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rimaurimau · 9 months

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the whole 1975 thing pisses me off. people cant seem to comprehend that this isnt some black and white situation where its just homophobia because its so much more than that. i couldnt care less if he jacked off on stage, the problem is that he did this in a country thats incredibly queerphobic and because of that is incredibly strict on what bands can play here and what they can and cant do/say. We malaysians don't get alot od international bands as is, so bands like this and the strokes coming here of all places in our shit hole country is huge. but him saying and doing all that did this:

- cancelled the entire event because our government caught wind of it and shut it down after the first night when it was supposed to go on for 3

- probably made the rules and restrictions for bands to play here even tighter

- made other bands hesitant to play here

- maybe even tightened up the laws on queer people here in general, even more worse than they already are

- possibly put a lot of queer malaysians in general in danger because if the pigs suddenly decided to investigate the event further and question the organisers or people who attended and those people happened to be queer and they found out? theyre going straight to jail because that's how queer people are treated here by our government

yeah there are a good chunk of people here angry purely because of homophobia, that fact isnt something that can be denied or glossed over. but the most important thing here is the queer people that are gonna be put in danger. we're already consistently used as a political scape goat. but now we've finally started to take baby steps in the right direction of progress after finally electing the first pm in our history thats leftist (when in reality he's centrist at best) and now with how matty healy behaved and what he said, our governments fear of queer people have been confirmed and we might be in even more hot water. they've already discussed about making being queer a mental illness and this might give them the push to confirm everything.

what he did did nothing but do bad. we didnt need some white guy to tell us how oppressed we are, how queer people are ridiculed discriminated and abused, trust me buddy, we've lived here all our lives, we know, we dont need any white saviour telling us this.

people will scoff at countries like Malaysia because of how queerphobic it is and simply throw any empathy and kindness out the window, but people seem to forget that this queerphobia exists for a reason. the queerphobia here exists because WE exist, because WE QUEER MALAYSIANS EXIST. it doesn't just exist just because, they're hateful of us because we are here, they're hell bent on getting rid of us because we are here.

I've seen some people say "then just don't get international bands" why? why dont we get to have the opportunity to see the bands we like? why dont we get to have fun? what makes so inherintly lesser that we dont get to indulge in stuff like this like people from other countries do? we already are barred from being openly queer, is it so much to ask that we just want to have a good time by seeing bands we love? do we not deserve that just because people think our government and the shit heads here represent our entire country, acting like theres absolutely no queer communities here constantly fighting for our right to exist? is that why people think so lowly of us?

queer malaysians are now in danger and our progress have been set back 50 steps thanks to matty healys "activism". I understand that he did it in good faith, but it just came off as entitled, privileged and selfish, especially with how he handled it after the fact.

if you're here to argue or insult me on this post, dont bother, im blocking you. im not wasting my time.

#queer #lgbt #malaysia #the 1975

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desudog · 6 months

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people who break up happy canon m/f couples can't even do a poly ship instead. you can add a bit of a swagful gay ring to it without making the shawties go divorce mode *crickets chirping* *audience is silent* *walks off stage and comes back dressed as dracula* vas that guy bothering you

I mean yeah but I also don't enjoy the fandom attitude of like, it needing to be gay to be valid. Like as a bisexual person it stinks of "I love bi people because they're half gay" type shit like maybe it's already queer. Maybe it doesn't have to be gay. At all. And even if you do make it poly they'll just ignore the woman except for when they need to write someone in to mother the guys. It'd just misogyny and I don't think adding more men fixes it. Especially because a lot of the time it's super forced anyways. I don't want to add some guy to these 2 people who love eachother lots just so there's more boys. She's enough. It's enough when it's 2 men. Why is it not enough to fandom for there to be a woman? Because 2 gay people is enough but 2 people aren't enough if they're not gay? Why does the added guy only ever love the other man?

Like I'm a poly fag, I love seeing poly relationships in fandom, but more than any of that I hate seeing misogyny in fandom. And unfortunately most poly relationships in fandom is founded on that mindset, that it has to have more men, more gayness to be valid, which will always in turn backseat the woman. It just makes a m/f couple into an m/m couple with that one chick the writer hates. It's always like this. If you make it poly to make it gay you've already lost. Especially considering how often this happens to m/f couples where 1 is a character of color, or disabled. I think m/f ships are fine as they are. Sue me. I enjoy m/f ships. I don't think they need to be fixed. I don't see them as lesser than the other ships I enjoy. I don't watch Raiden's almost last thoughts be about rosemary and go "yeah but he should really think more about men too" I didn't watch Netflix's castlevania adaptation and feel like something was missing when Sypha revealed she was pregnant. I don't wish Cahara found a 3rd because his darkness-conquering love for Celeste wasn't enough. I don't roll my eyes at Leo's feelings for Camilla because the sidenotes dont also say he feels the same about Xander. I think to myself "what a beautiful love story" and if I want to add more to it because I love both characters that's on me, but adding to it because the straightness (WHICH ALWAYS FALLS ON THE WOMAN) is not enough is not ever what I'm doing. I understand being gay and wanting to see yourself in characters but there's a pretty big line in that and straight up misogyny. It cannot be ignored. And then she gets sidelined as a problem solving baby maker. I see it all the time. Adding more men won't fix the misogyny it will just make it worse.

#not @ you just in general @ fandom #im trying not to be too serious and ruin the funny but like. if i married a woman i would be queer enough.#i would be queer enough. i would still be queer. and it would be enough.

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caseythebunnyboy · 1 year

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sorry this is so out of the blue but it’s so so nice seeing other SEA trans people!!! i feel like i never come across people like me online (esp. in nsfw spaces) so this blog genuinely came as a really pleasant surprise <3 also ur outfit in that bunny post is SO cute

okay this probably wont make sense to people who arent poc but this actually means so much to me. i have a really big history on having internalized racism and feeling like im "lesser than" white people. to be honest, it still effects me to this day in small ways, but thats another topic for another day- there are so many layers that influence how i see my race that connects with my sexuality and gender identity that you cant really explain to others, they just have to experience it themself.

(im gonna put the rest under the cut because this is probably gonna be long and i dont wanna clog your dashboard/screen)

another thing is that ive felt like i was a "lesser" asian as well. im not chinese, japanese, or korean so my entire identity of being asian is constantly being questioned and pushed aside because im not one of the pretty, well known asians. it made me feel inferior for so long and took me years to get over, and honestly im not sure if im over it yet, but its definitely died down more.

this ask means so much to me because it makes me feel like just by existing as a south east asian, (a group of people that are often ignored and doubted as to whether or not theyre the race they are) and being proud of it, im helping my people not be ashamed of it too. because the sad reality is that almost every single one of my fellow south east asian friends have wished they were white when they were younger.

i wouldve done anything to get younger me to be proud of his color, rather than trying to whiten it whenever he drew himself, rather than wishing he were american, and rather than despising his own country and people for 12 years. he was blinded by inferiority to the point were it became a mindset that we were lesser. that white people are cooler and more advanced, that my countrys history was boring, and that my culture could never compare.

when i was 13 i finally got out of that mindset, but little bits and pieces linger around that i try my best to ignore. now iam an adult man that is proud of my countrys culture, music, fool and people. it makes me happy that i made someone go "oh i found someone else like me!" because yes! we are like each other! and im so glad you feel proud of that, since i am too!!! surprisingly, we arent that uncommon, i have a whole friend group of south east asians that are also trans, you just have to look closely to find us hehe

theres a whole other topic about how me being poc (that isnt all that common or well known) affects my experience being queer but honestly thats a suuuuper long topic i could talk about for hours, so i wont get in to that here. anon, if youre still reading this because i know this is long as hell, please feel free to dm me so we can talk!! i wanna get to know a fellow trans south east asian, and who knows, we might even be from the same country!

last thing, im happy you guys like my outfit in the bunny posts, will post more pictures of me in it i swear! 💜 thats all i can fit in to one post, again, thank you so much anon. i hope you have a great day 😊

#casey ★ answering #casey ★ speaking #this matters so much more to me than you could ever know anon #thank you

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mogai-sunflowers · 2 years

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Maybe im too meh about alot of things and this is kind of a vent

but i honestly hate that nowadays (mostly white) people wont reblog an important post about privilage in society or a post with links about a crisis cause the op dosent 100% align with someone elses opinions despite the fact that post has nothing to do with it. Like awhile back i saw a black person's post spreading around a bunch of super important links regarding the buffalo shooting and how to help the families just to see some white mogai individual refuse to mess with the post and yell at their other (white and poc) muturals for reblogging it cause op didnt specfically support emojipronouns. Like i understand that that makes them nbphobic and emoji pronouns are important but there is a bigger issue here that is very important. They refuse to support people unless they can slide themselves into their perfect image of a perfect progressive person which is why it takes so long for news to meet this community.

Im not saying you should never vet your sources and you should give notes to bigots but when it comes down to huge issues like racism, mysogny and communally-external lgbtphobia, wether or not that one person likes mspec lesbians, endogenic systems or neopronouns dosent really matter. Its about information reaching as many people as possible, the rest is infighting smaller issues that are very niche and dont matter in comparison. Im a poc, i use neopronouns, im an mspec lesbian and im a collective but im not gonna pretend someone whose only exclusionary view is not liking pnc gays/lesbians to a raging racist. Our community needs a bit of reality check concerning what is big issues and what is small issues and the mogai/liom communities are an echo chamber wether we like it or not. Internet discourse and national law are 2 very different problems and i see alot of abled white people conflating the 2 because they get all their news and live their lives on tumblr. I know because i used to do that, once tumblr wasnt my main app anymore, i learned alot more about the world around me.

I'm not saying you or anyone else is over-reacting btw, im just tired of seeing people comparing xenogenderphobes locking people out of nonbinary servers to anti-immigration laws and Trump's walls. There significantly more damage from one than the other and the comparison is always done by someone who only faces the lesser issue.

Ill just sign myself off as 🌿

i completely agree. i've seen this before too and it pisses me the fuck off, like I saw a Black person talking about fandom racism and how to support Black people in fandoms, and people were like "but they dont support bi lesbians" and it's like??? okay yeah that sucks but that's not relevant to the actual issue here and it's very disrespectful to ignore someone's input on their own oppression just because they have one opinion you don't like. like, just the other week, a bunch of white queer people started attacking a Native Two-Spirit trans guy who was talking about what's currently going on regarding the ICWA, and this person was reblogging the post saying not to listen to him because he asked not to be called queer because he thought it was a slur and im like. get out of your fucking ASS jesus fucking CHRIST. and im not like, saying that to try and distance myself from whiteness, i've caught myself having that kind of chronically online mindset before and had to evaluate myself. just agreeing with you anon, it's massively stupid the way people, especially in the mogai community, prioritize interneet discourse over things like structural racism and queerphobia. it's bullshit.

#🌌written in the stars ; asks 🌌#racism discussion #ask to tag

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hella1975 · 2 years

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hella I just wanted to say thank you for kanut. I’m ace and we are really underrepresented in the media, so having someone who is like you is so important and it means the world to me. "I have read about love a thousand times over in a thousand different stories, and it never looks like me.” this line genuinely knocked the wind out of me I almost started crying because you put it into words! I love reading, and it’s always epic love stories and they are never like me. but also this: “this soft, gentle given that so many strived for, this beautiful thing a thousand different playwrights spoke of, and it was never written for zuko, because zuko’s love was wrong, was smaller, was lesser.” I cannot emphasise how much kanut meant to me because without him I probably would thought I was broken. I used to pretend I had crushes on people because I wanted to be their friend, and friendship felt so insignificant compared to romance. anyway this was a long way of saying thank you so much hella xx

thank you so much for this lovely ask! im so glad you were able to see yourself in a positive light. im not trying to talk over the aroace angle bc that is ultimately what it always comes back to when kanut talks about this stuff and i dont want to ever undermine that, but i know i wrote very much from a place of queer love in general, hence why zuko as a gay kid was able to relate to what kanut was saying as an aroace man. ive felt it for a while now when i really get into certain media and i immediately start going mental with all my queer hcs, and yet so very rarely do any of those hcs turn out to be canon, to represent a love i recognise, and it really does start to feel personal after a while. like no matter how much i love a show, it's never going to love me back. does that make sense? it's why representation is so so so important and im so honestly fucking honoured that so many of you have found that in kanut. im only sorry that it had to be some guy in a fanfiction instead of someone on a big screen like you deserve

#like everything stranger things is doing with its queer rep atm?#seeing one of the biggest shows on one of the biggest streaming services invalidate the community like that?#it fucking sucks and im glad that i can do my tiny tiny bit to make things a tiny tiny bit better #ask #taob asks

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thatmathlesbian · 2 years

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I think when a lot of women say they want to be a guy dating another guy they mean like, they want to be full human people together: they want that place in a narrative. They want to be seen and treated that way and to see and treat themselves that way. And they just aren’t seeing being a woman as having dignity. Now that is a problem but I wouldn’t say it is just coming from within these women. The notion in the first place of women as lesser and less interesting, less human, less complex, less intense, less meaningful… is coming from multiple places in culture and society and people in their lives I would say.

It’s a bad cope for sure especially when: the women doing it don’t notice or accept that’s why they are doing it, and, 2, more than one thing can be going on and they can be doing it for this reason AND be participating in a culture of fetishizing gayness and m/m couples in a dehumanizing way. It sometimes also feels like “paying the dehumanization we feel and experience forward” which is not good. But it does usually give me a start to trying to reason with a woman or girl doing this. I have had friends get into it and time and again I have to get to the root of her insecurity with what it is to be female in this world AND get her to fully see gay men as real, human people whose sexuality is not “nastier (allegedly complimentary)” or “more sexual” than women’s or het couples to get her to completely move on and treat writing and relating m/m as a normal author writing characters different from herself thing and not a fetish, personal sexual interest thing.

tbh this has nothing to do with misogyny

women, especially cishet women for this point, need to understand that being in a mlm relationship is not all sunshine and rainbows as some media shows. it's really similar to how straight women will be like i will become a lesbian as soon as a guy breaks their heart. being in a queer relationship brings hardships and straight women will never get it because they will never go through it. so no, i cannot excuse them that it's due to misogyny because mlm experience other shit that they don't go through

it's really going back to the whole women not treating mlm as human beings and the whole gay best friend thing. they see one cute mlm couple on tv and suddenly they want to be mlm? (obviously not talking about trans people here btw) queer people have been consuming straight media for decades and finally we get something for ourselves and they have to make it about them

and a lot of people talking about this completely ignore how queer women are an issue too. yes, lesbians too.

i get it we don't really get wholesome wlw rep but that doesnt make it okay to obsess over mlm. look at any mlm ship fandom, it's mostly women.

i saw this one tiktok of this gay guy who was talking about how mlm knows when a mlm ship is being queer baited and when not and how most of the popular non canon "queerbaited" mlm ships arent actually. people just dont know how to see a close friendship between two men

it's literal fetishisation of mlm. if a man were to say he wants to be a girl loving a girl everyone would understand the issue immediately, but when it's women doing it everyone runs to defend them

i am not mlm, i am a genderfluid lesbian. i am just forwarding stuff many many many other mlm have said before me but everyone chooses to ignore

just listen to the people that are saying you are offending their group

#also ngl anon im confused by your ask idk if you agreed with my point or not #this is just me explaining my point just in case #also as i said i am not mlm if any mlm says that smth i said is wrong lmk and ill take it down #i was trying to explain all the stuff ive been seeing lately

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dersiterags · 2 years

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Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts :3 if i may share another... Karkat and his love of romance movies. Thoughts? (I find it sweet. Adorable. And just... Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy this angy child could write paragraphs of romances (troll quadrants also included) because he loves romance movies so much. Specifically romcoms?)

god yes ok yeah this one i have so much to say

so kind of back to what I said in the prev ask abt his anger/hemo-anonymity facade, i feel like the movies are the "best way" for him to let himself feel any kind of other emotion without feeling weak/lesser than about it.

dont get me wrong, i absolutely love that he loves those movies so much (13 y/o me literally bought most of the ones in karkat: be a fanboy hnfjshab) but it is 100% one of my favourite parts of his character. like, yeah hussie could have put it in there for a joke, but even if he did, he ended up giving this kid who was too stubborn to simply surrender to the violent society we see him live in, have such a spot (to the point where he is shown to publicly cry/info dump about these topics to any/all of his friends) that we see as effeminate? ((there are other lines in the comic that could be interpreted as gender roles being flipped on alternia etc but i dont think thats the case))

however!! i have seen/like the take that karkat and quadrants mirror dave and his struggle w heteronomativity/masculinity which i absolutely support as a huge davekat nut, but i do also just think its a good take to incorporate w his movie thing anyway. we never see him diss his movies the same way june does as they get older on the ship and realize how shitty con air is, but we also know that while kk was incredibly knowledged in the quadrant system, even as far as the intricacies of knowing proper ways to vacillate between quadrants, along w never getting confirmation by any of the other characters at any point about knowing what quadrant he and dave are in (ie when looking at this as a mirror to daves struggles, kk leaving the strict confines of the quadrant system as a queer allegory in another society), i think it works really well but is more subtle than daves own arc about over coming old forgotten societal things that shaped them

anyway! i think narratively the romcoms add many facets to his character, and also add for some good jokes. all the kids in all the sessions are shown to have a niche thing they eventually come to terms w and while we dont see that in-depth we do see that at least w the quadrants he doesnt feel the need to define himself to them by the time the two og sessions meet up

ok last thought is i j like in fanfic/humanstuck when people make him just Some Guy™️who loves to read romance books in his free time and will be the opposite of ashamed when people call him out on it :')

#homestuck #karkat vantas #kv #sorry man youve sent me 2 asks now and ive answered both with massive walls of text #millin21 #applesasks #nonsense

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thesadboisguidetolife · 3 years

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1 & 3

1) Who's your celebrity crush?

Currently? Haha probably the same ones everyones thirsting after. Rahul Kohli, Oscar Isaac, Cavill. Love me some Dan Levy though. Linda Cardellini as Velma was 👌 and a lesser known one would be K. Trevor Wilson from the show Letterkenny. I would do unspeakable things with Dirty Dan if he'd be up for it. Lol

3) Rant

So ive been playing Pokémon Shield (which is nice because the last one i played was Gold) but i definitely need to start fanning the fire under my butt because id like to start like a little Podcast about Queer History in ancient times. A buddy of mine said he was up for it and im think i want to invite his husband, whos really cool too, but we'll see. Plus its also really hard to stay off this place cus you guys honestly post thee best content, like i feel like this is my 2nd home, but the only thing that I don't is that you guys dont seem to see just how amazing y'all are, which bothers me. Like. How do you guys not see how incredibly beautiful and talented and smart and KIND!!! JESUS CHRIST you guys are so unbelievably supportive and nice and i honest to God hope that each and everyone of you finds happiness and self fulfillment because you guys deserve nothing less than that. And ill probably leave it at that before i spiral into a tangent that may or not end (like it may or may not have ended previously) with me talking about thee most random things because apparently a lot of us have undiagnosed ADHD.

Thank you for the asks!!!! Ill make sure to return the favor 😊

#dangerghost20 #asks #me

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onceuponanaromantic · 4 years

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SWAN LAKE BUT QUEER

Featuring: powerful badass gay sorceress, very Bi swan queen, bby swans who ship them to hell and back, and an entitled prince who gets smacked in the face at the climax by a horde of swans

(a ramble of an idea that started as messages from me to @a-blue-hoodie. not very coherent)

- the events of the ballet still start the same Prince is still an asshole Odette is looking for a way to break the curse put on her by von rothbart

- But here we also see Odile in the background

- Odile is of course.... a powerful sorceress and daughter of evil sorcerer dude

- But of course being daughter of evil sorcerer dude means that... the sorcerer only sees u as a tool to use to seduce whoever Odette manages to get to fall in love

- And to do household chores and like lesser basically

- Odile’s basically surrounded by ladies all the time and her dad doesn’t even entertain the possibility of like her not being straight so.

- I mean the only thing women are useful for is seduction and caregiving obviously

- And for being unfaithful to men apparently so that’s why they’ve been turned into swans

- Odile is very gay for the swan queen Odette

- She’s also very ignored by her dad and has become a pretty powerful sorceress but she’s a girl right so obv she can’t be like smart or anything acc to her dad

- So Odette is tryna get a dude to fall in love with her like the average girl cursed by an evil wizard do.

- Well average straight girl except Odette is kind of Bi for goth swan sorceress Odile

- But she’s a girl so obv that can’t be used to break the spell (/s)

- Actually she also hasn’t figured out that her feelings for Odile are not. Very straight feelings but hey. Girls gotta have her sexuality crisis

- So odette still meets the Prince who falls in love with her and she’s like okay cool! I can break the spell I have a Dude here this is True Love

- And odile who has never really expected odette to love her back is like ‘........I’m sad but good for u I guess’ with a healthy (not) dose of pining and bittersweet

- So the other swans are like... on one hand this might break the curse on the other hand, odile! And on the third and heretofore unnoticed hand, the Prince is kind of an entitled asshole to odette

- But odette needs to get to the palace right for the prince’s wife-picking ceremony so obviously the person she asks for help is like. Odile.

- Odile, who is a Good Friend, helps her and so as swans they all make their way to the palace even tho like obviously odile’s heart is like

- Dying inside

- Disaster gay odile is really sad just saying

- Anyway on the journey like odette realised that odile is a Very Good Friend who she thinks about kissing sometimes and has not-very-straight thoughts about

- But of course that’s Normal right everyone thinks their friends are very clever and very interesting and fun and also very strong and kind and maybe kissing her would be nice and

- Ok I’m imagining one of the younger swans odette confides to is like ‘... sounds like u have a crush on odile to me’

- And like just before they get to the palace like st one point lime odile falls asleep in odette’s lap and odette is like ‘.....WAIT SHIT IM BI’

- IM VERY BI FOR ODILE

- WHAT DO

- And then by then the journey ends right and they reach the palace only for odile’s dad to be an Asshole as he do

- So odile tells him ‘no I’m not doing that to odette’ and he gets all pissed and uses magic to force her

- odette comes in and sees the prince staring at odile and believing that odile is odette and she’s like. Oh.

- But it turns out that she’s more jealous of the Prince which causes a bi crisis along with yknow the other thing with the fact that obviously the Prince isn’t faithful

- the curse strikes and the Prince is all like ‘oshit’ and odile rips herself away as soon as she can break the enchantment that she’s been picking at the entire time

- And odette is like flying away and so they arrive at the lake and odile flies after her in black swan form

- And the other swans fly aft them of course like ey. EH WAIT MUMS COME BACK

- Becos obviously the other swans figured out that odile loves odette back and lime oh come on seriously. THERES A SOLUTION U DISASTER QUEERS

- and then they come in in time to see odile cradling odette and admitting that she’s in love with odette as she dies and that she’s been in love with odette for like years.

- while trying to break the spell using that loophole that technically it didn’t have to be a guy who loved odette

- And guess what

- The other swans help and

- Odile succeeds just as the Prince comes running and all aggressive galloping and loud declarations of love

- And Gallantry*

- So like the Prince comes in just in time to see odette in odile’s arms

- And obviously he’s like EVIL SORCERESS MUST KILL

- And the swans get in between them as he draws his sword and charges at her

- And he can’t get at odile becos the swans keep smacking his head and arms and legs

- So that there’s a lot of chaos

- See when a horde of swans descend on u it’s not fun

- And then to make things worse the sorcerer comes like ‘I TRACKED U HERE LET ME REJOICE IN UR SORROW’

- And odile is just like so tired at this point that she goes like ‘fuck off dad’

- And then like banished him becos

- She’s too tired to remember that she’s not allowed and can’t do that

- Becos actually the only thing really preventing her was she thought she couldn’t and her dad made her so hurt

- So she like thought she cldnt cos she cldnt when she was younger like

- Yknow that thing with like the elephants like if u tie them up Becos they’re young they don’t realise they can like actually do shit to break the ropes later

- But anyway so she banishes her dad and the Prince is being set upon by like a horde of angry swans who’s like ‘DONT FUCK UP OUR SHIP GETTING TO THIS STAGE TOOK EFFORT’

- Becos seriously odette and odile are like the mums of the swans the mums are FINALLY getting together come ON ASSHOLE UR NOT STOPPING THIS SHIT

- but anyway so it’s at this point that odette wakes up and she’s confused of course Becos she’s like

- Wait I thought I got cheated on last minute with my crush?

- And then she sees odile crying and she’s like

- Wait. What?

- And odile is like looking at her like she can’t believe it and is like ‘wait it worked? It worked!’

- And odette is just ‘wait. I just remember u saying u loved me or sth??’ And odile’s. ‘Yes I love u?? I love u for like years already??’ And odette’s like

- ‘WAIT HANG ON WHATS THIS CHANGE WHAT DO U MEAN MY CRUSH LIKES ME BACK’

- But obviously she’s just apparently been revived from the dead and she’s not just gonna question after like getting over shock so she just kisses odile

- Who’s so surprised that she falls over in a flailing black skirt and all

- And at this point the swans all leave off the Prince by being transformed back to human and are all cheering and catcalling

- and the Prince is like what the fuck and odile is like ‘MY CRUSH LIKES ME BACK IM TOO HAPPY TO DEAL WITH YOU NOW GET OUT’ and the Prince is just

- Pushed out of the area by her magic

- Helped of course by several swan maidens who think that he shld be really gotten rid off

- Also the Prince is really entitled like ‘I’m ur one true love! How dare u! She must have enchanted u!’ And the swans are like ‘yeah fuck off shoo’

- So the Prince is shoved back to his castle by force

- And the swans get their swan queen mum who’s happy to feed them and like mum and deal with estate issues and all and like powerful goth sorceress mum who’s powerful as shit and smart and also a hell of a nerd

- And who occasionally gets requested by like various groups of people who are honestly happier to deal with her than her dad

#i will probably clean this up at some point tmr #to be deleted once i clear this up #swan lake #queer #rewrites of fairytales #syl's writing #syl doesn't know if they will actually write this stay tunes #syl is very queer #'is this too queer' syl asks #'straight people never ask is this too straight' syl thinks #syl is fine #writeblr #fantasy #also let me include an anti-monarchical flavour there #yeah ill deal with this tmr #this is like just a dump of all my messages on this idea to blue #poor blue #Blue has to deal with this all the time #we share a brain

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I don’t think I’ll consider this novel canon. I mean I’m delighted to see a continuation featuring characters I love, but just based on translations alone the relationship dynamics are pretty...icky, compared to the show, where it was a mostly positive depiction of HEALTHY queer relationships; something already under-represented.

heya! i’d have to agree with you actually - i was going to make a post about this AFTER i saw the rest of the novel, but from what i saw of the novel so far, i’m not sure i like the way the relationships are written as you said? i mean i really like the little tidbits of information but the way they’re written doesn’t actually sit well with me in certain aspects and i actually think the show itself and episodes were much better than the novel

the novel gives us a bit more information like what happens after ty goes to prison, which i kind of like, but idk if it’s the fact that it’s written in chinese and the way the story comes across is different than expected, or the way i summarised it didn’t give it the depth of flavour it requires or i mean, we shouldn’t expect too much out of it

for me in the epilogue - the fixation on the position of having sex was a bit strange to me, as was shao fei kind of teasing/taunting zz for it, seemed quite out of character, and the author themselves did mention that they were not very good at writing sex scenes (which puzzles me, because why get the person to write, and also if you’re not good at it, then don’t include it? or get around it subtly) - and sf would never do that to zz i think, he’s too lovely for that and values zz too much IMO + also you guys all know when i started yelling about the part where tang yi hurt himself to get shao fei to stop hurting himself, technically

also, if i’m not wrong, in ep 17 after ty’s breakdown, we had the whole debacle about whether there was supposed to be a bed scene there and we all kind of agreed no because the feeling for it wasn’t there, but in the novel there actually is a bed scene (altho apparently there is no breakdown scene or to some lesser extent), but this also proves that the novel deviates from the show quite a bit, and i’d choose the show over the novel any day

so as someone mentioned, the novel is pretty much just a crack!fic that gives us tiny treats in terms of continuation, but i wouldn’t recommend going for the novel over the show really - the show only had a lot of loopholes which is arguably not so good as well, but at least we felt like the show tugged at our heartstrings?! not to rain on anyone’s parade at all - this book seems like it’ll be fun and a good light read if you dont think about it too much, ngl, but we’ve already seen the episodes, we’ve seen how much the director and the actors gave to each character, so i guess the novel does seem a little empty?

so tl:dr - personally, i’m treating this as an extension to have more of them basically because i’m not ready to let go - and there are parts of the book that i like, but yes, i get what you mean

but also! if anyone else likes the novel, that’s okay too, not trying to discourage anyone from reading or enjoying the novel for what it is, or trying to take the fun out of it. if anyone likes it and enjoys it and it works for them, that’s great, but i mean as with any book there are always things to think about - which i think are important to think about, and we don’t all have to agree on what we think about the book

you could consider the little bits of info canon, for e.g. jack and his food cart, tang yi being CEO, hong ye and dao yi having a kid, but yes, if you don’t like the way the relationship is portrayed and written, you’re definitely free to accept whatever you think moves better and write your own! or just leave it at ep 20, and then move onto fics because sobbles i’ve read some really good ones so far

#asks

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sadachmesarthim · 5 years

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Blaire White, Riley Dennis, Arielle Sarcella, and some thoughts.

CW for the below: cissexism, transphobia, generalized bigotry, conversation about genitals, internalized homophobia. i also use some crass language and references toward MYSELF - I am of the mindset that words cannot hurt me if I use them in jest, and take away their power. That being said, I do not use them in reference to other people. if that’s not your cup of tea, I’m sorry, here’s your warning now

I’ve been an active part of the LGBT community for about 6 years now, and I’ve been watching LGBT members on youtube for about 4 years. Since my discovery of my transness, and my flaming queerness, I’ve subsequently discovered many a gay/trans/nb youtuber - I started watching Arielle Sarcella in 2014. She helped me open my mind toward things like sexuality and appreciating yourself for being gay. This helped a lot during my coming out season, and the season of life I characterized by depression and anxiety.

That being said, I fucking despise her now. Her videos with Jaclyn discussing “dating preferences” being inherently part of sexuality, and not at all rooted in societal bigotry and innate biases is completely wrong, and very damaging. Here’s why:

1: They missed Riley’s point completely and twisted her words

This was pretty common among reactionary videos, tweets, and posts. Riley was simply stating that dating preferences (”oh, I only date cis guys”, “i only date tall men”, “i only date skinny women”, etc) can possibly be rooted in societal biases, and not actually what we believe or feel.

Riley’s whole point wasn’t that not dating trans people is inherently transphobic - because it’s not. It;’s a specific preference, just like being more attracted to blondes/tall people/POC/etc. That preference and bias, however, could be rooted in societal transphobia and hatred, and should be analyzed to truly understand whether or not you’d genuinely not date someone outside your preferences.

Riley is challenge us to analyze our inherent biases and prejudices, to not only help us step out of our own bubble and echo chamber, but to also help us grow as people, because if we continue to stew in our internal and societal biases without exploring other sides of issues and challenging our thinking, we will never become as understanding as we think we are.

We can’t continue to let our biases drive us. That’s all Riley was trying to get at. We have to be more than our biases, and we have to learn to overcome them.

2: Continuing to misgender not only Riley, but also invalidate her experience as a trans woman and as a lesbian, not only hurts Riley, but it also hurts you.

I have seen Arielle and Jaclyn invalidate Riley’s womanhood on the basis of her trans identity. That’s not okay. I have also seen Blaire continue to misgender Riley even AFTER she posted her measly “apology” video. It’s upsetting to watch, because people that claim to be LGBT (specifically to Arielle, partially to Blaire) are attacking members of their own because they don’t understand Riley’s argument or just refuse to try and understand.

Riley is just as much a woman as Arielle, Blaire, and Jaclyn are. They are women. Riley is a woman. Plain and simple. I don’t understand what’s so hard about that to understand.

People are also consistently reducing Riley down to her features and trying to use them as an invalidation for her arguments. For instance, Blaire (and some of her followers) have consistently bashed Riley for having a prominent Adam’s Apple, having a deep voice, being tall, and having a more traditionally “masculine” face, even after FFS. This I find is incredibly annoying and a very low blow. So what if she isn’t traditionally feminine or fit into your little box of what trans women SHOULD look like and strive to be? It’s her body, they’re her finances, and it’s her choice on whether she continues hormones/surgery/transitioning.

This also stabs you in the back for trying to make those arguments. Why? Because it shows that you not only reduce people and their identities to their looks, but it also makes you look like a monster that only sees women as beautiful if they’re beautiful to YOU.

3: Trying to seem like the centrist voice of reason makes you complacent in your own oppression.

Arielle and Blaire are on the opposite side of the spectrum, and yet they both share the same sentiments: Trans people aren’t the same as cis people and need to be treated as lesser or different. Arielle, a terf, and Blaire, a conservative, are both hankering for a handout from the conservative right by trying to seem like the token LGBT voices of reason, and it’s infuriating. They’re literally shooting themselves in the foot to try and get brownie points from the right. It’s obscene and is only getting them further and further away from full acceptance and appreciation. They’re not only looking like nasty bootlickers, they’re also making the rest of us look like “triggered little sjw bitches”. I’m sick of it.

4: Talking on things you have no legitimate stake or experience in doesn’t help your argument either.

This mainly applies to Arielle, but it also applies somewhat to Blaire. Arielle, as a cis woman, cannot talk on trans topics without looking like an idiot. Why? Because she has no experience as a trans woman, and she never will. She is a cis woman, with only that walk of life under her belt, and she’s never experienced the type of oppression trans women suffer every day. Therefore, she cannot speak for the trans community as a whole, and she needs to stop sticking her nose where it doesn’t belong.

5: At the end of the day, you can have your preferences, but that doesn’t mean people won’t get hurt by what you’re saying.

This was touched on briefly by uppercaseChase1 on youtube, but I’d like to reaffirm the point and elaborate a little more. You dont’ have to agree with anything I say, anything Riley or Fiona say, and you can have your inherent and societal biases dictate your sexuality and dating preferences. That’s fine. But continuing to beat a dead horse and claim over and over again that you don’t find specific people attractive because of things they can’t control is cruel. No one asked for your opinion, and it will hurt people if you continue to shout it from the rooftops.

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mynameishedgehog · 7 years

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hello, to preface this very long post id like to say that pretty what it contains is why my leaving the mormon religion was good for me and my mental health. i wrote this in a small journal i keep while i was at work and will be transcribing it from that. i will make some notes, with thoughts i have now, these will be identified with ((note: example))

on a completely different topic, i was thinking about this the other day. How i was treated in the mormon religion and at my specific church. as a child i always knew that i wouldnt stay in the church as an adult, but to my memory there were no specific people or events that soured all of mormonism. i just knew that i wouldnt be going to church, or believe in the gospel when i gew up.

it was why “a childs prayer” ((note: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eb29gVgaHcY link for my nonmormon or ex-mormon followers)) was my favorite hymn. i saw the child questioning the church, like i was, then they pray and god is like “hell yea! wassuup!” but when i prayed as a child i felt nothing. people always spoke of feeling “a warmth surround them” and i tried to imagine a comforting light, and a hugging warmth while i prayed, but i always knew that those feelings were manufactured.

i felt lesser, because i had to make up the spirit surrounding me so i fit in at church.

even that didnt work.

i had some friends, but none were my age (except kaydi, but she was in another ward) the friends i did have i rarely saw and only hung out with them at church events. the girls my age would say we were all friends if you asked them, but i always, always, felt a disconnect. like i never truly fit in with their ideal of a teenage mormon girl.

when i started going to relief society the drift i felt between myself and the other members grew and grew. i had come out to my mother when i was around 17 or 18. ((note: mormon men and women attend relief society and...whatever the guys group was called i dont remember, when they turn 18)) I still went to church for a very short time after coming out to her, until i finally stopped going altogether and i felt peace in myself.

for the first time in my life i had made a decision that i knew was best for me, even though i knew how important the church was for mom, it had only ever drained me.

the members tried for a while to get me to come back to church, but i knew in my heart i would never belong, even if they disagree. this feeling was validated when they had stopped trying to get me to come to church, only recently i found out it was because im queer. i had only come out to 1 or 2 girls in the YW ((note: young women)) because i thought they would still be my firned afterward. the one i remember best, i texted her and said “im gay pass it on” ((note: i was still very very insecure about my sexuality at this point and didnt have the courage to tell her in person, and when im nervous i make a lot of jokes)) and she was more upset at how i had come out to her. “through text? and with a joke?!” ((note: anyone following that is struggling with coming out to friends and family, there is no wrong way to come out. only wrong ways to react.)) we did not keep much contact after that.

its all for the best, the mormon church made me miserable, hate myself, and cry so much. im finally able to step into the building i attended without a panic attack. im most comfortable in the lobby, but during conferences i ca sit in the way back (in the gym) and be ok too should the need arise.

now as a 22 year old adult i have more confidence in myself (than when i was 15) i like myself a bit more, and im taking steps to be happy. i surround myself with things and people who make me feel good, and happy, and worth being here, which is what the mormon members tried very hard to do, and some people do make me feel safe who are mormon (dad, katt, some extended family) but in their efforts to reach out, i recoiled.

im in a much better place now than when i was 16, or 14, or even 7 years old. not going to church was the best thing that ever happened to me.

alright, that was the end of what i had written. there was a bit i had left out. in my teen years, and even before, i tried to fill an emptiness i felt in myself with the church, which only hurt me more. as i grew up and found out more about myself, i hated myself more because “good mormon girls dont swear” “good mormon girls dont use the lords name in vain” “good mormon girls dont like other girls” “good mormon girls can feel the holy spirit” and i tried to fix myself with god, and with religion, and with prayer

ill joke to my friends when we play cards against humanity and the card “praying the gay away” comes up ill say “it doesnt work” and ill get a laugh, but i had tried. it was a major part of my life, and something i had never told anyone. a lot of this are things i have never told anyone, but its important to cleanse your mind of things that weigh heavy on it. which is why i even carry a journal. but this was a lifelong secret ive had. something ive been carrying heavy on my shoulders since i was in single digits, the weight getting heavier and heavier, and finally today i feel lifted. i feel light. relief. refreshed.

im not saying everyone should share theyre secrets theyve been harboring with the world, personally i still things that i dont tell people, (maybe one day) but if you feel like youre in a good place, and if you think it will help you feel better about yourself, and your surroundings, or even if you think it will relieve anything at all from you and you are comfortable with sharing, then i say share.

it doesnt have to be with the world. it doesnt even have to be with people. originally i just bought a journal because i have random thoughts throughout the day that get stuck in my head unless i write them down. but if you want to share then share.

if you just want to let it out into the void where no one will know then write it down. even if its on computer paper or notebook paper. writing down your thoughts helps.

and if you want to trust a stranger for whatever reason i am always willing to listen. i may not always be online, but my inbox is always open, and i will always read it, and i will reply to you if you want.

i love you all. i love you all.

#religion #mormons #my personal stories #coming out #kinda i guess #although i didnt go into much detail about it #this is a happy story for anyone reading the tags before they click read more #its just why the church upset me #and how im happier outside of it

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