Something I think is so important are lesbian friendships.

In a world of people who don’t understand the internal struggles of being a lesbian, it is amazing to have someone who just understands how you feel, to have conversations surrounding your lesbian identities, and to be at ease knowing that there are people out there who are on your side.

Being able to create platonic relationships within your own community is so significant to upholding that community and leading to liberation.

Source: Out In America; A Portrait Of Gay and Lesbian Life , by Michael Goff and the staff of OUT magazine

I would do anything for masc lesbians (and i don’t even mean sexually). Like, if a masculine lesbian wanted me to write them essays, learn how to drive to chauffeur them around, clean their home, shout at people who upset them, make them tea, etc etc. anything. this is not solely me being cute and lovey, the things they have faced to live in this world in an identity directly in opposition to everything the patriarchy expects, to have fought against all that, to model a chosen and healthy masculinity and have fun with it and respect and love other lesbians. We must must must respect and love them too. Endlessly

hey jen! love your blog! if you dont mind, have a question for you... but heres a bit of an explanation first; im a lesbian in my 20s from the rural midwest. im sure you know what i mean when i say there arent tons of us around here. so even though i desperately want lesbian friends, any time i come across another lesbian out in the world, i get weird. i want to be friends but i get so intimidated and scared of rejection that i become almost territorial about it? like my place in the world is being taken or something. its hard to describe!

have you experienced anything like this? did you grow out of it? i feel bad about it because like i said, i want friends! but it seems so difficult to get out of my own head when it comes to stuff like this.

Fear of isolation is a common and nasty reality for many lesbians even in very open cities. It is the reason I, as many others, get into friendships or relationships that lasted WAY longer than they should have. We stick around because we know we crave connections with other lesbians and that need often overrides our common sense. We stay with someone because they are a lesbians not because they have other qualities that bring us happiness. I stayed 17 years when about 2 would have been plenty.

In college i was not even out but desperately clingy to others I preceived as gay or lesbian. I stayed friends with one gay man, loyal to him to a fault, finally decidiing his continued unhealthy behavior was too much. Of course by 22 I had other gay and lesbian friends so it was easier to cut that tie. Otherwise, who knows how much I would have put up with?

Think of it this way, in high school we naturally find others like ourselves, all teens do, in order to feel like we are a part of a group. Groups in elemetary, Jr and High school are important to our "survivial". They offer protection, shared experiences to help us grow and learn, social skills and how to navigate relationships as we moved towards adulthood.

Now, as young lesbians, we have a limited amount of others "like us" so we find friendship groups based on other things like location, (where we live in proximity) hobbies, sports, socio-ecomonic class and even just the classes we share. In order to maintain these valuable friendships we often hide our sexuality because it is better to hide it than endanger premade connections that, as humans, we perceive as necessary to our survival. Humans are naturally social animals with a need to be in a group.

As we grown older and expand our friend pool outside of "all stuck in the same school for 12 years" we find other lesbians and we really crave sharing that part of ourselves, or at least not hiding it or keeping it on the down low. We have built up lesbian friendship as the "goal" and when a goal has been unattainable but is now in reach, it causes a fair amount of stress and anxiety that we are so close but could still blow it.

I can tell you from experience, you will not like all lesbians and you will love your straight/bi friends whom see you as you. Lesbian friends are amazing and it is nice to share that one thing, same sex attraction, because you understand so much more about how you both experience life. It is okay to meet lesbians and not become life long friends. Sometimes the connection is short and that is okay. You will find lesbian friends who become like family if that is what you want. Your over excitement and awkwardness is something most of them will also have gone through and will help you get to the other side to comfort and trust.

My first girlfriend took me to a woman's festival (I was very unsure about that whole deal) and in the process I met many lesbians who are still my friends today, including that ex and her wife. The midwest is full of women's festivals, small concert venues where women artists attracted the lesbian crowd and Iowa City has one of the oldest and best lesbian archives at the University. Midwest lesbians are a special breed.

So try to relax as you make friends knowing there are others and every lesbian you meet will not be the only lesbian you will every meet.

Subscribe to Lesbian Connection, based in the midwest (www.lconline.org). Free to lesbians if you can't pay. They list other lesbians, businesses, festivals, vacation spots and rentals and a host of other ways and places to surround yourself with lesbian energy.

Like these interactions r not reading as platonic soulmates!! the little hey you exchange rlly made me emotional for some reason it is so like subtly fond and affectionate even at a point where theyre estranged from each other.. “sorry to interrupt” where it looks like theyre about to kiss. and the last panel literally looks like a double date like that is the girl karma is seeing 🤡 🤡 🤡 🤡 

pride pegasi (redraw of this)

date your friends - by which i do not mean you must literally date your friends but by which i mean go out to dinner with your friends, buy your friends flowers, tell your friends you love them, write your friends love letters, play your friends songs that make you think of them, help your friends with moving and doctors appointments and listen to their worries and joys. love one another so entirely and i promise the world will feel so much brighter and you will have a community full of love

boundaries are good and you aren’t annoying for making them. people who love you will love your boundaries.

I headcanon that Rarity has no experience dating mares, only having gone out with stallions before. She has always been someone to take the initiative in her m/f relationships but since her newfound feelings for Applejack she would overthink everything because it’s so unfamiliar to her. Luckily Applejack is there to guide her through it and soon realize it’s the most natural thing in the world.

"Tomboy and girly girl" I know what you are

Source: Out In America; A Portrait Of Gay and Lesbian Life , by Michael Goff and the staff of OUT magazine

my favs <333

AU! lesbians <3 I love em!!!

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I’ve had one of the worst weeks in a while so I had to draw my favorite lesbian horses. Anyways- Big Rarity, Little Applejack >>>>

"While Princess Rhaenyra misliked her stepmother, Queen Alicent, she became fond and more than fond of her good-sister Lady Laena.” 🐉💗🌊