I'm thinking about aromanticism again, and my own place in it. Because I love love! I feel love! All the time! I adore reading about romance, I dive into stories with it eagerly. I love my family, my friends! I understand it, I show it... Let's go to dinner love. I thought of you when I saw this love. I want to kiss you love. I'd sleep with you love. I'll do whatever I can to help love. You make me smile just by being love. I'm happy I exist in the same time as you love. Let's get together soon love. Excuse me they asked for no pickles love.

But I see this... It's not a line, it's like this space of love that I don't touch. This... Part? This path that I see and I understand why others dive into it and I don't want to.

Sometimes I see couples hold hands over dinner and think, "that seems like it'd get tiresome". There's a look in their eyes that I don't think will ever be reflected in mine and I don't feel any loss. I watch videos of weddings... Brides and grooms crying at the beauty of their spouses, kissing, celebrating, such joy and enthusiasm, this desire to BE together, these displays, these feelings. I think it would be a little bit of a chore, expressing that. Feeling that. Being that close.

It's something wonderful, and I don't want it. I can't picture myself wanting it. So many varieties of love that I have but the one seen as the strongest is the type I don't desire.

In the midst of the pandemic, I looked at my dating app and I wondered if I would ever go on a date again. I thought, "maybe I won't. Maybe I'll never get married." And a weight lifted off my chest.

Hey so I really wanted to know your thoughts on SAM (the split attraction model). Before I discovered what comphet was and read about it, I identified as bisexual or bi-ace . . . Only to realize now that I’ve only ever been sexually attracted to women and only women, and that I was only ever truly “asexual” toward men. Yet, I have also had crushes on boys in the past. Most if not all of my TV crushes were male, and some do my strongest infatuations in my preteen and teen years were boys. I found them aesthetically attractive and wanted to be near them, until they actually got near me and then not so much. I have a suspicion that I liked the attention and validation and also just liked their nice faces, but I remember my first crush had me begging God on my knees to make the boy marry me. Yet when there was opportunity to so much as kiss him I was appalled. I also wonder if the reason I liked fictional men more than women was because they were written better, and if I didn’t consider my deep, love for my female friends and consuming interest in them as romance because it didn’t feel the same and I was taught to disregard it as friendly—it didn’t feel fast or flighty, but deep and all-consuming, like I was being eaten alive from the inside. It was passion.

I don’t know, maybe I’m not used to seeing women as full people and hence found them less interesting as characters and sometimes even irl, kinda like black people (as an African I resented African stories and had no interest and felt no spark in seeing African characters. I realize I’m just not interested in caricatures.)

I don’t know. I’m very conflicted. I have a desire for attractive men, but never sexual, and not even romantic. Kinda like I want to take their faces in my hands and stare, or rub noses. Or touch their smiles. Mainly sensual, but romantic? Sexual? I don’t think so, no.

sorry for dumping this on you, answer at your own leisure and comfort

(but I am also waiting with bated breath because I have been spiraling for days now)

idk anon i really can’t say for sure and whatever i tell u may be false bc how ur currently processing and understanding ur feelings isnt necessarily objective and ultimately you’ll come to a clearer conclusion on ur own. but ive never had tv crushes on males or been attracted to actors or found male characters interesting or prayed to god for a specific guy to marry me (imagining myself married to a guy, as i knew was expected to me, made me deeply depressed and feel trapped but i didn’t know why), and i definitely don’t want to hold a man’s face and stare at it and touch noses (im ok w holding a close gay male friend’s face but i don’t think id want to look particularly long and def not put our faces so intimately close) sooo i don’t rly relate to the stuff you mentioned. honestly figuring out my sexuality was also quite difficult for me bc it required me to rly think back to as far back as my young childhood & that made me realise that from a young age it was clear that there was one group that i was innately attracted to but another group that i knew i should be attracted to & thus would interpret discomfort and anxiety as meaning i was attracted to them (despite ultimately having 0 interest in them). i hope u do figure it out sooner rather than later bc i know it can be distressing to be unsure and conflicted on ur sexuality n feelings 😭

as for SAM, im totally against it. our sexual libido isn’t our sexual orientation, it can vary over time or due to certain experiences or from medication etc. sexual orientation is sth else and romantic & sexual attraction r more or less the same things broken down into specific feelings and preferences. i never thought much about “sensual attraction” tho but i feel like if u aren’t attracted to men as in they don’t make u horny, ur not sexually interested in them, u don’t want to date them, u can find them aesthetically pleasing at most but that’s about it and u always felt this way then ur probably a lesbian. but the stuff u mentioned sounds like weak attraction to men so idk?

can relate to the feeling of isolation, but moreso because I am both arospec and acespec and almost never experience sexual attraction, so I have very few kinks and almost never relate to any self-insert smutty fanfiction that isn’t just people engaging in mostly vanilla fucking very intimately simply because they love each other because that’s really all I want in life lmao. it’s more difficult in the real world where I have friends who are almost constantly horny and I have nothing to add, so at least in fanfic I can have some of the soft fluffy romance without a ton of hardcore sexuality if I find the eighth content, which is nice escapism

ive covered sexuality i think a lot more indepth than i have other things but yeah its really an entirely different can of worms. like the reason im very radical acceptance is a lot because of the ace movement on tumblr that used to skew kind of negative

i identify somewhere on the ace spectrum specifically demi so i can understand where you're coming from (though my libido has changed a lot since meds lol) but its one of those things that is just like.. you become aware of it as you try to avoid it almost? i understand your plight in that way tho it is diff for me

11, 12 & 13!

11.  Books and/or authors who influenced you the most

hp (sigh |:), lotr, the fifth season and the farseer trilogy. hp made me fall in love with reading and the idea of writing, lotr showed me what i wanted to write and then years and years later the fifth season changed how i view writing & showed me just how much can be done with it (also made me obsessed with writing in second person lol). the farseer trilogy has awesome characters and manages to tell a slow-ish story without ever being boring (imo). it hasnt influenced my style much (i think - the fifth season has, tho, and by a lot) but the way it deals with pacing, relationships, etc, has always stuck out to me.

12.  Describe your perfect writing space

a desk and a laptop/pc with a nice keyboard (i bought a pc and boy am i not happy with the keyboard), in silence with the ac on. a notebook nearby is also nice, just to brainstorm things. perfection.

13.  Describe your writing process from idea to polished

if only i knew my process!!! (or had one!!)

i used to have one. i used to plan everything: character arcs, plot, chapters, scenes, etc. it worked for some time, but i never actually got to the polished state. my first drafts were awful (i took the "just get it done" advice very seriously) and ended up having to rewrite many times. by the third draft (usually) my passion for the story had already disappeared. with fantasy romance wip, im just winging it. and i dont even mean that im done with planning/plotting - i just do what feels best at the moment. i wrote the first ~four chapters during nano last year without plotting/planning a single thing, but since then the story has been slowly cooking in my mind and ive done a bit of planning. just a tiny bit, to figure out the structure of the story.

the only thing i always do is get idea -> let it stew so i can get more details (tropes and/or characters etc) -> spend a LOT of time coming up with scenes with the characters/daydreaming -> decide on the length based solely on vibes (fantasy romance wip will always be a standalone, for example - there just isnt enough story for more books) -> sit down to write and have existential crisis about the fact ive been writing for 16 years and have no writing process to speak of!

so yeah, no process for me!!! i hope to have one once im done with fantasy romance wip, but who knows?

ty so much for the ask!!!!

ik the title for this blog is for thoughts of the ‘romantic’ kind but idk i still find it hard to consider this all romantic? maybe it’s just the connotations and stuff i associate w the idea of ‘romance’ and ‘romantic’ things. by definition i guess it’s romantic, because i want to pursue a typical relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend, but idk. the label of ‘romantic’ doesn’t seem to fit right 😭 or maybe im just not that comfortable with the word ‘romantic.’ to be honest im not that comfortable with the words ‘boyfriend’ and ‘girlfriend’ and i keep getting random thoughts referring to him as my boyfriend which i have to beat down with a stick because i feel weird about it. although that might be more because i feel like i’m jumping the gun with that? also part of me feels like we’re not that compatible… we have the opposite music tastes, and im not here to declare which genres are musical opposites, i mean literally my favourite genre is one he hates, and his favourite genre is one of the very few i don’t actually like. and we don’t really have much in common… at all… 😭😭😭 like?? i don’t even know man.

what, then, is this attraction based on u might ask? i’m arospec. i thought i was strictly aro before this. do NOT ask me LMAO i have no fucking idea. one day i just was like, huh. and then three days later i was like. HUH. and then a week later i was like. Oh Fuck. and now we’re here, and i’m saying This is Real.

because i’m not even particularly aesthetically attracted to him, which is one of the strongest attractions i feel??? and i don’t have any platonic feelings for him like i do for my closest friends, which i’ve wondered if they were romantic before. sexual attraction was never in the question at the beginning, so can’t be the turning point (although i will say there’s kind of some grey sexual attraction involved sometimes now so there’s that… i guess??)

so honestly, i could not tell you why my brain decided one day ‘i want That One.’

why do i wanna be his girlfriend at this point is probably a good introspective question. and yknow. i dont even know. it’s a scary thought to be his actual girlfriend lol. i don’t think i’m ‘attracted’ to him because i like his attention, at least i don’t think so? because he’s a pretty quiet guy, at least when he’s with my group of friends because it’s not His group of friends. that’s not a ‘i want to crack open his cold quiet mysterious exterior’ kind of thing either. idk. i like cuddling him. i like it when he talks.

why am i listing these and suddenly thinking ‘oh god maybe i am just aromantic’ 😭😭😭

i’ve decided this is at least somewhat related to romantic attraction, just because it kind of fits in line. i want him to like me, i wanna be close to him, i got sad when i thought he wasn’t gonna show up despite saying he would, sometimes i think i wanna kiss him, i want him to only be into me, i would absolutely feel jealous and dejected if he started showing interest in someone else, i wanna look pretty for him, i woke up dreaming about him once (jfc when i tell you that took me off guard 😭😭😭), there was a point where i only thought about talking to him and getting to know him more for like two days straight, i got nervous texting him because i really wanted him to come over, yknow, that kind of stuff.

it’s just. very difficult to come up with a ‘why’ for any of that. 😭😭😭

idk why he’s just Him???? and my brain chose Him????? idk i feel bad thinking about this sometimes tho because it feels like im saying he has nothing to offer or that he’s not a likeable or cool guy or something, but he is a cool guy and honestly chill. but like. im not singing disney songs about all his likeable qualities or something??

i will say tho, he has nice fucking arms 😭😭 and thighs 😭😭

look, throughout my entire aspec journey, starting from thinking i was het ace to bi ace to aroace, i have always said if i was gonna like anyone it’d be someone who could pick me up and throw me out of a window without breaking a sweat. at least i knew something about myself KSJFJSNF

god just thinking about this is making me wanna teleport in time to when we were cuddling again. i wanna be in his arms 90% of the time and infhusbfjxbcnz

he is cute though. his hair is fluffy and curly and it reminds me of a poodle 🥺🥺

gah. i dont know 😭

I friggin loved the logic in jaiden’s video where she said she decided she was bi or pan for a while there bc “zero plus zero equals zero” because i 100% felt that way for a long time.

Also from the way she describes how it all feels i think i might be aro/ace too??? Like i knew i was ace but good golly do i relate to the whole thing where she breaks down just how weird romance has been for me since i was a kid. Like she just plucked that out of my childhood and animated it. So that’s a fun revelation.

The weird thing is though, i DO want a significant other in that way? I just…don’t feel that way about other people tho. Probably why it took so long to understand it? It feels lile that ome meme where the girl is like

“why can’t guys be like *shows picture of guy*”

Guy: “hey”

“No”

“I am literally the guy in the pic”

thats all valid and even within aromanticism theres sublabels and spectrums like im aromantic but i have a queerplatonic partner and i love them in very specific way i cant even really explain very well.

but i dont see people and think about like going on a romantic date or wanting to get married. theres not like strong feelings like she says.

but cool beans, seems a lot of people are realizing stuff thanks to her video which is cool

hi love im deep in ur art blog for reasons and im SO in love with the fact that ur ghoul has his OWN nickname tattooed on him in party's writing they are SO 🥺 was wondering if you wanted to talk a bit more abt ghouls tattoos??? theyre just SO gorgeous and intricately laid out

HI i LOVE u i am KISSING u i would love love love to talk about ghoul’s tattoos 🥺❤️

^ yeah ghoul & party have each other’s handwriting tattooed!! for party it’s one of the only tattoos they have & it’s right over their heart (im sure ive mentioned this fact before but idk if ive explicitly noted that it says ‘sunshine’) and ghoul didn’t have the space to put his right over his heart because poison’s kj symbol is there so his is on his upper arm (they ARE soooooooo 🥺 i love them)

ghoul’s tattoos are a healthy mix of sentimental ink and things he just thought were beautiful. when he met the rest of the four he didn’t have THAT many tattoos because 1. he was 14 2. he’d only been in the zones for a little under a year and a half at that point but the ones he DID have (aka his oldest tattoos) were his knuckle tattoos (‘freed’ and ‘fuck’ what can i say he was 13), the big raven on his upper shoulder and neck (he started believing in the witch very early compared to other cityborns but yeah that tattoo was both a way of symbolizing his devotion to the witch and a way of marking himself as a killjoy/shedding his past in the city in the way that he considered clearest), the fangs on his hand, two bats on his leg, the zombie bite on the other side of his neck (i could get a little more into this but BASICALLY ghoul being an ex-crow trainee + a cityborn + being the only surviving member of his first crew had a problem with feeling inhuman and a lot of survivor’s guilt and so he really. idk he connected a lot with zombies & frankenstein’s monster and ghosts & the like when he was a runner for dr. d post-his crew’s deaths. he got better about Seeing Himself as a Person especially once kobra + the other two showed up but the fascination remained) (also not tattoo-related but that’s when he chose his name. before that he’d been called ‘sandpup’ by his old crew & he never had a chance to tell them before they passed but he really loved that they used that as a name for him especially with how much he didn’t want to associate himself with the city) (ghoul had A Lot of issues but the difference there is that he worked thru them a lot earlier than the rest of the four) and “I FORGIVE U” on the back of his neck (in remembrance of said former crew).

umm along with that kind of fascination with the undead/feeling that kind of connection are the frankenstein stitches on his wrists (tho thats more of a common hc) and he has this pretty big tattoo of abstracted bones following his vertebrae down his throat and chest that he’s gotten expanded/fixed/touched up over the years. ik i do a lot of b&w doodles but i feel like i’ve been kind of inconsistent about coloring (most of his tattoos are color). pretty sure ive mostly drawn them in green (???) but in my head they’re like a faded light blue using natural skin tone as highlights.

his more sentimental tattoos…let me see if i can outline them here. this might not be exhaustive but i will do my best to list what ive figured out at least thus far:

the two little bats on his right thigh are for his grandmother and little sister. his sister (juliet adele fujikawa, b. april 2009 d. december 2014) was killed in a car crash shortly before he left the city, and likewise, his grandmother (charlotte fujikawa [藤川 千尋] b. june 1936 d. december 2014) was “moved to retirement housing” at about the same time. that was pretty much the last straw & ghoul left battery city within the week

there’s his crewmates’ symbols on his chest (in order from his right to left: kobra, jet, party) (gotten when their crew had been together for a while. dating this one is based on a couple things: 1. ghoul had been with them for long enough that he felt secure 2. poison and ghoul were friends by this point, or else he wouldn’t have included their symbol and 3. poison’s is over his heart so you can read into that as you will)

text from the graffiti bible on his right calf, as protection for his crew & as a reminder of one of his former friends who was a droid that believed very strongly in destroya’s return

his raygun on his chest (he was pretty proud of the design! this was when he was ~15 or 16) that he had poison’s added to post-sing post-engagement pre-commitment ceremony (so. september 2023) (yes i have my handwritten timeline + my own drawings + my fics out in front of me rn cross-referencing sldkdksksbx!)

one of the girl’s childhood drawings (one she drew of him & her & the stuffed animal he made for her when she was a baby all having a tea party together) from when she’s about 5 or so on his right hip (december 2022 or so)

shooting stars on his upper right shoulder, partially because they’re pretty and blend well with his other tattoos and partially because they’re a reminder of a lot of things, including but not limited to his first night out in the zones seeing the stars for the first time, stories his grandma used to tell him, and right when he’d first joined the fab four and him & kobra sat on the roof during a meteor shower

besides the other one i already mentioned ^ he has more of poison’s handwriting on his left inner forearm — this is also one ive mentioned before but once they’ve been in a relationship for a while they get into the habit of leaving little love notes around for each other! there’s nothing particularly special specifically about the one he got tattooed, besides the fact that it reminded him of poison and they love each other. the text in full (which i don’t think ive ever put anywhere, though im pretty sure ive put fragments of it in fics and art) is as follows:

Good Morning baby <3! I needed new paints, went on a run. Kobra has the Girl @ the Crash Track, Jet’s at the station. call me when you wake up! I love you, be back soon. XO Party <3

he also has the anniversaries of when they started dating and their commitment ceremony (03•03•21 and 10•26•23 respectively) on the inside of his right wrist ^ !

he’s got a snake wrapping around his left leg that kobra picked out and a hand of cards with the ace of spades face up that jet picked out (and these ofc are because they remind him of his crewmates!!)

he has the phoenix witch tattooed on his ribs, left side, styled vaguely after catholic saints (since that imagery can still be found in the inner zones & especially where ‘joys who still practice that religion gather!)

there’s a version of the eye from the mailbox on his right shoulder, and this one is also a sort of symbol of protection/good luck, to show devotion to the witch and to help protect himself and his crew

the constellation libra on his left forearm! this one was done a little while after he started running transmissions and supplies for dr. d! he liked the connection that astrology — whether he believed in the practice or not is up for debate — gave people to the stars, and the feeling that he had a place in the universe, predestined or not

after charlie is born, he gets a portrait of her (~age 4) with her name and birthday underneath done on his left thigh! (~2036)

and on his lower back, he has a fairly simple tattoo of two crows on a wire with their beaks pressed together (aughhhhhh romance) that he gets done as an anniversary surprise for their 10-year (so. 2033)!

his non-sentimental tattoos are largely based off of images from books, either from dr. d’s collection when he was working as a runner for him or from cherri’s after he joined up with the fab four, or else they’re naturally occurring in the zones!! this includes but is not limited to: california golden poppies on the back of his left shoulder, strawberries around his left bicep (he doesn’t ever have a strawberry until he’s like 35, this one is absolutely based off of a particularly pretty illustration), a thundercloud with lightning on his left elbow, a moon on his right inner bicep, a ring of thorns around his right forearm right under the elbow, a dagger on his inner left calf, and a sun, small bat, cross, rose, ribbon (with the word ‘faith’ in script), and wing on his right forearm and hand, all picked from flash sheets

so yeah! that’s about everything i have to say about ghoul’s tattoos atm but ty ty ty sm for letting me ramble abt them i think about his tattoos so much 😔❤️

I knew i was ace for a while and am okay with it and like it.

But now I think im (homo-oriented) aroace.

But I don’t want to be aro?! Not aphobic but I want a relationship even tho I dislike being in one. All my friends have relationships and they seem so wonderful and nice.

And QPRs seem so hard to get. I’m still excepting the fact I’m aro but I really really wish i wasn’t. I wish I could have a normal relationship with a guy and have romantic feelings. But I don’t, at least dont think so from what I’ve heard romantic attraction is. It just makes me sad I’m missing out on such seemingly wonderful things.

Is this normal? Or does it mean I’m not aro?

Yeah honestly I’d say we live in a culture puts a really heavy emphasis on romantic relationships and life partners being the one and only path we’re supposed to follow and what will make us happy. And this message is everywhere, how many times have you watched a tv show or movie where a character thought they were happy single and then their “one” showed up and showed them what they’d missing all this time? (Rom coms are especially bad with this, with a female character who’s happy in a career until she meets the right man.)

And it’s so easy to internalize this idea that a long term romantic relationship is something we eventually need to have to be properly fulfilled and happy. The thing of it is that it’s not true. Romantic relationships work very well for some people, and go very badly for others and anything in between (and I’ve always always believed people are better off single than in a bad romantic relationship). And what we find fulfilling and the kind of life that will make us happy is different for everyone. 

I also like to compare being romance averse to the point of not being able to enjoy being in a romantic relationship to not liking chocolate. Like listen and people will tell you it’s the greatest food to ever exist, that’s it’s an entire experience in and of itself. And like some people just don’t like chocolate and people going on about how great it is isn’t going to magically make it taste different. And no matter how you try you’re never going to get that experience other people are raving about. But you know there’s a lot of other really good food out there, there’s a lot more to life in general than chocolate. 

There’s a lot more to life than romance. 

If you don’t enjoy romance, you will find your own path, Anon. And you will find what does make you feel fulfilled and make you happy. And maybe there’s a passion you have somewhere, or a cause you care about. Maybe there’s a hobby you love, but try things out, get out and you’ll find something. You may also even find a good QPR, as hard as they might be to find, I’ve seen a lot of people who’ve managed it. So it’s not that impossible. 

Other things that may help you, look into exploring being aro a bit more. Follow blogs and consider looking into communities, even lurking is fine. Consume aro media (and there is a lot more than I think people usually realise, especially podcast and books). And seeing real life people who are aro, who like being aro, but are also interesting complex people in their own right will make the idea of being aro seem a lot less scary and a lot more normal. Aro media will give you relatable aro characters, and both will make the idea of being aro, and romance-averse, just seem a lot less scary. And make your own journey on figuring things out a bit easier.

Take things one day at a time, there’s no switch you can flip and suddenly be OK with the idea of being aro or not having a romantic relationship. But bit by bit it can get better as you explore yourself a bit more and find your own path. 

This is also something a lot of aro people deal with, so you’re definitely not alone either. 

All the best, Anon! Good luck!

Could I ask what your sexuality headcanons are? I love comparing mine with other peoples’!

Ok second half of this; this is just like. non-students who i Actually have thought about HJBAFV not at all a comprehensive list. Again disclaimer i write all these chars as bi in my fics, also i am bi myself so the vast majority are also bi, and also leaving a lot of these vague so u can imagine ur favorite ship or urself or w/ever

ok lets start this off with Aizawa. I think....... hes another one who's rlly unlabelled, doesnt super care to think it through and define it, but calls himself gay bc his interest in women is very, very rare and it's just way easier to say than explain all that. Definitely do buy into the idea that he had a crush on Oboro in hs but i do NOT buy into the easermic agenda sorry. Definitely not someone who goes looking for dates, but doesn't say no if someone asks him and hes interested (also im not gonna give her a whole section but i saw a hc a while back that the Ms. Joke stuff is literally that shes a lesbian and hes gay and shes fucking with him and i love that so much i just wanted to put it out there)

on the topic of the erasermic agenda: Hizashi's pan and knew it before HS, had a sudden & intense crush on Aizawa for the first month they knew each other and then immediately got over it in favor of a similar sudden, intense, and then immediately fading crush on Midnight. Hizashi and Aizawa r just rlly good friends imo; maybe they messed around for a bit in their twenties but it never went anywhere serious. He dates around a lot, not even necessarily to settle down just to have some fun

Midnight is aro/ace but does get in qprs & gravitates towards women wrt that. Most people dont read vigilantes but theres a woman in that, Kazuho, who i imagine she's been in a long-term qpr with; her relationship with aizawa and hizashi leans a little more towards a qpr than a normal friendship, too, but it's not rlly defined that way

All Might is married to justice queer but v much not interested in relationships. He and that one guy from the first movie are ABSOLUTELY exes and i won't hear otherwise; it's the only relationship he's ever had, and they broke up bc he had to go back to japan. He was heartbroken but did eventually get over him; his lack of romance afterwards is from genuine disinterest and not being hung up on his past. I can see him finding someone else in his later years, after he's retired. Definitely feels like he's not worthy of it tho

Hawks is bi but unfortunately didn't get to figure that out until like Now in the timeline...... if youll let my dabihawks history shine through i think dabi was the reason JHBASFGJHB he was basically brainwashed by the commission to become a hero so he didnt have time to Figure That Shit Out; he knew he was into women bc that was easy & what the commission expected from him but then he started this undercover assignment and met dabi and realized Oh...... Fuck. Hawks is hard tbh, bc i think between the control that the commission has over him and his own convictions as a hero he doesn't pursue any romance (tho he does get crushes or find people attractive) and most of his flings are done to keep up his prettyboy act, not out of genuine interest in being a fuckboy. Can't imagine him having a relationship until well after canon but I do see him being interested eventually

Onto the villains, Shigaraki is unlabelled but probably would call himself queer if asked. Definitely admires women more but isn't very interested in romance; AFO actively encourages him to pursue the things interested in so imo if he were he'd talk abt it more lmfao. I kinda see him as demi as well, not the type to fall immediately but requiring a friendship beforehand; tho unlike Bakugo as i said in my last post I dont think it happens suddenly but rather slowly. Y'all know im a big fan of shigaraki being absolutely whipped for his s/o so i do thing hes a big piner, tho he's also pretty bold and unashamed of his affections. I'm a big fan of him falling for a member of the league or a civilian; definitely can't see him falling for a hero unless the hero was already halfway to turning sides already. I think he's also attracted to intelligence and someone who pushes him to think more abt his ideology...... maybe im just projecting at this point JSHDFBVAJKSHD but my point is that the gender of his partner is definitely the least of what he considers/notices

Dabi is bi and, here's my bold take, demisexual; not interested in sex unless its with someone he loves. Absolutely doesn't even think abt romance for most of the years where he's on his own. He's got revenge to plan. By the time he joins the league that hasn't changed much, and he's demi so he's not interested in sleeping around, plus he rlly denies any attachment to people at all. As I said in that other ask tho I do rlly like the idea of him with Magne, so I think they have a fling for a bit before her death :( it's one of the things that leads him to isolate himself further, unfortunately, even from Jin and the other League members with whom his relationships aren't romantic. I can see him dating someone post-canon bc i think hes gonna be redeemed lol. It could be someone he knew before but they probably didnt date again bc he was v guarded; i think magne was rlly the only person he dated

Magne is pan and heres the kicker: I think shes t4t, which led to a little moment just before she and dabi got together where he was like "she wouldnt be into me :/" but she was into him anyway so all was good. She got around in her circles, mostly casual stuff tho she yearned for something more serious.

Spinner's bi & trends towards women but does occasionally get things for men and they're almost always intense. He thought he was straight for a while even once he joined the league and then suddenly got a crush on Shigaraki (around the time of MVA) and realized otherwise LMFAO he's definitely a hopeless romantic type, the whole mutant prejudice thing makes it rlly hard for him and i can see him being rlly happy with another mutant-type; i feel like as he matures he starts to gravitate towards them

Toga is canonically pan to my understanding, iirc her interest in Uraraka and Deku is the same (and romantic) in canon tho i might be wrong. Poor girl just needs therapy. I like the idea of the two of them becoming her friends over her being involved with them but i totally can get behind her having a thing with Uraraka (and maybe Tsu) at some point post-canon (presuming she gets redeemed), tho I think a qpr between the two/three of them would be longer lasting. And again presuming she gets therapy i can see her settling down with someone, gender irrelevant

Jin is unlabelled bc he hasn't much thought abt it, definitely had a thing for dabi and for hawks which does make me sad on both counts. I think he likes women slightly more abstractly/aesthetically and gets crushes more on men,. The dabi thing fades as they get closer and start to view each other as brothers. In his later years he doesn't rlly care about romance, I think he enjoys the experience of crushing but doesnt like dating people; his found family in the League is far more important to him. But i can see him falling head-over-heels for someone quite suddenly and having a bit of a whirlwind romance. Also someone for whom gender isn't much of a factor

Mr Compress is also queer and also hasn't rlly thought abt it. Definitely leans more towards women; he's like 30 but i like to think he also goes for older partners, 10 or 15 years his senior KJBADSJFHB idk he just has that Vibe with the way he calls himself an old man etc. A lot of the league i cant see sleeping or dating around much, i feel like they prioritize each other, but I do think mr compress gets around more than the others. i can see him having a bit of a fuckbuddy who he catches feelings for

Kurogiri is fun; as Oboro I do think Aizawa's crush was reciprocated, tho he wasn't around long enough for them to act on it :( he's bi, tho kurogiri isn't supposed to have personal interests. I like to imagine the brainwashing isnt as good as AFO wants it to be tho so I like the idea of him falling for someone anyway. I also like the idea of the heroes managing to undo the nomufication and I 100% can see him, aizawa, and someone else (someone he was involved with as Kurogiri) ending up in a triad as a result of aizawa and the third partner helping him through the aftermath of all that shit

Lady Nagant is a manga-only minor character but im in love with her so imma talk abt it. Shes bi and leans VERY heavily towards women, probably spent years questioning whether she was rlly bi or a lesbian before finally having a fling with a guy that she genuinely enjoyed. Has only ever been in long-term relationships with women and I v much think she has a gf at home who stayed even when she was arrested 🥺

Finally imma talk abt Natsuo bc i love that boy. He's one of the few unmarried chars with a love interest and he canonically has a gf. I do see him as IDing straight in canon ngl, but the kind of straight where he might actually be bi but his preference leans so heavily towards women and he grew up in a bad home so he just doesnt rlly think abt it bc hes v happy with women anyway. In shiganatsu thoughts shigaraki is the first man he has a thing for; i rlly can see the two of them in a triad with a woman specifically, who helps the two of them find each other and is the one who initiates bc its definitely a weird situation for natsuo

Podcasts ranked by the amount of kissing/gross sounds in it (and also how romance-repulsed/aromantic-friendly it is), by me, your neighborhood aro and hater of Body Sounds. Spoilers ahead for every single podcast listed!

(also, this got long, so uh. see under the break for the full list.)

1. Time:Bombs: The Perfect Podcast, not a gross foley, kiss, or romance-heavy plot in sight. I’ve got nothing bad to say about it, im sorry. It’s perfect.

2. Northwest Footwear Database: It is beauty, it is grace, it has got no Weird Sounds (unless you count a banging song and in-depth discussions of shoes. which i do not). A weird fiction podcast, so not Perfect in the listening, but... still #2 for a reason.

3. RQG: it is a ttrpg podcast. theres very obviously no kissing foley here. Thank G-d, is all im saying. Also has a QPP with a PC, and i give every budding romance an aro thumbs up!

4. Wolf 359: I don’t remember any terrible sounds, there’s no explicit romance- overall, a Good One! 1/2 a point taken off for the mental image of freezer-burned doug.

5. Kaleidotrope: oh, if there ever was a good podcast! This podcast is also kinda obsessed with love, which is nice, but focuses on romantic love for 90% of it, which is less so. Oh kaleidotrope... you need some aros.

6. TSCOSI: I adore this podcast! this is a wonderful podcast with wonderful characters, and I enjoy the ace rep! However, the torture scene in the s1 finale was... less enjoyable. 1 minute of Terrible, but it counts. (we have entered one-strike-territory)

7. The College Tapes: I am filled with adoration, but also, the book and cult chanting is creepy and unnerving. Also, the sheer volume of romantic pining was... overwhelming. Didn’t hate it, but not The Aro Friendly Podcast of my dreams.

8. Mabel: I do not remember much of this podcast, except I enjoyed it and there was some foley that was uncomfortable. Overall, not bad, but... a romance-focused plot, no matter how much I love it, with uh. Weird Sounds.

9. Archive 81: behold, my favorite podcast! Why, you may ask- oh, it simply is the Weird Shit Aro Haven of my dreams! Not a kiss or romantic plot to be found (some of yall ship chris and lee, and i support you, but i never interpreted them as romantic, so It Doesn’t Count on this list). However. the heart-eating scene. the s2 surgery scene. the concept of half the characters? the definition of body horror. Gross! (we have entered into the couple-strikes territory)

10. Stellar Firma: much like a81, perfect except for just one thing, and in this case, its the foot kink shit. Please listen to stellar firma, but also. Hartro’s Foot Kink. I give it my aro sign of approval, though! (I have also only listened up to s2 finale, so uh. idk after that).

11. The Bright Sessions: there are xactly two reasons why this podcast is rated so low on this list. One, there’s quite a bit of romance in this podcast. I’m not against 80% of it, but like... Romance Exists. Two, Safehouse! I do not want or need to hear a man beaten half to death, no matter how much I hate him!

12. TMA: but, you might ask, why is TMA so low? It’s got not a kiss in sight, an a canon ace! Yes, I say, that all is true. It’s why TMA is in its special little category: As An Aro I’m Fine But What The Fuck Bro. An ace main character cannot erase the experience of listening to jon’s hand be burned while I was on a public bus, my Actual Physical Repulsion to michael’s voice, and also all the gore. It’s Gross, Bro! Edit for post e200: yeah.... i must admit the kiss was gross and the sound design really only got more disturbing, so its staying at #12, but... keep in mind that this podcast is simply quite terrible on the ears.

13. Junoverse (Penumbra Podcast): Didn’t mean to make these three popular podcasts the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th worst ones, but what can i say! these fuckers have foley. Junoverse is one of two podcasts in the special category Make Room For Jesus, and juno gets here primarily because of the downright ridiculous amount of making out in it, plus a Giant Subplot being romantic, and also the multiple scenes of torture/a character getting Hurt, Badly. However, not the worst, since while kissing is gross, I can deal. Torture/death/screaming/gore, however...

14. The AM Archives (including Order&Chaos): behold, the pride of the Make Room For Jesus category. I love this podcast/s more than life itself, but I also used transcripts for most of it, so I was able to actually get through it. But from what i could get from transcripts/listening to the finale/asking fellow listeners, its... well, #14 for a reason. And what I can say: this podcast has everything! Burgeoning romance thats, ngl, kinda uncomfortable to listen to! A Kiss (thank you, Order&Chaos, for giving me lovely poly content, but... Kiss Gross)! Copious amounts of screaming and torture! Emotional distress of many varieties (mine included)! Extended Death Scene! I’m sorry, i feel like doing tama a disservice by ranking it last, but unfortunately... it ain’t easy on the ears, and I’m incredibly glad I avoided a lot of it! (...i still did listen to owen’s death, tho. which. aaagh i’ll never be over that one, huh). I love you, TAMA and O&C, but you are hard as hell to listen to.

ty for reading to the end! please, i take aro-friendly podcast suggestions! again, this is based on memory and memory alone (tama excluded), so uh... whoops! if i forgot something important

For the character ask game: Dante and Miles Edgeworth (possibly without spoilers for anything past the first aa game? if thats possible?)

Dante!

favorite thing about them: He's so iconic, I honestly think he's one of the white-haired cool guys blueprint, I like that he's sort of a kind but not nice guy, and a lot of his depths are even more hidden than his brother and nephew, he might be even more complex than both of them and hide it very well under his wacky woohoo persona. Also he is literally oozing style. His jackets are cool. I am looking so respectfully at his DT and SDT form.

least favorite thing about them: not really his fault but even tho he was in literally every games and even had an anime, I wish we had more focus on HIM as a character and development beyond surface level, or at all (granted I might be wrong because I tend to focus more on the blue side of the family so if Im dead wrong feel free to yell at me), because to me he feels like he just get dragged into whatever and we dont really see how HE feels about it, or at least its not intended.

favorite line: "It's not about loss... strength is a choice. Fighting like hell to protect what's important." AND I LOVE IT BECAUSE IT'S THE DANTE VERSION OF "might controls everything, and without strength, you cannot protect anything. Let alone yourself." AND 1) DMC3 IMPACTED HIM, MAN, AND 2) IT TELLS YOU ABOUT THE BROTHERS AND WHAT THEY STAND FOR

brOTP: oh Lady and Trish, no contest, not only are the top three demon hunters besties but they have that forged in fire friendship, and they are MEAN to each other but you know they have each other's back when shit gets real. they also have that "we are effortlessly better than you" vibe when they're hanging out so. Oh and also in dmc4 its the game's darkest hour and he and Trish are legit just going "Damn that's crazy" and cracking jokes meanwhile Credo is literally dying next to them. I thought it was funny in insight

OTP: now I like to think of Dante being in the "He's bi but nobody wants him" category, but I don't even think he's looking for a relationship, desides, there's only like two characters that could be considered for a ship with Dante and I think putting them in a ship with him would take away from both them AND Dante. So i stay true to my "romance is a pretty foreign thing in dmc save for maybe two ships, and one of them isnt even around anymore"

nOTP: literally more than half the cast is off limits, either because they're literally related, because the age gap is too wide for my liking, or because you don't get with someone who is a literal demonic clone of your dead mom

random headcanon: Dante doesnt like when people are more of a wise guy than he is because his wise guy is a defense mecanism he carefully crafted and he also practice lines that sounds cool in his free time just to drop them when it feels like the coolest moment to do so, so when people who are not him are cracking jokes it pisses him off because now he both has competition and also has to improvise to maintain his wacky woohoo persona.

unpopular opinion: I have a lote/hate relationship with his hairstyle in dmc5 😔 literally everything else about him is perfect but I do wish he had a different hairstyle. Like SURE he cant rock the emo bangs at forty but centre parting king?

song i associate with them: you get four! Two Birds - Regina Spektor (could also fit Vergil as well!), Tribute - Tenacious D, Role Model - Phoenix, AND OKAY LYRICALLY IT BARELY FIT HIM BUT Smooth Operator - Sade

favorite picture of them: ft. dumbass brother

Edgeworth (and i gotta reveal myself as an ace attorney fake fan 😔 (for now))

favorite thing about them: haha tragic rival character whom you have to save at one point go brrrrr

least favorite thing about them: im afraid I dont know anything beyond surface level to really dislike something about this man

favorite line: predictable but THEM UNNECESSARY FEELINGS

brOTP: with Mr. Gumshoe 😌 and Maya too I feel they have the potential to be funny I hope they interact a lot

OTP: I mean Phoenix is right there

nOTP: mmmmmh the obvious ones of course but other than that I straight up havent seen any ship for Miles other than with Phoenix so I dont even know???

random headcanon: I DONT KNOW ENOUGH ABOUT THIS MAN (but I will) TO COME UP WITH SOMETHING IM SORRY

unpopular opinion: SAME AS ABOVE tho I will say he looks better with glasses. might not even be an unpopular opinion idk.

song i associate with them: A Sadness Runs Through Him - The Hoosiers

favorite picture of them: that one pic of him and Phoenix in She-Hulk's ending in umvc3

Roman in The Closet by Himself!! part 2

Word count: 1219

part1/part2/part3/part4/?

WARNINGS: angst, depression, crying, uncensored swearing, bad home life, extreme selflessness, mention of dysphoria, lots and lots of angst, feelings of hopelessness

some knowledge for reference: deceit's name in this is Damien-

ships: prinxiety, logicality, remile, demus

Recap: They had arrived at Virgil’s house and said their goodbyes, with half witted insults with no venom in the words. It was their usual routine and they were both content with the way their relationship was. But they were just content, both of them wanted more but they would never admit that to themselves or each other. Roman walked home, with everything swirling around in his head and he laughed with a sort of dark emptiness. What a day.

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Roman stared down at his shoes, and felt that light airiness that he had felt with Virgil slowly melt and drip off of himself as that bubbly feeling was replaced with a hard cold stone sort of manginess that made home in his chest. Like all the color on his face was wiped away with a grey expression devoid of any substance or meaning.

      The sky had started to get grey, and he walked towards his house with his red converse shoes dragging across the pavement like the weight of the world was pulling him down so much that he couldn’t even pick his feet up all the way to make full steps towards home. He didn’t feel like he was going home, however, home was how he felt when he was gossiping with Remy, or how he felt when he was gushing about space and Steven Universe with Logan, or the way he felt when he was discussing mental health and dad jokes with Emile and Patton, or the way he felt when he saw that smile that could kill on that soft little emo’s cheeks.

     His home never felt like home, where the arguments felt like world war three and his brother was his only comrade. As much as he fought with his dirty minded potty mouth brother, he loved his brother. They would never let anyone else know but they were always there for each other. He loved making jokes about his brother’s name, ‘’Remus’, they named you that because you were stinky when you were born’ not a very clever insult but it always made them both laugh and forget the screaming downstairs, a sound that seemed to cut into them like knives ever since they were young, even if it wasn’t directed at either of them it still hurt with an unimaginable pain to hear. Remus would make jokes about Roman’s lack of facial hair and Roman would retort with something along the lines of ‘Oh yeah! Well at least I don’t look like a rapist!!’ leading Remus to say ‘I am a rapist!!’ then they would laugh and wrestle or play Mario Kart and forget that there was a war going on in their household. 

Roman laughed, a soft sort of sincere laugh that no one could hear but himself. 

    He felt a wet droplet, first on the top of his head, then on his shoulder, and his nose before the drops turned into a downpour. The water felt like a wake up call, and all the things that he had shoved inside himself for the past few years suddenly came down with the rain. The weight of it all made him drop to his knees as his sobs were covered up by the sound of thunder and the tears of the skies hitting the ground with the force of ten tons of anguish. His tears got mixed up with the rain and the rain got mixed up with music and the music got mixed up with his cries. He couldn’t do this anymore, a thought that had landed into his head, and it was very much an unwanted thought. He could never think like that, he had to be there when Patton was upset because of his mom’s unwillingness to accept him, he had to be there when Logan was stressed out about a test even though Roman knew he would ace it, he had to be there when Virgil was having a panic attack, he had to be there when Remy was feeling dysphoric or complained about his brother Damien, and he had to be there when Damien complained about Remus, he had to be there when Emile was worried about Remy or some stranger he had met that day, he had to be there for all of them…. Then… Why did he want to disappear so badly? All these things that had given him meaning and purpose suddenly didn’t matter to him right now, and the selfishness of that made his heart fall into pieces on the ground that he would have to pick back up and glue back together later.  

Even with all the happy times he had with his friends, and all the laughter that they had shared over the years, a part of him knew that he wasn’t okay. And that part of him had been okay with not being okay, for a long time he had told himself that it was okay! He just had to keep moving and everything would be okay. It wasn’t okay, and he had started to believe it would never be okay, he wanted to scream all the things that were trapped in his head all at once but that desire to scream was settled with muffled sobs as he hid his face behind his Disney hoodie as he cried about all the things that made his heart ill. 

He tentative gentle hand rested on his shaking shoulder. Roman jerked back and fell on his backside, he looked up to see who had found him in such a state. The confident, always smiling, always laughing Roman, had been caught red handed by none other than Remy Sleap, Remy looked down at him with concern hidden under his sunglasses and an umbrella set in his hands blocking the rain from both of them. One of his best friends, and Roman had no fake made up explanation on his lips to explain why he had been crying in the rain, like a cheap romance movie trope where the girl cries in the rain after a breakup. Only the only thing that broke up was him, and he wasn’t a girl, and he wasn’t in a romance movie. 

Remy didn’t ask any questions, not yet, at least. He was focused on trying to get Roman out of the rain, “Hey, let's go over to my place and get you some dry clothes hon.” Remy’s smile was almost motherly. He was really worried about Roman, they had been friends since grade school and he was ready to kick the ass of whoever made his best friend cry. Remy is the kind of guy who would fight god for his best friends (and probably win). Remy was a little chaotic and got into trouble more often than he would like to admit, but all of the trouble he got himself into was in the name of his friends. He didn’t like fighting, but he would be damned if he let someone hurt his friends and get away with it. 

Remy helped the crying prince up to his feet, Roman leaned into him still sobbing his broken heart out. He felt like a dam had been broken and he didn’t think anything could stop the water at this point. He would have a fun time trying to explain this…..

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to be continued~ 

im sorry this part is a tad bit shorter than the last one!! oh my gosh I am having so much fun with this fanfic even tho I cried a couple of times while writing it :’)! I’m glad that some people like it, AND TO THOSE PEOPLE- I LOVE YOU AND HERE IS THE SECOND PART :D!!!

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003 for the last fandom you were in (like, reading a post about/drawing for/watching/reading, etc. the last fandom thing you saw/partook in 😂💙✨) Also bonus: Share an interesting fact about one of your personal characters 👀✨

WELL technically the last fandom i *was in* was DB- and the last fandom thing *i saw* was Pop’n music, and the last one i *partook in* was KH... so distraction is distraction; triple whammy time idec

But wait the 003 one is with specific characters :Oc... im going to do these with my faves for each then, but if that’s not what you wanted feel free to correct me i’ll re-do it 😂 also MEGA LONG LOL

🐉 low and behold my fav from this series is COOLER

How I feel about this character: now the only reason i ever got into DB in the first place was because of Frieza- that i saw on the cover of the manga, while buying groceries with my mom. Like when she would go and pay, she’d let me go to the ‘kid’s books’ section, who was right next to the cashiers. And there was that ONE DB manga with final form Frieza on it, and was like WOW and begged my mom to buy it- she did; she didn’t know DB and never really knew that it wasn’t the best thing to buy for 6 years old me, lol. So uhm that got me into DB and after buying like 10 DB manga books with pretty (but deceptive) covers, i somehow got that one DS game- Supersonic Warriors 2. I had no idea there was an anime (believe it or not), and as you can guess had no knowledge of the movies, so this game introduced me to quite a bunch of characters- including Cooler! ... Tho uhm ngl it wasn’t an instant love like Frieza- i was still 6 so i was like ´purple frieza with prettier colors’ and that’s it. Fast foward because this is LONG LOL SORRY but got to know Salza and (vaguely) Cooler’s general motivations thanks to PS2’s Budokai Tenkaichi 2, around 2015 i got back into DB, and actually watched their movie... And honestly i had no idea that HE was like that- truly bitter towards his brother AND father, and had to actually prove himself; and only to get nothing from the two when he PUSHED HIMSELF SO FAR HE ACHIEVED A TRANSFORMATION *NO ONE ELSE* HAS ACHIEVED. Like let’s be real, Frieza is a VILE person, beyond cruel- but Cooler? He’s somehow worse, because he has reasons to be bitter- to me it can fuel his cruelty even further than Frieza and idk. It’s great. I’ll come back to it further in this but i feel this is a VERY interesting concept for a ‘frieza sibling’ villain.

Any/all the people I ship romantically with this character: no one- Cooler’s super aromantic (and ace) in my head. Doesn’t even understand the concept of friendship, so love? Lol no. But i hc that Dore is romantically attracted to him though- Cooler has no idea, and maybe that’s for the best, i think he might react badly if he knew.

My favorite non-romantic relationship for this character: surprise, surprise, CoolerxSalza lol. I might reiterate things i already said/mentioned, but. I think Salza genuinely believes in Cooler- the latter kind of ‘saved’ him from Brench, a place where he was the very best and that bored him almost to death; and Salza was always sadistic, so the fact that he not only got a job about making ppl miserable (or better- killing them), but actually gets to do it with someone else (even if it’s in professional terms), Salza just. REALLY looks up to Cooler. But as his right hand, he actually got to witness Cooler talking with his father/brother, and how they argue- that made Salza realize that, as tough Cooler is, he’s a real person and certain things can get on his nerves. And so Salza comforting Cooler is. Very important to me

My unpopular opinion about this character: h-he.. trans,. Boy- no but legit uhm tbh. he’s better than Frieza in some ways, fight me. Much more potential. Proof: how ToP Frieza was just re-iterations and nothing new- the only thing new being that last attack w goluband that’s it. While Cooler! There’s so much you can explore- feelings-wise especially. Because imo he HAS feelings but he was taught to show otherwise

One thing I wish would happen / had happened with this character in canon: honestly? As much as i’d like him back in a movie, something i kept thinking/hoping would happen was Cooler and Trunks’ interaction potential. Like both have harsh fathers, and idk they could have some kind of relationship based on that? Like not ANYWHERE near friendship- or anything like that; more like a ‘i thought i was the only one with this problem’ kind of relationship.

Favorite friendship for this character: SALZA LOL and DBHeroes Trunks, even if it breaks my hope for them bounding out of convienance but also bc of dad issues

My crossover ship: honestly HONESTLY Satori from 2hu. They’re like, the same. Asocial creepy older sibling that, in-universe, isn’t very liked, while their younger is going around and being a nuisance at best. They could talk over tea, and put their younger parasites in cages while doing so

🎶🎵🎶🎵Pop’n music i guess?!!?? even though i never played it and i’m just digging the songs and chara designs?!?! Anyway my fav is Yima

How I feel about this character: i love everything about him? The fact that he’s very visually different and unique from all other characters and in general, how no one seems to know what he really is, and especially. ESPECIALLY! How he apparentely never talks, and expresses himself via dancing, by taking poses that look like kanjis and symbols. Also apparentely he’s super in touch with nature and ‘the gods’, so he’s never seen with anyone else? Asocial creature... Good!

Any/all the people I ship romantically with this character: he doesn’t know what a romance is. And he wouldn’t eat one because honestly i’m not even sure he has a mouth. The only ‘proof’? Sign? He has SOMETHING is that one pose where he’s smoking a pipe/using a flute. and according to the creators his ‘likes’ is Love, but honestly i think it’s the kind of love that goes beyond mere romance. The love of living, being alive. Deep love.

My favorite non-romantic relationship for this character: well. Technically the only thing he communicates to- (intentionally) is the player? So what if he’s aware of the player- are they one of his gods? I think that’s interesting to think about.

My unpopular opinion about this character: he’s a very unique character, much better than the protagonists that look good in the Pop’n music style, but would like any other anime human otherwise. If anything, proof of that is that one game where the style DOES change to an anime-like one, and Yima still looks unique while the others are undistinguisable if you take off their colors and/or features

One thing I wish would happen / had happened with this character in canon: HONESTLY i know this will never happen and maybe that’s a good thing? But i think he should be shown with Hoshi no Hito- which is kind of the entity antithesis of Yima. Yima = unknown entity that strives for Love, the gods, nature/life/fertility. Hoshi no Hito = unknown entity that strives for ??? Who knows actually but is tied to ‘Paradise of the universe’ and ‘Heaven’; the latter according to one of his theme songs, that has VERY strange imagery and looks stranger than Yume Nikki, making that ‘Paradise’ notion kind of. Like are you sure?? But yeah they’re similar while contradicting each other, it’s very strange and honestly not sure if it’s intentional, but if it is: do something with it, you’ve got something VERY unique on your hands! Do this and i’ll actually get into this series tbh.

Favorite friendship for this character: the way he loves nature and his gods is very endearing. Invite the player into it, Yima

My crossover ship: what is romans again i forgot

❤️KH and then you can leave, my child. The text wall is almost over........ Xemnas time.

How I feel about this character: me! BIG GAY! FOR XEMNAS! SINCE 2011!!!! Like bruh i remember i made a Gary Stu to date all my fav KH boys (Xem, Zexion and Vanitas- that are still my top faves. Been so for 9 years then lol?! Im old.) and my totally-not-a-secret-selfinsert would actually be in a relationship with Xemnas- even if back then, Xem wasn’t REMOTELY in character lol. So somehow it took me YEARS to realize how truly great Xemnas is? Like before i was only like ‘he’s one of the most handsome 3D men of all time’. Now i am like exactly that, BUT! He’s also a cult leader, not entirely human, and a mean villain so 👍👍👍. And while i have mixed feelings abt the whole ‘he lied to the orgXIII about them not able to have feelings’ thing, proves he’s truly evil and/or emotionless.

Any/all the people I ship romantically with this character: no one- another aro/ace lol. But to be fair- this one makes sense? He has NO EMOTIONS. He doesn’t even seem to understand friendship? So love? What is that

My favorite non-romantic relationship for this character: well ok this is one somewhat implied and never shown, and i was going to do a picture about it (i’m still going to do it lol) but. According to Nomura in an interview, Xemnas and Zexion have a teacher-student relationship? Which makes a lot of sense? Because: 1) Zexion is the ‘kid that mostly grew up in the cult, so doesn’t know anything else’ trope. 2) their powers can somewhat relate imo? Zexion has illusion powers. Xemnas has nothingness powers- and aren’t illusions nothing, in a way...? That one might be just me tbh- but i can kind of see them talking about their powers together. 3) Zexion is a ‘schemer’- he’s no stranger to manipulating people- wouldn’t it make sense if he learmed that from Xemnas? I honestly doubt he learned it from Lexaeus, Vexen or Ansem- and Xigbar is WAY too subtle. Might have learned from Xaldin as well but legit i think it’s Xem who taught it to him.

My unpopular opinion about this character: i don’t think he should be redeemed- they avtually didn’t do that, which i’m glad about. He lied to people for 10 YEARS about them being unable to feel, all that so he could softcore brainwash them later so they could be more like him, so not worth redeeming lol...

One thing I wish would happen / had happened with this character in canon: ... BUT... tbh. I think the fact that he’s Terra’s nobody should have been much more explored. Before kh3 i even hoped Xem would have what i call an ‘asriel moment’, as in ‘i’m a bad guy but in the past i was a completely different person (literally) and let me have a breakdown over it’. Also hoped that would have made Terra’s Kh3 design- as in Xemnas’ look (long hair, face) with Terra’s colors... but no they didn’t do that, instead they did something that kind of makes sense since Xem died in kh2, but also did a weird thing with Terra that i don’t get and frankly don’t care about bc it doesn’t involve Xemnas

Favorite friendship for this character: again i don’t think he understands friendship... but i love the idea of Xigbar fucking with Xemnas and the latter tolerating it. I mean in canon it’s mostly shown that SAÏX is the right-hand man, but i like to think that it’s actually Xigbar but he doesn’t care and only annoys everyone

My crossover ship: not really a ship but. Since Xemnas and Cell’s JP Voice actor is the same person... and that they’re both villains that really love themselves... interact

Hello! It's my first time asking a question related to sexuality so bear with me 🙏🙏 So about 2 weeks ago i found out that i identify with biromantic demisexual. But after reflecting a bit more, im not too sure again. whether i identify demi romantically or sexually. Tho i am totally bi (if that makes sense?). I've had many crushes (or was it squishes?) tho there were only a few that I'd really like to have a relationship/deeper connection with. (1/?)

Rn im like attracted to an aro friend of mine, but im scared to let her know about this. I dont want to jeopardize our friendship (we recently got to know each other more than a month ago) so lm kinda confused to what i am really feeling now. (2/2) 

So I just wanted to let you know that you send the second part of this ask in while not anonymous, but I’m answering it here since I’m assuming this is how you wanted it answered. If you would prefer it to be private, dm me and I’ll take this post down and then we can talk there!

Broadly speaking, there’s a lot of overlap between by and aspec identities, which is why the communities have, historically speaking, been very closely tied. Many, many bi people used to identify as ace/aro and vice versa, by virtue of attraction (or lack thereof) being mostly the same towards all genders. It makes complete sense to me that you would bi, but also possibly demiromantic and/or demisexual. 

For me, personally, I don’t differentiate between sexual and romantic attraction, which is pretty common among a lot of people. Sure, there are plenty of people allo people might be sexually attracted to, but not date. Generally speaking, however, allo people tend to date only those they find sexually attractive, and it’s a given for many relationships that romance and sex are intertwined. So when I say that I’m demisexual, that doesn’t necessarily preclude me from being demiromantic simply because I don’t make a distinction between the two in my mind. So you can be bi and also demiromantic and demisexual at the same time if you think similar to me. Obviously, for those that do like to make/feel a distinction between sexual and romantic attraction, that’s totally fine!

In regards to your aro friend, you might want to see what they’re comfortable with, romance wise. To most of my friends, I’m out as ace, but, of course, I’m actually demi. It’s possible that your aro friend is gray-aro or demiromantic or something else. It’s also possible that your aro friend wants to have a queer platonic relationship (QPR). Now, a lot of people think that a QPR is simply being “best friends,” but it actually goes a lot deeper than that. I have a best friend, and we live in different cities, and we talk sometimes, and while I might seek her advice or input on something, I would never structure my life under the assumption that it needs to fit hers. Even though I love her to death. Queer platonic partners is like dating without the romance. You would make decisions together, like a couple in a committed, if new, relationship would. Like, if you change suddenly change jobs or want to move to a new apartment or adopt a cat or go on a impromptu vacation for the weekend, generally you need to discuss those types of things with your partner to make sure everyone is on the same page. You don’t usually need to discuss it with your friends before hand, except to mention that it’s already happening and you just want them to be aware. If you do want to have something deeper with your aro friend, and they are aromantic and not gray-aro, demi aro, or anything else, than it might be worth it to see how they feel about having a QPR.

Anyway! I hope this helped! And good luck with your friend. Even if all you two do is remain friends, you sound like a really awesome friend to have. 

destinyshipping for 001 and sora for 002, if i can ask for both please!

Thanks a lot for the ask >w

Destinyshipping:

when I started shipping it if I did: I think the first time I considered it was after the last Edo vs Judai? But more as a joke, because there’s so much romantic drama in GX and it added to the wonderful mess. I really got into it with the short arc in Domino City. Mostly when Judai and Edo tag duelled, with Edo being so desperate to be the one chosen, but also the scene before with both Saiou crying and the first flashback…. Yeah it’s around this time.

my thoughts: I just love this ship so much! There’s so many reason to it, I don’t think I can even list them all. But basically it’s a wonderful relationship, with a lot of development, aesthetic and powerful scenes, that is very subtle yet positive. I also love it because I can see it being both romantic and queerplatonic -or just a very confused mess of strong feelings-, so even when Im incredibly romance repulsed I can’t stop loving it and relate to it >w

What makes me happy about them: ….so much things makes me happy? But recently that they are both very autistic (it’s quite important for me) and that they were able to talk about their issues together at the end.

What makes me sad about them: Beside that this season and ship are very overlooked by gx fans… Well they both have quite sad backstories that’ll need lot of time to heal.

things done in fanfic that annoys me: I don’t read fanfic much, and there’s not much content for this ship so I can’t really say anything…

things I look for in fanfic: Of the few things Ive red here and there, the very thing that made me happier was when Saiou was reffered to with they/them. I still can’t use these pronouns for him, but knowing that someone out there also think he’s very enby fills me with so much joy .

Who I’d be comfortable them ending up with, if not each other: ….if i say judai and saiou could work it’ll probably sound weird but it  makes sense in season 4. I swear. Tho I can’t really see them not being together. Even if they aren’t in a romantic relationship, they would be in a close platonic relationship and live together anyway.

My happily ever after for them: …. This makes me more sad than needed because i actually thought about a short fic where Saiou dies of old age. And it’s very sad, but also happy because well with all they both went through, ending up living so long and happy is quite wonderful. So yeah just living together and slowly healing is great.

who is the big spoon/little spoon: Here comes the core of this ship: there is none. Nor there’s one to carry the other. Because Edo is the one who wants to be the big spoon, and to carry Saiou, and to protect him and all…. But he’s way too small. So they just face each other when sleeping and hug.

what is their favorite non-sexual activity: (…as if they’d have a fav sexual activity, saiou is ace in almost all my stories) Going to place with no one, like in the mountain or deep in some forests. Just spending some time without caring about humans existing. Also they are both very much into stuff like cinema and litterature, so they’d go a lot to see movies.

Sora:

How I feel about this character: He’s my wonderful child, I loved him the moment he started dueling and I still love him to death. 

All the people I ship romantically with this character: Not. A. Single. One. Of all the character I see as aromantic, he’s the one I am the most attached to. Like I usually don’t mind romantically shipping a character while seeing them as aro in another story but not Sora.

My non-romantic OTP for this character:I love his relationship with Yuzu so much! With Yuya too, but if there isn’t Yuzu around he might not be a very good exemple for him. Also? I love how he quickly got Layra’s trust and I really like them being friends.

My unpopular opinion about this character: Idk how “unpopular” its is but… I sometime see people seeing Sora as just the local psycho kid that learns to be Good and while I don’t mind other people having different interpretations of a character, I feel like it’s really missing a lot. Sora’s development isn’t about being “good” or “kind”, it’s about gaining some sense of self. I could talk for hours about how interesting Sora is, but well It’ll probably be huge and Im not sure if anyone want to read this.

One thing I wish would happen / had happened with this character in canon: I wish I could have a confirmation that he doesn’t stay at Academia at the end but well…. the ending was what it was. I also would have loved to see people around (especially Yuya and Yuzu) acknowledge how awful academia was for him (and overall for the fusion kids).

my cross over ship: Not really a ship but something that striked me when seeing Sora for the first time is how he feels a lot like Yu from Beyblade Metal (while being very different later on). Puppy eyes? Love for sweet food? Green eyes? Genius who feel like what they do is normal? Very tactile and expressive of affection? There’s a bunch of common point between them.

a headcanon fact: Cute one: he actually knows how to sew very well and loves to do stuffed toys for others. Sad one: the reason why he’s always eating sweets isn’t because he loves them, it’s because it’s the energy his body need to do the same as a highly trained soldier while not being as strong.

So I'm going to start identifying myself as aspec. Previously I identified as a bisexual aromantic but upon furthur consideration I might be asexual.

I'm posting about this b/c 1) it puts it out there and makes the lable feel more real and tangible

2) I know some of y'all IRL or on a personal enough basis that I feel you should know

3) A queers need more visibilty in gen

4) cause I want to talk abouy it

So Idk how to do a read more and am on mobile so if you dont want to hear about what being aspec means to me start scrolling now

So. In the aspec community (do we have a better word?) theres an overwhelming discourse about sexual and romantic repulsion. For those of you who dont know thats when the idea of sex , sexual content, sex itself, the idea of romance, romantic gestures, and/or romantic content acts as a squick for you it creates some spectrum of a revulsion in you to be confronted with one or more of these things. Its an overwhelming discourse for many reasons but the one I want to talk about is that it makes it obvious that your ace or aro if your repulsed by sex or romance. The process for discovering your aspec identity is easier in a way, specifically in a way it isnt for me.

See I dont experience sexual or romantic repulsion. I like romance stories and porn. I actively seek these things out. I'm not put off by discussions of others romantic or sexual lives (specific aspects may repulse me but in general I'm interested in these especially when coming from people I care about). So naturally as a teenager I never considered myself as aspec. i considered myself bisexual almost immediatly (there was a thing where I thought I was tricking myself into thinking I liked women to be included in the queer community. More on that later) it took two very short very middle school esque (one took place my sophmore year) relationships and an accidental internet encounter with the concept of aromantisim for me to realise that the reason this wasnt working for me was because I didnt really want it.

The more I thought of myself as aro the more things made sense. At the slumber parties as a kid I never had a crush to confess. Those two failed relationshios? Guy friends I'd gotten real close to and thought my new stronger friendship feelings must be what romantic attraction feels like. Also the real sticker, I dont get jealousy in romance at all. Like that one goes over my head. I dont understand why cheating is the worst thing someone can do in a relationship to the point that people who've been sucked into a cycle of abuse and have become convinced everything is their fault will snap when they discover they were cheated on. That is absolutly mind boggling for me.

The point of that is I never got that ew ick romance feeling. As a reult the road to discovering I was aromantic was long and and full of doubt. Doubt that went along the lines of "Maybe I just havent found the right person". Which also happens to be the exact thing my mum says to me everytime I try to explain that Im aromantic to her. Bisexuality she understands and accepts. This she doesnt. So even though I know intellectually theres no right person for me that niggling doubt remains andit haunts me.

Now im going to devolve a bit here and I know what this sounds like but im seriously not trying to be offensive just explain something

See I read a fanfic recently. I dont remeber how I found it but it was a Stony fic and the story and the set up were very romantic cliche. Basically Steve was Tony's booty call it evolves to friends with benefits Steve falls in love. Textbook stuff. But see theres a wrench because the author identifies as aromantic is with the definition we have aromantic. They write their identity onto Tony. Thats something we do in fanfic and in writing. But the problem I ran into is this: the author identifies as aromantic because they experience romantic repulsion(yes they told me this) so in the fic Tony is in love with Steve but experiences romantic repulsion. The idea of romance of romantic commitment makes him anxious and sick. This is how the author feels FWB allows them to experience intimacy without triggering their repulsion. Identifying as atomantic makes them feel not broken. This so good right? This is why we have labels

Except. When I read this part of the story it hurt me. Directly. See Tong Stark has Daddy Issues. Ehen the author wrote about Tony's romantic repulsion narritevly they tied it into Tony's not nice childhood. I dont know specifically why it wasnt part of thwir explanation when I told them their story hurt me. I didnt ask. But this narritive decision made what was essentially was an author expressing their experience as an aromantic in a story feel like a personal attack against my aromantic identity.

See when I read that what I read was "Tony Stark cant commit to an actual relationship with Steve Rogers because Howard Starks Grade A parenting fucked up his ability to recieve expressions of love and his ability to commit. Tony Stark is in romantic love with Steve Rogers but his childhood trauma prevents him from expresing it in the traditional manner this is what being aromantic is"

That hurt. Because it hit that little doubt in my head about not having met the "right person" and mixed it up with some childhood trauma made you a broken person. It also hit me while I felt safe. Romance stories are my escapism. Their like an extra element of fantasy in a story for me. I specifically seek out romantic stories as a comforting mechanism. Fanfics in particular because of their inclusivity. I was in my safe space, and I was whammed in a sore spot.

The problem is though the author has a right to that story and that label and to express themselves. We usually draw the line at self expression where it hurts other people but thats not what happened here. What happened here was definitial confusion. The author and I were using "aromantic" to describe two different but similar romantic orientations. In doing so we hurt each other ironically in the same way. We both said to each other "Your identity is wrong and toxic you hurt people and yourself by expressing it the way you do". (I left a comment saying how her story affected me)

When I say I'm aromantic I mean I experience no romantic feelings. None nada zilch. The idea that I might one day experience a type of romantic feeling is an aggression against me. The same way the idea that gay people can choose to be straight is an aggression against being gay.

But I can't invalidate someone else to protect myself. What do I do? I dont want to hurt myself and I dont want to hurt other people? Idk

And now to why I no longer identify as bisexual.

I'm a virgin. Because most peoples first time is with someone their in a romantic relationship with. And we'll I dont do that. Im also a socially anxious person. I have no idea how to instogate a sexual encounter and honeslty I wouldnt feel comftorable dping it with someone I couldnt trust or alternatively someone I'm friends with and would have to continue being juat friends with in post we had sex awkwardness. So ive never had an opportunity to have sex.

But I also havent sought them out. And I dont feel particularly driven to. These are reasons to think your asexual but I'm sure it's also the experience of many introverted and secually awkawrd people. And it's not like I couldnt have sex at some future point. Even now if an opportunity arose I might say yes, of only to confirm my asexuality.

The thing that has made me actually consider if I'm ace tho is a weird quirk of mine. I cant get off to prom videos. I use lit erotica. Why? Cause the idea that those are real live people puts me off. Porn stars and amateur porn makers know people get off watching their videos. Theyre okay with that. But I'm not. At all. Thats a big ol nope for me.

See I'm a ciswoman. Which means I have a clitoris. An organ whose only purpose is to provide pleasure. As everyone knows reciving pleasure via the clit requires no participation by a second person. The fact that my clitiros functions as intended and that I use it isnt sexual attraction.

Thats a new idea for me. But it's true isnt it? Sexual attraction is about other people. And sure I can appreciate other people's hotness. But just because I think a horse is pretty doesnt mean I want to fuck it. Remeber that thing about thinking I was faking bisexuality?? I was right. I wasnt sexually attracted to women. But what I hadnt bothered to consider because of heteronormativity was that I wasnt sexually attracted to men either.

Other fun fact in case you might be an ace person who's read this far (why? Also hi Katie and possibly Sadie but definelty Nishat. No im not implying any of you are ace) I dont have sex dreams. But I do have dreams in which I masturbate. So stick that jn your pipe and smoke it.

Anyways these are all experinces that I have that I feel neccessry to share to make it so the repulsion story isnt the only one out there. And also to start a discourse about how experiencing and not experiencing repulsion affect aspec experience. Thanks for reading!