Soft reminders for your gentle heart:

• You don’t have to be everything for everyone in order to be worthy.

• You’ll never just be one single thing. You’ll never be special to just one single person. You won’t always feel one single feeling. | With that being said stop limiting yourself, your thoughts, your talents, your plans etc. Start nourishing healthy thoughts, habits, and relationships. You are so full of life and love.

• You don’t have to punish yourself by focusing on everything else that needs to be accomplished. You are allowed to show yourself recognition and appreciation for all you’ve achieved thus far.

• It was never your job to prove your love to be true, and no matter how many times people vouch for your honesty, or your reliability, or your love, if you never get to experience that from yourself it will all be a waste.

August will be filled with hope.

August will be filled with love.

August will be filled with trust.

August will be filled with peace.

August will be filled with positivity.

August will be filled with healthier connections.

I catch myself saying things like “if I had a body like hers (looking at a curvy lady with a small belly and big thighs), I would be happier”.

That’s the kind of toxic thinking I need to throw right the fuck away.

My body is a different type of beautiful and

👏🏽I 👏🏽need 👏🏽to 👏🏽not 👏🏽for👏🏽get 👏🏽that.

I found this on my favorite server and I’m just gonna send you guys some love

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.

Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.

Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.

Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.

I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.

Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.

But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

you need to give yourself permission to be happy now. not when you lost weight, not when you found your soulmate, not when you have more money. we seek excitement from future events, but once those goals are met, the temporary pleasures will pass and they will be replaced by the next fantasy. devote your full attention to your inner self and appreciate being in the moment. happiness is never external, but a way of living and appreciating life. it’s not reality, just the way you perceive it. so go and shift your focus from the outcome to watching yourself grow.

i don’t know who needs to hear this, but here:

you are enough. you are worthy. you do not need to work hard your whole life to be worthy. you as you, as yourself, being yourself, is enough, and you never need to be anything more than that. it’s okay to be “just” enough. it’s okay to be yourself. you never have to put on a mask to be someone else, because you are enough.

your feelings are real. your feelings are valid. your feelings are your own and unique from everyone else’s. your feelings are important, no matter how good or bad you feel or how good or bad someone else may feel, your feelings are important. it’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to be angry, it’s okay to be excited, and it’s okay to express emotions and openly have emotions.

you are real, and you are here. you are valid, your choices are yours. you are inherently good, no matter how much you worry you aren’t, you are. your worry shows that you are good, because a bad person wouldn’t worry that they’re bad or good.

your labels are real and valid. your identity is real and valid. no matter if you’re the only one who knows it, it’s real and valid. your pronouns are real and valid, no matter how many people use them. it’s okay to be a lesser-known identity, and it’s okay to be a well-known identity.

your existence does not need apologising for. your existence does not need excusing or hiding or being ashamed of. you needn’t say sorry for simply being. it’s okay to take up space, it’s okay to ask for things, for attention, for comfort, for distractions, for help. you don’t need to apologise for asking for something.

it’s okay to not be okay. it’s okay to not always try your hardest or do your best. it’s okay if your best isn’t that great, or even that good. it’s okay if your best is simply living another day, even if you don’t do anything. and it’s okay to not do something. it’s okay if you don’t use every single day to your advantage. it’s okay if all you do is get up to go to the bathroom and then you get back in bed. it’s okay if all you do is read all day, or sleep for longer, or be on your phone or computer. it’s okay to not always be “useful”. you don’t need to be useful to have worth, because you inherently have worth. yes, you do, trust me. i know you’re shaking your head right now, but trust me, you inherently have worth and you never need to work for it or earn it or prove it.

it’s okay to love yourself and your body the way you are. it’s okay if you don’t quite yet, because i know you’ll get there someday. it’s okay if your recovery hasn’t been as straightforward as you hoped, if it’s two steps forward and one step back. you’re still making so much progress, and i’m proud of you no matter where you are in your recovery. you’ll get there eventually, and you’ll see just how far you’ve come, and you’ll be proud too. it’s okay to take little steps.

i’m so proud of you for getting to where you are today. i’m so proud of you for living, for waking up today and all of the days before, for getting up when you could, for being you. i’m so proud of your accomplishments, be them big or small. i’m so proud of you.

you’ll get to where you want to be someday, and when you do i’ll be so proud of you for getting there, but right now i’m proud of you for getting here.

✨2022✨

2022 is full of genuine love

2022 is full of genuine friendships

2022 is full of genuine companionships

2022 is full of inner peace

2022 is full of abundance

2022 is full of magic

2022 is full of happiness

2022 is full of health

2022 is full of prosperity

2022 is full of beautiful things and beautiful situations

It is done, it is done, it is done. By the power of 3, a perfect trinity: It is done ✨

So it is ✨ thank you, thank you, thank you ✨.

Stop living in the waiting mode.

By waiting for something or somebody to happen, you are perpetuating the state.

Stop waiting for your parents to be on the same page with you.

Stop waiting for the summer.

Stop waiting until you are slimmer.

Stop waiting until you have more money.

Stop waiting for the partner to grab you by the hand and experience this life with you.

I get it you have nested yourself quite a comfortable place down here. But in comfort there can hardly be any change. And you want the change, do you? You want to learn more, you want to meet new people, you want to travel.

Then give yourself opportunity to create. The painter needs fresh canvas and new colours to add. You also need new experiences and a fresh perspective to create.

Act as if the success was certain. That means not bounded by any external condition.

The only thing you need is the change of mindset.

Look at the world as a daring, magnificent adventure. Step out your door and start experiencing life. Yes, that means making mistakes as well, but not looking at them as issues or dead ends. They are just redirections.

Wake up from the rut of your own making. That’s a nice place, but you deserve more than just nice.

daily reminders:

1. you matter

2. you are allowed to take your time

3. you are loved

4. everything will be okay

Weekly affirmations:

Trying to keep myself grounded in the knowledge that my worth is not based on what I can do for other people. 🌿

It is not my life's purpose to be of use for others. I am not an object. I am not what I can do to please someone, to adapt to their needs, to make them fulfilled or happy all the time. 🌷

There is more to me than being means to an end.💐

I am an individual. I have as much worth as anyone else in the world, no more, no less. 🌼

I can be appreciated for who I am, for my authentic self, even when I'm sick, tired, sad, overwhelmed and unproductive. 🌻

I am not an object, therefore my value is not based on how I can be of use or service to other people. 🌱

In case you need to know this:

You are allowed to cry. 🌷

You are not weak for feeling pain. 🌱

You are not a burden on others. 🌼

It will get better, even if it feels that recovery is taking too much time. 🌱

It is okay to feel like time can't heal all wounds. 💐

It is okay to accept yourself the way you are. 🌻

You don't have to adapt to other people to be loved. 🍄

You don't have to compromise your needs to make everyone feel happy. 🌹

You deserve good things, don't be afraid to ask for them. 🌷

You are valid. 🌼

You can heal from many things that have happened to you. 🪴

You can recover. 🌱

You are not alone, even when if it feels like it. Search for help. Search for friends. 💐

This summer if you see a big girl wearing a croptop ✨mind your business ✨

If you see a girl not wearing a bra ✨mind your business ✨

If a girl doesn't fit your definition of sexy or beautiful because she is too skinny or too "fat" don't say shit. Simply ✨mind your business ✨

We are NOT body shaming this summer. We will NOT tell the bigger girl to cover up or the skinny girl to go eat a cheeseburger! We will NOT be told we are sluts for showing skin!! It is summer and baby we deserve to feel comfortable in our own skin.😘✨❤️

daily reminders:

1. you matter

2. you are allowed to take your time

3. you are loved

4. everything will be okay

things i wish i’d been told sometimes

𓂃 your life revolves around you and it always has. if you feel the need to stop and catch your breath, do it. time moves forward, but your life will never be able to continue without you. 

𓂃 the way people talk to you about others is a direct reflection of how they talk to others about you. remember that. 

𓂃 life is too short to stay quiet. your voice carries you as much as you carry your voice. 

𓂃 nobody pays as much attention to you as you think they do. 

𓂃 nobody’s expecting you to do something useful every day. you shouldn’t expect that from yourself either. 

𓂃 nothing that matters to you is useless. if it’s important to you then it’s important, period.

𓂃 don’t live every day like it’s your last–rather like it’s your first. get to know your space, get comfortable where you aren’t yet, try new things but not everything at once. and look forward to things that are coming. 

𓂃 you’re only responsible for what you can control and influence. focus on that. 

𓂃 stop trying to be okay all the time. you do not have to be okay all the time.

𓂃 it’s more common to have a soft and protecting tummy than to have flat abs. both is healthy, both is pretty. 

𓂃 your teens are not your only chance on having a good, fulfilled, and social life. if you can’t find your place in high school you will in another environment. this isn’t where it ends. 

𓂃 you have the right to change your mind over and over and over again until you’re happy.

Do you pay attention to how you speak to yourself within your own mind?

Cultivate this awareness.

You deserve respect and kindness within the context of your own thoughts.

There’s a lot of hatred screaming out in the world.

Don’t become a place where it echoes.