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Monday, November 13.
World Kindness Day.
Well, would you look at that. This is no mere Monday, November 13, 2023. Nay, this is Monday, November 13, 2023: World Kindness Day. So if you've been quietly wondering if there would ever be the perfect day to do something kind, or find yourself, as if in a wholesome montage, looking to turn over a new leaf, then hey presto. Looks like today is your lucky day.
So what are you waiting for? Get out there, smell the flowers. Smile at an old person. Check in on someone that needs it. Volunteer at an owl sanctuary. Knit something warm and scrummy for a beloved. Say something kind to a stranger. Do some shopping for a neighbor in need. You know the drill.
Keep it kind—and keep it quiet. Love and kindness, Tumblr x
#today on tumblr#world kindness day#kindness#compassion#empathy#respect#acceptance#kind#hope#kindness matters#kindness quotes#kindness is free#kindness soul#kindness costs nothing#mental health#wellbeing#love
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Let people be happy for who they are ffs
#jschlatt#transmasc#limethechef#no seriously#it’s disgusting#fuck terfs#let people live#live happily#kindness costs nothing#I’d let him hit tbh
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Hey, D. Question for you, buddy.
Have you ever had anyone say something really hurtful to you?
I'm sorry. That's really mean of them. And how did it make you feel?
Aww. Sweetie. But, let me ask you this. Have you ever said something that wasn't very nice to someone else?
Tell the truth. 🤨
Oh dear. Let's ask some of the other boys too... Joel? Javi? Frankie?
Well boys. I'm very disappointed in you all. But, there is a way you can all redeem yourselves...
No Dieter. Not like that. Although, now you come to mention it, it's been a while since the five of us all, uh, hung out together... 😏
It's Friday. It's that time again. Time for more Self-Care With Dieter & Jett! 🖤
Okay, hands up. Let's have our Mean Girls moment.
Who here has ever said something hurtful, whether intentional or not, to someone else?
That's a lot of hands... And for anyone who didn't raise their hand, I'm sending you the stink eye, because I know you have.
Yeah, you too, huh D?
And there's a big difference between throwing someone a snippy comment on a whim when you're pissed off, to continuously saying hurtful things to them repeatedly, or deliberately.
We all have. I know I have in the past. But it doesn't make us bad people, no. Especially if we learn and grow from it.
At some point in our lives, we all will have experienced bullying in some form or another. Be it someone calling us names in the playground in kindergarten, to workplace harassment, to threats or nasty comments against us online from an anonymous source.
And it doesn't feel great when it happens, does it?
That's right, D. It's not very nice to experience. 😢
We're all human, and as such we all feel things on different levels of intensity, and deal with bullying differently.
Some people have thicker skin, and words and insults can roll right off of them with little to no effect. For others, it can really play on their minds and contribute to feeling low and self-conscious and is harder to shake off.
What is bullying exactly?
Bullying is repeated, aggressive behavior that involves a real, or perceived, power imbalance. Its purpose is to deliver physical or psychological harm to another person. There are three main types of bullying:
Verbal - name calling, threats, taunts.
Social - online, gossiping, exclusion.
Physical - assault, physical/sexual harassment.
What causes people to bully others?
Bullying stems from many roots. But usually it comes from feelings of jealously, low self-esteem, anger, low self-confidence and/or traumatic events that have contributed to the bully building up thicker walls to remain protected themselves.
Some people can be naturally pessimistic or narcissistic in their personality, but again, there is always a root cause for it.
People don't become hateful intentionally, no-one is born hateful or spiteful; it is a behaviour that is learned.
It could originate from their home environment growing up, that they were bullied themselves so feel this is normal behaviour, or they could have experienced something traumatic, and lashing out at others verbally or physically, is the only way they know how to cope.
And some people are just sadistic, but that's another story.
The important thing to remember is that you are not to blame.
How can you effectively deal with a bully?
You love getting out your big gun, don't you, D? 🔥 But there are other, probably more law-abiding, ways to deal with a bully, bud.
Don't feed them. The first thing to know when dealing with a bully is that your fear, anger or getting upset, is what feeds them. Ignorance is bliss, right? Well, sometimes. It's very difficult to ignore someone who says something that cuts deep, especially if it's personal, or if you're already feeling in a fragile space. But biting back will only encourage them to target you further.
If you ignore a bully, they will eventually tire and move on. The biggest 🖕🏻 you can give to a bully is to give them no voice, especially your own.
Report them. If you're being bullied physically at school/college, the workplace, by a friend/family member/spouse etc... report their behaviour to someone who can help.
A teacher/a parent/a trusted friend. Even a member of authority, such as the police, if you've been physically assaulted.
You do not have to live in fear.
You may feel scared to report it due to them threatening worse behaviour towards you if you do. However your safety and mental wellbeing is worth more than their fear of getting found out for being a coward.
Speak up. By doing so, you could also be helping others suffering at their hand too.
What about Online bullying?
Online bullying is now one of the most common forms of bullying and anti-social behaviour.
Why? Because people can easily be anonymous online, and when there is no face, there is no filter. If it were easy for people to be identified and outed for their online behaviour, I'm pretty sure they would think more carefully before typing on that keyboard. But seeing as many sites, including Tumblr, make it easy for bullies to remain inconspicuous, they can spread like parasites.
But, it is also very easy to block them out.
Use the block button. It's there for a reason. Use it if you feel you need to. And report them too.
Adjust your settings. Depending on the type of social media you use, you can change your settings to ensure you're not subjected to harmful behaviour. For example, you can turn off commenting on your posts, or turn off your Asks if you need/want to.
Be careful what you reveal. Be mindful of the information you give away about yourself online. You don't have to censor yourself completely, and why should you? But equally it's important to be self-aware. Like you would be of your surroundings in the real world, give your social media the once over to make sure nothing too personal is revealed about yourself. Your safety online is just as important.
Don't bite back. It's easy to expose the horrible Anon Ask you've had, or to take it personally by responding to a hurtful or hateful comment publically for everyone else to see and interact with. But in the end you're instigating and giving the bully exactly what they want - your attention.
"You just wipe, you flush and you move on," as Dieter would say... rather poetically.
Or, in non-Dieter speak, delete, block and move on. Bullies don't deserve any of your time or attention, so don't give it to them.
But what about when we inadvertently become a bully ourselves?
Look, we've all done it. We're quick to defend those we love/like/admire. We're territorial and don't like seeing those who we care about slighted.
It's human instinct to protect.
But sometimes, that protection can morph into a fire, and a fire quickly spreads and grows out of control, and we don't necessarily realise that we're becoming bullish with our own behaviour, and thus contributing back to the problem.
Sometimes, affiliating with the scorned party creates a "gang-like" mentality and sides are split with discourse, unhappiness, indignant anger and actually causes more of a wider issue as more parties are dragged in and involved. Soon the small argument has become an all out war.
Stay calm, stay level-headed. Don't stoop to their level. Don't get involved if you can help it.
Think on your own actions. You've heard that expression if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all, right? Sometimes staying quiet rather than rising to it has more of a powerful effect than a full on slanging match.
Hold your head high. Rise above it. You are not the problem, so don't allow yourself to become a problem.
If needs be, step away, do something else and think on a sensible reply and come back to it later. You might regret acting on impulse in the moment.
If you must engage, be firm, be clear. Don't resort to petty name calling or nastiness back. Make your point concise, clear and politely. Then walk away/log off etc... Don't linger and keep going around in circles.
Reflect and learn. Take a moment to think on a time when perhaps you weren't so nice to someone in the heat of the moment, and ponder on how next time you can address it differently. What could you say differently? Could you have been more empathetic? Kinder?
Remember, you are stronger than you think.
Debate positively. It's never acceptable to threaten, belittle or insult someone online for having different views or opinions to you. The same as it's not acceptable for them to do the same to you.
Difference of opinion is what makes us unique as individuals - if we were all the same, it'd be pretty boring.
You can certainly disagree with someone, but be respectful and use positive, uplifting language instead of derogatory terms or personal insults. Debate is healthy, being a bully isn't.
⚠️ Threats against life, or encouraging someone to do harm to themselves, is not only illegal, but also extremely harmful and toxic behaviour. Don't resort to being low, and don't accept that behaviour from anyone else towards you either.
☝🏻And remember, karma is most definitely a bitch, and will bite you in the ass one day. So be kind, always.
D, I think we deserve to snuggle up, share some ice-cream and watch a happy film for not rising to the hate.
What do you say, bud?
Alright, alright... you can be the little spoon. Again. 🙄
You owe me you know. I'm keeping count. Come on, get close and give us a smooch, handsome.
So, Dieter and I hope we've made you think today, not only about how to identify bullying and how to combat it with ease when it happens, but also that we've made you think about your own actions when it comes to remaining level-headed, instead of hot-headed, towards others.
Until next time lovelies, stay creamy and stay kind. 🖤
YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤
Do you. Then do Dieter.
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ℹ️ Dieter and I always strive to bring you unbiased, fact-checked advice. We're not licensed therapists, so we do a lot of research to ensure we can provide helpful and informative posts. Well, I do. Dieter mostly sits around eating KitKats.
#self care with dieter and jett#dieter bravo#pedro pascal#pedro pascal characters#joel miller#javier pena#frankie morales#frankie catfish morales#javier peña#self care#anti bullying#be kind#kindness costs nothing#do you#then do dieter#you are stronger than you think
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I will say this again... making disparaging remarks against any wrestler besides Riddle will get you blocked. Especially when the wrestlers you are talking about are some of my favorites.
#How many times do i have to say this?#I mean come on.#Kindness costs nothing#If you don't like someone keep it to yourself because others probably DO like that wrestler(s) you're talking about#Got nothin' nice to say then don't say nothin'
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Lest we forget. 🌹
Resources to help veterans with PTSD: Canada.
Wounded warrior project.
#armistice day#remembrance day#veterans day#world war i#war is hell#kindness costs nothing#lest we forget#resources
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every Thursday I send the homies a check-up text just to make sure they're doing okay
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if you wanna become a homie and get a check-up text every Thursday hmu, always down to make new friends and care about ppl 🫶🏽
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One of my friends gives complaints out of no where and when I complement them back they do too and it feels like a kindness contest and they are winning
#kindness costs nothing#kindness contest#he inspires me to be a better person#being kind makes me feel good and I’m grateful for the reminder
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This fruit is always in season...
The Fruits of the Spirit: KINDNESS [Episode 14] in the 7Heaven Catholic Talk Series:
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#world kindness day#kindness#compassion#empathy#kind#kindness quotes#kindness costs nothing#mental health#fruits of the spirit#catholic#roman catholic#catholic church#catholicism#Youtube#7HeavenCatholicTalkSeries#Heidi Vincent
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¸„.-•~¹°”ˆD҉̣͍̓̎͗͜͜O̷̵҉̢̭͚̜̠ͫͣ͐͢͟͢͠͞͝N̵҉̾͟͞͡T҉̘͙͖̠̓ͦ͑̄͜͜͟͞ B̵̴҉̞̠̘̩͍̱́͊͗͜͠͠͠͠E҉̰̰͎̆͞ A҉҉̦̣̤͔̟̩̋̿̏ͦ̈́̍͟͠ D҉̣͍̓̎͗͜͜I҉̡̯̺̜̅́͋̃͢͜C҉͓̟͇̼͕̻ͭ͌ͩ̒͘͜͡͞͠K҉̿ͭ͘͜ ˆ”°¹~•-.„¸
#kindness#kindness is free#kindness costs nothing#don’t be a dick#Don’t be mean#be nice#don’t be an asshole#humanity
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Sending people anonymous hate (part 1/2 of my angry rants)
TW: mentions of telling someone to "kys"
I understand not liking someone. That is something natural to do. Someone does something you don't like? Then now you don't like them because of their actions- simple. If their actions are that severe, and if enough damage is done, you may even go as far as to say you hate said person.
BUT WHAT IN THE FUCKING WORLD WARRANTS TELLING SOMEONE TO KILL THEMSELVES?
There is only one person in this world that I proclaim that I hate, and yet there is not a bone in my body that would ever dare tell someone that.
So WHERE IN THE ACTUAL FUCK do anons get their audacity- where do they get the obvious hate that you have to hold in your heart to tell someone to do such a thing.
A comment like that seems like it would be something personal, yeah? That's a comment that bursts out in a brief episode of anger, not something you should be able to send someone off the cuff.
But anons do. They prove me wrong every fucking time they send it to someone, because clearly you dont really have a problem with whoever you’re sending such a disgusting message to- because if that was the case most people would take the rational route of actually talking to someone, confronting them with the problem, instead of simply hiding their identity behind anon and telling them to kill themseleves.
No, a comment like that shows that you have a problem- that you, the anons, are the problem. Because most of the people that get these cruel, sick messages haven’t really done anything to you, at least not personally. But in your heads some incorrect wires are crossed that make you guys think it's okay to take your anger out on people that usually haven't done shit to you.
And on the occasion that they have done something personally to you? Now you’re just being plain out mean and petty. Where you could take the easy route of simply messaging someone when you have a problem, you take to anon to show your anger.
My message to all of you- if someone really pisses you off enough that they seem to warrant such a wicked message,
BLOCK EM, BLOCK EM, BLOCK EM
And in case you didn't understand that the first time-
BLOCK THEM
Simple as that. Clicking that little button resolves whatever problem you had previously, and prevents the problems that would arise at you sending such a hateful fucking message.
And coming from someone who was once in a place where a comment like that would’ve sent me over the edge (I didn’t need any help with that- I still tried)(Sorry I cope with humor), comments like that could quite literally set someone off. Anytime I see people say this, no one seems to take it seriously. But when you’re in a headspace like that, and you get a message like that isn't “Oh someones being mean”, no, its usually “Oh good- someone agrees.”
Start thinking about what you say to people. You don’t know them, their situation, or what's going on in their life. Some may brush a comment like that off, but some may take it seriously.
Kindness doesn't cost a damn thing.
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The way you speak to yourself is the way others will treat you.
Be kind to yourself ❤️
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🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
#real man#good man#humanity#kindness#good samaritan#compassion#it cost nothing to help someone..#tomorrow it could be you who needs help#gentlemen#standup#make the world a better place
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New blue sky thinking notebooks and journals, featuring beautiful sky scapes and positive, motivational, inspirational and hopeful affirmations to help keep your head out of the clouds.
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it makes me so sad to see writers on here apologize for not being able to update everyday, like you don't need to apologize, you owe NOTHING to ANYONE !! if you're not feeling your best, take a break, this isn't a nine to five job, you're not getting paid.
tumblr is meant to be a space where you can post/do what you enjoy, and for the people putting pressure to these writers ( often quite young ) need to get a life. if you want to read a story without having to wait a little, go buy a book.
writers on here are generous enough to share their beautiful words and their takes on storylines, they shouldn't have to deal with feeling like they're disappointing people if they don't feed people with a post every 15 minutes. you have to realize that these creators are students, have jobs, or are struggling with things in their personal lives, tumblr fanfiction is not and shouldn't be a priority.
if you're a reader, i encourage you take a minute to send your appreciation to some of your favorite writers when you have the time, you may not realize it but writers on here get very little feedback and compliments on the time and effort they put in their works, so kind words here and there make such a big difference in a creator's confidence and motivation !
#some people expect 10k+ words in two days#but can't be bothered to write a little compliment#being kind costs nothing
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