all think the Hollow Knight is conventionally attractive by bug standards?

I am no artist, but I made some pretend buttons or stickers in the color scheme similar to the Lesbian Labrys flag, but with a cooler toned purple out of respect. Anyone is free to use them however they please, so long as there is no hate speech involved.

Feminism is the answer to female liberation. Gender abolishment has been at the root of feminist theory since it’s conception, as it places men and women in categoric boxes and should no longer be a necessary social construct in modern day society. Men and women should not be defined by society’s opinion of what “masculinity” and “femininity” is as if should they not fulfill those requirements, they do not qualify. You are worth more than fulfilling your societies conceptions of being. You are and your spirit is valued beyond how well you are perceived by others. You deserve healthcare and safety under legislation. No child should be kicked out of their homes for being gender-non-conforming. We are all people, regardless of sex.