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“pretty boy” is such a good and fun gender i’m a big fan
#THIS IS ABOUT DYKES NOT YOUR BLORBO MEN#or it can be about other gay/trans ppl that’s fine too#‘pretty boy gender’ =/= man that is pretty#notes#.
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MY NAME IS SPELLED WITF AN E AND NOT AN A get it RIGHT!!
hai! im rowen (he/him) and i draw thingse soemtimze!! im a queer (trans, intersex, gay) 16 (5-1-07) yr old furry artist :3 u probably know my blog for drawing many many silly kitties and miscilanious creechers, but i do other things!
i do requests (no ocs or fandom shit, ONLY silly) and i take commisions (i am working on a website to organize all the prices and stuff, but for now, just dm me if youre intrested)
i do all my art on mspaint (win10 ver.) unless explicitly stated otherwise, i just use the default pencil tool on 4px (the largest default size setting) witch is a round brush with no antialiasing
i use a drawing tablet, the XP-Pen Deco 1 V2 (Celeste, He/Him), and an ASUS Harman/Kardon i7 14.5 In. laptop (Chelsea, She/Her)
my blog mostly runs on a queue, witch is very long and only goes onse a day, so sometimes extremeley old artwork gets posted. for this reason posts that are recently posted are not nessasarily recently drawn. furthermore, asks sometimes take an extremely long time to post after ive actually answered them, so please dont resubmit things. (+ i have far too many askse to actually be able to answer them all. so asks that are very similar to things ive already answered, are extremely time consuming, or are just not that funny, are unlikely to ever be answered)
rebeast : is for reblogs of other peoples content
rowencatfanart : is for fanart people have made for me (if you make any please tag it as such, as well as mention me in the post)
the beast speaks : is for all my original text posts
retchid opinions : are for my own text posts where i actually say things of value and have an opinion on topics
screaming and scampering : is for when i say bullshit that doesnt matter
consulting thea council : is for polls of mine
rowens serious art : is for serious rendered art of mine
rowens liddol guys : is for sillies of all kinds that ive made
biblically accurate rowen : is for art of non-kitty me, for blacklisting purposes (i like to not be reminded i am a person when im scrolling thru my own blog)
mspaint animations : for when i animate things on mspaint (onion skin is for cowards i let my heart guide me)
rowens animatics : are for when i make, animatics, its really self explainatory.
rowens advertising : is for when i advertise my products or twitch or commisions or whatever. for blacklisting purposes
the mewsifixtion : is for when i give out easter eggs 2 ppl who send me asks. asks for this are currently CLOSED
rowensumptions : are for when ppl send me headcannons they have abt me thru asks
S teir wimpering : for the text postre ive made that r actualey funny
rows gross old ort : for when i reblog old art of mine
i tag all asks with the username of the person who asked them, so if u want to find a previous ask of yours i answered you can just search your own username
i also try to tag asks i answer with the date of when they were sent to me, and the date i actually drew them, because the queue can make this confusing,,, i cant really retroactively see the send date of posts i made before this tagging change, so some we will simpley nevr know,,, dates are written in american date format. so month-day-year
i always tag the software i use for each artwork, but its pretty much always MSPaint (Win10), though i occasionally do image editing in Asesprite
the gray and white kitty i draw most frequently is my catsona! he is not an oc and is specifically meant to represent me
i ask that you please do not use drawings of him as personal branding (such as pfps, banners, avatars, ect.)
the samething applies to my fursona, valentine, though his design changes too much to give an accurate ref for, i generally will specify in the tags
i am generally fine with people saying that my catsona is cute but please dont make any overly explicit comments about my fursona, or on my posts in general. i am a minor (i dont care if you say like, ouyhh bark bark i love men i get it hes meant to be attractive but use some common sense)
furthermore. for people who have blogs with alot of untagged sexually explicit content its best you dont interact with me, i have my age set properly, so i do not see sexual posts that are properly flagged, but if your posts ARENT flagged, and you interact WITH ME, then thats on YOU for exposing a minor for sexually explicit content
if you have minors DNI in your bio and make a whole song and dance abt how ggrrr!!! i block ageless blogs and minors!!! and then go and reblog my posts with sexual comments then thats on you. and not me.
i dont care that much frankly, about seeing joke posts abt penis or whatever, but there is a line. and if you are trying to curate a specifically adult space on your blog then you also have to put in the work to not intentionally loop minors into that
also. please do not act overly familiar with me, im a 16 yr old on the internet and not your friend. and while i am not opposed to meeting people on tumblr, there is a line and you need to actually build some kind of relationship with me before youre allowed to act like that.
u can find me on
tumblr (duh) :
@pastadoughie : my main
@leftoverdough : is my reblog sideblog
@scungledfiles : is the web graphics blog i run w/ my friend (@soggiedsocks) (though we havent been as active as of late cuz mentol ealness + i have been fopcusing moar on this blog)
youtube : pastadoughie (i havent posted in 6 months ouhm, oops,)
twitch : pastadoughie
DA : pastadough (this is very very dead and i dont really indend on using it more unless massive changes r made 2 DA,, i keep it here for archival purposes though)
etsy : scungledthings (i also share this with @soggiedsocks, when contacting my shop you will most likely be talking to him and not me.)
if you would like to contact me FOR COMMISIONS directly you can also do so
discord : pastadough
email : [email protected]
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ONLY BUISNESS INQUIRIES!! stupid shit should be sent via ask or tumblr dm. DO NOT FLOOD MY EMAIL!! i WILL block you!!
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how do you as a bisexual come to terms with the fact that the trans community has literally made homophobia much worse. ppl are proudly being openly homophobic and when you dig deeper it’s actually the “queers” and transgenders who think kids can transition who they have a problem with (not all of course but a good chunk) I believe ppl who wouldn’t otherwise be homophobic are being homophobic bc of the trans community. I use to really struggle w internalized homophobia, and still do, it was only this past year where I came to terms w it and told my sister/close friends. I wish it could be just a normal thing to be gay and you’d be left alone, I believe we were on a trajectory for that. But now things have gotten worse, and thanks to the gender nonsense, openly bigoted ppl (especially religious) are being praised and promoted. All this bc of trans activism. I don’t even care anymore about what they do to themselves, but the damage they’ve done to actual gay ppl is insane and we’re already facing the backlash. I’m not sure if we’ll ever live in a world where being lgb isn’t a big deal.
Honestly? I think the benefit of pushing 40 is that I have a wider lens through which to view activism. And I feel the same way about LGB rights as I do about women’s rights.
Which is to say, every time a big gain is won, there is backlash. There are parts of society that get worse as the culture tries desperately to adjust around the new changes.
Men today are more porn sick and sexually aggressive than 20 years ago. In some ways. People are polling less positively about the LGTBQI+ but how much of that backlash is really directed at the LGB? Are polling groups even bothering to distinguish between LGB and “queer” people?
Let me tell you what life was like as a bisexual teen in 2003. Let’s go back 20 years and I can tell you the world has changed so much for the better. 20 years ago gay rights activists started really making headway towards civil rights guarantees. Suddenly middle Americans had to confront that gay people were among them and not just haunting bars and bathhouses. I don’t think I’ve ever seen such rigid gender norm adherence as I did back then. Men couldn’t wear pastels or purple or pink. Guys got called gay for having a messenger bag. There is an entire episode of “Friends” about it. Sussing out the Gays Among Us became obsessive. Emo culture was a direct response to how frantic straight people were to appear duly heterosexual. TV shows still depicted us as degenerate freaks if they depicted us at all. A few HBO shows that were soft core porn more than anything and Will and Grace was all anybody had. Shows like Xena and Buffy got away with lesbians because men said out loud that hot women kissing was fine. These were the early days of straight men having open lesbian fetishizes. We couldn’t get married. We could get fired for being gay.
For women there was no movement to normalize our natural bodies. I’d spend hours shaving myself smooth. Not wearing makeup was unheard of. Cellulite wasn’t even a word I knew let alone knew was normal. There weren’t a million online resources teaching women that vaginal discharge is normal and I grew up thinking (as did many others) that it was a private shame.
And as far as MeToo stuff? It’s easy to feel defeated in the moment but nobody was using the word ���consent’ in my day. Men getting women drunk was a joke. Men pushing for sex was a joke. Men calling a woman that had one too many dates or boyfriends a slut was normal. Three of my male friends pinned me down on several occasions and took turns rubbing their dicks on me to completion.
The therapist I told said I “needed to work on my boundaries”. The word rape never even entered my mind. Rape was something a stranger with a knife did. It wasn’t something your best friends did to you and then laughed about. It isn’t something you submitted to because fawn and freeze are real fear responses. No one told me my friend forcing my hand down his pants was abuse because I continued to go over his house, didn’t I? No one told me about red flags or cycles of abuse.
And the older women you told rolled their eyes. What I endured was so mild compared to many other women. Men forcing themselves onto women was just normal.
I can’t tell you what it means to me to see so many young women calling it out. Refusing to stay in a bad situation. Refusing to date entirely sometimes. Women sharing red flags and advice to stay not just safe but thriving.
Don’t get me wrong- the current gender movement is regressive and dangerous. I’m not saying it’ll all work itself out. Activism is constant work but things ARE getting better. They really are, even if sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. 💜
#radical feminism#radical feminist safe#radical feminist community#radical feminists do interact#radical feminists do touch#radblr#radical feminists please interact#radical feminists please touch
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Curious what your thoughts are on ppl being "obligate" polyam?
I ask because I've been debating if maybe I might be because I feel so in love with my gf rn, but... I still feel like I'm missing something. Like. She feels like a single flavor of food that I like. But, as much as I do I couldn't live off of just that one thing yk?
It scares me though, because she's explicitly monogamous, so I can't really go out and explore and try it out to see if it's for me without losing her. I don't really know what to do. Or how much longer I should stay still feeling like this. Or if I should just dismiss it as baseless anxiety and just let myself enjoy being with her.
I'm so scared to break her heart.
And like, how can I do this? How can I seriously be considering losing her just to try something I don't even know if I need or will even like.
It feels wrong, I love her this is stupid. But I just can't seem to dismiss it. I mean, I'm literally typing this in the middle of a New Years Eve party because I just can't get it out of my head.
I think what you’re calling “obligate” polyam is what I call “inherently” polyam, where, it’s like, I WILL fall in love or at least crush on other people and want to date them at the same time no matter what, it’s not a choice it’s just how I feel.
I started this blog as an outlet for my anger issues which I now realize probably stem from my bpd and just to talk about polyamory- correct the RAMPANT misinformation people were spreading, but also, to talk about the stuff no one else seemed to talk about. I’m really lucky that my polyam mutuals post about all the wonderful things about polyamory- the love, the amazing partners, the memes, etc. But that left me needing a space to talk about what I felt the most- shame.
I came out at 17 as polyam and it was awful. I was terrified I was going to lose my partner over it. I was filled with this awful feeling of being a horrible person for not “loving my partner enough” and so worried they were going to see it as them “not being good enough for me”. I mean I was seriously broken up about it.
But my partner took it in stride. We made it work. But I still felt this deep shame that ended up leading me to decide to be monogamous just for them after a while.
I even started dating my now-again-gf while dating my primary partner at the time, and although she literally dated me while I was dating someone else and quite literally knows I run this blog, I still haven’t re-brought-up the fact that I’m polyam, and that’s 100% hanging over my head, especially with how infatuated I am with someone else right now, though we’ve talked about that a little.
I’m really lucky I have people like @eevyerndracaneon and the people in my polyam discord server to talk openly about the shame and guilt that I still to this day feel about being polyam despite running one of the biggest polyamory blogs on this website.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned though, it’s that monogamous people can be a lot more open-minded than you’d expect. I’ve never actually dated anyone polyam. All of my partners have been monogamous. And all of my monogamous partners have been fine with me dating other people while also dating them.
And a few years ago, my brother came out as polyam! And it was even harder for him than coming out as gay! And once again I was lucky enough to ride on the tailwind of him coming out first as the older one and also come out as polyam. Even my best friend and I have talked about dating and having an open relationship in the past.
It’s funny, and wild, how many polyamorous people you’ll meet out in the open once you come out too. My first semester in college, I was sitting in front of two older trans guys when I heard them talking about polyamory, and shyly I turned around and asked if they were polyam and they said yes, and they were the first polyam people I had met (that I know of).
Just a few months ago I was at a concert and sat next to a group of 3 people that were all really touchy and flirty, and since they were all really obvious about it I just asked if they were all dating and they explained their polycule to me and I was just like… me! That’s me! Me too! And they were SO happy to meet me back!
A lot of the other polyam blogs on here will tell you the same thing: it’s unrealistic to expect one person to fill every single want and need you have, and can put a lot of pressure on that person to do things they maybe aren’t comfortable with.
It’s not as unusual and shameful as you might think. It’s really all about conquering that inner polyphobia, which can be really hard, and is a process. Hell, I’m 24 now, and run this majorly successful polyam blog, and I’m STILL in my discord server like “guys idk how to tell my gf I’m polyam… again… uh… imma just not rn”.
Only you can decide what the best course of action for you is. I know I’ve lived fine with choosing monogamy and feeling like I’m missing out on some of my wants/needs as a sacrifice for a wholesome relationship I wanted to keep. A compromise, if you will. I also know that not coming out to my partner as polyam was eating me up inside at the time. And that when they did end our relationship and I was able to be with someone else I did realize things I was missing from that relationship and how GOOD it was to finally have those things.
Be optimistic. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, really, it’s that there’s more of us out there than you think, even if we go by different names, but also that monogamous people really can be open-minded and willing to share a partner.
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Happy Pride. These are my Limbus Company headcanons. ID in alt, long ass explanations + extra headcanons under the cut bc I didn't like the look of when i put two flags on each character.
The City is a hellscape but it IS established that being GNC is cool in ruina, and I'm going off of the assumption that being nonconforming is fine for the most part, but queer identities aren't really something people talk about, BUT also it does vary wildly depending on the part of the city, leading to culture shock with a few characters having come from more conservative areas (sinclair, don quixote) when seeing people from more relaxed areas just living their best lives (faust, outis). (warning for mentions of trans and homophobia)
Dante isn't sure if they identified like this already or if they were just kind of assigned nonbinary when they had amnesia and has not questioned this. If they were to think about it, they would still be nonbinary, but maybe in a different way? They have the Agonies to go through and amnesia to wretsle with though, so they don't spend much time thinking abt gender when they;re fine with it as it is.
Sinclair is an egg still, but will eventually realise he is bigender and gay (for guys). He is aware of and respects nonbinary people and ppl who use other pronouns like Dante but subconsiously thinks that you need to have like, qualifications to be allowed identify as trans and it's not something that just anyone is allowed to do. He still hasn't accepted that he likes boys OR that he's not into girls. Give him some time, poor kid has catholic guilt in a setting with no catholics, he thinks every little thing he does is sinful, nevermind the stuff that other people actually say is a sin. He thinks its fine and is supportive when others are queer but not when he is.
Ishmael is a lesbian. She got up to some yuri on that boat. Nowadays she's too focused on revenge to think about romance though.
Meursault is pan. He doesn't care about gender, just appearance (he has comically high standards here, usually) and whether you make him do stuff he doesn't wanna do or not (he has comically low standards here, usually).
Rodya is bi. She will flirt with guys and girls alike, but when she's chatting up a woman she takes extra care to make sure it can easily be taken as a joke. My source for this is when she's flirting with Faust in canto 4. Bi4Bi with Gregor, at least in the LCB universe; she gets with others in different realities.
Gregor is also bi, nad pretty casual about it. Like, he gets nervous when chatting with anyone hot, but he's no more nervous with guys than with girls. I also like him being a trans guy, but I still need to workshop my lore for that. Bi4Bi with Rodya in the LCB universe, damn near bitchless in every other one. He has NO game.
Yi sang is something called reflectshift, which was defined by the coiner as "a gender related to mirrors , reflections & shapeshifting". He uses any pronouns but he doesn't tell people this and so people only use he/him so now he yearns for just one weirdo to break the cycle and call him something else. He will not ever express this sentiment, nor will he ever bring up his gender unless prompted, though if he is directly asked he will go on a long poetic rant about it.
Faust was a woman but then she made that contract with that undefined being and their minds connected so now Faust is a demigirl and Faust is Faust.
Outis is a lesbian the way the way many ancient greeks were gay. Men just aren't as smart or hot or personable or cool or strong as women, you see, they don't have the soul,
Hong Lu is gay. He thinks straight people are like, not real. All the books he's read only have straight romance in them but he thinks it's like, just one of those things that people think they should add, or like a job, where no-one actually WANTS to be straight but they have to, for some undefined reason.
Ryoshu is a trans guy. He cut his own hair with a sword in a dramatic moment. It's not that he hides his identity, but he's fine with people assuming he's a cis woman bc it is funny. He will confidently walk into mens restrooms or walk around in just boxers or whatever and everyone is always just like "oh man, ryoshu's doing a fucking bit again", which is funny enough that he doesn't say anything. If someone were to react with genuine hatred or something, though, he would walk up to them, explain that he IS a guy, and kill them. It's an art.
Don Quixote is a lesbiknight, a gender "related to being a lesbian and being a knight". She used to be out, and used she/her, he/him, and the neopronouns he/her/heroself, but after one too many incidents from before joining LCB and after losing sancho (her one ally) she has decided to just be a normal weird girl since people are nicer that way.
Heathcliff is currently only about Catherine, but if she had been another gender, he would have fallen just as hard. While he hasn't processed his identity, he is still perfectly happy to knock the brains out of homo/transphobes, because he likes hitting stuck up bastards with his baseball bat and he does feel very strongly that people should be able to do whatever they want without any buggers butting in on wtuff thats not their buisness. Good for him.
Demian is bi, and his gender is "a normal human boy" or "a boy, which is one of the most common genders held by homo sapiens, who are the dominent species on earth, not counting us abnormalities, of course".
Oh yeah also Charon is a lesbian. So is Sonya. That one person who said Sonya is a he/him lesbian is so real.
OH AND ANGELA IS A TRANS GUY. I will die on this fucking hill.
Sinclair's entire section here is inspired by both the game and the book. Ishmael was pure vibes. Ryoshu was inspired by the insane backstory i came up with for her after reading hell screen. You could read hell screen and not in a million years understand the backstory i came up with. Hong Lu not knowing abt straight people was inspired by my own experiences being uninterested in romance. Thank you.
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wow, naoto's writing is bad! and its not even bad because "they should have been trans" or whatever tf ppl are saying, its bad because its inconsistent both internally as well with persona's canon lore. like, the whole basis of the persona series is that your shadow is part your true self. even though it says things that you don't want to hear or admit to others, it's still YOU. naoto's shadow 'wants to be a man.' naoto's shadow wants gcs. naoto's shadow is trans.
and that's not to say that you can't write a story or an arc about questioning gender. or a gnc woman. or about what it's like to be a woman in a male-dominated field. or a child that's forced to grow up too quickly because they're surrounded by - and doing the job of - adults. but to do that, then naoto's social link should have actually explored those things? we hear a lot about how it must be tough to be a woman detective. how the adult police officers don't take naoto seriously. but it's never shown; those issues aren't explored in a meaningful way. we know that they happen in the real world, but we don't get to see naoto react to those things; like the yosuke reacts to the junes part-timers, or the way yukiko reacts to the reporters and kasai-san. so that angle falls flat because those problems aren't acknowledged in naoto's arc.
naoto is openly dysphoric. i'm not saying that makes them trans bc dysphoric cis people exist, but they are repeatedly shown being uncomfortable when other characters bring up their height, the pitch of their voice, and their chest. and you can say that them deciding that they're a woman means that they're not comfortable being seen as a man either - that's fine, nonbinary people exist - but the scale of the discomfort is so completely different that it feels ridiculous and almost in bad faith to say they felt as uncomfortable 'as a man' as they did 'as a woman.'
and honestly, im a little tired of seeing stories where women 'dress up' as men to avoid sexism. i know the people writing these have never actually talked to trans men, but that's not how the world works. we don't come out and suddenly become magically accepted by society. you can be out for years and still be routinely misgendered! and in some cases, if you pass, you're expected to uphold and reinforce sexism - fun! /s. but those stories never show that, do they? i get that they're supposed to be escapist fantasies, and not real life, but persona 4 is a game that has relatively grounded themes and characters. many of us are or know a yosuke, a chie, a yukiko, etc. naoto's writing feels out of place because the themes it's trying to explore are either completely ignored or bastardized so badly that they become nonsensical.
it's also incredibly demeaning and egregious that to romance naoto, you basically force-fem them, when the whole point of their 'platonic' social link is that their gender doesn't matter (until at the very end, where they decide they're 'a woman after all'). this is pretty clearly done to assert the heterosexuality of the protagonist, but it's still really gross. are gnc women w lower voices not allowed to date men now? fellas, is it gay to date a woman?
but actually the most uncomfortable part to me is the rhetoric surrounding naoto's transness. i know this game came out more than a decade ago, but it uses the same negative tropes about transmasculine people that are being peddled by t€rfs and transphoßes today. and it's primarily other women (chie and yukiko) enforcing naoto's gender expression to stamp out any ideas of transmasculinity. naoto can't Actually be trans - she's just a confused little girl! she'll grow out of it and realize how stupid she was to throw away her beauty to be an ugly man! she was a girl all along! its straight out of social contagion nonsense, when their arc could have perfectly meshed w the theme of acceptance if they um. maybe accepted that they can be trans, even without needing to 'change their sex'? they can be a man with a 'woman's body'? they can see themselves however they want? (reminded of that post of a 'western' trans person saying they thought the trans man from one piece was a caricature or something, and the replies were just. japanese trans people saying that the way he's presented is empowering for them bc it's impossible to get hrt/gcs in japan, so they prefer narratives that accept their bodies as they are.)
naoto could have been amazing gnc woman, non-binary, or trans man rep, if atlus stuck to it and explored what any of those things meant to naoto as a character. instead, they fumbled the writing so badly that it becomes impossible to tell what they were trying to say. unless you're trans, then one day, you too can become normal!
#hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii sorry for the repost just needed to fix the formatting on this <3 peace and love or whatever#bc tumblr kept deleting weird paragraphs or shuffling them around and it was annoying me. and i want this published somewhere.#p4#persona#L.txt#naoposting
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is it okay for perisex people to question if they may be intersex and do research even if they think they’re perisex and don’t think they have signs of it? is it good to do similar to the way questioning your gender (for cis people) is good too? or is it inappropriate to look into
Hey anon,
I think it's important to recognize the distinctions between intersex identity and experiences and other LGBTQ experiences. we are part of the LGBTQIA community but like, I don't think that it's always the most helpful to try to directly compare what our journey can look like with other dyadic LGBTQ journies because they aren't entirely going to look the same.
Sometimes I'm not even sure if questioning intersex is the right word to describe the process of intersex discovery-I think when you are questioning if you're intersex or not, it can be a lot more helpful to draw insight to disability community experiences around self-diagnosis rather than trying to compare it to like, questioning being trans. Because with being intersex there is this whole other physical aspect and possibly medical intervention and tests and I don't think people need to pursue medical intervention, but that can be a different experience than questioning being gay or trans where you usually aren't going to be engaging as much with the medical world or your physical body in that way.
So yeah, it's okay for perisex people to do whatever research you want- I'm not stopping you. If you don't have any intersex signs it's up to you if you want to spend your time doing in depth medical research and i don't know how beneficial some of the in depth info will be to you. I think if you don't think you have any signs of intersex variations, I'm not sure if considering this an intersex discovery process is helpful, and it might be more helpful to frame it as more just doing research, finding information, increasing your knowledge on intersex topics. Obviously if you're doing research and do find information that you think might pertain to you then that of course makes sense you would want to explore that. I also just don't know if I personally think that cis ppl need to question their gender or that it's inherently a good thing--I don't think it's a bad thing, I just think I personally more think of it as a morally neutral experience that people will have all different feelings about.
also i don't want you to take this as an attack on u, bc it's okay not to like, know all the nuances of intersex community topics. but i do want to say that something we get pretty frustrated with a lot in intersex community is the way perisex people often only engage with intersex topics if it's convenient to them, or on their terms. and when you frame learning more about intersex people as something you would only do because there's a chance you might be intersex even though you think you're perisex, that brings up some complicated feelings in me. i'm very used to perisex people only engaging with intersex topics when it benefits them, so it is a little uncomfortable for me to see learning more about intersex people framed as something you could only do if you were questioning being intersex. i don't think you intended it to come off that way and im not mad, but i do think it's worth considering the fact that this information is still valuable and a helpful way to be an ally regardless of whether or not you turn out to be intersex, and that i think perisex people need to reflect more on how they center themselves in intersex conversations.
anyway, long story short, it's always fine to do research on intersex variations, but i think it's important to realize that intersex questioning doesn't always look the same as other LGBTQ questioning processes. and also important to be aware of the trend of perisex people centering themselves in intersex conversations and consider ways to uplift the inherent value of intersex community + knowledge even when it's not beneficial or convenient for perisex people.
this answer's kind of a mess cause im tired but other intersex people feel free to add on or disagree, we have lots of different opinions and this is just my perspective.
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He/him lesbian discourse is stupid, and here’s why; bare with me this may be a bit bumpy of a ride but I promise I have a point
CONTENT WARNING: mentions of heavy topics such as bigotry and SA. if you’re not mentally up to it, just scroll. inane discourse is not worth your mental health.
Throughout my time existing in the queer community, I’ve noticed that there is always a group that’s ostracized for being too “different” from the rest of the pack, or are hard for others not in their situation to understand.
The worst part is it doesn’t just happen in the queer community, it seems to happen everywhere, in every space that humans inhabit and form groups in. you may have noticed, for example, that queer people are an outgroup to those who are cis/straight. It’s a line of people, each more niche than the one before them, all saying “You? You can’t be with us. You’re not one of us.” until we get to the end and we’re talking about problems on the fringes of the internet, like this very post.
Don’t get me wrong. There are some people who need to be ostracized to keep the peace as well as maintain safety in a space—Including, but not limited to: Nazis/fascists, racists, homophobes, pedos/zoos, etc. specifically when they are actively causing harm to others (remember rehabilitation though, if someone has grown out of a previous pattern of behavior that aligns with something that caused harm, I don’t think they should be permanently barred from our communities). At the end of the day, there’s always going to be people like this who are hateful, and I believe it’s important to keep in mind that relationships are complicated too. Some people will tolerate certain harmful behaviors because of circumstances like jobs or familial relations, and some would immediately cut them off. I think it’s all down to your preferences. It’s your life, after all.
My issue with this Ostracization comes in when it’s done to those who are not causing harm. I’ll start big picture here. I’m thinking first and foremost of the historical rift between women and men. I’m no expert on ancient bigotries, but if I had to guess I would expect misogyny to be an older one. I can hear it now. “They’re meek and they’re biologically engineered to be weaker than us!” Are they causing any harm? Is there any real reason to treat them worse than men? Next I think of racism, which is inconceivably annoying. “Oh no, their skin is a different color! They have different customs than I do!”boo hoo.
Of course next we can look at queer history. First, straight people push out gays. Because they can’t have biological children? Because they’re threatening masculinity? Whatever. Then, in spite of black trans women like Marsha P. Johnson leading the Stonewall Riots, cis queers ostracize trans people to make themselves more palatable (despite the fact that when given the chance, bigots would be fine with all of us wiped off the face of the earth). And when trans people become a bit more widely known and accepted (relatively so)? Soon, gender-non-conforming trans ppl like non-binary, agender, and genderfluid people are the next target, forming the trans-medicalist debate while trans people in general are still struggling to fight the narrative that they would assault people in the bathrooms of their aligning gender.
So we’ve finally caught up. In many modern queer communities, gnc trans people are accepted as just another part of the alphabet mafia. But there must be another sacrifice. Neopronouns and He/him lesbians. Years of oppression, and we still can’t seem to break the cycle. To those who have issues with people who use these labels, I ask you sincerely. Why?
If you are a lesbian, no one is forcing you to date someone who identifies as a lesbian while also being “male-aligned” in some way. The same way no one is obligating cis people to date trans people just because they’re an ally or whatever. Please consider; are these people you so despise and call lesbiophobic truly doing any harm other than existing? I thought that the trans community was all about breaking gender norms and being your truest self. Is excluding lesbians who are masculine or use he/him not enforcing the whole “blue= boy” shit all over again? Yes, “he/him” is most often used for men or masculine people, but just like gender roles and gender itself, it’s just a concept we humans made up. With time, everything shifts, changes, and grows.
Let us grow together. Let us feel the magic of queer joy together. Even if you don’t entirely understand it, live and let live.
Realistically I know that gatekeeping and discourse like this will never end, but even if one more person reflects and tries to be more inclusive, more thoughtful, more empathetic, I will be happy. If you got this far ily, take care of yourself and live your best life.
#queer#queer community#he him lesbian#discourse#live and love#there’s so many problems in the world all the time#I just feel like there’s so much more pressing shit to worry about#than the way someone chooses to live their life#can’t we all just get along#anyways#love yourself
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reading thru the replies on a post about genderbends and ppl are like "i dont mind genderbends unless they're making gay ships het" which im not surprised but like
I usually am just straight up disinterested in playing around with character's gender but in recent months ive been interested in, at least, transwoman hcs for Greg Hirsch
And i think having flamboyant bisexual tom wambsgans in love with either gay man Greg or straight trans woman Gwen is equally interesting even if the latter is "het" in nature. Im sure there are other examples where like, people make them fully het both straight and both cis too and while it doesn't appeal to me i'm not sure it's a giant problem.
when writing fiction authors are not always exploring the Gayness of the characters but the Romance between them, sometimes (not always) any dealing with queer experience is sort of relegated to the side, not actually important or integrated into the story... and imo that's literally fine. I am queer and I am saying that while I enjoy fiction that digs into queerness and gayness, i also just like Romance regardless of the sexuality or gender identities of the people involved. and i dont think art and especially not fanfic is required to grapple with those things at a serious level, i think it can just be a story about people that leaves some aspects of the real world at the door
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There are ways to top/bottom without penetration (not saying this as a hater I promise) there are intersex ppl, trans people with a lot of dysphoria for either form of penetration, people with viginismus, ED, etc
I used to as an intersex person feel a ton of pressure to accept forms of sex that were uncomfortable because people always acted like penetration had to be involved, it doesn't mean position, or even just subby/Dom, there are so many ways different body types can have sex that aren't just (penis/phallus goes in hole) <3
Your post is v fun though, I think it's cool more people are talking about that stuff and being open about that aspect of their sexuality /g
okay to be fair to me, i made a quick throwaway poll for my mutuals not expecting it to spread T_T. im a pillow princess who is not always able to handle penetration so I fully understand, i just wanted to stop people from being like 'I have a bottom vibe' or the fact that too many terminally online people confuse it with d/s or just like position.
when I say penetration i also dont just mean with a penis/strap in a vagina/asshole like there are a lot of ways to penetrate someone. ultimately i feel like you're going to know best if what you're doing is topping or bottoming lol! even giving oral is like for some people thats topping and for others its bottoming. but not all sex is top/bottom either and thats fine.
it also depends who youre fucking bc while some communities are the opposite, in the lesbian community theres a long history of people acting like penetration or being exclusive or having some kind of top/bottom dynamic is patriarchal or "copying gay men" or closed minded & people are obsessed with making fun of pillow princesses and acting like we aren't really gay, so thats my background for insisting penetration but im definitely not here like trying to tell people what their sexuality can mean as far as im concerned if youre talking about actual acts rather than position/personality/vibe/dominance then its on you how you define that
#ask#anon#I almost added an addendum yesterday for the ppl in the notes getting confused about lesbians lol#like it's NOT d/s but it kind of is a state of mind. you KNOW if youre topping#I think its a lot deeper than 'penis goes in hole' i kill myself when a cishet man calls himself a top like#it doesn't count!!#insane how the vers bottom lead has skyrocketed since last night I wonder what led to tjat
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intro post for da goobs <33
name(s): lynn (spelt however)
prns: any except she/her plz :3
sexu: demi-aroace + pan
gender: bxyflux
age: minor :>
relationship status: 3 yrs w/ my bf (he/they) ^^
language(s): English, Spanish
nationality: 🇺🇸 (but also secretly 🇩🇪 >:) )
if i dont know your prns, ill refer to u by ur user
you can refer to me however, as long as you acknowledge my existence, im fine w/ it
about me (random order) (:3 = ask me abt it!! /nf)
-audhd
-dyslexia
-Mahayana Buddhist convert :3
-rbs, likes, and tags will differ based of current hyperfixation
-band + theatre kid
-im demonkin and fallen angel-kin :3
-my fursona is a scene-core fruit bat w/ an emo vampire bat bf :3
-i swear too much in my everyday language lmao ('bestie that's trauma' IK)
-comfy alt style
-natural ginger
-eyes dont work right (nearsighted + astigmatism)
-trying to post and interact more with moots & audience
-jus a weird lil queer kid tryin to not die yet :)
things i like:
-fnaf
-cp
-ww/att
-animal facts
-fun facts in general
-tsp + tspud
-minecraft
-charlie slimecicle
-tadc
-tattoos
-piercings
-they must be giants
-mitski
-ICP
-spooky stuff
-jschlatt
-that handsome devil
+ like a lot more things
my fave stuff :DD :
-fave fnaf character: michael afton <33
-fave animatronic: funtime foxy <33
-fave cp: the grieving (tawog cp)
-fave cp character: EJ
-fave song: Inside You, That Handsome Devil, HGIHGD
-fave album: Hawaii Part II, Miracle Musical
-fave actor: matthew lillard (hes so cutie :3)
-fave movie: The Truman Show or Silence of the Lambs (very different ik)
-fave hobby: archery (when i dont lose my arrows lmao)
-fave food: pizza bites :3
boundaries id like to set
-no 18+ content, swearing exception
-if idk u irl, dont call me by name, just "gingerly" is fine
-dont harass people over things ive said, vice versa
-dont ship me with my friends/people i interact with prominently
-dont ship me w/ people i dont know
-dont treat me like a child, you will be blocked
-be nice to each other in notes
-if i vent on this blog, dont openly relate to what ive been/am currently going through, u can vent in my dms or asks
-proshippers/comshippers dni
-terfs/homophobes dni
-pro-israel dni (its NOT about religion)
-anti-furries dni (i am one 🤯)
-anti-therians dni (ESPECIALLY if you're one of those 'i NEED a therian gf/bf bro' typa mf)
-anti-otherkin dni
-anti-xenos dni
-anti-mspec lesbians/gays dni
-trans fetish pages dni
-overall dni if you don't think you'd mind me as a person irl
-keep this blog a safe space for all/most ppl pls :)
#pinned post#introduction post#audhd#actually audhd#dyslexia#dyslexic#buddhist#band kid#theatre kid#alt#creepypasta#will wood#charlie slimecicle#jschlatt#that handsome devil
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Sometimes I hear people on here say things like "gay ppl irl dont care about things like this" and that's how you KNOW they have no gay circle of friends irl. People with terminal babygay online will have it offline.
Thinking mostly of the incredibly awkward experience I had a while ago at my fiance's job where we were having a normal talk with one of their coworkers and she interrupted me after asking what type of gay we were, I was explaining that we are both coincidentally gender neutral, my partner is openly trans and intersex and we are both bi... this girl is fine with everything else except when the word bisexual is said where in person she's like oh.... well. I'm pan because I like everybody, and I just dont like to discriminate.
.... interrupted me to say she cares more about trans and nonbinary people right next to my openly and quite obviously trans and intersex spouse....
So yeah people offline do care about this shit, I promise. They discourse just as much offline as online. She was very happy to meet me until I said that too. I've had offline gay people tell me, no you're pan. No you're not nonbinary, yes you are nonbinary, you're not really this that or the other.
Even people intrude in in my sex life like wth. Not surprising because straight people do that a lot out of pure curiosity, but like, irl gay people will "diagnose me" as either asexual because of my physical problems (especially when I used to use a wheelchair more) or give me a "pass" on bisexual
....With like, the full confidence of somebody behind a screen telling somebody they barely know what they really are or aren't and what words they are allowed to say (bi ppl aren't 'butch and femme' trans people can never say the word transexual regardless of context. But calling any vaguely looking gay person fag is fine ofc)
It's actually worse than in online because at least online you're like... okay people are still learning things about themselves and other people. Irl it's like oh you just really like being rude about it and give no thought to how weird that would be if someone said that to your face. Okay.
#im still always nice to people like this. but its like.... lord i really cant win.#older gay people do not care about it as much. but also older gay people still have like... lesbian separatism and crap too
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idk which ex ur talking about in that "insane things my ex has done" but i relate bcuz i am currently in a relationship with a gendie who has started saying recently that my aversion to male genitalia is incredibly transphobic even though she knows i have been sexually assaulted many times by men (and am and always have been a lesbian lol) (also sorry if this is inappropriate but i feel like i have no one else to confide in.)
im not sure where i talked about her but i can tell from what u said which ex i was talking about lool its my 1st gf and i never rly talked fully about this bc my ex has since transitioned (only socially tho afaik) & continued to be questionable as fuck in various ways and went from friendly w me to shit talking me bc how dare i share my opinions on my blog which she decided to keep regularly checking for years after our break up despite her having a gf and us hardly ever talking (partially bc of me bc frankly in hindsight i was far too forgiving n despite that she demonised me at the end of our relationship n was weird in various moments after we remained friends)
but she was (& is) also a gendie, which is fine bc when we were together she wasnt like irrational about it. she was the one who told me that SRS doesnt work the way i thought it did, like the genitals didnt magically change and there arent like no differences like i thought, instead she said the differences were obvious. but near the end of our relationship she insisted to me that the way to fix her issues was to make our relationship an open relationship, said that my body made her insecure about her own body n she should sleep w people with a similar body to gain confidence in it. prior to that i was not for an open relationship at all but those comments made me feel like saying no would make me selfish and that if thats what she needs to accept herself then fine yanno. then ofc not soon after she starts e-dating this trans woman who is an abusive creep & rapist (like not even exaggerating here. but ofc those accusations were dismissed for a while bc the trans woman called the woman who came out about the abuse a terf n ppl believed that until trans women also began to call this out). i was like um hows dating someone with a diff body than u and even a diff sex going to make u feel better about ur body when thats the entire reason for the open relationship? never rly got a proper answer but whatever i let it be. then that trans woman wanted to be in a throuple with us basically like wanted to get with me and my ex and would openly fantasise about me to my ex. my ex said "oh she wouldnt be into that, shes not into penises" and the trans woman was like omg why.. :( and my ex was like oh shes penis-repulsed etc and the trans woman was like aw how sad i hope she gets help for that!! n my ex agreed. then my ex told me about this n i was like... what the fuck? it took me a bit but after a few days i was like hey this comment really pissed me off wtf do u mean gets help for that.. and my ex was saying that i should seek therapy to stop being penis-repulsed and should see trans women as women and be open to trans women in a romantic & sexual way basically and i was clearly upset by that n i was like. ur telling me to seek conversion therapy. n she was like nooo and i was like what so u mean some kind of exposure therapy against the "phobia" of penises? and she was like yeah just like that! n i said... thats literally a form of conversion therapy that was done in the past to other gay ppl.. exposing gay ppl to the opposite sex's genitals to try to change their feelings towards it is literally a conversion therapy tactic.
anyways my ex n i ultimately broke up bc it turned out the open relationship was meant to be one-sided somehow and her doing things was ok but if i did things it made me a cheater somehow and my comfort was repeatedly disregarded, i didnt like that trans woman at all at that point n my ex would still keep dating them n it was just all too many bad things at once so i was like fuck it im done w this. ultimately my ex realised that this trans woman is indeed an abuser and i also realised the my 2nd gf who i got with soon after i broke up w my ex is also an abuser. but then when my ex began to transition she started to show more of that homophobia she showed during our relationship like saying the f-slur (calling ppl that) and saying its ok bc "im a bisexual man" which was just.........erm... anyways in the end our last form of communication was her getting her friends to gang up on me for ~ruining the fun~ of a game of among us and then she talked shit about me to one of my close friends (been friends for 14 years) who she never even met and was like ~omg shes so problematic im sorry i just cant handle it anymore~ ......
anyways i feel u lmao. its not inappropriate dont worry and im sorry u went thru that too bc its painful to love someone as they are and yet they basically tell u that ur lesbianism means something is wrong w u bc ur truly not into males at all. honestly i think its best for u to end it asap instead of making the mistake i did, nothing good came out of it for me and i shouldve left for good at the first red flag which was my ex's compulsive lying about serious issues like rape & fgm, or immediately ended it when she was saying that i should go thru conversion therapy otherwise im transphobic
#i say she here for clarity's sake btw bc its kinda confusing switching pronouns esp when people on here already assume im secretly into men#if i said he ppl would def jump to conclusions the way they always do about me
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Pride months almost over so I thought it would be a great time to ask! It seems you don't like nrmts or klapollo but do you have any lgbtq aa ships you enjoy? Or headcanons maybe! To me narumayo are both trans and bi :D
No. I only enjoy cishet ships.
The most I feel about lgbtq ships/headcanons is neutrally watching from the sidelines the smaller/calmer fans of them and being like:
they're small and not bothering anybody, specially not me so idc i hope they have fun :)
I can also see someone else's ship/headcanon and like... not hate it?
I will always main and favour the cis and the het but here's the bullet list of gay sht ive seen in the fandom and wasnt bad (but it still cringe tho):
Lana and Aura being lesbians
Ship'em togheter for all I care, I'll main LanaMiles and Aurapollo before that happens
Fradrian
Adrain is canonically lesbian, can't argue with that
and she takes L after L after L
it's fine is capcom lets her have Franny (I'll main Franquill before that happens, Straight Franziska is way funnier and epic)
Maya's lesser girl-harem is so non existant that I dont mind if I ever see it
No te metas con los fans de Mayina 😤
Son como 3 y ya arrestaron a uno 😩
Pan Gumshoe could be fine but the image I saw it had Missile in it and Yours Truly is knowledgeable about the original meaning of the word
Claypollo is too damn funny, and as Miego gang, I relate to the Pain lol
Langworth and Krisnix gang deserve people who'll give em fanwork that stays as the intended ships and doesn't turn into wrightworth down the line
it's not going to be me tho *evil laughter*
I do headcanon Mia and Klavier as Premium Straight lol
Basically I think they experimented with same-sex shenanigans and found it to be dissapointing or uninteresting one way or the other
They are absolutely sure that they’re only ineterested in the opposite sex
Larry too, but that’s canon, can’t argue with that
And I guess that’s it. Except for the Mia and Klav one, there’re not my opinions, just “i’m ok with ppl thinking differently than me, at least in this regard”.
Meaning that your hc is pure unadulterated cringe, but if making a het ship queer is the only way you can enjoy the narumayo goodness, then i hope you enjoy it~
#ask#ace attorney#i got 19 ship tags filtered lol#who will be number 20?#i go through the aa tag like its regatta#there's no garbage today :))))))#aa
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I ain't going to reveal why this is the place of OG christianity now but... but!!! I can safelly say that that nobody is goiing to heaven rn ahahha
And to think about the fact we live in this sort of conditions and jews have the best jobs, money,the bst positions all over the world and still say that they are oppressed and american fags believe it...
Remember about that dude that said that it was normal kill palestinians and that portuguese was just poor people (while in my country) condemnwd to work and be poor and supposedly he worked for the european union and said he didn'tcared bout this poor portuguese ppl because he hangs out WITH THE ELITEOF THE WORLD.... thats what he saidnand honestly by his lifestyle i believe it
I still have the screenshotts hope other people kept them also btw
But the thing is i talk with snakes you know.. like salazar did.. so i got him spilling.. i think people even thougt it was fake because it seemed that easy but now i will explain you something.. he was gay.. so althought he considered my spwcies beneath his.. he wanted to suck my dick so i testeid him coz i know i could... now think bout hitler and his weird feelings for salazar or lets say appreciation althought he was everything hitler hated
Salazar was just a v atractive roma boy...
Things are finally starting to make sense right??? Yah... well i had told u this before but you didn't believed it...
What does islamism doesn accept? Partially becauser of the sensibilities i talked about before for most asian boys??? Yah this is because of homossexuais AGAIN
Well it ain't like that isn't a safe space fof people that ain't gay and don wanna be considered gay just for the way they look soo... who is the wrong here? Who is OBLIGATING PEOPLE TO BE A CERTAIN WAY? Oh ya hitler hated himself because he was gay... there was no other reason for that internalizwd homophobia.. he literally did anti charlie chaplin which was charlie chao but make it super alpha male which was is issue about gays btw he wouldn't mind cross dressers or trans becausw AS LONG AS YOU BEHAVE ACCORDING TO YOU GENDER that would be fine for him actually first trans experiências was conducted by hitler btw
So this idea i actually don mind he is still a fag tho and i he is gojng to hell ... but one small detail.. they don think like that anymore duhh
You know you gotta keep up with the times my dudes... your brains are cracking... just like all thay old christian theory jews got
So yah you are just creating homophobic ppl...good luck with hat.. moving on!
There we go thats why people think im mexican or latrashtino to this day... this is what you got for me lol. Yall don deserve shit!
I got so emotional it reminded of that time a rosalia fan asked me if i was rapped when i was a child
Here we go.... listen im just gonna join israel have no chill to be having the sams shit again...
Showing me japanese stuff ahahahaha the ones that helped nazi germany againts us
Got no time fof hiding gypsy identities... work with yours jews they can help u
This one because i never had one or three imagine losing them ahahhaah
Never even notice it... he does have my eyes
I never noticed it becauss ws havs pratically the same face i think it's because of that... too familiar and normal to me i guess
Anyways last post fr like i told u before... this is over... so should i become a dancer/wannab singer a boxer or both?
This doesn't HELP snoop stop tryinh to be dumbledore it ain't gonna happen
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Actually that was a joke you he is totally dumblwdore ahahah
Now at least ronaldo fan boyéd the japanese coz now way i was going to fight them this time around... have you see them kicks? Insane
I used to like drake in fa t but that was before robalia i also know he criticized her so we cool... you know i hate robalia.. but like you can have her idc i just don have to excuse shit that never had an apology. Just keep out of my face like you been doing maybe i get to know her one day and get to stab her.... finalmente!
I like people that are real you know my opinion
...and to be completely honest i also know it was madonna's prpduction that became so lazy and bad just for the sole reason of being bad hope it's on purpose tho pela saúde delas
Ooooo maybe that's why it was avant garde. It's supposed to be bad as in nasty product... she took it literal... very avant garde and conceptual
Oh yaaaa have i ever told you that my nickname is actually shade? That's the name i used for the longest time ever and even tho i always really digged eminem's music and wanted to fuck him,it wasn't chosen because of that. I always thought that was interesting because at a certain phase of my life when i had short hair and sometimes discolered ppl thought i was him and made comparences
And daaaaang remember awhile ago everybody was just doing othing or cancellwd for life and only robalia existed??? Damn that seems so long ago but like how did we even get to that point? So weird... and how tf have i uncursed ppl? Like yah it wasn't only me but you know what i mean. So bizarre to think bout it.
Raul showing himself eating sushi on my reels like no shit you are gypsy i knew that before you did you idiot... you thought you was black... dude you are literally named raul... raul!!!
There's always a gypsy named raul it's like our john tbh
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Also he has my cousins face that's why i know his lips are bomb to suck dick
I alsp called zendaya"black" for a reason. I atacked everybody that hurt me ok? Jewish guy was there instead of me??? I NEVER SAID THE WORD N SO MANY TIMES IN MY ENTIRE LIFE since like last month.. im on a roll breaking records
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bored. here are some opinions ppl on tumblr give a shit about
shipping: i'm not a cop but i will give you shit and not want to hang around you if you ship incest or adults with children. same with certain other ships like shipping a bigot with someone they're bigoted towards. ships where one of the characters turns 18 during the course of the story (i.e. light x l, narumayo) or the characters being related is a spoiler (i.e. cassandra x rapunzel, reylo) is fine but you're on thin ice.
literally any lgbt identity shit: i do wonder if we're falling back into microidentity shit from 2014 but just a bit more edgy about it especially considering society's gotten more anti-lgbt lately. it's a little individualist but western society is also individualist so i can't fully complain. i think solidarity is really important though so take some time to REALLY reflect upon that. not just "we're all lgbt we're a family" "let's stop fighting and start making out" like actually think about what you share with like. gay men, trans women, etc. <- examples for me
cringe culture: still alive to me if they're normie cringe. i watch baby shows i can call you cringe if you're obsessed with sonic. get into a more esoteric furry game like detective gallo (not the right genre i dont play video games).
sex/kink positivity: sex and kink are kind of inherently neutral. don't act like they're a unstoppable force of universal good don't act like they're pure evil. something to be said about getting off to something and being normal vs googling the bomb that kills all women.
mental health: psychiatry is fucking barbaric we're still in the dark ages. we have a very limited array of ways to actually deal with it and everything else is either a scam or too experimental and clinicians are unwilling to look further into it. mental health systems do serve those and power and can help you if you're a normie, but it's sort of becoming worshipped as the new family. you can't really question your therapist, which makes it easier to hurt you. that's also why i don't like seeing anything as a universal good.
misusing mental illness terminology: people act like this is an act of ableism instead of it being people not knowing shit fuck about psychology. XD idc if you do it.
punitive justice: world's most useless thing. you need to admit that you're a vengeful soul who simply doesn't want to see the people who hurt you again. idk how a restorative system would work in full, but starting from there i think is a good idea.
punitive justice but strictly stupid revenge schemes: funny. i'll allow them
callout posts: straight up ocd triggering and i could never make one. a lot of them are shit that shouldn't be public internet drama (stupid) or shit that shouldn't be public internet drama (actual fucking crimes). callouts are def a weird line when it comes to punitive justice because is it a punishment to tell everyone what you've done? it's like are rumors a punishment for being too close to someone in middle school? but at the same time it's undeniable there's a certain morality culture that causes people to leave you for dead about it.
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