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olderthannetfic · 2 days

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twitter is blowing up with rpf discourse again and i am just. i am so tired.

the drama this time is over a fanfiction about two fictional characters, but because one of the characters is played by a teenage actor on tv, all of a sudden this makes the fanfic "literal child porn" that "sexualizes an actual minor" and i am so sick of explaining to morons on twitter that actors are not in fact the fictional characters they play.

of course, because this kind of discourse ALWAYS gets out of control and escalates out of proportion, a concerning amount of people have moved on from "writing fanfic about fictional characters means youre a pedo who gets off to the real actor" and are now arguing "every fanfic about a real child should be banned from ao3" and "why does ao3 allow child porn?"

i just cant understand how so many people can be so stupid. even proshippers and pro fiction/anti censorship people are jumping on the side of "this is disgusting, how dare you write about LITERAL CHILDREN having sex, it doesnt matter if its about the fictional character!" and advocating for ao3 to ban the author and delete the fic. and anybody with a functioning brain who tries to explain "hey guys, this is a bad idea, we shouldnt support harrassing authors and censorship" is being called a pedophile or a pedo defender.

look, i dont like rpf. i especially dont like rpf of minors. but not only is a fanfic not rpf if its about fictional characters, the amount of people who are taking this drama as an excuse to crusade for the censorship of actual rpf is just ridiculous. no amount of telling people that ao3 hosts it because its legal will get through to these idiots. and if you point out that banning one type of work always leads to banning other types of work, you get brushed off.

i know that rpf has been talked about here before, as well as on other blogs. if anyone could point me toward a good post or breakdown on why rpf is normal that would be great. same if anybody has any thoughts on fanfiction about fictional characters that just so happen to be portrayed by actors. i am dying to hear from people who are actually able to think critically.

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the-nerdler · 1 year

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Coming to the awful, horrifying realization that my job is very much not what I was promised, and not what I expected it to be. Realizing that I work 8 hour days, without a lunch break and get chastised by my boss for leaving early. Working 10-12 hour days without any sort of break and it's still not enough. Worked 16 hour days during spring break and did not receive any sort of gratitude for it. Doing the work of 3 people and it's still not enough bc I should be doing the work of 5. Being severely undervalued and unappreciated, and under payed. My boss being so paranoid that he spies on me through our security cameras and when he thinks I'm doing something that isn't my work, he calls and asks me what I'm doing. My boss now making offhand, self depreciating jokes that we might not last through the summer and that if we don't get enough kids signed up for summer camp, they might not be able to pay me. Coming to the horrible realization that if I quit this job, the school would definitely go under and I'd probably never be able to practice taekwondo in our organization ever again. Realizing that because of the amount of hours my job demands of me, it's giving my cats severe separation anxiety that is causing lots of problems at home.

#i just dont know what to do #i dont really want to keep working but i know that if i were to leave the school would 100% have to close #there is no one that can do the job that i do #we dont have anyone that can make the calls #and clean the school #and do the after school pick up and teaching that i do #i am that person #and if i were to leave and the school were to go under #i would never be able to practice taekwondo in our organization again #and i dont want that #and a tiny evil part of me hopes the school goes under so that i dont have to deal with this anymore #ive pretty much got another job as a receptionist at the vet my roomie works at already lined up

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stil-lindigo · 4 months

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Bisan is calling for another global strike!

I saw some posts just outlining Jan 21st, and wanted to clarify that Bisan has called for a full seven days of action.

What a global strike would look like is:

calling in sick to work

purchasing bare essentials ahead of the week so you can observe the general boycott of goods / buying as little as you genuinely can

putting in a concerted effort to elevate Palestinian voices and make it clear that this strike is in support of a permanent ceasefire!

For those who will have to purchase necessary goods during this time, please observe the brands that the BDS movement is asking us to boycott!

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Right now is also a good time to mention some better uses for your money during this week.

Available e-sims in Gaza are running low!!

Mirna El Helbawi and her team are working round the clock to continue to connect Palestinians as Israel does its best to cut them off from the rest of the world.

You can learn how to purchase and send e-sims here, and below you’ll find a list of what is currently needed (the areas in brackets indicate what region you should select to buy e-sims in).

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CareforGaza is an organisation that does verifiably good work, distributing supplies directly to Palestinian families.

They have a Gofundme set up at the moment, but because of Gofundme’s poor track record regarding refusing to transfer funds to Palestinians, I’d recommend continuing to donate directly to their PayPal here.

Good luck to all of you. Don't turn away from Palestine!

#i know that for some people their first instinct will be to scoff. how can anyone just not buy things for a full week?#what about groceries? rent?#and personally. i wanna say yes. there are some things that we have to spend money on to survive.#but it is possible still to make a concerted effort in your life #to carve out seven days where you can minimise that amount of money #i know its a lot.#for some people who are living on a tight budget. i know its not possible and i dont fault you for that #but i know for a fact that so many of us would be able to take out a few daily purchases in observance of this strike #do your best #dont turn away from palestine #free palestine #palestine #from the river to the sea #call to action

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feline-evil · 25 days

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Dick or no dick confirmation Pickles was always going to be trans to me anyways; if he's swingin' somethin that's phallo babes, if he's not then his t-dick fat. What's not to get.

#metalocalypse #jay talkin #I'm sorry they wrote that awful gross little man far too likeable and relatable to on a trans level #for me not to hoot and holler and cheer for the trans pickles agenda #changes nothing about his character arc or any of the show anyone is capable of being the kind of person he is #don't make the mistake of thinking thats exclusive to cis men #his transness wouldnt change that #only adds on an extra layer to him that i think works fantastically.#Listen that dude was rejected by his family driven to drink and drugs young to escape that ran away to be in a band #is called fucking Pickles of all things and refuses to tell anyone his real last name;#over the span of four seasons and two movies he slowly starts to learn to be for others what he never had #he becomes more caring more supportive #it's not a stretch to say he undoes some of the toxic masculinity he's been keeping himself shielded behind #and learns how to be a kinder man.#all of which have no contradictions with him being trans!#In fact it doesn't take much extra thought to find ways a lot of this can line up with some trans masculine experiences #i mean. Did no one else have a younger phase where they swung as far as they could into crass rude and uncaring ways #to try and assert their masculinity only to grow and realise that you can be a man and be more caring.#Did no one else have father issues. 1 800 come on now i know those are both shared experiences a lot of us have had LOL.#at the end of the day this show aired nearly 20 years ago and is finished. we're not getting more of it #so nothing is altered nor changed if pickles is canonically trans or not ok. its fine #i mean hell i dont even need canon confirmation hes trans to me and thats all i care abt #but i think if yr getting suuuuuper weird abt needing him not to be canonically trans you have some issues #and bio essentialist ideals of gender if you think only a cis man can act like he does #again. anyone can be like that. its not exclusive. him being trans would not change him in any way shape or form lol #AND ALSO GODDDUUUGH for once i love getting to see a guy pushing 50 whos depicted as trans #do you have any idea how dire and barren it is out here. we never get to see a trans guy older than 30 and whos not a pristine model #I WANT MORE OLD SHLUBBY SHITHEAD TRANS GUYS IN MEDIA

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ssaseaprince · 10 months

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God, I hate people genderbending gay ships. We so rarely get queer representation, and most of the time, the fandoms have to come up with the main queer ships because 95% of shows don't have any. So we invent our own representation and create our own material based on them, and then people come in and turn it straight. If you want to interact with straight media, go write about the billions of straight relationships represented in media, don't turn our few, personally created, gay ships into straight ones. It's just so gross fr

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doodlebloo · 2 years

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No actually idk I don't think it's a stretch to say that maybe Ranboo and a Ranboo fan who runs a Ranboo fan account shouldn't be made co-workers by the same employer. Maybe there should be a separation between ccs and fans instead of literally putting them on a level playing field. And maybe it's weird for an organization whose goal is making money to now be paying your Twitter mutuals to create content that caters to them. Maybe it's bad for an organization to go to such lengths to make themselves as similar to fan accounts as they can. Maybe

#discourse #FUCK IT im posting this i dont care.#call me out if im wrong or overstepping a boundary.#ccs can make their own decisions and there is no call to action in this post.#no ''the ccs shouldnt have done xyz'' or ''we the fans should xyz'' nope. just making observations on whats going on. no suggestions for #anyone to Do anything.#(btw im being genuine in that second tag like i want to know if i make a mistake or say something wrong)

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wiredsmile · 21 days

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vent tw .

#( i cant do it anymore . i cant . i dont wanna be in this house anymore . nothing is ever enough . everything is always my fault somehow.#nothing is ever enough i can never do enough & i dont care about anyone but my ' not even real online friends ' & my bf . )#( i work my ass off ; i make as much as i can & i do-- my bf is TRYING to find another job we help around the house CONSTANTLY #but we don't care . she literally said she's ready to throw us out or leave herself . i dont have anywhere to go or i would be GONE . )#( im so unhappy i just wanna disappear i fucking hate it here . & now she gets to be fine & everyones #supposed to just go back to acting as tho she didnt call us all liars & uncaring assholes & didnt fucking lose her shit on the whole house )#( ALL STARTED OVER SOME STUPID ICE CREAM SANDWICH THING . )#( i just wanna be gone . )#( i just want it to all stop . )#˚₊·—̳͟͞♡ i. 𐙚 ooc. ᝰ .ᐟ . . . abi speaks ౨ৎ ˖ ࣪⊹ .#vent tw.

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bittwitchy · 1 month

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see the reality is i post on my rps usually when nobodys been there a bit and nobody is probably online, but the mental illness in me keeps saying its bc everyone secretly hates me and i dont deserve love, and when i tell a gov doctor that, they basically just say ‘take your antidepressant’s and shut up’ which is also funny when said gov doctor wont refill my fucking antidepressants in the first place

#what i need is smthn for my anxiety and PROBABLY the obviously worsening ocd #but anxiety meds and antidepressants dont mix well #just like adhd meds and anything else dont mix well #which is why i just have a redbull if i need to focus bx it works for a few hours and then i pass out #which isnt healthy but its better than going through the diagnosis process AGAIN bc they dont have my info anymore #its early sad times rn w brina who hasnt gotten an ounce of treatment at all hi #see the other thing is #if i talk about my mental health at all #people will either hate me for being annoying which is what my brain will pinpoint #or feel sorry for me which i also dont want #all i rly wanna do is vent but thats never really an option at all #like yes i know its not normal to want to have a breakdown and cry bc your fucking pillow isnt the correct fluff and wont dluff #i know its not normal to feel like you should die because something wasnt in fhe spot you put it in and was moved slightly #im aware. and the reality is nobody who can do anything about it cares #i have to get an authorization to see a therapist or get meds at all even tho the card claims i dont have to #and the doc tbey gave me wont give me one #they dont allow email so i cant leave a paper trail when bitching at them and my calls go ignored #im losing my mind steadily #and thats not even onto the physical problems #but also the sheer fucking audacity of the website being all ‘oh just go to ERs and UC snd we’ll cover it’ vs hospitals specifically saying #‘we will refuse you if you have Gov Ins unless you have the money to pay out of pocket #if youre on gov insurance you dont have fucking money thats the entire fucking point. you creedy fucknuts go shove tour nepotism in your #fucking eyes and die if anyone doesnt deserve to fuck its you fuckfaces #sometimes i just want to scream esp when this doesnt seem to be most other ppls issues #but then i talk to other women and it is #it just doesnt make sense and i hate it #but i never rly got help on private insurance either so #tbd #depression cw

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todayisafridaynight · 9 months

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poppo oc that i made as a joke accidentally breaching containment. maybe.

#snap chats #this is why we never do things 'as a joke' it stops being a joke eventually #i havent mentioned him for months hey LMAO BUT I WAS THINKING OF HIM TODAY i still like thinking of him..#oh also i finally thought of his wife. affectionately called Momo. who works at the m store. 'pop' and 'mom' see name scheme there #i thought of letting her work at la marche but thats too extravagant me thinks #anyways 'snap what are you talking bout' no cause the more i thought of him #the more the idea of actually writing short stories ft This Guy having to deal with deranged yakuza every day made me giggle more #if you see me breed a handful of yakuza ocs in the coming days no you dont #really. you wont LMAO i dont plan on having them at all be associated with rgg #if i ever need to draw throwaway yakuza charas tho then sure ill let them ft but i doubt ill need to do that #hence. Breaching Containment #in that regard i might accidentally give him a real name... name after an actual place of course..#like seiko.. based off seicomart of course...#in any case.. since i plan on streaming tomorrow i might talk more bout all this there. if anyones interested.#i know i wanna actually make a proper ref sheet for him so #i do have a goofy comic or two he might be able to ft in #anyway bye lemme work on this comm so i can sketch out that ref sheet

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scrambled-eggsed · 7 months

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had to unfollow so many blogs bc so many of you are unbelievably stupid and incapable of ever EVER examining the information being fed to you with a spoon and especially when it come to The Jews

#anyone calling for the brutal murder of me my family and friends can shut the fuck up and fuck off #idc what twisted fucking moral argument you hink you have going on but NOTHING makes this justified #we dont deserve to die any more than you do #and if you somehow make it make sense that we do. how does THIS still seem fine to you #anyone supporting the h*mas you can go fuck yourself and leave me alone and shut the fuck up forever

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sonknuxadow · 10 months

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it feels like almost every post i see about dr starline is either woobifying him and pretending he did nothing wrong or saying hes a bad character and their only reasoning for that is that he did bad things. even though hes a villain and hes supposed to do bad things thats the whole point? i dont get it . where am i

#i'd be more understanding of the second argument if like. starlines actions were portrayed in a positive light #and the writers wanted us to believe hes a good person. but thats not the case at all hes very obviously supposed to be evil #the comic doesnt defend him his actions are obviously wrong and we are shown the negative impact hes had on the people hes hurt #so i dont really get. how his actions make him a bad character? hes just a bad Person. which is a completely separate thing #im not even a starline fan either those takes just kinda confuse me #and im NOT saying you cant dislike him because of his actions. or be uncomfortable with fans of him who call him a girlboss and stuff #i can See why the way he treats surge and kit would be very upsetting for some people and i agree that its horrible he did that to them #just again. that i dont really understand the take that hes a bad character because he does bad things. hes supposed to be bad #i never really see people talk about other sonic villains who are just as bad if not worse like this either? just starline. idk #not vagueing anyone in particular btw this is just a response to many many posts ive seen #and i dont agree with the people in the first category either to be clear i just didnt have as much to say about that

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dirt-str1der · 1 year

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Trans kiryu is a genuinely funny hc because like trans majima is like oohh angst ohh she has to fight to be accepted she has to deal with people making fun of her for being a man in a dress she has to take into account her position and social standing and kiryu is literally just kiryu forever because the universe loves him too much to ever force him into a situation unless its to go to prison in which case hes like yayyy i love jail yayy yayyy

#Yakzua loveblog #im just talking to myself you guys dont need to read anything #in fact dont read this im going to talk about transphobic nishiki again anyway #my transphobic nishiki hc is the most important one to me because. like we all need to have some transphobic people in our lives #i do think that nishiki calls him ‘kiryu’ even though theyre best friends forever because when nishiki will always accidentally say his #deadname instead of ‘kazuma’ even though i know that nishiki is literally the one who gave him the name kazuma to make fun of kiryu for #thinking hes a boy and it just kind of stuck but nishiki eventually stuck. with calling him kiryu because thats how he prefers to be called #they are bestfriends for a reason .... and nishiki is the only one kiryu will let be transphobic towards him because theyve known each other #for forever and he knows he means no harm by it like he will still hit him but nishiki takes it in stride because its their thing and its #never not funny to make kiryu annoyed like for anyone else its an uncrossable line but once a month nishiki will lead kiryu into the womens #section to shop for new clothes and kiryus like Somehow i always knew you wore womens jeans and nishikis like HEY !!!!#but as kids they were always very cute because theyre always together and you can never really tell whos following who because it seems like #theyre on the same wavelength until nishiki realises that life is so much easier when youre working smart so he went to work on his INT stat #while kiryu never stopped being a wild animal like hes literally some sort of monkey to me sorry for dehumanising him because of his autism #like i adore his ‘own little bubble’ way of life as long as he’s physically okay kiryus not going to complain about anything. like when he #said ‘i decide to do things based on whether i love it or hate it’ im like Yeah i bet you do. he sits outside the orphanage all day playing #with rocks until nishiki comes finds him then they both go outside to smash open windows with the rocks kiryu has gathered and kiryus in his #little skirt and he always uses it to carry things in you know how it is and he stopped going to school to be a bigger menace than everyone #anyway did i mention that the universe loves kiryu. especially his genes he was very lucky because he never had a big chest or nothing he #was always going to get tall and thick in the shoulders and beefy and when he cut his hair it just sealed the deal he passed with flying #colours like young children are indistinguishable by gender unless they have a big pink bow in their hair but kiryu radiated masculinity #from a young age and his aggressive way of life didnt help. well it helped a lot actually. a lot of people were scared of him and nishikis #like dont be scared of kiryu shes nice when you get to know her and everyones like ?? thats a girl ???#in fact it made more sense for kiryu to be a boy at that point so he went to kazama and told him and kazama was like ok lets make it happen #like kiryu and nishiki are so special because there is nobody in the universe more transphobic to kiryu than his own brother but also nishik #was the one helping kiryu shop for boy clothes when he was clueless about it like hes not stupid but he really doesnt know about fashion and #he trusts nishiki to not make him look stupid and nishiki is of course like 😏 well well well youre having a girl moment arent you #nishiki is okay with kiryu being a guy because this means that now whenever kiryu hits him he can fight back without being misogynistic #okay im done talking my noodles are getting cold but kiryu as a kid would have been a veritable nightmare #oh yeah my trans beam extended to nishitani as well because just look at him. everybody majima wants to sex is trans

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jehanjoltaires · 7 months

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"Punk isnt leather jackets and 2000s pop punk anymore" sometimes I wonder if you people hear yourselves

#is supporting shit the system hates a PART of being punk? yeah #but punk isnt youre pretty woke aesthetic either #just because you support marginalized people and anti-system causes that doesnt make you a punk #punk is a subculture and yall need to realize thats not a bad thing #you can still be anti capitalist and support marginalized identities without being a punk #you dont have to call yourself a punk to say fuck the system #but if youre gonna come out here wearing fairy wings and lolita dresses and crying about the loud angry music #maybe the punk scene isnt for you!! and thats ok!!#i dont come into your cottagecore picnics or whatever and demand you start rioting and planning masked protests #dont come into punk spaces and demand we soften our culture so its more suitable to your palate #idk im just ticked off #yeah punk is open to everyone but it sure as hell aint gonna be everyones cup of tea #and trying to woobify it into this kids tv version of itself just so its easier for you to digest isnt doing anyone any favours

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theygender · 2 years

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You know... part of the reason I had a hard time coming to terms with being a lesbian growing up was because I didn't want to be like my mom. I had been through a lot of trauma that was directly related to her choice in women, and there's definitely something to be said for the difficulties that that caused me, but that's not what this post is about

My point is, when I was a kid the idea of anyone ever thinking that I was like my mother made me angry, and that combined with the internalized lesbophobia that I developed made me especially sick at the idea of anyone ever thinking that I was a lesbian. Even worse, I felt like the homophobes in our family expected me to become a lesbian because of their bigoted ideas that gay parents "corrupt" children. I didn't want to be a lesbian because I didn't want to prove them right and I didn't want to be compared to my mother, so I fought hard against ever being interpreted that way

But now, as someone who's reconnecting with my mom on my own terms and finding out that she's changed for the better? As someone who's secure in their identity as a lesbian and grateful for the opportunities that I've had to engage with the LGBT community throughout my life? As someone who loves my mother in spite of her flaws and recognizes the struggles she faced growing up in the 1970s as the first out LGBT person in a homophobic southern family? I'm proud to be as openly gay as I am and I will not be apologetic for it

I WILL look as queer as possible at our family reunions. I WILL make you respect my girlfriend's pronouns. I WILL speak openly and honestly about the woman I love. I WILL be who I am with no compromises. And I will not engage with you if you don't accept this

My mom had to spend way too many years trying to conform to heteronormative standards for her family's acceptance. She had to hide who she was throughout her childhood, and she had to go through conversion therapy when she was outed. Even as an adult she wasn't able to present the way she wanted or speak openly about her partners. She was the first out lesbian in a family full of southern conservative christians, and she had to live through the hell that her family created for her all alone

...But I am the second out lesbian in a family that supports me for who I am. And I'm the first out nonbinary person in a family that supports me for who I am. And I openly and proudly love all the trans people in my life, who are also fully supported by my family. And there's nothing any of my conservative relatives can do about that. I'm accepted by the family that matters, and I have to be afforded the same respect as everyone else at family gatherings. The homophobes no longer have the power in this situation. I get to be who I am, and if they don't like it they have to leave. They spent decades making my mom's identity a problem for her, and now I'm going to make my identity everyone else's problem. Get with the program or die fucking mad

#i really am proud of how much my mom has grown as a person #and im happy that we have supportive family members now too #my grandma. my great grandma. my grandpas wife #my great grandma was the only one who accepted my mom as a kid and shes always been sweet #when i was in high school i had a huge crush / sort of fling with a girl named tori and i guess my mom talked to her about it #my great grandma said she had heard i had a 'good friend' named tori and when i confirmed she told me how wonderful she thought that was #and that she thought we should go to college and get a nice apartment together after we graduated #i didnt even realize that she /knew/ that i was interested in girls before then but that conversation was so sweet #my nana took some time to adjust to trans issues but once she understands she does a great job of being supportive #she accepted my previous best friend (who i called my brother and my mom called her son) as her grandson #and after my mom explained it to her she always got his pronouns right #my mom has had to explain my girlfriends pronouns to her as well but now she makes sure to use the right pronouns for her too #my grandpa is probably the most conservative person in our family. BUT his wife is extremely sweet #her only reaction to my trans girlfriend was to say that one day the three of us should all get together and have a girls day #and whats he going to say about my girlfriend when his wife is being so supportive of her?#what is ANYONE in our family going to say about me or my mom or my girlfriend when all three of the family matriarchs are supportive of us?#you dont come into nanas house and be mean to her grandkids. you dont act like a dick in front of grandma betty #no one can talk shit about my mom for being a lesbian anymore when im there being an even BIGGER dyke and theyre required to be nice to me #and if any of my cousins ever come out theyll be safe now too #i painted myself into a big enough target that every other target would look tiny in comparison #and now that my grandmas have said that no ones allowed to shoot at me everyone has to put down their guns #and im pretty fucking proud of that tbh #thank you for paving the way for me mom. i know you went through a lot #ill take over from here #rambling

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sick-as-a-dog · 11 months

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#just the thought of him not loving me the same way and amount i love him makes me want to slice myself up #ill only stop cutting when i cant feel anything anymore not pain not love just emptiness #just want to be with master but dont want to make him stressed out because im too dependent and reliant on him #why cant i just feel my emotions the right way or a normal amount or at least less strong? why am i like this?#why cant i love like a human and why must that shit be so complicated? why am i so feralminded?#and why cant i feel my loves separately? should i even? or am i not understanding it right? why do i feel everything wrong?#why must i love him like a wild animal loves its lifelong mate? but also like how that animal loves the taste of prey and hungers for it?#like a dog loves its master and feels the unending loyalty and unconditional love overtake remaining wolflike instinct #like a best friend i also wish to do stereotypical romantic and domestic things with and so much more #i want to be bound to him in any way possible marriage and collars and microchips and blood pacts and marking and such #but im so scared he wont want that anymore i want to stop feeling i need to completely stop feeling and worrying but i cant #even when im emotionally numb i still feel that canine love for him even if just a glimmer #i wish i knew what he thinks love is and what hes comfortable with and how he felt and experienced love and if he still loves me like #he did before he came out as aro....im scared to bring up how calling himself aro and me his exception actually hurts and idk if i should #tbh him saying hes aro yet says he loves me feels like when a close friend keeps saying they dont have any friends while youre right there #like my existence makes his identity a lie or a betrayal to him i cant shake the gross feeling that hes forcing himself to stay for my sake #....hell am i even his exception anymore? what did he mean by same amount but not the same? what changed? did anything actually change?#wish i could figure out what love is and how to feel it right..esp dont understand romantic or queerplatonic or anything its all confusing #i want to take on the world with him and stop being an emotional wreck so we can fuck anyone together like we swore to #i just want to live the rest of my life by his side and i want to experience all we can together #picnics and movies and living together and sharing a nest and....idk i just want to be with him forever and hope he still feels the same #it would literally kill me if he ever left or fell out of love i think i would lose whats left of my mind and end up bleeding myself dry #i want us to be together forever and never ever stop being mates but i cant help but be terrified and confused and hurt

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bisexualgerardway · 9 months

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yes i did go on a rant to my partner in the backcountry about how the way ppl treat the affection btwn members of ls dunes as exclusively gay is destructive and indicative of the ways queer people are subconsciously made to sexualize all of our affection

#i dont think it’s on purpose but i also think we should talk about it. like yes its cute and polyam jokes are funny but only to a certain ex #tent . and then past that we are left witha bunch of grown adults calling men gay for hugging and cuddling and being affectionate to each ot #her . and not to be all mens rights but god queer people already are made to feel predatory. man on man affection that includes kissing and #close touch is already kind of an uphill battle can we not ONLY sexualize it or frame it as queer in more than a platonic way . as a queer #who is perceived as a man and would love to be more non sexually affectionate with the men in my life can we just think critically about th #messaging we are putting out to queer people and men .#d.riv.el #there is nuance here im not saying we cant have fun !!! but lets acknowlexge that its fun. and not real. that these men are probably just #bonded deeply as touring bandmates (inherently INTIMATE! of COURSE they see each other naked!) and close friends #does this make sense. can anyone hear me. its getting dark in here

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