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cogentranting · 11 months
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A book I read earlier this year made a claim that "motherhood is discussed in fewer than 3 per cent of papers, journal articles or textbooks on modern gender theory" and I wasn't able to verify their statistic but that idea sat with me (and certainly experientially the idea that modern feminism and gender theory drastically undervalue motherhood feels accurate) and so when I heard an old comment from an actress about being tired of playing wives and mothers it had a different ring to it. And I think that A. the problem isn't portraying wives and mothers it's a shallow conception of what those things are and B. maybe we need not less wives and mothers but more husbands and fathers and C. Once Upon a Time was doing something really right with Emma Swan.
#and obviously there's the importance of valuing singleness and realizing that not everyone is going to be in a relationship (and therefore#not going to be a spouse or a parent) and that's good#and that we have individuality outside of our roles#BUT.#and this is the big thing#I think our roles are a bigger part of our identity than we would like to think#and so what a lot of conversations do is flatten out the concept of wife or mother to be just a cardboard cutout to fill the role#and so its seen as if you take a woman and make her a wife and/or a mother you rob her of her individuality and limit her#and on the flip side men are kind of pushed away from their respective roles because they are seen as confining#and i think both can be attributed in large part to toxic radical individualism that is so prevalent in america/the west#that demands that you must be cut free of any of those ties and defined solely by yourself#but we are inherently made in connection to others#and we do ourselves great harm by believing that those roles of how we relate to (and serve) others diminish us#in reality they build us up and make us more than we could be individually#and i think even in singleness there's a common element that can be seen in the concept of what it is to be a wife/husband#or a mother/father in how we relate to people in general#for instance i think in all good authority there is an element of either the maternal or the paternal#and yeah big asterisk on that statistic because the book cited the article she got it from but the article does not cite where they got it
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foundfamilynonsense · 7 months
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Had a dream where mini golf was added to the Olympics. And one of the Olympic mini golf athletes lost the gold because she hit the windmill.
And she tweets with a picture of the windmill and the caption “bout to go through my Don Quixote phase” and honestly I think that’s the funniest thing my brain has ever come up with.
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suiheisen · 1 month
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MONKEY MAN (2024)
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dat-soldier · 11 months
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anyone else
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sanguinarysanguinity · 8 months
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Expanding a thought from a conversation this morning:
In general, I think "Is X out-of-character?" is not a terribly useful question for a writer. It shuts down possibility, and interesting directions you could take a character.
A better question, I believe, is "What would it take for Character to do X?" What extremity would she find herself in, where X starts to look like a good idea? What loyalties or fears leave him with X as his only option? THAT'S where a potentially interesting story lies.
In practice, I find that you can often justify much more from a character than you initially dreamed you could: some of my best stories come from "What might drive Character to do [thing he would never do]?" As long as you make it clear to the reader what the hell pushed your character to this point, you've got the seed of a compelling story on your hands.
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muffinlance · 30 days
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My baby daughter got her adorable puffin-print dress absolutely CAKED in mud crawling around the yard and my first thought was "oh no her beautiful dress"
And my second thought was "oh huh it really WOULD be easy to unconsciously steer her away from playing in the dirt. Unlike my son, whose outfits are usually some kind of solid dark easily washed pants plus a shirt that doesn't trail in the dirt like a dress does."
Anyway something something gender roles start getting shoved on kids from literal birth, but with a little time to think about things, YOU TOO can let your children of any gender absolutely destroy their clothes in the dirt pit they're digging in your garden
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doctordisaster · 1 year
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I have had it with this likescolding. “Tumblr doesn’t have an algorithm so likes don’t actually do anything” motherfucker I am not clicking that heart to give some post better ~algorithmic visibility~ I am clicking that heart to help my internet friend microdose on serotonin as god fucking intended
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laur-rants · 8 months
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I love when my borzoi does the thing
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mapletine · 2 months
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i just know he’s on that switch 12 hours a day
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funplecs · 6 months
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I was thinking about dungeon based media and I made this alignment chart
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corviiids · 5 months
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my top bit of advice going into the new year: compliment people. especially strangers. literally everyone you interact with if you can. when you buy coffee in the morning compliment the barista's tattoos. when you're chatting with a coworker tell them that by the way you like their outfit. always find something they've chosen to do on purpose. nail polish, jewellery, tattoos, hair colour/style, statement accessory, outfit, etc are all good bets. things people hope will be noticed. things that aren't too personal so it doesn't make them uncomfortable (eg probably not their physical features). i've gotten into the habit of scanning everyone i talk to for something about them that i think is cool so i can tell them. it's a great habit because it makes me notice people and realise just how many neat little details there are in people's presentation of themselves that might pass me by if i wasn't paying attention. and it brings out so much joy. you'd be surprised how much it disarms people to receive an unexpected compliment from someone they don't know. it is the most sincere smile you will see all day long. it feels nice to make people happy but it also means you win the social interaction. establish dominance by complimenting a stranger's earrings and disappearing into the fog
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captainjonnitkessler · 4 months
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You know I used to think "tumblr's absolute refusal to actually engage with the Trolley Problem in favor of insisting that there must be a third, morally pure option that doesn't require them to make a hard decision and anyone who asks them to make a binary choice is just a short-sighted idiot is really fucking annoying, but I guess it's not actually doing any harm".
Anyway that was before we asked tumblr at large to decide between "guy aiding a genocide but making progress elsewhere" and "guy who would actively and enthusiastically participate in a genocide and would also make everything else much, much worse for everyone elsewhere" and the response was that there must be a third, morally pure option that doesn't require them to make a hard decision and that anyone who asks them to make a binary choice is a short-sighted idiot.
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yourangle-yuordevil · 5 months
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That time in ancient Greece when Aziraphale needed a speedy horse and accidentally invented the pegasus
VS.
Whatever Crowley had going on in medieval times
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legionofpotatoes · 3 months
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Lead them to paradise.
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verflares · 26 days
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just how long is forever? // not long enough, with you
pssst. check this out on inprnt :]
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mywillbedone · 1 year
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