How the fuck did I end up here in my life, I'm litteraly crying in my bed bc I have to go to a friends birthday in like an hour??

Every now and then I remember I am significantly older than the legalization of gay marriage in my country and I take psychic damage every time. I am not that old, like my life has just begun.

Just... Remember our rights didn't just descend from the heavens hundred of years ago. It is still a fresh memory, a blip compared to the timeline of the world.

I would rather spend time with any hick I grew up with who is genuinely accepting and understanding of queers but uses faggot bc he doesnt actually understand the weight behind slurs than a leftist who absolutely does but decides it's okay for people you don't like

"X group of people deserve to feel attractive/desirable/valuable"

and

"If the only way you know how to support people/say they have value is to say they're fuckable, that's messed up in several ways actually"

are two thoughts that not enough people allow to coexist and it shows

I feel like I need to come to terms with the fact that I'm just an overly selfish person, as much as I try my best, I will always always make something about myself in one way or another

So fucking pissed at people who say that hyperspecific labels “make the queer community look bad” or “is just pure attention seeking”, NO MF I JUST LIKE HAVING A NAME FOR THINGS I FEEL.

Like, my situation with gender is so fucking complicated that having a person coin something such as “dazegender” was so good to me, and I still have a complicated relationship with gender !! I’m so glad for whoever coined the term “Omnisexual/romantic” because it would've been a living nightmare to do mental gymnastics to feel like I fitted pan or bi.

“But those are spectrums” do people treat them as such ? Do they really ? Plus it's just difficult to my head to grasp the concept of “spectrum” it either is or is not, that's how my brain works personally. (My brain needs to be able to name things, basically. And also to know exactly what to do, if we're talking about chores, per say).

In today's generation so many people (me included) just find it SO HARD to put their feelings into words that it is genuinely a blessing to have labels that can label what we feel so precisely (to us, at least), “but you're overcomplicating something that should be simple” feelings are so far from being simple, honestly, and what is simple to you may not be to me, and that's okay, just don't call me attention seeking or whatever.

Also, also !! Hyperspecific labels/flags just make me (at least) feel more validated, since it makes it clear to me that I'm not alone in the way I feel and it kinda validates me (in a good way) :] And it's the Queer Community after all, so I think it's past the time we start actually acting like that.

studying psychology literally does nothing for your understanding of yourself btw. you just end up with better knowledge of excel

how and why is there discourse about whether or not certain queer identities exist/if people should be allowed(???) to use them. why is "people know their own identity better than you ever could, and they're the only one who get a say on what they are" such a tough concept to grasp

i think if you find yourself offended by the label someone uses (especially if they're a stranger) or think it invalidates your own, it's a good idea to look inside yourself and question why that may be. more often than not, it's a result of insecurity or uncertainty of your own identity (or many other things, but i won't make a whole list here). whatever reason it is, until you resolve it, you shouldn't take it out on people for having an identity you don't understand

many have said it before but it's worth saying over and over. infighting only helps our oppressors. conservatives don't care if you're a cis gay or a xenogender aegosexual aplatonic lesbian, they hate all of us either way. trying to fit in by going for people who are easier targets for them isn't gonna help you, it'll just alienate you from your own community, and you're never gonna please them. the momentary rush you get from hearing you're not like "one of /those/ gay people" is not worth it and is gonna do more harm in the long run, i assure you

also, it is important to me to say this, but having some less than nice kneejerk reaction caused by confusion about an identity you don't understand doesn't mean you're a bad person or anything. as long as you aren't mean to that person, and you take a second to think smth along the lines of "wait a minute, this isn't any of my business" after having said reaction, you're good 👍 a lot of reflexive reactions we have to things are ingrained into us simply by. well. living in a society 🤡 and you're not terrible for having those thoughts. it's your actions that matter, and your second thought (the "wait, why did i just think that?") is more defining of your actual character and morals than your reflex. i know that having thoughts like this, even tho they're unwanted, can very easily make one spiral, so it's important to me that whoever needs to hear this knows this doesn't make you a bad person 🙏 you're good, keep taking actions to be good, accept other people even if you don't understand them, and you're on the right track :)

[Coping with Loneliness and Cracks in Control]

Ah, it’s happening again. This irritating habit of leaving the body alone But there’s no one here either. It’s youyouyou no matter how much you call. (so cavernous it echoes) so stop doing it Your mind has been cracked open over and over again with every repair the damage worsens how long? “Tuvok, how do you do it?” desperately. The Vulcan mind is a fascinating thing. Mysterious. Resilient. Much like the Vulcan people - it can survive much worse than this. “Give me all you’ve got!” because I’m empty empty empty desperately. Meditate. Sort it out. Hm? Isn’t this too much for less than half a person? I can’t live like this. What other choice do you have? [A Mind Meld - Desperately]

“If you aren’t dysphoric then you’re just choosing to be trans” Me, literally having first mentioned thinking I might be a gender other than my agab when I was 8 years old:

Had HSM trilogy marathon recently and now I'm in desperate need of the Part 4 where everyone have a middle life crisis. It would fix me and my quarter life crisis.

sometimes i just stop caring about stuff and then i feel bad about not caring about stuff and then i remember that it's fine bc i can think and feel whatever so long as my actions align with my morals

Not quite what you described in the post but I couldn't make it work that way, and actually I misread it at first so the plush being on Roxy's head is a mental image I have now anyways and that's fun too.

YEEEEESSSSS AMAZING

This is now what she does when she wants to carry around a lil comfort guy but her paws are full. They get to sit on her head.

Which is funnily enough, where the mini Music Men Poppet and Glow like to alternate being. Bsjdndk they just jump up to her head to get comfy in her fluffy hair but! Someone's already there! How DARE someone else take their spot! Oh it's just a plushie? IRRELEVANT! Tippy? SUMMON THE HORDE WE ARE GOING TO WAR!!!!

i hope all my friends who i don't talk to as much as i wish i did know they're constantly in my thoughts

i think a lot abt biker and jacket's relationship for someone who does not like them together romantically

What are your thoughts on Mindy kaling? Are you a fan of her work? She's been receiving some criticism lately and I would love to know if you have any thoughts on her work.

I really like her writing, anon! I think she's a clever, funny writer who has a really distinct voice and can land sweet, emotional beats in a way that never veers into saccharine, which is a real testament to her talent. Her work has bounce to it, which gives it an energy that a lot of comedy shows lack, and I always try to check out her stuff.

I'm a little behind on a few of her shows though - I haven't seen her Four Weddings and a Funeral adaptation or The Sex Lives of College Girls, but I've seen all of The Office, The Mindy Project and Never Have I Ever, as well as Late Night, which I thoroughly enjoyed. I've also read both her books, and liked them a lot too.

I do get the criticisms of her though as well, and don't necessarily disagree with them. I think you can tell what romantic dynamics she likes because she repeats them in different works, and some of her stories can suffer from her voice filtering down through multiple characters too much, and that she doesn't always balance A-B-and-C storylines well. That said, I do think she's a writer who listens and I think she's one who's generally growing, and I actually think too she doesn't get enough credit as a major talent and a major voice when it comes to women in both comedy and in storytelling broadly.

So yeah! I get the criticisms, but I also am really glad that she's here, y'know? Especially as I feel like she's one of the few women in comedy who writes really consistently and unapologetically for a female audience.