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petraforgedyke · 1 year

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making a pinned post cause i hate the actual app

if i followed and unfollowed you again real quick it’s cause the follow button is in the path of my thumb i prommie i’m not doing the disingenuous “lol follow you until you follow me back” shit

other notes:

no queues no masters we blog like men (erratically and when the mood strikes)

90% of the time i don’t really tag stuff other than for personal categorisation, there will be untagged posts about weed and horny stuff i’d be sorry but this is my bedroom and i get to put shit on the walls

i try to stay out of discourse but i am unfortunately also a little hater and very opinionated. also i like arguing on the internet and being generally a nuisance to keeping the peace.

however! i come here to relax so i blacklist a lot of General Horrors In The World tags and topics. (disabled trans leftist edition)

in this house we are monsterfuckers and also kinda furries

i am a mean dyke, and i will bite. take that however you will.

i am not a perfect person, mind your business. god forbid women* do anything.

*disabled fagdyke creatures

if i followed your nsfw i reblog from a side, this blog is sort of mostly sfw with the exception of the occasional “wamin hot” and “can also be read as a joke”

find me here also as well:

pillowfort

cohost

dreamwidth

postpluvium is my current go-to name to nab so try it out

stuff i tag with some consistency:

murderbot

imperial radch

star wars

lotr

dnd blorbos (red metal brainworms, goliath wives brainworms, diimre thoughts/brainworms)

gay robits tag

the locked tomb

masquerade/baru cormorant

nyarrowhark nyanagesimus and kitteon nyav/kitiona nyaia (our precious babies (cats))

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thebreakfastgenie · 1 year

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None of this is all or nothing, of course. I want to clarify that before going on. For example -- your standalone post about rainbow marketing is a prime example. I would prefer to live in a world with rainbow marketing than a world where it is so objectionable to be queer that it cannot be spoken about publicly; and with modern capitalism being what it is, I don't object to the queer community being a part of that. And sometimes, being marketed to is fun. Sometimes I like to buy rainbows. However, remember when Disney used a queer TV show to advertise Disney Plus, and then relegated that TV show to Hulu because it wasn't "family friendly"? (I know this was a couple years ago, but it's the best example I could think of on the fly - given time to think I am sure I could come up with a more recent example.) That's the kind of thing that makes me at best roll my eyes out of my head and at worst kind of mad and I'm not even particularly invested in that particular TV show and personally probably would not have watched it.

As far as it goes, some of the same things apply to the discussions about slurs. I know you said you do not assume a stranger's identity unless there's very clear contextual details that you should - which is generally good advice, but also has nuance. Like, for example, if someone is making a post about their blorbo being a [slur] there's no way to tell if the OP is part of that community themselves, but if the post is more along the lines of '[slurs] like us' I think it's fair to assume that OP is part of the community, and there's middle ground between those two things.

This is an extremely, extremely niche example but I play a tabletop roleplaying game that was written in the late 90s/early 2000s and has some "edgy" content including a character known as "The [Slur]". I remember discussing this with a friend (both he and I a part of that community) and saying that even though I knew it was "problematic" I have a lot of affection for this character. (But would generally not say so publicly, because I know not everyone would agree). His response really clarified a few things for me about why I felt that way, which was "If I could get a group of people to call me The [Slur] I probably would. THE? You bet your ass I am!"

To address one of your other points; I have personally experienced both d*ke and f*ggot as homophobic slurs and do not see that big a gap between them. However, for full context, I also grew up in a place and time where the three letter short form for the f slur was a general part of common parlance as a slang term for a different thing, and though also occasionally used as a gay slur, there was another gay slur to refer to queer men that was more commonly in use.

It's World Pride at the moment and there are events with titles including words that are often used as slurs. Some of these (like Queer) because as you note, they also have a significant and storied history in academia; others in reclaiming contexts.

All of this together means it rubs me the wrong way a little bit when you say that you think d*ke is okay but f*ggot is not because you perceive one as more homophobic than the other because of your own personal experiences. That's completely fine in the sense that I am not asking you to personally be comfortable with a slur; however, it feels a little like assuming your experiences are more universal and correct than mine.

This post got very long and because I was touching on a lot of different points it feels a little disjointed when reading back over it so if you are unsure about something I have said I would ask that you please say so and not assume the worst. I am again trying to engage in a good faith discussion so if it feels like I have lost the plot a little bit in trying to get my thoughts across, it is purely because I have a lot to say and a limited character limit for expressing it.

I don't have the time to engage with everything right now, but I wasn't saying dyke is okay and f*ggot isn't because I have personally experienced them differently. I was, again, speaking about context. I don't think a black and white okay/not okay dichotomy is productive or functional. However, my default is "assume it is not okay to use slurs and particularly to call people slurs until proven otherwise."

I'm also not comfortable with "blorbo is a [slur]" in most cases but that is a personal comfort level thing. In my experience it's nearly always based on stereotypes and while I'm not saying jokes about that are never fun, I'm just usually not very comfortable with it, especially on the public internet.

#my take on that is save it for your groupchat with your gay friends

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