really fucking sick and tired of people who really fucking love the eddie book jumping on people who don't like or are even remotely critical of it's posts and like crusading their opinions around from the top of their high horses and shoving it down our throats.

if you like the book, great! that's awesome! love that for you! i am genuinely glad that you were able to find good in it and enjoy it!!

but not everyone did, and not everyone is going to agree with you. so, instead of going on some grand crusade where you find every single post that includes anything even remotely negative or negative adjacent or even neutrally critical and spending ALL this time and effort trying to provide unwanted rebuttals to every single thing, maybe you should just stay in your lane and find people who DO like the book and chat about it with them.

because i can PROMISE YOU, none of us appreciate it when you come onto our posts and start accusing us of "hating on" the author or "being rude" about her and her work and RIDICULOUS shit like that.

being critical of something and pointing out it's flaws is NOT inherently hating on it. i, frankly, do not know where people got that notion, but it's not fucking true so can we fucking quit assuming it is? and, critiquing something is also NOT the same as saying this is shit and it sucks and the author is a piece of garbage. again, where the fuck that came from is beyond me. you can be critical of something and still enjoy it. as soooo many of you love to point out, it's not perfect, why should it be perfect? so D U H. of course that means criticism can and should arise???

also. hot take (by which i mean ice fucking cold because it's NOT a fucking hot take), but going around toting FALSE facts as part of your "defense" does not make you or your argument look good. you, like the author, should maybe do a basic fact check first. 🙃

tldr, if you like the book, that's genuinely great, but stay in your fucking lane and stop seeking out posts from people who didn't like it to start shit in the notes.

Some of you in the RPC need to learn what the definition of a SQUICK is. You can find something uncomfortable, but that doesn’t mean it’s bad, or problematic, or terrible, or questionable. Something “different” or “uncomfortable” is exactly how things like the gay community were treated years ago for being different—because to a straight person, intercourse with someone of the same gender is “squicky” to them, the same way a gay person may feel “squicky” with the idea of sleeping with someone of the opposite gender. It doesn’t make either scenario bad or problematic, but it does make the other side validly uncomfortable with it, for personal reasons. And that’s okay! Don’t yuck someone else’s yum, don’t kink shame, and holy shit, grow a fucking brain and some critical thinking skills.

Also—when the hell did 18 become considered to be “still a minor”? You absolutely cannot scream “oh em gee protect the minors and the underage!” While crying about how some people have blogs that are 21+ only because 18-21 year olds on the internet lack critical thinking skills. Y’all are far too comfortable being shitty human beings on social media and not getting punched in the mouth for your asinine behaviour. Pick a lane, go outside, and touch some grass for crying out loud.

Lmfao someone who I viewed as a friend calling me misanthropic in a review for a fanfic on hiatus, and it’s not even my fic.

Read more is under the cut because I’m angry that I have to keep begging people on the internet to try and act normal.

Forgive me if I’m not praising society for (checks notes) rampant police violence, charging thousands of dollars for life saving medications that cost next to nothing to make, insanely uncalled for wealth gaps, racism/ableism/sexism prevailing nearly everywhere you look, climate change that no one cares about because money, the sheer goddamn transphobia, and dictating what people can and cannot do with their own bodies.

If you haven’t been burned by any of these things, great! I’m genuinely very glad for you and hope you continue to not have anything worth being upset about.

Meanwhile my anger is mine and justified.

More than that, if you’re mad about my opinions because of how they manifest in my headcanons for a fictional television show, then clearly your priorities are... extremely skewed. Fandom has always been an outlet for people to explore pre-existing works and the narrative elements they pick up on within them.

Neotopia is a perfect utopia? Doubt it. I picked that out and wrote about it.

Did you not pick up on it? Cool! Don’t write about it or tell me I’m wrong.

The Maximals vs. Predacons beef is acceptable on a post-war Cybertron because the Autobots and Decepticons were once at war? Doubt it. I picked that out and wrote about it.

Did you not pick up on it? Cool! Don’t write about it or tell me I’m wrong.

The Vehicons are wholly without the capability for individuality and self-determination? Doubt it. I picked that out and wrote about it.

Did you not pick up on it? Cool! Don’t write about it or tell me I’m wrong.

A headcanon is not canon. Otherwise it would just be called canon and not have its own word. You cannot control other people’s headcanons, or feelings, or beliefs. This is especially true when those beliefs are rooted in that person’s real life suffering.

If there are parts of fandom you don’t like, block and move on. You literally do not have to interact with things you don’t like. We’ve already learned that changing peoples’ minds on the internet is a moot point, so don’t bother. Genuine criticism (especially in fanfic) is totally understandable, but not when that criticism is rooted in a headcanon that is not yours for dictating.

Why would you even bother commenting on a story after more than a year since it’s last update? Why are you talking about me?

The cool thing is this: it doesn’t matter.

Even if I don’t know why this person called me out, guess what? I’m not going to change their mind about their own feelings, much in the same light that they cannot change mine. So I’m not going to interact with them. At this point I don’t care to figure out why, either. I’m blocking and moving on.

That having been said, if anyone else is on this mindset that the world revolves around you and how you interact with other people’s interpretation of fictional media, I am begging you to go outside and touch grass. I’m not saying that in a bad way, either. I think you’ve had too much time on the internet and I think you need to sit outside and get some fresh air.

Maybe get a coffee.

Edit 1: I don’t think I made this clear enough so lemme add a few things.

Jetstorm deserved bodily autonomy because no means no, Molly Thatcher becoming a bad person by setting herself in her skewed mindset deserves whatever comes to her (including the people she roped in as a result of her extremism), and the Decepticons were right to start the Great War in direct retaliation to Cybertron’s government refusing to abolish the caste system that was killing them.

Also, abortion is healthcare, black lives matter, and religious conservatives are inherently actually evil. If you can’t change my mind about the latter, you can’t do it for the prior! <3

Edit 2: Actually this whole thing is so much more confusing now because the person could have been interpreted to be? Upset? Purely on the basis of my “misanthropic” headcanons as they were applied to an alternate universe setting. That’s even worse than being mad at someone about their standard headcanons in fic in general, because AUs are already once-removed from canon (at minimum) already.

I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. Why is this a problem. Why are we here.

Fuck it, man. I’m getting a coffee.

Edit 3: I’ve had my coffee and I just remembered that they also called the fic “dead,” which is such a rude thing to say? That’s not being profound about your critique towards a fanfic’s theme, or the criticisms you have with another author’s personal headcanons that should have zero (0) bearing on your own interpretation of 20+ year old media. That’s just you being a weirdo canon-purist walking into someone’s house looking like this:

Just because of this I’m going to pick up Comets again. I’m going to make Molly Thatcher and the Titans look SO cartoonishly evil. I’m going to make their motives look as unbelievably stupid and silly as possible. I’m going to make the 1% of Neotopia that think that robots shouldn’t have rights so brain-dead and loud that they’ll look like Trumpers (and they basically already are, their existence was intended to be a fiction-imitates-life situation from the start). I’m going to shove all my headcanons so deep into the story that it’s bursting at the seams. I might even reference other media. Probably Transformers: Beast Machines. Why? Just because I can haha...

The best part about all of this is that no one can stop me. No one can stop me from crushing my ugliest behaving human ocs into the ground with no remorse, or putting my favorite "evil” robot blorbos in a better light because I think they look nice there.

I write my headcanons and my stories for me. Not for anyone else. I only ever share because maybe others will connect with it, too.

10 FANDOM GRIPES/ADVICE

Actually now that I’m on my fandom bullshit again here’s some general gripes I think any fandom can identify with:

1. Your headcanon/interpretation of canon is not canon. You will be much happier if you stop seeing everyone else in bad faith and being aggressive or passive-aggressive to people who don’t share your same interpretation/headcanon. Trust me, your drama levels will decrease if you put this into practice.

2. Just because you dislike something doesn’t mean it’s bad. Just because you like something doesn’t mean it’s good. This also goes for other people, too. Some people enjoy garbage and they know it’s garbage-- do NOT confuse them with the people who don’t understand something is garbage and are obnoxious about it. The former hate the latter too, believe me.

3. Loving something in spite of how poorly executed/written it is, is a thing. Loving something because of the potential it could’ve had is a thing. But you have to be willing to admit that your hope for a piece of media’s potential does not equate a good execution on the part of the creator(s). And once again, just because there’s some good substance there, does not mean it is above reproach or critique.

4. Critique/criticism are NOT BAD THINGS. I know it can be all too easy to take critique as “shit people have to say that’s always negative” and frankly, a lot, a LOT of “critique” is just unbalanced complaints levied in an aggressive, unfriendly manner. However! Actual media analysis is so, so much more than that. Taking apart a piece of media and figuring out how it works and why, both in-universe and out-of-universe and taking production factors into account, is FUN. Adding context to media is FUN. “Critic” is a dirty word these days, but frankly, I wish we could start turning that around. It feels like fandom is so fucking allergic to genuine civil discourse and critical thought these days and it doesn’t have to be that way. Listen: Learning about your favorite media and why it’s your favorite is actually super fun and great, and part of that is understanding its flaws as well as its highlights. When you really love a piece of media, you learn to love it, warts and all; and loving something despite its flaws (and in some cases because of them) is not an endorsement of those flaws, nor is it problematic behavior.

5. It’s okay to like antagonists/unhealthy character dynamics, HOWEVER, you need to understand WHY they are an antagonist, and WHY those dynamics are unhealthy. There is a difference between thinking Griffith from Berserk is a fascinating character study vs saying Griffith did nothing wrong and he’s your precious little meow meow. Frankly, it’s fucking obnoxious to see antag and/or villain stans go ham on things because they start romanticizing that character’s behavior, and then the antis come out, and then everything gets polarized. Like... y’all, there’s such a thing as not going to extremes, you know that, right? Can we not embrace a character, flaws and all, and understand why they suck and still like them anyway? Self-awareness is a GOOD THING.

6. Fucking touch some grass. No, really, I mean it. Get off your computer/phone. Go do something non-digital. Take deep breaths. Tell a loved one that you love them. Pet your dog, cat, lizard, or whatever other animal you have that can be petted. It will do you some good. The internet will be here when you get back. Twitter and Insta and Tumblr can fucking wait while you take some non-screen time to yourself.

7. Don’t go into tags to shout about how you hate X or Y ship/thing. Years ago I saw a post about how it’s like, going into the blueberry muffins aisle, and loudly complaining about blueberry muffins and how they suck. None of us fucking care what you have to say, we are here for blueberry muffins, and you are clearly here for drama and shit-stirring. Fucking stop. Being like UM, REBLOG IF YOU DON’T LIKE X!!! in the #x tag, is peak basic bitch behavior. You will be much happier and more chill if you learn to just let people like the things they like, I PROMISE you.

Also, people posting in general or gushing about a ship does not constitute as them pushing it on you. If you don’t want to see anything about a ship, block the tag and keywords, it’s that simple. 

Frankly, even if you’re outside a ship tag and you start talking about how a certain dynamic is clearly familial/platonic, apropos of ENTIRELY nothing, it makes you come off like a rainbow-ass clown with a passive aggressive bone to pick. Stop fucking vagueblogging. Shit or get off the pot or get over whatever weird hateboner you have and Move. On.

8. Let people write their nasty OOC toxic smutfic. As long as it has appropriate warnings and tags, and isn’t catering to nasty p*doshit (literal adults and literal children), then fucking let. It. Go. No one is being hurt by this. It is fictional. IT. IS. FICTIONAL. 

9. Let adults have their safe fandom spaces, and let minors have theirs. I know there’s going to be overlap, especially for groups that are in their late teens/early 20s. Overlap is okay, it’s fine, whatever. But for the love of God, PLEASE respect the boundaries of others-- if you are 18+, don’t go into spaces for minors. Vice versa, do not go into spaces that are 18+ if you are not 18+. 

10. Learn to curate your online experience. Stop leaving it up to the algorithms. Learn to block tags, accounts, keywords, etc. I myself have legitimate triggers from trauma and instead of demanding the world bend over backwards to never ever talk about content that might make me uncomfortable, I take the initiative and protect myself first. If I see something that got through that filter, I’m not going to scream and cry about it--it was not a moral failing on the part of the poster, even if they forgot to put up a tag. Shit like this happens and part of living with triggers and discomforts is learning to cope with them when we can’t remove them or ourselves. You will be far happier if you stop following blogs/accounts/hashtags that make you upset.

5 Tips for Quitting a Job on the Right Note

Historically (pre-2010), most employers expected workers to stay at one company for 5 years or more. Frequent job changes were frowned upon.  Quitting your job to take advantage of new opportunities is no longer unusual. Of course, it makes sense to have a new job before quitting your current job (doing otherwise will likely lead to financial instability). Today, views have broadened and an increasing number of professionals are changing jobs every few years to pursue their dreams. Some are even doing so in a bid to strike a healthy work-life balance. However, the way you resign is important.  You do not want to "burn bridges" and it is a small world (you never know who you will encounter again in your career).   1. Leave Before You Hate Your Job: You need to be honest and ask yourself if you still enjoy your current job and if you see a future in your current company. Before you go ahead and change your job, ask yourself if changing jobs really is the best way to accomplish what you want to achieve. Are you looking for additional challenges, more money, and additional responsibilities? Define why you are unhappy where you are and ensure that the only way to fix the issues is to move on. Quitting your job to take advantage of new opportunities is no longer unusual. Of course, it makes sense to have a new job before quitting your current job (doing otherwise will likely lead to financial instability).Click To Tweet 2. Inform Your Manager First: Once you decide to change jobs and you have a job offer (for the job of your dreams), the first person you should inform is your manager. Generally speaking, a resignation is always a surprise but this surprise often becomes a shock when your manager hears it from another employee. He/she may feel insulted that his others knew before he did. Whatever your reasons for leaving, be considerate of your manager (and your company) and resign using the proper protocol. 3. Never Say Goodbye: You know the saying - "the grass is always greener on the other side of the street". While you may leave your organization for all of the right reasons, sometimes a new job just doesn't work out. When that happens, many individuals look to rejoin the company they left. Occasionally, people rejoin companies many years later in a more senior role. Whatever the case, leave on a cordial note and keep in touch with your former coworkers and managers. You should always leave the door open a crack. 4. Be Professional during the Exit interview: Trashing your organization during the exit interview is not recommended. Your exit interview should be presented in a way to provide feedback and constructive criticism. Don't speak badly about the company, coworkers, or your manager.  Instead, make it all about you (more responsibility, learning new skills, etc.) rather than the shortcomings of the firm or your manager. Thank them for having confidence in you and for the wonderful learning experience you've gained while working there. How To Interview Like A Pro $13.95 $11.43 Getting a job is like parking. You have to be in the right place at the right time. In How to Interview Like a Pro, author Mary Greenwood provides strategies and practical tips about how to prepare for job hunting and how to interview. Buy on Amazon We earn a commission if you click this link and make a purchase at no additional cost to you. 12/04/2022 12:06 am GMT 5. Focus on Your Resignation Letter While the actual communication of your resignation will be in person (don't ever resign via email!), always write a professional resignation letter addressed to your manager and HR. Keep it short and polite. It's always better to be tactful than to regret it later. There are many examples of resignation letters on the Internet. The world isn’t dying to hear why you have been wanting to quit and what issues you have. Neither do they need your list of aspirations on record. So keep it short, professional and simple with an end date and a thank you note. Whatever your reasons for resigning, always do it in the right way. The tips above will help ease the transition and allow you to maintain good terms with the employer you are leaving. Career Tip of the Day: 5 Signs That It’s Time To Look For A New Job New Attitude, New Job: Tools to Inspire Self-Esteem, Resilience, Success $4.95 New Attitude, New Job is a toolkit for job seekers of over two dozen exercises to shift your thinking and improve your outlook. A new attitude doesn’t guarantee a new job, but it can help energize your job search. Buy from Amazon We earn a commission if you click this link and make a purchase at no additional cost to you. 12/04/2022 12:33 am GMT Read the full article

6 Costly Mistakes Affiliate Marketers Make In Their Career.

It's always one of those "I can't believe it's true" moments for new affiliates once they discover the affiliate marketing world. When they realize you don't have to worry about product development or shipping, they immediately jump on board, remembering to perform their due diligence on the company they are joining. Then, soon afterward, they expect to start making money within weeks, but reality always strikes. They are yet to be millionaires. Here are some common mistakes and tips on how to avoid them.

1. Lack of Patience: Patience is a virtue, as they say. It took years for McDonald's to be successful; it took years for Microsoft and other big companies to take off to success. Most businesses take up to five years to start seeing a profit. Treating your affiliate business as a real business is essential. Super affiliates earn $20,000 a month to get to that point. Research a program before signing up. Commit to sticking it out. If they offer guides and training, take advantage of it. Update and maintain your site with fresh content. Stay calm when the going gets tough.

2. Subscribing to Too Many Programs: Resist the temptation to subscribe to too many programs.When the going gets tough, it's easy to think the grass is greener on the other side. The problem with subscribing to too many programs is that you'll need to give them the attention and focus they deserve to make you money—two or three programs simultaneously to enable you to turn your hard work into cash.

3. Wrong Choice of Program: When choosing affiliate programs, select the ones with a generous commission structure that pays their affiliates quickly and on time. Do you have affiliate products that fit in with your target audience? Choosing programs that offer products that might not interest people means no commission or money for you. If you join a program that provides "hot" products, you will compete with thousands of others promoting the same product. Choose a niche in which you have experience! Check the profitability of that niche.

4. Generalized Marketing: Concentrate on Niche Marketing: Concentrate on a small niche.The smaller and narrower that niche is, the better. Try improving on a single essential aspect of your business at a time. Putting your efforts in one of two ways will help you achieve your affiliate program goals. Try getting people to join your list. Then keep in touch with them by sending out valuable information.

5. Organic Traffic Only: Another mistake most affiliates make is the idea of generating only organic traffic. Naturally, caused by a website, this form of traffic is a myth. There is no such thing! Organic traffic is the one that is created by the website naturally. This concept is nothing but a fairy tale story, and this is not a reality.

6. Link Exposure: Nowadays, hiding your affiliate link on your website is critical. Most affiliate marketers still make the mistake of making their links visible. The truth is that internet users have become more sophisticated, and the truth is that most web users won't click on an affiliate link or anything that looks like it. You've got to learn how to hide your affiliate links to ensure click throughs. Also, stories of people's affiliate links being changed to divert traffic have happened and are still happening.

Many big mistakes made by affiliates can be easily avoided. You can easily avoid many big mistakes made by affiliates. You can easily prevent many big mistakes made by affiliates. Still, these are just a few of them. However, making mistakes in business is inevitable and essential. I recommend failing and making mistakes quickly and early in your business rather than learning from them. This would move you forward toward success.

Online Safety Relevant to the Current State of the Internet

On twitter I made a tweet about how online safety lessons in school can be very out of touch but that the advice of people who are familiar with the current internet shouldn't be disregarded. So here's my informal collection of online safety tips

Sources: unrestricted internet access since elementary school (not recommended), being a formerly involuntarily home bound person for several years that amassed way too much online experience

This could possibly hold upsetting reminders to people who had bad experiences online including mentions of grooming and emotional manipulation so please proceed with caution!

Information Sharing

Make an online pseudonym for public profiles and websites.

Don’t feel like you have to list everything about you for the world to see.

Sometimes it’s not a question of “can this information be used to locate and identify me irl?”, but simply “do I want this information publicly available and linked to my online persona?”

Unlike offline, being online leaves a constant trail of who you were accessible at all times. People are constantly growing and changing. Try to limit the information you share so you can ditch that trail and start over if need be.

Sharing information with people you make friends with and trust is a judgement call on your part, but always be on the safe side and be protective of your information.

Start as cautious as possible with online safety. Any risks or judgement calls can come later when you are 1. aware of the risks, 2. ready to address them if they occur, and 3. have gathered plenty of information instead of doing something blindly and hoping for the best.

Do not share your triggers publicly, they can very easily be used against you. Instead use websites with a large amount of filtering options to curate your online experience. If you are going to share them, only do it privately with people you trust.

Importance of Boundaries

It doesn’t matter how mature you are, don’t enter age limited spaces you don’t qualify for. It’s disrespectful to the boundaries of the people who made that space. Boundaries like this exist for the comfort of both sides involved.

Just because you can “handle it” doesn’t mean it’s good for you. Desensitization is not something to brag about.

Venting or making r18 posts as a minor on a public account is VERY dangerous. Intense emotional vulnerability is something manipulators will look for as a way to get to you. The same with sexual jokes to develop your comfort talking about those topics casually and eventually escalating the situation. If you are going to talk about such things please keep that in private conversations with people you trust in your age group.

Note the difference between public and private online space. Tweeting something on a public account is not the same as having a conversation in the cafeteria with your friends.

If an adult tries talking to you about r18, run the other way. Doesn’t matter how cool you are, it says something weird about THEM if they’re willing to talk to a minor about that stuff.

If someone( like 3+ years, honestly depends on how old you are) older than you wouldn't be comfortable saying what they're saying to you in front of other people (like a teacher or guardian), that's suspicious as hell. Run in the other direction.

The younger you are, the more age gaps matter. There's a bigger difference in development between a 13 year old and a 17 year old than there is between a 20 year old and a 24 year old. It helps to try to contextualize it with real people instead of numbers. Instead of thinking "oh just 4 years? that's not that weird" consider "oh. that would be like a freshman (13/14) dating a senior (17/18). yikes."

Be just as wary of people your own age talking about things that make you uncomfortable. Just like irl, sometimes you’ll meet people your age that are hurtful.

Friends complain to each other and talk about their issues, that alone is fine. But when people are doing it without permission, draw a line. When people are making it feel like you’re responsible for maintaining their mental health, you need to draw a line. When it starts to effect your mental health, PLEASE DRAW A LINE! I know it feels like your responsibility sometimes, but it’s not. You cannot be there for others if you’re not taking care of yourself first and foremost.

Don’t be afraid to block people. Even for petty reasons. It’s good to block people. Don’t force yourself to see stuff you don’t want to see.

Being Constantly Online

The 24 hour news cycle is not a good thing to follow 24/7. Taking social responsibility is a good thing, but your brain is NOT built to worry about every issue in the world at once. One strategy I use for staying sane is I try to only check the news once a day, and if something needs more attention to set aside an amount of time I’m going to focus on it before I need to take time to step back.

Touch grass. Not literally, unless you can in which case I highly suggest it, sometimes it’s just good to lay in a field. What I mean is you need to dedicate a good portion of your time to being offline (sleep does not count). What your offline time looks like is going to differ depending on your level of ability, but even if you are house bound it’s important to build some hobbies that don’t rely on the internet. Talking to people offline is also a good goal if possible, even just to your housemates.

Social etiquette greatly differs online and offline and sometimes the reminder that were all just Some People gets lost behind the numbers and the fabricated personas. Keep in mind the difference in how information is shared without forgetting that the fact we are all people remains the same.

Be generous with your etiquette. You will avoid a lot of stress if you conduct yourself with the same politeness you would have in an offline interaction. Master the art of "minding your own business" for your own sake.

Arguments and Competition

As soon as you can, you need to internalize the fact that leaving an argument is not losing.

It is inevitable you will be exposed to many people who disagree with you. Some people only want to argue to rile you up. Sometimes that’s not their intention, but it’s what they’re doing. You do not have to remain in conversation with people, especially if they’re not interested in actually coming to an understanding. Even if they are interested, sometimes they just suck!! Leave!! You can leave!!

On that note, sometimes you are going to get valid criticism and it’s going to hurt. That is part of learning. If someone says you messed up and did something hurtful, take a second to step back from your defensiveness and consider: intent ≠ effect. Apologize, repair what you can, and move forward with the ability to do better in the future. You’re going to mess up every once in awhile, it’s inevitable.

To summarize the past two points: don't waste your time on unnecessary hostility but don't close yourself into an echo chamber either. Debates should be about learning.

Sometimes people are not going to like you. This happens offline too but people tend to be a lot more blunt online. Sometimes people dislike you for no reason or for really petty reasons. That’s not your problem, move on.

Don’t actively seek out people you don’t like or who don’t like you to argue with. Whether or not your side is the “right side” doesn’t matter, it’s going to cause you so much unnecessary stress. Feel free to keep posting your opinions on your own profile but don’t seek out unnecessary conflict.

This is a different type of competition than previously mentioned, but be aware of the danger of comparing yourself to other people. Especially if you’re a creative or student, DO NOT GET SWEPT UP IN THE GRIND CULTURE. It’s more subtle in some places than others, but anytime you see the notion that you should be working yourself to the bone be VERY critical. Also be critical of any online cultures (such as gaming and art communities) that brag about unhealthy habits or act like it’s ~part of the culture~ (ex: all nighters, not taking breaks, getting hurt. Any activity that neglects health to work toward a goal).

Not just grind culture, any community of subculture that shares anti recovery sentiments is a huge red flag. Even if they're joking, it's not worth the risk of internalizing those statements.

Everyone’s social media presence is to some degree doctored because it’s a purposefully selected collection of what they allow you to see. It’s fine to like the persona you see being displayed, but never forget that it is not reflective of the entire person. Everyone online is JUST SOME PERSON. Do not forget that and start holding yourself to a standard you can’t even see every side of.

By posting online you are opening yourself to criticism. Whether or not it’s justified can vary, but either way it’s going to happen. Mute stuff, go private, disable comments, etc if you need to.

Misc Tidbits

these are technically just general info that is also good for offline but I have seen things that make me think people online need the extra reminder.

Learn what cults are, how they recruit, and what they do to their members. I'm not kidding. This is particularly relevant at the moment because of current societal unrest and widespread loneliness. No one is immune to cult propaganda, and not every cult is based on pre established religion or family. Many exist ONLINE and are able to manipulate people without ever meeting face to face. (learn more: Loneliness as a Pandemic: The Dangers of Online Cult

Familiarize yourself with the concept of pseudoscience. Please familiarize yourself with the concept of pseudoscience and then learn how to identify pseudoscience. (learn more: Karl Popper, Science, & Pseudoscience: Crash Course Philosophy #8)

Q. How do I know if a source is reliable?

Final Thoughts

It's important people of ALL ages learn these lessons, because the internet is constantly changing and we are all vulnerable when in the presence of other people.

Be cautious and stay safe

im not trying to start shit but as some of us know, twilight fans on Instagram hate twilight tumblr because we criticize it, call smeyer a racist, etc. well a lot of accounts over there have been disabled and some are blaming it on us? (they steal our content so they think were mass reporting) and so i think that’s why these past couple of weeks people are receiving weird/homophobic/racist anons because I think they’re trying to troll us or be rude about it :/ this is 2021 not 2009 ffs but anyways if you get an anon defending problematic characters/smeyer etc. block them and don’t answer them

hmmm this is interesting!!! I’m not part of twilight instagram and I’ve been taking breaks from my personal ig anyway bc people’s lack of adhering to lockdown etc was doing my head in lol so I wasn’t aware of any of this. the only reason I found out about twilight insta basically just being reposts of us here is bc someone told me one of my posts was uploaded there!!! instagram in general just tends to content mine from tumblr or twitter anyway so it wasn’t all that surprising to me I suppose. I don’t particularly like it bc their pages acquire thousands of likes and followers off other people’s backs but I haven’t asked anyone to take stuff down bc at least they leave in the usernames. From what I’ve seen here that’s how most people feel ab it — that it’s annoying but at the same time we’re not gonna report it bc this is the internet where nothing is sacred and everything is stolen 💀 So if they’re getting banned I highly doubt it’s from tumblr users mass reporting bc most of us here are grown and would not be assed lmfao if the homophobic/racist/weird anons are a result of this bizarre beef they’ve concocted in their heads they’re either kids who have a lot of learning and growing up to do or strange adults who need to go outside and touch some grass!!!!!!!!!!

Been A While

Oh, hi there, Tumblr. It’s been a while. At least since...

*checks last post*

Oh wow. My birthday. That was...months ago.

Welp. Ha. I guess I’m here now so what the hey.

Hope everyone has been well.

I’m keeping up okay. Still writing, gaming and all that. 

Some days are good. Some days are bad. Most days blend together, most weeks feel exactly like the last one.

Honestly, not a lot has changed since I last wrote in December. Physically, I’m dealing with a bit of a low point, but I’m trying to come out of it. Emotionally, I’d say I’m tired but bullish. I can see the season turning, the grass returning and the air warming up and I want to be a part of that.

I’ve had some folks asking what I’ve been up to lately for games and anime. So here’s a quick once-over.

For video games-

-Miraculously obtained both a Series X and a PS5. If Sony’s exclusives, a new UI and a fancy new controller appeal to you- get the PS5. If you’d rather have a mass of games immediately accessible to you, enjoy gamepass, and don’t mind a console that essentially feels like an immediate expansion of the previous (the controller is essentially the same, the UI has zero changes, etc) then go with the Series X. Both will continue to find new reasons to appeal to their base, both are outstanding machines in their own right, but at this point, both also offer a very different opening experience from each other- experiences that are equally valuable and compelling, but different nonetheless. Follow your heart- or just grab the one that you can actually locate.

-On the subject of gaming kits- upgraded to a Samsung Q series UHD tv with HDR and retired my yamaha 5.1 for a Bose 700 series soundbar. Can safely say that the jump to HDR is worth it if you can make it happen, even if the uses for the tech are still limited. Sound receivers are likely not going to catch up for at least another year, so a soundbar might be your best option if you want to do HDR AND have quality sound during the experience.

-I’ve barely touched my Oculus Quest 2. There just isn’t that much to do on it. Sales have allegedly been strong for the plucky new headset, but that hasn’t followed within the VR world itself. The store still feels small and experiences like virtual events are heavily reliant on a strong internet connection to work seamlessly. For example, I attended a basketball game in Venues and gave up after the 1st quarter, the visual fidelity being so shaky that it felt like attending the game without my glasses. Hooking up the system for remote desktop or linkplay (essentially making your Quest into a Rift-equivalent device) makes for an uneven experience at best, with lag and connection issues being a constant concern. Until more people I know pick up the device, or more versatile social apps/immersive games release, the Quest 2 will feel more like a novelty in my gaming collection than a full-fledged device.

-Finished Cyberpunk 2077 on Series X. It was fine. Maybe I’ll write more on it at a later date. My thoughts DURING the playthrough felt more complex than my thoughts after it.

-Finished the main game of Super Mario 3D World on Switch. That game is still absolutely outstanding and a masterpiece.

-Started Dragon Quest XI on Switch. It is refreshingly chill and simple.

-Finished Hitman 2 (PS4) and started Hitman 3 (PS5). It continues to be one of my all-time favorite franchises in gaming.

-Started Demon’s Souls (PS5). It’s hard!

-Dabbled in King of Fighters 2002 Unlimited Match (Switch), No Man’s Sky (Series X), Sims 4 (PC), AC: Valhalla (Series X), Earth Defense Force 5 (PS4), Dead Rising 2: Off the Record (PS4) and touched many, many more games that I’m sure I’m forgetting to list here.

-Played the demo for Project Triangle and immediately put it at the top of my most anticipated games list.

-Completed a new playthrough of Civilization 6. It was satisfying, even if the expansion continues to fall short of adding things like basic AI and Diplomacy upgrades that make other games like Endless Space 2 more rewarding.

-I played Overwatch socially for the first time in months and had a blast. I still can only stomach 6v6 classic, so I’m grateful that my friends were willing to humor me. As Overwatch 2 gets closer maybe I’ll write a longer retrospective on my relationship with Overwatch- from newcomer to heavily invested comp player to distanced/disillusioned outsider to my current resting place as a casual/non-competitive wellwisher. It’s been a weird, at times tumultuous journey. But I continue to be grateful that Overwatch can exist in a way I can enjoy- especially with my friends.

For anime-

-On a weekly basis I still follow Jujutsu Kaisen and Dr. Stone. Both still absolutely rule.

-Dropped off of The Promised Neverland. the story took a turn I just couldn’t follow. I’ll need some time before I go back to it. I’m told it skips an important arc. It shows.

-Finally broke through an incredibly dull arc in Katekyo Hitman Reborn! We’re in the Choice arc now, and it’s back to doing what Reborn does best- exciting shonen battles featuring strange powers and demonstrations of character growth through conflict.

-I’ve finished my first 50 episodes of Dragon Ball (watching it in English). I like it! It’s deeply weird- sometimes in good ways, sometimes in bad ways, but mostly it’s just fun. 

-Completed a rewatch of Mobile Suit Gundam Wing with my brother (again, in English). This is the third time I’ve rewatched the series. My thoughts haven’t changed much- it gets a bad rap for its occasionally silly dub and deeply serious overtones, but deserves points for approaching the topics of war of violence with a gravity absent in other anime.

-Slowly working through Fist of the North Star, which is ridiculously cool and a ton of fun to watch- even if it is also terrifically dark.

Other hobbies-

-Almost finished with the Barracuda Bay pirate lego set. Only took me like...5 months? Thereabouts? I plan to do the haunted house next, and also want to start incorporating Light My Bricks into the sets to add some life to them.

-Still working out 5 days a week when possible. Going through a rough patch, physically, right now, but I’m trying to power through. 

-Therapy was reduced to bi-weekly. I guess that means I’m making progress? It’s been a weird journey, ‘cuz I don’t feel different or transformed or anything like that. If anything, I feel more anxious than before? But I guess the point is that my awareness is supposed to be higher now and my ability to exercise restraint is supposed to be stronger. Here’s hoping!

-Still dialed back on alcohol, caffeine, sodium...you know, all the stuff that makes life worth waking up for. Unfortunately, it’s a bit out of my control. it’s made for a lot of sleep and some moody af days. And also my body compensating by getting really hot for sugar in any form. I drank a coke yesterday for the first time in months. It was wild.

-My screenplay continues to hover at 200 pages. I got things shifted into episodic format. My partner and I continue to work through how the release will look and a lot of retrospect changes have happened to account for the turns the story takes later. Alice and the Pale Horse will release- sooner than later, hopefully- but it’s going to take some more work. However, I am excited to admit out loud that I am basically writing an anime at this point.

-I’m running two DND campaigns- The Ghosts of Saltmarsh and The Lost Shrine of Tamoachan. I’m really diving into it after spending recent months avoiding it. I’m trying to focus on learning stories and working with my party. I think I was approaching burnout the past few months, but as odd as it sounds- taking on a second campaign helped me avert it. It feels less like a monthly event I have to start my engine anew for every time and more like a routine hobby I’m constantly a little immersed in.

- I haven’t done much reading. Since my job put the ax to my reading on the clock it’s been hard to make much progress. I’m hoping that as the weather warms up I can go back to my nightly reads on the stoop. I have Berserk, Sailor Moon in my queue, as well as no shortage of mystery novels to knock out.

-Baseball is coming! I want to be excited. I’m trying to be. I just have so many hobbies and baseball feels like the least urgent. It’s hard when I don’t have much of a social world built around it (or sports in general) beyond my dad and one close friend. I’ll do my best to try and tune in at least once or twice a week to keep current. There’s just so much baseball. It’s hard to get invested without a cost to other hobbies I admittedly enjoy more.

-I still hang on Spriteclub a lot. It’s been seven months now. It feels like I’m starting to become a part of the community. There are people I look forward to talkking to every day and I continue to run custom matches and participate in tournaments. It continues to be one of the most important social outlets of my life during the pandemic.

And that’s pretty much it! Like I tell my parents- if I’m not updating folks on what’s going on in life, it’s cuz nothing is happening. It seems hilarious to say that, because obviously, based on the above report, a lot is happening! I’m up in my hobbies daily and clearly continue to struggle, grow and develop in tangible ways.

I’ll try and be more current here as the seasons turn. I have a draft regarding 2077 in the works, though I struggle with what I have a right to comment on as a consumer (I don’t consider myself much of a critic). And as the anime season wraps up I’ll have some reports to offer on my favorites. I have also had a few requests for comparing the Series X with the PS5, so that might warrant a post too.

In the meantime, keep up with me on Twitter, and as always- tell me about the anime you’re watching, the games you’re playing and the experiences that are speaking to you. I had a friend who messaged me the other day to tell me they gave an anime a shot based on a retrospective I wrote- it was a title they otherwise would not have watched- and they ended up loving it. Those are the kinds of messages that literally make my week.

So if you see something I happened to write about- even if you hate it- let me know! I always enjoy hearing about people’s experiences on a personal level.  Stay safe out there everyone. Until next time ~

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