Does anyone else have issues with people touching your stuff?
Like. Whenever my dad or younger brother come into my room they like to grab something and fidget with it and it makes me really physically uncomfortable for some reason.
I just. Really hate it when people touch my stuff. Like. Plz don't.
Whenever someone does that I'm all like
internally. But I feel like I can't show my irritation externally and it's really frustrating.
An example is When people ask if they can use/see/hold my phone for a bit, I feel really irritated for no reason. Like, no. Don't touch my stuff.
It's just a really animalistic reaction. like those videos of people trying to grab something from their dog and the dog just growls and bites at them to scare them away.
I'm honestly thinking about making a sign for my door that says something like "DO NOT TOUCH ANYTHING (without asking first)." Because I'm getting really fed up with it all.
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*takes your face gently in my hands and looks sincerely into your eyes* listen. your home does not need to look like a showroom. homes are meant to be lived in, and that means a certain amount of mess. it's okay if there is clutter on your desk or if you don't remember the last time you cleaned your oven. mess is morally neutral. but at the same time, you deserve to live in an environment that is safe and comfortable, and that means someone has to clean sometimes. things like mold, spoiled food, and dirty litter boxes are genuine health hazards and need to be dealt with before they make someone sick. think of cleaning less as "my home needs to be completely spotless" and more as "I am an animal and I need a habitat that is free of hazardous material." it's okay. *kisses you on the forehead and tucks you into a blanket*
(and of course it is always acceptable and even good for you to ask someone else to help you with cleaning if it's physically or mentally difficult for you. even if you're paying them to do it.)
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i just read about the "narcissism of small differences," aka the idea that the more a community has in common, the more likely the people in it are to engage in interpersonal feuds and mutual ridicule because of hypersensitivity to minor differences perceived in each other, and i knew there was a reason my time in academia and fandom felt oddly similar lmao
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