You know Jesus Christ, what do you think happened?

Every morning we had the same routine (barring any meltdowns). My son would shout me when he woke up – usually between 6.30am and 7am. If he hadn’t shouted by 6.45am my alarm went off and I would lay in bed for 5 minutes waking myself up. Once my son had shouted I would go into his bedroom and lay in bed with him for 5 minutes or so while he chatted to me. Often there were times when he would…

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How quick has this year gone?

There were so many times when my son said things that were so much older than he actually was. And this was one of those times. We were driving to school with his favourite song on and I could see he had his fingers crossed and he looked at me, sighed and said: “How quick has this year gone?” I’m not sure this constitutes as a question, more of an exclamation but as my site is called The…

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Can we restart?

It was the Sunday before the Monday going back to school after the Easter holidays and I was trying not to get anxious about what might unfold. My son had a hard time going to school and because he had just had 2 weeks off this back to school was going to be even worse. But I was more regulated than I had ever been. Prepared for the situation that might unfold but also resolute that what will be…

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Why doesn’t the Earth fall down?

We were on day 7 of the Easter Holidays, in those 7 days I had had 7 sleepless nights, approximately 15 wake ups during those 7 nights (on average 2 a night), I had answered approximately 100 questions (on average of 14 questions per day), probably more actually, and I was knackered so very knackered. Don’t get me wrong we had had a great week off school – every morning went fine, bedtimes were…

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Can I plant some custard?

Custard. My son loves custard. I would go so far as to say he is addicted to it. He LOVES it. Absolutely loves it. He has a pot of custard every night after getting in from school. He loves it that much I’ve had to put a limit on it. He is allowed only 2 pots of custard a day. And very occasionally he does have 3!!! It has to be Ambrosia Custard though, nothing else. And it’s not just custard he…

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Who was the first person on the Earth?

We were stood on the playground one morning and I was feeling relieved. We had had a good morning, rare very rare. Once again we were first on the playground – this is part of my son’s routine that he likes to be first so we were just stood discussing who would be next on the playground when the next people started arriving. The next parent was just in earshot when my son asked…. “Who was the…

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Mother's Day and the Many Many Questions of My Child!

In the UK it has been Mothers Day last weekend. On Sunday. I’m not really fussed on the day. Sometimes these days come with higher expectations and if you increase your expectations then ultimately you end up being disappointed when the kids don’t behave or don’t bring you breakfast in bed. And so I am happy for this day to be a “normal” day and to get a card and that is that. And that was what…

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What's that black under your eyes?

Our household is a blended family and my son goes between my house and his dad’s house. We have a very good routine. It took us 3 tries to find a routine that fit but we have it and it works extremely well. This is a routine we have come up with ourselves – it hasn’t been decided by a court or anything. And so the routine works very well with my son, he has set nights at each house and we do…

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When was the Earth first made?

It was the school holidays and I had settled in for some relaxing time in the house with my son. I was so used to going out and about all day with my daughter that getting my head around this type of activity was hard. But I went with the classic in house activities of baking and painting. I had found a baking kit for cakes where you decorated them as planets. This was brilliant. My son loved the…

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Why cant I have my friends round?

*Disclaimer – this is a long one. And this happened 2 weeks ago. It has been too raw to post about it. My daughter is 14 and has her friends round a lot. They come round straight from school, they have baked here, she has had sleepovers with 1 or sometimes 2 of them and my son has seen all this. And one day he asked: “Why can’t I have my friends round?” Well, the simple answer is he can.…

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Why do I have to go to bed first?

Why do I have to go to bed before anyone else?

The one thing that I have gotten right for my son is his bedtime. Occasionally we may have a little blip where he wont pick a book or takes a while to brush his teeth but on the whole our bedtime routine is great. We read two books, I sit with him for 5 minutes and then I say night night. Once I have said night night I walk away and hes asleep within minutes. And I have been so pleased with that.…

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Time and the Many Many Questions of My Child!

What time is it, is easily my sons favourite question. When he first started asking it he was around 3 years old and I’m not even sure if he knew what it meant, nor what the answer meant. And I’m not sure he even wanted to know the answer. What I do know is that asking that question became a big habit either because it reassured him or regulated him, or it just reminded him that I was there.…

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What happens after you have finished school?

It was a school morning and on the whole, our school mornings went terrible. My son really struggles with going to school, he cries, he shouts, he screams. Its more than just not wanting to go to school….why I hear you ask? Well the things he says are…. “My stomach hurts.”“I feel poorly.”“My clothes don’t fit.”“My shoes are hurting.” But I know that isn’t why. Its much more complex and harder…

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Who plays for Millwall that used to play for Middlesbrough? He was number 18 at Middlesbrough, he played for Middlesbrough a season ago and his name begins with a D?

In case you haven’t guessed already my son asks a lot of questions. When this started I was always on high alert, ready and poised with my brain switched on ready to answer these questions. It was exhausting, still is but I have a lot more experience of it and it’s like anything, the more you do of something the better you get. As time has gone on I can answer many of the questions in my…

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Ahhhh, What A Day!!

What. A. Day. It's. Been!

A slightly different post this week, not a question but rather a statement of exasperation!! It had been a day of trauma, hyperactivity and many tears. It was the school holidays after Christmas and my son had gotten a bike for Christmas and of course, rightly so, wanted to go on a bike ride. The weather had been awful, wet for days and so I was reluctant to go to our usual spot for a bike ride.…

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Am I Weird?

Everyone is different, everyone has weird traits but what happens if you know you don’t fit in. We had just been to McDonald’s for dinner. Not nutritious at all I know, but we were on our way to the cinema…..which costs a fortune and needed a low cost meal out beforehand and McDonald’s fit the bill. Plus all kids love McDonald’s right. Well not right actually. My son does not like McDonald’s. He…

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Happy New Year - Are we in 2023 or 2024?

Well….Happy New Year! The start of a new year, a fresh start, the beginning of time isn’t it. It’s a time for reflection, to look back on over the last year and a time for plan making, thinking about what you want to achieve in the coming year. For us though it was a minefield of questions. I am writing this at 7pm on New Year’s Eve. And at this time I can honestly say I was about 3 million…

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