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Jaheira rubs a cloth from her pack slowly along the sleek blade of one of her scimitars and examines its edge with an appraising eye. For a little while she pretends to ignore the small shape creeping around the edge of the fire towards her, but eventually Boo is sitting almost at her knee and she gives the hamster a sidelong glance.
"What is it then, small one?" she says dryly, the pale green pulse of an animal speech spell flaring around her body.
Boo perches up on his back legs and peers up at her with that beady, unreadable stare. Jaheira looks back thoughtfully, raising one eyebrow.
She reflects, not for the first time, that for all that Minsc often seems mad, it is hard to ignore that there is something about the little beast that is more than bestial. The little dark eyes shine with intelligence, and he is the only creature she has ever attempted to speak to with aid of magic that has deliberately not deigned to speak back.
And it is no different today. Boo ignores the spell and simply squeaks once, loudly, then turns and looks back across the fire towards the bedrolls of the camp. Jaheira follows his gaze, and has to resist the urge to smile. Minsc is peering around the edge of one of the tents with an air of stealth that would be more appropriate if he were about half the size that he is.
She has not spoken to him since their argument when they first arrived back from the sewers, and though Boo offers no words, the message is clear. You have grieved him. Will you not clear the air?
"He does not need to hide," she tells Boo softly. "You may tell him so."
Boo squeaks again and scurries off into the shadows.
She returns to the care of her weapons and does not look up when she hears the Rashemaar's heavy footfalls at her side.
"May Minsc sit?" he rumbles.
She smiles slightly. "You feel you must ask permission?"
He drops down at her side and stares into the slowly dying flames. A silence stretches for a few moments before he says haltingly, "I still do not understand all of your anger, Jaheira. But if Minsc has given offense, then he shall not rest until the offense is eased." A pause. "Minsc has lost too many witches. He does not want to lose you."
Jaheira draws a slow breath, lets it out heavily. "You have not lost me, Minsc," she says quietly. "It was I who almost lost you." She frowns. "And I have also lost too much to suffer that lightly."
Minsc looks at her sideways. "But you will not be my Wychlaran," he says. It is not a question, just a flat, tired statement of fact.
She sighs. "Minsc... do you think I did not listen when you spoke to Dynaheir, to Aerie? It was a bond of trust, entered into willingly by both sides. You cannot claim me in such a bond without my knowledge." A pause. "If you wished a place at my side, you should have asked me. Not claimed space within me like a conqueror."
He considers that in silence. "Jaheira, as always, speaks more wisely than Minsc can even think," he agrees after a little while. His mouth draws into a tight line. Then, in a very low voice, he adds, "Minsc has been afraid."
At that, she does lift her head away from her attention on the blades and looks at him directly for the first time. She knows Minsc well enough to know that this is an admission he would make to no one else.
"So many things have changed, Jaheira. I do not remember my time as a stone, for to Minsc it passed like lightning, like a blink - something and then nothing, and then something again but with more itching. Itching and loneliness. Had I a witch she would have soothed both. But I had none... Dynaheir was dead many a long year, and Aerie so far away that Minsc might never see her again..."
She nods slowly. She still remembers the keen, biting emptiness in her chest in the days after Khalid's death - the knowledge that she had been hurt beyond measure and that the one who would have eased the pain was beyond her reach. "You had only me."
"Yes," he answers, and a little more energy comes back into his voice. "And it seemed to Minsc that you must be my new witch, for you were the only one I trusted so, and a Rashemaar without his witch is like Boo without a bit of grain - quite empty." A pause. "Minsc forgot that for Minsc to have a witch, the witch must also have Minsc."
Jaheira smiles slightly and reaches over to rest a hand lightly on his knee. "I will not call myself Wychlaran - but you have me at your side, no matter the name, Minsc," she says quietly. "I did not travel yet again through the Baldurian sewer muck simply to toss you away."
His shoulders relax a little and she can see the slight curve of his lips back into his more accustomed smile. "Good. Minsc is glad to hear it," he says quietly.
For a little while, they sit in companionable silence, watching as the flames slowly drift lower and lower. Boo crawls back out of the shadows, dragging a carrot from the camp supply sack larger than he is; settling between them, he begins to gnaw contentedly on his prize. Jaheira begins to feel some of the tension that has been her constant companion for so many months beginning to bleed away. So much danger still lies ahead... but her friend, at least, is safe again, and that makes such a tremendous difference. He is not one of those she has lost, not yet.
"So," Minsc says abruptly after a little while. "This new monk you travel with. Hector. Tell me of him."
Jaheira stirs, jarred loose from reverie, and has to take a moment to collect her thoughts enough to answer. "A good man, I think," she says slowly after a little while. "He has seen as much in a few months as we did in all our time in Amn, and still stands as straight as he did the day I met him."
Minsc nods. "Minsc sees Rasaad in him," he says gravely.
Jaheira says nothing for a moment. Then she nods. "He has much the same temperament. He says little and sees much. Even when we were closest, Rasaad often said little of what was in his heart, and I think Hector also holds much he does not reveal."
"And he is not quick to catch a joke," Minsc points out with a sudden broad grin. "He said to Minsc that the bond of a Wychlaran sounded only like friendship. At that Minsc laughed, for such a thing should be laughed at, and said that by such a thought, the whole camp is full of my Wychlarans! But the monk did not laugh in turn; Minsc is not sure he saw the jest."
Jaheira grins crookedly. "Perhaps he did not. Certainly that was also a failing in Rasaad at times; perhaps Selunites are not trained in the art of humor." A long pause. "But I like him, Minsc. He is brave in spite of great fear - and good reason for it. He loves fiercely, friend and lover alike. He kills doppelgangers with only his fists. And there are shades of Caden in him, too; I think he would be kind even though it killed him."
Minsc squares his shoulders stoutly. "Then Minsc and Boo shall see to it that it does not kill him, for they shall kick the butts of all by his side." Boo lifts his head, his cheeks fat with a great mouthful of carrot, and gives a muffled squeak.
Jaheira chuckles. "He is in good hands indeed, then."
"Hands and paws," Minsc amends with a wide grin.
"Of course," she says, and grins back. "How could I forget?"
#my writing#bjk plays baldur's gate 3#hector carlisle#caden of candlekeep#drabble#jaheira#bg3 jaheira#bg3 minsc#minsc#bg3 boo#bg3 drabble#baldur's gate 3 fanfiction#bg3 fanfiction#bg3 fic#i never know how to tag this stuff#pretty pleased with this though c:#really wanted to write a bit of their interaction and smooth over some of the minor bits of minsc's bg3 intro that bothered me#(mostly i've loved all of it but some things needed addressing :D )#i'm really having a lot of feelings about jaheira lately
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reflecting on my 2023 in this fandom, i wanted to share some observations, reflections and projections for 2024. it's a little mix of positive and negative stuff so, and as this will be something mostly only mutuals will read (if at all), i just wanted to give you that heads up. i have some bits to get off my chest.
so, to start with, some little observations about myself as a writer:
i tag it 'nationverse' because i don't tend to write nationverse (the odd bit of historical, but not consistently), and i think it's useful to signpost to my readers 'oh btw they are actually nations in this one, in case that's not what you want to read today'. that is okay.
i will always call it 'engspa' to distinguish it from 'spuk' because i have a preferred dynamic for them and i grew up in a fandom space that tagged things as such to help readers know what they were getting into. that is okay.
i prefer having a ficlet collection to posting small works separately because it helps me manage my fics, see what i have and haven't done, navigate my profile, keep the request fics in one place, and maintain my drive to write small things compared to posting them all separately. that is okay.
i block people in order to curate my online enviroment, to avoid topics or content i'm not interested in or that i don't want to be in my happy space, and to manage my own emotions - and i am allowed to do so. that is okay.
i don't like every ship under the sun and so won't fulfil every request or suggestion i receive into my inbox, no matter how many times i am asked to. that is okay.
i just feel a need to address these things that have cropped up in my year. at a few points i've felt like a 'bad writer' for doing certain things or have been made to feel like a 'bad writer' for... essentially having preferences. at various points i lost confidence and contemplated throwing the towel.
thing is, we all do things differently, and we all have our own systems, preferences, and needs. i wish we'd stop putting each other down for that.
while i don't doubt my insecurities won't shift much next year, in 2024, i'll be in my eighth year writing. that feels like an achievement i ought to be celebrating. and it reminds me how important writing is in my life - because that's a third of my lifetime i will have been writing for. and mostly for this fandom, haha...
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looking on the fics i've written and finished this year, if i had to pick my favourite three, they'd probably be...
'Let Me Go' - i'm still patting myself on the back for this one. it's my favourite piece of nationverse i've written to date, and i could do so much with it...
'Want' - begging myself to write a sequel that i probably won't, but i can dream!
'Smokescreen' - ...it felt good to be bad, just for a little bit!
if i then think about my favourite aus in general from this year, then it's got to be:
the zoo au, from 'Lovebirds' because it's just CUTE, okay?
the RNLI au, from 'Swell', in which Arthur and Antonio are lifeboat volunteers (10/10 would write more)
the dragons au, from 'Scales' because worldbuilding is fun but also,, Rhys, my boy! :D
the school au, from 'The Note', for the memories it brings back and the reminder that i can write fluff, dammit!
and if only you guys knew the aus happening in my messages with maiva,, we are so smart we are so cool we are constantly drowning in cats :)
to conclude these little reflections on my year in fandom, things i'm a bit sad about:
i've given up on 'Bound' as a series - i just haven't been able to get anywhere with the plans or drafts i have, and i've lost my love for it, so it's officially parked.
'Hopeful Waters' will also definitely not continue - i will, however, not delete it as i have stopped myself from doing a million times this year. i may write snippets of 'what would have been' but my relationship with the fic is... largely negative, so i make no promise.
hetaween fics slipped through my darn fingers this year and i didn't write as much as i wanted. next year, i will return with vengeance... ùwú
and things i'm happy about or proud of from this year:
romespa ✨everything✨
i've written now well over a million words on ao3 which feels,, just surreal, honestly. 16 year old helia would never
i finally cleared out my ao3 inbox and stopped hoarding comments for months and i'm keeping on top of it!
i've continued to write dialogue prompt lists! it always makes me happy when i see others using them as well <3
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and so, looking at 2024...
next year, what i'm hoping above all else is that 'For Me?' reaches its conclusion. it's been slow-going this year with updates, and it's nearly two years old (ouch), but i'm now finally getting the plot back on track and i know my direction. i hope the wait will be worth it! i'm excited about what's to come for Antonio, Arthur, and the others :)
i also hope 'Bitter Teeth' keeps going strong. i hope i let myself take breaks without feeling so guilty. i hope i get more into historical hetalia again. i really want to explore the implications of the events of 'Let Me Go'. i hope i learn to love my unfinished works or abandoned wips. i hope i start sharing more of my ideas. i hope i learn it's okay to not always want to write the same characters over and over, even if they are my favourites.
really, i just want to keep moving forward. i want to keep writing. i want to keep loving writing. i want to keep exploring. i want to not succumb to negativity as much. i want to indulge even more in what i want and what i feel like.
oh, and i want more cat aus. sorry maiva. we're not finished.
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to finish, i just wanted to leave a little thanks to the friends i have here who read my stuff, who encourage me, and who give me the confidence to continue forwards. i treasure you. i hope you know who you are. and i offer you cookies, hugs, and well wishes for the year ahead 🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
thank you guys for everything <3
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damn that anons an asshole. what are your thoughts on d&d alignment id love to hear em
nothing would make me happier thank you anon o7
My original post addressing the anon was mostly in response to their comment about how 'd&d has alignments so it can't be black and white lol' (or at least that's what i Assume they meant. i can't say i'm too sorry if i misinterpret their words).
tl;dr i hate the alignment system and kind of think it sucks balls dick and ass.
i'll take the L for using the phrase 'black and white' fairly liberally but my general usage of it refers to things being painted into Specific Categories and there being no Fluidity between categories; Like fine d&d morality isn't black and white, its black, gray, and white. You're either good, evil, or 'ehhh can't i be both?' (neutral). You get three choices babey. (Yes, there's the lawful and chaotic sides, but imo that's another bag of beans to get into and they're Supposed to be just descriptors, not actual morality indicators. i also think the lawful/chaotic distinction sucks but ANYWAYSSS)
This is Especially heinous when previously, alignments were used to describe d&d races in their entirety. i don't think i need to explain why referring to all goblins or all drow or all orc as 'evil' is Really Bad. like Really Really Bad.
Anyways, even if the alignment system was more Fluid (like a line where the two ends are 'evil' and 'good' and you can place your character wherever you want on that line), defining a character's morality that one-dimensionally is useless at best and shitty at worst:
(As an aside: I've only taken like, basic college anthropology classes. this is using my Very Basic knowledge of cultural morality.)
Morality is Defined by your culture and society. What You might consider bad could be considered Fine in another culture. That doesn't mean your definition is wrong, or that theirs is wrong either; Just that everything, including your understanding of reality/morality, is relative. Cultural Relativism and all that.
Now, D&D's races, classes, regions, etc. all have their own specific cultures. The culture of githyanki is significantly more different then that of say, gnomes, and what is considered 'evil' in one culture might be 'good' in another. But, D&D does not take a cultural relative approach, and instead defines morality by the Faerun standard. (or, at the very least, the standards of the gods.)
This becomes very unfortunate, because what this means is that every culture, no matter how foreign, no matter if they're in a Completely different plane than Faerun (or whatever the default setting is at the time), is defined by what the 'good races' of the default setting think is 'good' or 'bad'. This is like if we were to force the american definition of morality on every other place on planet earth - ohhhh that's right, that actually happens. (DISCLAIMER: do i have to say this? well, just in case: this is not a defense of like, shitty morals. murder is bad. etc.)
And like, it gets worse, because morality is not even really an opinion that you can be ambiguous about in Faerun - There are literally Planes defined by being either Good Or Evil. The Upper Planes are Objectively, by the setting, Good, and the Lower Planes are, Objectively, Bad. What they say is the Truth of the matter, or as truthful as it gets, anyways (if I were to be kind to the setting, i would have to admit its actually a Little more complicated than that, but, i digress).
What I'm essentially getting at is because D&D was made by some white guys who based morality off of their own standards of it, that alignment in D&D is very western and eurocentric, like most of the game. Again, goblins/orcs/drows, typically seen as the Evil race, frequently were influenced by the cultures of non white pple (if you need an example, just read up on any d&d lore and look at how goblin/orc magic, religion, and social organization is described, compared to their human counterparts). Again, i don't think i need to explain how that's Sucks Balls.
Im realizing that i should probably bring this back to bg3 and why i think giving the companions 'alignments' isn't very helpful when it comes to describing them. like, take lae'zel; if we're using the Faerun definition of morality, she is lawful evil. Her society is evil by faerun standards and she follows their code entirely and she does like threatening and killing people. But like, really? From her perspective, she is just doing what is right/'good' for her people; and when she realizes that what is right for her people is different, she stops following Vlaakith and pledges herself to [SPOILERS]. maybe you could make a case that she 'changes' alignment upon this choice, but it's not as if her ideals are drastically different - she's still pretty chill with murder, and she continues to want the best for her people. And like, need I remind you that other characters that can be defined as lawful evil are like, Ketheric and shit, and d&d alignment puts them all into the same bag. So like, what now?
This became mostly rambles lol. But regardless, its not as if the D&D alignment system is Completely unsalvageable. But any usage of the alignment system must come with the caveat that it is Subjective.
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Hello, I have some questions and a need for advice, if that's ok. I've read a lot about Dom/Sub type of relationships, and part of me wants to try to find someone with the dynamic that I'm looking for, but I think that I fall in to all of the "red flag" criteria that people warn Doms about. I don't know what my limits are. I can't find out until they're done to me. I don't know how to say no. I am not assertive. I don't react to things with facial expressions, or even tone of voice. I've yet to react sexually to anything. I am everything that a Dom would avoid. Should I just lie? Is it worth it?
Hey there, happy to help! Overall, I think you have some valid concerns about things that could make being a sub less safe and healthy. But the fact that you have those concerns actually sets you up to be safer and healthier because it shows you know what you need to work on to take care of yourself when you get into D/s.
I am not in the business of telling people not to pursue their sexual and romantic desires. Submitting is fun and liberating for a lot of people, so if it's something you want, I want to encourage you to find a way to be able to pursue it in a way that's good for your emotional, sexual & mental wellbeing. And I think you can! It's just about finding a partner that you feel safe with, can trust, and can actually share all of these concerns (and more) with so that the two of you can figure out the healthiest dynamic together.
To address some of your concerns specifically:
I don't know what my limits are. I can't find out until they're done to me. This is totally normal. I can see why you would have the impression that you need to know all of this because a lot of people on Tumblr go around posting lists of their kinks and limits. But that is mostly stuff that's learned through trust, trial, & communication.
I don't know how to say no. I'm not assertive. A looott of subs are not assertive. That's actually why many of us like submitting - it relieves us of the uncomfortable pressure to assert ourselves. But we have safe sex by working with our partner to figure out ways to tell them what we want & don't want, even if responding via facial expressions etc. doesn't come naturally for you.
Also, the fact that you know that saying no is hard for you shows that, at the very least, you are aware of when you want to say no. A good partner will check in with you often and give you open opportunities to say no. Even if you have slip-ups (not saying no when you wish you had), being aware of what you didn't like gives you the ability to bring it up to your Dom in a conversation later so they know for next time.
That said, you need to practice saying no. I understand that it's hard for you, but by flat-out saying that you don't know how to do it you are making the choice to keep always saying "yes" because it's easier. Do the hard thing, starting with things that are totally non-sex related. Say no. You're worthy of having what YOU want, and people who reject you for that are not worth your energy, love, or attention.
Remember that D/s is something that 2 people build together over time. Don't date a Dom who says they know everything -- they're just going to lay whatever they want on you. Date a real person, get to know them, share your curiosities, have open conversations, and explore your sexuality together. You just need to be able to communicate.
The only times I would really advise against someone being a sub is if they have very very low self worth or internalized misogyny and are using submission as a means of self-harm. And even in that case, I still think they could submit to a Dom who is aware of their issues (and larger societal pressures) and wants to show them what loving dominance can look like.
Hope this helps :) 💌
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The Normal Album by Will Wood and what it means to me
hey just letting you know that this is a longish post ahead!! I hope you enjoy :D
Precursor-
My autism always manifested in my weirdness. My parent's never quite knew I was autistic, especially due to the lack of research when I was growing up, so me being quirky or weird was just considered my personality. I would non-stop talk about things I was interested in and I often felt very immersive emotions. I talked in weird and eccentric ways- I even had to get speech therapy. Sometimes I was too hyper for them and sometimes I was also too loud (mostly for my dad who probably was also autistic) and I never really understood this. I didn't really get how to control my volume. My resistance to a change in schedule or being overwhelmed in environments were always chalked up to simply miss behaving, tiredness, stubbornness, or even just being easily scared because I was a child. These things never really left me, although as I reached middle school I started to mask as much as I could, including my emotions to the point I can't fully understand what I am feeling. I'm now a junior in highschool and i've been recently diagnosed as autistic.
Even though in all regards my diagnosis is kind of early, I got diagnosed at 16 rather then when im 30 like some people, I still don't get any support. My school work is ok and I get good grades, but that doesn't take into consideration what my actual needs are. This is all my school pays attention to and when I suggest getting some accommodations i'm always the one expected to suggest specifi. ones and "see if it works." This doesn't help me since I don't exactly know what would help me. Additionally, when I talk to my therapist about it she's usually unfamiliar with terms I use and she gives me room to vent rather then give me advice on how to unmask (she sees masking as a really good skill and it is but she never addresses how it can be very harmful to me). Any efforts to unmask, to sit down and allow myself to process what I feel (not only am I learning new concepts like overstimulation and my relationship to them, im also working through possible alexithymia), feel like im rediscovering part of myself and uncover my true self. Sometimes this feels like a blessing, sometimes it makes me feel hopeless, and sometimes it makes me feel- for the lack of a better word- insane. I constantly double guess myself and wonder if im making it up, even though I got professionally diagnosed!
The Normal Album-
Last year I discovered Will Wood and The Tapeworms. Their whole discography is just fantastical and I suggest listening to them and Will Wood's solo career, but I especially felt a connection to The Normal Album by Will Wood. The Normal Album is about deviating from the norm- whether that be regarding gender or being neurodivergent, and how that effects your relationship with others. Both things I relate to considering im genderqueer and autistic. This album helps me not only express my feelings but also helps me feel seen. It encompasses my whole feeling about who I am. I feel like I need to hide and alter certain parts of myself- but I also really don't wan't to and i'm starting to let go of that feeling. I'm trying to accept myself and be who I am but i'm still worried about how this will affect my relations, and I wish people were more accepting. It matches the mood swings I experience since I can't regulate my emotions easily (other then just completely going numb). It also especially matches the feeling that this all being fabricated and maybe im just imaging it all.
Out of all the songs I mostly resonate with 2econd 2night 2eer, I/Me/Myself, ...well, better than the alternative, and Love, Me Normally.
I was originally going to go through the songs that I resonate to the most but that still would have been too much and the whole album is important to me so GO LISTEN TO THE NORMAL ALBUM ITS WORTH IT!!
#autistic#actuallyautistic#actually autistic#lgbtq+#lgbtq#genderqueer#willwood#will wood#willwoodandthetapeworms#will wood and the tapeworms#music#okbutthisisaresultofmanymentalbreakdownsandalittlebitofahyperfixation#iguessit'sjustsomethingpeopledo#neurodivergent#asd
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I have a recurring dream where Laurence uses crutches as a mobility aid (psssst this is your invitation to ramble about disability headcanons)
YIPPEE! i got another similar ask so ill add more there, i'll talk mostly about laurance here
i won't say much about them since idk if they would like that but there's someone in my life who has some disabilities & experiences that aren't very commonly talked about online, even in communities with the same disabilities, and laurance is their favorite & they kin him & i model a lot of his character off of them in my rewrite/my brain so! he's a character i have a lot of thoughts about in relation to disability and i love him a lot for it because it makes me happy to represent the people i love thru the characters i love :]
i try not to divulge too far from canon with anything, because a lot of my headcanons and stuff are already really far out from canon, but laurance is a character i don't care too much about following that rule with.
to address the elephant in the room of his canon disability, in my rewrite, his vision does improve somewhat after returning to the overworld after his transformation, but it will remain in the "legally blind" classification, which is a big range of experiences i need to look into more, but i basically plan for his vision to remain very poor even when he heals. he'll probably use a cane throughout my rewrite after turning into a shadow knight. i'd like to hear about your dreams of laurance using crutches, lol :D
and i think this is where my idea of him will especially deviate from others because, unfortunately, intellectual disability is not "sexy" and therefore isn't usually written, and especially not with a character who is percieved as so generally attractive & stuff. but i'm different. so.
laurance is autistic! he misses social cues and comes across as mean often, (though, sometimes he is just a little mean 🤭) and he can be very difficult for a lot of people to work with. he doesn't learn very well in the ways other people do, and so he struggled a bit in guard academy because he doesn't behave like others & doesn't try to. i don't think he gets into a whole lot of fights, because he is a grown man, but he's no stranger to altercations because of people who refuse to understand and accomodate him, as well as his own inability to communicate sometimes. he also has some motor control issues, he's kind of clumsy & breaks things a lot more than he'd like. he's great when it comes to the motor skills used in sword fighting, but when out of battle his movements are a lot more sloppy and lead to him dropping and spilling things a lot, as well as tripping and stumbling. not sure exactly how i'll put all of this in my rewrite, but let it be known that this is how i'd write him if my skills are up to the task.
some of it comes from his upraising too, since he spent a lot of time around literal dragons, human social customs aren't his forte. however, i think a lot of his coping mechanisms when he's stressed are related to tidiness and cleanliness because of this, and because he feels like he isn't able to maintain that sort of thing regularly.
i also write him as quite paranoid, both for himself and for the people he cares about, because of trauma and the way guards are taught to distrust everything and respect others more than themselves.
i think i kind of got off topic with this but jfkwifisjfjjr i've been thinking about laurance a lot lately. i didn't even get to the post shadow knight trauma. he's so much. love that guy.
tldr; even before the emotional and physical trauma of becoming a shadow knight, laurance has some trauma responses & cognitive disfunction that leads to him coming off a bit rough around the edges and that impair his movement regularly, and after he literally dies and goes blind it only gets harder
#i feel like this is absolutely .nonsensical#very scatterbrained. sincere apologies haha#and i haven't even decided everything in reference to him yet. i've been meaning to talk about him with the person i mentioned & see what#they think#mcd rewrite#mcd#z.txt#im so sorry if this makes no sense and is off topic 😭 ty for the ask
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Any thoughts on the new hxh chapters? I've loved all four so far.
Hello anon!
I have LOVED them as well! So so much :D I am happy Togashi is giving us so much action and development on the mafia side of things. I am curious to see how our 2 conflicts are gonna meet each other and what it will mean for the characters...
As for my thoughts, I will probably have to reread the whole arc at some point, but as for now...
What I have seen of the Heil-Ly family just confirms to me what I mention here. The people of the Heil-Ly have overall a very low level of nen and Morena is clearly using them as sacrifices to start a revolution. I mean... the game metaphor is not subtle... they are pawns in her hands. She has selected a bunch of people unhappy with society and has filled them with promises and dreams, which are clearly gonna go unfulfilled. In a sense, she is treating them as she treats herself, which is psychologically interesting. She sees herself as a lower being (lower than a Prince, she is only level 45, while Princes are level 50). Her plan is nothing, but an elaborated suicide plan, as she herself has told us:
She wants to rip down the whole system, including herself. This is why she gives up on a powerful role in the mafia to try and cause a war between the mafia and the kakin empire...
Now, her people are really just tools in this game, which is why many of them are introduced as people with very humble or normal jobs... they are people you could meet on the streets... very normal...which is why they are getting killed one after one by more expert nen users. All in all, it is interesting to see such inexperienced fighters try to get a grasp on nen and failing to fully make use of it because they lack preparation and thought. It is refreshing considering we have so far mostly seen super talented people.
At the same time, I think the Heil-Ly might have an important thematic role, especially when it comes to the Spiders:
Like, Luini might be an idiot that got himself killed immediately... but he is not wrong here... there has clearly been a shift in the Spiders' role in this arc. In York Shin, they are presented as a destabilizing element. They go out of their way to refuse rules, even if these rules are those of the criminal world... nobody is supposed to steal from the mafia... and yet, they go against both the criminal code and Meteor City's code and start a mafia war. This arc, however, things are different. It is true Chrollo has announced they are going to reach the first deck and steal Kakin's treasures... still, they are so far working with the mafia to preserve the status quo and doing everything they can to destroy the Heil-Ly's family, which this time embodies the destabilizing element. This transformation is also conveyed by how the mafia treats the Spiders: they are seen as celebrities :'''). The group of thieves introduced as mafia's nightmare has now become mafia's idol group...
Now, this doesn't necessarily have to be something negative, but surely it is something that must be addressed... Who are the Spiders? Are they a chaotic immortal element like Chrollo envisioned them to be? Are they an ideal? Or are they deep down a group of people and when they lose a member it actually hurts deeply? And if they are people, then why do they need to steal? Why can't they be content with each other, which is clearly the only thing they care about anyway? Not the treasures, but their comrades?
Speaking of comrades... I love them:
I like how they are absolutely normal soldiers that know nothing about nen. I also like they are presented as loyal to Tserriednich, but far more likable than his other soldiers and I am curious to know more of their relationship with the Prince.
Finally, there is Hisoka... our joker :''') Even this time, he is the most difficult to read and I am especially curious about his next moves and his role this arc...
Thank you for the ask!
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hey just wanted ur points in this. we know that daryl was (is) in love with beth in Still and Alone, but what about Beth? do u think she shared the same feelings? did she fall in love with him too? it'd be nice if u could give ur opinion with some evidences or dialogues from the scenes or stuff. no pressure though :)
I do believe she had feelings for him as well, but I also think she tried to suppress hers.
So, the only really canon evidence we have for her side of things comes from S3. Even though not many people were thinking about them as a couple in S3, if you go back and watch, you can see that they were already setting it up.
I've said this before, but just a quick recap: tptb knew about the Caryl ship even back then. The "wanna screw around" scene with Daryl on Carol on top of the overturned bus in 3x01 was the writers addressing the idea of romance between them and dismissing it. It was like both characters considered it for a minute, but then went, "nah." And ever since, they've just been platonic besties. It's something that ship refuses to acknowledge.
But right after that--RIGHT after; like 5 seconds later--Beth was singing by the fire and Daryl was staring at her. That's very telling for what the writers were going for.
So, in terms of Beth's feelings, all we really have is her conversation with Carol after Daryl left with Merle. I made an edit about it some time ago and how she's crushing on him.
So, this is my opinion about what's up with Beth's feelings about Daryl. It is mostly conjecture, but I've also extrapolated from what we have seen in the show, and what they've told us.
I think Beth did have a crush on Daryl. I even have a head canon where maybe she was slightly afraid of him at first. I mean, back when he first showed up at Hershel's farm in S2. Because he has the look of a scary biker dude, and Beth was raised to be a wholesome country girl.
But Beth also has a talent for seeing people's best traits. After being on the road with Rick's group for a year, she recognized that Daryl is actually kind and loyal and gentle and all the things we know and love about Daryl. One thing that's not in my edit above is that she tells Carol the group is weak without him. So, she also recognized that he was a major survival asset for them.
So, I think she did have a crush on him, but she never truly believed he would return those feelings. Like, she thought her own feelings were just a schoolgirl crush, and that Daryl would never see her that way. She saw herself as weak, younger than him, and not his equal.
And that was true to a certain extent (though not in a negative way) at first, back in S2. She really did need to be protected back then, and Daryl wouldn't have thought of her in any way other than another member of the group and Hershel's daughter.
But there's a natural progression to things in life, and by S4, that clearly began to change. Drastically. They had their hug in 4x01, which resulted in a moment of sexual tension. And boy, those moments sure can change the nature of a person's reality, can't they. (Sorry; was totally watching Westworld last night. ;D).
And then of course we had the beautiful Bethyl journey of 4b, where they connected and got to know another on a soul level.
The last thing I want to point to is something that was said in the Daryl Origins episode. We had that moment where he said that during the "oh" moment, Daryl believed he'd read her incorrectly. That was confirmation that Daryl had feelings for Beth, and that IS what he was attempting to convey in that moment (of course we already knew that, both from the episode itself and from the character bios that AMC posted saying as much back after S4, and then quickly deleted, but this was just another confirmation of it) but when Beth showed surprise, he thought she didn't feel the same way.
I believe they included that in the Origins episode, not ONLY to confirm Daryl's feelings for her, but to draw attention to what hers might have been.
Clearly she was surprised to learn how he felt about her, but I don't think she was at all opposed to it. I think she was just shocked because she truly never thought he could come to see her that way.
It's also clear to me that Beth did want to be close to him emotionally. I truly don't think she was ever pursuing him romantically. She just admired him, secretly crushed on him from afar, but had resigned herself that he'd never feel the same way. But she still wanted to be close to him, even if just platonically. That's why she hugged him in 4x01, and why she tried so hard to draw him out emotionally in 4b.
And she kind of achieved that much. We see her being happy in Alone because they had become close. They were comfortable together, and she was learning to survive, and that made her happy. (We also see Daryl looking happy in Alone, but for other reasons. ;D)
So then, when he reveal his feelings, it truly shocked her, because she didn't expect it. And of course then the shit hits the fan, and she doesn't really get a chance to say much, other than, "Oh," which is eternally ambiguous. (Damnit, Gimple! Give us more!)
But think of it this way:
Think about the way stories are always written. Something is hinted at ONLY if it's eventually going to be fulfilled. So, if Daryl and Rick tell Michonne not to go to Macon, because it might be too dangerous, eventually someone in the group is going to end up at Macon and face some danger. (That's where Terminus was.)
If Eugene and Rosita stumble across a bizarre group dressed as walkers who whisper to one another, and then return home, tell everyone, and just *hope* they won't run into that group again, clearly, they're going to run into that group again.
It's true in other stories too. If the Beast tells Belle to stay out of the West Wing, where is she eventually going to go? You get the picture.
So, if they went out of their way to tell us that Daryl had feelings for Beth, but HE didn't think she returned them...
I'll just let you finish that sentence.
So, there's my theory and what little evidence we have from AMC and the show for how Daryl felt about Beth. But I do think it's fairly compelling evidence.
This is why I still think what Gimple told Larry King before S5 remains true: that eventually Daryl will find true love in the apocalypse. He already found it. They set it up that way. Now, he's just waiting for her return.
Thanks Nonny! Xoxo! 🔥😎😘
#beth greene#beth greene lives#beth is alive#beth is coming#td theory#td theories#team delusional#team defiance#beth is almost here#bethyl
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Two things:
How do you insulate your windows? (What do you use)
How are you cleaning up your spreadsheets? (Having a hard time figuring this one out)
wow this has been sitting in my inbox for at least a month 💀 sorry about that, let me make it up to you by answering your question in way more detail than you probably wanted
i insulate my windows using these special plastic sheets that you tape to the window frame. this is what i've bought the past couple years. you basically put the double sided tape on the window frame, attach the plastic, then use a hair dryer to get the plastic to shrink (i skip this step because it never really works for me, but i'm probably just doing it wrong lol). doing this adds another layer of insulation to your windows, and means cold air stays out while your lovely heated air stays in
as for the spreadsheets: i work in printing and mailing, so whenever my company wants to send out a large mailing, the first step is making sure all of the addresses are correct. this means running a spreadsheet containing all of the addresses through a program that pulls data from the usps that then tells us if the address is one that the post office can actually deliver to. the way it tells us this is by giving addresses a dpv indicator. if the address comes out with a dpv of y, then we don't have to do any more work with it; it's already fine.
the real work comes in when the dpv is d, s, or n. the link i placed above explains what these are, but for context a "secondary" means an apartment/unit number. when it comes to "failed" addresses (aka addresses that don't get marked y), we mostly get d's or s's. so when the dpv is d, we have to basically cyberstalk a person to see if we can try and find their apartment number (the ethics of this are.....not the greatest imo). other times, this means that the address with an apartment number hasn't been verified by the usps, but the address without the apartment is verified, so you might just have to delete the apartment number.
when an address comes back marked as s, that typically means there's an apartment number provided but there's still something wrong. maybe the apartment number is formatted incorrectly (e.g., just this friday i came across an address that was put in our database with as "Apt 105E", but when i looked into that building's apartment numbering system, i learned there is no such apartment, but there is an apartment 10SE, so i was able to deduce that someone probably misread an "S" and a "5")
the thing with addresses marked d or s is that, even if you can't find a corrected address, if you send it out anyway there's still a non-zero chance the usps will be able to deliver it.
when an address is marked n it's usually because there's just some ridiculous fucking typo or the zip code's +4 has been deleted and the usps doesn't have a +4 listed for these addresses which means we have to go hunt it down (which btw, if you need to find your zip's +4 the usps has a neat tool to help you find it! just a note tho: if you use it be sure to include your apartment number). these ones can also be for weird typos or conversions that happen when the spreadsheet is run through the system though.
one common error is a slash getting turned into an underscore. so there are addresses that include 1/2 but become 1_2, which the usps does not recognize as a real address, so i just have to change it back to 1/2. there's also this weird error in our database with florida addresses where they get entered as "123 street name Fl, city name, FL, zip code, USA" so i have to delete that extra "Fl" that's added after the street address. it's really annoying and i hate whoever entered all of these florida addresses into our database
there's also been countless instances where someone copy and pasted an address from our database but weren't double-checking their work and didn't copy the whole address. so they copied "23 street name", which comes back as failed, so i go to check out this person in our database just to find out their address is "123 street name" and some bozo didn't copy the first number of the address
my personal favorite dpv of n i've encountered (read: the most infuriating) is the time someone just put the street address as "Main Street". no building number whatsoever. that one really made me wanna fight someone
so once we've gone through all of the failed addresses, we can start printing the materials for the mailing and sending things out. sometimes we've got a handful of failed addresses to sort through, sometimes we've got a couple hundred. the volume usually depends on how large the mailing is
but yeah, that's the basics of what i mean when i say i'm cleaning up a spreadsheet
#a special note to the people entering these addresses into the database: go fuck yourself#the number of times i have looked into an address just to find it's been marked 'undeliverable' but with no fucking reason provided#there is a special dropdown menu that you are supposed to use to provide a reason why an address is no longer valid#and if the reason is not in the dropdown then there is an entire extra blank field where you can type the reason in#also please learn how to double check your fucking work you're making my job more complicated than it needs to be
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- July 17th 2023 -
What's on your to-do list for today?
Not much. Just some housework - I need to load/run the dishwasher, vacuum, and get caught up on my expense tracking spreadsheet.
Do you ever watch movies or TV in bed? Do you use a laptop or do you have a TV?
Nope.
What's your favourite thing to cook for house guests?
Creamy Tuscan chicken, or penne pasta with roasted zucchini and tomato sauce.
What sort of music did you grow up listening to? Did your parents have a big influence on your music taste today?
My mom is a classical pianist so I grew up listening to mostly classical, and also some jazz because my parents took a liking to it when we lived in the New Orleans area in the early 90s. And my dad likes classic prog rock so I listened to a bit of that as well. Classical and classic prog/psychedelic rock are still some of my favorite genres.
Do you remember your dreams?
Usually.
Are you at home right now?
Yep. I'm in the downstairs bedroom that we use as a bird room. I have a mini portable/collapsible desk that I set up when I want to bring my laptop in here from my study and chill with my birds.
When was the last time it rained where you live?
About 10 minutes ago. A thunderstorm just passed through.
Do you think you have a diverse vocabulary?
Yes, I'd say so.
Have you ever eaten pawpaw?
I've had papaya (I've read that some parts of the world call that pawpaw, I'm not sure if that's what you meant), but I've never eaten what people in the U.S./Canada call pawpaw, that's a different type of tree fruit that's really obscure and not usually cultivated/eaten.
What was the last art or crafts project you worked on?
Macro nature photography.
Do you know anyone who's been bitten by a snake?
Nope, not that I know of.
What's a slang word or term that's specific to your neck of the woods? For me, in Australia, I would say "old mate" or "frothing" :D
Ope! It's the most Midwestern word ever lol. It's an exclamation of mild surprise, and in some uses it's also kind of politely apologetic. Sort of like a mashup of ''oops'' and ''woah!'' and ''pardon me.'' Like if I accidentally bumped into someone I'd say ''Ope, sorry, I didn't see you there!'' Or if I had misplaced something and then suddenly found it I'd say ''Ope, there it is!''
Do you know how to ice skate? When was the last time you went, if ever?
Barely. I think the last time I went was in 2008-ish? I vaguely remember going to my university's ice area with some friends but I can't remember if I joined them in skating or not. If not, then the last time actually skated was at my 10th birthday party.
Dogs or cats? You must pick one!
I honestly can't decide! So much of it depends on the individual animal and its temperament. I like well-behaved and calm dogs more than most cats, but I like most cats more than neurotic/needy/high-strung dogs.
Are there any animals or creatures that scare you?
Just spiders and centipedes. And scorpions but I've never seen one in real life.
Do you like watermelon?
Yes I love watermelon.
Is your backyard or outdoor year tidy or messy?
It's tidy, except for the garden hose in the back yard that's just kind of laying there rather than on a reel.
Have you ever played organised team sports, like in a league?
Yep, all throughout my childhood. I played soccer from ages 5-10, and softball from ages 5-13.
What are you insecure about?
My teeth, sort of. My tooth enamel didn't develop properly, it was a side effect of antibiotics I had to be on as a baby, because of a birth defect that caused frequent kidney/bladder infections. I want to get veneers but I need to get my TMJ issues and slight overbite fixed first. I had orthodontics when I was growing up but the orthodontist failed to address my malocclusion and made it worse.
Okay, what are you secure about then?
Who I am. My personality and sense of self.
What's your favourite kind of puzzle?
Sudoku puzzles, or nonogram puzzles.
Do you ever use the bathroom with the door open?
Yep. I usually only use the en suite bathroom in my bedroom (so that I can keep the downstairs guest bathroom cleaner for longer), so it's no biggie if I keep the door open.
When was the last time you took an elevator, and where were you?
A few months ago, at my doctor's office.
What last made you feel sad?
Seeing my Granddad deal with dementia. And seeing how it affects my Granny.
Have you ever received a gift hamper? What did it contain?
I have, but it's been so long since I got one of those that I don't remember what was in it.
Are you using a phone, laptop, desktop or tablet right now? Maybe something else entirely?
Laptop.
What sort of movies do you tend to watch?
I don't watch movies super often, but I like science fiction, psychological thrillers, and historical dramas.
What colours are you wearing today?
Navy blue, black, and white.
How often do you use your microwave? What did you last put in it?
Not very often, maybe like once a week? I think the last thing I put in there were some of the leftovers that I brought back from dinner at my parent's house last Wednesday.
Who's the last person you messaged and what did you say?
My husband. I sent ''You're sweet 🥰"
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Not Me Episode 3 Review
In a word:
Wow.
They dealt with ableism:
Privilege:
Human rights abuses:
And corruption:
I've always been interested in politics, and especially the things that have been addressed in this show, but I tend to not think about politics when I watch BL shows, mostly because they never involve them. But this show. Fuck. This show just lays bare so much about the way the Thai government is fucked up. It absolutely blows my mind that they're trying to get away with this. And that they're doing it within a genre that's generally just romantic fluff with some angst thrown in. Most of the main characters are at least middle class, if not rich. Poor people might as well not exist, or, if they do, it's as nameless servants, or props to show how generous the rich are(think Nadia funding an orphanage because of Pob in DSN). But the characters in this show are, by and large, those who are. They're people who are shown to have been fucked over by the system. I know I keep saying this, but I'm genuinely shocked that this show is doing this.
There are plenty of shows and couples that I adore(think Bad Buddy and Leofiat), but in a way Not Me almost makes them feel empty. Not that I don't still think they're amazing in what they do, but what this show is doing is so deeply profound that I don't even know what to do with myself. But then again, in general I have a hard time feeling like the fandoms I get excited about mean much when I think about politics, which is one of the reasons I try to separate them. I think about and get involved in politics, because the political system dictates the lives of the vulnerable, but I need an escape at times. I want to be able to have a part of my life that's pure joy. But this show collides the two. So while I think it's extremely impressive and deep, it makes it somewhat hard for me to enjoy the BL part of it, because I'm too busy feeling intense empathy for the Thai people and the suffering they have to endure. Like, Sean and White clearly have a pretty intense D/s connection, and I do plan on discussing that in depth in another post, but I don't think I can get lost in and enjoy it nearly as much as I could Leofiat. The premise of the show is just too intense for me. It feels kind of disrespectful, almost, to focus on that when they're trying to say something deeply meaningful about their country.
I just.
What this show is doing is incredible. I would love to have been in that meeting where they all decided to risk pissing off a corrupt and deeply repressive government. I hope next episode addresses how horrifying Thai prisons are.
Oh, and I love White:
So yeah. A hard, hard 10/10.
#not me#not me the series#not me review#not me episode 3#my reviews#I hope people don't take away from this any criticism of leofiat and bad buddy#they are absolutely wonderful#it's just hard for me to care about romance when Not Me is coming out with such intensity about corruption and human rights abuses#seanwhite#not me reviews
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Have you ever been in a fandom where the canon ending disappointed you?
For sure! It's easier to list the fandoms where the endings didn't disappoint me first :D From such examples, there is 'Hannibal' - it mostly solved every arc and brought the characters to their happy ending together in a subtle and beautiful way. I loved the end of 'Black Butler' the anime - it was somewhat open but perfect in every way to me, with Ciel and Sebastian destined to stay together forever. I loved 'Shadowhunters' ending - Magnus and Alec got the biggest and most explicit HEA imaginable. They got to address each other's insecurities, the last episode focused on their beautiful wedding, and Alec is implied to become immortal.
I was mostly indifferent about 'Harry Potter' ending. I'm glad the trio lived, but I didn't like the epilogue. Can't say I hated it, but it felt too forced and oversimplified.
Now, as for the disappointing shows... 'Sherlock' is the biggest example. I always prepare myself for the worst, but even I couldn't imagine the nightmare of S4. I managed to find some good fics that continue from S3, but all in all, I could never look at this show the same. I could deal if one or two arcs were ruined, but the writers destroyed literally everything - every character, every relationship, every plot. I'm baffled to this day.
I wasn't all too happy with 'Merlin' ending either. I would accept the outcome of Arthur dying and Merlin waiting for him if it was done in a more logical way, but Arthur's death just feels very dumb. Merlin is suddenly not a great warlock, he suddenly forgets he has a dragon and an immortal cup at his disposal, etc. It makes no sense and you have to really suspend your disbelief to buy it. But there are beautiful stories out there that helped me do it.
'Supernatural' ending is just... lol. I ignore the existence of E20 because it's one of the most ridiculous and offensive pieces of writing I've ever seen. I only accept it as a part of "Chuck won" narrative, which is what I think they'll got for if there is ever a renewal. This ending can compete with Sherlock. Dean forgetting Castiel exists, Sam forgetting about Eileen; Castiel forgetting he loves Dean and being too busy doing 'stuff' to announce he's alive; Sam forgetting their son is a God and Jack just... doing something, I guess. Dean's death is as absurd as it was in the episode where he died in 1K crazy ways. I could go on forever, everything about it is awful and illogical, and it breaks every rule all other seasons established. You could really watch E1 of S1 and this episode, and you won't feel like you missed much of anything.
'The X Files' had an open ending that I found satisfying in S9, but after that... I was more or less positive about the second movie, but other seasons were just a big no. Carter really doesn't know how to wrap things up and finish the arcs he started instead of creating new ones all the time and using cheap tricks to fool the audience.
'Queer as Folk' ending sucks. Characters suddenly regress in the last 1-2 episodes and do things that are completely illogical. Brian and Justin getting married was probably too saccharine for the writers, so they decided to remind the audience that bisexual Lindsay, who's in a long-term relationship with another woman , is actually in love with gay Brian and jealous of Justin. So she gives the worst advice, manipulates the situation, and gets Brian to think that by marrying Justin, he will be holding him back. Cue him pretending to be miserable about their upcoming marriage and Justin deciding that they don't need it & going to NY to be an artist in a way that's entirely impossible. Ugh. The whole E13 and parts of E12 are so forced and illogical.
Endings are hard, but not so hard that so many writers constantly create so much nonsense. I really don't know what it's about.
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Hey. Hope youre having a great day.
I'm here to ask a simple question. Is it okay to ask your therapist for a diagnosis? I just started therapy, I'm like 10 sessions in. I don't feel really good lately. I try my best to hold on and do good, but I'm so tired, can't focus and feel like everything is always on me, happening at once.
I'm suspecting depression, or at least ADHD. I've read that they have some things in common. But the thing is I can't diagnose myself. My therapist has never said anything, that could let me believe he suspects anything is wrong with me to that point. But I just need to know that I'm not just lazy and eating badly. I need to know.
Can I ask them directly? What is the chance i will get an answer? And what if they suspect anything, can they give me that on paper? Can they share with me the treatment plan? I'm kinda afraid to ask directly. It's hard for me. I feel I could cry if I say d word aloud.
Thanks in advance. I love the work you do here.
hey anon,
first off, i am proud of you for choosing to get therapy. you are doing yourself a favor. it's not an easy decision for a lot of people and if you were one of them, i'd like to say that i am super proud of you.
now onto your ask, i personally feel that the reason that you are going to a therapist, if stated broadly, is to feel better mentally and to resolve all your concerns that you may have about your mental health.
i think that when you faced with such questions, it would mostly help if you would draw a comparison with physical health. i don't think it'd be fair that if you're unwell and go to a doctor and he just prescribes you medicine without you knowing what's actually wrong. i always ask doctors what they think is going on that's making me feel ill. i think the same goes for mental health too.
i feel like you should definitely ask your therapist about it. i am not sure if they can give an actual diagnosis because as far as i know (and i could very much be wrong here), you can get a medical diagnosis from a psychologist but probably not from a therapist. maybe it depends on the qualifications of the therapist.
but, they can definitely let you know their thoughts. it may be a valid medical document that they can share with you but as a mental health professional, their derivation of your condition can be shared for sure.
i think you shouldn't worry about it too much and simply ask them. at this point of time, not knowing is causing you mental pressure and concern. that's what the therapist is there to address.
please do go ahead and ask them. if they don't share their views, ask them if they would suggest you getting a proper diagnosis from a psychologist because knowing what you're suffering from will help you understand it better and maybe even work on how to combat it.
i hope this discussion goes well for you. please hang in there. it'll get better. sending you love and positive vibes ✨
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Italian 101:expressing romantic love and attraction
As promised I'm back with the romantic version of this post :D Link
As usual long post ahead (❁´◡`❁)very long oof
Let's start this journey by defining each role with it's name :)
It can be quite useful to understand a certain type of mentality ! You'll see what I mean right away.
Boyfriend is ragazzo and girlfriend is ragazza and they literally mean boy and girl ahah. Now, it's normal for unmarried native English speaking couples in their late 20s and beyond, to call each other boyfriend/girlfriend. That's really not a thing in Italian. Ragazzo/a are only used by teenagers because it does feel quite infantile to refer to your s/o in such terms in our language 😅 especially if you live together... Ex:{nation x}è il mio ragazzo/la mia ragazza
... Which brings me to: compagno/a. It's the word used by adults to refer to their s/o and it means partner as in life partner and it really doesn't matter whether you're only dating, living under the same roof and/but decided not to marry(but maybe start a family!) it's still the correct terminology! So realistically the Italy Bros would call their s/o their partner, at their current age :) And oh! If you ship them with Vanya it could be a great pun since it also means comrade ahah. Kids of course don't make use of it because a) it indicates a committed relationship as I explained, it would be weird b)it kinda sounds like classmate lol (compagno di classe). Ex:{nationx}è il mio compagno/la mia compagna
Weirdly enough it's not that uncommon to hear a teen say fidanzato/a, which supposedly should only indicate your fiance ahah. As a kid it profoundly amused me to hear fellow 12-year-olds talk about their fidanzati. But it is indeed a common way to call your loved one and I used it myself to talk about my friends' bfs/gfs. As you can imagine it lost such connotation, but I can say that many still feel quite nervous about being called fidanzato/a because they feel like they're about to step on the altar. Ex:{nationx}è il mio fidanzato/la mia fidanzata
Talking about altar... Husband is marito and wife is moglie. On the other hand groom is sposo and bride is sposa. Ex:{nationx}è mio marito/mia moglie. As you can see they don't need an article, *John Mulaney voice* quella è mia moglie! I'm so sorry.
A more yoyo *snort* way to refer to your bf/gf is tipo/a, which literally means dude/dudette ahah. Ex. {Nationx}è il mio tipo/la mia tipa😎.
Onto dialectal versions:) very important tbh, could give that something more to your texts. A common way to call your bf/gf in many northern Italian languages (except my own rjrnh) is moroso/a. It stands for "amoroso", loving and it takes the article according to the language; in most cases it does, in Veneto it doesn't. Ex:{nationx}è il mio moroso/la mia morosa or (in Veneto's case) ho visto mio moroso parlare con mio fratello(I've seen my boyfriend talk to my brother). Would be cute in a social media au like, bio "mio moroso🥺" link to the poor lad's account.
In many southern Italian regions you can find zito/a :) (it's used in Apulia, Sicily and Calabria as far as I know!!) and it pretty much means lad/lass.Ex:{nationx}è il mio zito/la mia zita. I'll assume someone like Mano would use it in a more intimate context.
Common terms of endearment and silly pet names ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ
A very common mistake I've encountered in ffs is "mi amore". Italian really doesn't work like Spanish, in our language "mi" isn't a possessive adjective but a particle that indicates the indirect object :3
Ex:Mi piace il gelato.(I like ice cream, Ice cream is liked by me).
Mio is what you're looking for ☺ and it doesn't change according to gender because the adjective takes the word's grammatical gender (amore is masculine). In this case the adjective should be postponed "amore mio", unless in an example like this:
Ex. Sei il mio amore(you're my love).
Tesoro works the same way!! "tesoro mio".
As I mentioned in my platonic love post patata/o is very common and so is It's diminutive patatina/o, but it seems like carotina/o (little carrot) is popular as well (not as much tho! Once again the masculine form is pure invention ahah :)) .
Many use sugary sweet stuff like pucci-pucci which don't really mean anything dbbd we all probably collectively think they sound cute(or irritating, depends who you ask).
One I've seen a couple of times in ffs is caro/a...which indeed means dear in Italian!! But it's not that popular:( mostly because it sounds straight out a 50s commercial. It's used in a ironic way and once again ,with others I've mentioned in the other post ,to address someone who happens to be particularly annoying.
My favourite ones have to be respectively tato/a for Feli and principe for Mano. I truly thought tato/a(tatino/a) were panitalian but my main moots are from the South and they said it's not a thing there,,,? Quite the revelation. It doesn't mean anything, it's just baby talk and it's used for.. Anyone really... Your child, your pet, your bf... Might be a short form for the so popular patato but who knows ahah
Principe truly fucks me up. The idea of Romano calling his bf prince out all of things sends me. And yet it seems like it's quite popular in some parts of the South?? In my friend's @flamaflavio words "I've seen 30 something years old women use it". Oh btw princess is principessa just in case :3
Any kind of cute little animal is game(for example cucciolotto,little puppy or topolino/a little mouse that I've already mentioned). And ah in English there's this thing where you take your s/o name and add bear, in Italian it's orsacchiottino, little teddy bear.
Almost forgotten about it, a bad boy type of character might use dolcezza, sweet thing, or piccolo/a baby.
Let's conclude this post with some sentences o(〃＾▽＾〃)o
Sono innamorato/a di te "I'm in love with you"
Mi sono innamorato/a di te "I've fallen in love with you"
Ho una cotta per lui/lei "I've a crush on him/her"
A more sappy one could be "sei la luce dei miei occhi" (you're my eyes' light). It's also said by parents to their children
Ti adoro "I adore you"
Mi piaci "I like you"
Sono pazzo/a di lui/lei "I'm crazy for him/her"
I won't cover compliments but I can tell you how to say someone is hot ahah. You can say:
Che figo/a! (He/she's really hot!)
È davvero bono/a (He/she's really hot)
A funny way is "È proprio gnocco/a". My girl @flamaflavio introduced me to " È un intero piatto di gnocchi " "He/she/they is/are an entire plate of gnocchi" and I've never been the same😭
We also say "è proprio manzo" to talk about a guy ajsjsj. Manzo means beef, so I suppose it's the Italian version of "beefcake". On the same tone of the gnocchi plate a common meme is " Non è solo un manzo è un'intera macelleria " He's not only beef (a steak??)he's an entire butcher's.
In genovese slang(not language mind you, kids language ahhehs) we might jokingly say "Che beccio". A beccio is a very confident (and hot?definitely stylish) guy.
A more crass way can be "Che fregno/a"
Will keep this PG djdj but you can check this link out if you want some funny horny on main expressions ahah link
Aaand we're done!!! Just let me know if you've enjoyed this and what you'll like me to cover in next post 🥰 thanks for reading this
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I'm not sure if this is the place to ask, but do you have any tips on how to write sibling relationships in fanfiction? I've looked around here on Tumblr, but all I find are those "You can tell an author's an only child when" posts that offer no help. I would like to give my characters siblings sometimes, but I am an only child so can't really relate, which means all of my characters are only children too. Which is fine, but sometimes you want to try something different. I'm afraid to try because somebody will say that's not right or call it unrealistic. It's frustrating when people exclude only child writers from creating their own sibling characters because our parents said "one and done".
I honestly have no idea why people exclude writers because they don’t have siblings; I bet that not all authors/playwrights/screenwriters have siblings! I know its a little bit different, but I started writing a ‘novel’ about a crime where the main protagonist has a sister when I don’t have a sister myself. I may have a sibling, but my relationship with my brother is probably not similar to someone else’s relationship with their sister.
The majority of fanfics I have written are for stories that are based in the US - I’m from England; as long as it is factually accurate, it doesn’t matter.
The same goes for writing siblings when you don’t have any.
I don’t really have much personal experience with writing sibling relationships besides a couple of fanfics. I have written fics that focus on the sibling-like relationship between Adrian/Kamilah and Harry/Edmund and my D&D MC. However, speaking as a person that has written little bits here and there, and who also has an older brother, I am able to offer you advice of sorts; its not great if I’m honest, but I can write a little bit based on my relationship with my brother. If it isn’t helpful, then I do apologise.
I’ll add a read more underneath so that people who don’t want to read me rambling can skip it :)
- The ‘Marmite’ approach: This is probably something that I invented in my randomness if I’m honest. I’m not going to go into what Marmite is as it isn’t important (tis nice tho!), but would rather focus on its motto - you either love it or you hate it. Someone’s relationship with their sibling isn’t always like this; do I always like/get along with my brother? No. It doesn’t mean that I don’t care about him when he has annoyed or upset me. A lot of the time, at least what I’ve seen, writers often focus on those sibling relationships that are either really good or those that cannot stand to be in the same room as one another. My brother and I don’t always see eye to eye; we both have rather strong personalities that clash more often than not. We’re not best friends, and often have things that we do not like about the other. Having a story where a character and their sibling/s get along all the time is good don’t get me wrong, but it’s important to remember that not every relationship is like that.
- Siblings are not always alike in personality and appearance; my brother and I look alike to some extent - we have the same hair/eye colour, and we both have freckles on our faces, but that’s as far as it goes really. He’s super tall and I’m very short (5ft 7 is short when standing next to someone that is 6ft+) - even twins that are deemed identical can appear different and/or have different personalities. One sibling may like sports and the other may be fond of the arts! My brother, for example, is an extrovert when surrounded by people he knows (as am I), but the moment he’s in a situation where he’s surrounded by people that he does not know, he can be the complete opposite, whereas I am often more confident when meeting/speaking to new people. He won’t even acknowledge that I exist when he’s around friends, but as soon as he isn’t or those friends of his bring people over that he feels less comfortable with, it’s like I am suddenly the only one that he can talk to.
- Siblings may often react differently to situations, even those that are traumatic and/or upsetting; I am a very emotional person - I wear my heart on my sleeve, and cry at almost everything. My brother, however, is not like that. I honestly don’t think I have ever seen him cry; he probably has, but he doesn’t express his emotions like I do. We’re the polar opposites, but that isn’t to say that there are not siblings out there that react similarly to one another.
- Names: Okay, so I have never met anyone that does refer to their sibling/greet their sibling by ‘brother’ or ‘sister’ etc. My brother and I address each other by using nicknames mostly, often ones that aren’t actually nice. It’s been our routine for so long that we are no longer phased by it.
- Relationships with parents and/or other family members are not always the same. My brother and I both have an amazing relationships with both of our parents, but I know from others that sometimes one sibling does not feel the same way as the other - similar/same experiences = often different reactions.
- The topic of one parent having a favourite child is a tricky one; we always joke that my brother is my Mum’s favourite, as he seems to be able to do no wrong, but that has never caused a rift between myself and him or us and our parents. Some siblings, however, may feel resentment if a parent does show signs of having a favourite, both for the parent in question and maybe even the sibling.
- Some people feel comfortable telling their siblings things that they may not be ready to tell their friends or even their parents; I am often an open book, so anything I tell my friends I will most likely tell my family, but there have been instances in my life where my brother has told me things that he won’t tell my parents for weeks. Just a couple of weeks ago he told me about how he was interested in working abroad, but only told my mum yesterday. Sometimes siblings can feel more comfortable talking to one another than they would people outside - maybe it’s because they face similar pressure? I’m not too sure.
- Using age as an advantage is a good point too; my brother is 3/4 years older than me, and will often use his age to get one up i.e. ‘I get the bigger piece of cake because I’m older’ or ‘I have more life experience so I should make this decision.’
- Resentment of younger siblings? May be an issue - not applicable in my situation, but it can be a factor.
- Competitiveness: Seeing nearly every event/milestone as a competition. I am often guilty of this - my brother likes reminding me that he got a higher grade for his degree... so I remind him that I left school with more qualifications than him. The need to ‘one up’ each other can be there.
That’s all that I have at the moment; I am sorry if it didn’t help. Please do let me know if there is anything else that I can do for you.
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Hi, how are your fics going? I've re read broken ashes and while i was at it hung too. Why are dooku & obi wan centric fanfics so rare in this fandom 😭
Hello there, anon!
I’m going to be honest, the last few weeks, my writing has been...absolute crap. Just...between personal stuff going down and the state of the world in general (going to protests when I’ve been able, trying to do my part, etc.), I’ve not had the mental capacity to think about, no less attempt writing. That being said, I took a small road trip last week (socially-distanced, masked, etc.) to do the nature thing, which really helped clear my head. (But good gods, was it HOT. I avoid using air conditioning to the point of masochism but for the first time in ages I really rued my car’s lack of any functional A/C. My usual strategy of “windows down” was just. Not. Helping. I’m still recovering from the dehydration.)
But thank you for reading! I think, FINALLY, I’m at a place where I can start considering writing again. Hung is going to go on a bit of a break as I contemplate both Broken Ashes and this Circus!AU I have going in my head (the Circus!AU is heavily influenced by my recent obsession with The Magnus Archives and I’ve mapped out an 18-19 “episode” follow-up to this prompt and just...I’m very excited for what I have planned here as it’s going to get WEIRD. And yes, feature Dooku and Obi-wan in addition to some other Lineage shenanigans :D
I, too, would LOVE more Dooku and Obi-wan fics. What’s out there already tends to be pretty good and I think it’s mostly because we get so little content with the two of them, but what we do get is just GOLDEN. (I mean, it’s laid out in the RotS novelization. Dooku wants to recruit Obi-wan. Full stop. And then there’s the way he always addresses Obi-wan as “Master Kenobi” and seems to respect him as opposed to Anakin and the whole...THING when they’re captured by Hondo. Anyway, I’m digressing.) But yes, we need ALL the Dooku and Obi-wan content, and by the gods, I will continue to add to it as I can because these two DESERVE each other. :D
#Anonymous#hello there#ask legobiwan#obi wan kenobi#yan dooku#count dooku#hey look i'm answering asks finally!#hooray!#but no seriously expect some serious magnus archives influence in the future because holy shit#also i HIGHLY RECOMMEND magnus archives if you're down with horror because it is A++++++++++++++++
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