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grungebutsoft · 7 months

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PSA: Compliment Your Guy Friends

So I haven’t had a lot of experience in interacting with straight, cishet men until high school, but for three years now I’ve been working on it and I was just a part of a conversation a week ago in which some of my guy friends were lamenting about how they never get like physical compliments from people like how girls compliment each other all the time and I asked if that would be flirting if a female commented on a guy’s muscles (because to me it always seems to toe the line) and was told that, no, it would not be. It would just be nice.

Yesterday I tried complimenting a guy’s muscles for the first time ever (via “Dude I wish my muscles were as defined as ____’s are…”) because it is very evident that he puts the time and care into taking care of his muscles and LET ME TELL YOU: the WAY this man LIT UP. I mean he was ABSOLUTELY GIDDY. He felt SEEN and he was like “Omg that means SO MUCH to me!” And then he like danced away and had a little bit of happy hyper energy for a solid 10 minutes.

Anyway all this to say: PLEASE compliment guys more often they’re so cute and they deserve to be hyped up

#boys will be boys #but in the best way #please don’t sleep on this #theoretically what would happen if we gave men more validation #guys are so pretty sometimes #no but fr i want muscles like that #but i have no time #lgbtq #neurospicy #i’ll be the official hype person of men if no one else wants to be #fr tho i cried last night thinking about this because it was one of the purest interactions i’ve ever been a part of #men want validation

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stuckinapril · 5 days

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I think I’m about to go on a date with a man (horrified)

#I literally hate men but I have such cute heels and a cute off the shoulder dress and I want validation #If he leans in to kiss me it’s over

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repressedqueen · 2 months

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okay, our boy has impeccable taste in men....

#OOF #i don't know how anyone in their right mind would say Lou is ugly #he is simply older?#(and we all know buck has some valid daddy issues)#plus he looks great today as well #anyway Buck has great taste and i know he will be beautifully man handled by this big strong man #lou ferrigno jr #tommy kinard #buck x tommy #bucktommy #911 #911 abc #bi buck #edit/clarification: I NEVER WANTED TO EMPLY A 39 YEAR OLD MAN IS OLD. MIDDLE AGED MEN ARE NOT UGLY.#people (regardless of gender) can be hot at any age!#and Lou in particular is definitely hot at 39 as i am sure he will be at 49 and probably 59 etc

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foundfamilywhump · 13 days

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every day.... every day i see a really cool generic (as in not character-specific) whump post that i want to reblog and then realize it's unnecessarily gendered to make all the characters men...... WOE

#gav gab #WOE!!!!!!!#this is a gentle request to just #if you're making a generic whump post #and you find yourself automatically gendering it #consider why and whether you need to #before anyone jumps down my throat about how Super Valid they are for only ever wanting to think about men #i am not holding a gun on anyone lmao #it's a simple request #you're defaulting to men! why? is that necessary? maybe could you default to gender neutral pronouns/terms of ref?

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utilitycaster · 6 months

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"if one of the WOMEN made this decision she'd be LAMBASTED" we had like three months of discourse because Liam said that Orym gave a slight nod in Laudna's direction. He once had to edit a playlist because people were so nasty about him including a song about unrequited love for a woman that happened to be performed by another woman it was easier to just take it off. I have a growing gallery of screenshots of people openly calling not even the characters but the actual men of the cast assholes for some of the most banal choices, many of which are maintagged. We are currently on day 4 of debate over whether Ashton is a horrible manipulator. Again, I'd love to have a serious discussion of how real world misogyny especially in the earlier years of the show might impact who feels able to make bold and risky moves, but it's not really possible to have that when someone's bemoaning the hypothetical crucifixion of one of the women in the cast as they're actively hammering nails through one of the men.

#the youtube comments from 2015-2017 are awful but black heart purple hearts are the most toxic fans currently and it's not close #at least in tumblr and twitter spaces (reddit might still be full of misogynistic dudebros idk)#cr tag #again it's like. if you want an all female cast for an actual play that's completely valid.#why are you watching the 5 men and 3 women cast of critical role though if so.

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aropride · 1 year

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u can literally talk abt ur own experiences with transphobia and people being violent or bigoted or cruel towards you because you're a trans man and people will compare you to deranged conspiracy theorists for daring to say you might experience discrimination. it's fucking crazy like what level of internet brainrot do you have to have to think it's helpful on any level to deny someone's experiences and call them conspiracy theorists because they're a trans man and "men aren't oppressed" or whatever

#text #and also telling transmascs to shut up abt our experiences w transphobia In Conversations Abt Transphobia is crazyyyy #we are trans too.#i see a lot of trans men/transmascs echoing this out of i guess like ???#idk i think it comes from combination of self doubt + being Online + wanting to not be transmisogynistic but like..#its not transmisogynistic to talk abt ur experiences with transmasc oppression #& like ur experiences are 'valid' i know thats a stupid word but yknow what i mean #inb4 'wow tmes only problems are people being mean online shut up cuntboy' -__- This post is about a specifically online problem #people generally do not act like this in real life bc theres some level of needing to be decent to other people face to face 😭#there are also other offline problems. lots of them. & im not saying this doesnt happen offline either but . YOU KNOW WHAT IM SAYING #WHY AM I ENTERTAINING IMAGINARY BAD FAITH INTERPRETATIONS OF THIS POST #anyway this is about the term 'transandrophobia truther' do not derail ❤️#transandrophobia #transphobia #discourse

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hoolay-boobs · 9 months

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“What do you mean there’s still so much biphobia in fan spaces? Bisexuals are like some of the most popular characters!”

Yeah, and they either get treated like this:

Or like this:

“Biphobia isn’t real” neither are your braincells

#bisexuals deserve better #biphobia tw #biphobia #bisexual #bisexuality #listen not to post this rancid post on bi visibility month but part of bi visibility month is venting about biphobia and that’s okay #long tags #bisexual characters are constantly branded as either gay/lesbian or straight because bisexuality is constantly branded as never good enough #yes harlivy are sometimes fetishized by men who want to get off on seeing girls smooch. yes sometimes these men are the writers of dc #no they do not make up 100% of harlivy content. no gross men drooling over harlivy doesn’t immediately make harlivy straight #harlivy have had queer female writers before. a huge portion of their fanbase are queer girls #just because they are occasionally festished doesn’t mean that they aren’t good bi rep #I see where this person is coming from but no. bc REAL BI WOMEN get festishized by men and that won’t make their sexuality any less valid #would you tell these real girls that they’re actually straight since ‘sapphicness isn’t sapphicness once it’s taken advantage of by men’?#glimmer lesbian content makes me sad bc it’s not even like interpreting harlivy or korrasami as lesbians assuming all wlw is solely lesbian #but also erasing her entire romance with bow. degrading it down to comphet and ignoring bow #like I can at least understand mistakening poison ivy for a lesbian but glimmer?? glimmer??!#biphobic #biphobic tw #bisexual hardships #korrasami #harlivy #glimbow #bi #fucking essay in the tags

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skimblyshanks · 2 years

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Anyway.

Transmascs who have trauma around our puberties, especially around the development of bodies with high estrogen, are valid.

Transmascs who desire masculinization and testosterone are valid.

Testosterone is not evil, Estrogen is not holy; they're hormones that we all have differing relationships with on an individual basis.

If you're on T, starting T, or want to start on T, I hope you're having a good day and are able to move forward in becoming the person u want to be ❤️

#trans man #transmasc #ftm #transmasc validation #trans man validation #ftm validation #transmasc positivity #trans man positivity #ftm positivity #im a binary trans man so im not sure if i should put this in the general nb tags but #this absolutely includes nbs #and butches who want to medically masculinize #i just. dont want to step on toes by bringing in wider tags? but i am not using transmasc as a stand in for trans men #rather as an umbrella term for anyone pursuing a level of masculinization in a non-cis way

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moongothic · 6 months

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Seen at least one (1) person complain about Crocodile losing his "unique faceshape" (now having the same facial structure that 90% of OP men have) after episode 1086 came out and like

To be fair, yes, the shape of his head HAS changed since his first appearance in The Year 2000. The thing is, Toei's latest Crocodile Offering is frankly more in-line with how Oda drew Crocodile during Impel Down and Marineford than ever before. Like yeah he looks different, but this change isn't new

But that comment really did make me think about how FUNNY it is just how different Croc really looks from his first appearance, like. The evolution in how Oda draws the bastard is so facinating to me

These are from chapters 155, 160 and 205 respectively.

No massive changes happening here in the middle of the arc, but you can kinda tell that Oda was definitely still figuring out how this asshole was supposed to look as he got further into the Alabasta (which is perfectly normal), which just makes That First Appearance look even funnier with time because. Who the fuck is that lmaooo

But then we get to see him briefly during Miss Goldenweek's cover story, this being from the cover of chapter 413! All things considdered, bastard hasn't changed that much, still looks pretty much the same as in Alabasta. His head is maybe a little less elongated than before but still, chin is quite pointy still

And now we're in Impel Down at chapter 540. Again, dude looks about the same as he did before...

But it really doesn't take long for Oda to start reshaping this bastard's entire head at this point

Chapters 544, 546, 578, and cover of chapter 584

The chin is easily the most obvious part, but you can tell Oda kind of defaulted to giving him that same ol' evenly square-ish head most his conventionally attractive characters have during these story arcs (instead of the elongated shape he originally had).

And then we have the latest appearances, from 1082 and 1100

I do feel like comparing these to what's come before would be a little unfair considdering his health and eyesight and how those affect the artwork itself, but. They're there, for comparison's sake

But the point is still there. Crocodile's face shape has changed since his first appearance, but it's not like Toei was behind that, the change was (mostly) gradual and from Oda himself. And it mostly happened in 2008, so it's not new by any means either

So really, all Toei did was just update his character model because ⬆️ is more accurate than ⬇️ for One Piece right now

Regardless. The sheer difference between the two is hysterical to me

#Moon posting #OP Spoilers #Sir Crocodile #💚 All Crocodiles are Beautiful 💜#💚 Reblog if the Man in the Bottom Image is as Handsome as the Man in the Top Image 💜#For the record this is not like a serious post #I just genuinely find the evolution in the character design interesting and funny and wanted an excuse to post about it #And people who prefer the Original Pointy Crocodile are Valid #He DID have a more unique face shape and it is a shame he's lost that uniqueness over time thanks to Oda #(Also aren't crocodiles the sharp pointy ones and alligators the ones with wider snoots? Arguably the OG design is more crocodile-like then #I am simply not immune to conventionally attractive evil men. I am quite boring in fact.#OP Meta #My favorite funny minor change is that his hair seems thicker than it was originally but Oda draws him with more lines on his face #So he simultaneously looks older and younger than he did in his original appearance

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coochiequeens · 2 years

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Please let this be a troll. If not the women in his life, and that guy he wants to seduce away from his girlfriend, are in danger.

He probably doesn’t get invited because they can sense his hostility and envy towards them but they are too woke or just too nice because of female socialization to outright say no to him. I also bet he’s so focused on “girly” bonding activities like shopping that he doesn’t bond of the unglamorous “girly” stuff like cleaning up after social gatherings.

So glad reddit didn’t humor him and advised him to get therapy for his anger issues.

#Reddit #MtF #transwomen and male violence #This guy is so triggered by feminine hygiene products yet I bet he feels like he’s woman enough to use the women’s bathroom #He wants to seduce a man in a relationship just to validate his own gender identity #Men fetishizing violence against women

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lovelyheartclover · 4 months

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Why is it ALWAYS the nonlesbians that dont care enough to educate themselves on why the "bi lesbian" lable is problematic or just support the lable???

Just saw a post (op will not be named, PLEASE DO NOT ATTACK THEM) saying that the whole 'bi lesbian' discourse doesn't matter because regardless if someone is bi, lesbian, or both, they are queer and that we should stop being angry at how people choose to label themselves as.

Gee sherlock I donno, maybe im upset because the label that person chose to identify as is ACTUALLY PROBLEMATIC AND HARMFUL TO BOTH THE LESBIAN AND BI COMMUNITY!????

YOU CALLING YOURSELF A 'BI LESBIAN' IS SAYING THAT LESBIANS CAN LIKE MEN IN ANY COMPACITY, WHICH BTW IS NOT TRUE. LESBIANS HAVE AND WILL NEVER LIKE OR INCLUDE MEN.

LEAVE US ALONE.

The post's tag btw ⬇️

#its always the people that are like everything is valid 🥺🥺#little do they know that that is actually MORE HARMFUL THAN GOOD LIKE WTF???#no....just no....#why are people so obsessed with trying to make lesbians love men or include men into the lable!????#yall disgust me wtf #yall are weird for wanting a lesbian to be into men bruh #Clover's text #important psa #important reminders #'bi lesbian'#'bi lesbians'#bi lesbians dni #lesbophobia #lesbian issues

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sevensoulmates · 1 month

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i wonder if people would be okay with eddie being bisexual. shannon as the only woman he fell in love with and buck as the only man eddie fell in love with. bisexual people also suffer from catholic guilt (i'm bi, latina and my family is catholic), but i don't think 9-1-1 would give us bi4bi romance. i just hope that, if eddie is bi, fans don't get mad and say things like 'it doesn't make sense'

Oh goodness, now we're getting into some iffy territory here. So, WARNING, if you follow my blog, you may already know that I personally headcanon Eddie as a repressed gay man, and not bisexual. And I have very specific reasons for that. HOWEVER, if the show DID want to go with Eddie also being bisexual, I would 100% accept that, because you're right bisexual people 100% also experience catholic guilt and comphet as well. All of that could definitely fit into the bisexual experience too. It would also make sense to the story...to a certain degree. So here's my warning again, I'm going to dive into my headcanon here, so be warned this is just MY opinion and is not indicative of all queer experiences real, fictional or otherwise.

Here's my reasons why I feel the story aligns closer to repressed gay than bisexual for Eddie. I simply don't believe that Eddie really ever was in love with Shannon. Loved her as his best friend, yes. Deeply loved her as the mother of his child? Yes. Loved her as a person? Yes. In deep romantic love with her? No. Nothing I've seen from their relationship, not the sex, not their "sweet" moments, or the vulnerable moments, nothing has ever made me ever believe they were in love love. I totally realize that that's my personal opinion and other people see it differently, I understand that, and I respect other people's personal opinions on the matter. This is not a knock against Shannon as a character, but just my individual feelings on their relationship. This was my opinion back when season 3 was still airing and I saw the show for the first time, and it's still my opinion now.

However, back in season 3/4 I actually still believed Eddie could be bi, for sure. And I would've been absolutely THRILLED with a bi4bi story from Buddie.

After all, just because Eddie wasn't in love with Shannon didn't mean he couldn't fall in love with another woman (or man), right? But then came Ana Flores....and then Vanessa...and then came Marisol....and the pattern kept going and I simply COULD NOT justify any of his behavior as actually really being attracted to/wanting/loving ANY of these women.

I understand that plenty of heterosexual and bisexual men also have this kind of avoidant-attachment relationship style, and that it could also stem from trauma, the way he grew up, patriarchy, etc, but the way he FORCES himself to be in a relationship with these women. The way he NEVER allows a genuine bond with a woman to just grow naturally and always has to force it to start, and then desperately cut it off when he's finally reached his limit, truly feels like he's torturing himself. And I'm so sorry, but I feel like if you were a person who genuinely wanted to be with a woman or a man, or anyone, in any capacity, you would not be torturing yourself over being with them.

Especially when I look at him in comparison to Buck, a canon bisexual man. I never once doubted that Buck actually loved Abby. I never once doubted that Buck was actually trying in his relationships with Ali, Taylor, and Natalia. When he was interested in these women it didn't feel forced. Unhealthy? Sure. Not the right fit for him? Absolutely. But forced? Like he was only doing it because he thought he had to? Never. Sure, maybe Buck held on longer than he should've because he didn't want to lose them, but that's because he still wanted their love even if it wasn't healthy for him.

I don't see any of that with Eddie. Shannon, and Eddie's relationship with her, has always felt like a crutch for Eddie, like an excuse, before she came back, when she was present, and long LONG after she died. So the argument that "well Ana and Marisol just aren't Shannon" will never work for me.

I also think Eddie being demisexual would be a better fit narratively at this point than bisexual as well. But then again, there's overlap and it's all very subjective and yeah--just a lot of queer theory to get into that I'm not an expert on, so I'm just gonna reiterate again. This is just my opinion.

If the show really wanted Eddie to be bisexual, and stated it as such, I would be fine with it, and I would accept it graciously and happily. But I do honestly feel like it wouldn't really fit well into the story they've been telling. At this point in time, with everything that we know, and everything we've seen, the only thing that I believe truly fits with the narrative is that Eddie's a repressed gay man and/or demisexual.

But if real-life bisexual people see themselves in Eddie, that will ALWAYS be valid, regardless of what the show says in regards to his sexuality. Fuck, they'll probably just leave him unlabeled regardless, in which case, any and all headcanons are valid.

This is a nuanced topic, and I do admit that IN REAL LIFE (remember I'm just discussing FICTIONAL characters here based purely on what a NARRATIVE has shown us which is all we can truly take as fact) someone in Eddie's position could for sure be bisexual and have this exact same experience.

I just think in my personal subjective opinion that with all we've seen in canon thus far, it would feel most organic to the story (and doesn't make Eddie look like a fucking asshole who chooses not to care at all about the women he's dating) if he realized he was a repressed gay man.

#911 abc #eddie diaz #god I hope this doesn't start discourse #anon you're valid for wanting a character who aligns with your experience so I'll never admonish you or anyone else for that #again this is my opinion based on my own subjective life experience #please no one come for me #this is why I tend to use the term queer in relation to eddie #or even queer leaning towards men #or hell maybe even bisexual leaning towards men idk #sexuality is a spectrum for a reason so even what I'm saying could be disproven by someone else's experience and knowledge

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scorpiusmalfoylovesoscarwilde · 8 months

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haven't been queerbaited this hard since BBC Sherlock 2014, good god

#loki #loki season 2 #lokius #bbc sherlock #its making me so so so mad because theyve put a romance with sylvie literally because shes a woman #there is no genuine foundation for that kind of relationship #and the only reason he isnt with morbius #is because theyre both men #and i want to throttle disney #AND THE GENDERFLUID ERASURE IS JUST JFC #shout out to brad for pointing out how weird sylki is #only valid thing he said all episode

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gonnahaveabigtalklater · 7 months

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kim kitsuragi is the most character of all time. he's smart and gentle and talented and SUPER cool. but also he's decided to base his entire emotional wellbeing on the opinion of a deranged guy he found in an arbys dumpster last week.

#kim kitsuragi #martinaise is full of handsome eligible men and kim is like no thank you I want the Worst One. and that's so valid.#hes pushing past Smoker and Mañana and Garte and Every Hardie to get to that 2/10 dilapidated flesh-canopener #he knows what he wants good for him #normalize great men having terrible taste in men #(looking at you Heavy Weapons Guy & Kamal Bora)

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pinkypoo1114 · 2 months

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I’m craving some intimacy rn

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dieselocelot · 12 days

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you're losing a savior and a saint

#vandermorgan #rdr2 #spring cleaning (my follower count)#anyway really fucking obsessed with am picking up on how dvl posits himself as a father figure to angry disenfranchised young men #to manipulate them to his own ends like how dvl swoops in to validate efs anger in lieu of rf to rip off the us army out of greed/revenge #and reflecting on his own relationship with dvl and how thorougly disillusioned he is with dvl and his ideas. how much is his self just #what dvl wanted him to be? so entrenched in his outlaw life and putting the gang and dvls needs before his own that he cant do anything but #hold onto the hope that he can get through to dvl knowing hes just another toy soldier for dvl to break cause he has nothing left #dvl calling ef 'son' but not am in my last son.. dvl withholding fatherly validation from am when he rejects dvls authority. the ebb and #flow of their coerced 'father/son' relationship is a poor mimicry of unconditional love because it was never about making am feel loved #but making sure dvls needs were met because he can only 'love' people who serve him in some fashion.. there is no unconditional love to dvl #thanks for listening to me brick wall #my art

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