yall ever just like. 🙃

"I told her that you were the first person I'd ever met as an adult who wasn't ashamed to not want sex. I told her you looked at me and said, Sex, for me, doesn't mean anything. Even if it did, it wouldn't mean what it does for other people. It wouldn't mean closeness. That's just not how I say I love you.

I told her you were the first person I loved without needing to escape. You didn't do drugs, so I couldn't dump my head in them. We didn't have sex, so I couldn't throw my body at the issue. I had to look at myself, and maybe that was the problem? She said, Not even once?, returning to the sex thing with shock. I wanted to slap her, but instead I just said, No, not once. She asked me if I regretted it. I told her no, that we knew other ways to communicate, other ways to love, other ways to touch each other. The conversation made me miss you even more. It reminded me that most people think sex is where love goes to graduate, that sex is where love matures. I always forget that we're not the norm."

from Vagabonds! by Eloghosa Osunde

back when I was determined to open an etsy shop or something (lol maybe someday when I have more motivation) I made these to print as stickers 🌈

might as well post em for now for others to enjoy? free for personal use, with credit!

Every time I see y’all say a character isn’t queer on here I genuinely think you just don’t understand the character the way I do

When media only represented lgbt people as sassy and promiscuous, everyone cried for more wholesome stories. Now that the norm is wholesome falling in love stories, people are demanding kinks again.

Girl, your enemy isn't one or the other. Your enemy is The Single Narrative and pretending that either representation is Bad is a fool's game.

Just because something is more prevalent at the moment doesn't make it inherently bad. It's perfectly good to represent that parts of the experience. We just need to recognise that we need to start diversifying our stories when one particular narrative starts becoming too prevalent, instead of declaring one thing Bad Representation and going into the exact opposite camp to show how Not That we are. If that's the only attitude we have, then we risk making this new Opposite the only new narrative.

Prevalent depictions tend to come in waves of reactions to things happening in society but also very much in relation to previous depictions. You see this not just inside LGBT narratives but also in media representation of racial stereotypes, focus on masculine and feminen tendencies in fashion history, etc.

Lately though, I've been seeing posts getting more and more hostile towards the Previous Representation as if it's that experience's fault for existing - such as lgbt people who "pass straight" vs "incredibly queercoded", narratives of people who want to heal troubled family relations and a general tendency for creative work (especially in writing prompts) to just take one trope and inverting it, then calling that the peak of creativity, even when there's not necesarrily any bottomline thought to what this new story is trying to say beyond "being the opposite".

That's not to say any one person who wants to try turning tropes on their heads are inherently Problematic or anything of the sort, but it's worth examining if one representation makes that representation inherently problematic, or just in need of more diversity.

More diversity than just pointing at the opposite camp and making that the new norm until we're all sick to death of that one. Lest we just repeat the same cycle without creating actual diverse representation; Or even worse, start creating the idea that the beautiful, multi-faceted experience that is the LGBT community as a whole just falls into new binaries of experiences than just sex and preference.

I agree with your list ! People being asshole about lesbian & other headcanons gtfo! That list could work for many other things too.

But to be sure everyone don’t mix thing up i just want to point out that not liking/ not being fan of an headcanon don’t equal  being an ass about it. It’s the mean actions or words afterwards that are bad. 

hey! i’m glad you found it generalizable. there’s a lot of things on there that get used against pretty much any “diverse” perspectives both inside and out of fan spaces. as for your second point, i don’t disagree with you. there are some queer headcanons that i don’t personally hold, but i’m going to be cheering them on rather than contributing to the negativity we face on a regular basis. you can personally hold a different headcanon without being a jerk.

this is not @ you anon, but there are a lot of people who believe that underrepresented groups seeing themselves in characters — whether through the lens of race, gender, sexuality, disability, etc — is “politicizing” fandom and ruining it somehow, as though a white/cishet/male/abled perspective is the default in art and anything else is “tainting” the “pure” fanspace. some of them might believe those voices can exist — so long as they keep their heads down and don’t take up too much space. the fact of the matter is that’s a bigoted thing to believe. our existence has been politicized against our will. for the marginalized, fan spaces are just another front we have to push to participate in. if someone finds themself constantly disliking one specific type of queer/nonwhite/disabled/etc. headcanon and feels the need to say over and over how much they don’t like it, they ought to seriously interrogate why that is.

Queer ppl who rag on The Owl House and other kid show's representation bc they're more wholesome are so weird to me. Like I get you want more than wholesome and sweet queer couples, I do too, and I don't think they should be standard

But that doesn't mean it's "bad," you know??

kinda wanna join a zine again

did it once and it was really neat but idk where to even begin and I know finding people that are comfy managing putting one together is hard. it's a lot of work! but damn it's really fun having one of my art pieces in a little book that I physically own (digital zines are good too)

I'd love to join one about queerness or specific aspects of it I'm part of or general furry ones or something

I'll have to look into it after this month

okay y’all, the time has come where i want to actually try to follow a few more people lmao. so pls feel free to like/rb this if you post about any of the following so i can check your blog out!!!

super robot anime (this is unlikely i know but worth a shot lmao)

studio trigger anime

star trek

marvel comics

avatar / korra

space / astrophysics / particle physics / relativity etc

thank you!! 💜

Yeah, we’ll just ask who’s gayer. Majima, Oda, or Mine?

Y'all I wanna become a book girlie, start a little library and everything, so give me some good book recs!

nothing is too obvious, I've literally read like no books

Really wish y'all would realize masc4masc isn't some revolutionary concept. U are not more queer for liking ur gay ships both masc and no one is a fetishizer if they like fem/masc couples or if they like the bottom smaller/slighter or some shit. No it's not superimposing heterosexuality onto queer ships bc y'all are literally implying that fem gay men aren't men that fem/masc gay couples are somehow more accepted or more heteronormative than masc4masc. Bc wtf do y'all mean "the girl in the relationship" they're both fucking men??? Y'all have these discussions that lack any nuance and always assuming the ppl who like these ships are straight women who are so "uncomfortable with masculine men" nigga what????? Just a bunch of close minded annoying weirdos who get all their opinion from Twitter and probably uses the word fujoshi like a slur. Like omg shut up let ppl like what they like. Also I think ppl should examine all of the things they like but examining ur interests doesn't mean that the like for those things disappears u can still like the things I like while having fully understood why u like them good or bad. Y'all so one dimensional I swear. I wish all fem twink/masc lovers a good ship whatever u want 🤗

So I think Bobby was only partially right when he insinuated Eddie’s still hung up on Shannon

Because I don’t think he ever really loved her — they got married because she got pregnant, he ran off to the army, then she left and didn’t come back and the only real reason to reconnect had more to do with Christopher than anything else

It’s not that I think he hates her or dislikes her — I think he DID like her, but not in a way that would’ve been romantically sustainable. He’s caught in all these contradictions within himself — the idea of what he should be, what’s acceptable, and what he actually wants are all very different things. Shannon was the perfect excuse to never have to find another girlfriend — and she still is

The idea of her, rather than her herself, was and is the ultimate sabotage for any relationship because the kind of relationships he thinks he SHOULD have isn’t the kind he actually wants

Would he have ever sought Shannon out when he did if the school application process for Christopher hadn’t put pressure on him, hadn’t reinforced that idea of what family should look like? Could argue he didn’t have to move to CA at all, and why go where he presumably knew she was, but I do think he had wanted to open the possibility of having her back in her son’s life, if only for Christopher’s sake. But he didn’t make that move until he felt forced to

Because once she was back, he knew it would only be a matter of time before they tried to make things work

I don’t doubt her rejection hurt, and I don’t doubt that he cares for her, and this is in no way a reflection on her or her character, but rather how I think he sees her, subconsciously, and how the idea of her shifted from absence/placeholder to grief as a means of avoiding new relationships, the kind he keeps forcing himself to have because he still thinks on some level it’s what he wants

Guy’s not gonna be happy til he figures out what he actually wants

i'm trying to get work done but there's this panic attack that i'm beating back that's creeping around, pls stop

A significant amount of my opinions about modern queer television are influenced by researching older queer media.

I see a lot of the same vitriol in modern queer fandom discourse that has been playing out in queer spaces since film and television were invented. Shows in the 70s started making steps toward sensitivity consulting in queer media, even as the networks fought them on it. Imperfect but earnest queer representation was met with aggressive protests by homophobes and queer people who thought it wasn't good enough. The argument over good representation vs no representation has been happening for decades and decades.

You spend enough time immersed in old queer media and you really start to vibe with Harvey Fierstein's words in The Celluloid Closet documentary. Or at least, I do.

Harvey Fierstein: "I liked the sissy. Is it used in negative ways? Yeah, but, my view has always been visibility at any cost."

The way I see it, the way to genuine, loving queer representation that showcases a vast array of experiences is to stop demanding perfection. The fewer queer stories that are allowed to exist, the more of the heavy lifting those stories have to do in the representation department.

When we have numerous queer stories, it's suddenly much less important to argue over whether the queer characters in question are "good" or "positive." They can just be queer characters who exist in the same infinite variety as straight characters. They can be messy, they can be flawed, they can be honest portrayals of the complexity of human existence.

Queer representation will never be perfect, and striving for perfection is how we shoot ourselves in the foot.

Some starter reading for those interested:

Alternate Channels: Queer Images on 20th-Century TV (revised edition) - Steven Capsuto

Hi Honey, I'm Homo!: Sitcoms, Specials, and the Queering of American Culture - Matt Baume

The Celluloid Closet: Homosexuality in the Movies - Vito Russo

It's funny when people claim that transmasc music is just "soft boy sad guitar strumming" or the like. Oh? Is that so? How many transmasc musical artists can you name exactly? Maybe it's actually that there's not a huge variety of our music because cis people don't want to listen to us, and queer people think we're so embarrassing and cringey, so either way it's rare any out transmasc will have a career or fan base at all.