one of the ways i realized i was a bit different than my friends was when everyone was at the age where they started to get celebrity crushes. like they would say stuff like “oh so and so is so hot i would love to date them” and i would sit there like “um ms ma’am they are 38 years old and you are 12.” looking back i didn’t understand how celebrity crushes worked and didn’t have any. i also didn’t have any crushes on people in my real life either. so i guess that’s one of the reason i found out i’m aroace :)

Submitted May 12, 2023

ok but can we talk about the fact that a couple years ago (prior to realizing i was non binary) the only reason i thought i was lesbian cause i thought about how much easier it would be to live with someone of the same gender???

so i have a bunch of aroace hcs for ejen ali, n like,,, Alicia n ali r aroace but Alicia is romance positive n Ali's aegoromantic where like he hates the idea of being in a relationship himself in any way but he roots for like ships in his shows n other things and i kinda wanna think of the way he discovered it right so like throughout the show, even though some ships with him in it are teased, he has never shown any sort of attraction to anyone ever. In season 1, one of his classmates gives him a love letter n he thinks it was meant 4 him but it was actually meant for his best friend, and dis is where my headcanon starts. Like, after the whole thing he feels flattered, but then disappointment right. But then after some thought he realizes that it wasn't disappointment, it was actually releif. So he thought that was weird bc he's seen so many people get happy n stuff with a relationship right? but he's never thought he could feel happy in one, so he thought it was only a thing he had with girls right, so he thought he was gay for a while but then realized that the same thing was happening with guys and enbys, so he would have thought he was broken for a while, like the common thing that unknowing aroaces go through, bc when he tries to tell some of his classmates (not alicia she realizes later) they say somethings wrong or that he'd feel that way when hes older cuz its natural right, so now i have 2 ways of how he could learn about it: 1) He basically just goes online, searches up "is it bad that i don't want to fall in love" and finds a bunch of forums of aroace ppl saying the same thing n then he realizes that he's aroace but i think that ones kinda emotionally lacking in the show

2) Viktor helps him realize. Like, not that hes exactly aroace, but like,,, so Ali starts to confide in him that he thinks that somethings wrong with him bc of the no attraction to anyone right n like Viktor says sumthing like how feeling romantic/sexual attraction isn't a need for happiness, and thta even if he doesn't know what he is and it might change later in life, theres no need to feel sad about it, or that he's broken, bc theres no reason to be because theres nothing needed to fix.

idk i just rlly luv dis one

happy ace awareness week w iconic aroace fav, georgia warr from loveless 🖤💜🤍💚

I’m so aroace that I was somebody else aroace awakening. I feel like this has to be an accomplishment of some sort.

Pictured: my gay awakening at like age 8

One of these days, I'm going to find an Alastor to my Rosie

Their dynamic is so MMM-

thought i’d make one based on my own experiences

Vash got that transmasc swag tbh

bonus aroace Knives because he doesn’t need or deserve bitches 🔥

okay before I lose my thought (MASSIVE Rise of the Beasts spoilers re: Unicron)

in my opinion rotb handled Unicron perfectly.

when I first watched the full trailer & saw Unicron my second thought was "oh no" (my first being "YOOOOOO") because in the bumblebee-rotb timeline it seemed extremely early to be involving him. I went into the movie almost resigning myself to the thought that it would end with Unicron being destroyed & never seen again, because he was advertised as the main Big Bad.

but the truth is, Scourge was the main Big Bad. and while Unicron made several appearances and had more than one line, the primary thing he did was loom over the narrative like the slow approach of death - he did more than haunting the narrative, I think, but aside from his interactions with the Terrorcons and his arrival at the final scene, he was largely uninvolved in the main conflict, and was in the end defeated momentarily rather than destroyed.

what we did see of him was always displays of power: the destruction of the Maximals' homeworld, his ability to supply the battlefield with endless Terrorcon footsoldiers, his mindscape-meeting with Scourge wherein he tortured Scourge for failing him from Primus knows how far away. hell, even Scourge, Battletrap, and Nightbird themselves were living proof of Unicron's power - ruthless, near-invincible supersoldiers who've killed enough Cybertronians and Cybertronian-adjacent lifeforms to steal and wear their badges like a bounty hunter collects trophies. on-screen all of this is done through Unicron's power, the extension of his will - and not, notably, by Unicron himself.

this wasn't Unicron's moment to shine, only to be destroyed so early in the narrative.

this was the moment that painted a target on Earth, and on Optimus Prime. this was the moment that established how Unicron is accustomed to taking thralls from other worlds while also killing off the ones he already had, laying the potential groundwork for Galvatron or even Sideways. this was the moment that showed off just how powerful Unicron and his allies are without cramming it into the first fifteen minutes of another movie down the line, and when he appears again we'll already know just how fucked the protagonists are.

this was the setup to Unicron's moment to shine. though I'd hoped Unicron would get more screentime, rotb ultimately handled Unicron with the severity he deserves; for that, it was perfect.

sidenote: I got very big "then perish" vibes at the end of the movie, when Unicron said smth like "think about this, Prime. I could give you anything you want." and Optimus responded with "then DIE!!". it was dramatic in the moment but remembering it got me a good laugh

Gay awakening this, bi awakening that. I'm here for the aromantic awakening. Who did you see and, for the first time in your life, feel like maybe you could live your life without romance and still be happy? Who first described their experiences to you and presented you with the label aromantic? This could be an aunt who never married, a teacher who owned 4 cats, anyone really.

I'll go first, mine were/are Jaidenanimation and TBskyen. Hearing their experiences made me feel less alone and honestly I'm so thankful for it.

-🌿Sage🌿

and remember kids, trolling queerphobic servers is a team sport

it feels so great to know that there's not actually any need to have a romantic relationship. like, i think even though my descent into the queer community was pretty calm and i never reacted strongly to any "discoveries", a weight still slipped from my shoulders once i learned about aromanticism. i dont have to relate to my friends, i dont have to understand why people stay in relationships that seem pointless, i dont need to want to have that. oh god guys you have first row tickets to me accepting that i mightve just be an aroace queer mess of a person this entire time

2023 reads / storygraph

Awakenings

Start of a fantasy adventure novella series

a nonbinary jack-of-all-trades who keeps failing apprenticeships is guarding the dome of the town e’s in when it’s attacked by the magical metal fragments that roam the land, but a magical stranger with amnesia who turns into an eldritch tree creature saves the day

the two of them and a lizard artificer, start traveling together in a magic wagon and become friends as the start to travel from town to town

Board games, friendship, nonbinary & aroace MCs

everyone hush. i’m watching the legend of korra for the first time since it came out

i only remember half of season one so it’s time for a binge

Just remembered a time a youth pastor or something came up to me, and I told him, much to his horror, that I didn’t think I would ever find love and that I was okay with that.

And here I am. Years later. An out and proud aromantic asexual. Little me was a lot more in tune with themself than I give them credit for.